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73 Sexy Dirty Talk Phrases To Make Your Man Crazy Horny!

by Sean Jameson

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Nobody likes having quiet or even silent sex. It’s a complete turn-off and a recipe for a very dull sex life.

That’s why I am going to teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man with this Dirty Talking Guide so that you can build sexual tension, keep him deeply attracted to you and most importantly so that you have incredible sex.

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If you want to skip straight to the dirty talk phrases below click here  or keep reading to discover exactly how to start talking dirty to your man to get maximum results.

Right now, you are reading the first chapter of the Dirty Talking Guide…On this page, you’re going to learn 73 different dirty talking phrases to use. You can click here to skip straight to them or keep reading to learn how and why you should be using dirty talk in your relationship.

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Why Learn To Talk Dirty In The First Place?

The first step in learning how to talk dirty to your man is understanding why you should be doing it.

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Many women think using dirty talk phrases like the ones below is something that’s reserved for the bedroom only. It certainly does make sex more enjoyable, but it works in so many other areas of your relationship too.

Build Sexual Tension – By far the most powerful benefit of talking dirty to your guy is that it increases the sexual tension between you and him. Sexual tension is the core building block of having a passionate, enjoyable relationship with a guy you’re deeply attracted to.

I often get emails from students despairing, and they all follow the same pattern…heck you may even be in this situation yourself. You are in a long term relationship or marriage. You love your man, but as the relationship progressed, he’s become more a friend and a roommate instead of someone who gets you hot and bothered.

Instead of always trying to rip each others clothes off, you’re both struggling to get aroused and get in the mood for sex. You may have even tried multiple “tricks” or “formulas” you learned online to get the spark back…but it didn’t work.

Sexual tension is the key.

It’s that magical feeling that keeps you thinking about each other, wanting to be physically close and gets you completely aroused when you’re in each others company.

Talking dirty to your boyfriend or husband is the absolute best way to build sexual tension with him. You can learn some dirty talk phrases that will build sexual tension here.

Intense Sex – Using dirty talk can enhance and intensify your sex life. You can scream and shout all sorts of filthy, dirty profanities while you and your man are getting it on or trying BDSM. “Fuck me harder,” “I want to taste your cum,” “I love your cock!”

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But…

You can also use a bunch of other freaky and dirty talking phrases that make for more sensual, sexy love making. Whispering in his ear, “Don’t stop, I love it” or “You feel incredible” is going to work much differently, but it’s still going to have a great outcome. You can learn more dirty talking phrases to use for more intense sex here.

Keep Him Thinking About You – Building sexual tension with your man is one obvious benefit to using the dirty talking phrases in this guide. An additional benefit is that it will keep him thinking of you.

There’s nothing worse than when your man travels for work, is posted abroad, or he has an overly friendly and flirty female co-worker. Using the right kind of dirty talk with him will keep him constantly thinking about you, fantasizing about when he’s next going to see you and eagerly awaiting the next time you call or message him. You can learn some example dirty talk phrases to keep your man thinking about you here.

When you combine building sexual tension, keeping your man thinking about you and having intense sex, you can probably see just how beneficial talking dirty can be for your relationship.

How To Talk Dirty To Your Man – Step By Step Instructions

Now that we have discussed why you need to talk dirty to your man, it’s time to learn how to do it.

1. Start In The Shallow End Of The Pool – If you suddenly start talking dirty to your man and are being extremely explicit, then there is a chance that he is going to get a little freaked out, especially if it’s the last thing that he’d normally expect from you.

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It’s a much better idea to slowly introduce dirty talk that is not too extreme or ‘out there’ or explicit. Start slowly and build up to the more intense stuff.

2. Begin In The Bedroom – You’ll also find that it’s easiest and most natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone. This way there is far less pressure.

Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your man in private, then start experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your man’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in his ear while you’re both in a crowded bar!

3. Tailor It To His Tastes – Almost every guy on the planet adores it when you talk dirty to him, but…it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty talk phrases he likes most. Some guys prefer it when you are subtle and even polite with your dirty talk while others prefer it when you are super explicit.

So your man might love it when you say something simple and subtle like, “I can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at church. Or he may prefer it when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.”

