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In this guide, I’m going to show you some powerful techniques you can use to learn how to finger yourself and have incredible orgasms. (While guys will also learn a lot from this article too on how to please women, there’s an entire post with advice for guys who finger women!)
Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.
Podcast: 20 Intense Fingering Techniques For Powerful Orgasms
In addition to the guide below, I put together a detailed podcast featuring the 20 most enjoyable and powerful fingering techniques you can use on yourself (or your man can use on you!). Listen to learn how to have a tidal wave of orgasms through masturbation.
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I’ve structured the article very carefully so that you get maximum benefit from it. First, I’m going to show you how to get yourself aroused and turned on. Getting aroused is super important if you want to get the most out of these fingering techniques. Then I’m going to show you the techniques themselves. By the way, these are just a few of the fingering techniques I teach. You can learn even more in the article on squirting, this one on masturbation and this other one too.
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Ok, let’s jump in…
Getting Aroused, Turned On & In The Mood
I want to cut to the chase and give you the most important things you can do to get in the mood. Please don’t skip this part. Without getting aroused and turned on first, your orgasms will likely not be as intense, and I’m guessing you want some intense orgasms when figuring out how to finger yourself, right?
Relaxed & Stress-Free – Getting relaxed and being as stress-free as possible is vital. Have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed out and fatigued, it can be hard to get aroused and feel sexy? Scientific research even backs this up[1].
Privacy – Having some place quiet that you can go to and not be disturbed is key. For most people this will be your bedroom. But if you share your room with someone else, then you may have to use the bathroom or shower as your private place to try these fingering techniques.
Atmosphere – Getting aroused has both a psychological and a physical component. I know that sounded a little ‘scientific’ and not so fun, but it’s true. You need to get your brain turned on as well as your body. To get yourself physically aroused (your body), you’re going to need to touch and caress yourself, specifically your erogenous zones. Even using a vibrator can help.
To get psychologically turned on, there are a lot of things you can do:
- Burn incense
- Light candles
- Watch some porn
- Listen to music
- Read some romance/erotica
Your Heroin – The last and most important thing to consider for getting yourself aroused is what I like to call “your heroin”, and I’m not talking about the hard drug! I’m referring to the one thing that always works for you to get yourself worked up. It could be reading a favorite piece of erotica. It could be thinking of a certain guy or fantasizing about a particular situation that gets you going or it could be something else entirely.
The important thing is discovering it and then using it to help get yourself aroused.
Quick Quiz: Do You Give Good Blow Jobs?
If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.
Once you are aroused and turned on, it’s time to begin.
1. How To Finger Yourself – Basic Technique
Quick Note: Make sure to trim and file your fingernails beforehand to prevent any accidents.
Start by lowering your hand from your breasts, down to over your stomach until you can feel your clitoris which is located outside your vaginal opening and just above it [2] as you can see in the diagram below.
Below your clit, using just one finger, you will be able to feel fleshy folds of skin on either side of your vagina. These are your labia.
To be scientific about it, the outer fold on each side is called the labia majora [3] which is much bigger, while the inner fold of skin is called the labia minora and is much thinner. Start by lightly trailing a finger or 2 over your labia. Most women will find that as they rub their labia, they naturally start to get wet if they are already turned on. This wetness will act as a lubricant on your finger.
As your finger gets covered in your natural lube, slowly start to press the tip of it in and out of your vagina to check how it feels. As you push your finger in and out, it will get covered in more and more of this lubrication, allowing you to slide your finger deeper and deeper into your vagina. Slowly run the tip of your finger along the walls of your vagina paying attention to what feels most pleasurable.
There’s no single ‘right way’ to finger yourself. What you find most pleasurable will be different to what other people enjoy. So focus on the movements that you find most satisfying and don’t worry too much about being ‘right’.
Many people default to the in-and-out motion because it mimics sex, but this can be irritating rather than pleasurable.
Additionally, it’s not a case of going as deep as possible. Fingering yourself should be about getting as much pleasure as possible. But if you have never fingered yourself before, then it’s a good idea to experiment with how deep you like it.
Now lets learn some more really fun fingering techniques
Quick Note: If you find that you don’t naturally produce much lubrication, then make sure to use a good lubricant like coconut oil.
2. Fingering Your G-Spot
As you push your finger in and out or your vagina, you’ll notice that pressing up against certain parts of your vagina feels really good. If you have slid your hand down your stomach and then started to finger yourself, try curling your finger(s) backwards so that you are pressing against the upper wall of your vagina just like in the diagram below. This is where your G-Spot is located [4].
You’ll know it when you press and rub it because it feels like the back of your palate in your mouth. Some even describe it as feeling like a wet raspberry. In other words, it feels soft with tiny ridges. Try concentrating on the G-Spot for some really intense orgasms.
There are a number of different G Spot massage techniques to use to make yourself squirt that I cover in the squirting article here. Before continuing on to the more advanced techniques, there are just 2 quick, but important points I need to cover:
1. The G Spot will be impossible to find if you are not turned on. If you’re having trouble finding your G Spot, then check out this article where I explain exactly how to find it.
2. You can see from the diagram how the G-Spot is right beside the bladder. A problem this often causes is the feeling that you need to pee when you stimulate it. So if you feel the need to pee every time you finger yourself and stimulate your G-Spot, then don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal. A great tip that will minimize this ‘needing to pee’ feeling is peeing right before you masturbate. Simple 🙂
Quick Note: You may also get this “I need to pee” feeling during sex if your man is putting a lot of pressure on your G Spot.
Now that we’ve covered the basics, here are 4 specific fingering techniques that you can use to make yourself cum and have a lot of fun.
