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Nothing kills a relationship faster than boredom.
It’s too easy to slip into a routine with your man. Just like with work, study, going to the gym or even eating, sex is vital to a good relationship but it can become routine and boring. When that happens, you and your man will start looking elsewhere for your thrills.
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Don’t let this happen to your relationship!
While the Bad Girls Bible will teach you everything you need to know to keep things hot, in the meantime these 14 sex tips will give you a great start to eliminating boredom in your relationship & sex life. Here goes:
1. Learn New Sex Positions
This is the easiest, but also one of the most effective ways of keeping things interesting. It’s the reason why I created the Sex Positions section of the Bad Girls Bible. It has pictures and detailed explanations on over 100 different sex positions.
If your man is not keen to try out new sex positions, then you are going to need to be the one who takes action.
Pick out a few positions (only 1 or 2) from the sex positions section and keep them in mind the next time you are in bed with your man. There’s no need to tell him that you want to try them. Instead, just take the position and help to guide your man.
Related: If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually addicted to you, then you'll find them in my private and discreet newsletter. You'll also learn the 5 dangerous & "dumb" sex mistakes that turn him off and how to avoid them. Get it here.
If you’ve never taken the lead in bed before, you may feel a little nervous trying this. But your man will enjoy it. Trust me.
You’ll find it best to try out some of the easier to perform positions that don’t require lots of flexibility and are easy to transition to.
2. Explore His Fantasies (And Yours Too!)
Everyone has sexual fantasies. Everyone!
The problem for many people is that they think their fantasies are weird or a bit ‘out there’. They may not want to tell their man about their fantasies due to fear or potential embarrassment or their man thinking they are weird.
The fact is your man will be thinking the same thing!
So there might be certain fantasies or things to that turn you on, but you never actually get to experience them in real life.
What a sad world 🙁
What if you could explore them with someone you cared about?
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Over the coming weeks, I will be covering tactics and strategies that you can use so that sharing your fantasies with your man is easy and fun.
But for the time being, try to keep these 5 things in mind when sharing your fantasies with your man.
- Start with the tamest ones first. Then build up to the wilder ones once you are both comfortable.
- Be open and welcoming to his, even if you don’t want to try them out. In other words do not be judgemental.
- Don’t force it. If he won’t open up, then trying to force him to will make him close up even further.
- Use positive reinforcement. By rewarding your man for opening up, he is more likely to open up in the future. Rewarding him is simple. It can be as simple as saying ‘cool, I’m kinda interested in that too’.
- Keep it a secret between you and your man.
We put together a list of freaky things to do with your man, that can act as a great starting point when sharing your fantasies…or help you come up with new ones.
3. Becoming Dominant, Exploring Your Submissive Side
Most relationships have one partner that is slightly more dominant in bed while the other partner is slightly more submissive.
Not in the D/S sense of the word. But in the sense that one partner is more eager to try out new things, change position or engage the other in sex.
A great way to spice things up is to change your role the next time you’re in bed with your man.
- So if he is usually the one who wants to change position, you should try to beat him to the punch and change positions instead. (make sure to try out some new sex positions too!)
- Or maybe he usually initiates sex. Why not try being the aggressor this time?
- Or maybe you usually start foreplay. Try holding out until he does.
You might feel a bit uneasy about changing roles at first. But don’t worry, your man will be pleasantly surprised! You’ll find that this dirty talking tutorial video serves as a great introduction to learning how to be more dominant through talking dirty in a way that builds sexual tension, turns him on and keeps him attracted to you. Enjoy!
4. Pinch His Ass
This is probably the most ridiculous sounding sex tip you’ll hear from me. But it works really well.
The next time you are saying goodbye to your man, as you lean in to kiss him, quickly grab his bum. You can pinch it, smack it or just grab it with your hand.
Make sure it’s quick, but don’t say anything about it.
And don’t explain, if he asks why you did it.
Just smile at him.
For your man, it’s a little confusing, but it’s also a sure sign that you like him and can be naughty too.
Caveat: Don’t use this every single day or every week. Only use it about once a month to keep things fun and flirty.
5. Use Sex Toys
Sex toys are great. Especially if you want to spice things up. There is literally a sex toy for everything. For him, for her. For his penis, for your clitoris.
Using sex toys during foreplay is great for getting each other hot and bothered before sex. They can also be great instead of sex and during sex as well.
But like I advise with all of the tips you read here: if you solely rely on sex toys, then things will inevitably start to get boring and routine.
