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Ever since I first published the Blow Job Guide, I have gotten countless pieces of advice, techniques and tips from readers who have their own stories on how they give their men incredible fellatio. Below are the most helpful comments from readers. By the way, if you have a helpful tip yourself, please leave it in the comments section below.
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1. After The Show
This one is from Ashli
Just before the last act of the stage theater behind, I whisper that I can’t wait too have his cock in my mouth. Then slowly rub is leg during the performance. When he looks at me I slowly lick my red lipstick and sensually open my mouth. He squirms and can’t wait for the show to end.
And I’ll tease his cock in the car with through his pants wish my finger nails. He blows his load the second we are home when I put him in my mouth. He had no recollection what the show was about.
2. Hard Day At Work
A comment from Sue
I have a something that I would like to share.
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When my man is feeling a little down, bad day at work or whatever; I always want to show him how much I love him and want to make him feel amazing. So what I do is I start slow, kissing and touching my man all over. I kiss his neck up to his ear lobes and then slowly move down his body; I take him in my hands and slowly tease him too build things up even more. when I have him really turned on and is ready to go a little harder (No pun intended) I take him with both my hand and firmly twist my hand in opposite directions; right hand twisting to the left, left hand going right and moving upwards to the tip. Then I use my mouth to suck hard on his tip using my tongue fellatio his tip. This drives him insane, nothing makes him moan so load and cum quickly. =)
3. The Stop/Start
Diane posted this first fellatio story in the comments section…
First off I love giving blow jobs. I love how it feels in my mouth, how it tastes and how I make the men feel. Usually the guy doesn’t know I want to give just as much as he wants to receive.
To me giving a man a blow job is a totally submissive thing. I do not use it for foreplay, once I start he knows I will finish. Once we where at a movie theater in the back row. I got him so close but before he could finish people came in. We stopped and I started again on the drive home but again we where interrupted by a cop pulling him over for weaving. The cop had to know what I was doing but he didn’t say anything and gave just a warning.
The guy was crazy excited. I knew he had “blue balls” and so wanted to finish so we parked and I went at it again. He jerked and grunted and told me later that was the most fantastic orgasm he ever had. The build up, the stop and starts. Having to talk to the cop with a throbbing erection, wondering if I would do it some more just drove him crazy.
I have practiced this on many guys since but I tell them before, just be patient. It may take all night, off and on, but at the end you/we will get the reward.
Then I moved in with a guy and we started letting it go for a day then two then a week. I would play with him, suck him, let him enter me but never let him complete. I would of course one way or another but after a few days the guys attitude completely changes. I controlled when he came and the anticipation. drives them nuts. And the attention they give you during this period is awesome!
4. A Very Loving BJ
This story was sent in my Pamela (name changed for privacy)….
Here’s something I’ve done a few times to really knock the socks off my man that I think your readers will enjoy.
When I know, my man has had a long and hard day, (no pun intended!) and he gets off work I want to show him how much I appreciate everything he does for me. Of course, I could just tell him how much I appreciate him, but, actions do speak louder than words!
He usually likes to sit down on the couch and watch TV before bed, so this is when I deploy my unique fellatio routine.
First, I walk over to the sofa and straddle him so I can tell him how much I love him, before giving him a few kisses. Nothing super intense or long or overly passionate. Just some kisses so he knows how I feel about him. (Learn more tips on building up to and starting your blow job in Chapter 2)
Next, I reach down with one hand and start to massage him between his legs. If he’s had an especially stressful day at work, it can be a lot of trouble getting him hard, but most days he’s like a flag pole 🙂
Once I can feel that he’s hard, I then get down on my knees and pull his jeans down. Well, I try to pull his jeans down. Sometimes this can be a bit awkward, though, lol!
Once I have them off, it’s time to get to work! I usually start by licking all the way from the base of his penis to the tip. And when I say base, I mean the part behind his testicles. I lick from there, over his balls, up the shaft of his penis and to the head of it.
Sometimes when I get to the tip of his penis, I give it a few seconds of extra attention before starting at the bottom again. I try to do this “bottom-to-top” motion super slowly, so I draw out his pleasure. (Note from Sean: You’ll find a lot more great oral sex techniques like this on in Chapter 5)
After a few minutes of this, when he’s awake and into it, I take his hands and hold them while taking about 2-3 inches of him in my mouth. Then I just move my tongue around his cock, around and around. That’s all I do. There’s really no secret.
There’s just something so intense and intimate and passionate about holding his hands while I perform fellatio on him. It feels like a combination of doing something loving and caring and intimate and sexy for my man all rolled into one.
Then when he climaxes, he squeezes my hands extra hard, starts cursing like a bandit and cums in my mouth. (Note from Sean: Chapter 4 will teach you more intense ways to give your man a powerful orgasm at the end of your blow job)
And that’s how I perform fellatio on my man. I hope my story inspires others!
5. Deep & Slutty
This next one was sent in by Sandra (name changed for privacy)…
I love when we have our date night on a Friday or Saturday night, and I have a few drinks. It always makes me super horny and eager to get him home.
I’m blushing as I type this, but it makes me feel kinda of slutty, but in the best possible way. Being a little drunk sets me free to feel a bit like a pornstar, eager to do more than I normally do…if that makes sense. (Learn more blow job tips pornstars use in Chapter 5)
That’s when I like to take my man deep instead of just giving him regular fellatio. He puts his hands on the back of my head and controls everything. Even though I still gag a bit, it’s super-crazy hot.
Feeling his dominance, hearing him moan in pleasure and knowing that he’s about to ejaculate uncontrollably is the hottest thing ever. And he usually does go over the edge after just a minute or two of this.
I guess you could say that my tip to your readers is to let your man take control and “head fuck” you, as my man calls it. Even though it can be a little uncomfortable, messy and you may be gagging a bit, it’s red hot being his submissive oral sex slave.
6. Take Some Tips From A Gay Man
First of all, actually giving a guy a BJ takes a lot of initiative from your end, so that is why guys don’t really give feedback on your performance. They don’t want to feel like they are pestering you. So that is why you should take them by surprise and give them head that they will never forget.
Secondly, you have to take the type of dick he has into consideration. Whether he is cut, uncut, big, small, there are different techniques to maximize his pleasure.
For cut dicks, you should use more pressure, since they are not that sensitive. Don’t just slurp on his dick, you have to really use some hoover action with your cheeks. Just imagine that you are sucking a golfball through a garden hose, as the saying goes. Use more pressure with your tongue and lips.
For uncut dicks, let’s hope that it is a clean one. If not, be honest and tells him that he needs a wipe around the hood. If everything is good, then go for it. Uncut dicks are more sensitive, so you have to be careful with how much you stimulate the head. You should still suck hard, but also use the foreskin to your advantage. Tug it a little. Put your tongue in between the foreskin and the head, and swirl your tongue around while stroking him with your hands.
Here are some other things you can do while blowing him:
Lick the frenulum (the area just under the head, under the “peehole,” there is a little flap of skin). It’s the most sensitive part of the penis. Use it to your advantage.
Cup his balls while you suck him. Place a finger on his perineum (taint) and put pressure on it.
Glide your lips up and down the sides of his shaft.
Tease him. For example, start slowly putting your mouth towards his penis, but backing away at the last second.
Rub your open palm (with lube) over the top of his head in a circular motion, like you are polishing it, while grabbing the shaft with the other hand.
Stick your tongue in his “peehole.” It’s weird, but can feel good.
Nibble gently on the foreskin with your teeth.
Generally, teeth is frowned upon, but an expert Blow Jobber will know how to use it will. An example is ever so slightly scraping around the shaft with your teeth.
Deep throating requires some training before you can get it right. Even then, it might now always be in your favor. Of course you are more likely to gag on large dicks than small ones. To lessen the gag reflex, you have to do the “tongue depressor” action, which is opening your mouth wide, and sticking your tongue out.. Then, once his dick gets near your throat, you have to start swallowing (this stops the gag reflex). It requires a lot of coordination, mental focus, and practice to get it right. But if you start choking or gagging, pull out his cock. He will find it flattering that you are literally suffocating from his dick. ????
Just explore with what you have… Using your lips, tongue, and whatnot. Find out what feels good to him. Communication is key.
And lastly… The dreaded rimjob. If you can get over the ick factor, you will have complete control over him. Surprisingly, usually guys are less into rimjobs because they feel that they are too “hairy” or “gross” down there. If you have a strong stomach, I’m sure you won’t mind that. Otherwise, they can shave down there and get it all squeaky clean.