Or perhaps he even has a praise kink.

The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on your man by experimenting and trying it out in different ways, whether that’s sending him dirty text messages like the 43 sexts you’ll find here and the 107 extra dirty messages here, or using these 64 dirty talk examples, these 91 extra dirty things to say to him or just asking him some dirty, naughty questions, like these 69 sexy questions.

4. Tailor It To Your Tastes – Of course you want to talk dirty in a way that turns your man on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having fun too! So many women forget this.

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If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your man or if you don’t like the idea of sending him dirty text messages, don’t feel that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you.

However, my advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether or not it’s for you.

It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start talking dirty to your man or when you try something new. As you do it more and more and see your husband’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow.

5. Don’t Force It! – The advice you read here is just that; it’s advice. It’s not a rigid law that works flawlessly every time or in every situation. Anyone that claims to have a secret, “magic formula” for talking dirty that works every time is lying.

So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the reaction you’re looking for, DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO KEEP DOING IT! Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll slowly build up an encyclopedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will keep your man obsessed.

Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more explicit, “out there” kind while others find that very subtle dirty talk works best. Some excel at phone sex while others get better results from dirty text messages. They key is focusing on what works best for you.

6. The Great Dirty Talking Lie – There is a misconception that many women have when they are learning to talk dirty, it’s a trap I hope that you won’t fall into. Some women think that the best way to talk dirty is to be very explicit and aggressive.

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As you read the chapters of this guide and try out some of the dirty talk phrases below, you’ll quickly realize that being subtle when you talk dirty to your man can often be more intense and powerful than being aggressive or explicit.

For example, while you are at a party with your man, leaning into him and softly whispering, “If theses people weren’t around, I would do terrible things to you,” and then giving him a cheeky grin before continuing your conversation like normal is crazy powerful. It’s going to blow your man away. He’ll be constantly wondering what you meant, what you are going to do to him after the party and, of course, he’s going to be very turned on too.

But you didn’t even say anything that outrageous. Keep this in mind as you experiment and learn to talk dirty and you will have one very happy man who is completely addicted to you and only you.

Dirty Talk Phrases To Get You Started.

Before reading through the other chapters of the Dirty Talking Guide, here are some dirty talking phrases to try on your man tonight.

I have organized them into three groups…the first group is for building sexual tension, the second is for intensifying sex, and the third group will keep you man thinking about you and only you.

Dirty Talk Phrases For Building Sexual Tension

  1. If we weren’t at this party and these people weren’t around, I would jump you right now!
  2. What would you say if I asked you to go down on me right now?
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  4. I’m going to drain your balls tonight!
  5. I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off and fuck you.
  6. I need to feel you inside me.
  7. Nobody has ever fucked me like you do.
  8. Even when you’re in a bad mood, I want to fuck you.
  9. I’m going to mark you as mine tonight.
  10. When we get home, I’m going to make you orgasm so hard.
  11. Knowing that you can completely overpower me makes me so crazy horny. – Learn more rough sex tips here.
  12. What would you prefer I wear tonight, a thong or panties or nothing at all?
  13. Would you discipline me if I was acting bratty? What is brat BDSM?
  14. I’m going to break you tonight. – Discover how to dominate your man.
  15. If these people weren’t here, I would be on my knees with your cock in my mouth.
  16. I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me.
  17. I’ve got a sexy surprise for you later… x (great when sent as a text message/IM/email) – Learn 43 more sext messages to send him and don’t forget to use these 13 tips for sexting.
  18. I wish we could just stay in bed and have sex all day long – Perfect when he is leaving your place to keep the sexual tension high.
  19. I love it when you wear tight clothes.
  20. Guess what color my panties are?
  21. We need to meet after work; this horniness is killing me.
  22. I just want to wrap my pussy around your cock.
  23. You look so fucking hot in the morning.
  24. I wore these panties just for you.
  25. I feel so horny and helpless when you dominate me. – 103 submissive phrases to say to your partner.
  26. Tonight is going to be a lot of fun 😉 (Perfect as a message)
  27. If you play your cards right, you’ve got some pleasure/fun coming your way.
  28. Stop looking at me like that, it’s making me wet.
  29. Tonight we’re going to do what I want to do. But don’t worry, it’s going to be a lot of fun!
  30. I’m going to make you scream and shout tonight!
  31. It’s a pity we’re not in bed right now because all I can think of is feeling your body on mine.

