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There is a massive difference between giving your man oral sex and sucking his dick. Oral sex is certainly a sensual and enjoyable experience for your man while sucking his cock is a more intense, erotic, inhibition-free, animalistic act…And that’s what this guide is all about, showing you how to suck his cock with this wild, intense enthusiasm.
Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.
This page is Chapter 5 of the Blow Job Guide, and it’s going to teach you everything you need to know about how to suck cock in a way that will leave your man wondering if you were a pornstar in a former life.
If you’d prefer to learn some easier techniques for giving him oral sex, then I suggest you start in Chapter 1, which will give you an overview on giving him a good blow job, and then work through Chapter 2 which will teach you how to start sucking cock properly. When you’ve finished that, head over to Chapter 3 to learn 55 cock sucking techniques that will blow his mind, while Chapter 4 continues the dick sucking tutorial with tips about finishing him off.
Now let’s jump into this part of the cock sucking tutorial and learn how to suck dick in a way that will leave your man breathless.
Rule #1 – Take The Initiative
The first rule for sucking cock like a pornstar is being able to take the initiative and start blowing him without any prompting from him. Taking the initiative works incredibly well for many reasons.
You know that feeling when your man just can’t take his hands off you and just “has to have you?” It’s irresistibly hot to be desired by someone who can’t control themselves around you. He experiences those same feelings of being desired when you take the initiative and start sucking him off when he’s not expecting it. So use this to your advantage.
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Related: 9 Ways to Initiate Sex
Another reason is due to the power and pleasure many women feel when giving their man oral sex. A recent study has shown that over 30% of women enjoy the feeling of power they get when they are sucking cock [1], and in another study, 28% of women reported that they find the act of giving their man oral sex to be very pleasurable [2]. So if you already enjoy these feelings of power and pleasure when sucking his cock, this is another reason to take the initiative.
Here are a few examples of how you can take the initiative and start sucking your man’s cock:
BJ Surprise – Let’s say you’re both sitting at home, watching some TV. When he’s least expecting it, cuddle up beside him and start massaging his crotch with your hand to get him hard, before pulling down his pants and giving him a blow job.
Road Head – The next time he is driving you home at night, do the same. Start massaging his testicles through his trousers, before unzipping them and giving him some road head. Just make sure you aren’t breaking any laws! This idea works equally well if you are both sitting in the back of a friend’s car 😉
Morning Wood – Let’s say you wake up before your man on a lazy Sunday morning, why not wake him up with a surprise BJ? Discover more ways to have fun morning sex.
A little bit of planning ahead of time goes a long way if you want to wake him up by sucking his cock. Most importantly, think about sleeping naked together (learn the benefits of sleeping naked), as this makes everything super easy. Otherwise, you may wake him as you take off his pajamas/briefs and “blow” the surprise.
Once you have his pants off, you’ll need to very quietly make your way down to his groin. Then it’s a simple case of taking him into your mouth and sucking him off as you usually would.
Quick Quiz: Do You Give Lousy Blow Jobs?
If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.
My one dick sucking tip when giving your man a morning blow job would be to go softer and more slowly than usual. This way, he should wake up more slowly…or he may even climax before he fully wakes up, making it a brand new experience for him.
Note: My advice is to talk about a morning blow job first with your man before attempting it. Otherwise, he may get a shock when you go down him…potentially causing injury…or worse, perhaps he’s in that small minority of men who don’t want to experience it.
Rule #2 – Animalistic Enthusiasm
The next technique for sucking his cock in a way that totally blows him away is making sure you do it with a high level of animalistic and almost insatiable enthusiasm.
Most guys see this (enthusiasm) as the single most important dick sucking tip that you can use in the bedroom [3].
One Redditor even explains how she’s been told that the “main factor” that contributes to the quality of her blow jobs is that she enjoys giving them [4]. Other users chimed in that this enthusiasm is “at least 50% of what makes a blowjob good.”
I talk more about how enthusiasm is a vital component to giving a satisfying blow job in Chapter 1 here, but to further explain how important it is, I want you to do something. Imagine this scenario…
Your man hasn’t seen you for almost an entire week, and you’re waiting in your place for him to arrive. When he opens the door and lays his eyes on you, he immediately rushes forward and grabs hold of you. As he embraces you, he leans in, and gives you the most intense kiss you’ve ever received.
But he doesn’t stop there, he picks you up and brings you into the bedroom, tears your clothes off and has his way with you. You don’t want him to stop for a second, and even if you tried to stop him, you probably couldn’t as he is acting on every animalistic impulse in his body. There isn’t a single logical thought going through his head right now. It’s just pure testosterone and lust running through his veins.
There is something ridiculously hot and passionate about this…his unbridled enthusiasm. When you reverse the situation above, and you become the aggressor, the one who acts out of pure lust, and you attack your man with animalistic enthusiasm while sucking his dick, you can make it an experience that surpasses anything he could ever imagine. Even if you aren’t using new techniques or positions in the bedroom…it can make a dull sex life into a highly charged one.
Note that if you’re not sure if you suck cock good and are skittish or constantly ask for feedback, it might not be as hot for him. However, you can use dirty talk to gauge how much he’s into what you’re doing, speaking of dirty talk…
Rule #3 – Talk Dirty
Another way to make the experience feel magical for your man is to talk dirty to him while sucking his cock. While the Dirty Talking Guide goes into great detail teaching you exactly what to say and how to say it, here are a few guidelines that work great for talking dirty to your man while sucking him off…
Tell Him What You’re Going To Do – Before you even meet your man, you can start building anticipation with him by getting his mind thinking of you AND what you’ve got planned for him. If you’re on the phone to him, you can let him know that you have something planned for him later. But don’t let the cat out of the bag just yet! Try to be a little vague about what you’re planning so that he keeps thinking about you and trying to figure out what you meant.
