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I’m going to show you how to squirt so intensely (& effortlessly) that you will collapse into deep orgasmic bliss.
These squirting techniques work while you are masturbating alone or having sex with your partner, even if you’ve never squirted before.
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I’ve broken this squirting guide into 8 sections. My advice is to read it from start to finish, but you can also skip to any section by clicking on the links below.
- What Is Squirting & Female Ejaculation?
- Squirting Anatomy
- How To Make Yourself Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques
- Squirting With Sex Toys – 6 Techniques
- How To Squirt During Sex – 2 Crucial Techniques
- 5 Sex Positions For Squirting
- What To Do If You Struggle To Squirt – Read This If It’s Not Easy For You
- Squirting FAQ
What Is Squirting & Female Ejaculation?
Squirting is the involuntary expulsion of fluid from the female urethra following stimulation of the anterior [front] vaginal wall before or during orgasm [1].
Contrary to popular belief…
The scientific community has thoroughly investigated squirting and female ejaculation and found that…
Squirting is very real.
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And, so is female ejaculation.
In fact…
Squirting and female ejaculation are two completely different things… “Female ejaculation and squirting/gushing are two different phenomena. The organs and the mechanisms that produce them are bona fide different.” [2]
Let’s dive in!
Squirting
According to researchers, squirting is where “unknown mechanisms are working during excitation and stimulation of CUV (clitoro-urethro-vaginal) to produce the phenomenon of squirting overdiluted urines” [2].
In simple terms, squirting happens when your clitoris/vagina is being stimulated, resulting in the “squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine” [3].
A female squirting study was undertaken in 2022, “confirming the bladder as the source” [1].
When they measured the chemical composition of the fluid squirted by women, they found that “a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].
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So, squirting is pee, from your bladder. Sometimes it also contains a tiny amount of “prostatic secretions” [4].
Female Ejaculation
According to researchers, female ejaculation is “the release of a very scanty, thick, and whitish fluid from the female prostate” [2]. Another study confirmed that it’s “a smaller quantity of whitish secretions from the female prostate”[3]
Well-known researcher, Beverly Whipple, describes female ejaculate as being “about a teaspoon (3–5 ml) of fluid expelled through the urethra that looks like watered-down fat-free milk, tastes sweet, and does not smell like urine” [5]. In fact, “analysis of the fluid demonstrates that it is chemically different from urine” [5].
So, female ejaculation is a smaller amount of gooey, whiteish fluid from the female prostate. The female prostate is also known as the Skene’s gland [6].
Squirting Anatomy
Above is a cross-section of a vagina.
Grafenberg Spot (G Spot) – Stimulating your G Spot is crucial for many when learning to squirt. The importance of your G Spot is backed by research:
- Women who reported G Spot orgasms were also more likely to report a spurt of fluid at the moment of orgasm [7].
- 82% of the women who reported the G Spot also reported squirting with their orgasms [8].
To squirt, you need to stimulate your G Spot. You can see it labeled above.
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Your G Spot is inside your vagina, located two to three inches along the front wall of your vagina [9]. The front wall of your vagina is also sometimes called the anterior wall.
To find your G Spot, place your hand on your stomach and slide it down toward your vagina. You’ll reach your clitoris first. Go a few inches further, and you’ll reach the entrance to your vagina. As you enter your vagina with your fingers, you’ll find your G Spot two to three inches along the front wall, like in the illustration below (8 orgasmic fingering techniques).
Your G Spot should feel slightly different to the rest of your vagina.
You’ll know that you have found your G Spot because it will feel slightly bumpier than the surrounding area. Some describe it as feeling ribbed or textured or slightly rough or even like a wet raspberry. Others describe it as having gutters/ridges [10 p 82-83].
Trouble finding your G Spot? – One important thing to note is that for most women, you will only be able to find your G Spot when you are thoroughly aroused.
This is actually why “the G Spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable” [11].
So before you go searching for it, make sure you are well and truly aroused first.
Learn: How to find your G Spot.
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Related: Read these 11 tips for getting horny and these 19 ways to get yourself in the mood for sex if you are struggling to find your G Spot.
Skene’s Gland – You can feel your G Spot with your fingers inside your vagina. The organ causing your G Spot to feel swollen and push into your vagina is called the Skene’s gland.
Your Skene’s gland is located in the vestibule of the vulva near your urethra [6].
As you get aroused and turned on, your Skene’s gland will start swelling and fill with fluid, which may aid lubrication.
You will find it difficult/impossible to squirt before becoming heavily aroused and letting your Skene’s gland/G Spot area swell.
Learn: Make sure that your partner knows how to turn you on and can get you deeply horny/aroused first.
How To Make Yourself Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques
If you’ve never squirted before, then I strongly recommend that you start with learning how to squirt while masturbating alone. It’s the same approach that I recommend to women when learning how to orgasm.
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Why?
You will feel less pressure to perform. You can focus fully on yourself and your own pleasure.
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After you are comfortable squirting while masturbating alone, you’ll find it much easier to squirt with your partner during foreplay and sex.
First, you need to do a little preparation…
1. Preparation Before Attempting To Squirt
Before trying to make yourself squirt, there are a few things to consider:
Trim & file your nails – The last thing you want to happen while fingering yourself is for a long nail, broken nail or sharp nail on your finger to catch and injure your vagina. So, trim and file any nails that may hurt you.
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Lay down a towel on your bed – Squirting is wet. Pretty obvious, right? Well…
Many get so caught up in the moment that they forget about the wetness. If you want to prevent stains on your bed or a major clean up operation after you squirt, lay down a towel for you to lie on and catch all your squirting. This way, you’ll only need to wash your towel.
Try it in the shower – If you want to make cleanup even easier, try squirting in the shower. This way, everything will wash away down the drain as you squirt.
Learn: How to masturbate with a shower head.
Now it’s time to learn the squirting techniques…
2. Squirting Foreplay
Foreplay is vital when trying to make yourself squirt.
Through foreplay and getting aroused, your G Spot will begin to swell, which will make squirting much easier. For some women, this foreplay only needs to last 5-10 minutes. For others, it may take much longer. The length of foreplay you need to squirt is something you must figure out yourself through trial and error.
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As for the type of foreplay, this, again, is highly dependent on your personal preferences. Do you have a favorite book, sex story, memory of your best sexual experience, routine or setting that helps you to get in the mood and turned on? What about focusing on a specific erogenous zone?
Our guide on the best foreplay techniques will help with getting yourself turned on.
3. The Magic Hook – The Most Important Squirting Technique
The Magic Hook technique is by far the most effective squirting technique. Here’s how to use it…
Once you have gotten yourself thoroughly aroused and turned on, lie on your back in bed and get comfortable.
Next, place your palm on your stomach and slide it down towards your vagina. As your fingers run over the entrance to your vagina, press them inside. Go about two to three inches deep and hook them backward, like in the illustration above.
Below is another view of how your hand should look
As you press your fingertips inside yourself, pay attention to the texture of the front wall of your vaginal canal. For most, when you are aroused, you should be able to feel an area that is slightly more textured than the rest, about two to three inches deep.
This is your G Spot.
This is the main area that you’ll be stimulating to make yourself squirt. You can press, rub and massage your G Spot while using the Magic Hook squirting technique. In fact…
Here are three techniques you can use to stimulate this area:
4. Push The Button
Like the name suggests, you’ll perform the Push the Button technique by repeatedly pressing your G Spot with your finger like you would press a button.
Up and down.
Experiment and vary how much pressure you apply and the speed at which you do it. Softly and slowly pressing into your G Spot can be enough for some, while others need more intense, vigorous pressure.
This pressing can be pleasurable, but may not be enough to push you over the edge and squirt.
5. Rubbing Your G Spot
Rubbing your G Spot in a circular motion while maintaining pressure on your fingertip is another option.
For some, you may find that this technique is enough to make you squirt. For others, it merely feels nice and is not enough to make you explode.
Thankfully, the next technique will make squirting much easier…
6. Come Hither Motion
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow your fingertips to repeatedly run over and massage your G Spot, providing you with a lot more stimulation.
As with any technique that I teach…
Make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure you apply and the exact location where you apply the pressure.
Technique pointer – As you curl your fingers, you should apply lots of pressure to your G Spot. Then, release this pressure as you straighten them out. As you begin curling them again, start to apply more pressure.
For many, this is more than enough to make you squirt.
However…
There are two issues that sometimes arise from each of these three techniques:
- You may notice that your fingers and wrist get tired way too fast before you are even close to squirting.
- Due to the angle of your arm/hand/fingers, you may find it awkward and difficult to provide enough stimulation to your G Spot.
That’s why you may want to use the Stiff Hook. It’s practically a fail-safe way to make yourself squirt.
7. The Stiff Hook
The Stiff Hook shares much in common with the above three techniques, with one very important difference…
Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm.
First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot, like in the illustration above. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure to your G Spot, which is a lot more pressure than just using your fingers.
Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to put massive amounts of pressure on it. This heavy stimulation of your G Spot will make squirting far more likely.
8. Extra Pressure
If, for some reason, you are still having trouble with squirting despite using all the techniques I’ve just taught you, then you can apply downward pressure to your Mons Pubis with your other hand, like in the illustration above.
Applying pressure like this has the effect of gently squeezing your G Spot further into your vagina, allowing you to provide more pressure and stimulation to it from your fingers inside your vagina.
My one concern in this position is ensuring you don’t apply too much pressure or press down too hard if your bladder is full. Otherwise, you will be putting a lot of pressure on your bladder, which can make you want to pee.
Side note: You can also use this technique during sex with your partner if you need more pressure on your G Spot.
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9. Stimulating Your Clit & G Spot At The Same Time
Why not maximize your pleasure by stimulating both your clitoris and G Spot at the same time?
With one hand, you will be using some of the techniques I described above for stimulating your G Spot. With your other hand, you’ll be massaging your clit.
The only difficult part when doing this technique is comfortably using both your hands…
While many lie on their back when performing this double stimulation technique, some prefer doing it while lying face down on their stomach.
I put together a detailed, illustrated guide of 9 clitoral stimulation techniques you can use to increase your pleasure as you’re trying to make yourself squirt.
10. You May Need To Go Hard, Intense & Fast
One study of 1,216 squirters found that 19.6% of women used “harder/more intense touch” in the build-up to squirting [13]. To release the squirt, 17.1% of all respondents needed a “burst of speed/pressure” [13].
Both of these numbers represent less than 1 in 5 women, but…
If you are struggling to make yourself squirt, then you may want to try:
- Going a little harder/intense in the build-up to squirting.
- As you get close to squirting, try stimulating yourself with a burst of speed/pressure.
As always, listen to your body and don’t go overboard, otherwise you may hurt yourself.
11. Consistency
For many women, the most frustrating thing about sex with a partner is when they switch things up right as you are about to orgasm.
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For these women, consistency is vital to climaxing reliably. The same applies to some squirters.
In fact…
14.9% of squirters reported that “Squirting happens after a long period of doing the same movement consistently for a while” [13]. Emphasis added by me.
While consistency of movement isn’t necessary for all women, it’s a tool that may be helpful if you aren’t squirting right now
12. Releasing Tensed Muscles
One study of squirters found that 21.4% of women released tensed muscles in order to squirt [13].
If you find yourself feeling “blocked,” try relaxing and releasing tensed muscles. This technique may unlock your squirting ability.
13. Bearing Down, Tensing & “Pushing It Out”
Interestingly, research has also shown that 12.5% of squirters will bear down, tense and “push out” their squirt [13]. This is completely opposite to releasing your tensed muscles.
That’s only 1 in 8 women, so it’s certainly the minority of women. However, it’s something to consider if you are close, but can’t quite squirt yet.
14. Pulling Out Your Fingers (Or Sex Toy Or Partner’s Penis)
Interestingly, research has found that for 10% of women, “[s]quirting happens as fingers/toy or penis come out of my vagina” [13].
In practical terms, this means that for 1 in 10 women:
- You need to stimulate yourself with either your fingers, sex toy or your partner’s penis during sex.
- This type of stimulation should be bringing you closer and closer to squirting.
- Right before you squirt, you need to pull your fingers, sex toy or partner’s penis out of your vagina.
- The action of your fingers/toy/partner’s penis leaving your vagina helps push you over the edge and squirt.
For 9 out of 10 women, pulling out is not necessary to squirt.
15. Experiment To Find Your Squirting Blueprint
I have given you a lot of different techniques to make yourself squirt. Some of this advice is even conflicting (eg: tensing vs releasing muscles), yet proven to work.
If you are still struggling to squirt by yourself, understand that everyone’s body is slightly different and responds to different types of stimulation. So you now need to start experimenting to find the squirting techniques that work for you and your body.
Squirting With Sex Toys – 6 Techniques
Sex toys can add to and enhance your ability to squirt while masturbating and during sex. While penis-shaped dildos and vibrators are wonderful, you can also find purpose-made G Spot sex toys.
These are often curved, contoured, or hooked in shape to provide intense G Spot stimulation.
Some G Spot sex toys are soft and gentle, while others are heavy and made from rigid steel. Many of them are battery-powered, pulsating and vibrating, while others are not.