Dirty Talk Phrases For Intense Sex

  1. I just want to be your little fuck doll…
  2. I want to feel your cock in my mouth. – Chapter 2 of the Blow Job Guide has even more oral sex tips.
  3. I love it when you fuck me like a slut.
  4. Fuck me like you mean it!
  5. I don’t want to feel my face or hands after you’re done with me.
  6. I want to taste your cum.
  7. Making you cum hard is my number one priority right now.
  8. Taste me.
  9. I don’t want to be able to walk tomorrow so fuck me harder.
  10. Degrade me. (129 kinky degradation ideas and phrases)
  11. Use me.
  12. Don’t stop.
  13. Fuck me like your own me.
  14. You’re going to make me cum.
  15. I love your dick.
  16. Fuck my cunt.
  17. Fill me up.
  18. I want your cum.
  19. I want to fall asleep with you inside me.
  20. Grab my breasts and squeeze my nipples.
  21. I’ve been really bad and need to be punished.
  22. You’re not leaving here until I have your cum in my mouth.
  23. Deeper! (then pull him deeper with your arms and legs)
  24. I want to hear you scream my name when you cum.
  25. You like how I fuck you?
  26. Pull my hair and slap me.
  27. Please fuck me harder daddy.
  28. Make me your bitch.
  29. Cum for me.

Dirty Talk Phrases To Keep Him Thinking About You

NOTE: Many of these phrases work best when sent as messages.

  1. I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me…I miss this so much.
  2. Sometimes my legs get weak when you kiss me.
  3. Just thinking about you makes me so dam wet!
  4. I miss your cock.
  5. If we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would it be?
  6. I masturbated about you last night. – Learn powerful masturbation techniques here and even more here.
  7. Still feeling sore after last night 🙂
  8. I think you’re the only guy who can make me angry and horny at the same time.
  9. The hottest thing about last night was feeling you shoot your load inside me.
  10. I can still taste you.
  11. I want to be your lady on the streets and your freak between the sheets.
  12. I never thought I would meet someone that gets me so god dam aroused.
  13. I’m supposed to working, but all I can think about is you dominating me.

Now that you’ve read the first chapter of the Dirty Talking Guide and learned a lot of dirty talking phrases to use on your man, you may be interested in learning exactly what to say and how to say it to build sexual tension, turn your man on and keep him thinking about you. This is what Chapter Two is all about. You’ll find lots of examples so you can do it perfectly. Start reading it here.

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About Sean Jameson

Sean is the editor of Bad Girls Bible and responsible for recruiting our team of sex and relationship experts. When he's not fastidiously checking for proper syntax or fixing bugs on the site, he's working with illustrators to make the Bad Girls Bible more beautiful and ensuring that our weekly email newsletter goes out on time.

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Comments

  1. Lynn says

    December 17, 2012 at 8:11 pm

    I am in a relationship where my partner has been in another country for the past two months, and we will not be reunited for another three months. Is there any way to intensify cyber sex or sexting?

    Reply
    • Sean says

      January 2, 2013 at 5:16 pm

      Hi Lynn, check out these 2 articles for some tips:
      1) How to have Skype sex
      2) Dirty text messaging tips

      Reply
      • kylie says

        September 1, 2016 at 4:26 pm

        hya my soon to be husband is in prison until 2 years hes asking me stuff like can u lay down and tell me wat i will do to him but i dunt now wat to start off with please help i wanna make him happy before bed haha xx

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          September 2, 2016 at 1:16 pm

          Try describing one of the times you had sex with him and go into detail about how it felt.

          Reply
      • Lisa says

        November 30, 2023 at 1:34 am

        Hey daddy

        Reply
    • Sorova says

      November 10, 2014 at 2:05 am

      Just say you are fudding yourself mad thinking of him.