If you’re messaging him (get other ideas for sexy text messages), try sending one of the following, “I’ve got a little surprise for you later!” or “I’ve had you on my lips all day, can’t wait to see you later!” or even “Don’t make any plans for later. I need to see you.”
Tell Him How Turned On Your Are – This works fantastically well both before you meet him and when you’re together. Again, you can either call him or message him…but in general messaging is easier. Try sending one of the following messages to him, “Ugh…I wish this day would just end! I’m too horny to be in the office today,” or “I’m sitting here at my desk, and all I can think of is wrapping my lips around your cock.”
Tell Him How Much You Enjoy It – Now that you’ve used dirty talk to amp up the anticipation and have your man salivating and eager to feel your lips on him, it’s time to use dirty talk to enhance your blow job. The best way to do this is to tell him how much you’re enjoying it and how much sucking his cock is turning you on. Here are a few examples:
“I love feeling your cock in my mouth!”
“I want to feel you explode and cum all over my face.”
“Just having your dick in my mouth makes me so f**king wet!”
“I want to feel you throb in my mouth when you’re cumming!”
“I want to be on my knees every day for you.”
If you’re not sure that you can suck dick well, the enthusiasm you show by talking dirty can push your blow job from one that’s just okay to one that’s super hot!
You can whisper these dirty talk phrases in your man’s ear before you go down on him, or you can say them midway through. You can learn more dirty talking phrases and examples in Chapter 2 and Chapter 3 of the Dirty Talking Guide.
Use Dirty Talk to See If He Likes It – If you’ve read Chapter 4 of the Blow Job Guide, then you’ve already covered “Sucking Dick 101,” and know how important communication is when you suck his penis. Some people shy away from talking about sex because it can be difficult or awkward.
Dirty talk can actually make it easier to get feedback.
How?
All you need to do is simply ask if he likes what you’re doing or if he wants more. You can even try two techniques and have him let you know which he prefers. Then use his responses to start sucking the good dick.
Your Head In His Hands
A super powerful way to intensify this oral sex experience is to allow your man to take control and dictate things. You can do this by getting your man to hold your head while you keep your arms down by your side or even tied behind your back. Learn more kinky sex ideas here and some BDSM ideas here.
Now that your man is in control, he can dictate how fast you suck his dick AND how deep you take it. All of this is perfect if you enjoy your man being in total control, but it’s not so much fun if you have an overactive gag reflex…unless, of course, you like the idea of throwing up midway through.
Some people call it skull-fucking or face-fucking when your man is in complete control and can “fuck your mouth,” especially when he gets aggressive, but we see it more like a simple act of submission, of handing over power to your man.
One Redditor expands on this, saying how she loves face fucking because that “feeling of your throat being entirely filled up with a hard cock and not gagging is absolutely amazing [5].”
If the idea of submitting to your man turns you on and you know he respects you enough not to go too fast or too deep, then putting your head in his hands and handing him control can be incredibly erotic, arousing and fun for both of you.
Related: Discover How to Be More Submissive to Your Man
However, you don’t want to jump into this haphazardly. If you are curious to try this with your man but are nervous about having your hands tied behind your back and losing all control, then try it while holding a bell in your hand. This is in place of a safe word, which you won’t be able to use…because his dick will be in your mouth.
When you feel uncomfortable or want your man to stop, you can ring the bell to let him know you need a break. Explaining all this to your man ahead of time is vital.
Or he could simply bind your hands with thread, which you will be able to break easily enough if you need to.
Even if you do want to try this, it’s smart to use caution. Let your man know if you’re into the idea but need to practice it over a few sessions. Or perhaps you leave it for the very end of the blow job.
One Reddit users warns that you “should NOT do this until you feel you have begun to master the basics of deepthroating, because your muscles will NOT have gotten used to the action and you WILL bruise your throat [6].”
Turn The Tables, Take Control & Dominate Him
Of course, control can work in the opposite direction too 😉
If might seem like you have to be submissive when you suck a cock, but that’s not true! You can be the one to take control and dominate your man. This goes beyond taking the initiative that I talked about earlier in this Chapter. And…
There are plenty of ways to take control and dominate your man:
Bondage – Just like your man can tie your hands behind your back, you can restrict your man too. There are multiple ways to do it, but my advice is to start with the least intense ways first and build up to more intense bondage when sucking his cock. Here are a few ideas:
- Get him to sit on his hands while you suck him off.
- Tie his wrists behind his back or even use handcuffs.
- Tie him by his wrists and ankles to the bed.
Make sure that if you are tying his wrists/ankles to the bed that you don’t use materials that will restrict his blood flow.
Get more ideas about tying up in our guide to light bondage.
Tease Him – A fun and somewhat vanilla way to dominate him while sucking his cock is to tease and tantalize him before and during it. I talk about this a bit in Chapter 2 and more in the tease and denial guide.
Here are a few quick cock sucking tips to tease him in the build up, before you start sucking his cock:
- Tell him what you’ve got planned for later in as much detail as possible, so he can begin to fantasize about it. More tips on talking dirty.
- Get a little grabby with him when you’re out and about together, to start turning him on.
And here are some tips you can use during your blow job to tease him:
- Stop. That’s right, midway during your blow job, simply stop and do something different (but still intimate) until he asks you to continue. An example of this would be to go from sucking his cock to doing something less stimulating, like cuddling him. All he will be able to think about is you taking him in your mouth again.
- When he is close to cumming, start to edge him by doing something like gently kissing his penis or balls instead of blowing him. I talk more about edging in Chapter 4 on how to give him head and make him cum hard.