Rimjobs have to be eased into… They will find it ticklish at first, but if it “clicks,” they will be hypnotized.
First, make sure that he is comfortable. Some guys prefer lying on their back, but you might have to squish your face into the bed. You could put a pillow under his lower back to alleviate this, or have him lie on his stomach (or go on his knees, bent over), if he can, as this will allow more range of motion with your head.
Start by lightly dabbing your tongue on the hole, and then making circular motions, or licking up and down. As he “loosens up,” you can add more pressure. Use your lips to literally “kiss” his butthole, and start sucking on it a little. Constantly switch it up, to create things exciting. Eventually, if you can get your tongue into his anus, and into the rectum, that is where you have him locked down. He won’t want to take your tongue out. It’s that good. Once inside, start flicking your tongue and going crazy (just don’t pull your tongue muscles! you don’t want to have any embarrassing injuries).
While you are rimming him, you can also stroke him a little. But be careful, as he might start to climax very quickly. It really feels that good!
And there you have it, a gay man’s guide to oral sex (for women). Blow jobs are very labour intensive, especially if you will have to do it for 10 minutes, and you might have to deal with a hoarse voice or a neck pain the next day. But follow these steps, and I am sure your man will buy you that Chanel bag. ????
7. Hold on Tight!
Here’s what Alexa does when her man is about to cum…
My favorite trick is to keep a firm grip on the base of his cock when I know he’s about to cum. Basically you’re trying to hold tight enough that the cum can’t immediately escape from his balls, but not so hard that you’ve got that G.I. Joe Kung Foo grip 😉
You’ll feel the cum back up in his shaft. Let it. Hold on for another beat or two and let go… releasing the load after the initial orgasm can make him feel like he just had multiple orgasms.
Peel him off the ceiling and patiently await all manner of breakfast in bed, flowers, and sweet nothings.
8. Taking It Deep
Jane has some tips on deep throating
1. Don’t be scared to gag a little, men find it attractive
2. Go as deep as you feel comfortable until you eventually escalate to taking it as deep as you can(nobody likes a head hunter)
3. The more spit, the merrier. More spit essentially means you can stroke it better and you replicated the feeling of a vagina using your mouth.
4. Consider the size of the head. Some men have tips that grow quite large so your teeth might hurt him (some men, Not all)
5. Faster isn’t always better, having a slow back and forth motion combined with a little bit of jerking can make him cum faster
9. Using A Vibrator
This tip was sent to us by Shasta (name changed for privacy)…
We added a bullet vibrator to our play last blowjob. At first, I teased his cock with the vibrator. Made him so hard. Then I began the oral while vibrator his balls and taint. He shot a bigger load than he ever did before. Big Fun! I can’t wait to try it again!
10. Lube, Gagging & Tips From The Mafia
From Harley (name changed):
My advice is to use a good quality water base personal lube. Not only does it give me a good excuse (as if I need one) lol to give my man a sensual penis massage to get things started but it makes everything move more easily without relying on producing enough saliva. This trick has extended my ability to perform comfortably which makes it obviously more enjoyable for both of us.
The other thing is to remember to breath especially if you feel like you might gag. I noticed that porn has changed (about the only change in 40 yrs.) lol. It seems to be desirable to gag. Is that so the man feels like he’s just too big to handle?? Lol. Us ladies tried very hard not to gag so I’m sticking with that.
Just for fun, I’d like to tell you that the man that taught me how to give a blow job was raised by mafia prostitutes who taught him everything they knew.
Thanks for your advice. Keep up the good work and you can ask my advice anytime.
11. Make It Sloppy
This guy I was seeing told me the sloppier the better. After a blowjob is finished, there should be a wet spot wherever he was laying. Don’t give up after just a few minutes, it takes girls some time to cum too so give your guy a chance! Also, don’t give blowjobs to make a guy like you. It won’t work.
12. Good Morning Blow Jobs
K had these 3 tips…
- Use your hands too (esspecially if he likes his balls touched).
- If you really wanna Deep throat but it’s hard for you… Practice! A finger, a banana, anything clean can work. It’s a mental block and angles. Find the right angle, get past the block, Deep throat like a pro.
- There’s nothing like a good morning blowjob. My man loves it and moans more (and louder). I’ve been told its his favorite wake up.
13. Tips For Guys Getting Blow Jobs
Jack has these tips that your man should read before he gets a blow job from you…
Personally I love a blowjob as much as I do getting laid, less effort, easy to relax and enjoy and if she’s really good then you’re in for a treat. Tips, be clean, if you know you just worked, had a long day whatever it may be, have the courtesy to not let her go down, till you’ve cleaned up.
Next thing is to keep it groomed, hair and mouths don’t mix. As far as the blowjob itself, relax, don’t force it, your penis or her head down, lol, let her figure it out, I’ve had terrible and I’ve had toe curling, but that toe curling started out terrible too. Coach if all else fails, give pointers, encourage. She will figure it out. Hopefully you get one that can already do a full shakedown on the skin flute and have your toes throwing up gang signs.
14. A Trick To Stop Gagging During Deep Throat
CJ has this advice to stop yourself gagging when deep throating your man…
If you have a weak gag reflex squeeze your thumb or thumbs.
It’s kind of hard to explain but super easy to do. Your right hand will be squeezing your right thumb. Bend your thumb in so it’s laying over the center of your palm. Like a reverse thumbs up. Then bend your fingers over your thumb and squeeze your thumb. So it’s like a fist but with your thumb inside the fist. The tighter your sqeeze your thumb you won’t gag.
You can do this with one hand or both. So try it, stick your finger to the back of your throat until you gag. Then try it while you squeeze your thumb with the other hand. It works for me. Try it, let me know if it works to keep you from gagging so easily.
15. Kitten Licks & More Tips
Greybird has mulitple tips you can use…
Be eager – Most importantly you must be eager to do it, a partner who wants to please you is the sexiest thing and makes you feel amazing. Initiate it too, catch him off guard and help him out. If you’re eager and happy to be performing they’ll feel like the king of the world.
Wetter is better – Personally I’ve found that the wetter the better when it comes to blow jobs, you can use all sorts but my favourite is either your own saliva or a flavoured lube, it helps to glide easier and makes the experience a lot more enjoyable for both of you.
Play with his balls – I like to start slow and massage and suck the balls, they often get forgotten and they’re so sensitive it’s a shame, I start by rolling them with my hands and tugging slightly before taking them in my mouth one at a time. I often go from that to licking a strip on the underside of the penis from base to tip.
Heady – Next I like to play with the head gentle sucks and kitten licks, directing firm licks straight onto the frenulum drives them wild. Treat it like a clit and give it a decent amount of attention. Some guys like it if you push your vibrator against the shaft while you’re performing, it adds an extra sensation and can feel really nice for them.
Edge him – Whenever I am giving head I like to take my time, drive them to the edge then stop and start again. I always feel really powerful when I do this and it makes it feel so much better for him when I do finally get down to making him cum.
Fix your gag reflex – If you have a sensitive gag reflex a tip I’ve found that helps is making a fist with your left hand trapping your thumb in the middle. It suppresses the urge and even if it doesn’t work to suppress it fully it might help to take the penis in further.
Take him where you want him – You don’t have to let him cum in your mouth if you aren’t ok with it, most guys are happy to cum on your face or over your boobs.
16. The Twister
I call it the Twister. Tbh I don’t even know where I learned it from haha. So the method basically goes like this; left hand plays with the balls and fingers press on the skin right underneath the balls, right before the prostate (the perineum), while the right hands’ wrist bends when it goes down and straightens when it goes up along the shaft. And your mouth follows this hand pumping motion, but your head does not bend with your hand.
I hope that makes sense!
17. Not So Tight!
My main tip to you is don’t grip it like you’re holding on for dear life. that hurts. SOME pressure but not a lot. And for the love of god NO TEETH unless he specifically asks for it. don’t sit there darting your tongue around the head of his dick. that’s annoying. just think how you would suck on a popsicle. Do that. no biting. You’re set.
18. Embrace The Dick
MP had this advice…
The only advice I have. For me. Don’t run from the dick. Embrace it. Caress it. Get truly familiar with the dick. Every inch(soft and hard). Don’t stay at the head. Lick, kiss and deep throat the dick ass long and as much as you can. I do. I’ve gotten over gagging. I have to gag myself. I’ve never enjoyed sucking dick before. Now, it makes my pussy wet giving my man goosebumps and making his toes curl. Give it to him the way you want him to eat your pussy. You get what you give. Use your hands to not wear out your mouth.