The key to finding the right G Spot toy for you is by researching, experimenting and keeping your own preferences in mind. There is no perfect “one size fits all” G Spot toy.
Related: How to use sex toys.
Anyway…
Here are some techniques to experiment with while using vibrators and dildos to stimulate your G Spot and make yourself squirt.
1. Vibrator On Your G Spot
If you have a penis-shaped vibrator, then it can be very helpful if you are struggling to squirt. Start by penetrating yourself with your vibe, using lube if necessary.
The basic technique is positioning the head of your vibrator so that it’s pressing against your G Spot.
But there’s a lot more you can do to increase your pleasure and ability to squirt with your vibrator.
- Try rhythmically pressing the vibrator into your G Spot, alternating the pressure.
- Repeatedly run the head of the vibrator over your G Spot, like you are caressing it.
- Play around with different vibrator settings to find the pulsations and vibrations you like most.
2. Vibrator On Your Clit
Sometimes, you just need some extra stimulation on your clitoris while you work on your G Spot with your fingers.
A vibrator is perfect for this.
3. Milking Your G Spot
A dildo is a great way to mimic your partner’s penis and prepare for squirting while having sex. Here’s some tips:
- Using lube if necessary, press your dildo into your vagina.
- Slide it in and out at an angle, running the tip all along the front wall of your vagina, like in the illustration above.
- Experiment with going fast or slow, going deeper or shallower, and using different-sized dildos until you find something you enjoy.
Read next: How to use a dildo for maximum self pleasure – 12 techniques.
4. Short & Shallow
Rather than focusing on the entire front wall of your vagina with your dildo, you can also focus solely on your G Spot.
To do this, angle the dildo in your vagina so that the head is pressing against your G Spot. Then simply push it in and out of your vagina. Here are some ideas to play around with while doing this:
- Vary the speed at which you penetrate yourself from fast to slow to see what feels better.
- Vary the pressure you apply with your dildo from light to heavy.
- Try keeping the head of the dildo pressed against your G Spot with continuous pressure, not moving it in or out. Optionally, try to flex your Kegel muscles while doing this.
5. Juicing With Your Dildo
Juicing is simply twisting your dildo while it’s inside your vagina instead of pressing it in and out. It requires a lot of lube and a dildo that has no sharp edges.
Without lots of lube, you can hurt yourself from the friction. With a dildo that isn’t completely smooth or one that has sharp edges, you risk hurting yourself.
The juicing technique is simple: press your dildo into your G Spot and slowly start twisting it.
Some women enjoy the sensation, while others don’t. If you feel any pain or discomfort while juicing your G Spot, then avoid it.
6. Double Penetration
A research study found that 19.4% of women squirt from anal stimulation [16]. So why not incorporate anal play with a butt plug when trying to squirt when trying to squirt with a dildo.
Another option is using one dildo vaginally while simultaneously using another anally.
If you don’t have two dildos or a butt plug, you can also try fingering yourself anally.
As I keep repeating, you need to experiment with what feels best for you.
Once you are comfortable with squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to try it with a partner. Here’s how…
How To Squirt During Sex – 2 Crucial Techniques
Squirting during sex requires a caring and understanding partner with whom you have great sexual communication, along with the right techniques.
This makes everything much easier.
Let’s jump straight in, with the basic technique for squirting during sex.
1. Glide The G
The demonstration image above show the basic technique you and your partner need to use during sex to hit your G Spot and make your squirt.
You can see that your partner doesn’t need to penetrate you deeply; they only need to go about 2-3 inches deep, making sure the tip of their penis is focused on your G Spot/Skene’s gland area.
Of course, your partner can change the angle they hit your G Spot like in the illustration below (although some women may find this angle too intense).
2. Hit The G
With each thrust, your partner can press the head of their penis directly into your G Spot, focusing solely on it.
Alternatively…
Your partner can run the head of their penis all along the front wall of your vagina (including your G Spot) with each thrust.
As with all the techniques in this squirting guide, experiment with these two to see which you prefer.
Squirting Podcast
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5 Best Sex Positions For Squirting
Below, you can see demonstrations of the most popular and pleasurable squirting sex positions. Before trying any of these positions, keep in mind that…
Some of these positions may make squirting super easy, while you may find it harder to squirt during sex in other positions.
Why?
As I’ve said repeatedly throughout this squirting guide…
Everyone’s body is different and responds differently to the same positions, tips and techniques.
The key to finding what works to make YOU squirt during sex is experimenting, trying a bunch of different positions and keeping a mental note of which positions help you squirt more easily and enjoyably.
If you find that you need more clitoral stimulation to squirt, then spend more time in positions that stimulate your clitoris. If G Spot spot stimulation is all you need to squirt, then you should be having sex mostly in positions that stimulate you G Spot.
With this in mind, here are my favorite five positions for squirting during sex:
1. Missionary Position With A Pillow
Missionary sex position is a classic because it makes for incredibly intimate sex, and there can be a lot of clitoral stimulation. It’s also great if you like eye contact during sex.
You will be lying down on your back, with your partner on top of you, facing you.
One problem with the Missionary position…
It often doesn’t allow you to have a lot of G Spot stimulation during sex. A quick sex hack that changes this is…
Putting a pillow under your hips/butt to lift them up.
This changes the angle of penetration, so your partner will now be applying more pressure on your G Spot with each stroke.
You can even purchase special sex pillows and wedges specially for this.
Side note: I also put together a list of the 9 best sex positions using a sex wedge/pillow.
2. Jockey Position
The Jockey position is great for those women who prefer to let their partner take over and do most of the work.
To get set up in the Jockey position, first lie down on your stomach on your bed. If you like, you can place your elbows down, like in the illustration above, to support your upper body. Or you can lay down fully on the bed.
Your partner will then get on top of you, on their knees, with their legs outside yours, facing your back.
While on top of you:
- He can thrust in and out (9 intense thrusting techniques), or…
- He can grind forwards and backward on you.
Both will provide different types of stimulation to your G Spot and help you squirt. Give your partner feedback so they know what you prefer.
Additionally, you can place a pillow underneath your hips. This will push your butt up into the air and change the angle of penetration. It can also help if your lower back gets sore in this position.
An alternative to the Jockey position is Rear Entry. It’s very similar to the Jockey, except your partner will put their legs inside of yours and keep them straight.
Try both and see what you prefer.
3. Bent Spoon Position
The Bent Spoon position requires a little bit of balance, and is great if you enjoy the feeling of being exposed while trying to squirt.
To get into the Bent Spoon position, your partner will first lie down on their back. They need to bend their legs slightly and place their feet firmly on the bed/ground.
Next, you need to sit down on your partner’s lap and, with their help, slowly lean back so that you are resting your back on their chest/stomach. Finally, rest your feet on their legs like in the illustration above.
If you’re having trouble with balancing, then just place your feet on the bed/ground and it will be easier.
4. Launch Pad Position
The Launch Pad is one of the best squirting positions, especially for receiving partners who want to control the depth and angle of penetration.
Here’s how to perform the Launch Pad position…
Lie down on your back and bring your knees to your chest. Your partner then needs to kneel down facing you, as in the illustration above. While lying on your back, you then place your feet on your partner’s chest as they penetrate you.
Here’s the best part…
You can then control the depth and angle of penetration by pressing your feet into your partner’s chest.
- You can press your feet into your partner’s chest to push them backward and away from you
- You can relax your legs and allow your partner to come forward and closer to you
Optionally, you can place a pillow underneath your hips/butt to change the angle of penetration. This is also a great option if you have a weak lower back. The Launch Pad position also works great if the penetrating partner is not well-endowed.
5. G Spot Position
The G Spot position is possibly the best squirting position on this list. It even gets it’s name from the fact that it makes G Spot stimulation super easy.
To get into the G Spot position, your penetrating partner will be on their knees, while you’ll be on your back. Your partner then needs to grab your hips/butt and lift it up while your shoulders remain on the bed.
This causes your back to arch and allows your partner to thrust directly against your G Spot, perfect for hitting your Skene’s gland area and making you squirt.
To make the G Spot position easier for your partner:
- I strongly recommend using multiple pillows under your butt to raise them up so your partner doesn’t have to hold your hips/butt the entire time.
- Try “hooking” your heels or ankles on your partner’s shoulder and supporting some of your weight.
Lastly, your kneeling partner can lean backward or forward to change the angle of penetration.
Communicate!
“The secret to squirting during sex is great communication.”
This sounds like such a lame line, but…
It’s insanely important and totally true. Let me explain why…
There are multiple factors that influence your ability to squirt during sex. Some of these include:
- Personal preferences
- Sex positions
- Clitoral V vaginal stimulation V both at the same time
- learning how to squirt alone, where there can be less pressure V trying it during sex
- Differences in body type/anatomy
- Your level of arousal and relaxation
- And more…
If you are unable to communicate these roadblocks to your partner, they won’t be able to help you to overcome them and actually squirt (and have good sex).
So, if you can squirt when masturbating alone, but are struggling to squirt during sex, you need to figure out how to communicate your needs to your partner.
Need help on this? We put together this full guide on improving sexual communication.
What To Do If You Are Struggling To Squirt
For many women, squirting doesn’t just happen naturally and easily. It can require some figuring out or “troubleshooting” to make it effortless…
1. The Key To Making Squirting Effortless
Understanding your own sexuality by knowing what turns you on (the accelerators to your sex drive) and what turns you off (the brakes to your sex drive) is key to squirting with ease.
These accelerators and brakes to your sex drive are known as the Dual Control Model.
Examples of accelerators to your sex drive include:
- Being with a trusted partner
- Being attracted to your partner
- Foreplay
- Being physically healthy
- Participating in a personal fantasy
Examples of brakes to your sex drive include
- Feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, stressed or anxious
- Feeling physically unwell
- Pain
- Negative past sexual experiences
- Negative associations with sexual pleasure
- Being with someone you don’t find attractive
- Even something as minor as a smell can be a brake/turn-off
Here’s how the accelerators and brakes to your sex drive combine:
- No accelerators, only brakes: If you only stimulate the brakes, but not the accelerators, you won’t enjoy sex or be able to squirt. You won’t even be turned on.
- Accelerators & brakes together: If you stimulate your brakes and accelerators, you will still find it hard to enjoy sex and will struggle to squirt. This can happen when you feel somewhat aroused but not relaxed or comfortable enough to fully let go. This can happen when you meet someone new but don’t know them well enough yet. Or when you are about to have sex, but then you smell their bedroom and it stinks.
- Only accelerators, no brakes: If you stimulate all your accelerators and RELEASE your brakes, you will be incredibly turned on, relaxed and will find squirting to be pretty easy.
In-depth read: Our guide to getting horny and further tips to get in the mood for sex go much deeper on the Dual Control Model of arousal so that you can orgasm and squirt more easily.
However, there could be other issues preventing you from squirting…
2. Don’t Make Squirting The Goal
If you or your partner make squirting your goal, it may backfire
It can add stress and anxiety to your sex life (a brake to your sex drive). A better attitude to have, is:
“I’m going to focus on enjoying myself. If I squirt, great. If not, no big deal.”
World famous sex researcher, Beverly Whipple even wrote about this:
“It is also important for women and their partners to realize that female ejaculation should not be set up as a goal for them or their partners to achieve. When something like female ejaculation is set up as a goal, much of the pleasure of the process of sensual and sexual expression is lost. Women are encouraged to enjoy what they experience and to feel good about the variety of sensual and sexual experiences that they find pleasurable” [5].
3. It’s Normal To Have Anxieties/Worries About Squirting
Don’t worry if you have some anxieties or worries when it comes to squirting. It’s totally normal.
In fact, a study of women who have squirted in the past found that 41.8% of squirters were worried that they were peeing and 28.3% were worried that they would make a mess [13].
Speaking of peeing…
4. Why Do I Feel Like I Have To Pee When Trying To Squirt?
Because it’s mostly pee that comes from your bladder.
As I mentioned earlier in the guide, a female squirting study was undertaken in 2022, “confirming the bladder as the source” [1]. Further research found that squirting happens when your clitoris/vagina is being stimulated, resulting in the “squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine” [3].
5. I Get Very Wet, But There Is No “Ejaculation.” Why?
This is completely normal. Each person’s body is different and responds differently to the same types of stimulation. This means that…
- Some women regularly shoot a stream when they squirt
- Others don’t shoot a stream, but “gush” a small amount of liquid onto the bed
- Some women don’t even gush, but instead get very wet, and that’s as far as they can get.
All three are perfectly normal and healthy and should be celebrated. Putting pressure on yourself to squirt more or with greater force often backfires, preventing you from getting out of your head, which can lead to less enjoyable sex.
A respondent in one squirting study even commented, “You think it will be a massive rush of water, and secondly, that it will include an orgasm. For me it’s none of that. It just gets really wet, but it’s not like a fountain, it seeps out” [15].
In the end, sex shouldn’t be about squirting, it should be about enjoying yourself.
6. The Pressure Keeps Building, But I Never Hit The Peak & Squirt. Help!?
This sounds like you are very close, and it will take just a little bit more time to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.
