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Squirting 101: How To Squirt Like A Pornstar

by Sean Jameson

This discreet newsletter will teach you how to make him cum hard, give freaky oral sex & make him scream your name in bed. Click here to get it.

Today you’ll learn how to squirt when alone as well as how to make yourself squirt when you’re with your man.

how-to-squirt-female-anatomy-cross-section

Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.

Additionally, your man may find this guide useful to read too, so that he understands how to help you achieve that beautiful feeling of female ejaculation.

Here’s How The Tutorial Is Structured:

1. Your anatomy – The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.

2. The process & techniques to squirt – With detailed instructional diagrams!

3. FAQ on common squirting questions that I’m often asked as well as debunking some annoying myths about squirting.

Related: If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually addicted to you, then you'll find them in my private and discreet newsletter. You'll also learn the 5 dangerous & "dumb" sex mistakes that turn him off and how to avoid them. Get it here.

Squirting Podcast

As well as reading the detailed guide below, I strongly recommend that you listen to the podcast I recorded on squirting. You’ll learn all the important elements to making squirting easy and super-pleasurable (whether alone or with a partner).

Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here

1. Important Anatomy

Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there.’

In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.

The G Spot

While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute it’s existence [1], we firmly believe it exists, but that its sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from the entrance.

Please understand that your G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged (i.e. it becomes bigger) [2]. When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.

Quick Quiz: Do You Give Lousy Blow Jobs?

If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.

Skene’s Gland

skenes-gland-g-spotWhen you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt or ejaculate from.

You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot. As a result, this entire tutorial will focus on stimulating your G Spot.

Just one last thing on the Skene’s gland before we move on: When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women[3].

It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation. I will also discuss other factors that can help or hinder your ability to ejaculate in the FAQ section at the end of this article.

The Clitoris

When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the vast majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation, although it’s not impossible[4].

So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. So to keep things simple, we won’t be covering the clitoris for the rest of this article. If you want to learn some great clitoral stimulation techniques, then you may be interested in this article here. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color

2. The Process & Squirting Techniques

One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and very comfortable. I’ll explain why in just a minute.

Getting Comfortable & Relaxed

Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in a pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.

Getting Aroused

Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:

  • Reading erotica
  • Watching porn
  • Fantasizing about something or someone
  • Massaging yourself
  • Using a vibrator or dildo

While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.

As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell[5] and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.

At this point, your G Spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:

G spot cross section masturating

All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to squirting. Without it, your Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot harder to actually squirt. Now, the good stuff…

Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.

The Hook

The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.

fingering yourself masturbation techniques

Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.

Push The Button

press-the-button-masturbation-fingersYou can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.

Come Hither

stroke-the-g-spot-illustrationMaking a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.

The Arm Shaker

arm-shaker-squirting-masturbation-illustration-diagramThe Arm Shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.

Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.

Sex Toys

Optionally you can use a sex toy like dildos (tips here) or penis shaped vibrators (tips for using your vibrator here). There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.

There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.

Squirting During Sex

As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that he should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot

G-Spot-dildo-masturbation-techniques

But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:

how-to-squirt-g-spot-angle

4 Sex Positions To Help You Squirt

While you will find over 100 different sex positions with professional photographs in the sex positions section here, the following four positions are the ones that I would most recommend you try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:

G Spot Position – As the name suggests, the G Spot position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust. For more information on the G Spot position, click here.g-spot-sniper-sex-positionLaunch Pad Position – This position is great as it gives you a lot of control… You can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward.

Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick. To find out more about the Launch Pad Position, click here.launch-pad-sex-positionDown Stroke Position – Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot position. It’s also a bit more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit. If you’d like to learn more about how to perform the Down Stroke and get the most out of it, click here.down-stroke-sex-positionJockey Position – The Jockey position is more easy going for you as you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated below. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a very specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot.

Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot. Click here to find out more about the Jockey position:jockey-sex-position

Pressure & Release

As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a buildup in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee [6][7]. This feeling is completely natural for two reasons:

1. Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.

2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.

So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.

As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.

3. FAQ

If you are having trouble squirting, then most likely you’ll find an answer to your problem here:

Question: I feel like peeing when I try to make myself squirt. Why?

Answer: As I explained above in Pressure & Release, this is because you are applying pressure to an area right beside your bladder, which in turn puts pressure on your bladder. Additionally, you will be squirting from your urethra [8] which is the same place you pee from, hence the very similar feeling.

Just ignore this natural feeling and keep going. If you are still worried, then try to make yourself squirt in the shower, and you will see that the smell and texture of the fluid you ejaculate is not the same as pee. Remember that the liquid that comes out is from the Skene’s gland, not the bladder.

You may also feel the need to pee if you are applying pressure by placing your hand on your lower stomach close to your Mons Pubis. This technique can help to make you squirt, but can also contribute to that feeling of needing to pee.

Question: No matter what I try, I can’t squirt. What should I do?

Answer: Firstly, don’t worry too much about it, stressing yourself about the outcome will only make it harder to ejaculate. For many women, it takes time to learn about their bodies, what feels right and what brings them closer to squirting. So take the time to masturbate and discover the kinks and fantasies (check out BDSM) that turn you on. Like I said previously, you need to build up to it by slowly turning yourself on for up to 30 minutes before paying attention to your G Spot. In time, you will get closer and closer to squirting.

According to the research of Emanuele Jannini, some women unfortunately don’t have a Skene’s gland[5], making it next to impossible to squirt.

Question: The pressure keeps building, but I never hit the peak & squirt. Help!?

Answer: Sounds like you are very close and it will take just a little bit more to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.

Like I said previously, for some, they need to let go, be at peace with how they feel and just relax. But for others they need to push out. This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your kegel muscles. Others need intense clitoral stimulation at the same time as G Spot stimulation to squirt.

My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.

Question: Fluid flowed/gushed, but I didn’t squirt a stream of liquid. Why not?

Answer: The level at which women squirt/ejaculate/gush is highly variable. Some women can shoot a steady stream into the air while for most, fluid simply runs out of their vagina. It’s the same for guys when they ejaculate. For many, it just oozes out, while for others it can fly across the room!

Question: My man wants me to squirt for him, but I can’t. What should I do?

Answer: Your boyfriend needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. He also needs to realize that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with him. So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your man.

You will find that the more pressure your man puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so get him to take a chill pill and relax. The same is true when you’re learning how to make a man cry in bed, you can’t force it.

Lastly, remember that some girls simply can’t squirt, and that’s perfectly normal.

Question: I squirted, but I didn’t have an orgasm, what happened?

Answer: This sounds normal. Squirting is not always linked to having an orgasm. Sometimes you can squirt/gush and not orgasm while you do it.

Question: I want my man to make me squirt. What should I do?

Answer: The short answer is to teach him and show him. Give him a demonstration and show him exactly what you do to make yourself orgasm. Additionally, he may find reading this very article helpful.

Question: I’ve never had an orgasm, but I want to squirt, what should I do?

Answer: Slow down. If you can’t orgasm, then everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and climax first, before moving on to squirting. This tutorial and these techniques will show you how to masturbate effectively as well as this one on giving yourself an orgasm will help.

Question: I’m a guy who wants to make my partner squirt. What can I do?

Read our advice for making a woman squirt.

The last thing I’d like to say on squirting is that I have made a number of assertions & assumptions based on both scientific and anecdotal evidence. Despite huge numbers women reporting being able to squirt, the scientific community is still debating aspects of squirting such as the makeup of the fluid[9] that is squirted as well as the existence of the G Spot[10]!

Orgasm Every Time. Easily. Here’s How...

I want to tell you about my friend Karen.

Karen came to me one day. She was hysterical.

She told me that her marriage was falling apart because she and her husband didn’t have satisfying sex.

Every time they were intimate, Karen was faking her orgasms. It turns out she couldn’t orgasm during sex.

In fact...

She never had an orgasm in her entire life. Not one!

This left her feeling embarrassed and ashamed. And...

She completely hid this from her husband. Thankfully...

It turns out that there is a way for any woman to orgasm. Easily. And have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation.

I shared the process with Karen.

After she followed the simple process, she could barely come to terms with how...

Quickly and dramatically her sex life changed.

We met up a few months later and...

She would not stop talking about it,

“I thought I was one of those women who couldn’t orgasm. I used to think I was ‘broken’ and ‘unfixable.’ This saved my sex life, and that saved my marriage.”

Even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating, this process will also work for you.

And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.

February 14, 2018

About Sean Jameson

Sean is the editor of Bad Girls Bible and responsible for recruiting our team of sex and relationship experts. When he's not fastidiously checking for proper syntax or fixing bugs on the site, he's working with illustrators to make the Bad Girls Bible more beautiful and ensuring that our weekly email newsletter goes out on time.

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Comments

  1. Sarah says

    May 8, 2013 at 4:28 pm

    and how can I squirt with my partner?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 13, 2013 at 9:04 am

      Hi Sarah,
      A large part of learning how to squirt with your partner is being comfortable with them. I would suggest learning how to make yourself squirt first before learning how to squirt with your partner. Remember, if you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it’s going to be much more difficult to actually do it. A much better approach is to just enjoy the experience whether you squirt or not.

      Sean

      Reply
      • B. Holley says

        January 3, 2015 at 3:42 pm

        Hello. I’ve only recently discovered “squirting” to be an actual source of pleasure. Seeing it in porn before I use to think it was fake or water or pee. Only until I watched a “learn to squirt” video and was informed that it’s a real way to ejaculate and feel pleasure, and that the fluid is not pee. Since then I’ve had a strong desire to do it. Not just for myself but for my partner who is extremely turned on by this. I want to fulfill his fantasy but he doesn’t always have the patience for the process. We have tried it and I’ve felt like I really could squirt but it never happens. He tends to get frustrated with the process and finds it very tiresome. Then he gets in a bad mood about it. He thinks that he doesn’t have what it takes to pleasure me and I try to explain to him that, that’s not the case at all. I’m very turned on by him and I really do want to squirt for him, but I haven’t been successful. I try to explain to him that he hasn’t really given me a chance to do it yet. But I don’t think putting pressure on the situation helps either. To the point where we have argued about this. When I think it is very possible if he would only be more patient. It’s discouraging. I just want to fulfill his fantasy. What could I do to be successful at squirting? I refuse to believe that Im just not enough intouch with my sexual self because I am very self aware. I just haven’t had success at it yet. Any helpful tips would be very much appreciated. Thank you for your time.
        Oh and P.S. I’m pregnant I don’t know if that henders the situation any or not, but I haven’t been successful, and I really want to be. Thanks again.

