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If you don’t yet know how to use a vibrator, then you are seriously missing out on a lot of orgasms and pleasure. Using a vibrator is the perfect addition to both masturbating and your regular sex life. In fact, it might give you an orgasm if you’ve never had one before [1], and some women are only able to cum while using one [2]! This guide is going to teach you exactly how to use a vibrator along with what techniques work best.
There are three sections to this vibrator guide (Section 3. is the most important)
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- Choosing the right vibrator for you.
- Getting prepped so you achieve maximum enjoyment.
- The actual techniques you can use with your vibrator to have back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms.
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Choosing The Right Vibrator For You
Before learning how to use a vibrator, you want to choose the one, and there are a couple of vital factors to take into consideration:
Power – The most important factor when selecting a vibrator for yourself is making sure it’s powerful enough. If you currently struggle to orgasm either during sex or masturbation and require a lot of intense stimulation to get yourself over the edge, then mostly likely you’ll need a more powerful vibrator.
This means that you’ll need to avoid the cheap options which often don’t deliver much stimulation and stick with mid to high-end vibrators that include the likes of Lelo, WeVibe, the Hitachi Magic Wand, Sybian and well made “rabbit” style vibrators.
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Modes & Settings – Another major issue to consider before splashing the cash on a brand new vibe is what modes or settings it has. With many vibrators, you can adjust the intensity of the vibration. This is awesome as it means you can customize it to get exactly the type of stimulation you want.
On some vibrators, you can also set it to deliver cycles of intensity. This means that the vibrator will automatically change how intense the vibrations are so that you feel pulses or waves of vibration repeatedly building and receding instead of a constant level of intensity.
Most women find this to be a lot more pleasurable than the same continuous power that less well-made vibrators give. In fact, one of the biggest problems with most low-end vibrators is that if the intensity is not right, there is no way to adjust it. So it can end up being too weak or too powerful, and there is nothing you can do to adjust it.
Shape – For many women, the shape of their vibrator is not very important when using it. This is especially true for those of you who are only interested in clitoral stimulation and using your vibrator on the outside of your vagina. If you want penetration also, then obviously the shape of your vibrator is important too.
Thankfully, most stores stock a large variety of shapes and sizes, from vibrators that look like small capsules (bullets) to penis shaped vibrators to smoother forms with bumps and curves in all the right places, so you’ll always be able to find the right shape for your needs.
Noise – The last thing to touch on when choosing a vibrator is noise. If you share a house with others, you will naturally want to be discreet. A noisy, loud vibrator isn’t going to help you achieve this! My advice is to avoid the cheaper, less well-made vibrators is you want a quiet one.
Prepping For Maximum Pleasure
Once you’ve got a good vibrator, there are a few things you can do before getting down to business to ensure you enjoy maximum orgasmic pleasure
The first and most important thing is understanding what turns you on and makes you horny. This could involve things like:
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- Having a long, hot bath beforehand.
- Reading your favorite erotica.
- Setting the mood in your room with the right music, scents, and lighting
- Performing some foreplay on yourself. These masturbation tips should help.
- Watching porn if that’s your thing.
- Having a glass of wine.
Ultimately, you need to do what works for you. So if there is something not mentioned here, but it gets you horny-as-hell, then do that instead. You can find more great ideas to make yourself horny in this guide as well as tips to increase your sex drive in this article.
The other important strategy for achieving maximum pleasure is knowing your body intimately so that you understand the exact buttons you need to press to bring you over the edge into an ocean of orgasmic bliss. If you currently struggle with reaching orgasm and climaxing but want to learn how to make it super simple, then check out my mind-blowing and in-depth guide on making yourself orgasm here.
How To Use A Vibrator – 9 Intense Techniques
The key with the techniques below is experimenting with them and figuring out which ones work best for you.
1. Vibrator Foreplay
Start by softly dragging your vibrator over your most sensitive erogenous areas. These are places like your breasts and nipples and the inside of your thighs. For some people, they find that their neck, lips, stomach and even the inside of their elbows (really!) also respond well to the vibrations.
