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I’ve compiled a number of deep penetration sex positions above that you can scroll through.
Quick Warning: Thanks to porn, many young men might think that every partner desires hard and deep penetration, but as a woman, you may quickly discover that being fucked like your lover is a robot often isn’t the most arousing thing. And it may not be pleasurable at all! Communication with your partner is key to having a good sex life whether that means telling him to slow down, ease up on those deep thrusts or to provide more oral sex before initial penetration.
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However, communication is just as important if you do like deep thrusting, especially if your partner has been trained by previous partners to avoid deep penetration. A new partner might naturally avoid that because he worries about hurting you, even if it’s what you secretly crave. As long as it’s a secret, however, he won’t be able to give you what you need. So speak up!
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What’s So Good About Penetrating Deep?
There are two sensitive zones deep within the vagina that you or your partner may be able to stimulate if you’re not afraid of a little spelunking.
- One is the A-spot, which is located along the front wall of the vagina near the cervix. Some women report being able to orgasm from A-spot stimulation.
- The second spot is located in a similar position along the back wall of the vaginal canal, near the anal wall. Check out this guide with an image to see it’s exact location.
The A-spot is especially known for not becoming hyper-sensitive after an orgasm, which means that you might be able to keep enjoying penetrative sex or play time without the flinching and discomfort that can happen when you try to stimulate your G-spot or clitoris immediately after cumming or squirting!
Why Do I Sometimes Like Deep Thrusting And Hate It Other Times?
As a woman, you may find that you sometimes like deep penetration and dislike it at other times. This may be due to the position of your cervix, which changes through a normal menstrual cycle. For example, your cervix might be lower and more open during your period and slightly after. The cervix is also harder during these times, which may make it more susceptible to pain from deep penetration.
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On the other hand, cervixes tend to raise and soften prior to ovulation and remain in that position during ovulation . This can make deep penetration more comfortable. Sometimes, a cervix can become so soft and high during ovulation that it “blends” in with the rest of your vagina, which might be the perfect time to try deep penetration.
Regardless of your cervical position and hardness, you might not enjoy the feeling of a cock – or dildo – slamming into you if it’s done too roughly. Just because your partner wants to go deep, doesn’t mean he has to do it with force. In fact, deeper thrusts might feel better with less force, so encourage your partner to slow down, which also gives the two of you time to enjoy it more. Plus, you can easily adjust your own pace when masturbating.
If your partner is especially well endowed, it might seem that you can’t avoid deep penetration, and sex may even be painful (more on that in this post). Painful sex is known as dyspareunia and is more common in women than men . However, you can take a few steps to help prevent pain during sex.
- Encourage plenty of foreplay so your body is more receptive to penetration.
- Use lubricant to ease insertion and thrusting.
- Use a cock ring or wrap your fingers around your partner’s penis to prevent deep thrusting. More info here.
- Have sex in positions such as spooning or woman-on-top where deep thrusts are less likely or when you can control the speed and depth of his penis in your vagina.
However, cervical stimulation can be crucial for orgasm in some women . Learn about cervical orgasms and how to have them.
How To Get More Out of Deep Penetration
But if you’re a fan of deep thrusting, you’ll want to have sex in all the fun positions that do enable you to feel your partner more deeply. These can include missionary, depending upon how your bodies match up, and doggy style. Similarly, because you can control depth and speed during cowgirl, this might be your go-to position so you can feel every inch of your partner inside of you!
Pillows are a great way to achieve deep penetration for regular positions like missionary . If you place one under your hips (butt or abs, depending on position), it raises them to make deep penetration easier. While a regular pillow can work in a pinch, pillows made of memory foam are even better because they don’t compress. Several companies, including Liberator, make pillows of this material specifically for sex.
You can also try leaning over or against other furniture in your home if the best doesn’t help with deep penetration. You might have an ottoman that’s exactly the right height for Doggy or Turtle position, for example.
When it comes to toys, deep thrusting is even easier. There are penis extenders that your lover can wear during sex to make him feel thicker and longer. However, this is a delicate issue to approach with any man as your partner might have a deflated ego if you suggest that his natural anatomy isn’t quite cutting it.
You can ease the conversation by reminding him that you enjoy sex with him and enjoy sex in a variety of ways. For most women who like deep penetration, it might be enjoyable, but it would hardly be a deal-breaker. Ensure that your partner knows this going into the conversation. If you’re completely unsure about his potential response, you can bring up the idea of these extenders or even using toys by explaining that it’s something you stumbled across online – even point him to this post!
Fortunately, there are a number of toys that he can use on you or that you can use by yourself to achieve the depth that you like. In fact, there are too many dildos and vibrators to name. Double dildos are typically a little longer, but you can use that length to your advantage to achieve penetration as deep as you like it. Learn more about dildos here.
Vixen’s Slim dildo offers seven inches of penetration. You can also try the stainless steel Eleven by Njoy or a longer glass dildo.
