Giving your man a proper testicle massage is really easy and straightforward. There are just a few things that you need to keep in mind.
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Read This Before Rubbing His Balls
Whether you call them the family jewels, testis, or balls, it’s all the same thing.
The testicles are tucked behind your man’s penis, hanging in a sack called the scrotum . Depending on the size of his sac and penis, his balls might be lower than his penis. The cremasteric muscle moves the balls move up and down  in response to temperature [3 p10, 4, 5]; they’re closer to the body when it’s cold and move away when a man is warm [6, 7].
The testicles are responsible for producing sperm and testosterone [11, 12]. They can move independently in the scrotum, which is important to note when you’re giving a testicle massage, because each testicle is connected via spermatic cord [13, 14]. You can also manipulate the scrotum, which is quite stretchy, by tugging or nibbling on it during your scrotum massage. Muscles below the skin contract to give the scrotum its wrinkled appearance . This flexibility helps you to manipulate his balls within the sac.
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However, you shouldn’t focus only on what’s in the sac. A man’s scrotum is analogous to your labia, specifically your labia majora , which means it can be quite sensitive due to all the nerve endings . Many people consider them one of a man’s erogenous zones . Between the balls and anus is the perineum, which is also quite sensitive [19, 20].
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Not every type of stimulation feels good – Very gently nibbling can feel good, but biting might hurt. Similarly, your guy might like it when you tug on his scrotum when giving him a testicle massage, and it may be comfortable for him if you squeeze his testicles, but you don’t want to bite or twist them… unless you want to be a little mean.
His testicles are incredibly sensitive – How many times have you seen a guy on TV getting hit in the testicles and dropping to the ground in absolute agony and pain? Countless times, right?
You won’t master how to massage his testicles if you aren’t aware of how you use your hands. It’s also helpful to check your nails. They should be smooth, and if they’re long, be careful when you use them.
Furthermore, the scrotum can be sensitive in a negative way. Some guys may not like the sensation; others may find it ticklish. Although you can jump into many activities with the assurance that your guy will probably like it, think twice about surprising him with testicle massage. If he’s ticklish, overly sensitive, or simply surprised, it could result in a literal knee-jerk reaction.
It’s best to talk about it first – While talking about sex can be tricky, this isn’t a super serious topic, and there’s not a lot of risk for you to experience rejection.
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He might be totally into the idea and get turned on if you ask if you can massage his balls.
What about your preferences? – Finally, you or he might prefer if his balls are trimmed or shaved. This prevents pubic hair from getting in your mouth or snagging on your hands or any tools you might use. Plus, it may be more visually appealing if he’s clean-shaven.
Shaving the balls can be difficult. You might know how tricky it is if you’ve shaved your vulva. He may want to do it, or you could suggest he trims, instead. Trimming is less likely to irritate the skin, cause an ingrown hair, or break the skin.
You can offer to help so he can shave his balls with ease. This can be an intimate or arousing moment between the two of you.
Besides his eyes, his testicles are the most sensitive part of his body, so you need to be careful not to go overboard and accidentally hurt him.
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Testicle Massage Techniques
There are really only a few testicle massage techniques that you need to use on your man to make him cum hard.
Running Water: The running water massage technique doesn’t involve water. But it will feel like running water to your man! To perform it is easy. Gently cup your man’s balls in you fingers. Next, slowly make a wave-like motion with your fingers so that his balls quickly and gently run through your fingers.
Soft Squeeze: Squeezing your man’s nuts gently is probably the easiest of all the testicle massage techniques that you can try out. Just cup his balls in your hand and very, very gently apply some pressure to them. Then release the pressure. Then apply some more. You can do this over and over.
The Rub: It’s easiest to perform The Rub on your man when he is lying down on his back. Simply run your hand (open palm) from his perineum and over his testicles, over and over again. This is great if your man loves having his perineum stimulated at the same time as his testicles.