As you are starting to get aroused, start focusing more on your thighs and vagina, but don’t apply your vibrator to your vagina just yet. Keep teasing yourself by gently trailing your vibrator around it, running it over the outside of your labia and above your clitoris until your body is crying out for more direct contact.
2. Gentle Teasing
Gentle Teasing is similar to the previous technique, except this time you will be focusing more directly on your vagina but only making very light contact.
Start by applying the tip of your vibrator to the bottom of your vagina and slowly dragging it upwards towards your clit. Once you reach the top of your vagina, above your clit, slowly drag it back down. While doing this technique, your body will be crying out for more pressure and intensity, but don’t give in just yet. Maintain a “feather-light” touch for as long as possible.
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3. Clitoral Focus
Now it’s time to use your vibrator on your clit! Move the tip of your vibrator over your clitoris and start applying direct pressure to it. There are bunch of things you can do here:
- You may prefer to push the tip of your vibrator into a particular side of your clit.
- You may prefer to rub it over and back on your clit.
- You may prefer to circle your clit slowly or very rapidly.
- You may prefer to keep softly teasing yourself by applying minimum pressure.
The key is experimenting with different techniques and finding the part of your clit that feels most enjoyable and pleasurable with your vibrator. These masturbation techniques that focus on your clit will give you some more ideas of what you can do with your vibrator on your clitoris.
4. Clitoral Hood
Some women find that direct contact on their clitoris is too intense and can even be painful. If you fall into this category, then don’t worry, you’re not alone, and there is a simple solution…
You need to use the clitoral hood as a buffer. This is the little flap of skin that covers your clitoris. So instead using your vibrator on your clitoris, use it on your clitoral hood instead. This way the vibrations will be less intense but still enjoyable.
5. Coming In From Below
This technique is universally popular as you will be able to stimulate the entire outside of your vagina with it. You need to take your vibrator and press the length of it against your vagina. The top of your vibrator should be pressed against your clit, while the length of the vibrator is pressed against your vagina/labia and the bottom of your vibrator should be at the lower part of your vagina.
If you squeezed your legs together in this position, you would easily be able to keep your vibrator in place.
6. Cum Inside
While all the previous techniques involved the outside of your vagina, it’s now time to think about what’s on the inside. For this, you will need a vibrator that is somewhat penis shaped and can easily enter your vagina.
Using your natural lubrication or some lube that you purchased, coat your vibrator with it and slowly push it inside your vagina. Simply leaving your vibrator to sit inside your vagina can be very pleasurable, but you’ll find it much more enjoyable to apply pressure to the most sensitive spots in there, particularly your G Spot and Skene’s gland area along with your A Spot, which can cause orgasm [3].Experiment with the pressure you apply, the intensity of the vibrations and different areas inside your vagina to discover what feels most intense. If you are using a penis shaped vibrator, then you can check out the Dildo Guide here that will show you some excellent techniques that you can also use to enjoy earth-shattering, neighbor-waking orgasms.
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7. Add Your Fingers To The Mix
Just because you are using a vibrator doesn’t mean that you can’t also use your fingers. In fact, doing so only adds more pleasure to the mix. Use your fingers on one hand to stimulate your G Spot, while simultaneously using your vibrator in your other hand to pleasure your clitoris. Find you G Spot here.
Of course, you can also switch your hands around here and use your fingers to rub your clit, while pressing your vibrator into your G Spot.As I keep repeating like a parrot, the key is experimenting and seeing what you prefer. You may find that you prefer pressure on your A Spot or prefer to rub your labia instead of your clit. This guide on fingering yourself will give you lots of examples of how to finger yourself for maximum pleasure.
8. Use Your Vibrator For Better Sex
Vibrators are sometimes referred to as “marital aids”, and seeing them as such is a good idea. Using a vibrator during sex can dramatically add to both your AND your man’s pleasure [4].