3. Pressure Pressing Technique
The pressure pressing fingering technique works especially well if you find it difficult to have vaginal & G Spot orgasms. The problem many women face is that they just can’t put enough pressure on their G Spot during sex or when they’re fingering themselves. The solution is simple…you just need to squeeze your G Spot from the other side.
In the illustration above, you can clearly see that it’s a man’s penis inside the vagina instead of your hand. I have done this as it’s a technique you can also use during sex if you have trouble reaching orgasm.
So just finger your G Spot as you normally would and then place your other hand atop your mons pubis, which is just above your pubic bone [5], as in the illustration above. Then softly push down so that you can feel your G Spot protruding into your vagina more than normal. You’ll notice that this makes it easier to provide yourself with more G Spot stimulation than normal.
4. Fingering From Behind
Another way to finger yourself is from behind. Put your hand down your lower back, over your anus and then into your vagina. Once you enter your vagina, if you curl your finger backwards, this time you will be stimulating the opposite side (posterior wall) of your vagina to your G Spot.
While this technique will give you a different sensation, most women find that it’s nowhere near as satisfying as having your G Spot and A Spot stimulated.
5. Double Your Fun
This last fingering technique is the best if you are someone who normally struggles to reach orgasm when masturbating. It requires the use of both hands.
Your first hand will be fingering your G Spot in the same way as I described earlier while your other hand will be rubbing, massaging & caressing your clit. It’s super simple and makes reaching orgasm inevitable. You can find even more clitoral stimulation techniques in the masturbation techniques chapter and in this chapter on clitoral stimulation.
6. Anal Fingering
If you like anal sex or want to experiment with the pleasures of anal stimulation, then you absolutely need to try anal fingering. This can be so pleasurable because of all the nerve endings in the area [6] [7].
A little preparation is needed: So you need to trim and file your nails to prevent any nicks and lubricate your finger(s). You can buy some lube for this or use some saliva instead. Regardless, you’ll want to use something because the anal canal doesn’t self-lubricate [8].
Once your finger is lubricated, reach behind your back and slowly start to insert your finger. Take it slow at first as your sphincter muscle takes a while to fully relax and allow you to comfortably penetrate yourself. Once inside, you can simply leave your finger inserted or you can thrust it in and out. Try both and see what you prefer.
If you want to add to your pleasure, then try rubbing your clit (learn some great clit techniques here) or fingering your vagina at the same time like in the illustration above. You’ll find that doing this is a little awkward, but it’s easiest to rub your clit and anally finger yourself while lying on your side.
The Tips Of Your Fingers Is Where The Magic Happens
The five previous fingering techniques were all about where to place your hand and fingers when fingering yourself. But for maximum pleasure, you need to think about what the tips of your fingers are doing when you’re fingering yourself. There are three specific movements you can make with the tips of your finger(s) to give yourself different types of sensations when performing any fingering technique. Experiment with each to figure out what you prefer.
Stroke, Stroke, Stroke
Stroking your finger along the wall of your vagina is easy. Start in one spot and then simply drag your finger in a stroking motion. Then bring your finger back to the starting point and repeat. Make sure to experiment with the speed and length of your strokes along with the amount of pressure you apply for maximum satisfaction.
Press The Magic Button
Pressing and holding pressure with your finger on a specific spot can be very enjoyable. This is especially true for areas like your G Spot (find it here) and A Spot (see it’s location here in the first diagram), while pressing other areas may not provide any pleasure at all. Once you find an area that responds well to prolonged pressing, try experimenting by holding the same amount of pressure with the tips of your fingers for a number of seconds. Also, try repeatedly pressing the area like you repeatedly pressing a button.
Give It A Rub
This technique is similar to Stroke, Stroke, Stroke but this time, you will be moving your finger back and forth or in a circular motion, while keeping lots of pressure around that area. Again, the G Spot and A Spot are two very pleasurable areas to focus on, but as I am constantly repeating, experiment and find what is best for you.
Final Thoughts On Fingering Yourself
As you can see from the article, fingering yourself is pretty easy and straightforward. For many women, it’s also a great way to lower your constant sexual arousal. While I have gotten great feedback from those who have tried my eight techniques above, I strongly encourage you to explore and try to find your own favorite techniques for pleasuring yourself with your fingers. After all, everyone is built slightly differently and responds differently to these methods. So have fun and enjoy your orgasms!
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And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.
Thank you so! This helped me a lot!!:)
Glad I could be of help!
I reached a double orgasm and I squirted everywhere.
Great instructions helped me reach my goal 😉
-Lexi<3
Omg Really Same!
Sean
The first time didn’t work but the second time OMG what an orgasm!!!
i got soo many orgasms and it was soo fun even i squirted allover my bed and it was fun
but most of the time i use vibrators and they are awesome
these tips are great but if you make someone lick and suck your pussy harder and faster then you can have organisms that last for a really long time believe me it works for me all the time when my boyfriend do that
It’s true because when I use my fingers I come like 3times
I squirted everywhere! it was soooooooooooooooooooooo amazing!!!!!!
Oh my God, the other day I was fingering myself and I was like moaning and stuff and like I had three fingers inside me and I was rubbing them around my pussy felt so good but then I got scared because I felt an orgasm coming so I pulled out last minute, but now I really regret it because it felt so fucking good 😋
Me too I’m cumming
I can never orgasm and I don’t know why. I just get bored after a bit. Someone help a girl out ?
me too??
To be honest same
Try using a thick crayola marker and pretending its a dick and rubbing your clit. It was the same for me and i tried it and i cummed and it was rlly fun!