Make Him Beg – Making your man beg can be a lot of fun or…awkward. It all depends on what you and your man’s preferences are. So don’t feel that you must use this idea.
If you enjoy wielding power over him and he enjoys it too, then most likely, you’ll have a lot of fun.
Here’s a bunch of different ways to make him beg you for a blow job if you are into this idea:
- Ask him to say “please” if he wants a blow job.
- The next time you are on your knees before you start sucking him off, ask him to beg, to say, “please suck my cock.”
- While sucking his dick, stop and tell him that you won’t continue until he says, “Please don’t stop. I’m begging you to continue.”
Of course, these are just examples. Feel free to make him beg in any way you want.
Make Him Promise – Making your man promise you something during a blow job is a really fun way to feel the power you have over him. It’s also quite similar to making him beg you.
When you can tell he is close to orgasm, slow down, so he doesn’t come, then make him promise you something like:
“I’m not going to let you cum until you promise to go down on me every night this week.”
“If I let you cum on my face, you have to promise to give me a 30-minute massage tomorrow night.”
“Before I let you cum, I want you to promise me something: Promise me that you’ll…”
One crucial thing to keep in mind when making your man promise you something when you go down on him is that…
The promise must be something small & fun.
If you try to manipulate him or make the promise something huge, things will start to get weird, and it will kill the vibe you are trying to create. So, keep the promises small & fun.
You can learn more ways to dominate your man in the femdom ideas guide and this article on how to dominate your man in bed.
Deep Throating
I’m not going to talk too much about deep throating your man right now, as Chapter 7 is devoted to deep throating.
All I will say is that if you don’t have a super-sensitive gag reflex and are with a man that you trust, then you should try it at least once. Deep throating provides your man with yet another set of sensations when sucking his cock that will help make him see you as a sexual goddess.
Get Sloppy – When you take your man deep into your mouth and throat, you will naturally stimulate your gag reflex. This can make you gag, BUT it will also make your mouth produce a lot of saliva.
This excess saliva can make your blow job feel quite messy as it runs out of your mouth, but…
Many guys find this messy/sloppiness to be super hot and arousing. Take it from one Redditor who describes “Messy blowjobs are awesome[…]Ugh, my dick would nearly explode from how hard it was during the session [7].”
The excess saliva also acts as a lubricant, making your cock sucking feel far more intense than usual. You can even take some of this saliva on your hands and use it to massage his balls or make fingering his ass more enjoyable.
Some guys like gagging – Many women are afraid to deep throat their men because they don’t want to gag. They think it may be unattractive or unsexy for their man.
The funny thing is that…
Lots of guys adore hearing their partner gag. It turns them ON, not off.
So experiment and see if your guy enjoys hearing you gag (or just ask him).
Of course, if you don’t enjoy gagging, feel free to ignore this idea.
If you want to learn more, then check out the deep throating guide (Chapter 7) for a step-by-step guide on how to do it with style!
Prostate Pleasure
I’ve already briefly covered stimulating your man’s prostate when sucking his cock in the blow job techniques section, and I cover it in detail in the guide for milking your man’s prostate, so I’m not going to repeat myself here.
All I will say is that some men go crazy for prostate stimulation, and doing it while sucking his dick is something that most men will sadly never experience. If you can be the person that gives him this experience, it puts you in a very powerful position.
Podcast: Foundation For Sucking Dick
In addition to reading the guide below, I hope you will listen to this podcast I recorded that will teach you my 11 most important tips for giving your man the perfect blow job. I also cover the horrendous mistakes women make BEFORE they even begin their blow job.
Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here.
Human Cock Ring!
Cock rings are a super popular sex toy among men and with good cause. One of the most enjoyable aspects of cock rings for your man is that they give him new sensations as he orgasms, helping to keep things fresh. I explain more in my Cock Ring Guide.
What I want you to do is…
Use your hand to make a “human” cock ring as he climaxes and allow him to experience these new sensations.
Here’s how to do it:
When you can tell your man is about to cum, wrap your thumb and index finger around the base of his cock to make a “cock ring” and squeeze firmly as he begins cumming. You don’t want to apply too little pressure when doing this, but you also want to make sure not to use too much pressure that it stops him from ejaculating altogether.
To be clear, you will be squeezing your “cock ring” around the base of his penis, and you won’t be jerking him off. You need to keep it in the same place.
Figuring out how much pressure your man enjoys takes some practice, so make sure to talk to your man and get his feedback on your technique.
You can also experiment with how many fingers you wrap around his dick.
Human Ball Stretcher
Similar to making a cock ring with your hand, you can also make a ring with your index finger and thumb at the top of a man’s testicles when you suck his dick.
As he cums, you can then SLOWLY and VERY GENTLY pull down on his balls WITHOUT squeezing them.
For some guys, this dramatically intensifies their orgasm.
Others don’t enjoy it so much.
As always, make sure to talk to your man, get his feedback, and figure out if he enjoys this technique or if you should focus on other cock sucking techniques in the future. You can always try these testicle massage techniques, instead.
The Finish
If you’ve successfully used all the dick sucking techniques in this guide, then it’s all built up to this moment. And if you finish him off just right, you can give him an orgasm so powerful he’ll get amnesia [8] and he’ll brag about how you can suck dick like a pornstar.
While giving him a regular blow job, you’ll probably just spit or swallow his load or finish him off with a hand job as I explain in Chapter 4, the chapter on finishing your man off in style. But, when you’re sucking his dick, you’re putting on a performance for your boyfriend. You’re trying to be his very own pornstar!
Psst, not sure whether to spit or swallow? Discover the pros and cons of each. Pay attention to his diet. If the taste of his semen changes with what he eats and drinks, you may want to avoid swallowing the next day, even if you normally swallow [9].
