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If you have been reading the Bad Girls Bible Blow Job Guide from the first chapter, you’ll know that there are many important, but thankfully easy-to-master aspects of an incredible blow job. I’m talking about beginning it smoothly (Chapter 1 will show you how)…to using techniques to intensify his pleasure (Chapter 2 and Chapter 3 cover a vast number of excellent oral sex techniques)…to finishing him off in a way to makes his eyes roll back into his head with intense pleasure (Chapter 4 covers finishing him off in detail).
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But there are even more oral sex techniques (click here to skip down to them now) you should be using to keep things fresh and fun for both of you. While the previous chapters mentioned earlier all cover very specific things you can do to make him twitch in beautiful agony, this chapter is going to cover a slightly different set of oral sex techniques.
Think of these techniques like over-arching principles or ideas that you should keep in mind when going down on your man to ensure that you always leave him completely and utterly fulfilled. So you can apply each of these principles to a any oral sex technique in the Blow Job Guide.
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For example, you could use this sucking technique on your man and then apply one of the following principles on him like making it super slow and sensual or making it extra wet and sloppy or trying it in a place you’ve never given him a blow job before.
Now let’s start learning some fun oral sex techniques you can unleash on your man!
Super Slow & Sensual
Slowing down is a powerful way to boost your man’s pleasure by delaying his build up to orgasm. It will also make him blow a bigger load[1]. Instead of performing oral sex on him as you normally do, completely slow down your movements to a point where you are barely moving at all.
Slowing down like this has a strange effect on him. It will automatically feel more sensual and intense for him, and he will have enough time to feel your lips and tongue gradually move over every millimeter of his dick. Slowing down works especially well if your man suffers from premature ejaculation.
When I say “Super Slow,” I mean that you are going to kiss him, lick him and suck him at a snails pace. The added benefit of this is that it makes giving him oral sex a whole lot easier!
Wet & Sloppy
It’s hard to describe why giving your boyfriend extra wet and sloppy oral sex works so well. I wish I could give you a perfect explanation, but the closest I can get is that it feels more “silky” and smooth. You may be thinking that this answer isn’t as precise as the rest of my advice on oral sex, but it’s the truth. Just try it out on your man and see for yourself how much he appreciates it.
There are a few different ways to increase the wetness and “sloppiness” of your blow jobs…
Lube – There is an enormous range of lubes that you can use when giving oral sex to increase the wetness, just make sure that you choose one that is “edible” so that you get to enjoy it as much as he does and don’t have to deal with any unpleasant tastes.
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If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.
The Right Kind Of Condiment – There are a few condiments that you can use that not only taste great but can make your BJ a whole lot wetter. These include cream, maple syrup, honey and even chocolate syrup.
Chewing Gum – Right before going down on him, try chewing a piece of gum as it stimulates saliva production naturally.
Deep Throating – When you deep throat your man and stimulate your gag reflex, you naturally and quickly produce large quantities of saliva. While it might not be the most pleasant feeling for you, it can be a useful shortcut.
Enthusiasm
I talk about enthusiasm a lot in Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide, but many people disregard it. Enthusiasm is one of the easiest techniques you can use, but also one of the most effective ways to give your man more pleasure. It’s also a technique that your husband can use on you too.
You know how hot it feels when a guy you like is eager to get you into bed and have his way with you? Or that feeling when your man seems compelled to go down on you and eat you out with every inch of his being? Your husband feels the same way when he sees you eagerly and enthusiastically pull his pants down, massage his testicles and give him a blow job, it’s a massive turn on for him.
Keep in mind that this principle holds true for your entire sex life…so if you want to add some spice to the bedroom, instead of giving your man a peck on the cheek to say goodnight give him an intense, passionate kiss. To show you just how important enthusiasm is, here are 4 separate discussions[2][3][4][5] on the internet forum Reddit, where the top voted sex tip for pleasing your man is to simply be enthusiastic. It’s so underrated, but clearly so vital.
Here are a few other ways that you can be enthusiastic…
- Instead of hugging him when you are lying in bed together, grab his arms and try to pin him to the bed.
- Instead of waiting for him to change positions when you are having sex, grab him and put him in the position you want next. Check out the illustrated Sex Position Guide to give you a few ideas!
