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Sending dirty text messages is a great way to talk dirty to your man when you are not around. So what kinds of dirty SMS text messages should you send your man to keep him thinking about you? Click here to skip straight to the list of dirty text messages.
There are several reasons to send dirty text messages:
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- To keep him thinking about you when you can’t be together.
- To build sexual tension. More about that here.
- To arouse him. Find out how to make a guy horny.
- To tease him (get tips).
This way, you’ll never be far from his mind. When you’re finally together, he’ll be desperate to rip your clothes off and have sex. So, you should view dirty texts as another foreplay technique. It can help to get yourself horny, too.
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Dirty Text Messages To Keep Him Thinking About You
I personally find that the most powerful use of dirty messages is to keep him thinking about. Here is an example that you can send him:
“I was thinking about you last night as I was falling asleep.”
Messages like this are not very direct, just like some of the dirty talking phrases I’ve written about in the past. You’ll also notice that they don’t need to be sexual either. The purpose is to get him thinking and wondering about you, while also telling him something that he would really want to hear.
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One very important point to keep in mind when sending your man a dirty text message is that it’s often better to send him a message that is short and isn’t asking for a reply. This is a subtle sign of confidence to your man.
Dirty Text Messages To Build Sexual Tension
Text messages are the perfect way to build sexual tension with your man. The texts you send can be quite sexual, but the fact that you and your man are quite far apart means that there is a barrier to anything sexual from actually happening (barriers are what build sexual tension). Try sending this messages to your man. You may find that some of them are a little wild and ‘out there’ while others are a little quieter:
“If I didn’t have to go to college/work today, I would come over & blow your mind ;)”
The great thing about this one is that it could mean a lot of things. It could mean that you are going to give him an awesome blowjob…or it could mean that you are going to show him something cool. By being indirect and not clear like this, you will also get him thinking about you, which is exactly what you want!
These messages will build a lot of anticipation with your man. So when he finally does get a chance to be alone with you, he will be pretty much panting like a dog. You will find a lot of other great ways to build sexual tension by talking dirty in the Dirty Talking Guide.
Dirty Text Messages To Arouse Him
Keeping him thinking about you and building sexual tension are 2 of the more subtle ways of sending dirty text messages to your man. A more direct way is sending him a message simply to arouse him. Try this:
“I want you on top of me now.”
You will find that it’s easier to send your man messages like these when you have been seeing him for a while first. Otherwise, it may seem as if you are coming on a little strong!
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Dirty Text Messages To Tease Him
You need to be careful when sending your man a message to tease him. It’s important that you are not overly mean to him when you send them in case he gets the wrong idea. Here are some good examples of what you should consider sending him to tease him:
“How come I’m always horny when you’re not around. Grrr!”
“If you were here right now, I would give you the blowjob of your life!”
The Big List of 107 Dirty Sex Messages to Send Your Man
These dirty text messages are split into three groups. “X” text messages are the least dirty, but there aren’t that many of them because there are similar examples throughout the Bad Girls Bible. For example, read this if you want to learn how to flirt with a guy over text.
XX messages are steamier but don’t mean you’ve committed to having sex with a guy.. just yet. And XXX messages are the dirtiest of all and show that you’re serious about having sex with this guy.
8 Dirty Text Messages
These messages only hint at being dirty. They might be considered a little more flirty or could even be missed by someone who is busy or oblivious, but they can also work if you’re testing the waters. If he does pick up your meaning, he can fire back with his own dirty text messages or even escalate.
- I bought something for us to use together.
- Let’s play a game [segue into dirty questions, couples quiz, giving commands, etc.]. Get ideas for flirty text games.
- It’s been so hard to concentrate at work/school today.
- I’m bored. Tell me what I should do to entertain myself?
- You should see how I look in my new dress [make it dirtier by suggesting lingerie, underwear, etc.].
- It’s not that I can’t stop thinking about you. Oh wait, that’s exactly it.
- Can I stop by for lunch?
- Let’s share secrets.
XX Dirty Text Messages
There’s no denying that you’re in a sexy kinda mood when you use these dirty text messages, and they’re less likely to be misconstrued. But you’re not breaking out the most explicit language… yet.
- What’s it called when you love sucking on things? An oral fixation? Yea, I’ve got that.
- I’m just thinking about the last time we were together. It felt so good.
- I wanna know the dirtiest fantasy you’ve ever had. I’ll tell you mine.
- Guess what I’m going to do the next time I see you.
- Send a picture of two lingerie options from your closet or a lingerie store, asking him to pick one.
- What’s the greatest memory you have of us having sex? (You can also describe your own).
- Sometimes I see you, and it’s like I’m out of control. I just want to jump your bones.
- I’ve been planning what I’ll do to you in bed all week. I am going to blow your mind.
- I bet I can make your squirm/moan/pant.
- I slept so well after I got home. We should do that more often.
- Do you think I should go commando tonight?
- Something will be different about my body when you see me next. It’s up to you to find it.
- Name a body part, and I’ll send a picture of it.
- I’ve been interested in rough [or gentle, sensual, etc.] sex for as long as I can remember.
- Let’s install a mirror in the bedroom.
- Sometimes just your kisses turn me on.
- You’re such an animal in bed. I absolutely love it!