With this in mind, here are a few additional ideas you should try when your man climaxes so that sucking his dick becomes a piece of performance art.
Swallowing With Attitude – As I mentioned earlier, you can just swallow your man’s load when he ejaculates. But to make it more intense for him, try swallowing it like you haven’t had a drop of water in days and are desperate to have his cum inside you. The moment he climaxes and explodes in your mouth, swallow it while still sucking for more. When your man sees how desperate you are for his cum, it can seriously intensify his orgasm.
Show & Swallow – Another powerful way to swallow your man’s load after he finishes in your mouth is to first open your mouth and show him his cum before you then swallow it.
Licking Your Lips – A simpler way to finish him off while making it incredibly hot is to have him cum in your open mouth. Then after you swallow his load, lick your lips, and ask him, “When can I have some more?”
Facial Plus – Letting your husband cum on your face can be incredibly hot for both of you. But you can make it more intense by having him cum on your face, then collecting it on your fingers and licking your fingers clean.
Direct the Facial – When he is about to cum, take his penis in your hands. Pull him out of your mouth and aim it at your face to give yourself a facial.
Rubbing It In – Another super erotic way to finish off your man when sucking his dick is to have him cum on your breasts or stomach and then start rubbing it and massaging it around your breasts and stomach, putting on a show for your husband. You can even use it as lube and start masturbating with it. Check out the Masturbation Guide on masturbating for incredible orgasms.
Snowballing – Snowballing can be the wildest, most intense experience of your man’s life, or he may vomit from it. To “snowball” your man, you need to hold his load in your mouth after he cums. Next, you kiss and make out with him, sharing his semen with him, sensually tonguing and pushing it into his mouth.
If you struggle with the taste of his cum, you may not want to swallow. There is a post on Reddit about blowjobs that advises that you have him ejaculate further into your mouth so you can swallow his cum immediately and deal less with the taste [10].
Now that you know how to suck dick like a pro, you may be interested in learning some awesome oral sex positions from Chapter 6 that you can use to spice up a blow job. You can also learn how you can finish your man off in style so that you give him the most powerful orgasm he has he experienced. Chapter 4 will teach you how.
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Im a bad girl by nature so there was only one thing i need to try (restroom bj) im very happy to come across this bible and felt good i havent tried one which i will remedy soon 😀 happy go lucky bj pleasure
I’m down for a bathroom????
any time any place ????????
YOU BAD BOY
Im going to my boyfriends house tommrow, and i have never sucked a dick before. I read your tips, but im still on edge about it. Helppp.
How did it go!
I was scared my first time but it’s really not that bad let him after it was your first time so if it’s not that good he will understand
my boyfriend does absolutely everything to me and i just don’t wanna suxk his dick and do it wrong or hik not be as pleased as i always am anD IM SCARED BUT I WANNA DO IT
Me too.my husband wants me to blow him,..I tried it like 2-3 times but i didnt like it.I felt nauseous,and scared he would “come and ejaculate” in my mouth ,I was scared i might swallow it.lol…but i stopped early…I know he wants me to do it again,but i dont know how with out him coming.I still want to orgasm myself,but not like that.?
Imagine it was a popsicle and the ejaculation is just it melting if you can’t take it fully rub at the base
you should be able to feel as he is about to cum it will feel like his shaft gets swollen and his dick will twitch and the swelling will start to go up towards the head of his penis and the he will blow… hopefully this helps u time him so ur aware of how far u wanna take it
It’s stressful n scary but worth the thrill
okay so my bf is coming over tomorrow and i need as much tips as i can get bc it’s gonna be my first time.
thank you so much. Now I just want to suck all the guys dick. Im suddenly so good at it. I love it, and I love dick.
Dear Maria.
I am cool with that.
Omg omg I gave a bj to my boyfriend and he fucked me better. Thanks
Plz give me an idea or tips on how he did it to you better.i need new ideas for me and my husband to please me ,and make me come faster.??i hate when i take too long to come and feel that wild good feeling.i want it faster and earlier before he comes!if he comes before me,then im pissed off ???and cant do anything,and my vagina is boiling for sex.lol the rest of the day.lol?
Check out the Pussy Eating Guide 😉
I’m going to my boyfriends house tmr!!! it’s my first time giving a blowjob… this is VERY scary🥲… i hope he enjoys it and i want him to CUM in my mouth!!! so excited!!😝😝
I guess I’ll try and let you guys know 🙂
i love sucking dick!! But I have no one to do it with! You see, I practice
I LOVE SUCKING DICK also! When I didn’t have the real thing around I would practice with my 9 inches life like (cock) dildo. In no time I was able to deep throat that!!! Practice makes perfect. 🙂
If u can deep throat 9″ of cock your good cause I only have about 7″ and there has only be a few that can swallow all of it up to my balls so u go girl hell yea
Why I can swallow 10 hard inches
I have an absolutely horrible gag reflex. I’m definitely trying this practice technique.
I love 69
My guy does too but…I cannot focus. I can’t really enjoy what he’s doing and I am too distracted to give him what I want to.
Same here XD
must say i agree, my man really liked it but i couldn’t focus enough on his cock
what is the problem
Thats how i am i have ro reslly focus to have an orgasim and 69 is too distracting
You Can Practice On Me!
I can help you
As a male I know how to suck dick best, my buddy loves it when I tickle just under his foreskin with my tongue. Furthermore he absolutely loves it when I deep throat him whilst masturbating my 2 inch pickle. Lots of love, Sebby C
P.S. all of this advice has genuinely helped me to suck better, thank you so much!