There’s 3 different approaches you can take here:
- For some women, you need to let go, be at peace with how you feel and just relax. This is often the case with Type A, outcome-orientated folks. – “The ability to ‘let go’ and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor, as are certain techniques of sexual stimulation” [16].
- For other women, you need to “push out.” This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your Kegel muscles.
- Some women need more clitoral and/or G Spot stimulation to push them over the edge.
My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.
7. My Partner Wants Me To Squirt For Them, But I Can’t. What Should I Do?
Your partner needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. They also need to realize that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with them.
So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your partner.
You will find that the more pressure your partner puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so talk to them, and let them know that this is a delicate process and that putting any pressure on you to perform will likely backfire.
It’s almost like your partner needs to view themself as an “assistant”, following your instructions and helping you to squirt. Unfortunately, some partners see themselves as the “conductor” who just needs to move their hand the right way while disregarding your feedback 🙁
The same is true when you’re learning how to make a man cry in bed, you can’t force it.
8. I Want My Partner To Make Me Squirt. What Should I Do?
Step 1 – Learn to squirt by yourself. Once you can reliably squirt by yourself move to Step 2.
Step 2 – Let your partner know that you’ve discovered something new: squirting. Ask your partner if they are interested in exploring it with you. If they are, then talk to your partner and let them know the types of stimulation and positions that will help you to squirt.
Alternatively, you can guide your partner’s hand with yours to show them what they need to do to make you squirt. You can even give a demonstration, showing them exactly what you do to make yourself squirt.
The same is true during sex, guide your partner into positions that hit your best squirting spots.
Additionally, your partner may find reading this very squirting guide helpful, too.
9. Can All Women Squirt?
No, according to the research currently available.
In one study, a systematic literature review found that the prevalence of either a female ejaculation (FE) of a smaller quantity of whitish secretions from the female prostate or a squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine is 10-54% [3].
Another squirting study surveyed US women. From the 2936 responses, they found that “forty (41.4%) percent of U.S. adult women had ever squirted in their lifetime” [13].
You can see the table of responses from these 2936 women below:
Squirting Status % of women [13] Ever squirted 41.4 Squirted once or twice 39.6 Squirted 3-5 times 19.5 Squirted 6-10 times 11.7 Squirted 11+ times 28.9
We examine this question in more detail and explain why between 6% and 69.23% of all women can squirt, depending on how squirting is defined.
9. I’ve Never Had An Orgasm, But I Want To Squirt, What Should I Do?
Slow down.
If you can’t orgasm, then everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and climax alone first, before moving on to being able to comfortably orgasm during sex.
Finally, when you can reliably orgasm with your partner, start trying to squirt by yourself and then during sex.
I have put together an incredibly detailed guide on how to reach orgasm that I recommend you check out.
10. Is There One “Magical” Technique That Works Every Time To Make Yourself Squirt?
No.
Instead, you need to experiment with multiple techniques and find the ones that work best for you.
This is backed up by research on 1,216 squirters. When they were asked about the techniques they used to build up to squirting, there was no one dominant technique:
Techniques used to
build toward squirting% of women [13] Harder/more intense touch 19.6 Prep and warm up to squirt 16.9 Other/don’t know or
don’t remember16.9 Pressure inside vaginal wall 16.5 Clitoral stimulation alone 15.6 Concurrent outside/inside
pressure12.5
When these same 1,216 squirters were asked about the techniques that would help them release their squirt, again, there was no single dominant technique.
Techniques used to
release a squirt% of women [13] No specific pattern 40.2 Releasing tensed/clenched
muscles21.4 Burst of speed/pressure 17.1 Consistency of movement 14.9 Bearing/tensing down 12.5 Pulling toys/penis/fingers
out of vagina10.0 Other 5.2
However, 75.6% of respondents stated that they had ever used a specific technique to squirt [13]. So…
What does all this data actually mean for you?
There is probably a squirting technique that works most of the time for you, but you will need to experiment and try out a bunch of different techniques to discover what it is. However, there is no one-size-fits-all, works-every-time squirting technique that works for everyone.
Squirting FAQ
I want to also cover some of the common questions I get from readers about squirting.
1. How Do I Squirt More?
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to this, but there are things that you should explore:
Adequate hydration – This one is obvious. If you are dehydrated, your body will find it harder to squirt. You simply won’t have enough fluid in your body. If you are better hydrated, it will naturally be easier.
Water and isotonic drinks will help to hydrate you. Alcohol won’t.
Longer sex & foreplay – Your body isn’t ready to squirt at any moment. It doesn’t hold a “squirting reserve.” Instead, it begins building when you get turned on, start foreplay, and have sex. If you are having a quickie, your body won’t have enough time to produce a large amount of squirting fluid.
But if you are having a much longer session, then it will.
Stronger Kegels – Studies have shown that pelvic floor muscle training can improve arousal, orgasm and sexual satisfaction for those with a vulva [17, 18].
By regularly performing Kegel and pelvic floor exercises, you will not only improve these things (arousal, orgasm & sexual satisfaction), but you will gain greater control over your squirting ability, allowing you to squirt with more force.
Deeper relaxation – I don’t want to sound like a broken record, but many people forget that one of the important things for reaching orgasm and squirting is:
You need to be able to relax and “let go,” even though many of your muscles are straining at the same time. “The ability to ‘let go’ and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor” to squirting [16].
So, if you are stressed, anxious or consumed with thoughts instead of simply enjoying the moment, you will find it harder to squirt as much as you want to.
Edging – Edging is the art of bringing yourself or your partner almost to the point of orgasm before backing off so you don’t. For many, edging a few times during a session can make squirting even more intense when you finally do come.
In-depth guide: What is edging & how to edge yourself or your partner.
Your personal preferences – Everyone has personal sexual preferences, kinks and fetishes that turn you on and intensify sex. Spend some time to explore and get to know your own and start incorporating them into masturbation and sex.
3. Why Do Women Squirt?
To prevent UTI infections.
That’s according to a paper published by Elsevier in their Medical Hypotheses journal that states:
“We hypothesize that female ejaculation has a unique function in producing a secretion into the urethra that provides protection from urinary tract infections (UTIs). We further predict that female ejaculate contains antimicrobial compounds including elements such as zinc” [19].
4. Where Does Squirt Come From?
The fluid that women squirt is produced in two different parts of your body, mostly from your bladder and partially from your Skene’s gland (aka the female prostate). Your Skene’s gland surrounds the urethra and produces a type of prostatic fluid. [6, 12]
Fluids from your bladder and Skene’s gland combine in the urethra and the squirting fluid leaves your body through the urethra. This is what the research tells us:
“The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].
5. What Makes A Woman Squirt?
According to one study, squirting can “occur separately from orgasm for some women” [14], while another survey of 320 women who have squirted found that squirting “usually occurs during orgasm” [16].
Diving in deeper…
When all 320 women were presented with the question, “What kind of stimulation leads to squirting?” they could give multiple answers. These are the things that cause a woman to squirt:
What caused women
who can squirt to squirt% of women [16] Masturbation 53.4 Vaginal orgasm 52.5 Clitoral orgasm 53.4 Sexual intercourse 48.1 Anal stimulation 19.4 Spontaneous (without sexual stimulation) 10.4 During sleep 4.1
In this same study, women were also asked what triggered them to squirt for the first time.
- 23.4% of squirters experienced their first time squirting during sexual encounters with a new partner.
- 4.4% of squirters experienced their first time squirting during masturbation.
- 3.1% of squirters experienced their first time squirting when training to squirt
6. Is Squirting Pee?
Short answer – Yes, it’s mostly pee, but it often contains a small amount of prostatic fluid from the Skene’s gland [4].
Long answer – The scientific community conducted a study on this very question. The study findings were published in the well-respected Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2014 and have been cited over 75 times.
In the study, the researchers used ultrasound equipment on seven healthy women so that they could monitor their bladders before, during and after squirting.
- The experiment started with all the women using the bathroom to ensure their bladders were empty. The researchers checked to make sure they were empty using the ultrasound equipment.
- Then came sexual stimulation, and just before the women squirted, their bladders were noticeably filled when measured by ultrasound.
- After the women squirted, their bladders were empty when measured by ultrasound.
So squirting definitely contains urine from your bladder.
The researchers also did a biochemical analysis of urine samples from the seven women before they squirted and again on a second urine sample after they squirted. The researchers also did a biochemical analysis on the fluid that each woman squirted.
- The urine sample from before squirting, the urine sample after squirting and the squirting fluid all contained the same chemicals that indicated it consisted of urine.
- When the researchers looked for “prostatic-specific antigen” in the squirting fluid and urine sample after squirting, they found it for five of the seven women.
They concluded that “that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].
In other words, squirting is mostly pee. Often, it also contains a little bit of extra fluid that comes from the Skene’s gland.
7. What Does Squirting Feel Like?
Scientists and researchers have repeatedly investigated this question, “What does squirting feel like?”
Here are their answers from these studies…
In one study, 85.8% of women found squirting at least a little pleasurable [13].
Another study of 28 women found that their experience of squirting covered a wide range:
- Positive – “Amazement, pride, and a feeling of assessing a sexual superpower” [15]. I think the respondent meant “accessing”
- Neutral – “Feelings of indifference or disconnection from an orgasmic feeling” [15]
- Negative – “Sensations of discomfort or shame” [15]
Another study found:
- Shame & wonder – “Their responses to initial ejaculation experiences varied but can be grouped into two general categories: feelings of humiliation and shame or feelings of exploration and wonder” [14].
- A feeling of release – “Several women reported feeling a sense of release upon ejaculation and congestion when ejaculation did not occur, even though they did orgasm”[14].
- Embarrassment changed to feeling sexy over time – The study found that some women changed their views on squirting over time from negative to positive, “It used to make me feel embarrassed, and I used to try to stop it from happening. Then, I would feel frustrated because my sexual experiences were not fulfilling. But now that I am in a caring relationship and I am older, I enjoy it very much. It makes me feel good that it makes my partner feel good – it is an obvious sign to him that he has pleased me. It makes me feel unique, sexy, and irreplaceable” [14].
A large, comprehensive study of 1,211 women who had squirted found these results:
Pleasurableness of squirting
among women who have
ever squirted% of women [13] Very pleasurable 33.9 Somewhat pleasurable 25.0 A little pleasurable 26.9 Not pleasurable 14.1
We also surveyed readers of the Bad Girls Bible on what squirting feels like for them. Their responses were very similar to the research studies I mentioned above, ranging from incredibly positive to negative.
Here are some of their responses:
“It was during sex. Very much a high in addition to the orgasm itself. My body felt light, airy and mentally I felt as though I were on a drug. Yes, I enjoyed it and would recommend it. Not something one can turn on or off!”
“This was with my husband (now separated). I orgasm first, then squirt. It feels ok but sometimes frustrating”
“It felt like a release. It felt good, sometimes with an orgasm, sometimes without. Yes, I enjoyed it very much. Mentally, I guess it feels good because you know that your body is reacting to you mentally and physically. The first time it happened, I went, “What is this?” Now, when it happens with men, they absolutely love it, can’t get enough of it.”
“Mentally – I love how it makes me feel AND it also gives my man (and past men) a little ego boost when it happens. It’s sexy seeing how proud they are of themselves for making their woman do that. However, expectations should be set for both parties that it isn’t going to happen every single time, AND THAT IS OKAY. It shouldn’t be the goal or the end result but a fun thing that happens when it does.”
“It felt different, and I felt ashamed.”
“More recently with a guy I was dating and he, I think, enjoyed making me squirt with his fingers, more for an ego thing for himself.”
“It has happened during clit stimulation and sex. I squirt most when i feel safe and comfortable with the person i am with. I was worried he wouldn’t like it, because it feels like a lighter liquid then [sic] cum. But he absolutely loves it.”
“Using a really good vibrator, I’ve never felt that good before. It felt like I had to pee. Squirting is amazing.”
“It was part of the release of orgasms during masturbation. I don’t particularly enjoy it, as it’s messy. I’m not sure I’d recommend it to other women.”
“I used my brand new toy for the very first time. I came so hard it felt like I was urinating, but it was not, lol. I became a whole monsoon, I have never experienced that by myself before or with another person in all honesty.”
“I have squirted during sex but not with masturbation. I felt like I was going to pee and then it just popped and gushed everywhere. I would recommend it to other women, and other couples but my current partner fully believes that it’s only pee and has made me feel less than sexy for it”
“I can and have had squirting orgasms both during sex and while masturbating. The feeling is intense and amazing! I feel so good afterward, tears come to my eyes, and I cannot stop smiling. My body feels relaxed, but I also get a burst of energy, and mentally, I feel accomplished and capable! Fierce”
Note: I corrected the spelling and grammar on these responses.
8. Is Squirting An Orgasm?
Short answer – No. Squirting and orgasm are two separate things. But, they often occur together.
Long answer – There’s a lot of research on this.
According to famous sex researcher Beverly Whipple, “Some women have reported experiencing ejaculation with orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and some women have reported experiencing ejaculation without orgasm.” She also states that “in some women G spot stimulation, orgasm, and female ejaculation are related, while in others they are not” [5].