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          January 5, 2015 at 10:38 am

          First try to squirt on your own, then after you can comfortably squirt on your own, with no outside pressure, try it with your man.

          Sean

          Reply
          • Valerie says

            June 1, 2016 at 2:33 pm

            My man made me squirt so hard by fingering me. It was amazing. Now I want to squirt all the time

          • Jalo says

            April 17, 2019 at 10:32 pm

            I am not sure where to put my factual advice and sincere opinion.
            Squirting is not a competition among men because, the phenomenon has just 5% to do with a man.
            It has everything to do with the size of the skene gland and which is in majority cases small or even negligible It is not a common opportunity
            Am 53 years and have been with 78 women that is at least where I lost the count and I have been lucky to encounter only two squirters
            I don’t care what research is out there to comfort or to worry anybody but to say the word “squirters” with all health norms considered diet contributes 50% with consistency with intake of adequate water and the resulting capacity of squirt should be about 300ml or simply a full cocacola bottle per completed session.

        • Nicole says

          February 19, 2015 at 7:19 am

          I’m in the same situation. I’m five months pregnant so some positions I can’t do. But I’ve never came through vaginal intercourse only clitoral. So in order for me to cum there has to he a vibrator used.

          Reply
          • zuzu says

            May 24, 2020 at 8:21 am

            I have the same issue. except twice. ever. and I’m a call girl, my number is in the 500+ range. but only 2 times haves I ever cum from simple penetration. therewasno emotional connection to either one. the first was when I first started working my 10the client ever. was tall ginger that I wasn’t expecting to be hung like a horse. and that c*ck stuffed me, like I hadnt ever been stuffed before, he had me Bent over doggy on the edge of the bed. that was years and years ago and I still fantasize about it. the second time was really odd I thought.he was a totally unattractive, fat balding guy, and I wanted to run outta there. maybe it was the fact that I made myself stay and let him have his way with me, once again it was doggy but this time it was back door stimulation. he wasn’t well endowed by any means but considering how short it was it was sorta thick . best way to describe it is a ‘chode’. he grabbed myhips and I mean the thrusts had to be quite small but he kept thrusting like it bad actually much bigger, entirely pull ing out and reinserting with every thrust so the pace was somewhat quick so I had to be careful not to break rythm or move at all for fear of breaking it or feel liking I got stabbed with a butter knife. I think it was the popping in and out that did it that time. I was so surprised by it I almost immediately crumbled. legs and arms failed me to abrublty I probably shot right down. definitely memorable.
            and then there was the time my ex woke me by trying to shove is entire had into my p*ssy. I was probably asleep fkt an hour first. out cold. and then being rudely awoken . I didn’t say anything when I woke, I didn’t stop him I just let him keep trying I was sleeping on my stomache so after a while I curled my knees up under me to I was in fetal position , kind of crouched over with face still buried in the pillow , as I was moaning quite loudly. and at this point had never been fully fisted wrist deep by a man before nor did I think he had any interest in it. but I’ll take what I can get I guess so I didn’t stop him even though he was hurting me I just kept my ass in the air, welcoming the ruination of my cunt. I was crying from the lain if it and he hadn’t even gotten past kuckles. the only time I have squirted abundantly and repeated. it hurt so much but it felt so good at the same time.
            the weird thing though is that I don’t necessarily feel myself squirting and I can’t really identify whether I’m going to or not. might also be the other extreme sensations involved that make it hard to place lol. I also had to let everything I was pushing out as to let him in further so maybe that’s what did it. best sexual experience of my life. oh and that was the first day after moving into my new place. I think my new neighbors thought I was being murdered.

        • Justina says

          April 14, 2015 at 3:13 am

          B. Holley,

          I also always thought squirting was fake when I saw it in porn until my most recent boyfriend. He tried for months to get me to squirt (even though I didn’t realize this was his intent), and eventually it just happened! I was completely surprised, excited, in disbelief, etc. LOL! Since then he has only been able to make it happen a few times, but I think he’s getting the hang of it. I made myself squirt for the first time today which was even better! I have a curved G-Spot vibrator which I don’t think I would have been able to do it without, so I think if you followed the positioning in the tutorial and used the same type of vibrator you might have some luck! I also found it easier sitting in an upright position with my legs in the air… GOOD LUCK!!! : )

          Reply
          • Alphan says

            May 3, 2020 at 8:19 am

            This is so true. I managed to squirt for the first time on my own.I didn’t think I could. Can’t wait to try this with my boyfriend!!!

        • Chris says

          August 6, 2017 at 11:18 am

          I think excitement,being turned on,being extremely comfortable with your sexuality,and not really trying too hard. My wife and i tried many times but nothing happened i mean she felt the urge but nothing until one day i took her in front of a stand up mirror stood behind her totally undressed slowy then kissed her neck while running my hands all over her naked body while she watched it all in the mirror now by the time i got to touching her vagina her hips were already thrusting like she was trying to grind the air in front of her if it would put pressure on her clit. And then i took my time with her clit and her labia folds until i inserted a finger or 2 into her and my god its the wettest most turned on ive felt her so from there i started playing with her g spot not really intentionally and out of no where while she was having her normal clit stimulated orgasam she must have just let go and it surprised us both when she gushed this amazing clear liquid and from that point on we played all day learning how to do it now shes a pro and so am i. Sometimes i think she prefers that orgasam to the clitoral one.

          Reply
          • Sean Jameson says

            August 7, 2017 at 8:48 am

            Thanks Chris!

        • Lalala says

          March 7, 2018 at 10:21 pm

          Hey so I’ve been also wanting to do it for the longest time and wasn’t ready to give up. My boyfriend would just keep hitting the gspot…sometimes i would lise the feeling and we would just go back to foreplay. I thought that i didnt have to do no work in the process however the first time it happened i had to play with my clit. It helped alit and i have to do it every time. Now i can do it 8 times in a hour. Dont give up! Youll get tbere!!!

          Reply
          • nora says

            August 20, 2018 at 3:31 pm

            can u help me I am a single mom and I need to know how to do it I have never had a boyfriend it has been just me and Bethany (my daughter) so I don’t know how to I was raped that’s how I got pregnant with beth

        • Jaime says

          March 16, 2021 at 9:01 pm

          Hey Iam 63 and for the first tine i made mywoman squirt and it
          wwa her first too. It took a lit of fingering licking and rubbing but when she came i was so excited i think i ate every bit of her cum awesome just dnjaimeo it

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      • Still learning says

        January 26, 2016 at 5:52 am

        What is the difference between squirting and having an orgasm?

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        • Sean Jameson says

          February 1, 2016 at 9:44 am

          You can orgasm/climax without squirting. You orgasm/climax and squirt. And you can squirt without orgasming/climaxing.

          Reply
          • kay says

            February 5, 2016 at 10:58 am

            can you orgasm and squirt at the same time

          • Sean Jameson says

            February 8, 2016 at 10:16 am

            yup!

      • Enao says

        June 13, 2016 at 12:02 am

        Sean Jameson please help me!
        I want to give my girlfriend the best sex life possible. We have been together for over 2 years now and she’s never masterbatied before. Until recently… I asked her to send me a video of her while she was while I was away and I asked her if she felt more relaxed doing it by her self. And she said yes. It feels like I just got stabbed in the heart is there something I’m doing wrong? I askd her what gets heron the mood and she just says thinking of me. And when I asked her what feels better, if I get her to orgasm or if she does it? She says me but it just feels like she’s just saying that to make me feel better. I don’t know what to do.

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        • Sean Jameson says

          June 17, 2016 at 1:26 pm

          Many women feel more relaxed and comfortable when masturbating alone rather than when their partner is there beside them. This is usually because many women (and men) get performance anxiety. The feel like they need to put on a show for their partner, which makes it harder for them to relax and focus on enjoying themselves.

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      • Hope Christianson says

        June 1, 2018 at 8:46 pm

        I did my first squirt on my man. I was riding him but leaned back so it was angle up more n rubbed my self. I thought I peed but no lol

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      • Lostforwords says

        February 9, 2019 at 4:20 am

        Is it normal to squirt from anal sex? My boyfriend and I were having sex and I just about to cum when he took it out and started anal all of a sudden I felt this urge and pressure and I gushed all over….. please help

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        • Sean Jameson says

          February 11, 2019 at 8:19 am

          Sounds normal to me. The only thing to worry about is whether you enjoyed it or not.

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      • Chris Murphy says

        December 11, 2019 at 10:49 pm

        I have taught many many women to squirt and helped many men learn to help a woman squirt with a 100% (seriously) success rate. Sometimes it takes a few sessions to get comfortable with it, and while I think pressure and anxiety of insisting squirting happen can be counter-productive, I also think the idea of not focusing at all on the goal of squirting (if that is indeed a goal) is also counter-productive.

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        • Sean Jameson says

          December 12, 2019 at 4:13 pm

          Great point Chris

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        • Lara says

          January 16, 2021 at 1:48 am

          How can I get in contact with you please?

          Reply
    • Isabel says

      August 5, 2016 at 7:03 am

      When you squirt is it pee or water ?

      Reply
      • Sean Jameson says

        August 5, 2016 at 10:34 am

        It can be pee or ejaculate or a combination of both.

        Reply
    • kirsty says

      September 12, 2016 at 9:39 pm

      I really want to learn to squirt for my boyfriend as it’s one of his biggest fantasies, I’ve tried masterbating on my own, I get all the build up then go to using my fingers on my g spot. I orgasm while doing it but don’t even cum let alone squirt. please help? I really want to do this for my partner.

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      • Paul says

        September 8, 2018 at 12:24 am

        Everyone is different so based on experience ask him to turn his hand around and put pressure on the bottom of your vagina. Best if done after you’ve cum from oral sex first. Find the spot opposite your g spot then hit it hard and fast. ?