If you currently struggle to orgasm during sex, then using a vibrator can help a lot to reach orgasm during penetration. Using it on your clitoris in certain positions like Missionary or the Coital Alignment Technique can be very cumbersome and awkward while other positions like Doggy Style or Spooning make it very easy.
If you like, your man can also take over and use the vibrator on you during sex.
Another fun option is to use your vibrator on HIM. Again this is dependent on what position you are in. If you are in a position that makes it easy, you can use it on his balls, perineum (the area of rough skin between his testicles and anus) or even his ass.
IMPORTANT: Some insecure guys think that if you use a vibrator during sex, it’s because he is a terrible lover or that you need something more. This can be super frustrating, especially if you just want to try something new with him. If your man acts offended at your suggestion or seems distressed, then, unfortunately, you need to reassure him that you only want to try something new and that it’s NOT him.
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9. During Blow Jobs & Hand Jobs
As well as using your vibrator on your man during sex, you can also use it on him during a blow job or hand job. Here are a few ideas:
- Try gently running it along his shaft and the head of his penis and watch his reaction!
- While giving him either oral sex (check out the Blow Job Guide here) or a hand job (check out the hand job guide here), you can use it on his testicles, trailing it over them and caressing them with it or holding it against them with your hand.
- Your man’s perineum is also incredibly sensitive, so try pressing your vibrator on it. Although it’s sensitive, you can use a lot of pressure which makes it more enjoyable for him.
- If your man enjoys having his ass played with, then don’t be afraid to use it on his ass too. You can rub it around the outside, softly press it inside or even just fully penetrate him with it. Of course, you need to clean it afterwards before using it on yourself again.
Warning
While vibrators work to enhance most women’s sex lives, there is also a dark side to them that some women fall prey to.
Don’t worry; I’m not talking about addiction! It’s something a little more subtle.
When you start using your vibrator, you’ll notice how the strong vibrations make it easy to orgasm; it’s even been described as “inescapable” [5]. Over time, if you consistently use your vibrator instead of other means to masturbate and orgasm, your body will begin to adjust to the strength of your vibrator. When you switch back to using only your hands, many women notice that they can’t possibly provide as much pleasure as your vibrator can, making it much harder to orgasm.
The same is true for regular sex. If your body has adjusted to the intense vibrations of your vibrator, then you may begin having difficulty climaxing as your man can’t provide nearly as much stimulation. This dependency on your vibrator can be frustrating and even doctors who recommend vibrators to couples are advised to prepare them for this possibility [6]. Of course, the solution is simple, stop using your vibrator for a few months and your sensitivity will return.
The last thing to say on this guide to using your vibrator is that it was very in-depth and covered a lot of areas. Often when you’re about to use yours, you’re already horny, so you can skip all the foreplay and preparation that I discussed at the start of the guide and go straight to the techniques you enjoy most.
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So if I have a depencey on my vibrator how do I stop?
Hi, thanks for the question. The key is just saying, ‘No’ to yourself and finding other ways to have fun. Developing a dependency on a vibrator is not a good thing as it means that you will slowly find sex harder and harder to enjoy.
How about if you rub your clit with a pillow going back & forth ????
I have an awkward question, but I got a new vibrator and some parts of it are bigger than I’m used to. At first it was a tiny bit painful but I was able to change positioning and use it but now afterwards I’m a little achy is that considered normal? I didn’t use lube. Once I get going I dont need it. But it’s been a while that something that size has been in there so I cant recall it.
Stretching any part of your body can result in a little (or a lot of) soreness afterward.
Is there any way you can “resensitize” you clitoris?
Hi Mariah,
Often if you use a vibrator too often or if you use too much pressure when masturbating, it can desensitise your clitoris. The ‘resensitise’ it, you should avoid masturbating for a few months. I know it can be tough, but you’ll find it totally worth it.