One research study found that “the two do share similarities in terms of occurring in response to various stimulation (e.g., penile-vaginal, manual genital, sex toy), timing (e.g., often at the end of a sexual episode), occasional concurrence with orgasm, and the possibility of providing women a sense of sexual satisfaction and/or sexual pleasure” [13].
Another research paper examining women’s experiences of squirting showed “that ejaculation and orgasm are not simultaneous for some women. Ejaculation occurs at different times in the arousal cycle for different women [14].
In other words:
- Squirting and reaching orgasm are sometimes confused as being the same thing because they both require the same types of stimulation to happen (masturbation/G Spot stimulation/sex) and often happen together.
- Some women squirt without having an orgasm
- Some women orgasm without squirting
Speaking of squirting without orgasm…
In a large, comprehensive study of 1,204 women who had squirted, they found that only 19.8% of women always squirt and orgasm at the same time. :
Concurrency of squirting & orgasm
for women who have ever squirted% of women [13] Always 19.8 Often 28.1 Sometimes 34.8 Never 17.2
9. How Do I Know If I Squirted?
Are the sheets of your bed in any way wet, even a little bit wet?
If yes, you squirted.
For many women, squirting does NOT result in a stream of fluid getting shot out of your urethra/vulva. Instead, you simply gush a little extra fluid.
One study even drew attention to the fact that many squirters simply got wetter than normal, “It just gets really wet, but it’s not like a fountain, it seeps out. I think that’s why I questioned, at the beginning, whether it was a real [squirt].” [15]
10. What Does Squirt Look Like?
A study of 320 women who have squirted were asked what their squirted fluid looks like (*they could give multiple answers):
Color of squirted fluid % of women [16] Clear as water 83.1 White/milky 23.1 Yellow 1.3
11. Why Do I Squirt So Much?
It is likely down to both controllable and uncontrollable circumstances.
Controllable
- If you are very hydrated and have a full bladder before trying to squirt, then it makes sense that you will squirt more.
- Equally, if you are severely dehydrated and have peed right before trying to squirt, it will be harder to squirt as much.
Uncontrollable
Everyone’s body is different. As a result, some women can squirt huge volumes while others struggle more that a few drops.
12. Does Squirting Make Sex Better/More Pleasurable?
Short answer – The vast majority of women who can squirt say it makes sex better [13, 16]. However, between 10.9-14.1% of squirters have negative views on it [13, 16]. 90% of the partners of squirters view it as a positive thing [16].
Long answer – The scientific community has gone in-depth answering this question…
One large, comprehensive study of 1,211 women who had squirted found that 85.8% of women found squirting at least a little pleasurable, and a third of squirters found it “very pleasurable” [13]:
Pleasurableness of squirting
among women who have
ever squirted% of women [13] Very pleasurable 33.9 Somewhat pleasurable 25.0 A little pleasurable 26.9 Not pleasurable 14.1
Another study of 320 squirters found that 78.8% of them view it as enriching their sex life [16] :
Impact of squirting on
participant’s sex life% of women [16] Enrichment 78.8 Don’t care 10.3 Sometimes I wished
I would not ejaculate7.2 I’d rather not ejaculate 3.1 seen as pathological 0.6
In the study of 320 women who have squirted, they were also asked about their partner’s attitude towards squirting. 90% of their partners view squirting as a positive thing [16]:
Partner’s attitude towards squirting % of women [16] Positive 90 Does not know about it 4.4 Indifferent 6 Negative 0.6
14. How Often Do Women Squirt During Sex?
It depends.
One research paper found that 19.0% of squirters reported squirting during 91–100% of their sexual activities, while 14.2% reported squirting during only 1–10% of their sexual activities [16].
In the same paper, researchers asked the respondents how often they squirt. Interestingly, about 20% of squirters do so every day:
How often do women squirt
(who have the ability to squirt)% of women [16] A few times during a week 31.6 A few times during a month 28.4 Daily 19.4 Once a month 8.8 Less than monthly 7.5 Less frequently 4.4
Scientific/statistical answer – For women who can squirt, the median frequency of squirting during sexual activity was 57% (SD +/- 33%) [16].
As the standard deviation is on the high side, this makes it hard to reliably give an exact figure on how often women squirt during sex that applies to every woman who can squirt. In other words…
It depends on the individual.
14. How Much Do Women Squirt?
We found a study of 320 squirters that asked this very question. The results on how much fluid women squirt:
Squirt Volume/Amount (ml) % of women [16] 0.3 12.2 15 18.1 60 29.1 15 15.3 >150 25.3
Note: In the question that asked participants on how much they squirt, there were a number of visual options to choose from – such as tablespoons (15 ml) or a few drops’ (0.3ml), etc
15. Is Female Ejaculation Normal?
Yes. It’s normal and healthy.
Famous researcher Beverly Whipple is clear on this: “It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses” [5].
16. Is Squirting A New Thing? How Long Have We Known About Squirting And Female Ejaculation?
Squirting has been known about for over 2,000 years.
300 B.C. – According to a paper published in the prestigous Journal of Sexual Medicine it was first “depicted about 300 B.C. by Aristotle and in the 2nd century by Galen”[20].
Aristotle – “Aristotle was probably the first to write about female ejaculation” [5].
The Romans & ancient Indians – “The Romans called these fluids liquor vitae, and in ancient India this female erotic fluid was known as a amrita (nectar of the gods)” [5].
4th century China – “In ancient Asia female ejaculation was very well known and mentioned in several Chinese Taoist texts starting in the 4th century” [20].
7th century India – “First mentioned in a 7th century poem, female ejaculation and the Gräfenberg spot (G Spot) are described in detail in most works of the Kāmaśāstra”[20].
16th century Europe – Additionally, “Reinjier De Graaf in the 16th century provided the first scientific description of female ejaculation and was the first to refer to the periurethral glands as the female prostate” [20].
17. I Can Squirt, But I Find It Unenjoyable/Embarrassing. What’s Up With That?
Nothing is wrong. It’s ok to not enjoy some things. In fact, studies on squirting have shown that between 10.9-14.1% of squirters have negative views on it [13, 16].
However, only a tiny amount of people (0.6% or 1 in 167 partners) have a negative view on their partner squirting [16]. In fact, 90% or 9 out of every 10 people view their partner’s ability to squirt as something positive.
It’s also worth keeping in mind what the experts have to say about squirting:
“It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses” [5].
18. Is Coital Incontinence The Same As Squirting & Female Ejaculation?
Nope.
What is coital incontinence? – Coital incontinence is the leaking of urine that can occur during sexual intercourse [21]. It can happen to both women and men, and is common among men who have had a prostatectomy [21].
Why do some women have coital incontinence? – Among women, coital incontinence is usually caused by stress urinary incontinence [3]. In fact, 89.4% of women with stress urinary incontinence experience coital incontinence [3].
Additionally, 33.3% of women with detrusor overactivity experience coital incontinence [3]. Other issues like cervico-urethral hypermobility, sphincter incompetence and urethral instability could also cause coital incontinence [21].
During sex, factors that can contribute to coital incontinence include increased intraabdominal pressure, penile insertion, deep penetration, high arousal, orgasm, and clitoral stimulation [3].
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and how can I squirt with my partner?
Hi Sarah,
A large part of learning how to squirt with your partner is being comfortable with them. I would suggest learning how to make yourself squirt first before learning how to squirt with your partner. Remember, if you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it’s going to be much more difficult to actually do it. A much better approach is to just enjoy the experience whether you squirt or not.
Sean
Hello. I’ve only recently discovered “squirting” to be an actual source of pleasure. Seeing it in porn before I use to think it was fake or water or pee. Only until I watched a “learn to squirt” video and was informed that it’s a real way to ejaculate and feel pleasure, and that the fluid is not pee. Since then I’ve had a strong desire to do it. Not just for myself but for my partner who is extremely turned on by this. I want to fulfill his fantasy but he doesn’t always have the patience for the process. We have tried it and I’ve felt like I really could squirt but it never happens. He tends to get frustrated with the process and finds it very tiresome. Then he gets in a bad mood about it. He thinks that he doesn’t have what it takes to pleasure me and I try to explain to him that, that’s not the case at all. I’m very turned on by him and I really do want to squirt for him, but I haven’t been successful. I try to explain to him that he hasn’t really given me a chance to do it yet. But I don’t think putting pressure on the situation helps either. To the point where we have argued about this. When I think it is very possible if he would only be more patient. It’s discouraging. I just want to fulfill his fantasy. What could I do to be successful at squirting? I refuse to believe that Im just not enough intouch with my sexual self because I am very self aware. I just haven’t had success at it yet. Any helpful tips would be very much appreciated. Thank you for your time.
Oh and P.S. I’m pregnant I don’t know if that henders the situation any or not, but I haven’t been successful, and I really want to be. Thanks again.
First try to squirt on your own, then after you can comfortably squirt on your own, with no outside pressure, try it with your man.
Sean
My man made me squirt so hard by fingering me. It was amazing. Now I want to squirt all the time
I am not sure where to put my factual advice and sincere opinion.
Squirting is not a competition among men because, the phenomenon has just 5% to do with a man.
It has everything to do with the size of the skene gland and which is in majority cases small or even negligible It is not a common opportunity
Am 53 years and have been with 78 women that is at least where I lost the count and I have been lucky to encounter only two squirters
I don’t care what research is out there to comfort or to worry anybody but to say the word “squirters” with all health norms considered diet contributes 50% with consistency with intake of adequate water and the resulting capacity of squirt should be about 300ml or simply a full cocacola bottle per completed session.
I’m in the same situation. I’m five months pregnant so some positions I can’t do. But I’ve never came through vaginal intercourse only clitoral. So in order for me to cum there has to he a vibrator used.
I have the same issue. except twice. ever. and I’m a call girl, my number is in the 500+ range. but only 2 times haves I ever cum from simple penetration. therewasno emotional connection to either one. the first was when I first started working my 10the client ever. was tall ginger that I wasn’t expecting to be hung like a horse. and that c*ck stuffed me, like I hadnt ever been stuffed before, he had me Bent over doggy on the edge of the bed. that was years and years ago and I still fantasize about it. the second time was really odd I thought.he was a totally unattractive, fat balding guy, and I wanted to run outta there. maybe it was the fact that I made myself stay and let him have his way with me, once again it was doggy but this time it was back door stimulation. he wasn’t well endowed by any means but considering how short it was it was sorta thick . best way to describe it is a ‘chode’. he grabbed myhips and I mean the thrusts had to be quite small but he kept thrusting like it bad actually much bigger, entirely pull ing out and reinserting with every thrust so the pace was somewhat quick so I had to be careful not to break rythm or move at all for fear of breaking it or feel liking I got stabbed with a butter knife. I think it was the popping in and out that did it that time. I was so surprised by it I almost immediately crumbled. legs and arms failed me to abrublty I probably shot right down. definitely memorable.
and then there was the time my ex woke me by trying to shove is entire had into my p*ssy. I was probably asleep fkt an hour first. out cold. and then being rudely awoken . I didn’t say anything when I woke, I didn’t stop him I just let him keep trying I was sleeping on my stomache so after a while I curled my knees up under me to I was in fetal position , kind of crouched over with face still buried in the pillow , as I was moaning quite loudly. and at this point had never been fully fisted wrist deep by a man before nor did I think he had any interest in it. but I’ll take what I can get I guess so I didn’t stop him even though he was hurting me I just kept my ass in the air, welcoming the ruination of my cunt. I was crying from the lain if it and he hadn’t even gotten past kuckles. the only time I have squirted abundantly and repeated. it hurt so much but it felt so good at the same time.
the weird thing though is that I don’t necessarily feel myself squirting and I can’t really identify whether I’m going to or not. might also be the other extreme sensations involved that make it hard to place lol. I also had to let everything I was pushing out as to let him in further so maybe that’s what did it. best sexual experience of my life. oh and that was the first day after moving into my new place. I think my new neighbors thought I was being murdered.
B. Holley,
I also always thought squirting was fake when I saw it in porn until my most recent boyfriend. He tried for months to get me to squirt (even though I didn’t realize this was his intent), and eventually it just happened! I was completely surprised, excited, in disbelief, etc. LOL! Since then he has only been able to make it happen a few times, but I think he’s getting the hang of it. I made myself squirt for the first time today which was even better! I have a curved G-Spot vibrator which I don’t think I would have been able to do it without, so I think if you followed the positioning in the tutorial and used the same type of vibrator you might have some luck! I also found it easier sitting in an upright position with my legs in the air… GOOD LUCK!!! : )
This is so true. I managed to squirt for the first time on my own.I didn’t think I could. Can’t wait to try this with my boyfriend!!!