Tug: Wrap your thumb and index finger (like the “Okay” sign) above his scrotum above the balls and gently tug downward. It’s best not to jerk his sac. Instead, firmly pull. You can try tugging to one direction or even separating the testicles to pull on only one.
You can do this move when he’s standing up or lying down, but it will be more difficult if he’s sitting.
Vibrator: Women aren’t the only people who like vibrators. Some men like vibrators too. Remember that he might be ticklish or hypersensitive, so don’t surprise him this one. Instead, suggest trying it out to see how he reacts.
You can pair a vibrating scrotum massage with a lingam massage or blow job or even try holding a vibe against his balls when the two of you have sex.
Mouth: Your mouth is a great tool to use for testicle massage. Start by sucking a small part of his ball sac into your mouth, then suck in his first ball. You might not be able to comfortably place both in your mouth at the same time, and that’s okay. Your partner might also like it if you simply hold a ball in your mouth when one of you is stroking his cock.
Any position where you can comfortably reach his sac works for this including…
69 when you’re on the bottom, or…
When he’s standing over you and you are on your knees
Nibble: A gentle nibbling on his sac can feel amazing. You don’t want to use a lot of pressure or sharpness of your teeth. If he finds nibbling too intense, you could try placing your lips over your teeth like you might do during a blowjob so they don’t rub (and potentially hurt) his balls.
Imitation game: One way to see how he likes his testicles massaged is to watch how he touches them. He might cup them right as he’s about to cum or even stretch his sac. It’s also possible that he doesn’t like testicle stimulation at all, so he just leaves them alone.
Feet: This idea might sound a little out there, I know, but hear me out. Some guys like a foot job (read more about this), and some people’s interest goes so far that they have a foot fetish. You can rub your foot against his balls during other sexy activities or make it the main attraction when you give him a foot job.
And if he’s a little masochistic? Nudging, kicking, or stepping on his genitals might be just what the doctor ordered. Of course, you should always make sure that’s actually what he wants first!
Sensual massage: A testicle massage can be part of an allover sensual massage. As you rub down his body, you can occasionally reach down to cup and tug his balls or to stroke his penis.
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What If He Likes It Rough?
So far I’ve emphasized gentle testicle stimulation and open communication without surprises. However, some guys like it when you’re more intense. In fact, some men prefer really rough treatment of their balls. They want more than a testicle massage; they want torture.
Yes, you read that right.
Some people are into what’s known as cock and ball torture or CBT – not to be confused with the cognitive behavioral therapy.
CBT can involve a number of acts:
- Spanking or hitting the cock and balls
- Stepping on his genitals
- Locking the genitals in a cage
- Urethral sounding
- Ball busting
Now, these things might sound pretty extreme. You don’t have to try any of them, and you certainly don’t have to try all of them just because one of them sounds fine. Figure out what works for you and your man, and then learn how to do it safely.
The resource section includes a few suggestions if you want to learn more about cock and ball torture.
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Tools of the Trade
Although you can give a good testicle massage with his your hand or mouth, enlisting the aid of some tools can turn your scrotum massage techniques up to 11!
1. Lube or Massage Oil
Although his testicles and sac are flexible and easily manipulated, using lube or massage oil can enhance the experience and really blow his mind. A slick silicone-based lube, which also works well for massage, or a massage oil allows you to run your hands over his sac and penis with ease.
You don’t even have to buy lube specifically for this. You can use any number of oils for this purpose including jojoba or coconut oil.
But beware: oils degrade condoms. Do not use an oil-based product for massaging his balls and cock if you also use condoms for safer sex.
2. Cock Rings
A cock ring can be worn around in a number of ways depending on the design: around the base of the penis, behind the balls, around the shaft and the balls, or separating the balls. Cock rings can help your man stay harder and feel larger. They may also have vibrating attachments that please you.
Cock rings aren’t intended to be uncomfortable, and sizing is important for safety reasons – especially with rigid materials.