- Do you think I make too much noise in bed? Next time we can try a ball gag.
- [Send an audio recording of you masturbating] Guess what I am doing in this clip?
- If you guess what I’m doing now, I’ll send you a picture of it.
- I just want to spend all night with your body next to mine.
- You’re so skilled that you could teach lessons in sex!
- You scream for ice cream; I scream for ____ (fill in the blank).
- Do you know the most sensitive part of my body?
- If you FaceTime me right now, you’ll like what you see!
- I found something that reminds me of us. You wanna see? [When he agrees, send him a porn clip or GIF]
- Should we try roleplay in bed?
- I can’t believe how our bodies fit together.
- Let’s make a dirty movie tonight.
- Have you ever wanted to have sex in public?
- [Send him a link to Bad Girls Bible]. What should we try next?
- Is your tongue made of magic? Otherwise, I don’t know how you do that.
- [Take a nude photo with your genitals and breasts blacked out]. I’ll show you the whole thing if you guess the number I’m thinking! It’s between 1 and 10.
- [Send a picture of the local adult video/bookstore or section]. Guess what I bought!
- I miss you in bed… and in me.
- We should buy me a toy that I can use when we can’t be together.
- I can’t figure out whether I like you best on top of me, beneath me, or next to me. What do you think?
- I found this new site called the Bad Girls Bible, and I’ve got so many naughty ideas! [Send a link to a specific page if you’d like]
- Let’s explore each other’s erogenous zones. There are so many!
- I know you’ve already had dinner, but what about dessert?
- I just got out of the shower. I haven’t even had time to get dressed first!
- I don’t care if you rip my clothes to shreds when you undress me. In fact, I’d prefer it that way.
- What I need right now: sleep, food, and sex. Except I don’t care about the first two.
- Wanna know what I’m doing today? [When he answers “Yes”] You.
- Is it bad if I’ve already masturbated today and it’s not even noon?
XXX Dirty Text Messages
The dirty text messages below are the dirtiest of this list! There’s no playing coy. You want him, and he’ll know.
If you send these to a guy, he may expect you to have sex with him. While you absolutely have bodily and sexual autonomy, it’s just helpful to know how guys might think when they receive one of the following messages.
- I was so loud when I was thinking about you and masturbating. I hope no one overheard!
- I can’t help but touch myself when I think about you.
- I don’t think I’ll be able to wait long enough to take all my clothes off the next time we fuck.
- I can’t wait until you’re stripping me from my clothes, undoing every button, strap, and zipper, and doing whatever you want with my body.
- Come over.
- Every time I fantasize about us having sex, I imagine you tying me up and having your way with me.
- Send a nude photo/selfie.
- I want to suck your cock better than anyone has before.
- Do you want to cum on my face/breasts/stomach the next time I see you?
- I’ll be wearing anything you want and doing anything you want me to when you get home/come over.
- I want to see everywhere your cock will fit in my body.
- You’re going to fuck me up against the wall next time we have sex.
- I dare you to rub the back of my throat with your cock.
- Here are my favorite ways to pleasure you [list them in as much detail as you desire].
- Nothing feels better than when you cum inside of me.
- Let’s try titty fucking tonight. (Learn more about this).
- I love when I’m ass up on the bed, and you’re balls deep in me.
- I bet you can fuck me better than I fuck myself with my sex toy.
- What kind of dirty talk do you like? I want to make your cock rock hard.
- I love the way my pussy tastes on your fingers.. and cock.
- Soon I’m going to give you a surprise blowjob. You better be ready. (Get blowjob tips)
- I need you to spank me, Daddy. It makes my pussy so wet.
- My favorite sex position is when you ride me doggy style, and I have to bury my face in the pillows to keep from screaming so loud the whole block will hear.
- I can’t believe your thick cock even fits inside me.
- I wonder what you think about when I’m fucking you, my tits are bouncing in your face, and I cum on your hard dick.
- Sometimes I think about cum dripping from your cock onto my body. I trace patterns in it on my skin.
- God, my pussy is so wet. I can’t wait until you get back and make me cum.
- I just want to use your body: your tongue against my clit as I grind on your face, your hands inside my pussy and rubbing my G-spot, and your dick buried inside me as I ride you to heaven.
- I know you want to fuck my ass. How about tonight?
- I’ve been wearing a butt plug all day in preparation for tonight.
- Sometimes I’m at work and I’m so damned horny that I squeeze my thighs together over and over until I can go home and jerk off. I wonder if anyone ever notices.
- It was so sexy when you were explaining/fixing/teaching something. My panties were soaked when I took them off.
- I’m using that new toy you bought me right now.
- Sometimes I can see your nipples through your t-shirt, and I imagine flicking my tongue against them.
- I’ve been working on my blowjob skills. Can I test them on you?
- I’ve been naughty with my workload/school today. Do you think I deserve to be punished?
- I wish you could feel how I feel when we have sex.
- Can I practice my lap dance skills on you?
- I feel so amazing when I ride you. I hope it’s good for you, too.
- I know you’re at work, but you need to go to the bathroom and masturbate and think of me.
- I’ll pay you twice your salary if you come home and fuck me silly.
- You don’t have to masturbate tonight. I’ll play with your dick for you.
- I stopped by the grocery store on my way home and picked up something you can eat off my body.