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        • Sarah says

          November 21, 2018 at 1:22 pm

          I have just started squirting with my boyfriend. I’m 44 years old. I absolutely soak the bed and floor but I want to be able to “shoot” my ejaculation instead of it essentially just gushing down. Can I learn to do that?

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          • Sean Jameson says

            November 26, 2018 at 11:58 am

            Possibly, if you can strengthen you Kegel muscles and then squeeze the fluid out.

        • Lillian says

          February 16, 2021 at 3:21 pm

          This is great advice kirsty! It can take me an exhaustive hour to squirt from stimulating the traditional g “spot” on the anterior wall. But regular to little effort on the posterior/bottom wall’s g “region”, only con is I can’t use fingers, so I use a g spot vibrator with a curved head and just flip it upside down, as someone who always has some type of ejaculation from any kind of orgasm, I Def reccomend trying this method.
          Bottom wall is an underrated, underdisscussed region;I didn’t think I enjoyed anal until I started thinking of it in terms of posterior wall access, that exploration led me to enjoy it for its own sake.
          P. S When you build up but can’t release, is worth trying the pull out technique, some squirt from swiftly pulling out whatever you’re fucking, the sudden emptiness can cause involuntary clenching or unclenching(pushing out or relaxing). I don’t always use this method, but find it noteworthy & useful if I can’t focus my mind when trying for non climax squirting.

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    • Creth says

      August 29, 2018 at 12:11 am

      All I can tell you my side as a man I’ll gently rub my wifes clit with a vibrator as I lick her pussy lips than I’ll pull back and insert my index finger and find that juicy G spot I’ll rub it with friction than I’ll suck on her clit at the same it drivers her insane than she squirts all over my face I’d rather finger fuck like this and suck her her clit I love nothing more than her pussy juice all over my face and dam does it taste amazing and just the sent of her pussy juice makes me squirt my jizz all over

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    • Linette says

      April 29, 2020 at 8:22 am

      Hi Sean,
      I’ve learned thanks for that:)
      Just one things to add to these useful information.
      We need to drink a lotsof water all week to make this happen bcos If our body is not hydrated and we (force) this amount of liquid out from our body it may cause headache or just not happening at all. I started drinking enough water all week to be more hydrated generally and the headache gone after squirting. Maybe this will help others to understand water could come out from our body if it’s enough there and won’t If it’s not our body will keep it (and maybe squirting less or not at all)
      Linette

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  2. Bri says

    July 29, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Um when I do it, I’m pretty positive I actually peed? I might have cummed a little but then after I peed? Sooo :/ idk

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 5, 2013 at 9:46 am

      Peeing a little while you’re cumming is perfectly fine and normal Bree, so don’t worry!

      Sean

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      • Lily says

        March 28, 2017 at 5:20 am

        When I squirt it first feels like an orgasm, but then after a few seconds the gushing feeling just feels like peeing and if I try to stop the flow I usually can, like peeing, although afterwards if I go to the restroom I can still actually pee. I do this every time I orgasm and I am nervous to try with my partner because I don’t want to pee all over him if that is the case.

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        • hadassa says

          July 26, 2018 at 11:15 pm

          I have this same story!!! Need answers!!! Lol

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  3. Brittany says

    July 30, 2013 at 6:42 pm

    Is it possible to squirt without massaging your gspot?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 5, 2013 at 9:44 am

      Hi Brittany,
      Some people can and some people can’t. It really depends on the person.

      Sean

      Reply
  4. Trina says

    August 3, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    I have tryed alot of things and still I cant. I get that pee feeling then it go away.. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I want to give up. My boyfriend has tryed to and i get that pee feeling and he will tell me to let it go and it go away every time what else can I do…Am starting to feel bad over this..

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 5, 2013 at 8:48 am

      Hi Trina,
      You shouldn’t feel bad about this at all! You’ll actually find it harder to squirt at first when you’re with your partner. The best place to try it is in the shower, when you are alone. This way you can immediately wash away any ejaculate with the shower water.

      And remember…some people can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.

      Best,

      Sean

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    • Mariam says

      August 10, 2018 at 1:45 am

      I tried to squirt but I felt like peeing and try to press my g spot harder but i didn’t squirt… I did all the ways but I didn’t squirt.please help me wat should I do?

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      • Sean Jameson says

        August 13, 2018 at 8:48 am

        Did you get wet at all? Some women don’t squirt a stream, but instead they get very wet, very quickly.

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  5. ash von says

    August 6, 2013 at 8:25 am

    My girlfriend wants me to make her squirt with my tongue. Is this possible and if so How? Thank you!

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 12, 2013 at 8:51 am

      Hi Ash,
      It is possible, but a lot harder if you are not stimulating your G-Spot. So you could experiment with using your fingers (or a toy) to stimulate her G-Spot while using your tongue to massage he clit.

      Let me know how it goes!

      Sean

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    • Edward says

      December 17, 2014 at 12:44 am

      Yes. I’ve had my gf squirt when I go down on her. The first time it was a lot and had no taste at all. Now when she does it has a musky odor. I tell myself it’s not pee bit after reading this I think it might be. Either way I’m comfortable with her so she can do as she pleases.

      Reply
      • Tanya says

        December 29, 2014 at 12:17 am

        The same thing happens with my husband, because of that he doesn’t like going down

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        • karan says

          February 22, 2015 at 7:33 am

          Try with another person

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          • Starr says

            April 28, 2015 at 7:50 am

            Really? Are you serious?

          • Eric says

            July 28, 2016 at 8:30 pm

            Yep. I love it

        • DRUG350 says

          December 30, 2020 at 12:48 am

          I wish my wife would give it a go. She wants absolutely nothing to do with “squirting”. I’ve tried rubbing her g-spot every which way from here to Sunday. She just doesn’t like it. Says “it hurts”, even if I’m super easy fingering her. I told her I don’t care if she “pee’s on me”. I’d get turned on like crazy. Nothing a women’s body does grosses me out. I love “period sex” and luckily she doesn’t mind it either. I’ve even gone down her when she’s still “light” and lived it. Turned me on because she loved it so much. I just wish she’d try to squirt, but doesn’t look like it’ll ever happen. Oh well. Always porn I guess.

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  6. Alex says

    August 12, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    So I never thought I would be able to squirt but I have a new partner and we had a spur of the moment sex experience. We ended up on top of a sink and I don’t know if it was the position, or my arousal from this new position but I became aware that I was getting very wet and he told me to
    Look down and I did and I was squirting all over him. It didn’t feel like an orgasm though…. But I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm so I’m not sure if what I did was squirting or not…..

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 18, 2013 at 7:11 pm

      Hi Alex,
      Yup, sounds like you squirted. Not everyone orgasms while squirting though.

      Sean

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    • georgie says

      January 2, 2014 at 5:57 am

      Hi baby

      the best squirting experience i got from my girlfriend is she was on top of me and after a few drinks i liked her pussie from underneath. she was squatting on me and i licked her very well and when she squirtee i thought she peed on me , but it was a good experience. I want her to do it again. If you also want her, she is available

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      • gothvixen says

        March 25, 2016 at 2:09 pm

        I squirter on my boyfriends face during 69 n it ruined it. I felt like I peed on his face. He swears it had no taste or smell but it freaked me out. I haven’t tried to do it since cus it was weird. I’m gonna try it on myself first

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        • Eric says

          July 28, 2016 at 8:36 pm

          Just be open and honest with him. I know a lot of guys who really like. Personally I love when my gf squirts all over my faces while continuing to go down on me usually harder and deeper. We’ve even cum at the same exact time a couple time collapsing on each other with heads still between each other’s thighs in pure bliss. What an amazing experience. Communication is the key to great sex. Not surprises. Well not usually;)

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      • Proff says

        December 12, 2019 at 4:06 pm

        My lady want me to help her squirt but am not in support of it, but question is does it have an effect?

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  7. Chris says

    August 17, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    Hi, my wife and I have been trying to make her squirt for ages without success and to the point where my fingers start to hurt her. She gets the peeing sensation but that’s it. We put no pressure on eachother with reguard to this subject and I’ve tried all of the above without success. When I suggested this subject to her she was a little apprehensive at first but warmed to the idea after reading a few forums. It’s ended up where I’ve been stimulating her g spot for over an hour, have an aching arm, very wet fingers, lost my and failed miserably at getting the desired result. I can sometimes feel the inside of her vagina swelling, almost forcing my fingers out but the the upper wall eventually seems to move away from my fingers. She always empties her bladder before we try but always has to visit the bathroom when we are finished. What could we be doing wrong? Could I be being too rough inside her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’ve had other partners before my wife who I could make squirt through g spot stimulation with ease so I don’t think it’s what I’m doing though I’m not 100% sure.

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 18, 2013 at 7:02 pm

      Hi Chris,

      The first thing I would do her is get your wife to try it on her own. It’s more likely that she knows the exact buttons to push to bring herself to the point of squirting. Then once she can do it on her own, get her to show you exactly what she did. However do keep in mind that not all women have the ability to squirt unfortunately.

      Best,

      Sean

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      • Tiff D. says

        July 16, 2015 at 6:24 pm

        I’ve also found that if you press down on your pelvis with your other hand it helps to “push” your g-spot towards your fingers etc and makes it easier to squirt. My fiance is the only man who has ever been able to make me cum or squirt. It’s definitely an amazing feeling. I only found this article bc I was trying to find out how to squirt during intercourse and not just while he was fingering me. This article has been a great tutorial for us and our sex life is even more amazing than it already was and it was really really fucking amazing before. Thanks for your help.

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      • EILEEN says

        March 29, 2017 at 3:29 am

        I have found the use of Ben Wa balls very helpful in learning to isolate the necessary pelvic muscles to release the fluid. They are also very helpful in helping to stimulate and engorge the g spot.

        Here’s how: Begin by arousing your Vagina to the point where your vulva are pink and engorged and your clit is erect and sensitive. Then stop self arousal and insert both balls deep into the vagina. You will feel the pressure of them against your swollen g spot when placement is correct. Then use your fingers to jiggle the balls against your g spot. This feel good fairly fast. Soon you’ll feel the urge to pre but keep jiggling the balls and don’t fight it, this is good. When the orgasm contractions begin, spread your legs wide and bear down pushing against the balls, try to push them out. This is the set of muscles needed to release the fluid. You should squirt.