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19. Don’t be afraid to show him that turning him on turns you on
If I could give any helpful advice in regards to giving a 5-star blowie I would begin by saying, “attitude is everything”. I’ve been with my current partner, and father of 2 of my children for nearly five years and our level of intimacy is as firey and alive as the first time we had sex.
If you’re not into giving oral, men pick up on those kinds of signals. I don’t find it very difficult in initiating a fun time by doing it with a smile (or a donut smile rather…) along with enthusiasm. It doesn’t matter if you’re a pro or have never given oral before, if you know many techniques or a simple up and down, figure out what he likes most by paying attention to the way he reacts to different techniques. Try fast, slow, tight sucks, and loose ones… Once you find what he likes it’s all about finding the right rhythm.
Don’t be afraid to show him that turning him on turns you on is another thing I’d suggest. Playing with your breasts and or touching yourself while blowing your partner can not only enhance your own pleasure but his as well.
That’s all I’ve got, hope this helps.
Rudabaker had this technique to share:
Hi Sean, my tip is a little tricky to explain but I will try my best. It’s like rubbing your tongue on the roof of your mouth only do the same motion to the head of the penis. Right over the slit, use the roughest part of you tongue and use little licks sliding down.
Position your head directly over the head of the penis, like your going to lick the head with your whole tongue. Only with this, stick the head in your mouth, and use the middle of your tongue to apply pressure and lick back and forth over the slit. While gliding your hand up and down the shaft with plenty of spit or lube. Drives my guy crazy. Hope I explained well enough.
21. Anal Beads, Nibbling & Edging
Hilda varies her blow jobs with multiple techniques:
I found using anal beads and either a vibrater or wand on the man’s balls while sucking or licking gets a nice response, and before he is allowed to cum i sometime use ice cubes on the tip of his penis… it’s fun watching guys squirm and beg.
Nibbling on sides is another one I found guys to enjoy, and sometimes I either start really fast so he hits climax and then stop or I can start really slow and build him up and stop and start all over again. Hope this helps
22. Get Him On All Fours & Cool Blowing
Mana shared this advice
You know how guys love it when you suck their earlobe and then lick around the ear just before blowing on it? They also love that same sensation on their cocks. When you’ve licked the cock wet enough (taking it in your mouth and/or spitting on it also helps), blow gently on it either from the side or while you still have your mouth around it. You can use gentle warm breath or blow out faster, colder air for varying sensations.
One move you can do (in the middle of the job, not as a beginning, as you want him already hard) is to get the guy on his hands and knees and kneel behind him between his spread legs. Start sucking the head of his cock (contortit slightly or gently pulling it towards you are necessary for long cocks) and then, without breaking contact, move into slowly licking the shaft, then over the balls, and up to the anus where you play with the anus (circle your tongue around, push it in gently, etc.) for a short time before starting the move all over again. Bonus points for gently biting an ass cheek.
And don’t forget to lick the man’s cock clean after he comes in your mouth, telling him how good he tastes (I enjoy the taste anyway)!
23. 4 Things: More Than His Penis, First Contact, Be Present & Enjoy It
Olivia has 4 tips, #4 is the most important:
1) The penis is not the only sensitive part of the groin area. There’s a huge realm of things to try and play with. There´s buttocks, anus, perineum, legs, balls of course, but there are also hips, pelvis, and that sensitive place where the legs and the torso join. Also, the underside of the legs, where the buttock and the legs meet.
2) My first contact with the penis, especially when it’s my first time with the guy, involves a straight lick from the very base of the penis up to the tip, usually quite slowly. The goal is to pay attention to his reaction; that way you can find out which part of this particular guy’s dick is the most sensitive, or the part he enjoys having stimulated the most.
3) Pay attention, always. I think many girls get in their heads too much and stop listening, stop feeling him or responding to his reactions. This is so important.
4) last but not least, and this is something you always say, we need to actually have fun and enjoy it, lose the pressure. My current boyfriend is a bi-sexual, and once I asked him the difference between the guys he had been with and the girls. He told me that usually, females are in their heads so much, while men tend to relax and let go. It makes for a much more primal, sensitive sex. He taught me to get out of my head and play, have fun, find things out, explore, and have a good laugh when we feel like it. To me, giving a blowjob is more about making him (and even yourself) feel good, not about making him come. It’s like cooking something tasty for someone you love. You do it so they enjoy the meal, not just to fulfill their biological need to eat 🙂
24. The Underwater, The Bind & The King
Katarina swears by these 3 techniques:
1. The Underwater – During this bj, I move my mouth and hands INCREDIBLY slow, as if I were moving underwater. I incorporate a lot of eye contact and quivering pauses to increase tension. Moving back and forth often between penis and balls is also helpful.
2. The Bind – Usually during oral I open my husband’s legs so I can access balls/taint/inner thigh. But for variety sometimes I will press his legs together at the hips. In this move, only the penis and the top of the balks are accessible. This gives the blow job the novelty of variety, as well as a light s&m feel.
3. The King – This is a tantric move in which I use intention to elevate the oral experience. Before I even start, I take a few minutes to think about all the wonderful manly things my husband does that I so appreciate. Fixing things around the house, building things with his hands, looking hot as hell in his tank top and jeans. Then I imagine I can’t verbally express these things – I must use my mouth and tongue and hands to communicate that appreciation right into his manhood. I keep all that gratitude in my mind and visualize myself ‘speaking’ that feeling directly into his cock. Who says blow jobs cant be romantic 🙂
25. Build Up
Don’t just go into it without building the suspense and arousal first
For actual technique, I like to start by licking around the head first, kiss and lick up and down the shaft, and lightly massage the testicles. Then when I finally wrap my mouth around it, I go slow and work my mouth down as far as I possibly can and will sometimes try to lick his balls while the shaft is in my mouth.
Once momentum is built, I always use my hands to help stroke and massage. I try to get a good rhythm going for a while and then break it up with enthusiastic licks to the frenulum and swirling my tongue around the head, and then go back to sucking. Use the hands!
Let them help, but not too aggressively. The inside of your cheeks gives the same sensations as the inside of the vagina, so you want to make sure its enjoyable in a similar way.
I am also a fan of letting him choose where to cum. I think it helps the excitement when you let a man fulfill his fantasy of where they would like to unload. And don’t be afraid to swallow. It’s good for both of you.
26. How To Not Gag During Fellatio
Sancha has this tip to prevent gagging:
Okay, this may sound a little bit weird and strange, but I use this technique to help me not gag when I’m deepthroating a dick.
Naturally, I don’t have a gag reflex so I can deepthroat easily. But I only use this technique whenever my face gets throat fucked, or the guy pushes my head against his dick. Since I’m right-handed, I make a fist (thumb inside) with my left hand while I’m getting my throat destroyed
This personally helps me to not gag.
If the girl/guy is left-handed, they can make a fist with their right hand (thumb inside) while stroking the penis with their dominant hand. Hopefully, this helps!!
27. Inevitably he will feel like he ought to be the one thanking you
A really important insight from one reader:
I have learned so much from your site and podcasts–thank you! Hope this helps someone else…
1. Find the right partner–in my experience, if you’re well-matched, you will crave your man. While I was considering whether or not to proceed with a certain person, my friend said to me, “It’s simple–do you want his cock in your mouth?” My husband of 17 years and I were not sexually compatible, and he didn’t care for blow jobs, which is a shame because I love to give head, and just really had no desire left for him. My new love makes me feel amazing in every way. I crave him. When we are apart, I fantasize about his cock, the way he feels and tastes, and the sounds of pleasure I get to bring out.
2. Relax the back of your throat, your jaw, and your neck, and release yourself from internal pressure. Welcome him and let him melt into you, find a natural pace, and don’t make it complicated. Flow into it, he will love it!
3. Remember that it’s not just a body part. Your man’s cock is the full physical expression of his being and essence. You aren’t just pleasing his physical senses–you’re taking him in his power and glory. Adore him. Think of everything you love about him, and realize that you are tasting his greatness as a man. Let him know you feel that way.
4. Thank him! Inevitably he will feel like he ought to be the one thanking you–and hopefully, he will reciprocate. But when you thank him for giving himself to you this way, it blows his mind and affirms him.