- I’m dropping to my knees as soon as you walk in, so you better be prepared to brace yourself.
- I just figured out the perfect safe word. Guess we have to try it out now.
- 8 o’clock. My bed. What you wear doesn’t matter.
- Save some energy for me tonight.
- Tonight, I’ll do all the work in bed.
- When you get here, you can put your duffel on the floor and your cock in my pussy.
- If you get here in 20 minutes, I’ll do that thing you always ask about.
- Ready when you are [send a photo of you in bed]
- Sometimes I realize I’ve been stroking my phone like it’s your dick.
- I’ve made a mess in my panties and you have to clean it up — with your tongue.
- The last guy who fucked me was so bad that I had to think about you the whole time.
If you enjoyed learning these dirty text messages, but want to learn my most powerful dirty talking tips to build sexual tension, turn him on and keep him attracted to you, then you will probably find the advice I give in the dirty talking tutorial video to be incredibly helpful. Enjoy!
If you’re looking for something a little more tame, check out these sexy text messages. Not sure if you’re ready for that? Back up and send a flirty text message instead.
6 Dirty Text Message Tips
1) Just because we’ve been talking about dirty text messages it doesn’t mean that you can’t send your man these types of messages as an email or private facebook chat or IM.
2) You may be eager to start sending your man all kinds of dirty text messages, but my advice is to first test the waters with some tame messages to see if he’s into it. If it’s clear that he is, then you can proceed to send raunchier messages. If you start off by sending him a message that’s really out there, then you risk him getting freaked out by it.
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3) Remember that switching it up keeps things interesting. Even if you’re already in a sexual relationship with the guy, you don’t need to always send dirty text messages. In fact, it can get a bit boring. So mix it up with messages that are flirtier or even more romantic to keep his interest.
Read More: 47 Love Text Messages + When To Send Them
Similarly, you don’t want to be too predictable. Sometimes you might message him on your lunch or break or when you get home from work. But you can switch it up with good morning texts or sending him a message when you’re standing in line at the grocery store.
4) Be yourself when you send him a dirty message. You want to be dirty, but you want to do it in a way that suits you. You can swap “cock” for “penis” or “pussy” for “vagina” if you don’t normally use slang. And if you’re not typically blunt about sexual things, you may not enjoy sending super explicit text messages.
You don’t have to use crude language just because it seems dirty. A little euphemism or innuendo works just fine — or you could always trail off. Sometimes leaving something to his imagination will work in your favor.
On the other hand, if you are a little more reserved or polite, then sending something kind of raunchy might be exactly the sexy surprise that gets his motor going.
5) Recognize that sending pictures — and even taking them — can be risky. If your device or even storage solution is hacked, someone could see those pictures that you intended just for your partner.
But if you break up and he feels bitter, he could share them with people on the Internet or even people who you know. It might be safer to take photos that don’t show your face or identifying birthmarks or body modifications. However, if you’re concerned, it might be best not to take these type of photos at all.
6) Be careful about messaging him. It can be hot to send a steamy text when you know he’s surrounded by people, but you don’t want to do that if he’s projecting his screen in a meeting at work. Some people dislike being interrupted by messages during certain times, too. Figure out what he likes, so your messages are always welcome.
One thing he can do is to utilize his phone’s Do Not Disturb mode or turn off message notifications when he doesn’t want to be distracted or have them pop up on his screen. Some messaging apps have a “black box” or private conversation feature that help to ensure that no one but him sees those dirty messages you’ve sent.
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If you don’t abide by those rules, it could end with him ignoring your texts.
Once you master the art of sending dirty text messages, you can use it with your current partner, new lovers, or even people you just want to flirt with.
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I want to send my boyfriend the “I just had a crazy dream about you“ text. What should I say if he replies asking about it? Do I tell him what it was about or do I leave him guessing?? Thanks Sean xx
If he replies, then send him this:
“I’ll tell you about it later!”
Or evn better… U cn tell him u’ll show him later
“I’d rather show you then tell you”
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Of course you should tell him..
Tell him about your fantasies..
And make yourself happy …
N he will be definitely happy ..?
Hey guys, I want to have a really sexy night with my boyfriend I want to blow him away. Any tips? And what is the best sex position to pleasure him? I really need a fuck tonight, so please helpppp! 😀
I like sitting on my man with me ass facing him. It’s very pleasurably to him and me as well. Some people like a thumb n the anus, which isn’t strange, it helps with our organisms and climax. If u r flexible then try kneeling and arching ur ass out with ur man sliding in u front behind while he can hold u with one arm and u can listen to him breathing heavy n ur ear. Just some suggestions. And I usually dress in a outfit, hair fixed all cute, and makeup on, and heels (if ur man likes the makeup on u some don’t), if you know exactly when he gets home and u r alone pose sexually in ur outfit in ur bed room. If he calls out looking for u don’t say a word make him search for u if he knows u r home. Making him search for u gets u all nervous and excited all wrapped together. And when he sees his beautiful sexy gf laying there all for him after a long hard day at work it will most likely lead to much more 😉 just saying.
you have to give him the cowgirl position you on top of him and him hitting you hard from below
I like doggy style personally, but there are two others! One is if you get your guy to sit on the couch (naked) then you put his dick were you know it goes! And you bounce up and down! The other is I’d you lay down on the bed with you’re legs up and out! Get him to kneel down and wrap you’re legs round his neck! This will stretch out your pussy!! Then he simply thrusts his hard wet cock in you! I had a fuck last night actually and these positions made it worth while!!! I’m planning to fuck with my guy tonight aswell, so do you have any tips?! I want it hardcore and dirty! Oral is fine too!