A good way to view sex toys is seeing them as a spice, not the main course.
Over the coming weeks, I will be adding a section on which sex toys work best and how to use them.
6. Jump In The Shower With Him!
This simple sex tip is similar to pinching his ass. It must be used sparingly if you want it to remain effective.
The next time your man goes for a shower, follow him in a minute later. From there, you have a choice of what to do:
- You could do nothing else but just wash him. It surprisingly sexy!
- You could give him a blowjob. Try putting a towel under your knees if you do this, otherwise your knees can get very sore.
- You could have sex. Although, you’ll find that shampoo and water can quickly dry out your natural lubrication 🙁
7. Build Anticipation
One reason why sex can become dull and boring is because there is no build up, no anticipation and no tension before you have sex with your man. It’s just a routine (for most couples it’s usually either every morning or evening).
To break out of this monotony, try building anticipation to something he’s not expecting. If you are on vacation with friends, text your man and let him know how much you are missing him (and how horny you are).
Let him know what you are planning to do with him when you return. In detail…
This doesn’t only apply to when you are on vacation. You can try it right after you leave for work or school.
Caveat: Like with the other sex tips, try to use this one sparingly otherwise it can get boring pretty quickly.
8. Dressing Up For Him
Dressing up for your man is a simple ‘sex’ tip. In a way it’s related to the last sex tip, “Building Anticipation’.
When I say “Dressing Up For Him”, I don’t neccessarily mean dressing up in costume or wearing super slutty clothes.
Instead I mean wearing something provocative. Something that will make him look twice. Something that reminds him of why he likes you so much.
This could be a dress that’s a little shorter than normal, a top that’s cut low or anything that accentuates your good points.
9. Watch Porn Together
Hear me out! I totally understand if you hate pornography and want to avoid this tip completely.
There is a stereotype than men love porn and women hate it. This is not quite true.
I feel that this is a more accurate way of describing the stereotype:
Most women hate ‘conventional’ pornography.
What’s conventional pornography? Pornography that’s degrading to women, where men treat the women like dirt and cum on their faces at the end.
However, if you search for it, you will find female focused pornography that’s not like this at all.
If you are not sold on the idea of watching porn with your man, then please don’t feel like you have to. You’ll find lots of other sex tips throughout the Bad Girls Bible.
10. Ask For Directions
Asking for directions when you really want to sexually satisfy your man, whether you are giving him a blowjob or a handjob or having sex is a really smart move if you want to improve fast.
But don’t ask him directly.
Don’t say:
Is that ok?
I’m not sure what I’m doing, but I hope you like it.
A better way to ‘ask for directions’ is to give him a choice or to make a suggestive statement.
Are you a handjob guy or a blowjob guy?
I bet you are the kind of guy who likes his balls played with…
You seem like the kind of guy who likes being on top & in control…
I can tell you like doggystyle sex…
Some people find this to be really easy, while others find it a little trickier. But once you do ‘ask for directions’, you’ll quickly discover what your man enjoys the most. And he will be much more likely to return the favor!
11. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty to your man can be really powerful. That’s why there is an entire section of the Bad Girls Bible devoted to talking dirty, not to mention the powerful dirty talking tutorial video I created to get you up to speed, fast. You can watch it here.
Rather than rehashing everything already in the talking dirty section, you should really just check it out for yourself.
For those who don’t know about the power of talking dirty, a lot of women like it as it can be used to keep your man constantly turned on and thinking about you when you are not around.
12. Learn How To Give A Killer Blowjob
Finding a guy who doesn’t love a blowjob is difficult. That’s why I created an entire instructional video devoted to giving your man an awesome blowjob. I hope that you’ll check it out here.
13. Keep Adding To Your Sex Repertoire
If you have been with the same guy for a long time, you may have found that things have started to get quite routine in the bedroom.
While some couples like having a routine, you may find that those same 5 ‘moves’ your man uses are starting to get boring.
If you start to feel that way, then chances are that your man is starting to feel the same about your ‘moves’.
That’s why I created The Bad Girls Bible, to give you a near unlimited database of things you can do in & out of the bedroom to keep your man satisfied.
So I want to encourage you to really try out the things I am teaching you here.
14. Avoid Routine & Boredom
Routine is the ultimate relationship killer. It’s why so many couples have less sex after they get married, they fall into a routine.