28. Taste Yourself
R has this great tip on tasting yourself during sex:
I always alternate with intercourse and blowjob back to intercourse and blowjob again. Something about me licking my own juices off of his cock makes him go wild! It took me a while to get used to my own taste.
I used to only do this after showering first. But it didn’t take long for me to get used to it and now I can’t wait to taste myself on him! Bonus – when I give him oral, I make it extra sloppy, so there is plenty of lube for intercourse. It doesn’t last as long as regular lube, but when it wears off, I just put him back in my mouth, get him extra slippery from my saliva, and then insert him back inside.
Often times we will switch positions between blowjobs. Maybe start off spooning then switch to a blowjob. Then go to missionary then back to a blowjob. Doggy, blowjob, seated, blowjob, etc. You get the picture. Of course, I always end on a blowjob so that he sees me licking the mixture of his and my own cum off of his cock. I haven’t got the nerve to try anal to mouth yet. It’s not really in my plans. But that’s always an option for the more daring lol!
29. Thoughts on Vomiting
Warning: I received this from a reader, but I don’t recommend you try it. However, I wanted to include it as an alternative perspective as I get many questions about throwing up/vomiting.
Remember, great sex is about consent.
I don’t know if you will be able to use my response…
A guy I’ve been seeing for about a year calls me over about every 2 weeks. I love giving him a blow job, I love the way he tastes and feels good in my mouth, sometimes I call him because I love it so much. He is really big, so I was surprised when I was able to deep throat him without any problems the first time we were together.
The second time though, I vomited on him.
This is the first time that had happened to me, and I think him too because we both paused, I didn’t know what to do, but then he told me to keep going so I swallowed and continued. I was soo… embarrassed and thought he would never call me back, but he did and more often than he was.
He must have liked it, a lot, because I’m sure he makes me vomit on purpose now after I got more comfortable being around him
I think I have come to like it too.
It’s something about him having that kind of control over me, the way he moans and the fact that it’s because of me, the way he tells me to take it all as he pushes my head down with his strong hands; I love it when he touches me; the way he plays with my nipples, the way his cum tastes, the way his penis throbs from base to tip while in my mouth, that turns me on.
So I guess my advice would be to push yourself outside your comfort zone. I push myself because there have been times where I wanted to give up on him, even though he cums fairly quickly, but it’s always worth it, for both of us, for me to keep going.
30. Suck His Balls
Haley had this advice about an often overlooked aspect of fellatio
My tip, which I’m sure is well known, but girls never seem to do it is…
Always suck the balls.
Start off with a little lick, a gentle suck, and then when you know he’s into it get it your mouth. Sloppy sucking of balls is a game-changer x
A short and sweet tip from Phoebe
It is ok to choke and dribble spit, guys love that.
And keep your teeth out of the way!
32. Be Open & Honest
Helen had a really important message on communication
To be honest, I would say be open and honest and be comfortable. Me and my partner are really open with ideas.
Sometimes he suggests things, and I think “no.” Others I am honest with and say I will consider. It makes blow jobs special, as I never feel “oh god I don’t really want to be doing this.” or “am I doing this how he likes?” because we talk. We share porn scenes between us of things we like and incorporate in our own way.
Also, confidence is a HUGE thing. If you get a bit bored, bring in some toys, it is all about trust. Whipped cream, anything to make it fun. My opinion is that sex should be fun. Also, be open that you and your partner may have very different ideas of what gets you off. That is okay!
Start a conversation about it and don’t judge and see where it goes. Noises and mess is all part of the fun, and in my experience, welcomed.
33. 5 Killer Fellatio Tips
M gave 5 of her top fellatio techniques
First off, I love giving my man blow jobs! He gets them almost every morning before I leave for work…and then sometimes again later.
I just adore my man and get crazy wet, taking him into my mouth. I mean, I even moan a lot because I love it so much! I was thankfully given the gift of a never tiering jaw, lol.
I like to play around with different techniques (and locations) all of the time, but here is one of my/our favorites:
1. I tell home to lay back and relax, and then I blindfold him, so he has no idea what to expect, and his other senses are intensified.
2. I put a generous amount of flavored lube on his cock and spread it around with my tongue and lips, then my hands.
3. After playing around with different licks, strokes, rhythms and tempos that I know drive him wild, I take him deep into my throat a few times — pulsing and squeezing it in my throat until I absolutely need to come up for air.
4. I then wrap both hands around his cock (one on top of the other) so that as I stroke down (in a slow twisting, bobbing motion), I can take the tip of his cock into my mouth. I also move my tongue around vigorously to stimulate the frenulum more. As I stroke up, my hands and mouth remain in the same position, but only one hand is still on his cock. I repeat this several times.
5. He’s naturally expecting to feel my mouth each time after I do this, but I randomly won’t put my mouth back, and his poor tip is left out…oops!
This drives him wild and he can’t hold back for long at all! Though, I usually make him wait… bringing him to the edge at least 2 times before I let him orgasm.
I call swallowing him “my dessert”.
Tip: Be a lady (or gentleman) and clean up your mess — gently lick the extra lube off his shaft and balls when you’re done. A few times I’ve gotten him hard again and to cum twice in 30 minutes with this one!
34. Only Do It If You Love It
From the Fellatio Fanatic
If you don’t love giving your man a bj, then don’t do it. He can tell. You need to love giving him a bj just as much as you love sex with him. When you love it, he’ll love it even more!
35. “Suck his cock like you are stealing his soul”
These are wild!:
I believe blow jobs are something you are supposed to like doing, and it’s a skill every man will enjoy. You can either hone your skills or you will be giving what I call high school blow jobs for the rest of your life, you know like when you first start…
You are only doing it because you are trying to impress your man: In and out, not too deep and praying he cums soon. You should embrace it, make it better every single time.
I have a saying that every cock sucker should live by. “If you don’t watch his soul leave his body as you swallow at least once every six months you are not doing it right.”
Twirl your tongue, not just on the head but all the way down.
Suck hard sometimes like you are giving a hickey.
Don’t be lame and only suck on the tip. Make sure that you are taking all of it down your throat. If you are not, you need to practice.
Swallow, don’t spit it out. (he’ll love it, it’s cleaner, and you know no one is getting pregnant).
Don’t give out the good blowies to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. That’s reserved for your “special guy.”
Moan while sucking, grind your pussy on his leg or whatever you have around you.
Suck his cock like you are stealing his soul every time.
If you don’t have to get on your knees, then don’t.
Don’t be afraid to try new ways to move your tongue and lips.
If you really want to steal his soul and have him obsessed with you, don’t stop sucking when he gets done cumming, wrap your arms around his hips and keep sucking until he squirts!
36. “If you get tired, just use your hand for a couple of seconds or a minute to relax your muscles”
Gina does use a combination of things to make fellatio spicy
My personal advice in regards to blowjobs is to, first of all, not to rush into it straight away. Gently tease over the pants, touch around his penis and scrotum once you feel it getting big.
Then slowly unzip those pants, give it a few kisses, especially if he has his favorite spots he likes you to kiss. Then gradually “absorb” that penis with your mouth.
It is important to be hydrated before the blowjob as more saliva = better slide.
Don’t use your hands until that penis is well moist, and you can start sliding over it otherwise, it will be unpleasant for him.
I always use both hands, one on his penis going slowly up and down, and the other one from time to time on balls touching around, sometimes around and in his anus as he likes it.
I generally am doing everything very slowly, as if I was eating an icecream I really like.
My bf’s favorite is when I twist the top of the penis aside while I’m sucking it simultaneously.
If you get tired, just use your hand for a couple of seconds or a minute to relax your muscles.
I usually do all of this on my knees, but sometimes sitting on his chest too, with my butt facing his face.
It adds extra spiciness. At the end, alwayyyys, finish in the mouth. That’s our secret ingredient to a happy relationship. 😛
37. Fellatio Games To Improve Your Skills
Francis has these 2 fun games to play to improve your fellatio experience
My fun tip is role playing a version of teacher and student with him being the teacher. Essentially it’s a sexy and fun shortcut to him teaching you exactly what he wants! Make sure to ask “like this?” and ask for a lot for clarification. Then, simply remember what your teacher taught you next time 🙂
Another fun one is a game we call “You have to watch”. You can roll play with this one too in a ton of ways but the gist is that the person receiving has to maintain unbroken eye contact with the giver. As a receiver, it’s so hard yet sexy. It seems to intensity everything! As the giver, it’s a really fun kind of light-hearted torture. Fun all around 🙂
38. Enthusiasm + Deep Throating
Lots of tips from R:
I LOVE GIVING BJ… to the right person only haha.