And there are plenty of vibrators that are between six and nine inches long. Vibrators tend to have shorter insertable lengths, but some G-spotters are especially long, Fun Factory’s Boss vibrators and the Ovo E8 are both a bit longer than typical.. Rabbit vibes are often quite large, so you’ll get both the girth and depth that you love.
However, you might be able to achieve deep thrusts the way you like even with a regular toy from your collection.
Deep Penetration During Masturbation
You’re unlikely to get deep penetration with your own fingers; although, a partner with especially long digits may be able to. A toy is definitely necessary during solo sex. However, you only have to account for one body during masturbation, so you can experiment with even more positions!
For example, taking up a sitting position with your legs raised and bent at the knee – if you’re sitting in front of a desk or table – you can more easily access the depths of your pussy with a toy. This is good news for women with short arms who might find deep penetration difficult in other positions.
Positions for Deep Penetration
Here are some positions you can try for deeper penetration. Note that if your partner has a big penis, these positions might be too intense.
Not only is Cowgirl a great sex position for deeper sex, but you also get to control the movement and pace – score! You can lean down to kiss your man, make eye contact, and either one of you is free to rub your clit during sex. Plus, he can reach around to stimulate your asshole.
Learn More: Cowgirl Sex Position
Doggy style is a favorite because it works for most bodies and provides G-spot stimulation in addition to deeper sex. Lying on a pillow can help you get into just the right position.
Learn More: Doggy Style Position
In the Anvil position, you’re on your back like in Missionary. He leans over your and pushes your legs back toward your upper body. This folding lifts your butt and hips, meaning that stimulation feels better. Anvil might not be as comfortable if you have a rounder tummy, so make sure to talk to your partner to figure out what works for you.
Learn More: Anvil Sex Position
If you find that Anvil position is uncomfortable, Deep Impact might work better for you. You lie on your back, but your man kneels by your butt. He can either slide his thighs under your butt or spread his legs so that his thighs are on either side of yours. Kneeling means he will lift your hips slightly, and you can achieve deeper stimulation.
You can rest your legs by his neck or chest or drape them over his arms in this sex position.
Learn More: Deep Impact Position
This position is quite similar to the one above but instead of kneeling, your man sits on the bed with his legs extended straight in front of him on either side of your arms. Your butt remains on the bed with your legs straight up (creating a 90-degree angle with your body). Your calves rest against his body.
Learn More: Right Angle Sex Position
Start by lying on your back with your legs up. Your partner will lean over you like in Missionary, but he’ll place a hand on the back of either thigh as he pushes them back and down toward your stomach. This might be easier to achieve if you keep your knees pointing outward rather than directly back.
Learn More: Sandwich Sex Position
You might enjoy this deep penetration sex position if you’re flexible. When you’re on your back, you raise your legs, and your partner bends them back as far as possible by holding your legs down toward the bed by your ankles.
Learn More: Viennese Oyster Position
Here’s another position where your man enters from behind while you’re on your knees. Instead of being in all fours, you reach and wrap your arms behind your knees, curling your upper body tightly up. This pose might not work for every body type.
Learn More: Turtle Sex Position
This position might feel more relaxed because you simply lie facedown on the bed. Your man straddles your butt while kneeling and enters you from behind. You might lie down directly or keep yourself propped up on your arms. A pillow can also help so your face isn’t planted in the bed below you.
Learn More: Jockey Sex Position
You’ll find more ideas for deep penetration positions in our complete list of sex positions.
It’s Not Just About Length and Depth
More often than not, that old adage about penis size is true. Size matters less to many women when it comes to length, but girth is usually important. That’s why a thicker penis might feel better even if it’s not reaching up to your cervix during sex. If that’s your preference, feel free to explain this to your partner, adjust your masturbation skills as needed and have a good time!
Deep penetration may also miss some of the most erogenous spots in your vagina, including the G-spot. The G-spot is generally just a few inches inside your vaginal opening, which is why you don’t necessarily need a partner with a long penis or a super long toy to reach it. A curved or contoured head can be more important for G-spot stimulation than simply a long toy or cock, which might miss it altogether.
Finally, technique really does matter. You might prefer deep penetration if it’s done at a slower pace rather than jackhammer-like pounding. Or you might enjoy stimulation of your A-spot with fingers in a “come hither” motion. Perhaps you simply like feeling a toy or penis press against those sensitive spots? Grazing of your cervix might be okay, or you might not like it at all.
You can find more intense deep penetration sex positions in the following pictures:
Like any sexual activity, deep penetration is something you should try at least a couple times to determine if and how you like it. But whether you love it, hate it or fall somewhere in between, you’re sure to find plenty of women who agree with you!
This article by Women’s Health Magazine suggests more positions for deep penetration.
Kinkly also lists a few positions, some of which are more exotic.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller discusses whether deeper really is better.