Sean
i heard u could eletricute yerself with a vib….i stay away
Perhaps you should learn how to spell and form sentences properly before buying into nonsense. You cannot electrocute yourself unless there is a cut wire, even then, most vibrators are battery powered.
LOL haha. Owned LOL
you totally can…. if you use one that is not waterproof in the bathtub/shower. Other wise not a chance.
Only in the water especially if it has an electrical cord for power
But waterproof battery power is safe ,
I have not had a serious relationship since 2013 and I’m not looking into having another one until I complete my education.
So my question is, is it terrible to use it for the next two years? Not every night of course. If I do manage to find “Mr God Damn Fantastic”, what should I do to make it as though I never experienced a vibrator?
I think what you’re talking about is making sure you have strong kegel muscles. Check out tips on how to keep it tight here. Let me know if there’s anything else I can help you with
I don’t always use my vibrator but when I do I orgasm hard. Is that good?
Sounds like a blast!
My boyfriend and I have noticed a creamy white substance when I climax. Is this like a guys cum? I usually squirt hard and now this on top of it should I be concerned?
Sounds like everything is pretty natural and healthy, don’t be worried!
This is normal I notice that substance to so your not alone
If my boyfriend is against vibrators is it bad I got one anyway? I just love the vibration compared to not having one. He’s gone a lot so I am usually alone when I’m in the mood and it seems the only way I can get off by myself is to use one, but I just feel like I’m doing something wrong since he doesn’t like it.
It shouldn’t be a problem really, but sometimes guys can feel like they aren’t satisfying you properly and they may think that this is why you’re using a vibrator.
Your boyfriend does not control your sex life, if you get that extra ‘something’ from a vibrator then its fine because its not like dicks vibrate on their own. If he’s anti-vibrator then thats his personal problem and thats unnecessary problematic controls on the relationship.
Hey! I just used this and I had the best orgasm ever.
Hey. I just used this method and I had the best orgasm ever. I have two vibrators so I used the second for my clit instead of my finger and the orgasm I’m had was the best I’ve ever had.
im so happy for you
I did exactly this with my vibrator but I just can’t orgasm and it drives me crazy. A guy even fingered me and I couldn’t get off. I can’t get off to my own hand either which is why I bought the damn thing… Ugh, very frustrating.
Jen,
Luv I think you need to relax and not dwell so on the “BIg O”.
An orgasm will occur when the body allows it to occur. Oft times
women get too caught up in the “having” instead of the Attempt..
Take your time focus on other parts of your body’s errogenous
zones. There are many and some are no where near the Pubic region.
Importantly here is learning to focus on relaxation. Once you find the button it just takes finding out how to turn it on. With a guy, let him finger you but also go down on you orally. Too much Clitoral play is distracting until it makes itself necessary.. Let him play and learn your anotomy through the Braille Method or the Hands on Approach. Remember you have a mouth and you have a brain so don’t be afraid to “direct the film”, in fact most guy’s get off on a woman telling where it really feels good. Vibrators can be great but they also have a negative side. Through continous use you can become dependant upon them or even become desensitized, almost to the point of numbness. Just relax and let the Orgasm build in some women it can take some time to get there, but when you do it can feel like electricity coursing through your body.
Good suggestions, I especially like the reminder to focus on other areas of the body, and not get right down to business.
But I have a few thoughts. there’s no reason to be fearful of using a vibe! Depriving oneself for months is pointless.
Re comments above, a toy will never take the place of a partner, so I wouldn’t worry too much. I would never let my guy dictate what I do with my own body, in my own solo time, he doesn’t have to approve–or even know. But reassure your man; there’s no reason that a little battery operated gadget should be a threat. It isn’t going to replace him. You enjoy your vibe, you don’t love it as you love him. You don’t have an emotional connection with your little piece of plastic. Insecurity isn’t an attractive quality.
If all else fails, use the vibe with your guy, let him use it on you. He’ll probably love it.
