Thanks to porn, many young men might think that every partner desires hard and deep penetration, but as a woman, you may quickly discover that being fucked like your lover is a robot often isn’t the most arousing thing. And it may not be pleasurable at all! Communication with your partner is key to having a good sex life whether that means telling him to slow down, ease up on those deep thrusts or to provide more oral sex before initial penetration.
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However, communication is just as important if you do like deep thrusting, especially if your partner has been trained by previous partners to avoid deep penetration. A new partner might naturally avoid that because he worries about hurting you, even if it’s what you secretly crave. As long as it’s a secret, however, he won’t be able to give you what you need. So speak up!
What’s So Good About Penetrating Deep?
There are two sensitive zones deep within the vagina that you or your partner may be able to stimulate if you’re not afraid of a little spelunking. One is the A-spot, which is located along the front wall of the vagina near the cervix. Some women report being able to orgasm from A-spot stimulation. The second spot is located in a similar position along the back wall of the vaginal canal, near the anal wall. Check out this guide with an image to see it’s exact location.
The A-spot is especially known for not becoming hyper-sensitive after an orgasm, which means that you might be able to keep enjoying penetrative sex or play time without the flinching and discomfort that can happen when you try to stimulate your G-spot or clitoris immediately after cumming or squirting!
Who Do I Sometimes Like Deep Thrusting And Hate It Other Times?
As a woman, you may find that you sometimes like deep penetration and dislike it at other times. This may be due to the position of your cervix, which changes through a normal menstrual cycle. For example, your cervix might be lower and more open during your period and slightly after. The cervix is also harder during these times, which may make it more susceptible to pain from deep penetration.
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On the other hand, cervixes tend to raise and soften prior to ovulation and remain in that position during ovulation. This can make deep penetration more comfortable. Sometimes, a cervix can become so soft and high during ovulation that it “blends” in with the rest of your vagina, which might be the perfect time to try deep penetration.
Regardless of your cervical position and hardness, you might not enjoy the feeling of a cock – or dildo – slamming into you if it’s done too roughly. Just because your partner wants to go deep, doesn’t mean he has to do it with force. In fact, deeper thrusts might feel better with less force, so encourage your partner to slow down, which also gives the two of you time to enjoy it more. Plus, you can easily adjust your own pace when masturbating.
If your partner is especially well endowed, it might seem that you can’t avoid deep penetration, and sex may even be painful. However, you can take a few steps to help prevent pain during sex.
- Encourage plenty of foreplay so your body is more receptive to penetration.
- Use lubricant to ease insertion and thrusting.
- Use a cock ring or wrap your fingers around your partner’s penis to prevent deep thrusting. More info here.
- Have sex in positions such as spooning or woman-on-top where deep thrusts are less likely or when you can control the speed and depth of his penis in your vagina.
How To Get More Out of Deep Penetration
But if you’re a fan of deep thrusting, you’ll want to have sex in all the fun positions that do enable you to feel your partner more deeply. These can include missionary, depending upon how your bodies match up, and doggie style. Similarly, because you can control depth and speed during cowgirl, this might be your go-to position so you can feel every inch of your partner inside of you!
When it comes to toys, deep thrusting is even easier. There are penis extenders that your lover can wear during sex to make him feel thicker and longer. However, this is a delicate issue to approach with any man as your partner might have a deflated ego if you suggest that his natural anatomy isn’t quite cutting it.
You can ease the conversation by reminding him that you enjoy sex with him and enjoy sex in a variety of ways. For most women who like deep penetration, it might be enjoyable, but it would hardly be a deal-breaker. Ensure that your partner knows this going into the conversation. If you’re completely unsure about his potential response, you can bring up the idea of these extenders or even using toys by explaining that it’s something you stumbled across online – even point him to this post!
Fortunately, there are a number of toys that he can use on you or that you can use by yourself to achieve the depth that you like. In fact, there are too many dildos and vibrators to name. Double dildos are typically a little longer, but you can use that length to your advantage to achieve penetration as deep as you like it. Learn more about dildos here.
And there are plenty of vibrators that are between six and nine inches long. Rabbit vibes are often quite large, so you’ll get both the girth and depth that you love. Because the vagina typically expands to a length between 4 and 6 inches, however, you might be able to achieve deep thrusts the way you like even with a regular toy from your collection.
This is especially true if you adjust your position. For example, taking up a sitting position with your legs raised and bent at the knee – if you’re siting in front of a desk or table – you can more easily access the depths of your pussy with a toy. This is good news for women with short arms who might find deep penetration difficult in other positions.
It’s Not Just About Length and Depth
More often than not, that old adage about penis size is true. Size matters less to many women when it comes to length, but girth is usually important. That’s why a thicker penis might feel better even if it’s not reaching up to your cervix during sex. If that’s your preference, feel free to explain this to your partner, adjust your masturbation skills as needed and have a good time!
Deep penetration may also miss some of the most erogenous spots in your vagina, including the G-spot. The G-spot is generally just a few inches inside your vaginal opening, which is why you don’t necessarily need a partner with a long penis or a super long toy to reach it. A curved or contoured head can be more important to adequate G-spot stimulation than simply a long toy or cock, which might miss it altogether.
Finally, technique really does matter. You might like deep penetration if it’s done at a slower pace rather than jackhammer-like pounding. Or you might enjoy stimulation of your A-spot with fingers in the “come hither” position. Perhaps you simply like feeling a toy or penis press against those sensitive spots. Grazing of your cervix might be okay, or you might not like it at all.
Like any sexual activity, deep penetration is something you should try at least a couple times to determine if and how you like it. But whether you love it, hate it or fall somewhere in between, you’re sure to find plenty of women who agree with you!
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