Hey Sofi, thanks for your comment! I think you are talking about the Anvil and Sofa Surprise positions. Check out the Sex Positions section and the main Blowjob section for more awesome tips!
Have your man lay down and get on top of him in a posturing where he can eat you out and you can suck him. This worked especially well with my bf and me????
I love this position so does my man 😻 he loves my ass in his face while he kicks my clit so gentle I get so turned on especially sucking his cock while it gets harder and harder in my mouth he loves me to deep throat his cock out favorite positions are doggy , reverse cowgirl and 69 is like a every day thing we love it
Try reversed cowgirl position so sweet
Him lying on his back, you on top of him with your back to him then as he enters you you hold on to his thighs pushing his penis inside you and he holds on to your ass cheeks as he pushes his penis deeper inside.
I really want to use some of these right now with this guy I’ve been talking to for weeks and we like eachother but we just aren’t together yet. What should I do .? Do you think it’s to early for ” sexting” persay.?
Hi Madison,
Unfortunately I just can’t help you with that as I don’t know all the facets of your specific situation. If you are going to use them though, I would suggest that you use the most subtle ones first to judge his reaction and then take it from there.
Sean
No one will know other then you and him if it’s to soon or not.
How soon in the relationship can you send those text messages?
My boyfriend is away in colorado in the army nd he comes back n february. I want to send hin a turn on sext but wht shud i say ???
Hi Jassy,
It’s totally up to you what you send him, but I would always suggest starting off with something light and judging his reaction, then going from there. The last thing you want to do is send him a super-raunchy text only for it to catch him off guard and freak him out. Something as simple as, “I was thinking about you a lot last night” will work great as it could mean something sexy or simply something romantic.
Sean
My bf likes it when i lick his penis after he cums and i taste it, personally i like the taste it’s creamy and salty!
I do the same thing.after he.cumms..i like to flick the underside of his head while my fingers play with his balls… just as he gets worked up again Iick everything like a popsicle then st stop. and hell be in heaven or ready to pop!
Yeah don’t no if your aware but every man tastes different.
Any tips on how to include a picture?
Hi Gabrielle,
To be perfectly honest, I believe that including a picture with a dirty text message can be risky in case your man decides to share it with someone else. However at the end of the day, it’s truly up to you with what you do.
Sean
Don’t add your face incase it gets out and someone else sees xo
Admittedly, I have this guy who texts me whenever he wants a Blowjob (so I’m technically not a booty call). He texts me when he doesn’t want a BJ too, and I want to send him a dirty text that doesn’t sound romantic but not completely subtle. I don’t dirty talk a lot and when I do, I feel like a loser after attempting to say something dirty. Help?!
I am in a long distance relationship, my bf lives in another country the area is remote and it’s hard to communicate sometimes. The area that he works in sometimes there is no signals at all. I know he loves me but when I’m not able to speak to him it makes me feel some frustrations and insecurities. I love him to death but am scared that we will eventually loose interest. I want to know what to say to him to keep him thinking and smiling when he thinks about me.
Hi Mandy,
It sounds like you are going to need talk to him about this. Unfortunately the Bad Girls Bible only deals with one aspect of relationships…sex. However there is much more than just sex that you need to look after if you want to make your relationship last, like a shared connection, great communication, common interests, etc.
Sean
Hey Sean
how often a day or week should the texts be sent to my guy?
I sent him one the other day and he responded with nice.
Please help
Hi Sarah,
Honestly, I advise you to send them infrequently. This way they will never be expected. Instead they will always be a nice surprise for your man. So try to stick to only once or twice a week.
Sean
What are the best positions when youre man is built like a football linebacker 5 ft 11 and 280 and I;m 5 ft 4 and 135 lbs LOL Some of the positions are a lil rough on me
Hi Carolyn,
In general you’ll find most positions where YOU are on top to be best. You may also be interested in some of the spooning positions.
Sean
Hi Carolyn,
The positions that I most strongly recommend in your situation is any where YOU are on top.
Sean
Spooning position as that way in bed your likely not able to see the difference.
hi…i m in great trouble, my husband has 2nd wife, how can i get him back sexually. plzzzzzz help me
Hi Naina,
Sounds like a tough situation. Unfortunately I don’t offer relationship advice, sorry,
Sean
Hey sean!
Like the previous comment, my bf is 6’2, 235lb, qnd built like a line backer and I’m 5’1 so some positions are a bit tough/rough haha, but my guy really enjoys dominant positions any suggesons for some spice without such diffiuculties?
Hi Steph!
As well as trying the positions where YOU are on top, also make sure to talk to your man to let him know what you do and don’t enjoy. This way he will know what positions are uncomfortable for you and what things he does that you find uncomfortable.