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        • Crispy says

          February 13, 2020 at 7:02 am

          Damn! Gonna have to get some of those balls and try it.

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    • Eva says

      November 18, 2013 at 3:44 pm

      Maybe youre trying too hard or you just don’t turn her on. Move on and find another partner that won’t take as much effort.

      Reply
      • Starr says

        April 28, 2015 at 7:48 am

        The guy, Chris was talking about his wife! That’s a pretty shoddy thing to say. I’m wondering if you are married yet, or even in a serious relationship.

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        • Lucky says

          September 9, 2015 at 3:58 pm

          Maybe Chris’ wife should be the one to move on. It could be that he just doesn’t do the trick for her and she needs a real man to make her feel good.

          Reply
          • Disappointed says

            December 13, 2018 at 5:46 am

            …not being able to squirt shouldnt be the end of a relationship. Dickwad

      • Freckles says

        January 8, 2016 at 8:21 pm

        That’s not the right thing to tell someone (move on and find different partner ),as stated it takes patience and understanding of your own body which most women are not taught growing up ,so once grown no matter how comfortable they have become with themselves as adults that remains a area of uncomfortablilty in the subconscious .

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      • Honey Kiss says

        June 13, 2018 at 2:31 pm

        Only a Jezebel type would say such a thing. You obviously know nothing about a REAL relationship…he’s MARRIED and I’m sure he doesn’t want to leave her over a squirt!!

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    • Cici says

      April 1, 2015 at 10:04 am

      Sounds like she’s not 100% comfy. It’s not uncomfortableness with you, but uncomfortableness with the “pee factor” if it happens. Plus if a woman is too up in her own head she could easily loose any orgasmic feeling. G spot orgasms are tricky. I’ve had several with two guys but at that moment I’m in a true horny hot blissful state. I can also make myself squirt and it’s pretty remarkable. It’s like my body tingles all over and I can’t think. When the fluid comes out I don’t even realize at first. Don’t get discouraged. Just tell your lover how much you want to make her feel good before the sex (maybe during foreplay), and don’t speak repetitively during, “I wanna make you squirt.” That’s too much presure on a woman. Keep practicing and have fun!!

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      • Starr says

        April 28, 2015 at 7:52 am

        Wow, love your comment.. Thank you

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        • rae says

          December 26, 2015 at 7:10 pm

          Comfort is crucial my husband made me pee on him to show me he didnt mind …its not that he likes pee but he wanted to show me it the pee meant nothing to him when it came to pleasing me….. After that i tried it by myself a few times then we had some crazy passionate sex and the squirting didnt stop i was amazed at what he made me do we were both soaked……after you make her truely comfortable it will happen and Some advice lay down some towels just incase

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          • J says

            January 11, 2018 at 11:20 pm

            He have a brother? Lol

  8. Eva says

    August 19, 2013 at 5:19 am

    Hi, I’ve read your advice and have been trying to make myself squirt all night long, but I’ve had no such luck of actually making it happen. I’ve rubbed on my clit and kept myself from coming, and then found my g-spot and fingered it, but I’ve only had a regular orgasm. No squirting here. Maybe you could come over and do it for me, lol, seriously though, please help! Thanks.

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    • Sean Jameson says

      August 26, 2013 at 7:39 am

      Hi Eva,

      The key is not to be ‘outcome dependent’. In other words, try not to focus on squirting. Rather, focus on just having a good time, while doing the things that will help to increase the chances of you squirting. You should feel a small amount of pressure building up when you stimulate your G Spot (very similar to the feeling of needing to pee).

      Often you need to apply quite a bit of force to your G Spot to achieve this. Don’t forget to experiment with different techniques and even toys. And finally, don’t forget that some women simply can’t squirt, but it’s really not a big deal

      Sean

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    • yuvi says

      November 16, 2013 at 12:33 am

      Try with fingers in ur ass too… That’ll help

      Reply
      • Bethmary says

        June 17, 2014 at 1:56 am

        I love my ass being handled and teased to get me so aroused, not necessarily anal but a finger always feels amazing! I quite honestly believe that i am unable to squirt yet i manage to have some extremely intense orgasms that i am more than satisfied without a mess

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      • Theresa Bayer says

        June 27, 2018 at 9:36 am

        Absolutely! I was about to point that out, then I seen your comment. My first squirt experience was from anal sex.

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    • Tanya says

      December 29, 2014 at 12:21 am

      Maybe you need to move on and find another partner that won’t take that much effort. Take your own advice

      Reply
  9. Megan says

    August 26, 2013 at 11:14 pm

    I have always squirted when masturbating but just in the past year or so started doing it while having sex with my hubby. He loves it. But I have trouble doing so during oral. Any advice?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 3, 2013 at 9:59 pm

      Hi Megan,
      Squirting is almost always a result of G Spot and/or vaginal stimulation. When your man is going down on you, he will mostly be stimulating your clitoris. While squirting from clitoral stimulation is possible, it’s much less likely than occur than from penis in vagina (PIV) sex.

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      • sue says

        August 26, 2015 at 5:41 pm

        The other night I was playing with my clit with my fingers to make myself orgasm and I could feel myself getting ready to squirt, and I hadn’t done any penetration into my pussy at all, and when I made myself have an orgasm I then let myself squirt, without penetration. That was the first time I squirted without penetration of any kind, and surely will NOT be the last time! 🙂

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  10. Cici says

    August 27, 2013 at 8:21 am

    Hello there! My problem seems to actually be the opposite of most of these other posts. My boyfriend, and previous boyfriends have been able to make me squirt, no problem. The technique seems to be to finger me really hard, in an upward motion over and over. I wouldn’t consider it rubbing or pressing, it’s more like slamming. Sorry if that is graphic but it gets the job done. Anyway, now my boyfriend is away on an extended trip and I can’t get myself to squirt no matter how much I try. I think my fingers are too short, and I don’t have the arm strength to hit my gspot that hard? I also used a dildo but that didn’t work for me either. I’m able to have a gspot orgasm but it doesn’t squirt. Any advice?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 3, 2013 at 10:03 pm

      Hi Cici,

      Try using a dildo, but…instead of using it with with you arm lying over your stomach, try putting your arm behind your back to use the dildo. This will make it much easier to provide yourself with a lot of pressure on your G Spot area and hence make squirting a lot easier.

      Best,
      Sean

      Reply
  11. nicole jock says

    August 28, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    I have never had a squirting orgasm i am trying i dont know if im doing it right or what but it just isnt happening.my boyfriend and i wanna experiance this together ive had really powerfull orgasms trying so i think i am doin somethin right i just need advice please help

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 3, 2013 at 10:07 pm

      Hi Nicole,
      Don’t focus too much on squirting as the last thing you want to do is put pressure on yourself (it will just make it harder to squirt in the long run). It sounds like you are already doing well and to be honest, I suggest that you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Please keep in mind that some women can squirt and some can’t, not everyone can.

      Sean

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      • Jade says

        March 9, 2015 at 5:49 pm

        Can you squirt by rubbing your pussy?

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          March 16, 2015 at 9:22 am

          Yes, it’s possible, but just not that common.

          Reply
  12. Snowy says

    September 4, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    Hy, my girlfriend really want to be squirt…. and i tried alot, by finger, by toung etc….. this time i will try my best to get her squirt. give me some tips for that and also tell me what is actually squirting material… can it harm my dick like periods blood??

    Reply
    • Starr says

      April 28, 2015 at 7:56 am

      Did you read this article at all?

      Reply
      • Jason says

        July 21, 2016 at 12:01 am

        No doubt… Sometimes I wonder what the hell people are looking at, because it can’t be the same, pretty simple to follow advice I’m seeing.??

        Reply
    • LuLu says

      March 3, 2018 at 11:52 am

      How the hell can period blood harm your dick. You really must be thick if you believe that Should you even be having sex I wonder

      Reply
  13. bubbles says

    September 15, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    Hi. I’ve been trying to squirt for some time. I’ve read a lot about how to do it but never really succeeded. I was perfectly relaxed and I had the urge to pee but nothing. I always empty my bladder before masturbation and sex. No squirting but the need to visit the bathroom after that. Is there something wrong?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 16, 2013 at 7:43 am

      Hi Bubbles,
      Honestly you sound completely normal 🙂 Remember that some people can squirt very easily, while others have much more difficulty. Keep trying and just focus on what feels good NOT on what you think will make you squirt. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it really helps.

      Sean

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      • Tiff D. says

        July 16, 2015 at 6:28 pm

        Like I commented on another person’s post….try to push on your pelvis and apply there with your free hand. It seems to help push your g-spot towards your fingers more and make it easier to squirt. Good luck.

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    • Christina says

      March 22, 2018 at 3:09 pm

      There is something called reflux, a lot of women say that they have urinated before sex and get up multiple times to pee during sex, they are refluxing ejaclate into their bladder. I did this my entire life then met a man who I became a geyser with! A lot is about comfort level, trust and more than anything else, technique. Now I can make myself squirt but it still is tough for me to do it with my present lover and I believe it is because I don’t feel the intimacy I’ve felt with others. Most importantly, we women get freaked out when the urge to pee comes, you have to give birth to your orgasm…… meaning, let it go and it will come, you can push it out or just greatly relax and it will flow.
      Happy Squirting ! ????

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  14. tiffany wolfe says

    September 16, 2013 at 3:03 am

    Hi sean i came once for my fiancee and none of my past bfs couldnt make me cum or squirt i really want to squirt for him again without a dildo and i practice by myself alot lately and i have my hood pierced what else can we try ? Please help please send to email thank you

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 16, 2013 at 7:40 am

      Just answered 🙂

      Reply
  15. tiffany wolfe says

    September 16, 2013 at 3:04 am

    None of my past bfs could make me cum or squirt. Same question as first comment

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 16, 2013 at 7:40 am

      Test, try, experiment and get to know your own body first. This way you can discover what you need to feel in order to cum or squirt without the pressure of having your man there. But remember, some women just can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.

      Best,
      Sean

      Reply
      • tiffany wolfe says

        September 17, 2013 at 3:51 am

        Thank you sean i know i can squirt cause i did it already but with a toy and my fiancee was going fast and hard, but it kills his arm cause it takes me forever to let myself go. Ugh i want to cum with him ,

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        • Sean Jameson says

          September 23, 2013 at 6:26 am

          Hi Tiffany,

          Don’t worry, it just takes time to get relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt easily for a lot of women. Just give it time and enjoy the process.

