I grew up in a small town down south. You know the type. Stereotypical houses with well-cut lawns and sprinklers. Just like it looks on TV!

Every Sunday was the same, get up and go to Church and then share dinner with my family that evening. I would have to listen to the Preacher talk about his morality and what he thought was right and wrong. Afterwards I would have to listen to my mom gossip with some of the other people in the town about everyone’s business. I grew up knowing what everybody else was doing in their private lives and I knew that everyone else in the town knew what I was up to also!

That’s why I could not wait to move out. To get away from all that bullshit and be able to do what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it. I thought that was freedom.

It was only afterwards that I realized that even though I moved out, went to college, started partying all weekend that things did not really change that much.

My guy friends would always talk about whom they were having sex with and which girl was the best in bed. Who was ‘kinda slutty’ or which girl talked had the best dirty talk.

Then one day I met a girl I really liked. We made each other laugh and got on like a house on fire. I told one of my close friends about her and that I really liked her. And that’s when he said it. He told me she was one of the biggest sluts around.

She was having sex with loads of different guys, she was a crazy girl in the bedroom,  she was partying nearly every night. I couldn’t believe that my friend knew so much about this girl’s private business! I was now living in the city, with millions of people, thinking I was really cool but it was just like being back at home!

It got me thinking about what me and my friends meant when we called girls sluts.

I spent the longest time thinking about it.

A slut is a word that is typically used to describe promiscuous women and women that enjoy casual sex. It is a word that is exclusively used for women and it does not have a positive meaning (no matter how hard people have tried to change this!). It creates an image of a street hooker or a woman of low value. A guy who leads a similar lifestyle is called a stud.

Are girls supposed to repress their desires while men fulfil theirs? That’s neither a fair nor a healthy attitude.

Traditionally when there were not as many opportunities in the world for girls in the workplace or in education, it was a good idea for a girl to keep guys chasing them for sex until they were married.

That way they would be looked after by their horny husbands who would put a ring on their finger to get in to their panties.

But this is 2013. The word slut is still pejorative but it has many different meanings:

These are all totally different women with nothing in common but they all seem to fit the broad definition of the word ‘slut’.

This shows the term is as subjective as the person using it. Ten in a month might be a huge number for one person but just a good month for another!

Leading a ‘slutty’ lifestyle is not all negative though!

Not all sluts go to parties and walk curbs.

Some people like the slutty lifestyle but only enjoy sharing it with their partner.

Most guys will admit they want a slut for a partner. Maybe not a slut that is having sex with his friends and neighbours but a girl who behaves like a slut just for him. No guy dreams about being with a girl who is boring and unadventurous when having sex. They want a girl who is willing to try new things and make him feel like a stud.

Sometimes you might hear a guy call someone a slut just because she knows more about what makes for good sex then he does. That’s his problem. A lot of guys dream about having a partner that has all the slutty characteristics that I will talk about later, but only for him. He would like a partner that is a slut for him.

Some couples enjoy BDSM and role play extensively with their ‘slutty’ lover. Other couples enjoy those fantasies too. What happens behind closed bedroom doors is their own business and if that’s what they enjoy doing then being a slut can only be a good thing because it helps you achieve the gratification that you crave.

Here are 7 great tips on how to be a better slut. These are seven ideas you can follow if being more of a slut feels like something you wish to try out or 7ideas that, if you can identify with, should help you to figure out if you are already a good slut. You can follow these tips at work, at the party or just in your house with your partner. It depends on what kind of ‘slut’ you want to be. Enjoy!

1. Sluts Seek Out One Night Stands

A slut may be someone that actively seeks out casual sex with either single guys or guys with wives or girlfriends. If you know a girl that goes to parties all the time with her friends and immediately disappears to go talk to a guy and then sleep with him, it’s safe to call her a slut. Some guys like these sluts because sometimes it’s nice to be chased rather than do the chasing yourself.

2. Sluts Don’t Always Wear Underwear And Mainly Wear Provocative Clothing

A slut can usually be identified by her clothes. If you can see that maybe she is not wearing any underwear in public then you may be sure she has some slutty tendencies. She may be doing it for lots of guys to see or else she is doing it to drive her boyfriend crazy and you just sneeked a peek by mistake but either way she is pretty slutty. It can give a great rush and make you feel not just slutty but super sexy.

The same can be said if she is wearing provocative clothing like a high boots or a tiny mini skirt or a really low cut top without a bra. Either way it’s a great way to indicate you may be feeling pretty slutty today.

3. Make A Sextape

Sometimes sex is so good you have to make a visual copy of it for posterity. Sometimes it can be a thrilling fantasy to pretend to be a famous pornstar. Either way, making a sextape with someone can be a pretty slutty act.

Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian both made one. That’s pretty slutty by itself but what really sets them apart is that they showed it to everyone. That is bringing slutty to a new level. Both tapes have been watched hundreds of millions of times by guys all over the world also. That shows you how much guys secretly love sluts.

4. Sluts Know The Best Sex Positions

Like I said earlier, a slut doesn’t have to be promiscuous or wear the slutty clothes.  A slut can just be a slut in the bedroom and dress conservatively outside it. What happens in your bedroom is your private business. I have heard so many times from guys who brought a girl home and she “turned out to be a total slut!”

If you know lots of various sex techniques and positions you can drive all the slut loving men crazy. It’s up to you however who you share your knowledge with.  (link to a positions post here from the site?) Check out the sex positions section for over 100 different sex positions to try out with your man.

5. A Slut Will Fit Her Time Around A Guy’s Schedule To Be Easy Or She May Be The One Who Initiates Sex

A slut never has sex far from her mind. That’s why a slut will typically give in to a guy’s desire for sex pretty easily.  Another slut identifier can be that a girl drops any plans she may have to be with a guy as soon as he calls. She may arrange her free time around a guy’s sexual timetable.  This makes her easy which is a huge factor in being slutty.

6.A Public Slut Will Sleep With At Least 2 Different Guys A Week

Sometimes being a slut is a numbers game. It’s like football. You can’t be a winner without hammering some high scores on the board. That’s why it can be essential for the outgoing or public slut to have sex with lots of different guys. If it is your desire to be called a slut and be known as a slut then you have to follow through, otherwise it will quickly get around that you are not a slut, you are just a tease! And that is a far worse reputation to get then being a slut because you can leave guys tortured and frustrated.

I put in 2 guys a week but as I was talking about earlier, the number is subjective. You may feel the need to be with 5 guys a week to feel like a slut, but that’s up to you. I just hope that you keep to a number you feel happy with and always use protection. Don’t forget, there are lots of ‘studs’ out there too and you should always be safe.

 7. A Slut Gives A Lot Of Blowjobs

Sometimes, if full intercourse is not your thing a blow job is a perfect substitute. And a successful slut is a blowjob master. She will know all the best techniques and skills such as the ‘Tongue Squeeze’ and the ‘The Handyman’ and the ‘Sucker’. This can be achieved through years trial and error. But if you’d prefer to learn quickly, then you’ll find everything you need to know in this powerful blowjob instructional video where I teach you exactly what to do to make his back arch with pleasure.

In the end, it’s up to you what you define as slutty. Maybe you just want to be slutty for one guy, maybe for lots of guys. Maybe you just want to experiment for a little while with multiple different guys. It really doesn’t matter, the most important thing is to have fun, be safe and not worry too much what others think.

If you enjoyed my tips in this article but want a true sex masterclass, then you may be interested in watching this blow job tutorial video where you'll learn my most powerful techniques & tips for giving your man incredible oral sex. Enjoy!