Omg frr like I’m just reading theses cmts to try to help me but like it isn’t helping ?
Same here ?
Try differnt techniques.Ill list a few.
-use nondominante hand
-ice play
-toys/vibrators
-anal/multipenetration
-direct clitoral stimulation
Hope I helped a little!
Same here
The guide on how to orgasm will help.
Yes!! I really want to squirt!!
Ehh me too?
Me too…
The G spot! My man was the 1st person to ever make me squirt. Just put your hands down ur tummy& into yourself& then curl your fingers like “come here” typa curls& keep going until you squirt💕 feels amazing. Vibrators on the clit are a big help as well.
Same i’am squirting so much and cumming only if my crush was here plz tell me that i’am not the only one who uses there hairbrush as a dick
I think you have to simply feel aroused and enthusiastic
U are not sometimes I have to use the top part of a toilet plunger with a towel it does work though I’ve cumed
with it before
Hairbushes make a good dick!
I never did until I read your comments. Totally did and came hard.
I use my hairbrush handle as a dick too. ;p
Not at all I do the same ?
you are not alone sister!
I use side of my phone it’s amazing, obvs u have to wash it after or it stinks, or I rub. I get pleasure from humping objects and stopping so I tease my self. Teasing ur self is amazing too! My boyfriend does his stuff next to me and he licks me out, best thing to do is to do what feels comfy, I start off by rubbing my self(best feeling) then humping side of bed or boyfriends pillow so he has the scent later and then he licks me out? and then I finger my self then I get so aroused I end up humping everything in site.
i never can squirt but i want too how can i squirt
Check out the Squirting Guide for women.
Mmmmm jay squirting… Just playing with ya. No harm attended.
Am still finding it difficult to reach orgasm but I will keep trying
Hi Sean,
I want to cum tonight but I can’t seem to.
I’ve tried other sites and they are no where near as good as your I can get my finger so much deeper.
Please answer asap
The Orgasm Guide should help.
Okay so, I was Fingering myself for the..third try, on my First time. And i felt good for a little I was trying to cum but the pleasure went away and I didn’t feel it anymore..is that an orgasm? I don’t understand. I want to squirt
To Orgasm, read the guide on how to orgasm.
To Squirt, read the Squirting Guide
The thing that makes me cum is using a vibrating toothbrush on my clit and inside if me. I cum every time.
Works on me two omg!
me too but it makes my labia big.. so i need to stop using the toothbrush and come using my hands
Same!
Omg I Read This Inside The Shower And I’m FingeringMyself Right Now My Pussy Feels So Good Right Now Thanks!
Having a lustful desire for the isn’t a sin but merely a temptation. It’s how you react that makes it a sin or not. If you give in to the lustful temptations by masturbating,having sex with multiple people, having sex with someone you’re not married to, then that’s when you’re sinning. But when you overcome it by prayer and such, then it’s not sinning just temptation. Jesus lived a perfect sinless and holy life for YOU. He suffered, bled ,and died so we wouldn’t spend eternity separated from God. He payed for our sins on Earth so we wouldn’t have to pay for them in Heaven. How could anyone, afte knowing the price Jesus paid for us, take that unconditional love ,of both God and Jesus, and just throw that love back in their face. Jesus took on all the sins of every person in the whole entire world, and suffered for them. He was brought back to life by the Holy Spirit proving that he reigns over sin and death and is the King of both the living and the dead. The sins He suffered for includes sexual immorality (masturbation)! All you have to do is believe in Jesus in what he did and repent and you WILL go to Heaven. God gave His ONLY son so that humanity wouldn’t go to Hell and perish. He did it because He loves us. Because He loves YOU. The Bible says “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”(1 Peter 5:7). Jesus told a parable about how not one thing happens to a sparrow (a really small and cheap bird that was sold for less than a penny back in Bible times) that God doesn’t know about. Then he says that we are worth more than many sparrows. Jesus also said that God knows the exact number of hairs on our head and not a single thing happens in our lives that God doesn’t know about. He just simply cares that much. Don’t take that love and throw it back in His face. Flee from your sexually immoral lifestyle! The Bible says that when you confess your sins to Him, He is faithful to forgive you and He will give you the Holy Spirit who will make you a new loving person and Completely stop your habit. I LOVE U GUYS(even tho idk u) AND I DONT WANT U TO GO TO HELL PLZ CONFESS AND REPENT OF ALL SINS!
Omg I read this in my room all alone and started to rub my pussy and started to finger myself,now I’m wet and cumming. Thanks so much this helped me relax and have fun.
yep me too intense orgasm n hella squirting.
What I do is take my underwear give myself a real
Tight wedge like real tight so I feel tight in the front and my anal while I pull it up real
Tight then I take a pillow or a towel rolled up i law on it and hump it I move my pelvis and I gen on to the bed pressing two hard and I shake like there is no tomorrow so pleased and feel like like I was fucked
Same!!
I can’t seem to fit anything in my pussy and I get to the point where I here it getting all wet in there when I masturbate but I won’t ever have a orgasm
Some women need simultaneous stmulation of vagina (G and/or A) and clit, A good man would love to give a good clit licking andn fingering – as well as read this material prior to intimate exchange.
When I finger myself my orgasm doesn’t last long… What can I do for my orgasm to last longer?
Me too I tried every thing and it won’t get to a point when I get an orgasm
same
OMG I keep just rubbing my clit and my legs shake so bad but i can’t seem to cum. IDK why…. :<
Im most likely to get around 5 hard core orgasm
when I’m blindfolded, tied up to the bed (lightly not tight) and my boyfriend and his friend fucks me plus uses a vibrate on me at different times. I luv the mystery of trying to guess who’s in you or who your licking, kissing and when there both in you. Anyway I think you guys should really try it
You could use like the top of the nail polish thing in stick it up there and move it
Try jumping a pillow I orgasm every time.