Sean
Hi, having sex for the first time is kind of nerve racking… Um, obviously i am a virgin. I was wondering what position feels the best for him, that wont hurt me a whole lot. We have definitely done other things such as foreplay, ect.. Also, with talking dirty i feel like i might scare him… What should i say first? He is a very nice sweet and caring guy, but he loves to take control. 🙂 Thanks
Hi Millie,
When you first have sex, try choosing a position where YOU control how deep you take him. Cowgirl is perfect for this. When talking dirty, start off with slowly with subtle things, then slowly ramp up how explicit you are.
Sean
im with a marine whos in another state he likes sexing when im up for it but im not sure how to start without making it obvious i want to any ideas?
Hi Liz,
Start of with some flirty texts that are vaguely sexual. Send him things like, “I was thinking about you last night” or “I wish you were here right now”. These could potentially be interpreted as something sexy and naughty, but if he’s not digging them, then they can equally just be flirty and fun.
Have fun!
Sean
Sean i think my husband is seeking some sex arousal to his ex wife. Wat do i have to do?
Hi Sierra,
It sounds like a tough situation. I can’t really give you any advice on it as it’s more of a relationship question, not a sex question. My advice is to talk to your man about it.
Sean
I am chatting with my man tonight. Since he is away from me having his holidays and i am working these days. So, i sent him a message that if i am with him tonight, i would fuck him really hard. And he answered why??? What will i say now? Hahahaah :)))
Hi Zoe,
It’s important to try figure this out yourself, this is how you’ll get really good at talking dirty. All you need to do is text him back something like this, “coz I can’t stop thinking about you…grrr I wish you were here right now”
Sean
I want to blow my bf his mind,I don’t what things to say when I’m with him due to lot argument.Our communication breaks down,how can I rebuild the relationship?
Hi Brown,
Unfortunately this sounds a lot like a relationship question. I feel that your best bet is to talk to him and let him know how you feel and what you want from your relationship.
Sean
Hay my bf always asks me for a dirty txt message and he said if I get a really gud one he won’t ask me again please help me find a long one for him xo
Hi Dawn,
Start off by trying some of the ones on this page, but also try tailoring them to his specific tastes. So if he is into something like anal sex, then use this to your advantage when writing them.
Sean
Hi
My boyfriend is in Mississippi right now because he is leaving in a month for The military and will be gone for a year. He is coming to visit me next week and I want to do something fun with him so he won’t forget about me while he’s gone because we won’t be able to talk the entire year he is gone. Any tips?
Hi Hilary,
Any of the positions in the sex positions section will be fun. You may even be interested checking out the oral sex section 🙂
Sean
Just say… I was thinking about you… liking me… (My ask me instantly: where?) haha and he was working… ;p
Hi Sean
I’m in a friends with benifts relationship ..it’s great suits us both ..
He love that I can squirt and have milky breasts and are big .
I want to spice things up between us as we’re at this a yr next wk …any suggestions
Thanks
Hi Michelle,
Honestly, the best way to spice things up is to constantly experiment and add to your repertoire. You’ll find that some things you try aren’t actually that enjoyable, while other things absolutely blow your mind.
A great way to keep things spicy is to sign up for the Bad Girls Bible newsletter. Every few days, I’ll send you some of my most popular tips and techniques to use on your man. Another suggestion is to use the Sex Bucket List as a checklist for things to try with your man.
Let me know how you get on!
Sean
Hi sean, I’m in a fairly new relationship with a truly incredible man. Our sexlife is amazing, NO complaints there! We are also very much in love.
In the past, in previous relationships, I have been quite adventurous with dirty talk/texts, feeling like I can try new positions with partners, generally quite confident in the bedroom. I don’t know if it’s because I’m now older (30) than I was back then, or if its a case that my new man is quite a lot more experienced than i am, but i just can’t seem to get my courage back to be more brave to initiate new things together…any advice would be greatly recieved thanks.
Hi Han,
The key is to start with something small. Don’t feel like you need to do everything all at once. So start with something like moving him into a new position during sex or initiating foreplay when you are both on the couch together by rubbing his leg/crotch. Then progress from there.
One important piece of advice: The longer you wait to start being more aggressive and the more you think about doing it without acting on it, the harder it will be. When you do take the initiative with him in even a small way, you’ll quickly notice just how easy and fun it is. My advice is to do this today or tonight, not next week.
Good luck and let me know how you get on!
Sean
Me and my bf like to talk about sexy things , but he’s afraid when he’s excited, that he might hurt me .. I don’t believe that , I’ve known him since I was little .. What can I do to make him want to have sex with me or touch me more.. I try not to make it too obvious but what can I do ??
Hi Bree,
Rather than trying to ‘convince’ him to have sex with you, you may want to try taking the initiative and being the one who initiates sex.
Let me know how you get on,
Sean
Am 24yrs and the Man I love is 52yrs. Actually I haven’t seen him before, we just been talking on phone.
Hi Sean,
My boyfriend is 6’5 and is a quarterback. We are going to try and do it for the first time but I’m a little scared. I don’t want to have to tell him that it’s to rough/it hurts or anything of the sort just cause he’s so tall/heavy (as in muscle) What would be some good tips,positions to do with him that would be comfy and safe but also sexy and good?
Thanks!
My hubby just recently started working away from home so I thought I’d give dirty texts a try. I started with telling him ‘Oh the things I’m going to do to you when you get home’ and he lol’d….this was a first attempt, so should I try again or just give up since he didn’t seem into it? He shares a room when he’s away so maybe this has something to do with it?
