Rough sex is hot. Really hot. The loss of control. The freeing of inhibitions. And let’s not forget about the passion…
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Today I’m going to show you some really exciting rough sex ideas to try out with your man. Some of these ideas drift over into the realm of BDSM, so don’t be surprised if some of these rough sex suggestions are a little ‘too much’ for you.
Before jumping in, I want to go over some very important aspects of rough sex to make sure you get as much pleasure and enjoyment out of it as possible.
Please don’t skip this!
Rough Sex Is Not For Everybody
While I know that many students of the Bad Girl’s Bible really enjoy rough sex, not everyone likes it. Some guys and girls just aren’t into it. Or worse yet, they may have had a really bad experience with rough sex. So just because your man isn’t responsive to these rough sex ideas, it doesn’t mean there is something wrong. There’s piles of other great types of sex you can try with each other.
So if you suggest it and your man is resistant to it, then you should try something else, like oral sex (tips here), a new sex position (sex positions guide here) or even some fun sex games (some great sex games here).
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Rough Sex Is Not An ‘Every Day’ Activity
Rough sex is addictive. But if you have it every single day, then you’ll quickly get bored and it won’t be as enjoyable as it was at first. So even if it’s your favorite type of sex right now, please try to vary how often you have it.
Mix it up with some slow, sensual, candlelight sex as well as quickies or just oral sex (even more blow job tips here) or even anal sex (read the anal sex guide here). This way, you won’t run out of rough sex ideas too quickly and will always be eagerly waiting for it.
Great Rough Sex Requires Great Communication
One mistake that can ruin rough sex for one or both of you is not properly communicating to each other what you both want and need in bed. Often you may find that you can almost read your man’s mind to know exactly what he wants and vice-versa. But sometimes this isn’t so easy.
This becomes especially complicated during rough sex as both of you will be consumed with passion, making it harder to focus on how your partner is feeling. This is why I always advise that you use a safeword with your man.
Just in case. Besides, it’s better to be safe rather than sorry
And if you don’t already have a safeword that you use with your man, then discuss it with your man and make sure to choose one you both understand. If you want to learn more about safewords, then check out the detailed Wikipedia article on safewords here.
Now lets learn some fun rough sex ideas and techniques!
#1 Get Dominant
Probably the most obvious rough sex idea is for either you or your man to get really dominant over the other. For many guys, they find it easy to dominate their partner in the bedroom. But what if you want to aggressive dominate your man? As well as the tips in this detailed guide here’s some easy to use tips to dominate you man:
Get Grabby & Take The Lead – Rather than waiting for your man to do anything with you, grab him and take what you want. So grab his hand and pull him in for a kiss. Or grab him and lead him into the bedroom. Or grab him, push him onto the bed and then start undressing him. You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to turn guys on when you start grabbing them and taking the lead.
Get What YOU Want – Sometimes it can just be so hot when your man grabs you and takes what he wants without really caring whether you’re satisfied or not. It’s time to flip the tables. So the next time you are fooling around, don’t give him a chance to take the initiative. Get him on his back, straddle him and start grinding on him to get what you want. Your man is going to be very surprised if you’ve never done something like this with him before.
#2 Leave A Mark
Scratching and biting isn’t something you’d normally do to someone you care about. But, when you’re having rough sex, there’s no better way to show your partner how turned on you are than by digging your nails into their back and holding them tightly.
The same goes for biting. Don’t be afraid to gently bite and nibble your man’s neck, ear lobe and shoulders as he’s thrusting into you.
The interesting thing about biting and scratching your man during rough sex is that it’s hard to fake. If you don’t naturally feel like doing it to him when you’re having rough sex, then it’s going to feel forced and your man will probably notice it to.
So, while scratching and gently biting your man during sex can add to the passion of rough sex, my advice is that you don’t force it if you are uncomfortable with the idea.
#3 Grab His Hair & Gently Scratch His Scalp
A rough sex idea that’s much easier to perform is grabbing his hair and scratching his scalp. Now there is a right way and a wrong way to do this.
