The Butterfly position is great whether you are in bed or on a table. The image below gives an excellent outline on how to perform the Butterfly. There are a few really important things to keep in mind, though, to make sure you get the most out of this position. Don’t forget to check out these easy sex positions for better orgasms.
Performing the Butterfly is very easy for girls. As I just said, you can perform it on a table or bed; it’s up to you. In the diagram above, the man is standing, but he can also be on his knees if you are using a bed. You don’t have to be that active when in the Butterfly position while your man will need to do most of the work. All you need to do is to lie back while your man lifts your hips upwards. You can rest your thighs on his chest and place your ankles over his shoulder, just as in the picture. Alternatively, you can just put your legs on either side of his waist. My advice is just to do what you find to be most comfortable.
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What The Man Does In The Butterfly Position
I think that you will like the Butterfly for sex, especially if you are tired. This is because your man will have to do most of the work while you get to lie back and enjoy it! In the diagram above, the man has his hands under the girls’ hips and is raising them up. This is fine, but if he wants to penetrate her more vigorously, he can hold her thighs which will make things a lot easier for stronger penetration.
He will also find that he can move further forwards and backward when he is standing as opposed to when he is kneeling.
What The Girl Does In The Butterfly Position
When you are in the Butterfly, you simply need to lie down on your back, and either put your legs around your man’s waist or instead allow them to rest on his chest and over his shoulders.
While you can be very passive and can let your man do everything, you may find that you get more pleasure by controlling how high your hips are raised. This is easiest when your legs are on his chest and over his shoulders. Because your hips are raised, your man’s penis will be in direct contact with the upper wall of your vagina, allowing him to directly stimulate your G-Spot, which can lead to wonderful orgasms. You can also use your stomach (abdominals) to help keep your legs raised, but you’ll find that they quickly tire.
You can also rub your clit or your breasts, talk dirty to your man or even play with a vibrator. Doing Kegels during sex can also feel great for both of you!
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Things To Consider When Performing The Butterfly Sex Position
Here are a few things that my students and I have found from performing the Butterfly with our partners:
- Using pillows or cushions under your hips/waist is a very good idea. It means that your man won’t get too tired from holding your legs up and you won’t get tired from trying to keep them raised either.
- If your man is on his knees, it might be a good idea to put a pillow under them to make sure that they don’t get hurt.
- To get maximum pleasure from this position and make it easier for your man to hit your G-Spot, make sure that your hips are slightly higher than his.
- Keep adjusting how high you hold your hips until you find the right spot. Trust me; it’s worth it!
Variations of The Butterfly & Similar Positions
Legs On Shoulder
Keep your legs to the side of his neck for this position, just like as if he was playing the Cello. Click here to learn more about the legs on shoulder position.
Right Angle
Bend at the waist at a right angle…perfect if you like Geometry. You can learn more about the Right Angle sex position here.
Praying Mantis
He kneels and you bend one leg. Learn more about the Praying Mantis position here.
Deep Impact
This position is perfect for G-spot stimulation because your hips are raised. Click here to learn more about the Deep Impact position.
You can learn even more similar positions here.
Sean’s Thoughts On The Butterfly Position
As a guy, I quite enjoy the Butterfly position, although I prefer standing up as opposed to kneeling. To be perfectly honest, though, it can get quite tiring quite quickly if I am doing all the work, keeping my partner’s hips raised. So if you see that your partner is getting tired performing the Butterfly, then it might be a good idea to switch positions to something like the Anvil or something else or even grab a pillow to put under your hips to give his arms a rest.
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I now love sex with my partner we do it every night and he lives the positions and the place he can obstetrics his lovley dick inside of me
Hi is it easy to have if partner is fat
It shouldn’t matter, but if it does, then just try another positions 😉
I fucking love this however, tried it with my boyfriend and he kept spitting on me – does this happen often? Is there a separate way to stop him from gobbing – I don’t understand why.
Spitting on you is just his choice, nothing to do with the position. Tell him to stop it.
Are you sure it’s not you squirting ??
The butterfly for me is so very erotic, seeing her smile as she lays out in front of me. Not only can I stimulate her clitoris, but seeing myself repeatedly entering her is incredible and exciting.