I think excitement,being turned on,being extremely comfortable with your sexuality,and not really trying too hard. My wife and i tried many times but nothing happened i mean she felt the urge but nothing until one day i took her in front of a stand up mirror stood behind her totally undressed slowy then kissed her neck while running my hands all over her naked body while she watched it all in the mirror now by the time i got to touching her vagina her hips were already thrusting like she was trying to grind the air in front of her if it would put pressure on her clit. And then i took my time with her clit and her labia folds until i inserted a finger or 2 into her and my god its the wettest most turned on ive felt her so from there i started playing with her g spot not really intentionally and out of no where while she was having her normal clit stimulated orgasam she must have just let go and it surprised us both when she gushed this amazing clear liquid and from that point on we played all day learning how to do it now shes a pro and so am i. Sometimes i think she prefers that orgasam to the clitoral one.
Thanks Chris!
Hey so I’ve been also wanting to do it for the longest time and wasn’t ready to give up. My boyfriend would just keep hitting the gspot…sometimes i would lise the feeling and we would just go back to foreplay. I thought that i didnt have to do no work in the process however the first time it happened i had to play with my clit. It helped alit and i have to do it every time. Now i can do it 8 times in a hour. Dont give up! Youll get tbere!!!
can u help me I am a single mom and I need to know how to do it I have never had a boyfriend it has been just me and Bethany (my daughter) so I don’t know how to I was raped that’s how I got pregnant with beth
Hey Iam 63 and for the first tine i made mywoman squirt and it
wwa her first too. It took a lit of fingering licking and rubbing but when she came i was so excited i think i ate every bit of her cum awesome just dnjaimeo it
What is the difference between squirting and having an orgasm?
You can orgasm/climax without squirting. You orgasm/climax and squirt. And you can squirt without orgasming/climaxing.
can you orgasm and squirt at the same time
yup!
Sean Jameson please help me!
I want to give my girlfriend the best sex life possible. We have been together for over 2 years now and she’s never masterbatied before. Until recently… I asked her to send me a video of her while she was while I was away and I asked her if she felt more relaxed doing it by her self. And she said yes. It feels like I just got stabbed in the heart is there something I’m doing wrong? I askd her what gets heron the mood and she just says thinking of me. And when I asked her what feels better, if I get her to orgasm or if she does it? She says me but it just feels like she’s just saying that to make me feel better. I don’t know what to do.
Many women feel more relaxed and comfortable when masturbating alone rather than when their partner is there beside them. This is usually because many women (and men) get performance anxiety. The feel like they need to put on a show for their partner, which makes it harder for them to relax and focus on enjoying themselves.
I did my first squirt on my man. I was riding him but leaned back so it was angle up more n rubbed my self. I thought I peed but no lol
Is it normal to squirt from anal sex? My boyfriend and I were having sex and I just about to cum when he took it out and started anal all of a sudden I felt this urge and pressure and I gushed all over….. please help
Sounds normal to me. The only thing to worry about is whether you enjoyed it or not.
I have taught many many women to squirt and helped many men learn to help a woman squirt with a 100% (seriously) success rate. Sometimes it takes a few sessions to get comfortable with it, and while I think pressure and anxiety of insisting squirting happen can be counter-productive, I also think the idea of not focusing at all on the goal of squirting (if that is indeed a goal) is also counter-productive.
Great point Chris
How can I get in contact with you please?
Have learned over the years and some woman are truly amazed when it happens and actually say that it was the best orgasm they ever had. Helps I take my time foreplay and especially being very ddf vasectomy safe if she is helps so so much more that skin on skin hot vest feeling in the world seemed to make the best squirts for a woman tbh being older more secure and experienced
When you squirt is it pee or water ?
It can be pee or ejaculate or a combination of both.
I really want to learn to squirt for my boyfriend as it’s one of his biggest fantasies, I’ve tried masterbating on my own, I get all the build up then go to using my fingers on my g spot. I orgasm while doing it but don’t even cum let alone squirt. please help? I really want to do this for my partner.
Everyone is different so based on experience ask him to turn his hand around and put pressure on the bottom of your vagina. Best if done after you’ve cum from oral sex first. Find the spot opposite your g spot then hit it hard and fast. ?
I have just started squirting with my boyfriend. I’m 44 years old. I absolutely soak the bed and floor but I want to be able to “shoot” my ejaculation instead of it essentially just gushing down. Can I learn to do that?
Possibly, if you can strengthen you Kegel muscles and then squeeze the fluid out.
This is great advice kirsty! It can take me an exhaustive hour to squirt from stimulating the traditional g “spot” on the anterior wall. But regular to little effort on the posterior/bottom wall’s g “region”, only con is I can’t use fingers, so I use a g spot vibrator with a curved head and just flip it upside down, as someone who always has some type of ejaculation from any kind of orgasm, I Def reccomend trying this method.
Bottom wall is an underrated, underdisscussed region;I didn’t think I enjoyed anal until I started thinking of it in terms of posterior wall access, that exploration led me to enjoy it for its own sake.
P. S When you build up but can’t release, is worth trying the pull out technique, some squirt from swiftly pulling out whatever you’re fucking, the sudden emptiness can cause involuntary clenching or unclenching(pushing out or relaxing). I don’t always use this method, but find it noteworthy & useful if I can’t focus my mind when trying for non climax squirting.
Yes! The quick pullout is KEY for me once my g spot is swollen and is what really gets it squirting out in streams. I also find kneeling and leaning back helps.. I have done it in different positions but something about being on my knees and using a dildo with a buildup of stimulation, THEN pull out quickly… mmm yes! And then I can move to using my fingers for clitoral stimulation and continue squirting and sometimes it just gushes out slowly and it just drips down my legs. Which I find equally sexy…
All I can tell you my side as a man I’ll gently rub my wifes clit with a vibrator as I lick her pussy lips than I’ll pull back and insert my index finger and find that juicy G spot I’ll rub it with friction than I’ll suck on her clit at the same it drivers her insane than she squirts all over my face I’d rather finger fuck like this and suck her her clit I love nothing more than her pussy juice all over my face and dam does it taste amazing and just the sent of her pussy juice makes me squirt my jizz all over
Hi Sean,
I’ve learned thanks for that:)
Just one things to add to these useful information.
We need to drink a lotsof water all week to make this happen bcos If our body is not hydrated and we (force) this amount of liquid out from our body it may cause headache or just not happening at all. I started drinking enough water all week to be more hydrated generally and the headache gone after squirting. Maybe this will help others to understand water could come out from our body if it’s enough there and won’t If it’s not our body will keep it (and maybe squirting less or not at all)
Linette
Oh MY GOOD!!!! As a guy I know some of this and was doing the movement but a little bit more info and Gizzz….Made 3 Women Squirt!!!! Multiple times, every next squirt bigger than previous!!!! This guide is so simple yet gives info that rocks!!!! Thank you!!!!
glad I could help
Um when I do it, I’m pretty positive I actually peed? I might have cummed a little but then after I peed? Sooo :/ idk
Peeing a little while you’re cumming is perfectly fine and normal Bree, so don’t worry!
Sean
When I squirt it first feels like an orgasm, but then after a few seconds the gushing feeling just feels like peeing and if I try to stop the flow I usually can, like peeing, although afterwards if I go to the restroom I can still actually pee. I do this every time I orgasm and I am nervous to try with my partner because I don’t want to pee all over him if that is the case.
I have this same story!!! Need answers!!! Lol
Is it possible to squirt without massaging your gspot?
Hi Brittany,
Some people can and some people can’t. It really depends on the person.
Sean
I have tryed alot of things and still I cant. I get that pee feeling then it go away.. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I want to give up. My boyfriend has tryed to and i get that pee feeling and he will tell me to let it go and it go away every time what else can I do…Am starting to feel bad over this..
Hi Trina,
You shouldn’t feel bad about this at all! You’ll actually find it harder to squirt at first when you’re with your partner. The best place to try it is in the shower, when you are alone. This way you can immediately wash away any ejaculate with the shower water.
And remember…some people can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.
Best,
Sean
I tried to squirt but I felt like peeing and try to press my g spot harder but i didn’t squirt… I did all the ways but I didn’t squirt.please help me wat should I do?
Did you get wet at all? Some women don’t squirt a stream, but instead they get very wet, very quickly.
My girlfriend wants me to make her squirt with my tongue. Is this possible and if so How? Thank you!
Hi Ash,
It is possible, but a lot harder if you are not stimulating your G-Spot. So you could experiment with using your fingers (or a toy) to stimulate her G-Spot while using your tongue to massage he clit.
Let me know how it goes!
Sean
Yes. I’ve had my gf squirt when I go down on her. The first time it was a lot and had no taste at all. Now when she does it has a musky odor. I tell myself it’s not pee bit after reading this I think it might be. Either way I’m comfortable with her so she can do as she pleases.
The same thing happens with my husband, because of that he doesn’t like going down
Try with another person
Really? Are you serious?
Yep. I love it
I wish my wife would give it a go. She wants absolutely nothing to do with “squirting”. I’ve tried rubbing her g-spot every which way from here to Sunday. She just doesn’t like it. Says “it hurts”, even if I’m super easy fingering her. I told her I don’t care if she “pee’s on me”. I’d get turned on like crazy. Nothing a women’s body does grosses me out. I love “period sex” and luckily she doesn’t mind it either. I’ve even gone down her when she’s still “light” and lived it. Turned me on because she loved it so much. I just wish she’d try to squirt, but doesn’t look like it’ll ever happen. Oh well. Always porn I guess.
So I never thought I would be able to squirt but I have a new partner and we had a spur of the moment sex experience. We ended up on top of a sink and I don’t know if it was the position, or my arousal from this new position but I became aware that I was getting very wet and he told me to
Look down and I did and I was squirting all over him. It didn’t feel like an orgasm though…. But I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm so I’m not sure if what I did was squirting or not…..
Hi Alex,
Yup, sounds like you squirted. Not everyone orgasms while squirting though.
Sean
Hi baby
the best squirting experience i got from my girlfriend is she was on top of me and after a few drinks i liked her pussie from underneath. she was squatting on me and i licked her very well and when she squirtee i thought she peed on me , but it was a good experience. I want her to do it again. If you also want her, she is available
I squirter on my boyfriends face during 69 n it ruined it. I felt like I peed on his face. He swears it had no taste or smell but it freaked me out. I haven’t tried to do it since cus it was weird. I’m gonna try it on myself first
Just be open and honest with him. I know a lot of guys who really like. Personally I love when my gf squirts all over my faces while continuing to go down on me usually harder and deeper. We’ve even cum at the same exact time a couple time collapsing on each other with heads still between each other’s thighs in pure bliss. What an amazing experience. Communication is the key to great sex. Not surprises. Well not usually;)
My lady want me to help her squirt but am not in support of it, but question is does it have an effect?
Hi, my wife and I have been trying to make her squirt for ages without success and to the point where my fingers start to hurt her. She gets the peeing sensation but that’s it. We put no pressure on eachother with reguard to this subject and I’ve tried all of the above without success. When I suggested this subject to her she was a little apprehensive at first but warmed to the idea after reading a few forums. It’s ended up where I’ve been stimulating her g spot for over an hour, have an aching arm, very wet fingers, lost my and failed miserably at getting the desired result. I can sometimes feel the inside of her vagina swelling, almost forcing my fingers out but the the upper wall eventually seems to move away from my fingers. She always empties her bladder before we try but always has to visit the bathroom when we are finished. What could we be doing wrong? Could I be being too rough inside her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’ve had other partners before my wife who I could make squirt through g spot stimulation with ease so I don’t think it’s what I’m doing though I’m not 100% sure.
Hi Chris,
The first thing I would do her is get your wife to try it on her own. It’s more likely that she knows the exact buttons to push to bring herself to the point of squirting. Then once she can do it on her own, get her to show you exactly what she did. However do keep in mind that not all women have the ability to squirt unfortunately.
Best,
Sean
I’ve also found that if you press down on your pelvis with your other hand it helps to “push” your g-spot towards your fingers etc and makes it easier to squirt. My fiance is the only man who has ever been able to make me cum or squirt. It’s definitely an amazing feeling. I only found this article bc I was trying to find out how to squirt during intercourse and not just while he was fingering me. This article has been a great tutorial for us and our sex life is even more amazing than it already was and it was really really fucking amazing before. Thanks for your help.
I have found the use of Ben Wa balls very helpful in learning to isolate the necessary pelvic muscles to release the fluid. They are also very helpful in helping to stimulate and engorge the g spot.
Here’s how: Begin by arousing your Vagina to the point where your vulva are pink and engorged and your clit is erect and sensitive. Then stop self arousal and insert both balls deep into the vagina. You will feel the pressure of them against your swollen g spot when placement is correct. Then use your fingers to jiggle the balls against your g spot. This feel good fairly fast. Soon you’ll feel the urge to pre but keep jiggling the balls and don’t fight it, this is good. When the orgasm contractions begin, spread your legs wide and bear down pushing against the balls, try to push them out. This is the set of muscles needed to release the fluid. You should squirt.
Damn! Gonna have to get some of those balls and try it.
Maybe youre trying too hard or you just don’t turn her on. Move on and find another partner that won’t take as much effort.
The guy, Chris was talking about his wife! That’s a pretty shoddy thing to say. I’m wondering if you are married yet, or even in a serious relationship.
Maybe Chris’ wife should be the one to move on. It could be that he just doesn’t do the trick for her and she needs a real man to make her feel good.