Hi Amanda,
Sharing a room could certainly have something to do with it. There are other factors too…If you text him something hot completely out of the blue, then there is a good chance that he may think you are joking. That’s why building up to sending him a dirty text message is a much better idea. Here’s an example build up:
“Really miss you babe”
“Wish you were here last night”
“I was thinking about you ;)”
“And it was hot”
Then gauge his reaction to it and go from there. Let me know how it goes!
Sean
I am really interested in this guy at work. I know he likes me too as he’s told me but I am not very good with expressing my feelings. I want to flirt with him but not sure how to do this subtly. Any advice on texts or things I could do around him to show i’m interested without actually saying it.
Cheers.
Hi Elle,
Sounds like a dating/relationship problem you have. Unfortunately I don’t cover that in the Bad Girls Bible, just sex….sorry 🙁
Sean
HI SEAN I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU WHAT DOES MEAN WHEN YOU SAID HE WANT YOU TO FUCK HIM.
Hi Marie,
To be honest, it could mean a lot of things. He may want you to take more control or even just be on top of him during sex or maybe he wants you to peg him. If you want to understand exactly what he means, then just ask him
Sean
Hello am Larry from Ghana and am single here and i like what i see here… i need you to help me out to date a woman i really not know how to tell a woman that i love her i think she will kill me when i said that …am just 19 to 20 years if any one have answer for me can reply me
And i do not know if any girl will like to date me
My husband and I are having some major issues with sex. We have talked about it lately and have determined that “good girls” don’t turn him on. I am the classic “good girl.” Pretty much…he wants a Marilan and I am a Jackie. Is it possible to learn to be sexy?? If so, how?
Thanks,
Determined to Please
Hi Kim,
Keep reading the site and even think about signing up to the mailing list, there are thousands of tips on how to be a bad girl right here!
Sean
Our 34th anniversary is this weekend and I finally decided build on our master/mistress vocabulary by adding leashes. I always put mine on first for first weekend to see her response.
Couple weekends later she put hers on too.
One thing we learned is the sex shop versions are expensive and collars are too wide and uncomfortable. So we went to Petsmart and bought them there.
You really don’t need a collar just use leash with links and then put hasp through a link.
She took me outside on the deck one Sunday morning located on a canal with easy visibility from homes across the canal. That was too much visibility so I did our safe word but a lot of fun for few minutes and she still threatens to do it again.
I just started talking to this guy sexually but we have known each other for over a year, he was my sis bf. I sent him a text but what happens if he doesn’t reply. Does it still have an effect on him. I don’t know.
Hi Licia,
Best to wait and see.
Can i have the pleasure of asking some questions?
Sure, shoot
Hi! My bf is stationed in NC- I make the days drive about once a month to see him for a weekend. In the mean time we OCCASIONALLY do dirty texts and he’s very direct and explicit of his wishes. It’s quite sexy- however when I actually see him sex isn’t a priority to him at all. I feel as if hes not attracted to me physically or is just in love with who I am when I’m so far away. Am I overthinking this? Is there a way to let him know I want him without having to say it? I’ve tried kissing him or rubbing him suggestively but he’s oblivious?! Help!!
Hi Ashley,
The best thing that you can do with your boyfriend is talk to him about it to find out the problem.
Sean
I would just like to know how you can deal with all the misspellings and grammar mistakes.
Hi Allie,
I try my best to have everything perfect & correct, let me know if you spot anything that needs fixing 🙂
Sean
Hi Sean,
I was wondering if there are any text messages I can send when a man starts pulling away?
Hi Erin,
Sounds like a tough relationship situation. Unfortunately, the Bad Girls Bible is all about sex, so I’m unable to help, sorry! I hope this work out
Sean
So I’ve been talking to this guy for about 3 months now and we really like each other bit he has girl friend. They’ve been dating for a little over a month. For the first time ever we sent each other nudes. Many nudes and videos of us master bating. That was two days ago. Is it too soon to start another sexy convo that will lead to nudes or should I just go for it?
Best not to be a homewrecker.
Very nice,
My man loves it. But he was very surprised.
Hi Sean,
I am curious as to what advice you might have for me. My fiancé recently opened up to me about how he likes baby talk, like the how I met your mother episode where he pics up that chick while talking like a little boy. Usually I am more into being submissive or seductive dominace. I am cute with my baby talk but I am not quite sure how far my creativity will take me, or if in the right direction. He is very sensitive about letting me be dirty with him, because I am his little baby so I have been thinking about how to ease him into getting what he wants from me. I want to get him so good that he isn’t afraid to dominate me anymore and is dying to be rough with me. Help me get what I want too, please. I thought I could start with a striptease, cute then seductive .. Maybe tie him to the chair and blow his mind with how dirty I can be. What would be your advice to help him get over this whole madonna complex and maybe give him back that dominance he has everywhere else. I know he has it in him, he is just a bit of a lazy lover and likes things being done to him so he can act innocent to it all and simply enjoy the show. Problem is it’s been a while since I’ve been at a loss for control and he just seems to be very wary about being like that to me, he says he loves me too much to corrupt me, when I feel like he might really be afraid that I could possibly corrupt him. Let me know what you think thanks.