This is a site for females not gay men.You are making some women uncomfortable.I think I should recommend you to a gay men’s site
The only one uncomfortable is you homophobic ass, luan
No shit! If you aren’t comfortable with reading about blow jobs given by men then I suggest you find a new site to visit only for the simple fact that more and more men are coming out as gay. It’s 2017, almost 2018 get over yourself!
A bj is a bj, right? Nobody should be excluded from reading a ‘female website’ because they are not hetero. The website is about pleasuring your man and gives good advice for everyone, both female AND male readers.
Personally I think that men can give good tips, since they know themselves what techniques work and don’t work 🙂
@Sebastian, thanks for the tip, will try it soon 🙂
Didn’t make me uncomfortable! It’s hot as fuck that men are comfortable enough to suck dick!
Like, damn! You boys can tell me how to do it and make it feel better, right? ?❤️
Wow incredibly rude and disrespectful. Anyone is welcomed. AMIRITE?!
Yep. I’ll take advice from anyone on perfecting the bj on the perfect man I’ve been not sleeping with. I just want to make him as happy in bed as he makes me.. could not care less about whom is giving the advice.. deepthroating 10 inches requires good advice..
The only homophobe is you. Don’t worry the door is down the hall and to the left.
Yes go away
wtf?? why would you even say that? your being an ass! i love that he’s trying so leave him alone
Thank u for commenting i wish we had more gay men who would like to teach or tell us some tricks? I mean who better to learn from? U have a penis so u definitely know the area and whers most sensitive, etc. And u also know how it feels to have one stretching out ur jaw. My man is shaped like a triangle, it starts with a somewhat pointy thin head, then keeps getting thicker. How do u suck that if ur jaw get very tired in 2 seconds plus i have chronic dry mouth. I dont know if im supposed to glide up n down or am i supposed to actually create some type of suction preventing air from sliding in out? I also have lock jaw if i go too long ill bite him, any ideas?
If you’re getting tired, just take a rest and try something else, like giving him a hand job. As for dry mouth, drink plenty of water or try using some edible lube.
Edible lubes Like what
I agree the first time I gave a blowjob to my male friend it was a little intimidating.
As I began it wasn’t bad it went well act.him holding my head there while he cummed in my mouth wasn’t as bad as I thought.now I’m always wanting to suck his cock.thanks for your tips there amazing.?️??️??️?
I guess I will give it a try
I love sucking my bae’s cock. He tells me if I done it any better he don’t no if he could handle it but I am always looking for new ways so he want ever get tired of me sucking his big sexy cock
I am the goddess of cock sucking lol… Needed to learn new things but I already do all this.. Guess my man is a great teacher 😉 thanks babe ♥
I really need to learn how to deep throat. My man always ask me to, but I just haven’t managed it yet. I need to find something to practice with, then surprise him! lol
This guide will help
Use a dildo with a suction cup.get on your knees and start with a long thin one. Then work up to fatter and fattest. Tou can use a squash or a cucumber also. They are alot cheaper than a dildo.
So the only thing I have issues with is my bf is so good at dirty talk, and I’m shy about it, but he loves when I say dirty, detailed, things while suckling his Cock. I don’t wanna repeat things and get boring. I really want to surprise him with something that he will be blown away with! Any suggestions?
Hi Kayla,
The tips in this article and this one should help 🙂
Talk about girl on girl stuff….he will love it
Suck his balls and jerk his cock at the same time and tell him you would love to have 2 cocks face fucking you. That should get him spewing forth ribbons of cum down your throat and all over your face.
I love the taste of your big beautiful cock. I can not wait to taste your cum. Please let me suck your cock sir. Use my mouth please. Moan while it is in your mouth. The vibration of your moaning will feel really good on his cock. Tell him how much you love to suck his dick for him. Tell him it make you feel like such a slut but you love that feeling. Tell him you want to swallow a big load from him. Tell him you love how his cock feels in your mouth.
Hi Sean
I struggle to make my boyfriend come with just a blowjob and end up having to end it with a hand job instead, he says he enjoys oral sex more than the hand jobs but when he thinks he is close, it just never happens. I also find it difficult to tell if he is even enjoying it most of the time and when i try to make him come with oral , it just takes too long and in the end, i admit, i get a bit bored because i dont know if im any good at it and plus it just starts to feel im doing the same thing over and over again. Ive tried your tips but even though he enjoys them, it just doesn’t seem to work.
Yes agreed! Sean hell us!!!
*help
Get him to stop masturbating completely for the next month. He will quickly become much more sensitive to your touch and will more easily be able to cum.
Sean
Same here. It’s so frustrating. It’s embarrassing to talk about. I ask him how can I be better but he never gives me any advice.
The hand provides greater surface area while the mouth provides lube. I promise the combination better than either or.
Put on a porn movie , slide a finger in and massage his prostate , play with yourself , orgasm or fake one .
And if he is having trouble cumming ??? Losing focus ?? He is stressed,,
Cuff his balls in your hand with spit and massage them gently and caressingly.
I love sucking my boyfriend’s long black cock. I usually kiss down his chest, around his dick, lick his balls then I get his dick nice & wett. I put my wet lips around his shaft as I start stroking his chocolate cock with my tounge. I love it when he fucks my face it’s like he’s fucking my tight pussy. Ugh makes me wett just thinking about it.
Me too I like to suck my boyfriend Gavin black cock I like to suck his balls just like you he makes me so wet he fuck my tight pussy and then he licks me dry
my wife sucks my dick all the way down to my ball do that for 3 min then I fuck her
Yes i love doin that to my boothang
Thanks for providing such a great resource! One thing I will say, while enthusiasm is excellent and even if you lack skill, it can be more than made up for with enthusiasm, a better blow job will always be one that is offered, not expected. I used to be decent at sucking but absolutely hated it because it was expected of me. I left him and now when I am with a man and it is something I can offer to bring him pleasure, he gets excited and is more likely to praise what I’m doing while I’m doing it which in turn increases my enthusiasm. From my experience and talking to some of my girlfriends, it would be nice if more guys understood that.