And lastly, I disagree with the statement that everyone should invest in expensive vibes. Our needs are all so different. Try the inexpensive ones first to figure out what you may want in a toy, because it would be frustrating to drop $50 or more on a toy, only to find you hated it!
Personally, and I’m sure i’m not the only one to feel this way, I don’t like anything that too obviously resembles a sex toy. I want the thing I use to be small and ultra discreet. I don’t enjoy internal vibration, so for me, the Pocket Rocket is my perfect vibe. It’s cheap, simple, takes one battery, has one speed and isn’t obnoxious. I don’t need anything else. You can get them with 2-3 speeds, though.
just used a vibrator for the first time, then i think the proper term is squirting, is this normal i have never done that before? i came, but then that??
Sounds to me like everything is natural and you have reached a climax you havent before. Have fun.
Is it wrong that I use a back massager instead of a toy?
Sounds alright to me.
Private,
Before the advent of specialized Vibes the hand vibe was kind of the state of the art. One of My ex-wives preferred the Back massager. It does have intensity control and permits the good ole fashioned “Digital”
method to get you there. Hey ,have fun and enjoy.
Yup that’s me. I cannot cum in anyway shape or form what so ever unless I have a tiny bullet on maximum strength and blast my clit. Then I can go 3,4,5 times in a row one after another non stop. But once I take the vibrator away… I go dead I won’t cum without it. I’ve for sure become dependant on it. But that’s OK bc I love that sucker lol
When I masterbate, I can’t cum. Why is that?
Sorry to hear that. Our guide on how to orgasm should help
So I read this article and I tried it out and let me tell you that was the best feeling in the world! Thank you for the advice!
I am two years out of an abusive relationship. I (loved) sex, but now cannot trust any guy enough to even date. I am happier to be on my own. Maybe for years. In this case, do you think a ‘vibrator only sex life’ is ok? Like I don’t HAVE to care about ruining sex with an actual person, because even the thought of it makes me (literally) panic.
Basically, i agree with your warning, but if a person has decided not to have an actual dating relationship for the foreseeable future, can they be less careful about ‘ruining’ their ‘sex life’ by only using a vibrator to get off?
Your site is awesome BTW.
As for dating someone or staying on your own, it’s completely up to you and my advice is to do whatever makes you happiest in the long term. If you’re not going to be seeing anyone for a while, then I wouldn’t be too worried about using a vibrator when you are pleasuring yourself.
I’ve used a vibrator since I was 17. I wondering if I have desensitized myself because it’s very difficult for me to cum whe my man goes down on me. Is it because I’m desensitized or does he need to workout n his skill?
Hi Sabrina,
It could be one or the other or both. My advice is to stop masturbating entirely for a few months. That should help you to become more sensitive. But also make sure to communicate to your man exactly what you want.
What if it’s not a dildo vibrator and like a massage chair vibrator?
As long as it works for you!
Hi,
I have had a boyfriend for 4 years now and he’s never been able to get me off during sex. However he can get me off by my clit.
I just got a vibrator and it’s the same thing. Am I doing something wrong? What can I do?
I’ve never orgasmed during sex. So I bought a vibrator and now I can orgasm all the time. Then I had sex and I had my first orgasm during sex. Did it fix me? The article says you could become dependant on it. Could the opposite also be true?
Sounds like the opposite can be true. Remember that my advice should be treated as a guideline, not the “law”. There are billions of people on the planet, so my advice couldn’t possibly apply to every single person. Have fun!
I heard once that before a woman knows what an orgasm feels like it’s much harder for them to actually have one. It sounds like once you used the vibrator you orgasmed, and like muscle memory, it was easier for you to orgasm during sex.
Hi,
I’ve always had a hard time orgasming with a man in the room but in the bedroom alone I can. (Why?). Also, I noticed that about a year ago, I became vibe-sensitive so I gave up my Eroscillator so I can become sensitive again. After 1 yr of using my hand, it still hasn’t worked!