      Reply
      • Tass says

        December 8, 2016 at 6:45 am

        Ugh.. Dunno if I should say but you bore the fuck out of me ) the author of this site.. Not u x )

        Reply
    • miss behave says

      April 15, 2019 at 11:15 pm

      Video chat or snapchat
      Buy a vibrator

      Reply
    • amanda says

      August 18, 2023 at 10:51 pm

      get a wevibe! trust me you will not regret it unless your partner doesn’t have a cell phone. 🙂

      Reply
    • Kash says

      October 21, 2023 at 10:55 am

      My loved one also is away with work for months at a time. . We do fantasy play. We write an email and set a scene and let it flow from there. When we talk on the phone we discuss each others letter. We are dying to reinact some of what we wrote. Half of it never comes true, but some does. Your imagination is a powerful tool. Also once a month we have phone sex. I do my thing, he does his, and we both fall down in ecstasy. It keeps us together.
      Hopes this helps.

      Reply
  2. Sean says

    January 15, 2013 at 8:46 am

    Hi Jennifer, thanks for you question, there is! You can still use pretty much all the oral sex tips on the site and obviously all the dirty talking tips. Just make sure to avoid anything that puts pressure on your stomach or could potentially hurt your unborn child. I will be writing a resource for exactly this shortly…stay tuned!

    Reply
    • Kathleen says

      August 3, 2015 at 3:50 am

      Hi Jennifer,

      I was having sex with my partner right up until the day I went into labour. I found being on all fours with him behind and my head and shoulders on the bed was the best position once my tummy got really big, he also loved the view of my arse!

      Also don’t be afraid to just get on him in cowgirl position! Men are strong, you wont squash him and he’ll love seeing you enjoy yourself, (and the fabulous view of your breasts too).

      Kathleen.

      Reply
      • LEXI says

        January 9, 2016 at 3:29 am

        I LOVE TO GET HIM ALL WORKED UP SO HE GOES HARDER AND HARDER

        Reply
  3. olivia says

    January 23, 2013 at 6:01 am

    Hey Sean! Thanks for hearing me out. I think I went overboard with my man from the get-go. I’m a perv most of the time and far more sexual than most chics. My man is less sexual than most guys. And now he thinks that I can only think about fucking and he just rolls his eyes every time I bring up sex. This kills me. It makes me feel unattractive and stupid to tell the truth. And of course, like all taboos, makes me want it more and him want it less. WTF? How do I rectify the situation? How do I turn around what I fucked up from the beginning? I’m so sad with how things have turned out. He’s a very good lover, and this only makes it harder (for me, not him). I want him to want me like I want him! Like before he knew how much I was into him, he was totally into me, but, now that he knows I’m his, he could just as much do without me. I love and adore him beyond words, how do I get him back on the same page? Please help. I’m completely lost and in need of advice. Thank you.

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    • Sean says

      January 24, 2013 at 11:19 am

      Hi Olivia,

      I feel your pain! Although your question is about sex, it’s also very much a relationship one. I really feel that the best thing you can do is to talk to your man about it. Don’t confront him or make him feel uncomfortable about it. But do talk to him about it and see if he understands your situation.

      Sean

      Reply
      • Mel says

        November 5, 2018 at 8:08 pm

        Hi! I have been with my husband 17 years and married to him for 12. Sex is AMAZING! But I too want it way more than he does. It used to be the other way around for the longest time, but now I am 37 and just want it constantly. I read that woman hit the sexual peak around this time while men’s peak starts going down. I have been switching things up, trying new things, new outfits and it all turns him on, but I seem to be the one initiating all the time. He too has called me an addict, but I just want to feel wanted as much as I want him. He can watch porn regularly, but not have sex with me regularly?! I follow you and others and use all the relationships tips to get him into me more, but I feel like it doesn’t work. How do I get him interested in me and only me? I know porn is normal for guys but how is it I am ready, willing and able and yet porn is his answer? Crazy thing is…most guys would feel lucky to have what he has. I’m confused.

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          November 14, 2018 at 10:07 am

          Sounds like you need to talk to him about this in a serious but non-judgemental, non-confrontational way. Let him know what you need.