…not being able to squirt shouldnt be the end of a relationship. Dickwad
That’s not the right thing to tell someone (move on and find different partner ),as stated it takes patience and understanding of your own body which most women are not taught growing up ,so once grown no matter how comfortable they have become with themselves as adults that remains a area of uncomfortablilty in the subconscious .
Only a Jezebel type would say such a thing. You obviously know nothing about a REAL relationship…he’s MARRIED and I’m sure he doesn’t want to leave her over a squirt!!
Sounds like she’s not 100% comfy. It’s not uncomfortableness with you, but uncomfortableness with the “pee factor” if it happens. Plus if a woman is too up in her own head she could easily loose any orgasmic feeling. G spot orgasms are tricky. I’ve had several with two guys but at that moment I’m in a true horny hot blissful state. I can also make myself squirt and it’s pretty remarkable. It’s like my body tingles all over and I can’t think. When the fluid comes out I don’t even realize at first. Don’t get discouraged. Just tell your lover how much you want to make her feel good before the sex (maybe during foreplay), and don’t speak repetitively during, “I wanna make you squirt.” That’s too much presure on a woman. Keep practicing and have fun!!
Wow, love your comment.. Thank you
Comfort is crucial my husband made me pee on him to show me he didnt mind …its not that he likes pee but he wanted to show me it the pee meant nothing to him when it came to pleasing me….. After that i tried it by myself a few times then we had some crazy passionate sex and the squirting didnt stop i was amazed at what he made me do we were both soaked……after you make her truely comfortable it will happen and Some advice lay down some towels just incase
He have a brother? Lol
Hi, I’ve read your advice and have been trying to make myself squirt all night long, but I’ve had no such luck of actually making it happen. I’ve rubbed on my clit and kept myself from coming, and then found my g-spot and fingered it, but I’ve only had a regular orgasm. No squirting here. Maybe you could come over and do it for me, lol, seriously though, please help! Thanks.
Hi Eva,
The key is not to be ‘outcome dependent’. In other words, try not to focus on squirting. Rather, focus on just having a good time, while doing the things that will help to increase the chances of you squirting. You should feel a small amount of pressure building up when you stimulate your G Spot (very similar to the feeling of needing to pee).
Often you need to apply quite a bit of force to your G Spot to achieve this. Don’t forget to experiment with different techniques and even toys. And finally, don’t forget that some women simply can’t squirt, but it’s really not a big deal
Sean
Try with fingers in ur ass too… That’ll help
I love my ass being handled and teased to get me so aroused, not necessarily anal but a finger always feels amazing! I quite honestly believe that i am unable to squirt yet i manage to have some extremely intense orgasms that i am more than satisfied without a mess
Absolutely! I was about to point that out, then I seen your comment. My first squirt experience was from anal sex.
Maybe you need to move on and find another partner that won’t take that much effort. Take your own advice
I have always squirted when masturbating but just in the past year or so started doing it while having sex with my hubby. He loves it. But I have trouble doing so during oral. Any advice?
Hi Megan,
Squirting is almost always a result of G Spot and/or vaginal stimulation. When your man is going down on you, he will mostly be stimulating your clitoris. While squirting from clitoral stimulation is possible, it’s much less likely than occur than from penis in vagina (PIV) sex.
The other night I was playing with my clit with my fingers to make myself orgasm and I could feel myself getting ready to squirt, and I hadn’t done any penetration into my pussy at all, and when I made myself have an orgasm I then let myself squirt, without penetration. That was the first time I squirted without penetration of any kind, and surely will NOT be the last time! 🙂
Hello there! My problem seems to actually be the opposite of most of these other posts. My boyfriend, and previous boyfriends have been able to make me squirt, no problem. The technique seems to be to finger me really hard, in an upward motion over and over. I wouldn’t consider it rubbing or pressing, it’s more like slamming. Sorry if that is graphic but it gets the job done. Anyway, now my boyfriend is away on an extended trip and I can’t get myself to squirt no matter how much I try. I think my fingers are too short, and I don’t have the arm strength to hit my gspot that hard? I also used a dildo but that didn’t work for me either. I’m able to have a gspot orgasm but it doesn’t squirt. Any advice?
Hi Cici,
Try using a dildo, but…instead of using it with with you arm lying over your stomach, try putting your arm behind your back to use the dildo. This will make it much easier to provide yourself with a lot of pressure on your G Spot area and hence make squirting a lot easier.
Best,
Sean
I have never had a squirting orgasm i am trying i dont know if im doing it right or what but it just isnt happening.my boyfriend and i wanna experiance this together ive had really powerfull orgasms trying so i think i am doin somethin right i just need advice please help
Hi Nicole,
Don’t focus too much on squirting as the last thing you want to do is put pressure on yourself (it will just make it harder to squirt in the long run). It sounds like you are already doing well and to be honest, I suggest that you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Please keep in mind that some women can squirt and some can’t, not everyone can.
Sean
Can you squirt by rubbing your pussy?
Yes, it’s possible, but just not that common.
Hy, my girlfriend really want to be squirt…. and i tried alot, by finger, by toung etc….. this time i will try my best to get her squirt. give me some tips for that and also tell me what is actually squirting material… can it harm my dick like periods blood??
Did you read this article at all?
No doubt… Sometimes I wonder what the hell people are looking at, because it can’t be the same, pretty simple to follow advice I’m seeing.??
How the hell can period blood harm your dick. You really must be thick if you believe that Should you even be having sex I wonder
Hi. I’ve been trying to squirt for some time. I’ve read a lot about how to do it but never really succeeded. I was perfectly relaxed and I had the urge to pee but nothing. I always empty my bladder before masturbation and sex. No squirting but the need to visit the bathroom after that. Is there something wrong?
Hi Bubbles,
Honestly you sound completely normal 🙂 Remember that some people can squirt very easily, while others have much more difficulty. Keep trying and just focus on what feels good NOT on what you think will make you squirt. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it really helps.
Sean
Like I commented on another person’s post….try to push on your pelvis and apply there with your free hand. It seems to help push your g-spot towards your fingers more and make it easier to squirt. Good luck.
There is something called reflux, a lot of women say that they have urinated before sex and get up multiple times to pee during sex, they are refluxing ejaclate into their bladder. I did this my entire life then met a man who I became a geyser with! A lot is about comfort level, trust and more than anything else, technique. Now I can make myself squirt but it still is tough for me to do it with my present lover and I believe it is because I don’t feel the intimacy I’ve felt with others. Most importantly, we women get freaked out when the urge to pee comes, you have to give birth to your orgasm…… meaning, let it go and it will come, you can push it out or just greatly relax and it will flow.
Happy Squirting ! ????
Hi sean i came once for my fiancee and none of my past bfs couldnt make me cum or squirt i really want to squirt for him again without a dildo and i practice by myself alot lately and i have my hood pierced what else can we try ? Please help please send to email thank you
Just answered 🙂
None of my past bfs could make me cum or squirt. Same question as first comment
Test, try, experiment and get to know your own body first. This way you can discover what you need to feel in order to cum or squirt without the pressure of having your man there. But remember, some women just can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.
Best,
Sean
Thank you sean i know i can squirt cause i did it already but with a toy and my fiancee was going fast and hard, but it kills his arm cause it takes me forever to let myself go. Ugh i want to cum with him ,
Hi Tiffany,
Don’t worry, it just takes time to get relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt easily for a lot of women. Just give it time and enjoy the process.
Warning: If you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it actually going to be much harder to do it. Just focus on what’s pleasurable and stop keeping track of time.
Best,
Sean
When I masturbate/finger, i always do it alone. WHen i do it, im really turned on, the first time i thought i squirt, it looked like i peed. and it smelt like it to. should i go to the bathroom before i masturbate? I also haven’t orgasmed. I want to be able to squirt for my bf when we first have sex.
Hi Jessi,
Ideally , you should go to the bathroom both before and after masturbation/sex.
Sean
It felt great thanks for the tips
Hello. Im a 29 yr old female I don’t know if that makes any difference. I’m also on the heavier side I’m 5’2 and weigh inn at 185lbs on my way to a healthier me. I’ve been trying to squirt by myself I want to surprise my BF. I know we would both love it. I’ve tried my finger and stimulating my G spot but I only have my usual orgasm as well as stimulating my clitoris and again I only have my usual orgasim I’ve never had an issue with having an orgasim wether through oral, self or penetration so now on to my new venture of squirting and proving to be quiet a challenge. Any advice?
Hi Jessica,
The most important thing is to make sure you are not putting pressure on yourself to perform. Putting pressure on yourself is completely counter-productive. Just keep doing what you’re doing, but make sure to focus on what feels most pleasurable, enjoying it, without expecting to get anything from it. In time, you will slowly discover nuances to your technique which will bring you closer and closer to squirting.
Sean
I followed your advice. You’re right about feeling like you have to pee. I couldn’t believe I was doing it. Thank you so much! 🙂
Hi im drea,
I have tried for the longest to make myself squirt but just dont understand how to do it. Is it a way to do it without using fingers?
So I am able to squirt with my partner but not by myself. I don’t really feel comfortable fingering myself and when I do squirt he’s usually in very deep and I also like when he puts it in my ass, huge turn on!!!!
A couple years ago I squirted for the first time but never knew how to make it happen again but then a couple days ago while my boyfriend was on top I noticed that it was happening again so of course my boyfriend being the kinky guy he is wanted to see it so we did it from behind and I then proceeded to squirt over ten times it was amazing now I’m able to do it all the time just not .by myself
Hi,
im from Spain and sorry if i write something wrong 🙂
I would like to ask you about squirting. Actually i did it few days ago and yesterday too, but I’ve noticed that i do it only after a few orgasams. I do everything what you wrote and i feel the peeing feling very hard but nothing happens when i cum. Then i go for another one after a second or two and another and it happens. I would like to try it with my boyfriend but it would be so stupid when he would try so hard and nothing would happen. 🙁 Am i doing something wrong or.. pls help. Thanks 🙂
Hi Nadia, sounds like you are doing everything right.
Sean
Hello Sean,
This is more for the ladies not really a question. So I am a man that has been very successful with making my girlfriends past and present squirt. The most important thing ladies is to relax. I know not every woman can squirt but chances are your not one of them. And if you can make your self squirt but your partner can’t don’t get upset. Coach him until he gets it right. As a man myself I can full admit it took lots of practices and studying. Yes studying the female body( which includes reading ) to fully understand how and where to stimulate. So in conclusion fully relax and either alone or with a partner, do what feels best for you. No one knows your body like you do and don’t be afraid to guide your partner. Happy squirting.
I’ve never tried this on my own, just with my boyfriend and I started to feel that pee- sensation but I’m not sure to what point of that feeling I should try and let it go. Does the body release it on its own? Or do I have to push it out? Also it seems like every time I get close to that feeling my boyfriend has to stop because his arm hurts and then he’ll go back to doing it but its like starting all over again to get back to that feeling. I feel like I’ll never succeed and letting my boyfriend down
Try pushing
Hey when I masterbate. . I only rub my clip but after a while it hurts it raw but i still wanna keep going is there a way not to stop but stop the pain
Try using lube and a vibrator
The past few weeks my hubby and I have been trying to get me to squirt. We’ve done tons of research on the many methods, but I am having one issue… having myself actually “let go” and squirt. I’ve gotten to the “gotta pee” stage handfuls of times, I just can’t get over that fence. I’ve even tried thinking about “peeing” to get it to release… and we are getting no results. But afterwards I have to pee like a rushing race horse.. HELP ME!
Hi Renee,
Try it in the shower and just go for it. This way if you do think you’ll pee (which you won’t) it will all be washed away by the shower immediately. Additionally, you’ll find it much easier to do it alone first before trying to do it with your man.
Sean
Is it normal to squirt a little bit the first time? Do I eventually squirt more after some practice?
Absolutely, it’s normal. Different people squirt different amounts.
Does it get easier to squirt the more you do it? is it like something you get better at by practice?
Hi Sara,
Yep, this is usually the case.
Sean
When I squirt it sometimes smells like I peed and sometimes it is yellow like pee. Did I squirt or no?
Hi Sky,
Sometimes your ejaculate can mix with a small amount of urine. Try peeing right before you get down to sexy times to help prevent it from happening again.
Sean
Hi Sean,
Okay so I masturbate I feel it i I let loose and I feel that great feeling but I do not cum or get extremely wet. When I keep going it’s that feeling that I just can’t continue because it feels idk it feels weird and my body twitches more but I can’t keep going, am I suppose to keep going?
You could be getting this feeling because you are stimulating your clitoris. If so, it’s totally natural and nothing to be worried about.
Hi,
I’ve squirted once with a past partner in a big way while having sex – I consider it a random event. However my current partner wants me to squirt for him and I’m finding it hard to do. I feel really pressured to squirt, I do get a peeing sensation sometimes. I think I occasionally squirt a little but not the big gush that he wants. I’ve never really tried to squirt on my own and I’m finding it harder and harder to do with my partner – squirting has become an issue in our sexual relationship because it’s something he needs in order to be sexually satisfied. I love our sex life and want to find a way to do it. We have tried fingering, him going down on me orally and stimulation of both my clit and G spot. I’m not even sure I can do it because I feel like I it’s not possible. Do you have any advice?