- Instead of being quiet during sex, whisper exactly what you want from him in his ear. The Dirty Talking Guide will give you hundreds of examples of what to say to your man!
The point I’m trying to make is that when you are giving oral sex to your man, it’s going to feel a lot more intense for him if you are enthusiastically licking, sucking and slobbering over his penis like a woman possessed, intent on using every ounce of her being to completely sexually satisfy you man. It’s much more effective than if you were silently going about it like you were changing a care tire.
Variation Is Your Friend
I’ve already talked about the importance of variation in Chapter 2, but I want to mention it again as studies have shown that variety boosts sexual satisfaction[6]. Variation is an obvious, but often overlooked oral sex tip that will keep your man constantly looking forward to your blow jobs.
Men desire sexual variety even more than women do[7], so if you just use the same two techniques day in, day out, every time you give him oral sex, then your man is going to get bored FAST. Keeping your sex life fun and preventing boredom is the whole purpose of the Blow Job Guide after all…teaching you numerous different oral sex tips, techniques and ways to keep your man completely satisfied today, next week, next month and next year.
Make It A Special Occasion
Your man is going to adore the idea of getting a BJ three times per day from you…but the truth is that too much of a good thing is BAD.
Here’s why…
If you get to eat your favorite meal three times per day, every day, you will adore it at first. But as the days and weeks pass, you are going to start getting bored of it and will start craving different foods and flavors. Eventually your “favorite meal” will stop being your favorite meal and you will want something different.
Giving your man oral sex is similar to this…the prospect of getting a fellatio from you once or twice a day is going to sound fantastic at first and no doubt he will enjoy it. But if you keep this blow job routine, it will stop being so special for your man.
To prevent this, you need to take the Goldilocks approach…not too much, not too little.
For some couples, this means performing oral sex just once or twice a week while, for other couples, it could be almost every day. It all comes down to personal preferences, sex drive, and desire.
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Location, Location, Location
It’s natural that most couples spend the majority of their sex life in the bedroom. The same applies for most couples when it comes to your “oral” sex life. But if you never venture outside of the bedroom or only do it rarely, then you are missing out on a treasure trove of incredible oral sex locations where you give your man an entirely different experience.
Of course, there are obvious places like giving him oral while he watches TV, in your bathroom and in your car (just make sure not you’re not breaking any laws!). But, there are also a bunch of other great places where you can give your man oral sex like when you are both alone in the wilderness. Think about the top of a mountain, on a deserted beach or even on a cliff looking out to sea. Again, just make sure you’re not breaking any laws.
Asking him to come help you in the kitchen, before dropping to your knees and surprising him with a blow job is going to leave him feeling a little confused…but also very happy. The same is true if you are both at a house party and you grab him, lead him to somewhere private and then start using some of the oral sex techniques you learned from this guide on him.
Start Small
One oral sex technique that regularly gets overlooked is “starting small.” Many students read detailed instructions like the Blow Job Guide, then rush to find their man and try out every technique they’ve just learned.
This eagerness is understandable, but it’s also the WRONG approach.
You don’t want to give everything away at the start or your blow job. Otherwise, your man will have nothing to look forward to and it also sets his expectations sky high of what else you have in store for him.
Instead, you want to start off on a slow, but solid footing to grab your man’s interest by using some simple oral sex techniques on him. Then as you continue, you want to build the intensity higher and higher steadily using more satisfying and pleasing oral sex techniques on him. Towards the end of your blow job, you should now begin using your most powerful techniques on your man so that a crescendo of wild pleasure engulfs your man as he orgasms.
Think of it as a performance, starting out slowly, gradually building up the pleasure, before finishing off so that he cums in the most extreme way
The techniques I cover in Chapter 2 are perfect for starting off your blow job, before moving on to the oral sex techniques in Chapters 3 & 7 to build the amount of sexual enjoyment you’re giving your man. Check out Chapter 4, 5 & 9 for tips on finishing your blow job so that your man almost passes out from the pleasure.
Dominant Or Submissive
If you’ve read our BDSM Guide, you’ll know that you can add elements of domination or submission into almost any sex act. The same goes for when you are giving your man head!