This advice column in the Chicago Tribune talks about good vs bad cervical pain during sex.
Learn how your cervix changes during your cycle at Baby Hopes.
Readers chimed in on MetaFilter to say, yes, men can sometimes feel IUD strings when deeply penetrating their partners.
Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ #1 – Why does deep penetration hurt?
Your vagina ends at your cervix, the neck between your vagina and uterus. The opening in your cervix is quite a tiny hole, so his penis won’t be able to penetrate it . Deep penetration can cause a penis or toy to hit your cervix. During certain parts of your cycle, your cervix is harder and lower, making it easier to hit during sex. This can result in more pain than usual or even pain when deep penetration doesn’t typically hurt.
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Penetration may hurt less about two weeks before your next period if you have a 28-day period because this is your ovulation period . This is because your cervix is the softest during ovulation [7, 8].
Some women experience more painful cervical stimulation because of the angle of their uterus . Deep penetration may also hurt more for older women .
If your cervix is always sensitive, you might want to avoid deep penetration. However, if it only hurts when you use something that’s rigid, a softer material might be preferable.
FAQ #2 – How can I experience deep penetration if my partner has a smaller penis?
It’s hard to experience deep penetration if your partner is not well-endowed, especially if he has a micro-penis (tips for small penis sex here). But if the two of you are willing to enlist some tools, you can get the job done. First, you can consider a penis sleeve, which slides over his penis and is worn during sex, to make him feel longer or wider. If that doesn’t work, you can try insertable sex toys such as dildos or vibrators that are long enough to get the deep penetration you like.
FAQ #3 – How long do sex toys need to be to accomplish deep penetration?
The vagina is not as deep as many people think it is. A typical depth for a cisgendered woman is between 3.5 and 5 inches while it’s slightly deeper for trans women . Some measure the aroused vagina as short as 2.7 inches . and Masters and Johnson originally suggested a range of 3.7-4.1 inches [13, p.74]. However, arousal causes a ballooning known as a tenting effect , these numbers represent a vagina at its deepest. So if you measure you unaroused vagina, you’ll find that it’s more shallow than when you are thoroughly aroused .
Aim for a sex toy that has at least five insertable inches. You can always choose a longer dildo and not fully insert it during use.
FAQ #4 – Can deep penetration hurt me?
It may cause pain, but that’s usually temporary (Learn what to do about painful sex). Some people experience a bit of soreness the next day. Occasionally, deep penetration may cause bleeding. There’s potential to develop an infection from deep thrusting.
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So just under 8 inches a ideal length for deep penetration?
Sean Jameson says
It depends on a lot of factors:
– The length of the woman’s vaginal canal.
– How aroused the woman is as her vaginal canal lengthens the more turned on she is.
– The position you are having sex in.
For some women a 4-5 inch penis is enough for deep penetration due to the above factors.
I’ve just had the hardest orgasm of my life and it was so to deep pinatraiton but I have no cervix. It was long deep with no movement for mabye 2 to 3 Mom it’s and he couldn’t keep from moving and got off quickly as well as I did it was amazing but I don’t understand why.
Never had a deep penatration husband has a pinky finger tiny dicklet
Dave A says
Hi Anna, sorry to hear that…
I have a high sex drive but also feel sorry for my partner as he struggles to keep up to it. Is there any way I can go about with this & help him (us) get more satisfied than the usual sex that we go through.
Mix toys into into for you. Things like: give him head, while you have a bullet vibrator inside, or one that stimulates your insides and clit. Do you have multiple orgasms? If not, practice solo, to train yourself to have them. Read the book: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal.
The author, Sheri Winston will tell you how to learn to do it, along with other tips for your partner to do more for you sexually, outside of penetration. Although, I will say this: While Winston’s book is an amazing in-depth guide to a woman’s body and sexual mind, it does miss some erogenous zones, and I am sorry for women who think that book tells the whole story.
I was glad to see Sean actually specifically mention the A-spot. It’s my favorite for super deep, hard orgasms, and it’s rarely discussed. But, he fails to explain that the cervix and uterus also participate in deep orgasms, and the cervix can contribute to orgasms. Sean discusses how the cervix and uterus move during a woman’s cycle, but he did not emphasize that a woman’s cervix and uterus prepare for penetration, by moving out of the way when a woman is FULLY aroused, engorged with blood and only then is she truly ready for penetration. Also, of course my experience is anecdotal, but in my experience, men seem to really get turned on watching me pleasure myself. That can be one way to excite your partner if he too likes this and meet your own needs, whether you do this manually or incorporate sex toys to get full penetration. Just make damn sure you are fully aroused (it usually takes women at least 30 minutes, or more). Good luck.
Gil mckee says
How different is it if you have had a hysterectomy and have trouble Cummings I can get a roused very easily but it’s letting it go is the problem can you help me please
Sean Jameson says
Our guide on how to orgasm should help with this