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3. Mittens, Gloves, Scarves, Etc
Anything that you can rub against your man’s balls or rub his balls through can be used for testicle massage. It might be a soft glove or mitten or a scarf. Something with ridges or bumps might feel interesting to him. Blindfold him and have him guess what you’re using to massage him. Or you could use something scratchy with a little more bite.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with temperature, too. There are warming and cooling massage oils. You can dip a cloth in warm or cool water or even place some ice in your hand (or run them under cold water).
4. Ball Stretchers
A ball stretcher pulls the balls down and away from the body. They can be simple and easy to use and made from a variety of materials. A cocksling is a specific type of stretcher that combines the functionality of both a ring and stretcher in one. If you want to try something more extreme, parachutes are types of ball stretchers that you can attach weights to.
5. Bondage Gear
Ropes, bondage tape, bandages, and other strings can be wrapped around the balls to restrict them. Avoid a single, tight loop that can cut off circulation or even break the skin.
You can even use plastic wrap to wrap the balls so tightly that they feel crushed.
6. Cock Cages
A cock cage prevents a man from becoming hard and, usually, ejaculating. Your guy’s balls may still be available to tease or torture depending on the style.
7. Paddles, Whips, Floggers, Canes, and More
All of these devices fall into the category of impact play because someone is hitting someone else with them. Each item has its distinct sensation, and different materials can also affect how it feels.
You can learn a bit more about these items in this post about erotic spanking.
Remember, in a pinch, you can use a spatula or wooden spoon. There’s no need to spend a lot of money on these items.
Whatever you use, practice on a pillow first to perfect your form and aim. Instructional videos are also useful to perfect your art, and you might seek out classes from a local school or sex shop. The wrong technique can cause damage, and you want to hurt your partner temporarily, not harm him in the long run.
8. Straps and Dividers
Similar to stretchers and rings, ball separators go around the sac. But they differ in that they separate the testicles with a strap or bar that runs between them.
9. Clips and Clamps
You can use clamps on the scrotum just like you can the nipples. There are various types of clamps including adjustable styles. Some of them even attach to weights.
There are plenty of other items you can use for testicle stimulation, whether your partner likes a lighter touch or wants it rough. You can also try a do-it-yourself approach with inspiration from the Internet.
Be sure to become familiar with any items before you use them and to follow any safety guidelines. Take your time to research from experienced kinksters to avoid injury.
You will notice that most of these testicle massage techniques are not rocket science. They’re all really simple to perform. I find that rather than using one of these techniques on its own, you should try to use them while giving him a blowjob or a handjob at the same time. The rougher techniques for ball play can also easily work in your BDSM scene!
Uberkinky’s Beginner’s Guide To Cock And Ball Torture includes information about a variety of devices you can use if your man prefers ball stimulation that’s rough and kinky.
There’s a page about Basic Cock and Ball Torture on the Frugal Domme website with a section on safety information.
Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ #1 – Is it normal if my guy doesn’t want a testicle massage?
Absolutely. Some guys are just too sensitive to enjoy it. Others are ticklish. If you’ve asked and he’s declined or if he’s been very clear about not wanting you to rub his balls, respect his wishes.
On the other hand, he might be okay with it as long as you give him the heads up. Just don’t surprise him.
FAQ #2 – How do I get over how weird his balls look?
I get it: balls aren’t exactly pretty. They’re wrinkly and sometimes hairy. When you think of it, penises and vaginas look kind of funny, too.
There are a few things you can try to make it more pleasing.
- Make sure your guy is clean. If he smells fresh, getting close to his balls to give a message can feel better.
- Suggest trimming or shaving his balls. Removing hair can make them much more appealing to the eyes.
- Focus on how good it feels to give him pleasure. Sometimes we do things for our partners, and it’s okay if we don’t love it as long as it makes us feel good to make them feel good.
- Try a blindfold while you fondle his balls.
You don’t have to massage his balls if you absolutely don’t want to, but if you do go ahead with it, do it with enthusiasm. This is an important factor if you want to be good in bed.
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