Here are a few tips:
#1 (Most important) Enthusiasm: You just got to love giving fellatio! Guys can tell if you are not enjoying it. Honestly, seeing your guy getting out of control because of what you are doing to them is the best feeling/ motivation ever!
#2 Communication: Do not be scared to ask what he likes/ how he feels. It’s all about respect. Some guys probably feel sensitive in some areas, and they don’t want to be touched in those areas – so asking them is the best way to find out. Also, don’t be afraid of trying new things – of course, need to get permission from the person + you need to be comfortable with it too!
#3 Deep Throating Tips: TOTALLY DOABLE.
Yes, you might gag a lot in the beginning, but thing good thing is you can practice. I’ve learned that you can practice it even when you brush your teeth, just put the toothbrush slightly towards the back of your throat, and over time you learn to relax.
I found a slightly easier way – have yourself lie on the bed, with your head hanging at the edge of the bed (so your neck and body are in a straight line). That way, I found it easy for him to slide in deeper. Of course, when you feel uncomfortable, you have to let him know. Honestly, deep throating is one of the best things you can do for a guy as you produce a lot of saliva in the process, which makes the whole experience even more pleasurable for him.
#4 Eye Contact: No matter how messy your makeup/ hair is, just look up to your guys – they love it. Seriously they still see you as a goddess, so just forget about your looks at that moment – being in present is key!
#5 Hand + Mouth + Tongue: This is a killer combo and will send your guy straight to heaven. Try swirling your tongue around it, treat it like a delicate, precious thing (be gentle too), and massage the balls at the same time. If you and your guy are into rimming, you can try licking his rim (+tongue skill) and use your hand to move up and down his thing.
#6 Roleplay + compliments: Throw in some role play (e.g., daddy) and compliments (e.g., wow, this is so big). This gives a guy the feeling he is wanted and shows that you are dying to give him a BJ.
Also crucial for guys, you have to compliment your girls on their oral skills! I wasn’t that confident at giving fellatio until I met this guy who gave me a lot of compliments on how good it felt, how it was the best BJ he’s ever received.
Hearing things like this really boosts your ego and encourages you to try more new things with him.
I probably have more tips, but the above are the ones that I can think of right now.
39. Let Go
Short & sweet from anonymous
My biggest advice is to let go of self-consciousness and drool and spit with abandon. Messy blow jobs are the best.
40. Don’t Act
TB explains her secret weapon
I find that when I meet his (this has applied to any man I have given oral to) gaze and lock eyes when I am very slowly licking or sucking the tip of his penis, they lose their minds. Men are so visual and they love watching the oral sex happening slowly so they can record the mental image of it. I suppose it also encompasses the “worshipping” moment of it and what man doesn’t love that moment?
I’m sure that it doesn’t hurt that I have perfected this innocent/sexy/submissive/I’m in heaven giving you oral sex look on my face. It is, however, VERY important to note that this is not an act. I ONLY give oral to a man that makes me feel those things in the first place. When that is authentic, then I am VERY turned on by his response and how turned on he is.
I also like to talk dirty so throwing in an “Mmmmmm, I LOVE sucking your rock hard [email protected]…..” in my best sultry Marilyn Monroe voice while I give the look equals fireworks!!!
Hope this helps! xoxo
41. A Lot Of Spit
This one is from T:
I have always considered myself to be above average when it comes to the art of oral sex. I pride myself on being able to make a mans back arch with just the power of my lips around his cock. My boyfriend says it’s like he has his own little pornstar between his legs.
I think a lot of people try rush the blowjob in order to get to the good part. However, a blowjob is meant to be savored. First by taking your time to generate (and isn’t the most seductive way of putting it but) a massive amount of spit. And then proceed to in the sexiest manner possible get the dick covered. I like to let it run down my bottom lip before it drips onto his length keeping eye contact with him.
Once there’s enough lubrication I can get started with a wide lick up his shaft to meet the tip, gently taking the head of his penis between my lips and rolling my tongue over the sensitive nerve endings paying attention to his body language for where the most pleasurable parts are.
All the while I’m also working my hand up and down his length. During this portion I also like to gather some spit in my hands to (lightly!) fondle his balls. At this point there should be some telling drops of pre-cum forming at which point I will begin to take him deeper down my throat, letting the head of his dick graze the back of my throat sucking the whole time.
I’ll then switch back to the head of his penis giving attention there while my hand will again work his shaft, switching between the two.
This next part is my favorite because it’s what almost always guarantees me leg shakes and back arches of pleasure. I then will make my way down towards his balls, sucking on the sensitive area towards the bottom of his shaft. While I do this my hands works the top of the penis, my thumb running over the head. I’ll also make my way down to his balls, licking and sucking until he is begging me to take him down my throat again.
At that point I typically ask him what he wants from me to make him cum. But so far no complaints for this mouth here! Hope this helps some ladies out there trying to please their man!
42. I Make Every Blowjob A “Thank You” Letter Of Sorts To My Man.
I make every blowjob a “thank you” letter of sorts to my man.
Each one is unique in the various techniques I use to tell him how much I love his big cock (using both hands to stroke while flicking my tongue on the underside of the head for instance, going between pointed tongue and flat; or learning to gag when deep throating because I found out he was into that and I naturally don’t gag. Communication is key.).
I tell him thank you for making me cum (playfully lick from base to tip in one motion before putting my mouth all the way around the head and slightly twisting my head back and forth/up and down, while licking and gently sucking- always stroking the base with one hand, other hand playing with myself until I cum again and then let him lick my fingers.).
Tell him that he can relax and let me take care of him (gently cup, rub, pull the balls, ladies. They’ll melt and be putty in your hands).
As long as you’re enthusiastic and genuinely enjoy what you’re doing, your man will know and probably find you super hot. Looking him in the eye, showing him his load on your tongue before swallowing and telling him, “thank you” doesn’t hurt, either.
43. Anticipation, Biting & Dentures
My late wife really was tuned into me, and I was never left wanting.
Almost as good as the blow job itself, is knowing that you are going to get one…the anticipation. She knew how much I liked to be blown. And not surprisingly, she knew I liked to finish in her mouth. So more often than not, sex sessions started with me orally getting her off until she was too sensitive to touch. Then all kinds of fucking and sucking, stroking and poking. And then we usually finished with me in her mouth.
But knowing I would come in her mouth, this anticipation kept the fire burning hot during sex. I knew she was going to suck me off, and she knew it too. But she would still TELL me she was going to.
It was dirty talk at its best! And the icing on the cake is she got off sucking me off.
That just takes it up a notch!
One thing as far as technique goes, women are always told to keep their teeth out of the way, for a good reason. But that is missing out on some good stimulation. Reasonable biting pressure is really good! It is the teeth scraping the cock that is bad! So “biting” needs to be done with no in-and-out motion.
That all said, there is one more thing to mention…
A long way back, she was having so many dental problems. She finally decided to have all her teeth pulled and go with full dentures. That was the best thing she could have done. No more dental problems.
What we didn’t realize was…What a boost that would be for oral sex! Wow! Easier for her and for me? I’m sure you can get an idea, but it is even better than that! So go ahead and bite down. Hard. And drag in and out. So full dentures are not something to do unnecessarily, of course, but if faced with it, there is one huge benefit!
44. This Creates A Pool Of Saliva
1. The most important tip is to be into it …. Appear that you cannot get enough of it – worship it and love it
2. Sometimes, when your giving a blow job your mouth becomes dry and a blowjob always feels better when it’s super wet. I ask the guy to push my head down quick and gently, but enough so it hits the back of my throat … this creates a pool of saliva and will drip out of my mouth all over the place. Makes it super easy to jerk them off at the same time.
3. Use your hand and mouth in unison … when your mouth goes down or up, your hand follows. Using your whole hand, wrap it around and start bobbing up and down at the same time.
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Sean, does anyone have any tips for giving BJ’s to my boyfriend who suffers from ED? He can still have orgasms, and he still ejaculates…the thing is that from start to finish, he’s as limp as a noodle. He has some medical reason because when he was young he got hard but not now. I even secretly spent $55 on Extenz and nothing. Nada. Zip! I We can’t have traditional sex, so I wanna REALLY give him the best oral! Cause he LOVES it! He even tells me it’s the best he’s ever had. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
Sean Jameson says
If there is a medical condition causing this, then there is very little you can do other than getting him to talk to his doctor to find a cure/solution.