“a better blow job will always be one that is offered, not expected” This is such an important point that unfortunately many guys miss or ignore completely. Thanks Sugar Plum!
I never did it before so
I ❤️❤️❤️ Sucking dick!!!! Of all the cocks I have sucked I’ve been able to deep throat a few I don’t like deep throat that much but I love to swallow especially if I’m into the guy!!! The best for me was the thicker dicks I love having my mouth filled completely #cocksucker
me too
so… I knew all that much… confession… I’m a bit of a kink… but my husband is a cold lazy Puritan who gets stoned in between naps. I get turned down constantly. even if I’m NOT being an aggressive cock hound. hes not any more adventurous thannmissionary. ihave always been a bit non commital and going on three years of sparse intamacy (cant even jack off or watch porn near him without annoying him) infamy considering clubbing him to death like a fucking baby seal. (no worries… just a phrase.. total peta member) but I’m at a loss…. I think I married a bitchy hormonal teenage girl that’s always on the rag. advice?
Trade her in
I really love making my boyfriend cum when I suck his big fat juicy cock. He loves when I run my tongue up and down softly along his cock. This is a great way of making him ready to cum. I love with taste, it burns my throat but somehow that just makes me more horny. SWALLOW DONT SPIT????
Oh thank you for making this! My bf loves bj and I want to please him more by being better at it. Thank you for the tips! ////
These tips are quite good, but I must say that you shouldn’t masturbate with your man’s cum unless you’re on the pill or are trying to get pregnant.
My boo.. Well, he’s got extreme stamina, and by extreme, I’m talking about a 30-40 minute hj/bj stamina (apparently it’s where he, well, masturbated so much when he was younger. He eventually “trained” himself to last that long).
My issue is, is that I can’t hit this nerve that runs along the bottom of his penis with my tongue because I’m afraid of catching him with my molars (he has a rather girthy penis, and is average length), so I normally give him a hj and just finish him with my mouth so we don’t make a mess.
Any tips on how to hit the nerve that runs along the bottom of his penis? I don’t really have a gag-reflex, so gagging isn’t an issue.
Try focusing using your tongue and not taking him into your mouth. This way you don’t have to worry about your molars.
First off.. try not to worry about making a mess.. messy is good.. lol. it shows how care free you can be and that nothing is more important then you sucking to perfection( not the floor/couch/dress or your face) second, practice sucking with your tongue out, it will help guard from the teeth as well as give a lot more extra necessary much appreciated saliva.. And finally take it from a guy that lasts long as well.. don’t kill yourself, get a good technique(ask me if you need one lol).. but most importantly would be to use your hands when your mouth gets a lil tired(30-1min break can do wonders for you
Oh yes I’ll need some of those techniques????, my boyfriend takes FOREVER to cum so I get tired and then he has to masturbate and I kinda hate it. I can seriously count how many times he’s cum in my mouth with a blowjob. So I’d appreciate all the help I can get????????
Try getting him to stop masturbating for few weeks and up to a month. This will help him to become super sensitive and more easily cum 😉
My issue is lasting my jaws get tired
Then take a break and switch to giving him a hand job
Adding into Sean:
Give a show. I like nipping the tips my fingers before delving them in my mouth. Get between the fingers and giving long licks from the base of my palm to the tip of my fingers.
Get that hand nice and wet (Very Important. Unlike a vagina that lubricates well, so we can stick in a dry finger without too much discomfort, a penis gets hard. Not wet. There’s a reason why guys like lotion/vasoline/something-thats-wet-that-doubles-as-lube.) and squeeze along his length as you suck on the head and lick those sensitive areas (the opening and the area right beneath it). Tongue around and along girth as you thumb the head. This helps with the jaw ache and keeps him revved and wet.
Ball play: some guys are into this and some aren’t and some had bad experiences. These are sensitive little dudes, so tread carefully. Ask him what he likes and better to start off too gentle than too rough. If you’re going in blind (AKA not even he knows what he likes), I suggest licking down to the base of his dick, then continue down, lick along the sac, and then go back up near the base. Gently, gently suck in/on that soft skin and keep your hand busy on his dick for extra stimulation.
omg i have that same issue my jaw gets so tired but i want him to come in my mouth like i want him to lose control in my mouth
What do I do if my mans dick isn’t that big like he’s dick may be like 5 inch or maybe 6 and the width isn’t that big it could be like the size of a jumbo weiner and tips on how I should suck his dick
Omg he fucked me so hard because of this thank you so much????????he ripped my clothes off????and then he went to work on my pussy with a condom then he did my ass it was the best night in my life and then I suck his cock he loved it and I loved it and he sucked my pussy dried he fucked me every position thank you so much thanks for making me and my boyfriend feel good in the bedroom
Thank you so much he fuck me so hard he sucked me dry he did doggy style on me we did every position but I told him to wear a condom because I don’t want to get pregnant yet but he fucked me so hard I was screaming with joy he came all over my body just want to say thank you so much just because of this we do it every night
Well I’m a dirty slut but used to bE this little hot prude bitch that actually told men I don’t suck dick before we start fucking around Met the man of my dreams and he was a undercover total freak. I went from never to cumming hard from sucking off his fat cock especially when he would rip his cock out NY mouth grab my hair and he talked to me so filthy and straight nasty while I would be face down ass up that when he would slap my hands away, grab my hair and squeeze his fat cock hard and fast then call me his little cumslut as he blasts his huge loads all over my face and I was told not to think about getting anything to wipe it off until he knows his balls were empty, my pussy got wet and cockslapping My cum drench face and looking up at hiM as he kept calling me his cumslut makes me cum hard. IT turned me on so much he since had told me he wants me to suck his friends off too because he knows how much that would turn me on and him too but he likes showing me off by ! stripping my clothes off and forcedNE down on his friends who I have to admitt was just so sexy and now it’s made us try so many more things like I never been fucked in my ass but he and his friends love to force feed both my mouth and ass and I mean all balls deep and we all video with our cell phones to watch when they they aren’t avail to make me their dirty cumslut! What a change from how i used to be. I can’t get enough and all day I think about it and even on my job I watch it on my phone and mastebate in the bathroom all the time. Oral and anal slut is really how I love it and all his friends love to cum on my face and see it on me with cocks in my stretched mouth.I’m going to marry this man because no one will ever treat me the way only he has and there is no boring bullshit sex life for me AGAIN!!