The Right Way – Softly push your nails up the back of your man’s neck and into his scalp along the back of his head. When you reach the top of his scalp, lightly grab his hair from the roots and gently tug it as you bring your hand back down. Your grip should be tight enough that your man feels it, but loose enough so that his hair easily passes through your fingers as you pull your hand down. All the while, you nails should be softly grazing into his scalp.
The Wrong Way – There are a number of wrongs ways to grab his hair and scalp that will make rough sex painful and unenjoyable for your man. They are: Grab the hair from anywhere but the roots. Grab his hair from anywhere but the back of his scalp. Grip too tightly. Dig you nails in with too much force.
#4 Build Sexual Tension – The Secret Sauce
All the rough sex ideas I have given you so far involve doing physical things to your man.
- Pulling his hair
- Getting physically dominant
But what about the mental aspect of great sex? What you do to his brain is just as important as what you do to his body. Building sexual tension is powerfully effective because it’s that feeling that some describe as a ‘build up in pressure’ or an ‘increase in the potential of what could happen’.
So when you build sexual tension with your man and get him all revved up about what’s going to happen, then he’s going to be a whole lot more eager to rip your clothes off. And if he’s eager to rip your clothes off, then you can be pretty dam sure you are going to have some super intense rough sex.
When there’s no sexual tension, you’re not going to be on his mind 24/7 and he’s not going to be so eager to rip your clothes off and have his way with you. If you’re keen to learn more about how to build sexual tension with your man, then check out this article. You’ll also find that talking dirty to your man (like I teach in this video) is a great way to build sexual tension.
#5 Letting Go
One really vital aspect to having great rough sex is the ability to ‘let go’ and just enjoy it. It’s very easy for me to just advise you to ‘let go’. What would be better is to give your some advice on how to actually do it. I really only have 2 pieces of advice here.
- The first is to make sure you are with someone who makes you feel comfortable with letting go and just enjoying yourself.
- The second is having a glass (or two) of wine. Don’t get hammered. Just have enough to drink so that you feel less inhibited.
#6 Hardcore Rough Sex Ideas – BDSM
All the rough sex ideas that I’ve covered so far have been relatively tame. If you want to take it up a notch in kinkiness and get even rougher, then you should think about incorporating some BDSM into the mix. Just remember, be safe, respectful use a safeword!
Restraints – If you want to have rough sex with your man while remaining solely in control, then you should try using restraints. You could use something like a pair of tights or a necktie to restrain your man’s arms and legs. But if you want to keep him completely restrained, then you may want to take a trip to your local sex shop to pick up some stronger, purpose made restraints.
Slapping – If biting and scratching your man is not enough for you, then you can try getting a bit more intense and slapping him. Of course this is something that you should definitely discuss beforehand to make sure he is okay with it.
And don’t forget to get your man to restrain and slap you too if that’s what you like!
#7 Getting Him To Be Rougher
Perhaps you’ve already thought about these sex ideas for rougher sex and are more concerned with your man being the person who is more intense and rough. If you want your man to be rougher then there are 2 different avenues you can take:
- You can be really direct and just tell him straight up what you want.
- But if you find being direct and up front to be awkward then you should instead let him know what you like and encourage him to do it. So if you want him to grab your hair and talk dirty to you, then mention how hot it makes you the next time you are talking about sex, “I just get so hot and turned on any time you grab my hair in bed” or “I orgasm a lot harder when you’re whispering filthy things in my ear”. More example dirty talking phrases here.
More Rough Sex Ideas
This list of rough sex ideas was long. Thankfully there is still a lot more rough sex ideas you should be trying. In fact most of the guides and articles on the Bad Girl’s Bible can be adapted to rough sex. Want rough oral sex, learn more about it here. What about deep throat, we got it. And if you want more tips on talking dirty to your man, then you’ll learn a ton from this powerful video.
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