          Reply
          • Helena says

            April 29, 2019 at 12:31 am

            I think it’s because porn is just a relief of sexual tension with no meaning men feel if they have sex with women that they can’t just roll over and sleep or pull there pants up. And off to work , they feel women always want the affection side and they don’t want to hurt the feelings of someone they love, and to be fair if your partner suddenly fucked you and went off casually to do something you’d be purest about it and feel unloved and it’s really not his intention to make you feel that way it’s just that at that moment that was just the animal instinct we all have the need for just raw sex no attachment at that moment in time xx

          • Godfrey Buquet says

            August 10, 2023 at 5:14 am

            I agree with u Sean. I think Mel should be her man’s porn. with a little practice, starting very slowly but classy she may be able to show him real porn. Don’t shove it in his face. keep it distant and at first 2 gt to it. He should get 2 d point of realizing that it’s best for bth of u 2 enjoy porn together. If u make it tempting enough and holding it back as as u can your sex can really improve. Once in awhile say something like, ” for some reason during my dream I unconsciously removed my underware. Or upon awakning mention 2 him that you had the craziest dream about your having sex with a co-worker, friend or even with another woman. those things have a way to awakening a man, or even a wman. D best of luck.

        • Tzipporra says

          March 20, 2020 at 2:35 pm

          Hi Sean. I am dealing with a similar issue. Me and my guy have been together for a little over 3 years. We’ve been living together for the past 8 months. Everything was going great, we hardly ever argue. But the past month I’d noticed him looking at porn more and more often, whether I was in the room or not. It kind of bugged me but I know it’s normal and shrugged it off. But then when I would try to initiate sex, he would blow me off and just be distant in general. This only lasted like 5 days before I talked to him. He said he didn’t prefer porn to me but that sex with me was starting to just feel “the same.” I told him we don’t always have to end up having sex, we could do other things too but that I want to share in his sexual experiences and do things together instead of in secret apart. He mentioned I don’t dress up like I used to etc. I said I feel embarrassed but will work on that… at first I felt good about our talk and we did end up having sex for a couple days. But I keep thinking what is he working on? I feel pressure to start being more of a seductress, but I wish he would also contribute to spicing up our sex life if that’s what he wants. I also can hear him masturbate in the restroom almost daily (I think he’s using a fleshlight, it’s noisy) since our relations. It makes me feel upset and frustrated. I have a high sex drive and so I’d also like to join in on the fun. I told him I’d really like to share in his sexual experiences even if not sex and help him feel good, such as mutual masturbation, but he said he just felt masturbation is something you do in private. I wonder if it’s because he thinks I won’t like what he’s looking at, that he’s embarrassed, or that I would kill the mood for him (he wouldn’t answer that). But just said he would try mutual maturation with me. So far it hasn’t happened yet. I feel I might embarrass him if I bring up that I can hear him and make him feel trapped with no privacy. At the same time, I want to confront him on not following up on what we said we’d try..I want to try seducing him like he wants yet I feel so unattractive to him now (though he said it’s not true) and want him to make the first move sometimes too. He says he likes dirty talk but he never initiates it with me. What do you think I should do?

          Reply
          • Sean Jameson says

            April 3, 2020 at 10:41 am

            Sounds like a tricky situation. Unfortunately it’s hard to give advice here as you know the ins & outs of your relationship so much better than I do (a guy on the internet!). My advice is that having a frank and open conversation with him will get you moving in the right direction.

        • Amanda says

          July 13, 2023 at 12:23 pm

          Have him get a bio-identical hormone/testosterone injection. I’ve had a couple now myself and my husband just got his first one. It’s doing wonders for our sex life! I am in my mid 40s and he is in his late 40s. But we should’ve gotten them sooner! Worth every penny just for the boost 🙂

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    • Carry says

      November 23, 2014 at 3:21 pm

      You need a man that is as sexual as you, maybe even more. You need a man that will satisfy your sexual needs, yes he might be a great lover but will you guys are both not on the same page when it comes to sex. What man rejects pussy? Seriously? Get yourself a lover that enjoys sex as much as you do! It might be the hardest thing to let him go, but it’s your life’s happiness.

      Reply
      • Jen says

        May 17, 2017 at 2:32 am

        Agree I am dealing with similar issues and moving onto a new guy very soon.