Hi Lola,
The first thing to understand that in order to squirt, you need to be relaxed. So talk to your man about it. If you feel pressured, it’s going to be harder and harder for you to squirt because you won’t be relaxed. The less pressure you are under, the better.
Next, you may want to do a little experimentation on your own to figure out exactly what to do to bring yourself closer and closer.
Sean
hey ,
i can squirt as in feeling it and letting go and having wet spots on the bed but i wud like to know the technique to have it more of the water fountain “porn star” squirt
Hi Brittany,
To make it appear more like a water fountain, try “pushing” as you squirt. The pushing feeling is very similar to the feeling of pushing out urine when you pee.
Sean
I too have this problem. I feel it building and building and I can feel some squirt come when I’m fingering myself but it doesn’t gush or splash out. I feel as though it’s about to explode but then it doesnt. How can I achieve this final step?
Sean,
Just read ur article and found it very detailed, THANK U! I TRIED last night w/ my man on the phone w/ me- I did get that peeing sensation! What I did was I was on my back, I used my strong arm to rub my clit and my left hand (index n middle fingers bc I heard use 2) to go as fast as I could n as hard as I could press on it but found my arm getting tired….I felt like I was under pressure (just a tad tho) bc I wanna squirt so bad! I tried to relax as much as I could. The peeing sensation lasted quite a while! I did actually finish but what I FORGOT to do was push when I came….is there a particular moment when I’m supposed to push? Oh n I did use lube I made sure of that bc I watched a video that said to do that- I’m def. Gonna TRY again tonight bc I wanna squirt so bad like I said! I just hope I’m not 1/10 of the percentage that CANT DO IT! I read 99.9% even ALL women CAN! Can u give me ANY feedback on this plz- much appreciated
Kelly
Also Idk if I actually squirted before….just thought I’d tell u that an ex of mine asked me if I had peed- he actually started going down on me and then finished inside me- but when we finished I remember him asking me if I peed- I laughed n said no haha there was a huge puddle tho! Was this possibly squirting?!
It sounds like it was squirting, I’m 99% sure it was.
I actually did it 2x last night w/ my man (sorry I commented 2x prior to this as well) and the 2nd time was much more powerful…felt like I wanted to scream/moan but I didn’t (not only 1 in house lol) it felt awesome but I didn’t push like I said in 1st comment was I there? But just had to push?
I’ve never squirted before… But I tried tonight and maybe I sound really dumb but does it make a sound? Or did I pee?!
Some women gush instead of actually squirting. If the sounds you made was ‘squelching’, then you were most likely gushing/squirting.
This has really helped a lot…before i could absoutely not squirt at all…I’ve tried so many things but nothing at all helped so i read this article and its no lie…all i had to do was really really false my self and think more of the pleasure and not so much focus on squirting…but then i started getting that peeing feeling but i knew not to worry…i had the peeing feeling for about 15min straight and i was wondering Why i wasn’t Squirting yet but then i started to think that ishould push it out…i started to Squirt little by little bit then it came out so fast and so much…I’m so happy that i can squirt now But now i gotta figure out how to squirt with my partner….Thank you so much!!!! Great Advice!!!!
Glad I could help!
Sean
Okay so my husband and I have started experimenting with trying to get me to “squirt” Every single thing he’s doing feels good now. Before, it was a little painful on my bones with his knuckles but we’ve found that laying on my stomach is the easiest, most comfortable way for me. How in the world am I supposed to relax and orgasm!? Am I the only one whose body completely siezes up and spases out? I don’t know how to release when it feels so good! I also am so let down when it doesn’t happen! I truly try so hard not to even worry about the outcome but I know that’s what my husband is looking for. Will it just happen like a regular orgasm or am I supposed to push it out? Ugh…it’s so frustrating
Here’s a bit of advice: To help you relax, you can try a glass of wine. Others find that weed can help too.
When you feel the pressure build inside you, push out…even if it feels slightly like peeing.
I made my wife squirt for the first time she’s 31 29 I was surprised at first fire it up really liking ItI recommend this to everybody I wanted to do it all the time now trying to learn how to make her do it again
Im sure you have answered this but I seriously am terrified that I am going to pee instead of squirt. I have never squirted but my bf said that last night he felt it building and that I almost did….I didn’t feel close to orgasm which I know is normal but still totally freaked out that I will pee instead. OMG I would be so embarrassed…..I do go to the bathroom before and after but still……any suggestions….
Try it in the shower, so if you do happen to somehow pee (unlikely), then you don’t have to worry about a mess.
Sean
Hi Heather. I know it really feels like you but trust me, you are not going to pee! This feeling is completely normal and I felt it for months before i learnt how to squirt. You need to relax and know that you are not going to pee. And most importantly, you need to breathe, slowly and deeply, don’t expect to squirt, just enjoy the feeling and breathe. My boyfriend tried to make me squirt, it took months, but eventually he did it. I didn’t try and do it myself first. After the first time, it stopped feeling like I was going to pee. Now, my boyfriend can touch me and within a minute I am squirting, it’s ridiculous and soooo good. And I can just keep squirting, 10, 15 times in one session. Keep at it, take your time, don’t put yourselves under pressure, just enjoy each other and breathe. If it happens, wonderful! If it doesn’t, don’t let it spoil anything, just keep trying. Good luck
Trying to get my wife to squirt and I understand what everyone is sying but can her cum be too thick to squirt ?
It seems like she would but it flows like lava rather then a guyser
Sounds perfectly normal, not everyone is a squirter. Many gush and never squirt.
:):):):)thanks
s,i tried this method..i feel peeing,,but there is no squirting .plz i need wny i hapend?
Make sure to read the end of the end of the article where I explain that the ‘need to pee’ feeling is totally normal. The main reason is because your bladder is right beside your G Spot.
I’ve been trying to squirt so bad and I can’t I haven’t the whole time throughout matrubating I’m always horny but yet I mastrubate and don’t squirt even though I really want to please could someone help
Have you felt “close” to squirting yet?
thankz a lot…my partner was hapy..i can make squirt…
Hi
I’ve tried your technique and it felt like it was working until it was time for me to cum. Nothing happened as far as ejaculating but I had a helluva orgasm. I was dating this guy and he have made me squirt like twice. I’ve also done it a few times with another partner but as of late I’ve been unable to do so. I really would like to get that feeling again cause I had the best orgasm of my life. I’ve been relaxed and I’ve followed your directives but, I have been unsuccessful. Please help!!
Hi Lin,
You’d be surprised at just how much pressure some women need to apply in order to squirt. You may want to try applying some more pressure…or use something like a dildo if it’s too awkward and/or difficult.
Enjoy!
Sean
I’m pretty sure I did it… is it controllable? You k ow, when it happens.
My experience with squirting is when I am playing with my clitoris while having anal sex. I feel a tremendous pressure building inside me and then I orgasm and squirt out a lot of clear fluid, usually enough to leave a big wet puddle in the bed. I doesn’t smell like urine or look like it. It’s clear to slightly milky and has no odor.
I think that your readers should be aware that some of the squirting you see in some porn, IS actually urine. Some years back, squirting was sort of an unknown, an urban legend type thing. Many people didn’t know if it was real or not, nor how to do it. But the porn industry was glad to fake it, if it’d sell videos.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fan of squirting, I’ve had several partners do it, and only one who was unable to squirt.
But even with women who squirt easily and often, it still doesn’t always happen. And when it does, sometimes it’ll just be a little splash, sometimes a gusher 🙂
Don’t be discouraged if you don’t squirt like a porn star! I don’t have a dick like a porn star either, haha!
I forgot to give you the techniques that work best for me!
I have been able to make several women squirt pretty consistently. Here’s what works for me (them)
First, have a few orgasms! Get your body all full of sex hormones. Squirting is intense. Once you’re worn out a little, and getting to that next orgasm takes some time, you’ll probably be more successful. This is related to how the article above says to build up for 5 to 20 minutes. A quickie, rub-one-out orgasm probably won’t get you squirting.
Two things work best for me. First is woman on top, traditional cowgirl position. Her kneeling astride me. The difference is, I grab her hips and slide her back and forth against me, with my dick as far inside as it reaches. This makes her clit rub against my public bone, and causes the shift of my penis to rub against the roof of her vagina/her G-spot.
It’s fun for me, because I end up covered in her cum, all wet, while she usually collapses on top of me.
It’s a pretty satisfying feeling to exhaust a woman like that 🙂
The other way that works best is, use your hand. She lays on her back, you kneel beside her. Use your strong hand, insert your middle and ring fingers in her all the way, so that the heel of your Palm is on her clit and your hand cups her pussy. Your forefinger and pinky extend down alongside, out the way. Then you curl those 2 fingers inside her to rub against her G-spot, and rapidly and forcefully rub her clit and pump the fingers. Generally, you’re not pulling the fingers in and out more than a little bit. More just rubbing.
Your hand is doing the job of a vibrator, not a dick.
It’s harder to explain than it is to do.
You can see this technique pretty frequently on videos from kink.com, but their videos aren’t for everyone, being mostly oriented to bondage and the like.
Good luck and happy squirting!!
Awesome, thanks for sharing!
How do I squirt without anything to do with Vaginal penetration?
Hi Jamie,
The short answer is that many women can’t without vaginal penetration. However, if you can get yourself super turned on while masturbating and firmly press down on the lower part of your stomach while masturbating, then you are going to find it easier and it will put pressure on your Skene’s gland, making it more likely to happen.
Hello Sean,
Just wondering…. this is really embaressing but can you lose your virginity from masturbation?
I squirt like mad! I don’t even have to be touching myself or having sex. I love to suck cock. This guy and the last one have me squirting so much and so many times each session that I have to put a towel between my legs. I soak it completely and I squeeze my legs together so tight that I have bruises on my thighs. I can make myself squirt just thinking about it. None of this happened until I was 63. I’m almost 68 and I have to wash my sheets three times a week. Love it!
Will I be able to cum my first having sex.
Is there a way to do it without it hurting the first?
Hi Tina,
The answer to both questions is “It depends”. Some people cum during their first time and others don’t. A key to cumming is making sure that you are completely relaxed. Whether or not it hurts depends on your man’s size and your size too. A key to preventing excessive discomfort is making sure that he takes is slow at first and also using a good condom compatible lube if you need extra lubrication.
Sean
Hi I’m new to having sex and I really want to orgasm. I think ive gotten close but I’m not sure. Any advice on how to reach an orgasm. Please respond to email, thanks
Hi Alexis,
Sure, try out some of these clitoral stimulation techniques and these tips on finding and stimulating your G Spot. Once you know how to very easily bring yourself to orgasm, then it’s time to try it with your man. He may also learn a thing or 2 by having a read of these articles.
Sean
Hi 😀
So, I’d say I’m an ‘experienced’ squirter… been naturally happening since the first time I discovered masturbation.
Unfortunately, with young uneducated/ inexperienced men… this can be very embarrassing trying to convince them you didn’t just piss everywhere lol.
With today’s porn, I’m sure all the kids are trying it lol – but it lead me to hold back and not enjoy sex with a partner.
When I met my husband, the first time we made love – he commanded I cover him in squirt hovering over his face…. JACKPOT! lol
Now to my question!
1. Girls in porn, do they just drink mass amounts of water and actually pee to get that massive stream with so much force? I’m a bit envious of them, it feels amazing when I squirt hard… but I bet squirting like that is earth moving!
2. I can’t squirt while my husband is penetrating me vaginally – we have the pull out and squirt mastered, and I can squirt during anal penetration, but I’d love to feel him inside of me while I squirt – any suggestions?
Hi Myranda,
1. I’m guessing they drink a lot of water, but I’m guessing that’s not the only thing. I’m sure it’s just a quirk in their physiology that allows them to squirt so hard.
2. He should first try to make you squirt using only his fingers (and keeping them in there while you are squirting). Then once you can reliably squirt this way, you should start trying it when he’s inside of you. At first it may feel like you need to ‘push’ and force yourself to squirt, but eventually it should come more naturally.
This is a little awkward to ask given the time that’s passed since this article was published.
When I squirt while using my toy I have to stop and re-apply lube before I can keep going or my toy will get stuck in me. Will this happen if I squirt during sex?
Jessica, this shouldn’t be a problem during sex.
Here I am again!
😀
If any of you love anal as much as I do, this may be the golden ticket!
I always find that I cum harder and for longer during anal, and almost always squirt, but FINALLY I was able to have the ‘porn star’ cover the walls experience I’ve been waiting for.
A few shots of patron, a hot date with my husband teasing me all night, and finally the hitachi on my clit and 4 fingers in my ass… I hit the wall across from my bed with the most insane squirt of my life!
Maybe someone here will give it a go and do the same!
Cheers to trying 🙂
Hi
I have been trying to squirt forever with no luck. I read your article and used a gspot dildo and it finally happened!
Thank you!!! 🙂
When I try this alone as I feel the pressure start I stand up and it gushes out. Is this normal?
Yup, sounds totally normal to me Tresa
I read all the information and thank you I really appreciate it!