Now, the Bad Girls Bible is not a relationship site, but you should understand that boredom will mess up not only your sex life, but your relationship too. It’s one of the main reasons people slowly drift apart and cheat on each other.
So if you are serious about keeping both your sex life and your relationship fun, varied and satisfying, then please use the resources here at the Bad Girls Bible.
You’ll find:
- The Blog – Updated with the freshest and most interesting content on how to keep your man satisfied.
- The Best Sex Positions – Over 100 different sex positions, with pictures.
- How To Give Great Blowjobs – The Blowjob Bible is the best resource you can find on how to give your man great oral sex.
- How To Talk Dirty – Detailed advice on what to say to turn your man on.
- The Best Sex Tips – Beginner, intermediate and Advanced sex tips.
Oh, don’t forget to leave your own sex tips in the comments below!
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hi this advice n tips u giving me is really working out n my husband loves it!!its making him crazy n he just cant wait to come home from work in the afternoon. thanks for everything its helping me alot!!!
Hi Selenia,
Glad I could be of service!
Sean
Hey Sean! I’ve been with my guy for awhile now. We are very open with trying new things and exploring. Your tricks have given me a little more oomph for when the lights go out. The dirty talking section was pretty good. It’s pretty awesome there’s a list of positions. Thanks! =)
Great to Nessa, thanks!
Sean
hi ,
the best for us is dirty talk we need you tell us for more ideas and more hot words ideas . also i want to add for you all sex out door was so good idea we can’t forget
Hi Adel,
I have an article on having sex outdoors in the works, stay tuned 🙂
Sean
Try it in the snow
Omigosh, you’re so amazing!!! I love your tips, and I read every article. My husband and I have such a healthy sex life that it can’t get any better. But I still try out your suggestions, and it drives him crazy!!! THANK YOU KEEP POSTING!!!!
Hi Sean,
I am a big fan! Love to read your sex tips!! I am going to purchase the Bad Girls Bible tomorrow!! can’t wait!! So excited on trying everything!!
Whoop, whoop! Thanks Julie!
Hi sean i really like all ur tips but i have a problem i really want to try anal for d first time but im scared i dont kno what to expect what if i poo on the bed will it hurt more than when i lost my virginity will i bleed alot can you please help me. What should i do.
Hi Sly,
The key is starting with inserting something small like a finger and then working your way up to something bigger. You’ll also learn a lot from .
Enjoy!
Sean
I tried to stretch with plugs first. I bought a set of three, each one a little bigger than the other. It really taught me to relax as it’s inserted. The biggest reason I found that it hurts is because I was still so scared or tense. I was scared about how “dirty” the plugs might be when they came out… but much more often than not, they were clean. That made me more confident with my man. Lube is absolutely necessary, but DO NOT use numbing ones… it does nothing to help you get used to anal penetration and takes away all the pleasure you COULD be getting once it’s in.
Hi Sean
in general how many sex positions people will have during sex?
Honestly, it all depends on what you and your partner want.
Hi,just something I happen to stumble across one evening…..sucking on a strong mint and then giving your guy a blowjob leaves him totally breathless 😉
Hi! My husband doesn’t get too turned on by dirty talk or sexy pictures over the phone while he’s at work or with the guys, any suggestions to help turn him on better?
Hi Milani, Try talking to him and ask him what he finds hottest.
Hi Sean!
I’ve read one article about guys love being humiliated in bed. And I don’t know how that turns them on. Will you please explain?
Hi Lilyth,
Humiliation is something you need to be very careful with. A small percentage of guys enjoy it, but most don’t. So before you try it out, make sure to talk to your man about it to see how he feels about it.
Sean
Now this is a good, balanced article! I like it being about us as well as him and you have touched on many good points. My lover and I share and explore our fantasies, enjoy toys, talk dirty, role play, give each other good oral sex…everything. My concern is that, eventually, it will all have been explored, done and over. Does familiarity breed contempt? I know sex isn’t everything but, at least for me, it is still a very important element of a mutually satisfying relationship. Does sex get less important to certain people, particularly as they age?
Hi Moura,
The answer to all these questions is, “it all depends”. For some familiarity does breed contempt, for others it’s makes their sex life even better and more satisfying. For some people, sex gets less important as they age, while for others it becomes more important. It simply depends on you and your partner and both of your preferences.
Sean
Sean
Hi Sean!!
Me and my partner don’t explore new things that often but the sex is still amazing for me, but I don’t know if its satisfying him 🙁 how could I be comfortable suggesting new things that he would enjoy???