Get a Hitachi Wand vibrating massager.
The wand!
It gives me the most intense and insane orgasms imaginable. Better than anything else! ANYTHING.
Penis, finger, or other toys.
I never had orgasms til I got this.
Friends who have problems getting orgasms try one , and they are now able to have orgasms all the time now , by all methods.
Every girl single or not, needs one NOW.
Please.
I know it will help all of you who have problems.
Makes a vibrator feel like nothing.
Play with the speeds and intensity. Use it on the clit, and other parts.
Orgasms on a whole different level.!
Orgasms are my favorite.
Especially when you have a dildo and your rubbing your clit at the same time. It ends up feeling amazing.
Sean, I am 27 and I literally have never been able to masterbate. I don’t know if I just can’t get into it mentally or what. Somehow it seems my brain can’t move past the idea that it’s just me touching myself. My husband wants me to do it in front of him and I really really want to do that for him but I’m not the type to fake anything.my husband turns me on like no other and there are plenty of times where schedules have been pinched and we couldn’t knock one out and it’s left me super ready but with no out. Any tips?
You can ease into it by placing your hand over his as he rubs your clit so it feels like something you’re doing together. He can remove his hand so you’re the only one touching yourself and he can watch.
Learning to enjoy your own body and how it responds to stimulus is really good. And if you have a husband that wants to watch, that’s hot. Give him a good show, babe.
Yeah try to relax tilt your head back and slide ur hands down ur body and stroke yourself until u get to your clit
Use his penis to masterbate with. Rubbing his penis on your clit and Then when you are about to cum let him slide it in as you finish off with your fingers.
I can’t seem to get turned on. Any tips for me because I don’t want to watch porn. My friend has never watched porn and she can orgasm in like a minute.
Sean,
Your techniques work so well I can orgasm multiple times in one session. Tonight it was 9 times and it felt so amazing. Relaxation is the key.
Same! I always manage to cum and nearly even squirted!
I squirted while reading the instructions lol!
Even me
I couldn’t reach an orgasm. ???? I tried slit of the wats but I couldn’t.
i agree
i made myself orgasm every night after reading this
any other tips email me heheh
Yeah when I read this it makes me horny and I imagine it I lay side ways cross my thighs as if I had to pee and I happen to come right on the couch without having to even run or touch anything just moving my pelvis slowly makes me come … since people are around they don t even notice
I come the same way. It’s almost like you have to put pressure all along the top to bottom of outside of vagina. I can’t come with penetration, or at least never have before. I try fingering myself but it doesn’t work. Fingering and penetration from Penis feels great, but it doesn’t lead me to an orgasm. This makes it difficult to figure out how best he can please me
I had so much orgasm i squirted everywhere and i felt so good
I wish I could eat my own pussy, it would help a lot!
Lmao, I could eat it tho
Tbh I never felt so good in my life!!!
ThankyouThankyouThankyou!! This helped so much! I tried these out on my friend (we’re both girls, not lesbians just curious and horny at the time) and it was FANTASTIC. It made us both so wet and horny, she even asked me to do it again sometime! THANKS!! Very satisfied customers. 😉
Awesome friend. My friends won’t do this lol.
Not lesbians, lol! Yeah, ok
Alan,
This may not be the case above, but I think that we girls are much more comfortable experiencing our sexuallity than most of the guys are with theirs, because female-female sex is much more sexually objetified than man-man sex (even in a way that is made for men to enjoy, not women). Even so, this contributes for us to be much more open for the idea of experimenting with other women. Also, it’s much times “safer” and much more comfortable. You don’t have to worry about “being the best”, about “being unforgettable”. Many women feel insecure about letting a guy know that we are not absolutely secure about our own bodies and sexuallities. And many guys also feel insecure about knowing that their partners are interested in learning to get more pleasure (which in guys’ minds many times implies that they aren’t getting “the job done”). It is also very common that guys will accept that we are interested in learning, but just won’t be open to accepting the many real possibilities of one’s sexuality and one’s experimentation, as your own response to the above comment seemed to point out…
Just some things I think are worth the thought.
Love,
Mara
I totally get u like I would love to masturbate or have sex with my girl friends because who doesn’t want a naked chick on top of u and they don’t know that I’m gay yet???????? ????
I’m bisexual and This helped me to orgasm with and with out my girlfriend
My friend came up with an idea close to that once when we were both drunk in college and we did it but later I found out she had just had sex with my bf right before me. Not that anyone cared
Thanks helped me a lot now
ugh this made me so wet. all my friends are so straight (i’m a lesbian) and i just wanna kiss them and finger them until they’re wet. i wish i had a friend who was at least just curious hehe.
OMG SAME!!! Nome of my friends are gay, and they all hate porn!! I have no one to do this with!!!
i wish i had friends like you lollll
Sameee
thnx it felt really nice ahha i want to do it with someone now
:'(
It’s so much better with someone else. I need more tips if you have any ideas message me.
Omfg I know how you feel!!??? it sucks because I have REALLY DIRTY THOUGHTS and I’m getting horny af EVERYDAY. And every time I bring it up to one of my friends that say that it’s weird and gross….I HAVE NO ONE TO RELATE TO!!!??.
And thank you to the author of this article!! I literally got really wet by just reading this article lol! Now j can try more ways to satisfy myself☺
OMG ME TOO! I got wet just by reading this article!