So I have regular, incredible sex with my boyfriend and we both want me to squirt. Every time we are having sex I find myself getting to the point where I have to pee and I try pushing to let it begin but it’s like it’s blocked. I was wondering, should my boyfriend pull out to help release the flow of the squirt/gush? I wasn’t sure if his penis was kind of blocking it from happening. And just to add he is quite sizable in length and girth – I wasn’t sure if that was a factor.
Please let me know and thank you again!
Hi Claire, yes he should try pulling out.
During sex I have no problem squirting but the fluid will only come out if he pulls his penis out for a few seconds.why can’t I squirt while his penis is in me???
A few students have emailed me about this and I wish I had an answer, but I unfortunately don’t.
I always use the bathroom before sex or masturbation. When I feel the urge to pee I stop and run to the bathroom and I actually pee. I’ve done this multiple times during sexual activity. It’s nerve wrecking. How is this possible on an empty bladder? And how can I let go if I know I can pee during arousal?
Try having sex in the shower and just go ahead and “release” when you feel like peeing. You should find that it’s mostly ejaculate that’s built up.
Sean
When me and my wife have sex i would like to make her squrit. But it takes time and she gets impatient So i goahed and finish. But when im done i have the feeling that im cummin but nothing comes out could this be to the fact that from 14 to 18 i would jackoff 3 and 4 times a day and now that im 30 i have to do it at least once a day even if i know that me and my wife will have sex later that night. I need answers please help
Try stopping masturbation for a few weeks and see if it improves
I had some experience with squirting in my former relationship, now I’m in a new relationship were the sex is much more intense, I squirt over and over every time, to the point I feel exhausted, then I have a huge mess to clean up afterwards. I’m not complaining, because it is earth shattering, but at the same time I miss the days that an orgasm was fulfilling, its a lot less messy. My question is if I do enough kagel exercises or use ben-wa balls can get to the point were I can control when it happens?
Hi ST, from talking with students, squirting is one of those things that they have trouble controlling. This includes making it happen in the first place as well as preventing it.
Sean
P.S. Use towels!
im sure ive squirted before but i feel like it smells like urine and it makes me wonder if i peed or squirted, help?
does it have a smell ?
Sometimes it’s pee, other times it’s just ejaculate, usually it’s a combination of both.
No odor to squirt. I did not know what it was the first time but determined it was not pee because of lack of smell. I asked my doctor and she informed me it was a female ejaculation.
I had never heard about squirting up until about a year ago I have read on it researched it and very much want to try it and succeedI have done the techniques that have been shown and said to do and have not accomplished it which is very frustrating and I find that I get very angry I have had a complete hysterectomy does that have anything to do with the fact that I have not been able to accomplish this any help would be great
Hi Tina, yes, having a hysterectomy could have had an effect on your ability to squirt. Quick question, do you get wet when you are aroused?
I have had a hysterectomy. I still can squirt so that is not the problem.
It may be the issue with her specifically though, the ability to squirt is dependent on so many different things with different people.
I have been experimenting more with playing with myself then I ever have. I wish I would have started it when I was younger!
Reading all this is helpful but still worried I am peeing. I get to the squirt point (I think) with a dildo and clit playing then use the vibrating dildo on my clit and there it goes. I think it has happened during sex too. I have never had it from g-spot. Puddle can be large had to change sheets. Am I peeing???
Hi
I am having problems squirting.
You see everytime I get fingered the whole gushing and fluid is there as you can hear the noise but whenever I try and push it out nothing comes out yet Im having orgasms and hearing the whole gushing and fluid noises. Can anyone help me on what to do for it to actually come out
Jennifer, this sounds about right. Not everyone squirts like a fountain, many just gush like it sounds you do.
I think we women get caught up on the word “squirt” when it is often times not actually a visible projectile that happens. If you are feeling the fluid and gushing, your body is technically obtaining the definition of a squirt, it’s just not a fountain, like porn has convinced us (and our partners) it needs to be. Next time try having your partner slowly pull out at the same time you use the muscles and action you would as if you were trying to push him out. You should see a bit of projection at that point. If not…it’s no big deal. Enjoy the practice anyway! 🙂
wow showed my boyfriend this and we just did it and woo
We had sex right after as well in all the positions thank you sooo hutch
Hi Sean,
I’m having issues with this. I have never been able to masterbate, touching myself gives me no pleasure what-so-all. The only orgasms, the only pleasure I feel is when my fiance does it. He wants me to squirt for him, and I want to. But if I can’t bring myself to do it, how is he going to be able to? I’m not as sensitive as other women, I’ve already figured that out. Things that works for others, isn’t always easy for me. I also understand that not everyone CAN do it… but do you have any more tips that might help us? I don’t use toys, I don’t like the idea. And again, doing it myself gives me no pleasure at all. Any more help would be greatly appreciated!
Hi Alyssa,
Like I say, if you want to squirt with your man, then you need to comfortably learn how to do it yourself. If you can’t do it yourself, then it’s really not that much of a big deal, there are plenty of other things that you can enjoy with your man. The key is communicating this to your man. The problem is when your man starts to pressure you…it’s a recipe for you having even less fun.
Sean
Alyssa, I think you are going to have to start with getting more comfortable with your own body. You said at first you are unable to bring yourself to orgasm by masterbation but later said you can’t being yourself to actually self pleasure. I think those two things are 100% related. If you aren’t comfortable touching yourself, you aren’t relaxed enough to climax. Without being relaxed, you aren’t going to be able to squirt either. Try getting comfortable with self pleasure first, even if it is just trying it WITH your partner watching or even helping. I think maintaining that comfort level with yourself is going to go a LONG way in improving your sex life and your ability to squirt in the long run. Good Luck! Happy Practicing! 🙂
I’ve been reading the comments and it sounds like many of the women are putting to much pressure on themselves to squirt. Several years ago after watching porn “squirting 101” I thought I would give it a try with the wife and to my surprise it worked. Now it’s a regular part of our sex life it does make for messy sheets but it’s well worth it. I’ve learned for us it’s not a foreplay kind of thing my wife enjoys it during a good session or after I finish. As a guy once you have the tecnique down its actually very easy to do. The wife says you have to get over the fear of pee feeling, for her it helps to be really turned on. Ladies get your partner to do some research, there’s lots of Internet stuff out there on the subject. Relax and have a good time don’t plan on doing it, just do it. As a bonus once it happens the wife said it seems to be easier to do. I’ve been able to make here gush multiple times in a row the highest count was 7 and she beg me to stop cause she thought she was going to pass out. Have fun it’s sex .
Thanks for the tips Mike!
Hi there, I know it sounds weird but I every time I try fingering myself, I feel like I’m about a reach an orgasm and the pleasure that I was feeling just disappears. Is this normal? And do you have and tips for me to reach an orgasim using my fingers
If you find that you are experiencing a huge amount of pleasure followed by that feeling disappearing, then it sounds like you are reaching orgasm. You can learn some great fingering tips in this guide.
What if your vagina is really tight
I need help sean
You could have a condition called vaginismus. My advice is to talk to your doctor.
I am really grateful for this article. I had been trying for over a year and after I read this it happened for me that first night. My man was so excited and pleased with himself. This was really important to me so im super appreciative. Ive gotten close but I wasnt sure how to make it happen. Relaxing was the biggest thing. That and I made sure I peed first so I wouldnt be afraid I would piss lol. Thanks Sean!!!!!!!
I have always been able to have multiple orgasms while masterbating and during intercourse, but have never squirted.. i don’t know what I am doing wrong.
Hi Crystal, this is because over time you’ve become the LeBron James of making yourself orgasm. However, your man will never know how to replicate the exact technique that you use. Try stopping masturbation for a few months and you’ll notice that it’s easier for your man to make you orgasm.
Sean
hi,thanx for the article,i have been trying for 2 weeks and now im sure that the fluid coming out is not pee,but there’s a problem for me , i cant squirt while my arousal , it only come out after the orgasm,is it normal that i feel nothing while squirting?? what have i done wrong ??
Hi Mary,
Yes, some people don’t feel anything when they orgasm.
Sean
Hi Sean,
I’ve been trying to squirt for weeks by myself but every time I reach organism it doesn’t work. I’ve tried a bunch of techniques but nothing seams to work.
thank you for the help this made it sooooo eazy
My wife and I have been together for about 8 years. I’ve always wanted to make her squirt and couldn’t figure out how to make it happen(and neither could she) until about a year ago. She squirts by orgasm from the clitoris, but she can’t seem to do it herself. Basically, after having sex for a bit, I rub the head of my penis up and down really fast on her clitoris. That makes her squirt. And the longer I rub the longer she squirts. Might work for some of you so I thought I’d share.
I have NEVER been able to squirt. I even tried this by myself and just came 3 times really intensely but nothing (I even had to pee beforehand) :/ I hate it, I wish I could just do it already but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or what squirting is supposed to feel like 🙁
So, my fiance and I have been studying and talking about getting me to squirt all over him. In our 11 years of true love making, we haven’t been successful and I think it was because it was all new information to me. He calls me”The Good Girl”, because although when I met him, I had already had 2 children, I was very inexperienced. No one had ever made me cum, I’d never had a real orgasm, no masturbating, and no oral(on my part). So we’ve taught, experienced and learned a lot with each other together. Anyhoo, we really want to be successful with this. I have been trying through masturbating but I always stop. I’m scared I might pee!! I want to be able to do it both ways too by myself and ultimately, with him. Any thoughts or suggestions?
Hi, my boyfriend likes receiving oral sex but doesn’t like giving it. He wants me to squirt but part of the reason why I don’t think I can is because we don’t really have any foreplay before sex. I would like him to have an exchange of oral play to help me get extremely aroused but I always do him and he just doesn’t want to return the favor, although he has done it a couple of times and we’ve know each other over 20 years….How do I tell him the this exchange will most likely be the boost I need to finally squirt??
You just need to tell him in a non-judgmental and non-confrontational way. The more positive you can make the experience, the better.
Leave him he is just satisfying himself from you… Just time pass…
Hi Sean, about a year ago me and my husband was having sex in the doggystyle position and all of a sudden I felt like I had to pee really really bad and I had to make him stop because I felt and thought I had to pee when I did go to the bathroom it was clear it came out fast and hard and it felt amazing when we were having sex and when it came out, this has happened to us quite a few times but I always thought I had to pee, I’m 33 and just recently found out about squirting and its a huge turn on for me and my husband, so was I possibly squirting all those times I thought I had to pee?
Sounds like it 😉
Hi sean, I read your other article on how to find your gspot and it was very, very helpful I found my gspot! I hit a few times the night before and I squirted. but because I went to the bathroom to early when I did it the first time it had some urine in it but this timeI found my gspot and was dead on and I went to the bathroom right before, I had 2 orgasms and then I really squirted no slight urine smell, it was clear female ejaculation! I finally did it, and me and my husband have you to thank,thank you oh so very much! My masturbation techniques have also improved, so thank you so much!!! As time goes and I do it more will it take less time for me to squirt? Again thank you so much!!!
Hi sean, thank you for answering my question, I have another question, o after reading all the info at the top on how you can make yourself squirt I tried it, I had 3 amazing orgasms better than usual because I fingered myself for the first time in years, I have only had orgasms through clitoral stimulation so I did that as well but I didn’t have that need to pee sensation until after I had the 3 orgasms and yes a lot of fluid squirted out and it had a very slight urine smell to it, is that normal and is it possible for me to have a vaginal orgasm during sex if I just relax and let myself go, and know that its ok to squirt all over my husband, is relaxing a huge factor in achieving vaginal ejaculating orgasms?
Yes, relaxing is vital to squirting and having vaginal orgasms.
Hi sean I just want to say thanks for the wonderful instructions I have found my gspot and finally was able to squirt! I really look forward to learning so much more and I’m very excited for me and my husbands new sex life I am really excited about trying out the new things that I have learned from you and I’m pretty sure my husband is going to be thankful as well! I appreciate and respect what you do and how you really help people to better their sex lives, you really are thee sex guru! Thank you again!!
Hi, I would love to make my girlfriend squirt because I think she will love it and also because it’s an idea that really turns me on. I have tried to make her squirt once or twice and I have some question.
When I put my fingers in I massage all the area of the G spot, but when I do the hook technique I don’t know what to do with my fingers. Do I have to press against the facing area of the G spot all the time? Do I have to do any movement apart with the fingers? Or just block them and move my hand up and down?
You can do multiple things BUT the key is doing what works most effectively to make her squirt, so talk to her and find out what she enjoys you doing the most.
We reached the pee feeling, but I think I should move my hand faster and faster with more pressure, is that possible? I don’t want to be too rude and hurt her and she sometimes stops me.
The key is doing what’s pleasurable for both of you, not necessarily squirting. If it feels good for your partner, then definitely faster can help achieve more intense squirting orgasms.
I have one final question. When I do the fast movements, do I have to touch her G-spot with my fingertips or with the top of my fingers? Maybe that is a key point and I don’t know how to do it properly.
PS: We definitely want her to squirt.
Try both and see what works for her. Everyone is different and responds to different stimuluses.