Hi Becky, just talk to him to see if he’s enjoying it as much as you are. To find out if he’s comfortable with you suggesting new things, try suggesting some tame thing at first and judge his reaction to it. If they go well, then just proceed from there.
Sean
I absolutely enjoy sex more just because of talking dirty that turns me on just the thought of him calling me his slut/porn star makes me get so turned on by him and especially when I’m chocked on his cock in my mouth
Is there a Bad Boys Bible??
Working on it!
Looking forward to it!!
I love the tips… Am asking, of i can get tips and sex styles/ positions with a guy who is fat and has a big stomach / obesity! Please.
i love bad girls bible! i have tried almost everything and my partner is crazy for me now its amazing how much you forget while in a relationship. thank you so much!
one question though, my downfall! i cant seem to get into porn like he is, i gett real ‘jealous and uptight’ at times, feel like hes comparing me to them or that he is more turned on by them. it definitely shows too. HELP
Clara, sounds like it’s best to talk to him about how you feel so he understands your viewpoint.
Sean,
I’m a mature older women who reconnect with a college lover. I had very little experience and read your book on Blow Jobs. My Ex. Husband was not into BJ. My lover finds it hard to believe that I had never given them to a man before. I told him this former honor student did her homework. I used the banana the way you suggested regard deep and it really worked. Both my man and I enjoy BJs. Thank you for giving such wonderful tools and tips. LauraSue
Awesome! Just make sure you always use an unpeeled banana. A peeled banana could break apart and cause choking.
Hey there,
I started sexting my husband of 13 years and it has made a difference. Instead of just words I started to send him sexy pics of me. This has truly built anticipation and now we watch porn together instead of him by himself. That was a big problem for me, I started to feel like I was not good enough. Now because of your advice things have gotten super spicy!! Love it!
Hi Sean, my boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and i love your tips and they work great. But now i need some advice on something else. we have been in 3 somes before but with a girl that’s our age, now my boyfriend wants us to include another woman but she is 12 years younger than us. I’m worried my boyfriend will enjoy her more than me. I mean she is 12 years younger, pretty and I recently gained weight from a surgery I had so I’m not in shape like I was. What can I do to keep him interested in me while we’re involved with another girl in the bedroom?
Hey Sean, I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 21,we have been dating for 7months now. We love trying out new positions so recently my bf asked me for a bj. I told him straight up that I’ve never tryed it before but thanks to your bj tips I surprised him a mind blowing bj that he didn’t expect.. I don’t know what magical powers that bj had
but lately he just can’t resist me he even calls me a lot more than before. But now can you please give us more techniques on how to master the girl on top thanx a lot..
Start on the first page of the Blow Job Guide.
Me an my boyfriend has been together 3 years an 8months. I think hes getting tired of me an dont want to tell me, hes on dating sites an posting single, an putting his dick pictures on there. An he says hes loves me an nobody else an he dont want nobody else but hes on dating sites talking to other girls on there an stuff, an watches porn as soon as in not n the same room as him or especially going to work or somewhere. He quit going places with me, an quit doing anything together. We go to work an back to house an look at four walls. Barely even talk to each other anymore. An im tried everything i no to do an dont no what else could make this better i even tried loosing weight because hes looking an talking to you skinny whores an bitches. So i thought it would help but i dont no what else to do
Have you tried talking to him about this?
Are there some guys who just don’t like BJ’s? My current boyfriend can’t get hard or keep an erection from a BJ. I’ve never had this happen before. I didn’t say anything just moved on and haven’t tried again.
Yup, some guys just aren’t crazy about them.
I want to know how to get my husband to be more dominant. I want rough sex from time to time. He don’t seem to get my hints. I have ask him to spank me and he has did a pop here and there, but I want some good dirty talk, spankings and make me want it bad! He seems to be vanilla. He also seems to want me to be the dominate one. I want him to take the lead and have some really good roughest. Tell me how to really get him to take the lead and give me my fantasys.
Talk to him. If you don’t communicate effectively, you will never be sure if you man truly knows what you want.
One morning my boyfriend woke me up before getting ready for work as he always does to cuddle. That morning I turn to him in bed and asked,”Do you have time for a blowjob before work babe?” Apparently he always has time for a blowjob. Lol. He thought that was amazing that I asked him that and bragged to his boss and coworkers about me. Now every so often (not all the time)I ask the same question and get him a good morning blowjob. This man can not get enough of me and I never have to worry about him even looking at another woman. He showers me in love and affection and does nice thing all the time for me. By the way he makes me coffee every morning and tell me I’m beautiful.