Hi Nani,
It sounds like the best thing you can do is talk to him and let him know what you need and want in a way that doesn’t hurt his feelings.
Thank you so much. Not only for the advice but also for that endless patience. 😉
Hey Sean,
I’ve been reading all your tips on pretty much everything and they’ve helped a lot. Except I’ve been having a little trouble in this area lately. You see I was pretty good at dirty talking and its all fine and good in person (its a long distance relationship so there’s sexual tension from not seeing each other) but if I don’t keep him interested in the meantime over text and what not I’m worried he’ll lose all interest. It started really well, and then things got pretty steamy but now I’m at a point where I’m not sure where to go now to keep things interesting. Theres been a bit of a gap lately between us talking and it seems like he’s losing sexual interest but its the total opposite for me, I only want him more but have to refrain from being “obsessive” and its driving me crazy! We still talk and are good friends but I feel the sexual tension slipping. I want to drive him crazy but be very subtle and not too out of the blue “hey I wanna fuck you”sort of thing, because I don’t want to be so brash, and I’m all out of “things I want to do to him”. I need help! (I would buy the book but can I get it in Australia?)
Hi Keilani,
Thanks for your kind words. Try some of the tips from the sexual tension guide to help build it up. The great thing about the book is that it’s digital, we don’t offer paperbacks for a number of reasons:
1) I can offer you more for less as you do not have to pay for shipping.
2) For discretion. You can rename the files and even password protect them for privacy.
3) You get to access them immediately instead of waiting 7-14 days for delivery.
4) You can transfer the books between devices (e.g. From your computer to Android phone, Kindle, iPad etc.)
5) You never lose the books! If you happen to lose your phone or lose access to the books, just shoot me a quick email and I will resend you access.
Sean
Hi Sean I am interested in getting your books but i see there are two options, either Talking Dirty with Bonuses or Blowjob Tips with Bonuses. Do you per chance do an all inclusive deal as I don’t need the bonuses twice. :)))
Hi Alex,
Unfortunately we do not offer inclusive bundles.
Sean
me and my boyfriend are talking dirty to each other over facebook, and he asked me what i would do if i were to give him head, I want to sound sexy and not so awkward. help please.
Start slow! You don’t have to come off sounding like a pornstar when talking dirty. Saying something as simple as, “It sounds like fun” is perfect.
Sean
Hello. I’m in a long distance relationship and I really want to express how much I want to be with him all night, sure you know what I mean, I just don’t know how too. He dosnt like the simplicity of some texts and wants me to be more verbal about my fantasy. What could I say?
Hi Jenny,
Think about sending your man texts like people write erotica. There is often a long build up of sexual tension before you actually get to the sex part. Try this with your texts. Describe how you’re feeling, what you’re wearing, what you’re thinking about and more before you get to the main course. This guide on building sexual tension should help.
How can i seduce my long distance partner through message? Plz quote me a hot message
These tips and these sexting tips should help 🙂
Hey Sean, I feel some hope after stumbling across your site. Im in a situation where if I do not step up the relationship im in will fizzle out. . Im timid and more often have been stuck in the starfish syndrome
Hi Chris,
Don’t forget that great relationships are not all about sex. Sex can be a major and fun part of your relationship, but there is so much else to making it work. You’ll find that if you sign up to the newsletter, you’ll get a lot of really great tips that you can start using with your man tonight.
Sean
Hey Sean , Andy again. I’m pretty short and people have always called me cute including this guy I like , but truth is I really hate it. all my attempts to be sexy haven’t changed anything. How do I shake off my “cute” image and blow his mind ?
This article should help.
Hi. I’m in a LDR and usually its my boyfriend who initiates the dirty texting. And when he does, I never know what to say and how to response so that he’ll feel desired. Besides that, I’m very, very inexperienced (he’s my first bf lol) and I want to have skype sex with him but I have no idea what to do (plus its very awkward for me). Although I have read your article on skype sex, I’m not very sure if its suitable because I also have no idea how to masturbate!!
PS. I’m older than 18 if anyone’s doubting 😀
I am tickled I found this site. I have had some of the same questions and I’ve even bought books about the subject to find the best way to satisfy and keep your man or positions that will work best and more. I have only found a few that were really helpful. I did find one on amazon called orgasmic evolution it was very useful. I’d not heard of half the stuff it mentions in it. Made me feel like a amatuer for sure. But I use sexy text to get him excited when he is away and use the tricks i’ve gathered from different places including the one’s from that book when he is home. The I’m going to blow your mind later! text is perfect. He gets excited and asks me what im going to do and i tell him i have new tricks and then when i use them he is like holy shit where did you learn that at?! So worth the money that book was. ha
Been talking to this guy for a few weeks we’ve met twice and are still texting he sent me a erotic text last night which ended in him sending me a vid of him masturbating which was hot I’m scared of sending him 1 of me but we won’t be seeing each other for another week or more will the texts keep him interested
Hey naMe is audrey here me and my guy have been together for quite a while now and I love him so much but only see him on weekends what can I do to make him want me every night and make me the only thing on his mind
My boyfriend and I live together and He works graveyard shift everyday. I want to entice him before he comes home from work. What can I text him so that he comes home ready to penetrate me instead of going straight to sleep when he gets off work?