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    • Lori says

      January 8, 2017 at 2:35 am

      Honey I was in a relationship like this for over 6 years..it started out hot and heavy and inless than a month it petered out because “I was a sex addict” or god knows what other bs he fed me. I even married the man…..when he wanted me the sex was good, well damn good, but overall, never again. In the end I ended up a broken and broken hearted woman who would cry when a man showed interest in me…….now I have a real man, one who wants me as much as I want him and actually didn’t just say but made me believe how beautiful I am. I hope you find the right one for you!
      hugs

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    • Crystal says

      January 28, 2017 at 6:29 am

      I may be totally off, but maybe he has a problem he hasn’t been comfortable sharing. I have been with my man almost 7 years. The first few yrs it was almost every day and if we went a week, he was so pent up he would tell me he wanted it and I was gonna get taken within the hour. But a few yrs ago, he started never asking and telling me no and that all I cared about was sex. I began to feel like I was ugly and that he wasn’t attracted 2 me anymore. It took the relationship being damaged to the point of destruction b4 he finally told me he was having “issues”…like finishing the race b4 we started or not being able to rise 2 the occasion. He was avoiding sex because he was humiliated and embarrassed. It didn’t matter to his ego that I didn’t care how long we went or even if we had penetrating sex. It wasn’t me, he wanted me as much as ever but felt like a failure as a man. Once we got that out in the open, it became something “we” faced instead of him alone and slowly, things returned to normal. Maybe there is something going on that he can’t bring himself 2 admit or talk about. Before you walk away from someone who loves you, maybe gently approach this issue and tell him if thats the problem, he is still all man in your eyes and your bed and you will be his teammate getting past it. Just saying it might not be that he’s too lazy to care about your needs. It may be out of his control. Good luck

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      • Karebear says

        May 2, 2017 at 8:32 am

        I agree with the last comment on it being something he’s embarrassed about & hasn’t said anything about bc I went thru same type thing with my husband & we’ve been together for 15 yrs but it took us almost getting divorce & him leaving to actually get us goin on right track together. We r working past all the hurt that’s happen in last 6 mths- a yr now & it’s already starting to feel like we r growing even closer than b4 so don’t just give up on him bc it may be something deeper that he’s scared to talk bout bc he doesn’t want u to think he’s less of a man, u gotta let him know u will stand by him & he doesn’t hafta deal with it alone.

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      • Kela says

        October 2, 2018 at 8:57 pm

        Awesome response Crystal!

        Reply
    • Sarah says

      July 2, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      I used to be him in our relationship. I would drag my feet and dread sex with him. Sadly my husband didn’t communicate or express how he felt and flirted with another girl, nothing further and it was just once but when I found it I freaked. It still hurts but we talked A LOT and opened up more than ever. He was craving that flirtatious attention that i wasnt giving him. We found that we receive love differently. He receives his mostly by touch and compliment’s and I receive mine by acts of kindness and words of endearment. He began to tell me every time he noticed something I do that he loves and began to help out around the house and with our daughter without me asking and I began to tell him how attractive his looks and mind is and began randomly touching him more. We are very regular in bed now. Just wish we would have opened up sooner. Don’t turn to someone else, try different ways of showing love first and then see if he will talk. Just the change in actions really may be enough.

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    • Sunshine says

      February 15, 2018 at 12:27 am

      I think you should seriously make yourself cum in front of him and buy a fillip to cum.he will change his tune.trust me

      Reply
    • Abigail says

      July 4, 2018 at 4:21 am

      After more than 10 years of marriage my husband admitted he didn’t initiate sex because he didn’t feel manly. It stemmed from the fact that he has always come quickly and his girlfriends before me always commented on it or complained. I never complained and always wanted him and initiated everything. ….others are telling you there may be a reason. And I agree there might be. My hubby couldn’t admit it to me or himself until he went on anxiety meds for 6 months. And we’d been together for 10 years. If you decide to wait it out and he doesn’t talk to you about it now. Just realize you might wait a decade or more to understand him in this way.

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    • Natalee Beck says

      December 30, 2018 at 2:14 am

      Have you tried talking to him about what he wants? Maybe look into a near by BDSM group. There should be one around. If not, look up videos about it. I’m not saying do everything, but try a new approach to sex.