Same tho
Same it made my pussy throb and made me want to do it so I did and it felt so good as I ran my fingers around the outer part of my clit and then put one finger then I pushed on my g spot and then put two fingers on and went faster and faster and faster until I orgasmed like 5 times
Ugh it doesn’t really work I try it out then my vagina starts to hurt????
Same here!!
Same, I try but I’m left frustrated..
lol same
Same!!!
same………..Even I asked my female friend onces and she replied the same
Same :,(
It was alright it’s just like Everytime I go deeper it just gives me a little pinh lol????????
You can do it to me 😉 .
Pls help ive been fingering myself in the shower but i can seem 2 squrit!
Hi Alina,
The truth is that some people find it easier than others to squirt. The key is not to be focused on squirting. Instead you should just focus on enjoying yourself and doing what feels best for you. This will help to take pressure off.
Sean
Sean, I’ve been masturbating for so long but I don’t cum.help pls.
It can take longer for some people to reach orgasm. This is often caused by desensitization from too frequent masturbation. My advice is to hold off on masturbating for a good while and then try again, focusing only on what feels pleasurable…not on having an orgasm.
I cant cum neither i try but it just wont come out 🙁
I need help because I have tried to squirt and I just can’t seem to do it I have gaven a lot of orgys but no squirting someone help me please
Check out our guide to making yourself squirt.
Very well said, Sean.
Ladies, enjoy your anatomy, it’s yours!! Relax and know; a reciprocal sex partner will take time and pride to ensure you are fully comfortable, thus communicate with your partner, let them know what feels good and doesn’t.
Most importantly, relax your body with deep breathing (yoga breath). As you start to relax through breathing, sensory receptors will produce higher levels of pleasure/intensity, resulting in:
neurotransmitters “dumping your love chemicals”.
Each and everyone of us is different. Don’t worry how “others” perceive your sexual, personal and intimate life choices. Judging is the opposite of loving!!
Love yourself first, you are perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love that! Its soo true and loving yourself is important no matter what you’re doing!
That’s sexxy
lol you need jesus
Lol I will continue masterbating. Maybe even in front of a picture of your story book character Jesus Christ.
Put your pussy up to the water flow or if you have a shower house put it away from the clit but like make sure the water hits the clit I do it everytime I shower
Same here tho
I know, right? It feels absolutely amazing!
It feels sooo good. It makes me feel so good that it hurts. But I’ve never been able to cum. What does cumming feel like? I wish someone could pin me down and force the water on my pussy so I could actually finish.
I would ?
Just be sure not to let it get into your vagina, as it can cause damage due to the powerful flow
Wov, Thank you. It makes me wet and horny. It was really fantastic.
I finally was able to get my hand inside. It took approx 2 hours of kegals and pushing technique but was well worth the work. Tonight i am going to try a 1 liter plastic bottle with the same method. Tnx.
Wtf!
your probably just jealous that she can fit a 1 liter bottle up her pussy
is anyone else horny asf right now? I’m doing it as I’m typing and it’s not working. Plz help
Sameeee
Get off here if u hate it
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!:) I WISH MY BF WOULD FINGER ME…..THAT FELT AMAZING!!!!!! I WAS LIKE….AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
I’ll do it for you baby
oh god… I CUMMED =O Yaaaaay!! imma try this again! cya good person that helped me cum =D
It would be nice to have a graphic of a woman’s hand doing this instead of a man’s hand; it’s obvious that a woman couldn’t have her hand in that position and do that.
You’re right! If I can find a graphic with a woman’s hand instead of a man’s, I will update it. Thanks,
Sean
Sean, I’ve been fingering myself tons of times and whenever I stop, I get headaches, is that bad? Also, I share a room with my twin so I have to hide in my small bathroom to masturbate ????. And my twin knows how to pick lock so I’m very embarrassed. Just reading this article made me cum. Thanks for your help!
Do you smoke weed? Trust me I would smoke everyday and I would rub my clit and it gave me bad hear aches I hated to take pills so it can go away
Sean,
It’s seems like you know all the tricks. You must be quite the ladies man.
What should I do if I’ve never had an orgasm? I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years now and still nothing.
Hi Ashlee,
It’s much easier to first have an orgasm by yourself, while exploring your own body and what turns you on without the pressure of your man being there. Then when you can comfortably and easily give yourself an orgasm without much effort, then it’s time to start trying to have one with your man or by his hand.
The key is enjoying the process, not focusing on orgasming.
Sean
Girlfriend….get a vibrator pronto!
hi Sean,
These tips are really amazing!!! Just from reading and imagining the sensation made me wet wet wet 🙂 thank you soo much! (im going to give it a go and feel in real the experience fom your advise)
i was wondering, its a little stupid though.. Whats the difference between feeling wet, cum and orgasm??
You’re like the sex master, so i hope i, the dummy have asked the right person c:
Hi KY,
Thanks for your praise & question!
Becoming wet is the self-lubrication process that occurs when many women become aroused.
Cumming doesn’t always accompany orgasm (but often it does), when you rapidly self-lubricate a lot and can even ejaculate (from your Skene’s gland).
Orgasm is a peak moment of pleasure that occurs during sex, foreplay or other stimulation. You don’t necessarily have to cum when you orgasm or even be that wet.
Sean
ohh thank you sean,
I finally understand the difference ^^
I hope you dont mind me asking another question.. But is it normal to be wet for no reason, like after a long day out.. You come home and somehow find yourself wet? I mean i am not in an ‘aroused mood when this happens.’