Hi my bf has ed too but he loves when i 1st play w hus nipples then suck them then when i give him a bj keep one hand playing w nipple other hanb messages balls n the skin between balls an ass i use what u call a piston sucking on his penis a sucking thrusting w my mouth n tounge alsoo go to a homeopathic store. Yohimbe bark in pill form works great between than all those blue pills n extendz n wont interfer if he is on meds
All I need to say is “I’m a magician with my mouth”…. That’s the exact words from my man… Thx Sean…
Go to dr. They’ll give out viagra to just anyone who is old enough. It’s amazing whether you needed or not! 🙂
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Sean Jameson says
Are you talking about the user submissions? I like to leave them unedited and in their original form.
Or are you talking about my writing? Let me know if you spot anything?
I’m telling the truth when I say I love sucking my man’s cock. I start slow. A few kisses here and there. And when it’s time to start I put some cherry lube into my mouth. I swirl it around with my salvia and hover above the tip of his hard cock. I slowly drizzle it onto the tip, and my head is high enough he can watch me as I do it. It slides down the shaft and then all over his balls. Everything tastes better with cherry lube and feels better too.
I enjoy trying not using my hands and going all mouth and tongue if possible. Alot of tongue swirling, tickling the tip and dragging it underneath. Move your tongue in every direction possible in and out of your mouth. He’ll love it.
*The only warning is if you are going to rim him use plain lube as the flavored stuff burns your eyes. When I come up for air and start on his cock again I switch to cherry and give him another drizzle.
Let me start by saying I am in a D/s relationship. My Dom really enjoys felatio, but he is rather well endowed. My gag reflex isn’t so much the issue, as is he’s thick (or my throat is small) and once he hits my tonsils he can’t push any further. Any tips for stretching my throat? I really want to be able to take all of him. Plus I feel like I’m disappointing him when I can’t take him in my throat. Thanks in advance.
My boyfriend and I both love it when I use the candy “Pop Rocks” he saids it feels odd in a good day. And I LOVE the taste so much more becuase it last for a very long time. Lol Something kind of odd if anyone wants to try it. He has to be hard before you put the pop rocks on. A tip about that is lick it first or suck on it for a while the either dip it in or pour it on top. Also it gets VERY sticky so be sure to wash after words. And if you have long hair be very careful it can get messy!
I’m not trying to bash anyone’s methods. But I’m pretty sure sugar in the nether regions is neither good for male or female sex organs. It can cause infection and pain during sex.
My favorite trick is to keep a firm grip on the base of his cock when I know he’s about to cum. Basically you’re trying to hold tight enough that the cum can’t immediately escape from his balls, but not so hard that you’ve got that G.I. Joe Kung Foo grip 😉
You’ll feel the cum back up in his shaft. Let it. Hold on for another beat or two and let go… releasing the load after the initial orgasm can make him feel like he just had multiple orgasms.
Peel him off the ceiling and patiently await all manner of breakfast in bed, flowers, and sweet nothings.
My bf is 9 inches, I love that , but When I give him a bj I can’t tale it all in my mouth. I wanna be able to take him all in my mouth but I gag which he loves (Idky he does). But I wanna be able to take all 9 inches in my mouth and make him moan so much. Got any tips to help a girl out?
Sean Jameson says
Check out our guide on how to deep throat without gagging!
This is definitely not a just discovered secret I’m bragging about but I was never a fanatic about my husband testicles they just made me gag until I follow Bad Girls Bible an I’m totally addicted an reading every last bit as soon as I get a new email an made me discover myself an my husband more. But anyways I’ll start slow kissing him in bed rubbing my hands all over his body start it slow an do all the usually foreplay then start with a nice an slow blowjob then when I can tell hes really getting worked up an supper ready for the end I’ll swap an starting stroking his cock an licking /flicking my tounge all over his balls an he just loses it.
Sean Jameson says
Glad I could help 🙂
How do you subtly deal with your man who has been sweating throughout the day and has quite smelly balls but still wanna surprise blow?
Sean Jameson says
Shower together first 😉
Donald swift says
Ya I’ve been trying to get my girlfriend to give me a blowjob but she just won’t do it and that’s something I’m used to but I get nothing what should I do for
My lover will only text me to give him a massage and a blow job… Does that mean I’m his girl? We got in an argument and he delete me from all social media? How do I get him back. Help!!!!!
Sean Jameson says
It’s hard for me to give advice on this one as I don’t know the details of your relationship. Have you talked to him?
My dude s moving to Arizona with his wife tomorrow. It’s over, no “hard” feelings. It was just fabulous sex. I was faithful to my husband for 41-1/2. I left him over a complicated relationship with our son. I waited 6 months, but Dude had been after me for at least two years.
I’ve always loved sucking cock, but not my husband’s. He was very small, hairy, uncircumsised and his dick smelled It broke the excitement to make to make him wash it.
I already gave good blow jobs, but I read up on it on your site and did things with Dude that I’d never done before. I bought some sex toys, learned about stimulating his anus, giving him rim jobs and all kinds of other things.
I loved to catch him off guard, locking us in the bathroom after an A.A. meeting, blowing him on our second time, shoving a vibrator in his ass and sucking him off in about 3 minutes while his wife was in the bathroom at the A.A. hall. Massaging with cock through his button down jeans, unbuttoning them and swerving into a parking lot and finishing him off. Pulling over by a bunch of construction equipment and sucking his big cock right there. He’s about 9″, but I never gagged, well maybe a couple of times. I’d never had facials or let anyone tie me down (both my idea) and dressed like a slut. Almost 65 and still learning! Oh yeah, I loved sucking my juices off him and was so excited that I squirted 5-8 ties while I was sucking his HUGE cock!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and he was the first person I have ever given a blowjob to, basically he’s all my firsts. Anyways, I had no freaking idea how to give him a blow job so I did so much research and I came across badgirlsbible articles and I immediately subscribed. I had no idea what I was doing but these articles really helped me and he tells me how good it feels and it makes me feel so happy that I give him a good blowjob because he gives me good head as well. His tongue is magical, anyways but my boyfriend really loves it when I suck all his balls and give him a handjob at the same time. It made him finish quickly and every guy is different. So he may or may not like it.
Lisa Jones says
When giving a blowjob I find I can’t breathe. Especially when deep throating my head and nose get stopped up. I’ve learned to hold my breath for quite a while but always have to stop just when things get good. I seem to have so many juices flowing I can’t breathe through my nose. I stop and blow my nose when I can but it gets frustrating to us both. I’ve read all the comments and all I see are comments regarding breathing through you nose. Help! PS he loves to face fuck me. I can only do it for so long then have to stop to breathe.
Sean Jameson says
Could you stop and take a breath every 5-10 seconds?
When giving my man a blow job, while he’s lying on his back, I’ll get in between his legs on my belly to continue theblowjob. I’ll be sure to get him really wet and my saliva is running down his balls to his butt crack. When he’s not expecting it, I’ll push his legs up enough to lick behind his balls a while.
I’ll keep going back and forth then I’ll lick him straight down from the tip of his cock to his anus. He goes completely wild and soon cums in my mouth, where I’m sure to lick with open mouth while he’s cumming so he can see it in my mouth and running out. After I swallow, I’ll lick him clean, then my lips and he thinks he’s died and gone to heaven.
Sean Jameson says
Thanks for sharing Laura
I start by kissing him and biting his bottom lip and then kiss and bite him all the way down his body until I get inside his legs. Then I kiss and lick his thighs and lick his balls and kiss and apply pressure with my tongue to the area surrounding the base of his cock. This drives him nuts. I do this for a couple of minutes until I have him squirming and then I slowly lick up to the top of his head a few times before I put the tip in my mouth. Then I drip saliva down his cock before starting the slowly jerk him off as I suck on his head then I take it out of my mouth and continue to jerk him off and return to licking and applying pressure all around the base of his cock. He goes insane. This is usually when I grab his hands and put them on my head and get back to really sucking his cock while I jerk it off at the same time twisting my hand around gently as I suck at the top. Sometimes he will start jerking off in my mouth while I suck and moan loud for him it sounds like talking into a fan lol. I’ll use my hands to apply pressure to his hips and where his thighs meet his pelvis at that point but usually he will grab me and start fucking me at this point like a crazed animal. It’s so fun watching and listening to him go insane.