My husband Loves going down on women, he knows how hard it is to make them cum so he prides himself on taking care of needs ☺️. He could be down there for an hour, but Still not make me cum. Do you think I have issues “letting go”? Do you have suggestions on overcoming desensitivity?
Thanx much for the advice, esp. On an embarrassing topic.
Some people just find it hard to orgasm when there is anything interfering, like stress, your partner, noise, anything really. Try slowly getting used to your partner being there when orgasming. Start by masturbating yourself when he is beside you without him helping. Then try get him to help by explaining exactly what you need. Then let him take over completely.
I used my vibrated for the first time and I hardly came at all. I was too sensitive and it wasn’t as good as when I use me hands or pillow. Any suggestions?
Try these techniques.
Damn it. An hour in an no orgasm. I think I’m desensitized I’ll take a few more months off.
I have a problem.. I can’t just orgasm from a vibrator.. I tend to have to rub my clit. Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing this wrong?
That’s fine. Some women prefer vibrators, others prefer their hands. To each, their own.
Hi, I have been prone masturbating for a LONG time (I’m now 32). I basically need to be lying on my stomach and grind a pillow or something in between my legs. This is the only way I’ve achieved an orgasm. Ive never been able to climax during intercourse, oral or fingering. Is there a way to reset and enjoy sex normally again?
Check out the Orgasm Guide here for help. Also try not masturbating for a few months to allow the sensitivity to return.
Sure, perhaps it would be best to wait for a few months, but in a long run you need to teach yourself to have an orgasm in some other way – change the pose or the means and explore your body in some other way. Having a “specific circumstances” in which you can have an orgasm can be frustrating. My boyfriend had the same basic problem and we made series of exercises during a whole year which “taught” him to come by other means of stimulation, in various positions etc.
Hi, I would like to know if using a vibrator on/outside the vagina still requires you to stop using it for a few months to regain sensitivity?
Some women find that using strong vibrators can desensitize their vaginas, making regular sex feel less satisfying.
I love this blog. Every women deserves to know the wonderful sensations of orgasms!! Many people are so misinformed and this is wonderful. I love seeing the comments on here about people being thrilled they reached their climax. Here’s a question – if the clit can become desensitized – does this mean the penis can as well? What causes the desensitization? Recently I’ve been masturbating a lot – nearly everyday with my vibrator and orgasm several times in a row. I’m really feeling sad about NOT reaching climax for a couple months???
Yes, the penis can also become desensitized too.
I was wounduting how long should i use my vibrated for
It all comes down to personal preference.
i just had sex but i cant cum is this bad?
did you enjoy it?
Hello, thank you very much for the guide about using vibrator but I think I won’t ever need a vibrator. My fingers already give me so many powerful orgasms. I guess vibrators best to use one in a while so that your vagina won’t be used to that toy. I feel proud I have like 8 orgasms every night on my own!
Hi Sean
I am a virgin. It is ok if i finger myself i mean put a finger inside?
gosh vibrators are amazing i squired for the first time !!!!
Hi, first of all, thank you for this site. It has been fantastic. Due to childhood trauma, I’ve been extremely repressed and am sadly still a virgin at 31. It’s taken me a long time to attempt masturbation. While I enjoy it and have tried several of the techniques you give, I haven’t been able to cum. I simply can’t seem to stimulate myself enough. I’ve ordered a vibrator and am looking forward to trying it out. Do I even need to worry about the desensitization problem if I’m having trouble without aids?
Don’t worry about the desensitization problem Ara!
I have another technique to add here: insert your vibrator into your vagina and squeeze your legs shut tightly, even double cross your legs if you can. Push out as if you wanna pee and rub/squeeze your nipples. Trust me, you will come hard! I do this with my bunny rabbit and it always has me screaming, shaking and wet.
#5 works best for me, thanks!