Let’s start with some ideas for dominating your man with oral sex…
Restrain Him – Tying your boyfriend up and making him immobile before sucking his cock is an easy way to dominate him. Just make sure to use easy-to-remove restraints that don’t cut off his circulation. Two popular ideas are tying his arms to the bed posts or handcuffing his arms behind his back.
Push Him Down – An easier technique is to push him down on the bed or the sofa and keep your hands on his stomach so he can’t get back up again.
Dominant 69 – Another fun way to dominate him is to get in the 69 position, with him on his back and you on top. Sit right down on his face so that he knows who’s in charge and give him as much oral attention as he deserves for eating you out. Just make sure he can breathe!
Just make sure that you avoid using your teeth during your blow job as you dominate him. Most guys don’t enjoy feeling your teeth during blow jobs.
Now let’s learn some submissive oral sex techniques to use on him…
Get tied up – This one is obvious. It works best if your hands are tied behind your back, but they can also be tied above your head.
He’s in control – When your husband places his hands on your head and controls how deep and how fast you are taking him, he is firmly in control and setting the pace. Of course, it’s a good idea to talk to him beforehand to make sure he doesn’t accidentally hurt you.
Now that you’ve finished Chapter 8 of the Blow Job Guide, you may want to check out the previous chapters. I always advise starting at Chapter 1 and working your way through.
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My boyfriend is a lot younger than I am and is kind of a sadist. Any tips to get him rock hard and interested?
The key is finding out what he likes and then doing that as his sadism could take many forms, so asking him is a great start. Otherwise you are just going to be shooting in the dark and learning what he likes by trial and error.
So my boyfriend… When I’m giving him blow jobs I can tell that he really enjoys it…because he’ll grip my hair and grip the sheets, twitch a little bit and moan slow….BUT…I want him to moan loudd and call my name…if he’s not doing that I’m gonna think I’m not doing something right…..any tips on how to make him “roar” ?lol
Hey Jonique, the truth is some people are more vocal than others. So your man may be a screamer or he may be as silent as a church mouse. So the best way to change this is to just talk to him and let him know how much you appreciate it when he is more vocal.
Thank you for the blowjob tips. By using these tips my boyfriend absolutely loves it . He says that when I give him a blowjob that is the best he has ever had.Thank you again.
JG
So my husband loves a blow job and I have been very through with learning all the techniques and learning what he likes even down to him feeling free to hold my head and set the rhythm which honestly, I love. However, I feel we may be in a rut of blowjobs… blowjobs only… never thought this would become an issue but well, need some feedback on getting some payback if you understand what I mean. 🙂
Sean…I’m with a man who is 37 years old and has never been able to come by just oral. I desperately want to be the 1st woman to do this for him. He says that what I do feels amazing and I’ve tried everything I can think of. Any ideas?
Get him to stop masturbating for a month or two. He will become super-sensitive.
what if MB is not the issue?
Then he should talk to a doctor.
My husband has the same issue. He can’t orgasm from a hand job or blow job alone but has no issues when we are making love
Sean,
I read your article on maintaining a long-distance relationship and my boyfriend is serving a two-year prison sentence but won’t be out until October of next year. He is not allowed to receive pictures of the sexual nature but he can call me email me snail mail me and make videos for me. My question is how do I maintain a relationship of a sexual nature with my boyfriend? Do you have any suggestions? We have a type of code language that we speak to each other with when we want to refer to something of a sexual nature. For instance we were talking about a woman being shaved or having a landing strip and we referred to it as Landscaping. Any suggestions would be welcome period thank you for all the interesting articles in your newsletters and tips.
Laura Lee,
I’ve been where you are recently. And it’s tough. First if all, I salute you for sticking through during his time. Not an easy task. You are a true Queen?
I live in FL & the only thing they regulated for sexual content we’re the pictures. I had A LOT of returned mail! But our phone conversations were very explicit. He wasn’t shy about it at all! LoL When the tablets became available I bought him one which made it emails more frequent so it was almost like texting rather than emailing. But the best tool we used was his bunkies contraband phone… Talk about a game changer. If that option is not available, IDK if y’all use JPay or not but the videograms helped a bit. But still monitored by the system so it can be intercepted if it’s too much… Personally, I always enjoyed writing him dirty letters. I would send 20 pages of very explicit details of what I wanted to do to him, him to me and what I was doing to myself… Then tell him he had a letter on the way and vaguely tell him what was in it. Don’t give away the details. The waiting and the imagining of what it would say was a major build-up for him. It drove him wild! He loved it!