Leslie A Lopez says
I would like to know how to give a blowjob to a man that is uncut.. I’m sure most techniques apply however I’m also sure there are things that need to be done different..
Sean Jameson says
Everything is easier as there is no foreskin in the way. There is very little difference.
I am 20yrs. old an wanted to give my bf a blow job as great as the Oral he gives me. I have been getting better and can tell by the way he moans and then comes. Last time he started to come in my mouth but pulled away came on face and in my hair while moaning and grunting.
My present bf has a curved penis. It is curved upwards from the base to the top. It is very noticeable. It stays curved when he’s hard. I have a difficult time doing any of the hand movements, much less finding a comfortable angle to blow him.
He does not like anywhere near his taint touched so I m thrown by that also. Looking for advice
Sean Jameson says
Talk to him and find out what he does like
Dee Kay says
I was inspired to learn to deepthroat from this website, and honestly, the gay guys in the comment sections taught me the most, once I got started and got the courage from Sean’s articles.
I am 52 and I learned earlier last year, so anyone can do this at any age. I should say: I had a sensitive gag reflex–just brushing my back teeth could gag me. I knew it would be challenging, and I have a scientific background so I applied a more scientific approach and it worked!!! It took about 2 weeks with steady practice most days.
Here’s what I did. I found 2 cheap dildos on Amazon, each had a purpose for my education. The first one was just about my husband’s girth, but much longer and I used it to become comfortable with something in my throat and practice getting it into my esophagus. It claimed to have “thrusting” capabilities, but those were disappointing and not helpful. I am certain it’s not the highest grade materials, so I bought some cheap rubbers to use of it (keep in mind, it just has to be a barrier–no one’s getting pregnant if it breaks, so cheap is ok). If it breaks, just stop and put on a new one. 🙂 If it has lubricant, I’d wash it off, especially if it is a cheap one, it’s probably not the healthiest thing to swallow.
The other issue I had was having cum in my mouth/throat. The texture bothered me, the flavor could be a bit strong…and I’d had bad experiences with other guys (not my husband of 20 years) not giving me warning they were about to cum and choking on it or having it go up my nose or other unpleasant, uncontrolled outcomes. So the second dildo I bought was a cheap ejaculating dildo with a bulb and hose that ran from the bulb up the base of the dildo and stopped right at the tip. You filled up the bulb with the substance and then could squirt it. This was a crucial part of my learning to deep throat. It was difficult though, because this a $12 “squiring dildo” (not high quality) had a diameter of the hose going from the bulb into the dildo and out the tip that was small, I had to pay attention to the consistency when I created a “cum” like substance to shoot out the dildo. Another gay guy to the rescue in Sean’s comment section, who gave a recipe for making fake cum. It was pretty legit, but it was too thick to use with my squirting dildo. So into the science lab. I did take the guy’s advice though and L-Citrulline (the pills are about $7 a bottle), which does lend a very “cum” like flavor element that captures the “gamey” flavor. I added salt to the crushed citrulline pills, baking soda(base) and a little arrowroot power (cornstarch would work-thicken agent), and mixed with water. I cooked it on low on the stove to let the arrowroot thicken like you would gravy just a tiny bit. Let it cool then: Holy crap, did it taste like the real deal and have a goopy consistency, once I found the right ration of salt/gamey/base flavor. I was like a mad scientist and I would laugh to myself working hard in my kitchen to make fake cum. I loaded up my dildo and the first time I used it all together, yup–pretty legit, I gagged and nearly threw up. OK, so now I had a means to learn with that was realistic.
So, here is how I set up my process, with measurements each time I did it. I had 2 goals:
1) to get the dildo that was the diameter of my husband into my throat deep and hold it there for 10 seconds.
First, I drew an outline the dildo on paper to make a paper drawn replica of the length. I wore lipstick when I “practiced” getting it deep and could measure from the lipstick mark the deepest I had gotten it in my throat during each session. I measured every day I did it, recorded my progress/date and was shocked at how quickly I started gaining inches of improvement. It was encouraging. Once I made it into my throat 1″ further than the length of my husband, I knew I was golden.
2) I needed to practice receiving his cum in my mouth. So I made a short list of the ways this would go down (at the front of my mouth/lips, middle of my mouth, back of my throat, in my throat and fast on the fly with pumping and going everywhere) and then checked off the ways as I became comfortable with them. I started by using just water going through each scenarios, just to ease my tension with it, get comfortable using the bulb for squirting and marked of the boxes as I did with successfully with each way I had listed with water. Then I used a very watered down version of the fake cum I’d made, went through all the ways he could cum until I was comfortable, and kept making it more and more concentrated with the cum (less water) as I became more comfortable with it shooting in my mouth in any of the ways. Like practicing with the measurements for depth, this method allowed me to track my success, see my growth and was encouraging to help the process along. The ejaculating dildo was less diameter than my husband or the deepthroat practice dildo, so I could push it further in with ease. I discovered in this process, that if my husband’s head were to be just past my uvula (the dangling thing in the back of your throat), but not even fully in my esophagus, his cum would miss my taste buds and he could shoot his load and I would just have to swallow and I would never taste it. If he was actually in my esophagus swallowing is not even necessary. Nice options to have for someone who struggles with swallowing. Lesson learned.
Those were my methods to teaching myself. But here are some other things I learned and useful suggestions for those who might be struggling.
1) PURPLE!!! Another gay guy gave this tip. Silently mouth the word “purple” as your man is pushing in and it moves your jaw into an ideal position and opens your throat in a relaxed position like a charm. It works, no joke. Especially the “ple” part of the word, my throat fully opens if I get the timing right.
2) The woman’s position matters when trying to deepthroat. Gravity is your friend. Lying on your back, especially with your head hanging over the bed or a table or ? really aligns your throat in the ideal way, facilitating it being open the most and aligned to accept a large, fairly straight hard object. This also helps to keep your mouth more clear of the extra thick and gooey saliva that lives deep in your throat (to help food go down) that will be brought forward when you man is deep. Given I have texture issues (like with thick cum), this gooey throat saliva has to be cleared about every minute from my mouth if I am facing downward, because it becomes just too much goo in my mouth. If I am on my back it stays better in the back of my throat where I need it most when deepthroating anyway.
3) More important points on the woman’s position. I find it very difficult (an advanced skill) to have my husband on his back and me bent over him kneeling between his legs for deepthroating, though a regular blowjob is fine. Gravity is working against me, my throat is not aligned in any way, and it makes gagging more likely (barfing too). When I am on my knees on the floor with my husband standing, that is second easiest to lying on my back with my head hanging over the bed (easiest method). The next easiest method is 69, but with a caveat. You really have to have good communication in his position. Since he is busy too, I find touch signals work better (two quick taps on the butt mean pull back a bit so I can breathe, if I push back on his hips firmly, it means pull all the way out, etc).
4) To the point of how a man handles you when deepthroating—I cannot stress this enough guys—you have to let her breathe. Unless you have a tiny dick, or your woman has a large throat, you will be crushing her trachea (windpipe) when you enter her esophagus. Essentially–it’s then IMPOSSIBLE to “breathe through her nose” since her nose uses her trachea to get air into her lungs. Timing is everything, especially if you want her to do more of this. She should, unless your dick is a monster, be able to breathe with your dick pulled back to the middle of her mouth. So your strokes when throatfucking her may need to be longer in order for it to be sustained and provide an opportunity for breathing. For me, super quick stroking cancels all the practicing and improvement I have done. It makes me gag. I am working on reducing THAT gag reflex, but it’s proving harder to do than all the others. Make your throatfucking deep, long and sensual. The esophagus has firm ribbing going down it on the outside, it’s smooth on the inside and my husband says it’s a wild feeling. Stop and smell the roses, appreciate your woman if she is offering this gift to you, and make love to her throat in a slow, passionate and controlled way and she will reward you will more frequency and pleasure from it. Give her praise, tell her positive things, reward her for her hard work in wanting to please and pleasure you.