All this talk of desensitization just makes me want to stay away from vibrators in general. I suffer from anxiety and just thought of not being able to enjoy sex with a future partner scares me. Because of this, I ended up trying g-spot masturbation yesterday for the 2nd time in my life after having a disappointing experience the first time a few years back and I actually ended up feeling some pleasure from it but couldn’t fully cum. I tried it again earlier using my fingers and paired with clitoral stimulation and actually managed to orgasm from it. I then tried it with an object, I didn’t know what else to use so I used the rubbery end of a Schick razor and I had a better orgasm than the first one. I didn’t have a big orgasm but I definitely climaxed haha so I am content with that. I guess I’ll just have to keep experimenting to see if I can reach those “mind blowing” orgasms that I’ve read about so much on here and in the comments section. Trying different positions should help right? These 2 orgasms I had earlier were achieved with me laying upwards so I guess I’ll try laying down on my stomach or something else. As for the vibrator thing, I definitely don’t like using my fingers as they’re not long enough but the object I used probably doesn’t have the best shape either so I guess I should consider buying a normal dildo instead of a vibrator right? cause I don’t want to get desensitized because of the vibrations
You cannot get desensitized from using a vibrator; although, you might become accustomed to it. You can always buy a vibe with a shape that you like and not use the vibrations if you feel like you’re getting too used to them.
I’ve never squirted nor finished, i can’t seem to & it frustrates my boyfriend Bc he thinks he’s not pleasing me but he really is. I bought a vibrator to help me but everytime i come to what i assume is climax, i pull the vibrator away from my clit Bc i can’t handle it, in do the same when my boyfriend plays with it. What can i do to help me finish?
Thanks!
Focus on reaching orgasm on your own first before worrying about doing it with your man. This guide to reaching orgasm will help.
For my wife orgasm are hard to find i tried licking her clit while shes using the vibrator she orgasmed stong then found that she enjoyed my licking both while she put it in my mouth so I suck and lick her to orgasm
I read this article and honestly best results ever I achieved a great orgasm. Really taught me ways to be more in tune with my body. THANK YOU
Holy shite. This is the first time that the g spot made any sense to me. Your diagram made sense. Usually there’s just a body standing and the phrase g spot and a stick pointing to it. Hand to god this is the first time I’ve ever been able to non-clitorially orgasm on my own (and only the second time ever). I’m so glad I found your article. Bless ya.
i really like you put my vibrator in my clits while it put my fingers in my vagina but hold the vibrator with my palm it feels soooo good
I was hoping you were going to talk about some of the orgasms that happen with a vibrator. I’m 50 and I’ve always struggled with orgasm so I purchase my very 1st one a month ago. It was giving me that WOW I was looking for but then horror set in…My husband would put his finger in my ass while I had the vibrator inside me and the clitoris stimulator going. I was in the midst of that toe curling moment but then it became so intense I couldn’t handle just letting it happen… it was too WOW and I pulled him and the vibrator out immediately… what was that? No release and the muscles spasm- toe curling became overwhelming. Am I broken?
Focus on what feels pleasurable.
Okay, really enjoyed the article. I hope it will help. I am a widow of 3 years but prior to that my husband had Parkinson’s and multiple surgeries on his back. Needless to say sex was pretty much out of the question. Now that he’s is gone and I am no longer a full time care giver I have time for myself. I miss the “O” factor in my life. I love using my vibrator on my clit and I usually achieve orgasms. I surely don’t want to become desensitized around my Clit as that is where I get the most pleasure. Any advice beyond not masturbating for awhile? I really miss it when I can’t do it. Thank you
Yeah… So this girl I just started dating – enjoys sex a lot buh says she hasn’t squirted in her entire life. We’ve done it just twice and now I just ordered a vibrator… I can’t wait to try it out on her… Hopefully it works.
When ever I use a vibrator I feel like I have to stop because it feels so good and I squirt but I have never really orgasmed bc I always stop
Why do you stop?
Y’all if you can’t come try putting it beside your clit and pressing on the otther side as you turn it on. Then turn it up andpush down towards your opening a little bit. Works every time!