Well thank you again for the clear explanation
Hi KY,
Yes it’s perfectly normal and nothing to be worried about.
Sean
Hey the orgasm is just so intense I can’t keep fingering myself long enough to squirt
I squirt 2-4 times for 1 man I see, he gets so excited and It’s amazing. it is a feeling of mind and body coming together, pure bliss. Every woman should cum (squirt) to feel it. It’s amazingly hot and it took me years to get there, but worth the wait, it’s amazing. Toys help,learn how to do it to yourself first and then you will know how and with which type of toy first then show your guy.. Sean, you are amazing and I hope all women can feel this type of physical connection and vibe when a certain man touches you in just the right spot its simply amazing to cum for each other (sometimes multiple times) watching each other and desiring it all day!
Omg Sean I squirted so big than just layed there and relaxed for a while thank you Krista
K
I tried it but, i don’t seem to be cumming. Any Tips??
Hi Jasmine,
The key is not to ‘force it’. In other words, don’t put pressure on yourself to have an orgasm and cum. Instead, just focus on enjoying the process and discovering what sorts of things you enjoy.
Sean
I tried but nothing happened only my vagina hurt. I tried rybbing my clit and after sometime i started to shake and i couldn’t rub more. How can i have an orgasm by rubbing mt clit if i can’t keep rubbing it for long and after the shaking process i feel realky weightless.
Same here. I masturbate, but when i do it for a while i feel like im getting closes to organism but then i stop because i can’t stop shaking. i really want to organism but i cant seem to. Help ASAP please
ik. i never stop shaking, either. Ify
Hii, I was fingering the clit and I got reallt wet and such, but I came to a point where I couldn’t keep on rubbing the clit because it was to sensitiv… Hard to explain, it felt like I came, but it happened to fast… I am confused
Hi Frida,
This is completely normal. After you orgasm, your clit can become very sensitive, usually too sensitive to keep on rubbing. All you need to do is just wait until this super-sensitivity subsides and then you can go back to rubbing it again.
Sean
Thx that advice really helped me too
Thanx, i really appreciate the help/advice
Glad you enjoy the advice!
i cant cum but i wish i could and i wish my boyfriend would fuck me ====3
Wish I had a boyfriend to fuck me or anybody for that matter
Hello,
I’m very new at this and I don’t know what it feels like to achieve a orgasm so I don’t know if I’m doing it right. I rubbed my clitoris until it became so sensitive I couldn’t take it anymore. As for the G-Spot I can’t seem to find it, any tips?
Hi Paige,
There is no right way or wrong way to rub your clitoris as different people enjoy different things. The important thing is to keep experimenting to see what is the most enjoyable thing for you. So experiment with all different kinds of touch, from feather light to soft to quite hard touching.
Your G-Spot is much easier to find when you are very aroused, so my advice would be to only try to find it when you are super aroused.
Sean
Hi ummm I had a good feeling and it was unbelievable I was wet wet and even more wet than I can imagine after I cum I used a viberator I squirted so much I screamed. But I fuck with most of the things in my house I fuck with everything I have I did it with my phone once.
That’s hot
I become so wet and started fingering myself my god i squirted so much feeling horny
Same im so fucking horny rn i need to get it outtttt
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Thank you so much. But I have a question, I have only had sex once (not because i’m scared, because of pain yada yada yada) and it was over a year ago. I have fingered myself once from it, that’s it. And I can’t use tamps, so I’m pretty tight. Do you have any tips for this? For me to get comfortable fingering myself better? Thanks.
Hi Sierra,
The first thing you should do is use lots of lube. This will help everything to slide in and out much more easily. The next thing you need to understand is that the more your stretch it, the looser it will get. Just make sure that you don’t hurt yourself when doing it.
Sean
Sean,
thank you so much for this site… I’ve never really got anything from masturbating, so just never bothered… then I discovered your site, read your tips…
i tried and for the first time, managed to make myself cum
thank you… now I just need to try those bj skills 😉
xx
Great to hear!
Sean
sean
I tried the it but I always seem to cum but wit no orgasm wat am I doin wrong ?
Hi Tami, it sounds like you need to only focus on the techniques and motions that you find pleasurable. Don’t worry about cumming, just focus on the most pleasurable stimulation.
Sean
Hi Sean should I lick my boyfriends fingers clean after he has rubbed me?? xxxx
If you want
I’ve been fingering myself for awhile now and I get close to orgasming. I never seem to be able to do it though. Why? My boyfriend tells me to relax and I try to but I seem to have a natural tension from the pleasure, if that makes sense. Please help??
Hi Cassie,
That natural tension is a good thing. You’ll find that if you keep going (while focusing on what is pleasurable), then the tension will build and build until it reaches a peak and then quickly dissipates. This peak is orgasm!
Sean
What if our arms are too short to reach your gspot?
Hi Lisa,
If this is the case, then you may want to try using a toy like a dildo.
Sean
Hi sean, I used to cum really easily but now I get to the point where I’m about to then it just disappears, what’s the best thing to do
Hi Linzie,
I’m not sure. Have you started/stopped any medications recently. This is often the cause.
What if u rub ur clit and finger yourself and am horny but still don’t orgasm or get wet or cum and use lube
I’m sorry I ment does your hem have to be broken to hit your g-spot
Hi Aria,
No the hymen doesn’t necessarily have to be broken in order to hit your G Spot.
Sean
Im a 25 yr old male.
I love n prefer to eat pussy cant get enough of the scent n wetness!
Im an oral addict!
Is this normal?
Hi Eddie,
Sounds pretty normal to me.