5) and finally: Ladies, your throat is actually an erogenous area. It’s linked to your genitals, it can become aroused, it has a small amount of erectile tissue and it’s possible to even learn to orgasm from it by training yourself to do it (lots of Tantric books explain this process). So, to be more successful, breathe deep through your nose and push the breath out your throat, early on, to relax yourself. Massage your throat to loosen it or have your man rub, massage and stroke the area. In your head, if the excitement feels like it’s making your throat tense, repeat the following: “My partner cares for me(hopefully this is true if you are doing this intimate act with him), his dick is masucline and a gift to my mouth, I am receiving his energy and enjoying how it makes me feel, I am loved and safe” Say whatever of this is true in your head. Only give the gift of deepthroating to someone who will use it lovingly, and then you guarantee it will be an erotic and pleasureful experience for you too. I now love doing it, and can’t get enough. That is my husband’s gift from my effort: He can make love to my throat as often and as long as he wants. Some times it’s an hour and a half session. The more you do it, the longer you can do it–it’s exercise, essentially. I get so turned on from it–my panties are soaked, and last time, I swear I was close to an orgasm from it.
***A word of caution about using fruit, vegetables, sausage, or any other “soft-firm” type of things for practicing deepthroating: They can break off in your mouth and choke you.***
If that doesn’t scare you (choking to death), then imagine having to explain to an ER doctor or medics who arrive at your house and find you in whatever position/attire you are in, why you have a 2″ chunk of banana or squash stuck in your throat. If you feel this is your only option because of cost (I get it), then go to the Dollar Store and buy cheap condoms and tie them around the object or wrap your thumb and fingers in an “OK sign around the top of the condom and hang on tight to it and don’t put the entire object all the way in (you need a handle to pull it back out if things go wrong, just like playing with anal toys). At least if the food stuff breaks or falls apart, it will be wrapped in a rubber and you can hopefully pull everything out carefully. Cheap dildos are best, and if you decide to get serious about it, I suggest you save up and do it right.
After all, no banana is the shape and/or density of man’s penis, and even a better dildo will still leave you a learning curve when you transition to trying deepthroating with a real, live human. There are so many more variables with a real human, like communication, timing, a variance in the quality of their hard-on (firm, hard as rock, slight softy, etc), angle, and it’s really a learning process for them too, so don’t expect them to get their role in it right the first time, either. Be patient, a good man will want this to work and not want to hurt you. I suggest you keep your first sessions limited, make small goals (like just getting his head into the back of your throat once), and increase the odds by doing this that you both will have positive experience and gain more success with each attempt.
Good luck and happy deepthroating. I am so glad I learned to do it, and have Sean to thank for putting the idea in my head!
Dee Kay says
This reply is for Lisa Jones (I can’t seem to get a reply window to open under for her question…)
A few suggestions to consider:
First, many people get increased snot from consuming dairy. See if this is you, try to avoid dairy at least a few hours prior to a time when you know oral will happen or maybe even the entire day.
Second, you could also try taking some allergy medicine that supposedly dries up a runny nose ahead of your oral time, but that may also dry out your throat. You could test.
Third, snot can bother me too, in some positions. It’s especially troublesome when I am on my knees between my husband’s legs when he is lying on his back. I find snot and deep throat gooey saliva don’t bother me when I am lying on my back with my head hanging over the bed for deep throating.
Fouth–don’t worry about trying to be clean and feminine. I’d keep a hand towel next to my head if I were you, and I’d grab it on whichever corner was closest, and just blow quick, followed by one wipe, while my unused hand was stroking, then get right back to it. His dick doesn’t care if you have a little snot left on your face.
Fifth: Your nose is likely running because your heart rate is increased. Try doing some deep breathing in through your nose and out through your relaxed throat just prior to starting to be intimate. Continue this breathing when you are not actively giving him oral. It’s a Tantric practice (you can find more about Tantric relaxation during sex online) and relaxing your body a little could help slow the part of your physiology that is making your nose run, unless it’s an allergy.
Sixth: If all the above fails: Is it possible you are allergic to something in the room? Your boyfriend’s deodorant? The laundry soap he uses to wash his sheets? His pet cat? Investigate.
Seventh: One last ditch suggestion: you could practice performing on a dildo that is similar to your BF’s dick, and play with different techniques and/or positions to understand which causes the least amount of snot. And, perhaps desensitize yourself a bit, if you are getting too excited over it.
I hope one of these works or prompts you to realize what is going on. Good luck!
Melissa W. says
Hey. This is my first time ever on this website and I wanted to share my own philosophy on dick sucking. I am very attractive 5 6 125 lbs tan slender long blonde colored hair. So the first thing I do is undress in front of my fiance. I cuddle close to him and I lean over to put my large full breasts in his face. He seems to love this and it gets him going and ready. After I allow him to suck my nipples one at a time I curl up by his side and I undo his pants as I stare into his eyes. I pull his penis out which is already semi hard and I hold it in my hands caressing it and kissing it softly. I cradle his balls in one hand and squeeze them gently as I stroke his cock with my other hand. He is growing now and when I first part my full lips and take his tip into my mouth he groans and sometimes tries to rush me! But I am a mistress of seduction when it comes to oral on my guy. I begin to slide my mouth up and down his shaft which is pretty long my man is a nine incher when fully hard. He usually watches me because he says I do it so good he can’t bear to look away. After a few minutes of this I work his entire cock into my mouth and I deep throat him expertly for about five minutes without stopping. I allow him to ease it from my throat and I give the sides and top my love and attention next. When he can’t take it again I permit him to shove my head down on his penis once more. That’s what he truly adores. As he gets more and more aroused I hold him down and press my naked body against his skin. I suck his cock hard and fast then slow and soft. I roll my lips back to keep from scraping his skin which still happens at times since his girth is so big. He’s now moaning and sort of grinding his hips against my face with one hand on one tit and the other gripping my head usually my hair in a ponytail is wrapped around his hand too. Suck it baby he orders me and I got off on his low gruff commanding authoritive voice. I say yes sir and obey him submissively. He likes to talk to me while I blow his cock and his voice is like an aphrodisiac for me. I give him a twenty minute to half hour dick sucking at a time. I just love sucking it for him and his penis is insanely yummy and smooth and perfect in every way. For fun I’ll slip his balls in my mouth a time or two and when he’s about to burst I rub it with my hand tap the tip of his head against my tongue and then as he comes I moan his name because by then his finger is deep in my pussy and he’s fingering me roughly as he orgasms. To finish up I lick a little of his come while I play with my clit and stare into his big green eyes. He’s my sex God and I infatuated with him. It’s been a fun exhausting amazing crazy six years! Hope this helps ladies!!!!
tony lyn friend says
Dear Dee Kay..I truly love sucking cock also, and could never get enough of it. My on again/off again boyfriend would only let me have it when he was horny and wanted his penis sucked. I didn’t get it very often andhaven’t had any for many months now. We fought all the time, But i still loved french kissing with him and would swallow for him. I love cum. He was the 1st. man, that i ever 69 with or lay on the edge of his bed with my head over the edge so that i could deep throat him. I wanted it Everyday..The very 1st. time, that i gave my 1st. blow job i was hooked. And have sucked off many men since 2007. Many have been repeat blow jobs. Like riding a bicycle you never forget any of them. I to learned by using a Dildo and how to Deep throat a delicious penis and swallow when finished getting every drop of that sweet cum. Men give Better blow jobs.
Hi, I just invented this the other day. I’m sure other people have done it but I never came across anything like it when I was researching how to give better blowjobs. So, I found out that when he is finger-banging you, instead of using two fingers to simulate sex, if you instead, run one or two fingers along the walls (ESPECIALLY the bottom), top, and sides of your vag, and just slowly rub, never taking your fingers off the walls/edge, starting from just outside and moving about three inches inside, it’s honestly the best thing I have ever felt.
How this comes into play in the BJ department is to do the same thing to him. He lays on his back, you lube your hands up and just gently – up and down with one or two fingers, repeat that with his penis. I do slow circles, straight lines and also circle the head and tip of his penis with my fingers. He said one finger on top and one on bottom felt the best.
I do incorporate my tongue after a while too. He said this is the most he’s ever been turned on by anyone touching him. And I believe him because he doesn’t last long, he gets up and wants to have sex right away after only a few minutes. Anyway, my story is that I was the world’s biggest prude. I actually hated sex so much that I was purposely celibate for 10 years!
Until I met someone who was amazing in the bedroom. I literally, at 44 years old, still had no clue how to do a blowjob! I never wanted to learn until I met this kind, sex machine. I found myself wanting to please him as much as he pleases me so I began to think of methods that would feel good.
I don’t know why I’m sharing this other than to say thank you for your page on how to give good BJs + it’s worth trying both methods above with fingers because it is bedroom life-changingly good. It’s nice to regard myself as a sexual being now and embrace that side of myself instead of being intimidated by sexual subjects. I no longer fast forward sex scenes in movies.