I still don’t know why men waste their time with women; they are terrible in bed as well as out of it and they are certainly the WORST at giving head. #guysdoitbetter!
My husband says I give him the most intense orgasms. Maybe you just didn’t find the right female before giving up on women.
I really this man and just to think of him makes me hot and be in the mood of was ting him lick my pussy and fuck me the hardest way ever but I have never suck his beautiful dick and now I feel he’s going away…can I try this to keep him beg for more.
My wife truly loves and enjoys sucking and deepthroating me to my balls so she can always swallow my load many times a day for me for 20 years we met when she was 16 I was 17 we got married her 18 me 19 been the greatest woman ever to marry deepthroating n cumm swallowing for me since our first date I was the first cock she ever sucked n swallowed cumm from n she loved it then and lots more now I get 6 deepthroat cumm swallowed bj everyday
Many of these comments are ridiculous. Nobody gets 6 blow jobs a day especially after 20 years of marriage. I call Bull crap
just found this site. i love oral sex both ways.
my gf improved a lot since we start doing it, probably reading this site aswell
we been together more than 2 years and i am obbsesed with her and her techniques.
she started to do rimjobs. most recently she rimmed me, fingered my ass for the first time while giving blowjob, i have never came so hard before. not sure where all this is going, but she wants more and more to play with my ass. today i was in shock. she sent me a picture of strapon and wrote “get ready” with some evil smiles. it looks a bit gay for me and i am really confused, i love her very much, i like and enjoy when she licks and fingers my ass, but a plastic dick is too much for me. what do you think? should i let her to do that or just pass?
All men have the same body parts, so to a point, all men have similar pleasure responses to various types of stimulation.
If your girl enjoys being licked by you, does it make her a lesbian? Nope. If a straight man enjoys having a woman penetrate his butt, does it mean he wants sex with men? Nope. If a girl loves getting anal, does it make her a gay man? Lol. There is no ‘gay’ sex act or ‘straight’ sex act; it all depends on the WHO, not the WHAT.
Your sexuality is based on the gender/s of the people you desire, not on specific sex acts that you enjoy. Do what feels good with your woman, and don’t worry about it.
If a woman likes being licked by a man, does it make her a lesbian? If a woman likes getting anal sex, does it make her a gay man? No and no.
If you enjoy sex acts with women, that makes you straight. If you enjoy sex acts with men, that makes you gay, and if you enjoy sex acts with men AND women, that makes you bisexual. It’s the gender of your lover, not the sex act, which determines your sexuality.
Enjoy!
My man doesn’t like me taking the initiative for anything sexual, and he doesn’t like the fact that I’m so sexual/vocal/enthusiastic about sex etc.
He has never cum during oral from any woman in his life, and he hates having his balls touched in any way, ever, because it is very painful.
In short, nothing here is helpful for my situation, but for the rest of you, happy sucking! Lol
Let’s trade , lol he would like my girl friend.
You and I are a match lol
I love sucking my husband’s dick. He wants me to swallow his cup but I can’t handle it. I did it once years and years ago and threw up. I really want to but can’t get past the thought of throwing up again. He normally cums on my stomach or ass.
So I had the same problem with my husband I literally through up all night it was awful. So I did research and I found out that A how to build up tolerance so when I would got to ” spit ” I would swallow a little before actually spitting and B that the more fruit your husband eats doesn’t matter what fruit either the better tasting the cum will be and it’s pretty easy to incorporate it in if you do the cooking
i love sucking dick so much! i just want to scream it from the rooftops. thing is that i can’t find anyone with a big enough dick to fit down my throat and choke me until
i feel like i’m about to take my last breath kn this earth. other than that i like listening to music
My man takes FOREVER to cum and it’s really annoying cos it makes me tired and when I try to stop he’ll be like “no please don’t stop, it feels so good”. Like WTH???? I do all these things except talk dirty so I don’t really know what else to do. I need help!!! I want him to cum faster than usual . I hate it when I get tired and then he has to masturbate for another “forever”????????????????????????????. HELP!!!!!
Hi Jiji, get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he will become a lot more sensitive 😉
my girl frend is a she male,and we enjoy 69 most days I’m in early 60s we both have eight inch cocks ,and we love giving 69s and eating each other cum we film it then wach it later,and it gets horny again we love it lol xxx
My girlfriend gave me the best blowy due to this advice! I particularly love the point where she spread my thick load all over her tits. Thank you BGB! I can’t wait to return the favour! x
I love the idea of just randomly sucking my Mans dick but my anxiety is a bitch how Can I fix it I want to pleasure my man better then any ex he has ever had
Try talking to him about your anxiety or even talking to a professional.
I wanted to better my skills so hopefully this helps for tomorrow morning ??
Talk to a professional.