You’ll find lots of great examples to text your man in the newsletter here.
Hi my boyfriend and I always sext and we live far away from another. how do I make him horny and want to fuck me. I love him so much and how should we sext eachother
Try these sexy messages and my guide on how to have phone sex.
why would a man text a pic of a male sex symbol to another man
I wish I knew the answer to that, but I don’t
I have been talkin to this guy and he sexts me not freq’ly but seems to be horny all the time. We kissed on the first date and took me to his place the second date. He is 6’3 and I’m so drawn to him. I’m so inexperienced to feel confident. What do I do?
Hi, I have been talking to this guy for months now and he was very sexual and i loved it. We would sext all the time. He would tell me how much he wants me and how much he would fuck me or how he wanted a blowjob he would even send my a video of him masturbating screaming my name. We started dating officially a few weeks ago. Sadly he just moved away to another state. But he no longer does anything sexy. I didnt know if it had to do with the relocation maybe he was busy but its been 2 weeks and he still hasn’t sext me like he used to. Its was like before we dated it was sexy and we start dating and he says he loves me but no sex anymore. We still talk 24/7 but no sexting how can i fix that.
How can I ask my bf for sex, I feel he wants me to ask
Just ask!
My bf and I we’ve been dating for quite some time and he’s a very open and talkative person he does talk about sex a lot. .he satisfies me in any way..the thing is im a very shy person…so I wanna be like him an communicate about these things…is it the best way to start by sexting him? ?
Check out the guide on sexting here.
Me and my girlfriend have completed one year of relationship still haven’t met yet due to long distance. We chat dirty over chats, but I’m not sure if she’s gonna be wanting to do it when we meet in person. Should I ask her directly if she’ll do it?
Hi 🙂
I have been talking to this guy who lives in another country. I only met him briefly at a work-related function couple mnths ago so we’ve not “dated” or anything .. he txts everyday saying he misses me n sends me very detailed sexts. He started doing this very early on n i kinda dived in … i feel like it might’ve been to early … he wants long detailed sexts all the time. Literally sexts ALL the time and wants same from me .. is this normal? lol i run out of things to say 🙁
Help please!
I dont come for my bf and he’s really complaining, though i get horny sometimes but i dont come (wet) and he feels i don’t wanna come for him.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now I really want to start Sexting him but I’m not sure what to say and I’m scared how he will take it help please.
My boy is really built and, he’s basically built like a linebacker on a football team, and i’m really small and short. Like i’m like 5’0. the positions that he wants to do are kinda hard on me…what do I do?
Talk to him and let him know what works and doesn’t work for you
Thank you!
I barely ever get to see my boyfriend over the summer. All we really ever do is text. How can I spice up my texts with him and make him want to come over and do things? if you know what I mean *wink wink* lol.
Turning on a guy is much easier than a woman. You just have to know how to use the right words that will make him excited and couldn’t resist from replying you. It might take a bit of practice and patience, but once you learn making him yours will get easier.
Hi, many of these positions and tips sound amazing but.. My partner is 6’7, 320 pounds.. I am only 5’8, 160 pounds. What would be the best ways to pleasure him.. Not to mention.. He’s not very big if you catch my drift. But I love him and I would love to make our alone time more exciting. Not to mention.. Ive never been huge on giving blow jobs myself.. I just cant get past the taste..
Everyone is different and responds to different positions. My advice is to try the ones that look the most fun and then keep a mental list of the ones that were most enjoyable.
Recently split up with boyfriend of 15 years. Relationship became a bit stagnant. We still talk. Our conversations of late have included some talk of getting back together. He’s into dirty talk but has a bit of a Madonna complex so, in the past, dirty sexting has been somewhat hit or miss. Any suggestions for texting an ex-boyfriend? Something in between vague and raunchy? For example;
1. “I miss you inside me?”
2. “Let’s skip the talking for one night & just fuck.”
3. “Wanna fuck?”
Not sure about the above. Any suggestions are much appreciated. Cheers!
The Dirty Talking Guide has some great examples.
Hello Sean, I just met this guy and we started sending nudes but he doesn’t like mine so what should I do to make him like them cause they too fat and his d*ck 2 inches long.
Greetings Sean, I’ve had a bf for 2 years now and haven’t had sex. I don’t know how to start out or make the move. My bf hasn’t made a move either. I would love for someone to help me with that! Also how to get him horny and get myself horny as well with texts and real life. Thank you so much:)
That’s what this page you are on is all about…the best dirty text messages you can send him. If you want to have sex, then you need to talk to your man. Let him know how you feel and find out how he feels.
imma send my man one of these dirty messages
Guys I need a girlfriend
Okay so I’m pretty decent at responding to my man but then he’s playing hard to get rn, keeps saying “sorry girl I’m a man of god” when I told him I want to set on his face🫢, then I tried saying other things but then he put “I belong to Jesus”, im rly trying to figure out what sexy text I can say to that bc I rly don’t know how to respond to that🙃
Hey tonight l want to flirt with my girl to an extent of sending nudes to each other. How do l get it there?
My advice, make sure you both consent to sending nudes before you start doing it.
What if he says yeah save it for me after I say wanna know the dirtiest fantasy ive ever thought about you