          Warning: If you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it actually going to be much harder to do it. Just focus on what’s pleasurable and stop keeping track of time.

          Best,

          Sean

          Reply
  16. Jessi says

    September 22, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    When I masturbate/finger, i always do it alone. WHen i do it, im really turned on, the first time i thought i squirt, it looked like i peed. and it smelt like it to. should i go to the bathroom before i masturbate? I also haven’t orgasmed. I want to be able to squirt for my bf when we first have sex.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 23, 2013 at 6:13 am

      Hi Jessi,
      Ideally , you should go to the bathroom both before and after masturbation/sex.
      Sean

      Reply
  17. White wolf says

    September 25, 2013 at 1:21 am

    It felt great thanks for the tips

    Reply
  18. Jessica says

    October 23, 2013 at 12:09 am

    Hello. Im a 29 yr old female I don’t know if that makes any difference. I’m also on the heavier side I’m 5’2 and weigh inn at 185lbs on my way to a healthier me. I’ve been trying to squirt by myself I want to surprise my BF. I know we would both love it. I’ve tried my finger and stimulating my G spot but I only have my usual orgasm as well as stimulating my clitoris and again I only have my usual orgasim I’ve never had an issue with having an orgasim wether through oral, self or penetration so now on to my new venture of squirting and proving to be quiet a challenge. Any advice?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 11, 2013 at 7:53 pm

      Hi Jessica,

      The most important thing is to make sure you are not putting pressure on yourself to perform. Putting pressure on yourself is completely counter-productive. Just keep doing what you’re doing, but make sure to focus on what feels most pleasurable, enjoying it, without expecting to get anything from it. In time, you will slowly discover nuances to your technique which will bring you closer and closer to squirting.

      Sean

      Reply
  19. Ashley says

    December 11, 2013 at 6:23 am

    I followed your advice. You’re right about feeling like you have to pee. I couldn’t believe I was doing it. Thank you so much! 🙂

    Reply
  20. drea says

    December 16, 2013 at 3:28 am

    Hi im drea,

    I have tried for the longest to make myself squirt but just dont understand how to do it. Is it a way to do it without using fingers?

    Reply
  21. Sasha says

    December 16, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    So I am able to squirt with my partner but not by myself. I don’t really feel comfortable fingering myself and when I do squirt he’s usually in very deep and I also like when he puts it in my ass, huge turn on!!!!

    Reply
  22. Melanie says

    December 16, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    A couple years ago I squirted for the first time but never knew how to make it happen again but then a couple days ago while my boyfriend was on top I noticed that it was happening again so of course my boyfriend being the kinky guy he is wanted to see it so we did it from behind and I then proceeded to squirt over ten times it was amazing now I’m able to do it all the time just not .by myself

    Reply
  23. Nadia says

    December 19, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    Hi,
    im from Spain and sorry if i write something wrong 🙂
    I would like to ask you about squirting. Actually i did it few days ago and yesterday too, but I’ve noticed that i do it only after a few orgasams. I do everything what you wrote and i feel the peeing feling very hard but nothing happens when i cum. Then i go for another one after a second or two and another and it happens. I would like to try it with my boyfriend but it would be so stupid when he would try so hard and nothing would happen. 🙁 Am i doing something wrong or.. pls help. Thanks 🙂

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 23, 2013 at 4:15 pm

      Hi Nadia, sounds like you are doing everything right.

      Sean

      Reply
  24. Bobby says

    December 28, 2013 at 4:41 pm

    Hello Sean,
    This is more for the ladies not really a question. So I am a man that has been very successful with making my girlfriends past and present squirt. The most important thing ladies is to relax. I know not every woman can squirt but chances are your not one of them. And if you can make your self squirt but your partner can’t don’t get upset. Coach him until he gets it right. As a man myself I can full admit it took lots of practices and studying. Yes studying the female body( which includes reading ) to fully understand how and where to stimulate. So in conclusion fully relax and either alone or with a partner, do what feels best for you. No one knows your body like you do and don’t be afraid to guide your partner. Happy squirting.

    Reply
  25. Dee says

    January 2, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    I’ve never tried this on my own, just with my boyfriend and I started to feel that pee- sensation but I’m not sure to what point of that feeling I should try and let it go. Does the body release it on its own? Or do I have to push it out? Also it seems like every time I get close to that feeling my boyfriend has to stop because his arm hurts and then he’ll go back to doing it but its like starting all over again to get back to that feeling. I feel like I’ll never succeed and letting my boyfriend down

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 9, 2014 at 11:21 am

      Try pushing

      Reply
      • Niki says

        December 23, 2015 at 6:56 pm

        Hey when I masterbate. . I only rub my clip but after a while it hurts it raw but i still wanna keep going is there a way not to stop but stop the pain

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          January 11, 2016 at 3:23 pm

          Try using lube and a vibrator

          Reply
  26. Renee says

    January 3, 2014 at 12:16 am

    The past few weeks my hubby and I have been trying to get me to squirt. We’ve done tons of research on the many methods, but I am having one issue… having myself actually “let go” and squirt. I’ve gotten to the “gotta pee” stage handfuls of times, I just can’t get over that fence. I’ve even tried thinking about “peeing” to get it to release… and we are getting no results. But afterwards I have to pee like a rushing race horse.. HELP ME!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 9, 2014 at 11:23 am

      Hi Renee,

      Try it in the shower and just go for it. This way if you do think you’ll pee (which you won’t) it will all be washed away by the shower immediately. Additionally, you’ll find it much easier to do it alone first before trying to do it with your man.

      Sean

      Reply
  27. Savannah says

    January 7, 2014 at 7:42 am

    Is it normal to squirt a little bit the first time? Do I eventually squirt more after some practice?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 9, 2014 at 11:11 am

      Absolutely, it’s normal. Different people squirt different amounts.

      Reply
  28. sara says

    January 12, 2014 at 10:10 pm

    Does it get easier to squirt the more you do it? is it like something you get better at by practice?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 13, 2014 at 8:30 am

      Hi Sara,

      Yep, this is usually the case.

      Sean

      Reply
  29. Sky says

    January 13, 2014 at 4:39 am

    When I squirt it sometimes smells like I peed and sometimes it is yellow like pee. Did I squirt or no?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 13, 2014 at 8:30 am

      Hi Sky,

      Sometimes your ejaculate can mix with a small amount of urine. Try peeing right before you get down to sexy times to help prevent it from happening again.

      Sean

      Reply
  30. Helloimshy says

    January 23, 2014 at 11:18 am

    Hi Sean,
    Okay so I masturbate I feel it i I let loose and I feel that great feeling but I do not cum or get extremely wet. When I keep going it’s that feeling that I just can’t continue because it feels idk it feels weird and my body twitches more but I can’t keep going, am I suppose to keep going?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 27, 2014 at 7:48 am

      You could be getting this feeling because you are stimulating your clitoris. If so, it’s totally natural and nothing to be worried about.

      Reply
  31. Lola says

    January 23, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    Hi,
    I’ve squirted once with a past partner in a big way while having sex – I consider it a random event. However my current partner wants me to squirt for him and I’m finding it hard to do. I feel really pressured to squirt, I do get a peeing sensation sometimes. I think I occasionally squirt a little but not the big gush that he wants. I’ve never really tried to squirt on my own and I’m finding it harder and harder to do with my partner – squirting has become an issue in our sexual relationship because it’s something he needs in order to be sexually satisfied. I love our sex life and want to find a way to do it. We have tried fingering, him going down on me orally and stimulation of both my clit and G spot. I’m not even sure I can do it because I feel like I it’s not possible. Do you have any advice?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 27, 2014 at 7:40 am

      Hi Lola,

      The first thing to understand that in order to squirt, you need to be relaxed. So talk to your man about it. If you feel pressured, it’s going to be harder and harder for you to squirt because you won’t be relaxed. The less pressure you are under, the better.

      Next, you may want to do a little experimentation on your own to figure out exactly what to do to bring yourself closer and closer.

      Sean

      Reply
  32. brittany says

    March 17, 2014 at 6:53 pm

    hey ,

    i can squirt as in feeling it and letting go and having wet spots on the bed but i wud like to know the technique to have it more of the water fountain “porn star” squirt

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 24, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      Hi Brittany,

      To make it appear more like a water fountain, try “pushing” as you squirt. The pushing feeling is very similar to the feeling of pushing out urine when you pee.

      Sean

      Reply
      • Amy says

        May 21, 2016 at 1:17 pm

        I too have this problem. I feel it building and building and I can feel some squirt come when I’m fingering myself but it doesn’t gush or splash out. I feel as though it’s about to explode but then it doesnt. How can I achieve this final step?

        Reply
  33. Kelly says

    March 17, 2014 at 11:23 pm

    Sean,
    Just read ur article and found it very detailed, THANK U! I TRIED last night w/ my man on the phone w/ me- I did get that peeing sensation! What I did was I was on my back, I used my strong arm to rub my clit and my left hand (index n middle fingers bc I heard use 2) to go as fast as I could n as hard as I could press on it but found my arm getting tired….I felt like I was under pressure (just a tad tho) bc I wanna squirt so bad! I tried to relax as much as I could. The peeing sensation lasted quite a while! I did actually finish but what I FORGOT to do was push when I came….is there a particular moment when I’m supposed to push? Oh n I did use lube I made sure of that bc I watched a video that said to do that- I’m def. Gonna TRY again tonight bc I wanna squirt so bad like I said! I just hope I’m not 1/10 of the percentage that CANT DO IT! I read 99.9% even ALL women CAN! Can u give me ANY feedback on this plz- much appreciated
    Kelly

    Reply
  34. Kelly says

    March 17, 2014 at 11:36 pm

    Also Idk if I actually squirted before….just thought I’d tell u that an ex of mine asked me if I had peed- he actually started going down on me and then finished inside me- but when we finished I remember him asking me if I peed- I laughed n said no haha there was a huge puddle tho! Was this possibly squirting?!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      It sounds like it was squirting, I’m 99% sure it was.