So, that’s how I did it…I hope it helped. And again, I tip my crown to you. A Queen recognizes another Queen. Stay strong & Good Luck
Sean,
I gave my boyfriend a blowjob using your tips and they worked really well, and I want to thank u so much bc whe I started using these tips he said they r the best he has gotten but they worked so well that he kept twitching. He was twitching a lot and idk if that’s is healthy bc it seemed like he couldn’t stop. Idk what that is about really.
Hey, I have a question. I want to deepthroat, but sadly, I have a very strong gag reflex, and gagging turns me off. Have any tips?
Check out the guide on how to deep throat without gagging.
Am actually in uganda but dating a Norwegian two different sexual backgroundso but this tips have helped me to update my sexual life and spicing up thanx to u guys
OMG THANK YOU for teaching me how to overcome my worries, enjoy it, & give him the best ever! Get this, he’s “Dying” to see me again. It’s pretty empowering and wicked fun.
Cheers & Thank You ?
I struggle when it comes to giving my husband head. I suffer from gag reflexes that can be triggered by brushing my teeth or sometimes simple deep breaths. I found for this issue Goodhead Deep Throat Spray works really well(also good for sore throats and tooth pain), but I also suffer from TMJ and my question is, does anyone know of something similar to Goodhead(either topical or oral) that actually does relieve pain for jaw muscles and joints?
What is this gag reflex ?
It’s that uncontrollable feeling of gagging and trying to throw up. It gets stimulated when the back of your throat is touched.
I actually vomit every time and it’s gross as I dislike it but he just wants it.
These are some good tips, but at the end of the day a lot of it is outside of your control. Some girls can give an incredible feeling blowjob on their first attempt when not having a clue what to do, while others can have expert level technique but for whatever reason their mouth just doesn’t feel as good. However the more you know the better you can do.
Thanks for the tips. I’ve been married for 30 years. My sex life is amazing because of your tips.
Glad I could help!
I had jaw surgery and have lost full range on my jaw which has prevented me from giving blowjobs for the past few years. Do you have any advice on how to work in oral sex without being able to actually put his whole penis in my mouth since it doesn’t fit?
Focus on the tip. Use your lips and tongue.
Hands too a well lubed hand in conjunction with your mouth could do wonders
Hey…….I have never cummed or orgasmed during sex
Could anything be wrong with me
Or I’m not been fucked well❓❓?
Any tips getting my wife comfortable deepthroating and swallowing she got to where she gets close but not quite all the way.and has finished me off several times but I hope she will get to the point of swallowing my load more often any tips
Check out the Deep Throating Guide.
Hi, I love giving my boyfriend head and he’s always asking for it, but We’re been together for a year now and I still haven’t made him cum without him masturbating into my mouth at the last minute or so. I want to be able to make him cum on my own. I’ve tried different positions, techniques, I love to swallow and give a bunch of foreplay beforehand and he seems very happy how we’ve got on. But not making him cum on my own is bothering me. I can go for a long time, but He can literally hold out 30 minutes.
Ask him to stop masturbating for a month. He will become so sensitive that he’ll find it a lot easier to cum quickly.
I like this bible lol this book is good
I need some honest advice. My boyfriend used to be able to touch my arm and start a reaction in me. We used to have sex constantly and it was really great. He could give lessons on going down on a woman. Now it’s like in the past few months we barely have sex. It seems like he’s not interested. And I brought it up and he doesn’t see a problem with it says he’s tired. He doesn’t go down on me at all anymore and sometimes he’s really quick to just start intercourse after a minute of kissing. I’ve been very open in that we can try anything he wants, I have all kinds of lingerie, I’ve tied him up and blindfolded him, given him lap dances, give him blowjobs, even made my boobs into cupcakes for his birthday complete with candles. This was all before the sex seemed to slow down and start to not be so great. I still try to do those things. I used to inisiate sex but don’t want to get turned away. Also he stares and I do mean stares at other women right in front of me when we are out. He constantly tells me I’m hot but I don’t feel so hot. Should I just give up?