Sean
i tried fingured to my girlfriend. but she said she get very pain. so i i cant fucked her
Hi sean,
ive had many clitoral orgasms before but when I finger myself I get no pleasure from it…is this normal and what can I do to sort it?
Thanks.
Hi Lauren,
I always advise students to keep trying, without putting any emphasis on having an orgasm. A much better strategy is to take your time, try different things and only focus on what feels good.
Sean
My boyfriend has tried fingering me, and I didn’t find hardly any pleasure. It just hurt. A lot! A lot a lot. I wanted him to and I was wet?? I thought maybe it was just him…so I tried fingering myself and didn’t get anything from it. It didn’t feel that great. Any advise? I’m going to try stuff of this page too, thanks xoxo (:
Hi Melissa,
The goal isn’t just to ‘finger yourself’. It’s to rub yourself in a way that’s pleasurable. The main thing to focus on is doing what you find most pleasurable.
Sean
Can u tell me the side effects of self fingering & if I will enter two fingers at a time will it harm my hymen.
Hi Benu,
It potentially can harm your hymen, but it all depends on how much pressure your use. I wish I could be more detailed, but the truth is that it really depends.
Sean
Hi Sean….well I’ve fingered myself for a while now. I did it tonight and I still haven’t cummed. It felt really close tho my legs were shaky. But nothing came out I did this for a good half hour still nothing but I really want to…any advice/help????
Don’t focus on the outcome (making yourself orgasm). Just focus on enjoying yourself.
Sean
Hi Sean,
So, I’m pretty sure I found my G-spot, but every time I try to stimulate it, my bladder engorges and eventually I pee. Is there any way to avoid this?
Thanks,
Nicole
Hi Nicole,
You may find that you are actually squirting like I explain in the squirting tutorial.
Sean
Hey Sean
Great site!
I was thinking of trying this, i have tried to finger myself before but i get no please if not stinging. I dont use tampons i feel im too tight to fit them and it hurts and feels dry although i have tried. I also dont get very wet if at all so fingering is dry and hurts. And even if i do get wet when i try to finger myself i simply get bored and ‘dry up’ and im so worried that because i cant use tampons cause im tight i wont be able to ‘fit’ a penis.. i dont know what im doing wrong!!
Please help me! 🙁
Hi Shannon,
This doesn’t sound like a massive problem. You can cure the dryness issue by using a bit of lube. You may want to talk to your doctor about the excessive tightness however, it could potentially be something like vaginismus.
Sean
Omg it was amazing wish someone would do it to me in stead of me doing myself
Thank you so much I fucked my gf the other day and she fuckin cummed so hard im gonna fuck her every night
hi sean,
so im in love with my gf and i want to give to her. how do i kno shes ready?
talk to her!
Hey Sean,
I was wondering if you have some tips for girls on girls or a section for lesbian sex tips.
Thanx
I’m looking into it!
AHHHHHH! your advice give me some pleasure!
sean please give me some insight if you can! I can’t even get myself to finger myself it’s a really terrible issue and I understand the reason is me and only me but why do I feel this way?
I’m not the biggest fan of the vagina though I appreciate my own. however, there is nothing that gets me to touch myself down there (and I’ve even considered wearing a surgical glove before trying to do so) to me that’s just wrong and I’d love to form a personal connection with my vagina but I just can’t bring myself to do it…
Hi,
Sounds like a tough situation to be in and there could be many potential causes for you feeling this way: past experiences, repression, shame, etc. It may be best to talk to a doctor or therapist about this.
Sean
I was fingering myself last night, but got no pleasure at all. I really want an amazing orgasm, but I don’t seem to enjoy fingering
Ok I try to masterbate but I cant can you give steps for say like ok now once you’ve rubbed there for 2mis than start fingering your self plz plz it would help
Hi Shaunine,
The truth is that different people enjoy and get off to different sensations, so you’re going to need to do a lot of experimentation to discover what you enjoy the most.
Have fun!
Sean
This totally helped me I finger myself so much now and I organism like crazy thank you
I always wear thongs before, to get myself feeling sexy
I cannot fit more than 1 of my fingers in my vagina. I tried to put 2 but it hurt. Any help
Make sure to use lots of lube!
Can you get pregnant from this
No.
Hi so I use a vibrator often and I have it on my favorite setting but I never have an orgasam so why is this am I using it the wrong way?8
Hi Alice,
It’s hard for me to tell as different people have different levels of sensitivities. The main thing is to keep focusing on what feels pleasurable and not worrying about the outcome. If using your vibrator isn’t that pleasurable, then just switch back to using your hand or whatever technique you usually use when masturbating.
Sean
Hi Sean,
I’ve tried to use to fingers before and it hurts but when I use one it feels like nothing is in there any ideas on what might help me? Xx
Hi Cassie,
You might find that you need to use a bit of lube to make it easier for yourself.
Should it feel like gushing water? I dunnnnooo
Hi Shayla,
Yes, it can feel like that
Hello, Sean! 🙂
Actually, I have tried fingering lots of times and have always tried finding the G-Spot. I have tried searching in the internet for how the G-Spot actually felt like. Everytime I feel like I have found it, I certainly feel unsure about it. I just don’t think it is the right one. That is the reason why I came to this website though. I wanted my fingering session to be pleasurable for me. Also, I have never squirted before! Regarding of this, I just feel insecure about myself. I don’t know whether it is that I can’t squirt or am I doing the wrong thing. So, please help me amd give me suggestions about this. 🙂 Thankyou!
Hi Audrey,
You may want to read the article on finding your G Spot and this one on squirting.
Enjoy!
Sean
omg I cummed s000 much when I read this and you helped me so much im so horny right now thank you
How do you cum?