      Reply
  35. Kelly says

    March 17, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    I actually did it 2x last night w/ my man (sorry I commented 2x prior to this as well) and the 2nd time was much more powerful…felt like I wanted to scream/moan but I didn’t (not only 1 in house lol) it felt awesome but I didn’t push like I said in 1st comment was I there? But just had to push?

    Reply
  36. Notquitesure says

    April 3, 2014 at 12:41 am

    I’ve never squirted before… But I tried tonight and maybe I sound really dumb but does it make a sound? Or did I pee?!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      April 7, 2014 at 9:39 am

      Some women gush instead of actually squirting. If the sounds you made was ‘squelching’, then you were most likely gushing/squirting.

      Reply
  37. Jay says

    April 7, 2014 at 8:03 pm

    This has really helped a lot…before i could absoutely not squirt at all…I’ve tried so many things but nothing at all helped so i read this article and its no lie…all i had to do was really really false my self and think more of the pleasure and not so much focus on squirting…but then i started getting that peeing feeling but i knew not to worry…i had the peeing feeling for about 15min straight and i was wondering Why i wasn’t Squirting yet but then i started to think that ishould push it out…i started to Squirt little by little bit then it came out so fast and so much…I’m so happy that i can squirt now But now i gotta figure out how to squirt with my partner….Thank you so much!!!! Great Advice!!!!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      April 14, 2014 at 7:16 am

      Glad I could help!

      Sean

      Reply
  38. annoyed and frustrated! says

    April 29, 2014 at 6:04 pm

    Okay so my husband and I have started experimenting with trying to get me to “squirt” Every single thing he’s doing feels good now. Before, it was a little painful on my bones with his knuckles but we’ve found that laying on my stomach is the easiest, most comfortable way for me. How in the world am I supposed to relax and orgasm!? Am I the only one whose body completely siezes up and spases out? I don’t know how to release when it feels so good! I also am so let down when it doesn’t happen! I truly try so hard not to even worry about the outcome but I know that’s what my husband is looking for. Will it just happen like a regular orgasm or am I supposed to push it out? Ugh…it’s so frustrating

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 2, 2014 at 11:02 am

      Here’s a bit of advice: To help you relax, you can try a glass of wine. Others find that weed can help too.

      When you feel the pressure build inside you, push out…even if it feels slightly like peeing.

      Reply
  39. george says

    May 13, 2014 at 10:15 pm

    I made my wife squirt for the first time she’s 31 29 I was surprised at first fire it up really liking ItI recommend this to everybody I wanted to do it all the time now trying to learn how to make her do it again

    Reply
  40. heather says

    May 15, 2014 at 12:36 am

    Im sure you have answered this but I seriously am terrified that I am going to pee instead of squirt. I have never squirted but my bf said that last night he felt it building and that I almost did….I didn’t feel close to orgasm which I know is normal but still totally freaked out that I will pee instead. OMG I would be so embarrassed…..I do go to the bathroom before and after but still……any suggestions….

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 18, 2014 at 9:07 pm

      Try it in the shower, so if you do happen to somehow pee (unlikely), then you don’t have to worry about a mess.

      Sean

      Reply
    • Natalie says

      March 21, 2015 at 10:40 pm

      Hi Heather. I know it really feels like you but trust me, you are not going to pee! This feeling is completely normal and I felt it for months before i learnt how to squirt. You need to relax and know that you are not going to pee. And most importantly, you need to breathe, slowly and deeply, don’t expect to squirt, just enjoy the feeling and breathe. My boyfriend tried to make me squirt, it took months, but eventually he did it. I didn’t try and do it myself first. After the first time, it stopped feeling like I was going to pee. Now, my boyfriend can touch me and within a minute I am squirting, it’s ridiculous and soooo good. And I can just keep squirting, 10, 15 times in one session. Keep at it, take your time, don’t put yourselves under pressure, just enjoy each other and breathe. If it happens, wonderful! If it doesn’t, don’t let it spoil anything, just keep trying. Good luck

      Reply
  41. jeepguy says

    May 15, 2014 at 9:41 pm

    Trying to get my wife to squirt and I understand what everyone is sying but can her cum be too thick to squirt ?
    It seems like she would but it flows like lava rather then a guyser

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 18, 2014 at 9:06 pm

      Sounds perfectly normal, not everyone is a squirter. Many gush and never squirt.

      Reply
  42. jwfuj says

    May 23, 2014 at 7:49 am

    :):):):)thanks

    Reply
  43. dayana says

    June 7, 2014 at 1:31 pm

    s,i tried this method..i feel peeing,,but there is no squirting .plz i need wny i hapend?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 9, 2014 at 6:18 am

      Make sure to read the end of the end of the article where I explain that the ‘need to pee’ feeling is totally normal. The main reason is because your bladder is right beside your G Spot.

      Reply
    • Unknown says

      May 6, 2019 at 10:20 pm

      I’ve been trying to squirt so bad and I can’t I haven’t the whole time throughout matrubating I’m always horny but yet I mastrubate and don’t squirt even though I really want to please could someone help

      Reply
      • Sean Jameson says

        May 13, 2019 at 9:32 am

        Have you felt “close” to squirting yet?

        Reply
  44. dayana says

    June 7, 2014 at 3:10 pm

    thankz a lot…my partner was hapy..i can make squirt…

    Reply
  45. Lin says

    June 9, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    Hi
    I’ve tried your technique and it felt like it was working until it was time for me to cum. Nothing happened as far as ejaculating but I had a helluva orgasm. I was dating this guy and he have made me squirt like twice. I’ve also done it a few times with another partner but as of late I’ve been unable to do so. I really would like to get that feeling again cause I had the best orgasm of my life. I’ve been relaxed and I’ve followed your directives but, I have been unsuccessful. Please help!!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 16, 2014 at 6:22 am

      Hi Lin,

      You’d be surprised at just how much pressure some women need to apply in order to squirt. You may want to try applying some more pressure…or use something like a dildo if it’s too awkward and/or difficult.

      Enjoy!

      Sean

      Reply
  46. Jacklyn says

    June 20, 2014 at 2:42 am

    I’m pretty sure I did it… is it controllable? You k ow, when it happens.

    Reply
  47. metime says

    June 20, 2014 at 10:53 am

    My experience with squirting is when I am playing with my clitoris while having anal sex. I feel a tremendous pressure building inside me and then I orgasm and squirt out a lot of clear fluid, usually enough to leave a big wet puddle in the bed. I doesn’t smell like urine or look like it. It’s clear to slightly milky and has no odor.

    Reply
  48. That one guy says

    June 20, 2014 at 11:40 pm

    I think that your readers should be aware that some of the squirting you see in some porn, IS actually urine. Some years back, squirting was sort of an unknown, an urban legend type thing. Many people didn’t know if it was real or not, nor how to do it. But the porn industry was glad to fake it, if it’d sell videos.
    Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fan of squirting, I’ve had several partners do it, and only one who was unable to squirt.
    But even with women who squirt easily and often, it still doesn’t always happen. And when it does, sometimes it’ll just be a little splash, sometimes a gusher 🙂
    Don’t be discouraged if you don’t squirt like a porn star! I don’t have a dick like a porn star either, haha!

    Reply
  49. That one guy says

    June 20, 2014 at 11:59 pm

    I forgot to give you the techniques that work best for me!

    I have been able to make several women squirt pretty consistently. Here’s what works for me (them)

    First, have a few orgasms! Get your body all full of sex hormones. Squirting is intense. Once you’re worn out a little, and getting to that next orgasm takes some time, you’ll probably be more successful. This is related to how the article above says to build up for 5 to 20 minutes. A quickie, rub-one-out orgasm probably won’t get you squirting.
    Two things work best for me. First is woman on top, traditional cowgirl position. Her kneeling astride me. The difference is, I grab her hips and slide her back and forth against me, with my dick as far inside as it reaches. This makes her clit rub against my public bone, and causes the shift of my penis to rub against the roof of her vagina/her G-spot.
    It’s fun for me, because I end up covered in her cum, all wet, while she usually collapses on top of me.
    It’s a pretty satisfying feeling to exhaust a woman like that 🙂

    The other way that works best is, use your hand. She lays on her back, you kneel beside her. Use your strong hand, insert your middle and ring fingers in her all the way, so that the heel of your Palm is on her clit and your hand cups her pussy. Your forefinger and pinky extend down alongside, out the way. Then you curl those 2 fingers inside her to rub against her G-spot, and rapidly and forcefully rub her clit and pump the fingers. Generally, you’re not pulling the fingers in and out more than a little bit. More just rubbing.
    Your hand is doing the job of a vibrator, not a dick.
    It’s harder to explain than it is to do.
    You can see this technique pretty frequently on videos from kink.com, but their videos aren’t for everyone, being mostly oriented to bondage and the like.

    Good luck and happy squirting!!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 23, 2014 at 7:21 am

      Awesome, thanks for sharing!

      Reply
  50. Jamie says

    June 24, 2014 at 6:56 am

    How do I squirt without anything to do with Vaginal penetration?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 29, 2014 at 12:08 pm

      Hi Jamie,

      The short answer is that many women can’t without vaginal penetration. However, if you can get yourself super turned on while masturbating and firmly press down on the lower part of your stomach while masturbating, then you are going to find it easier and it will put pressure on your Skene’s gland, making it more likely to happen.

      Reply
      • Lovie says

        October 18, 2014 at 2:32 pm

        Hello Sean,
        Just wondering…. this is really embaressing but can you lose your virginity from masturbation?

        Reply
  51. Tina says

    June 30, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    Will I be able to cum my first having sex.

    Is there a way to do it without it hurting the first?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 7, 2014 at 6:16 am

      Hi Tina,

      The answer to both questions is “It depends”. Some people cum during their first time and others don’t. A key to cumming is making sure that you are completely relaxed. Whether or not it hurts depends on your man’s size and your size too. A key to preventing excessive discomfort is making sure that he takes is slow at first and also using a good condom compatible lube if you need extra lubrication.

      Sean

      Reply
  52. Alexis says

    July 14, 2014 at 8:57 pm

    Hi I’m new to having sex and I really want to orgasm. I think ive gotten close but I’m not sure. Any advice on how to reach an orgasm. Please respond to email, thanks

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 21, 2014 at 6:33 am

      Hi Alexis,

      Sure, try out some of these clitoral stimulation techniques and these tips on finding and stimulating your G Spot. Once you know how to very easily bring yourself to orgasm, then it’s time to try it with your man. He may also learn a thing or 2 by having a read of these articles.