Hi my partner likes anal sex alot i love it to but how do I get him more interested in the conventional sex can you give me ideas
Talk to him
I like your idea to use some toys to make things interesting. My wife and I are trying to find ways to make our relationship exciting again, so we are looking for anything we can try. I think using some toys could be a great way to make things interesting and new again. We will be sure to look into some effective toys and see if they work for us!
Been getting your newsletters for a few months.
Most of the stuff I have tried from your emails has worked
I’d just like to add one more tip.
Think about getting your tongue pierced ladies… I got mine pierced a few weeks ago and the first time I gave my man a blow job I had a plastic bar in he loved the new sensory experience. I’m going to try a metal bar next then maybe progress to textured bars and vibrating bars… Ice cubes and minty breath have a similar sensory impact. But definitely check out the blow job tips video.. It really improved my technique… The piercing just helps a little x
Best thing I ever did for my boyfriend was to give him my Sex Bucket list for Valentine’s Day years ago. I just put on there all my fantasies and things I would like to do with him. Over the years we have done many of the things, but what’s really awesome is how many things we have added to the list. For us, trying one thing often leads to a new idea to try out. We have amazing sex and it never gets boring, although we have found some tried and true favorites as well.
I would love to see just a few from your list for ideas. My bf and I are still kind of new and even though we have amazing sex, it’s becoming routine. I don’t want it to get boring for either one of us.
Wow!
Dear Mr. Jameson my boyfriend and I have been dating for quiet a while and he wants to try new thing with our sex life. like he wants to eat me but I wont let him n he kind of gets mad and he says that am kind of boring wen it comes to sex. I really need some advice on how to spice up our sex life.
You’re at the right place! My newsletter is the best place to start.
Hi i need an advice or a tip and i think my sex partner lost interest in me because he’s being a bit distant and whatnot. how do i keep him being interested in me without me being/ sounding clingy or needy? how can i improve him and i’s sex relationship? maybe i have to do new sex positions moves just to keep the flame going instead of it going out. please and thanks i need help. i really feel like i’ve fallen in love with him because he’s on my mind whenever i think about him.
Hey mate I have been reading through do you have advice page for the boys thanks h
I sure do. Check out the Bad Boys Bible section.
Hey Sean
I’d like to consider myself as a sexually fun person. My boyfriend and I have been having problems with trust. Hes always been a “slut” so to speak and I LOVE sex. We recently had a threesome with another Male. Granted it was hot to say the least but now he wants to have another 3 some with another woman. I dont think I could watch someone I love fuck another woman. He says I’m not being fair. I dont know what to do..Help
I am a 29-year-old wife and submissive by nature. My husband is a Dominant and a bit of a sadist, which I am willing to accommodate. Sometimes, we will meet in a public place, such as a movie theater or park bench at night. If we meet in a movie theater, the rule is that I never wear panties, so if we’re seated in an isolated row in the theater, he can caress my pussy and finger me. Then, I will unzip his pants, give him a blowjob, and swallow all of his cum as he ejaculates in his movie theater seat. Sometimes, late at night around 1 a.m., we will go to a public park and walk to a park bench that is somewhat obscured by nearby bushes. I will stand behind the bench and lean with my hands on the bench back, and my husband will stand behind me, flip my skirt up over my waist, and have anal sex with me. The risk of being seen by a random passerby is close to zero percent at that late hour, but it’s still such an adrenaline rush to be having anal sex in a public park. My husband’s erect penis is 11 inches long and he buries it balls deep into me anally, so the anal sex for me is quite intense and painful, but ultimately satisfying for me and pleasurable for him. He loves that I regularly submit to deep anal sex and that I synchronize my moans of pain with his moans of pleasure on every single anal thrust. That can be 3,600 anal thrusts in one hour, during which time he typically cums about five or six times deep inside of my rectum or sigmoid colon. Totally hot!
Hi, thanks for the tips – love reading them. My question is related to pornography. I enjoy watching this with and without my husband but they all seem geared to men, with the busty blonde (or other) gazing longingly into the camera while she gives him a blow job. Where can I find porn that switches this…. for example, sexy guy gazing into the camera while pounding into his female partner?
I am a bbw can you suggest any position you can offer…doggie style gets old
Here’s some sex positions for curvy women.