It sounds like you need to communicate this to him. We put together a course on sexual communication that you can read for free.
I could have wrote this, are you still together?? Good thing he’s your boyfriend and not your husband. I can stand the looking at other women, communicate with him and being an open relationship that’s the way to go.
Hello I’m having the same issues as ruby I started reading your Bible and my husband was shocked he said I went from ok to a porn star and I actually deepthroated him and let him cum in my math and swallowed all 8n the same night for the first time ever but now that’s all he seems to want is head we do have sex but he doesn’t seem like he’s into it we have sex for a little while but he always wants me to finish him off with head he says your mouth feels like your pussy but there’s a young added it makes it better he said if my pussy had a young he wouldn’t know what to do but now he doesn’t touch me kiss me he hasn’t went down on my and that night I deepthroated him I did it with no problem he said that was the best head he’s ever had and that’s saying alot he’s been with alot if women and had alit of head but I haven’t been able to deepthroate him again I gag now Everytime I didn’t the first time could it be becuse I’m thinking about it and that’s keeping me from doing it I really want to be able to do it anytime I want he told me he has never had a woman put that much if his dick in there throat and not gag what can I do about being able to do it again we’ve been together 20 years so I’m glad you helped me be able to pleasure my man better we’ve always had a great sex life though no problems there
Our guide on how to deep throat without gagging should help with that 😉
Monica J DeLong,
I am 52 and I’ve had a child. I have been married 15 years and with my husband for 18.5. We hit rock bottom with out sex life in winter of 2020/2021. And now, everything has changed, and here’s what I have learned that will help you, but he has got to participate and you need to tell him in no uncertain terms, that while you love pleasuring him with your mouth, there needs to be more to your sexual relationship in order for you to be satisfied like he is, and then give him concrete examples of how you would be as satisfied as he is if he participated. If he does not make an attempt after that…I’d walk. He is just selfish.
But here’s what I learned. When I am 100% turned on, and ALL my erectile tissue is full (yes women have as much erectile tissue as men), and my Skene’s gland (or urethral sponge) is full; it’s located under your G-spot, between your bladder and G-spot, it’s so engorged that my 5 decade old vagina is TIGHT and about the same diameter of my 17 year old vagina when not fully engorged. Plus the vestibular blubs and perineal sponge all contribute to your tightness. When all this erectile tissue is engorged, then and only then are ready for sex. You need a lot of foreplay, and physical/emotional/psychological effort from him to get there during sex, and you also need to “receive” this energy from him fully. But what I would suggest is you play with turning yourself on, on your own to fully understand what it takes to get you there so you can describe it in great detail to him and be an expert on your own body. A great resource to understanding this in scientific detail (buy layman’s terms) is a book called: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, by Sheri Winston. There is even a guide at the end of this book, kind of a “Cliff’s Notes” for guys on how to arouse a woman, that you could share with him. If you cannot afford to buy the book outright, a library may have it. It’s loaded with information to help you be better connected to yourself and your body sexually, and there are lots of “how to” examples founded in science in the book so that if he is feeling overwhelmed by the complexity of your body, you can highlight what of the examples are most pertinent to you and give him a target that will seem less confusing and impossible. Women are complicated, but you deserve the same kind of attention and selfless pleasure adorned onto you, that you are giving him. Good luck hun, and you are a sex goddess, just waiting for the right guy to want to love that in you.
My boyfriend loves to be deep throated, his cocked sucked really hard and for a while. Once he feels like he is about to cum he doesn’t want me to stop. While I can do these one at a time or a few together. All 3 are difficult. He says I just need to practice. And he is well endowed. I’m having difficultly sucking it really hard while deep throating at the same time. How can I do this?
I love Making my man happy i’m following you directions I’ll have to please him with Doing a blowjob on him , He seems to be in jail and all the pleasures that I do with him with my mouth. The only thing I don’t like is that he Does not have sperm because he had prostate Cancel in this post state was remove . But he really do enjoy the awesome 6 that we have. Can you give me animal advice on how to please him