I have never sucked a cock but since recently it has been resting on my mind i wanna suck the fucking life out of my mans cock i want to criple him and leave his cock jumping for days i wanna get as nasty as i can be i wanna be his freak ?the problem is my bf is so boring the way he talks about oral sex isnt the way i want it done i want him to eat my dripping wet creamy pussy like its his last meal
A lot of women need lessons on how to do it properly since many women are very clueless when it comes to doing that unfortunately.
I love how many people here are supporting LGBTQ+. I’m a bi female so this makes me really happy. It’s now 2019 and it’s nice seeing this.
I love giving my boyfriend bjs but he says sometimes I make him feel weird because I act weird, I thought I was very into his dick but can anyone help out like these tips are amazing and I’ve gotten better than before. He says I use my teeth or sometimes I bend his dick cause I can’t fit it in! What do I do with a small mouth? After I get tired my mouth isn’t as wide and I give hand jobs if I get tired.
One thing that has always gotten my husband is a mintoes I’ll pop a mintoes in my mouth before going down on him he loves it
I love sucking my man’s dick. Like when i see him i get horny for sucking him dry. I am a kinky one ?
I love sucking and deep-throating COK. I also enjoy it while sucking cock that he grabs and spreads my ass cheeks apart let’s saliva drop from his mouth to my throbbing asshole so he can slip his fingers fucking my asshole banging hard and while I’m fucking my super wet pussy with my 9in. Dildoe. Men enjoy all thst and when he’s ready to cum I’ll pull gently away open my mouth wide so that he can drop the load in my mouth down my throat. But the boyfriend that I have now is so boring and we hardly have sex. I do alot of masterbating.
I can say im better than I ever been and the pleasure is all mine
Most women nowadays want the fish instead of the beef. Go figure.
A guy I’ve been seeing really loves these things. Especially having his buttcheeks massaged with a buttplug in. Thanks!
I just am not so did send when I’m sucking sick and so I always stop too soon. Any tips to feel more confident??
Try starting at the beginning of the Blow Job Guide.
I sucked him off while playing with his butt stopping then sucking his balls & while doing that (sucking his balls) giving a hand job my man loves this & when he cums I make sure to suck every last drop.
Thx lots he loves my blowjobs & asks for them alot he comments on how amazing they are.
I can’t thank you enough I’ve learned so much & love reading & putting my new skills to use.
I admit their is a man who my pussy picks and he isn’t my usual type yet I fantasize about pushing him in a chair and sucking his dick and enjoying it as much as My fantasy. Perhaps someday.
Can anyone suggest anything different, these tips are very helpful but if like some tips about using my mouth, I feel like I do different things but I like to spice it up, it make it fun for him but fun for me seeing his reaction lol it makes me so wet.its making my mouth water just thinking about it
I have to admit I was so not for giving blow jobs but my boyfriend REALLY enjoys them, thanks to your techniques I HAVE LEARNED TO LOVE SUCKING MY MANS DICK ALOT! I would really like to deep throat but I have a horrible gag reflex any tips on the best way to deep throat without gagging??
The Deep Throating Guide will help a lot.
A perfect blowjob is when she wakes me up in the morning
My daddy will love this
would it be okay if i suck me bestfriends dick while he’s sleeping? I rlly like him but i dont think he know’s
No. That’s not cool at all. Consent is the first thing you should think about.
to late…
Pls I don’t enjoy sex I feel pain when my husband make love to me and he loves sex, what solution can you give. 2 my husband love’s me sucking him infact that’s my husband best,but I don’t know how to do it pls I need help because I don’t want to loose my husband.
You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel and also show him what feels good for you.
So, I love giving my husband a bj but have never been able to make him cum from one alone but the sex afterwards is amazing. He tells me how good it is so I know he enjoys it when I give him head but says he just has never been able to have an orgasm while being blown. I would love to break this streak, any tips?
It could be a sensitivity problem. Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and see if that helps.
I am brand new to this. I have been asked and want to but when I tried with my dildo I could not do it. So I tried the techniques described in the article. Each day I push in my dildo til I was at the point of gagging. I thought it was in my throat because my throat felt sore and it was hard to breath. Then on the 4th day…. OH my!! I truly slide in. The feeling was strange yet so exhilerating. I could feel my throat tight on it and my throat seemed to want to draw the Dildo in. There was no rawness just a wonderful feeling. I held it there as requested. Forgot to breathe for a bit but then did through my nose.
I have a long way to go before I can take a penis but now I know what it is about and I am very excited!
I’ve been called the thoart God several times. Good tips
glad I could help 😉
I applied all the tips yesterday and give the best orgasm and cock sucking to my husband, it was amazing!!
Glad I could help!
Honestly have never tried it b4 but I wanna try it
When it comes to blow jobs I am a complete beginner so I started from the blowjob guide reading chapter 1. I have a toy penis to practice on but the thing is I don’t know which technique to start with first because the blowjob guide has awesome tips but honestly too much information gets overwhelming.
I found this website by using the Google search. So I took the quiz and the results stated that I am a basic blower.
I was motivated to learn about blowjobs because I went through an embarrassing experience with a guy I met on Facebook dating app. He is strikingly handsome and he has the most beautiful penis I ever saw in my life, so I gave him a blowjob but he kept telling me not to put the teeth, well worst of all I never realize when I am putting the teeth, see what embarrassed me the most was that he wasn’t aroused, so that shows how awful I am at this.
So Sean I would like to congratulate you on creating this website and I also purchased the Blowjob bible for $27. I also listened to your podcasts and you have a very nice voice and I also like your accent.
Thanks Sean , it is great to make woman feel comfortable and inpowered to take the next step and be in control of the bedroom good luck
Sarah