So, is it bad to be 100% Vanilla, and never ever have anything to do with BDSM, kinks, and fetishes, or even trying them then?
Is there other people like me left, or has BDSM taken over the world, and converted everyone, forcing me to either choose between converting myself, or staying single for the rest of my life?
I am 100% Vanilla, and have no interests, or desires whatsoever in BDSM, or Kink in any way, shape, or form. Never have, never will in a million years.
I have below zero pain tolerance, and will only ever avoid it every chance I get no matter what anyone else says, or thinks, being the fact that people have told me that if there’s no pain involved, it’s not authentic BDSM, and that it’s just wimps wanting to have the status of being edgy, cool, and mysterious, etc.
I also don’t like inflicting it, or seeing others in pain either even if I know they consented to it and are enjoying it. It still has the effect on me as if I’m the one who’s receiving it.
I don’t like Breath Play at all period, and I don’t like having my neck touched by anyone, or anything at all ever, no exceptions.
I also don’t like fear, or humiliation, degradation, or cruelty, and meanness either.
I don’t like being bound because I’m Claustrophobic.
Is there any people out there like me who are authentically 100% Vanilla like me, not because of conditioning, shame, or guilt, but because we are just that way naturally?
Where do I find one like that, and how do I make 100% certain that I end up with someone who IS 100% Vanilla like myself who will never ever desire anything Kinky?
Just so you know, I am also content with being limited, and like simplicity, peace, calm, and quiet with not a lot of activity, or stimulation going on, and I am a HUGE Home Body. I also like my actual Ice Cream the same as my sex: Just plain Vanilla, and that’s it.
I also am not very sexual either, and don’t take a lot of interest in sex, sexuality, or sexual things, or activities much if at all either. I’m not ASexual though.
I like what others would consider Mediocre.
Is all of that really so wrong, or bad that I should feel the need to fix, or change about myself?
And also, is it selfish if I break up with a partner for not being 100% Vanilla like me? I ONLY want partners with NO kinks, or fetishes? Is that okay?
The more sex articles I read online, the more, and more anxiety, depressed, and inadequate I feel. Like, there’s no one out there who is compatible with me exactly as I am.
Totally normal to be 100% vanilla or 100% kinky or anything in between
My wife is not a fan of oral sex. Any suggestions?
Talk to her about it? Find an alternative?
I’m 63, can pass for 53. Two lengthy marriages & now single, learning online dating. Thank God for your advice & tips or I wld have given up. Question: I m with a man who’s built a bit differently. His penis is curved upward, esp when hard, & while that is definitely hitting the right spot on me during missionary, I can’t quite figure out how to do any other positions. Of course, yes, he has ideas for that, lol, problem is that I have had a total knee replacement on my left knee & it won’t bend as before, so I have trouble with a lot of the
positions. Also he has said he does NOT like near his anus played with, which surprised me, other men loved that. So about this bum left knee & alternate positions, Any ideas?
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PS when I say curved upward, I mean that its curved like a hook, from base to top, comes up and in towards his abdomen, blow jobs are a bit challenging for me as well with him, help please
My man and I are just shut of 3 years and have had very few days where we did not end up having sex in sooner way share or firm and I am taking about non routine, because we can’t keep our hands off either, passionate, amazing sex! Sad I read through your listI I was thinking yep, yep, yep all that checks out… We have naturally and comfortably done these things intent I think, from the beginning. The really key tips on your list for us have been the dirty talk, and fantasy sharing which interestingly cave so natural and special between us the way we could be totally open, exploratory, creative and experience zero judgement plus the convecting and adding to said fantasy with sincerity and fun! It has been a new experience for both of us to so comfortable and feel so safe that we could not only talk about all things sex but explore inner, uncharted territory together… The top I will add and it goes hands in hand with the fantasy sharing well with both really… Role play, I know it might sound corny or childish or like too much but when you can freely explore your inner security and thoughts with a person and then also safely achieve that fantasy through role play with a person you love or trust, it’s so exciting and if you truly get into the roles, become the characters of fantasy even location whatever clothing, it really does feel new, exciting, kind of naughty, really anticipation creating, that keeps things very new. Also the level of respect, acceptable, creativity and trust that happens when you can be that open and safe and sexual really deepens the intimacy across the relationship even out of the bedroom. It’s like a wonderful, sexy, fun, exciting, naughty, secret between the two of you and it’s saved💕