Hi Sean!
I’m very new to this and very unsure on how the whole ‘fingering thing’ works. I’m am so terrified that I might do something wrong. I’ve done this before but was just to scared to continue. Is this normal? Thanks. 🙂
Hi Katie,
If you are scared or unsure of anything, then don’t feel like you need to keep doing it. Don’t worry about whether you do it ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, just focus on what feels good.
Sean
I’m so thankfully sean you really helped me bus it seems that I can’t feel in the mood now matter what I do any tips?
Hi Grace,
This can be a tricky situation. You may need to do some things with you man to build sexual tension so that you are more eager to make something happen. This article will help you build sexual tension with him.
I cant orgasm. My bf used to fuck me 2-3 times a day and its been three years since I’ve had proper sex. I’ve been really horny for the past 5 days to the point its making me sick. I have tried fingering..I have tried bottles of all shapes and sizes… I gave tried the shower head..I’ve even sleptwith a mascarra bottle in between my legs. I’m extremely wet but no orgasm. Help!
Hi Mary, try some of the tips in the squirting article and orgasm article.
Luv this wanted to try to see if it works and it’s great agian luv the site also good step by step instruction
OMG Sean this is amazing ive been doing this all day and each time is better! Thank you so much!!
I’ve tried these, they really work. It depends on you body though. I wish I could right now, but I’m not alone… Could get awkward…
Hi sean…
I have had an orgasim before many of times from fingering but it just all stopped happening now when o do masterbate i do find my clit and my g spot i get wet then i rub but i dont get orgasims from it i have tried all diffrent ways but i dont get pleasure from it
This helped me feel how it feels to be you know..it is pleasurable
wow I really enjoyed it is so sweet I fell like doing it again and again
Thank you so much I love these techniques
the least best known arouser your plain old fingers oh and the tongue
My boyfriend and I fuck all the time. But its not that pleasurable. But when he fingers me its great and I squirt a lot. Is it normal ? To like rather be fingered by him.
Hi Josie, squirting is completely normal. If you prefer to be fingered by your man, then make sure to let him know. Great sex is all about communication after all.
Omg I tried double the fun and in 3mins I was in a puddle of my own fluids. You are a life saver 😉
Thank you so much…this was my first orgasm and it felt great! Your techniques for this are amazing! And once again, Thanks for helping me acheive this goal
i’ve done everything and i haven’t cummed. it’s so frustrating
So this is basically practicing sex before you really have it? It feels wonderful to do though is there anything i can use a replacement for a guys penis?
A dildo is the obvious choice here. But anything penis shaped will do, provided it’s safe and won’t irritate your vagina.
I’m a guy and I find your article very descriptive , the diagrams make it even better! I really think this will help me pleasure my girl.
Hi, I tried fingering myself, I tried finding the g-spot, but, when I finger myself it feels good until my arms get numb and I still haven’t came.. Why cant I cum?
Hi Charla, Just focus on what feels good and don’t worry about the orgasm. It will come as long as you only focus on what feels good.
Omg thank you so so much… That was so great!!
Omg this was great. I cummed everywhere, but i cant seem to squirt help please!!!
I know had one ever before iam 29
how sad is that
Hey Sean
So I don’t know if I’m just not doing it long enough or what but each time I finger my clitoris it feels amazing and it feels so good I can’t take it, but I keep going any way and I get to this point when it feels so good I tense up, but then nothing, what am I doing wrong? Any tips
I just can’t stop fingering myself ,other tyms I can’t even sleep without doing it,when I’m with my man I let him do it
hi?is finggering ok for a pregnant woman?
It’s best to talk to your doctor about this.
i cant orgasm!! and i have a hard time getting wet. my heart races and i get weak but i dont get very wet or orgasm. please help. xoxoxo <3 m
Bruh when i do it it hurts
Thank goodness for this article. it was greatly helpful.
Oh thank you Sean! I didn’t quite cum but I loved the orgasm. I was previously talking to my boyfriend so I had been turned on already. I even made him aroused earlier. We are both virgins so we have no experience with sex but this was very helpful for me for my first orgasm. Thanks! When I did though I kept calling his name and it helped to think of him. Your now my saviour!!
Everytime i do it it hurts what am i doing wrong.
Omg!!!! I keep getting wet and having Orgasm’s and I love it me and my bf can have sex everyday now that I’m getting wet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Sean,
No matter what I do I can’t seem to orgasm squirting or cum. I’ve looked at other articles but nothing seems to help. What do I do?
Try to not focus on the orgasm and try some of these techniques.
I still don’t understand!!! BTW I never fingered myself, please help!
I read this article and by the way love the website and i first started fingering my self i looked for tht flesgt spot and found it i begin ti apply pressure and it felt good but it seem like i had been doing it forever so i applies force on my stomach and within 10 min i squirted omg !! Now i dont even need to applu pressure from my stomach thank you soo much
Thankyou so much ! I never came on my own via g spot massaging ☺️ And thinking of my bf really does help , this is great ! Thankyou Sean
My legs are also numb and shaky
Wow this is amazing I tried it m……..it really gave me a morning glory will teach my man how to really get it right also when fingering me #thanks sean#
thank you so much it feells so nice and great…
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OMG! Great advice! I tried it and got SO fucking wet! Thanks!
So I did finger myself and found much pleasure but I just can’t seem to orgasm I am really in lots of pleasure but I have tried what you have said to others and not focus on orgasm but still I can’t reach orgasm. Also I really want to finger my gf but I’m too afraid to talk any advice? (Btw I’m lesbian and this site helped quite a bit thank you!)