      Sean

      Reply
  53. myranda says

    July 25, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    Hi 😀

    So, I’d say I’m an ‘experienced’ squirter… been naturally happening since the first time I discovered masturbation.
    Unfortunately, with young uneducated/ inexperienced men… this can be very embarrassing trying to convince them you didn’t just piss everywhere lol.
    With today’s porn, I’m sure all the kids are trying it lol – but it lead me to hold back and not enjoy sex with a partner.

    When I met my husband, the first time we made love – he commanded I cover him in squirt hovering over his face…. JACKPOT! lol

    Now to my question!
    1. Girls in porn, do they just drink mass amounts of water and actually pee to get that massive stream with so much force? I’m a bit envious of them, it feels amazing when I squirt hard… but I bet squirting like that is earth moving!
    2. I can’t squirt while my husband is penetrating me vaginally – we have the pull out and squirt mastered, and I can squirt during anal penetration, but I’d love to feel him inside of me while I squirt – any suggestions?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 28, 2014 at 7:19 am

      Hi Myranda,

      1. I’m guessing they drink a lot of water, but I’m guessing that’s not the only thing. I’m sure it’s just a quirk in their physiology that allows them to squirt so hard.

      2. He should first try to make you squirt using only his fingers (and keeping them in there while you are squirting). Then once you can reliably squirt this way, you should start trying it when he’s inside of you. At first it may feel like you need to ‘push’ and force yourself to squirt, but eventually it should come more naturally.

      Reply
  54. Jessica Michelle says

    August 8, 2014 at 12:59 pm

    This is a little awkward to ask given the time that’s passed since this article was published.
    When I squirt while using my toy I have to stop and re-apply lube before I can keep going or my toy will get stuck in me. Will this happen if I squirt during sex?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 11, 2014 at 6:33 am

      Jessica, this shouldn’t be a problem during sex.

      Reply
  55. Myranda says

    September 19, 2014 at 6:05 am

    Here I am again!
    😀
    If any of you love anal as much as I do, this may be the golden ticket!
    I always find that I cum harder and for longer during anal, and almost always squirt, but FINALLY I was able to have the ‘porn star’ cover the walls experience I’ve been waiting for.
    A few shots of patron, a hot date with my husband teasing me all night, and finally the hitachi on my clit and 4 fingers in my ass… I hit the wall across from my bed with the most insane squirt of my life!

    Maybe someone here will give it a go and do the same!
    Cheers to trying 🙂

    Reply
  56. Jasmine says

    September 29, 2014 at 6:47 am

    Hi
    I have been trying to squirt forever with no luck. I read your article and used a gspot dildo and it finally happened!
    Thank you!!! 🙂

    Reply
  57. Tresa says

    October 30, 2014 at 7:07 am

    When I try this alone as I feel the pressure start I stand up and it gushes out. Is this normal?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 10, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      Yup, sounds totally normal to me Tresa

      Reply
  58. Claire says

    November 7, 2014 at 3:42 pm

    I read all the information and thank you I really appreciate it!
    So I have regular, incredible sex with my boyfriend and we both want me to squirt. Every time we are having sex I find myself getting to the point where I have to pee and I try pushing to let it begin but it’s like it’s blocked. I was wondering, should my boyfriend pull out to help release the flow of the squirt/gush? I wasn’t sure if his penis was kind of blocking it from happening. And just to add he is quite sizable in length and girth – I wasn’t sure if that was a factor.
    Please let me know and thank you again!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 10, 2014 at 6:39 pm

      Hi Claire, yes he should try pulling out.

      Reply
  59. Jennifer says

    January 3, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    During sex I have no problem squirting but the fluid will only come out if he pulls his penis out for a few seconds.why can’t I squirt while his penis is in me???

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 5, 2015 at 10:46 am

      A few students have emailed me about this and I wish I had an answer, but I unfortunately don’t.

      Reply
  60. TT says

    January 16, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    I always use the bathroom before sex or masturbation. When I feel the urge to pee I stop and run to the bathroom and I actually pee. I’ve done this multiple times during sexual activity. It’s nerve wrecking. How is this possible on an empty bladder? And how can I let go if I know I can pee during arousal?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 19, 2015 at 12:12 pm

      Try having sex in the shower and just go ahead and “release” when you feel like peeing. You should find that it’s mostly ejaculate that’s built up.

      Reply
  61. Markquis says

    January 19, 2015 at 9:31 pm

    Sean

    When me and my wife have sex i would like to make her squrit. But it takes time and she gets impatient So i goahed and finish. But when im done i have the feeling that im cummin but nothing comes out could this be to the fact that from 14 to 18 i would jackoff 3 and 4 times a day and now that im 30 i have to do it at least once a day even if i know that me and my wife will have sex later that night. I need answers please help

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    • Sean Jameson says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:54 am

      Try stopping masturbation for a few weeks and see if it improves

      Reply
  62. S T says

    January 24, 2015 at 12:53 am

    I had some experience with squirting in my former relationship, now I’m in a new relationship were the sex is much more intense, I squirt over and over every time, to the point I feel exhausted, then I have a huge mess to clean up afterwards. I’m not complaining, because it is earth shattering, but at the same time I miss the days that an orgasm was fulfilling, its a lot less messy. My question is if I do enough kagel exercises or use ben-wa balls can get to the point were I can control when it happens?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:27 am

      Hi ST, from talking with students, squirting is one of those things that they have trouble controlling. This includes making it happen in the first place as well as preventing it.

      Sean

      P.S. Use towels!

      Reply
  63. annie says

    January 28, 2015 at 3:29 am

    im sure ive squirted before but i feel like it smells like urine and it makes me wonder if i peed or squirted, help?
    does it have a smell ?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      February 2, 2015 at 9:17 am

      Sometimes it’s pee, other times it’s just ejaculate, usually it’s a combination of both.

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      • suzy says

        February 4, 2016 at 9:25 pm

        No odor to squirt. I did not know what it was the first time but determined it was not pee because of lack of smell. I asked my doctor and she informed me it was a female ejaculation.

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  64. Tina says

    January 28, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    I had never heard about squirting up until about a year ago I have read on it researched it and very much want to try it and succeedI have done the techniques that have been shown and said to do and have not accomplished it which is very frustrating and I find that I get very angry I have had a complete hysterectomy does that have anything to do with the fact that I have not been able to accomplish this any help would be great

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    • Sean Jameson says

      February 2, 2015 at 9:16 am

      Hi Tina, yes, having a hysterectomy could have had an effect on your ability to squirt. Quick question, do you get wet when you are aroused?

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      • suzy says

        February 4, 2016 at 9:23 pm

        I have had a hysterectomy. I still can squirt so that is not the problem.

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        • HSKE says

          January 21, 2023 at 12:37 pm

          It may be the issue with her specifically though, the ability to squirt is dependent on so many different things with different people.

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  65. Curious says

    February 4, 2015 at 8:04 pm

    I have been experimenting more with playing with myself then I ever have. I wish I would have started it when I was younger!
    Reading all this is helpful but still worried I am peeing. I get to the squirt point (I think) with a dildo and clit playing then use the vibrating dildo on my clit and there it goes. I think it has happened during sex too. I have never had it from g-spot. Puddle can be large had to change sheets. Am I peeing???

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  66. Jennifer says

    February 12, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    Hi
    I am having problems squirting.
    You see everytime I get fingered the whole gushing and fluid is there as you can hear the noise but whenever I try and push it out nothing comes out yet Im having orgasms and hearing the whole gushing and fluid noises. Can anyone help me on what to do for it to actually come out

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    • Sean Jameson says

      February 17, 2015 at 12:58 pm

      Jennifer, this sounds about right. Not everyone squirts like a fountain, many just gush like it sounds you do.

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    • HSKE says

      January 21, 2023 at 12:45 pm

      I think we women get caught up on the word “squirt” when it is often times not actually a visible projectile that happens. If you are feeling the fluid and gushing, your body is technically obtaining the definition of a squirt, it’s just not a fountain, like porn has convinced us (and our partners) it needs to be. Next time try having your partner slowly pull out at the same time you use the muscles and action you would as if you were trying to push him out. You should see a bit of projection at that point. If not…it’s no big deal. Enjoy the practice anyway! 🙂

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  67. molly says

    February 17, 2015 at 11:42 pm

    wow showed my boyfriend this and we just did it and woo
    We had sex right after as well in all the positions thank you sooo hutch

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  68. Alyssa says

    February 28, 2015 at 4:18 am

    Hi Sean,
    I’m having issues with this. I have never been able to masterbate, touching myself gives me no pleasure what-so-all. The only orgasms, the only pleasure I feel is when my fiance does it. He wants me to squirt for him, and I want to. But if I can’t bring myself to do it, how is he going to be able to? I’m not as sensitive as other women, I’ve already figured that out. Things that works for others, isn’t always easy for me. I also understand that not everyone CAN do it… but do you have any more tips that might help us? I don’t use toys, I don’t like the idea. And again, doing it myself gives me no pleasure at all. Any more help would be greatly appreciated!

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    • Sean Jameson says

      March 2, 2015 at 9:41 am

      Hi Alyssa,

      Like I say, if you want to squirt with your man, then you need to comfortably learn how to do it yourself. If you can’t do it yourself, then it’s really not that much of a big deal, there are plenty of other things that you can enjoy with your man. The key is communicating this to your man. The problem is when your man starts to pressure you…it’s a recipe for you having even less fun.

      Sean

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    • HSKE says

      January 21, 2023 at 12:50 pm

      Alyssa, I think you are going to have to start with getting more comfortable with your own body. You said at first you are unable to bring yourself to orgasm by masterbation but later said you can’t being yourself to actually self pleasure. I think those two things are 100% related. If you aren’t comfortable touching yourself, you aren’t relaxed enough to climax. Without being relaxed, you aren’t going to be able to squirt either. Try getting comfortable with self pleasure first, even if it is just trying it WITH your partner watching or even helping. I think maintaining that comfort level with yourself is going to go a LONG way in improving your sex life and your ability to squirt in the long run. Good Luck! Happy Practicing! 🙂

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  69. Mike says

    March 11, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    I’ve been reading the comments and it sounds like many of the women are putting to much pressure on themselves to squirt. Several years ago after watching porn “squirting 101” I thought I would give it a try with the wife and to my surprise it worked. Now it’s a regular part of our sex life it does make for messy sheets but it’s well worth it. I’ve learned for us it’s not a foreplay kind of thing my wife enjoys it during a good session or after I finish. As a guy once you have the tecnique down its actually very easy to do. The wife says you have to get over the fear of pee feeling, for her it helps to be really turned on. Ladies get your partner to do some research, there’s lots of Internet stuff out there on the subject. Relax and have a good time don’t plan on doing it, just do it. As a bonus once it happens the wife said it seems to be easier to do. I’ve been able to make here gush multiple times in a row the highest count was 7 and she beg me to stop cause she thought she was going to pass out. Have fun it’s sex .

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    • Sean Jameson says

      March 16, 2015 at 9:19 am

      Thanks for the tips Mike!

      Reply
  70. Lola says

    March 28, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Hi there, I know it sounds weird but I every time I try fingering myself, I feel like I’m about a reach an orgasm and the pleasure that I was feeling just disappears. Is this normal? And do you have and tips for me to reach an orgasim using my fingers

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    • Sean Jameson says

      March 30, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      If you find that you are experiencing a huge amount of pleasure followed by that feeling disappearing, then it sounds like you are reaching orgasm. You can learn some great fingering tips in this guide.

      Reply
  71. zoey says

    April 3, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    What if your vagina is really tight
    I need help sean

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    • Sean Jameson says

      April 6, 2015 at 7:48 am

      You could have a condition called vaginismus. My advice is to talk to your doctor.

      Reply
  72. bridhid says

    April 9, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    I am really grateful for this article. I had been trying for over a year and after I read this it happened for me that first night. My man was so excited and pleased with himself. This was really important to me so im super appreciative. Ive gotten close but I wasnt sure how to make it happen. Relaxing was the biggest thing. That and I made sure I peed first so I wouldnt be afraid I would piss lol. Thanks Sean!!!!!!!

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  73. crystal says

    April 23, 2015 at 9:36 pm

    I have always been able to have multiple orgasms while masterbating and during intercourse, but have never squirted.. i don’t know what I am doing wrong.

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    • Sean Jameson says

      April 27, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Hi Crystal, this is because over time you’ve become the LeBron James of making yourself orgasm. However, your man will never know how to replicate the exact technique that you use. Try stopping masturbation for a few months and you’ll notice that it’s easier for your man to make you orgasm.

      Sean

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  74. Mary says

    May 11, 2015 at 8:49 pm

    hi,thanx for the article,i have been trying for 2 weeks and now im sure that the fluid coming out is not pee,but there’s a problem for me , i cant squirt while my arousal , it only come out after the orgasm,is it normal that i feel nothing while squirting?? what have i done wrong ??

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    • Sean Jameson says

      June 29, 2015 at 2:24 pm

      Hi Mary,

      Yes, some people don’t feel anything when they orgasm.

      Sean

      Reply
  75. Aboobear says

    July 5, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    Hi Sean,

    I’ve been trying to squirt for weeks by myself but every time I reach organism it doesn’t work. I’ve tried a bunch of techniques but nothing seams to work.

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  76. louise says

    July 7, 2015 at 6:54 am

    thank you for the help this made it sooooo eazy

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  77. Try this says

    July 8, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    My wife and I have been together for about 8 years. I’ve always wanted to make her squirt and couldn’t figure out how to make it happen(and neither could she) until about a year ago. She squirts by orgasm from the clitoris, but she can’t seem to do it herself. Basically, after having sex for a bit, I rub the head of my penis up and down really fast on her clitoris. That makes her squirt. And the longer I rub the longer she squirts. Might work for some of you so I thought I’d share.

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  78. Nicole says

    July 10, 2015 at 7:47 am

    I have NEVER been able to squirt. I even tried this by myself and just came 3 times really intensely but nothing (I even had to pee beforehand) :/ I hate it, I wish I could just do it already but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or what squirting is supposed to feel like 🙁

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  79. La Kesha says

    July 14, 2015 at 4:32 pm

    So, my fiance and I have been studying and talking about getting me to squirt all over him. In our 11 years of true love making, we haven’t been successful and I think it was because it was all new information to me. He calls me”The Good Girl”, because although when I met him, I had already had 2 children, I was very inexperienced. No one had ever made me cum, I’d never had a real orgasm, no masturbating, and no oral(on my part). So we’ve taught, experienced and learned a lot with each other together. Anyhoo, we really want to be successful with this. I have been trying through masturbating but I always stop. I’m scared I might pee!! I want to be able to do it both ways too by myself and ultimately, with him. Any thoughts or suggestions?

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  80. Martini says

    September 8, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend likes receiving oral sex but doesn’t like giving it. He wants me to squirt but part of the reason why I don’t think I can is because we don’t really have any foreplay before sex. I would like him to have an exchange of oral play to help me get extremely aroused but I always do him and he just doesn’t want to return the favor, although he has done it a couple of times and we’ve know each other over 20 years….How do I tell him the this exchange will most likely be the boost I need to finally squirt??

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 14, 2015 at 9:15 pm

      You just need to tell him in a non-judgmental and non-confrontational way. The more positive you can make the experience, the better.

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    • Honey says

      May 1, 2016 at 9:24 pm

      Leave him he is just satisfying himself from you… Just time pass…

      Reply
  81. Synetra says

    September 21, 2015 at 4:41 am

    Hi Sean, about a year ago me and my husband was having sex in the doggystyle position and all of a sudden I felt like I had to pee really really bad and I had to make him stop because I felt and thought I had to pee when I did go to the bathroom it was clear it came out fast and hard and it felt amazing when we were having sex and when it came out, this has happened to us quite a few times but I always thought I had to pee, I’m 33 and just recently found out about squirting and its a huge turn on for me and my husband, so was I possibly squirting all those times I thought I had to pee?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 21, 2015 at 7:14 pm

      Sounds like it 😉

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      • Synetra says

        September 23, 2015 at 11:32 am

        Hi sean, I read your other article on how to find your gspot and it was very, very helpful I found my gspot! I hit a few times the night before and I squirted. but because I went to the bathroom to early when I did it the first time it had some urine in it but this timeI found my gspot and was dead on and I went to the bathroom right before, I had 2 orgasms and then I really squirted no slight urine smell, it was clear female ejaculation! I finally did it, and me and my husband have you to thank,thank you oh so very much! My masturbation techniques have also improved, so thank you so much!!! As time goes and I do it more will it take less time for me to squirt? Again thank you so much!!!

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  82. Synetra says

    September 23, 2015 at 7:07 am

    Hi sean, thank you for answering my question, I have another question, o after reading all the info at the top on how you can make yourself squirt I tried it, I had 3 amazing orgasms better than usual because I fingered myself for the first time in years, I have only had orgasms through clitoral stimulation so I did that as well but I didn’t have that need to pee sensation until after I had the 3 orgasms and yes a lot of fluid squirted out and it had a very slight urine smell to it, is that normal and is it possible for me to have a vaginal orgasm during sex if I just relax and let myself go, and know that its ok to squirt all over my husband, is relaxing a huge factor in achieving vaginal ejaculating orgasms?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      September 28, 2015 at 6:32 am

      Yes, relaxing is vital to squirting and having vaginal orgasms.

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  83. Synetra says

    September 24, 2015 at 8:08 am

    Hi sean I just want to say thanks for the wonderful instructions I have found my gspot and finally was able to squirt! I really look forward to learning so much more and I’m very excited for me and my husbands new sex life I am really excited about trying out the new things that I have learned from you and I’m pretty sure my husband is going to be thankful as well! I appreciate and respect what you do and how you really help people to better their sex lives, you really are thee sex guru! Thank you again!!

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  84. Spaniard says

    October 11, 2015 at 12:50 pm

    Hi, I would love to make my girlfriend squirt because I think she will love it and also because it’s an idea that really turns me on. I have tried to make her squirt once or twice and I have some question.
    When I put my fingers in I massage all the area of the G spot, but when I do the hook technique I don’t know what to do with my fingers. Do I have to press against the facing area of the G spot all the time? Do I have to do any movement apart with the fingers? Or just block them and move my hand up and down?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      October 12, 2015 at 8:10 am

      You can do multiple things BUT the key is doing what works most effectively to make her squirt, so talk to her and find out what she enjoys you doing the most.

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      • Spaniard says

        October 12, 2015 at 11:05 am

        We reached the pee feeling, but I think I should move my hand faster and faster with more pressure, is that possible? I don’t want to be too rude and hurt her and she sometimes stops me.

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        • Sean Jameson says

          October 19, 2015 at 5:55 pm

          The key is doing what’s pleasurable for both of you, not necessarily squirting. If it feels good for your partner, then definitely faster can help achieve more intense squirting orgasms.

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          • Spaniard says

            December 7, 2015 at 1:09 pm

            I have one final question. When I do the fast movements, do I have to touch her G-spot with my fingertips or with the top of my fingers? Maybe that is a key point and I don’t know how to do it properly.
            PS: We definitely want her to squirt.

          • Sean Jameson says

            December 7, 2015 at 3:33 pm

            Try both and see what works for her. Everyone is different and responds to different stimuluses.

  85. Mama says

    November 17, 2015 at 11:11 pm

    Have a few questions:
    Can you have an orgasm without “ejaculation”.?
    Whenever me and my boyfriend have sex and we get to a certain point my body would start to shake to that point where it just feels like I can’t handle it anymore… if I stick through it will I finally evacuate.?
    Also, can you ejaculate without knowing.?
    While my boyfriend gives me oral, I sometimes get this pleasurable feeling as if I ejaculates but there’s always nothing lol what will that be.?
    I’m sorry for all of these questions but I am curious.
    And thank you in advance.

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    • Mama says

      November 17, 2015 at 11:14 pm

      Also, I should have mentioned, after sex I HAVE to use the restroom and its usually clear, like I’ve drank water mainly, will that be me ejaculating AFTER all the.? ?

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      • Sean Jameson says

        November 23, 2015 at 3:23 pm

        Sounds like it’s mostly pee, but ultimately it’s hard for me to tell.

        Sean

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