      Reply
    • Dawn says

      August 2, 2019 at 9:58 pm

      Find a man who wants what you want do not waste your life on vanilla if you want rocky road. He has issues not you.

      I finally found a man who wants what I want and it is so awesome and hot. This morning I sent him a bpob pic saying happy friday fyi MY boobs. All he could text was mmmmmmmmmm

      Later I sent a tasteful anal pic. Not us yet. Then I followed with “take me Master D” his response was oh I will baby and more

      Life is too short to play games unless they are the games you want to play wink wink

      Fyi we are both in our sixties and more sexual and horny than 20s. Lol now we know how too enjoy each other and give not just fuck.

      Reply
      • Dawn says

        August 2, 2019 at 11:59 pm

        Update on today. Before he left work he sent me a picture and wrote thinking about you and us with lots of kisses added. It really works if you mean it

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  4. Ashley says

    January 24, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    I have a couple of questions actually, I am married and we have been married for 10 years and we dated 3 years when we first got together we always would hug up and he would kiss me i mean really kiss me and about 5 years ago i had our son and i got very sick i had a massive stroke but now i am better and now all he will do is give me a kiss well a peck (lol). When we have sex he just asks me do u want to do something and i am like what the heck. He never says the word (sex) out loud and he wont let me give him a blowjob or he wont go down on me either how would i get him to have sex other ways than just the missionary way and i want him so bad and it makes me feel like i am so ugly and it is hard just to talk to him about it, i have tried and he gets mad at me for me just ask. Please Help!!!!!!

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    • Sean Jameson says

      January 30, 2013 at 9:18 am

      Hi Ashley,

      This sounds like more of a relationship & communication problem with your man. Unfortunately that’s not something I cover in the Bad Girls Bible 🙁 What I would advise is find out what turns him on and arouses him by talking to him about it.

      Sean

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      • Fatima says

        March 29, 2013 at 3:48 pm

        Hi Ashley,

        I think what you DO NOT need to do is:

        1. dont talk to him about it (since you said you already have) because he will feel like your nagging or he cant satisfy you which will not spark passion in him to want to please you more.

        What you need to do is:

        1. Be pleasant, a smile goes a long way. and you’re probably thinking what’s this gotta do with sex but it overall attitude does have something to do with sex! (in my opinion)

        2. Appreciate whatever little he does. dont look at what hez not doin in bed to please you.pay attention to whatever little he is doin right in bed and tell him how great the missionary style was, (Be genuine)

        3. Always look your best, exercise and wear clothes that complement your figure. smell nice too. you’ll start feeling good about yourself and when you start feeling confident about your looks and body, you naturally start to appear sexier and appealing.

        4.see if anything changes and let me know.

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    • Shelbie says

      September 15, 2013 at 6:17 pm

      Hi.
      um this is for Ashley lol. Hi Ashley, I understand what you’re going through.. after I lost my last son and had a D&C my fiancee felt that I was fragile. Maybe this is how your man feels? Don’t give up on talking to him, make sure that he knows how you’re feeling hun. He’s probably scared of hurting you or doing something wrong so just talk to him. Communication and Trust are the foundations of a relationship. Without them, your relationship could fall apart.. Just tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. I hope it works out..

      Blessed Be,

      Shelbie

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    • Christina says

      April 14, 2015 at 5:31 pm

      Ashley I think Fatima is right. My husband and I were having problems in the bedroom too. I stop focusing on that issue and just started focusing on me. I started to workout, lose weight, dressing sexier and feeling more good about myself and always had a smile on my face. I just recently started texting him little messages like Sean said and my husband’s attitude has totally changed. Just the other night he said that i have changed so much, I ask if it was bad, he was like no I like this a lot. Like with anything in life the only thing you can control is yourself, everything else will fall in line.

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      • Tiffany says

        November 3, 2015 at 8:18 am

        Wow! There really are other people like me out there going through the same relationship “hurtles” that I’ve been stuck in/on for feels like freaking forever!! So here’s my question to Christina. What if I have tried focusing on just me and my fiancé then starts thinking that I might be seeing someone else or thinking about leaving! Wtf??? I am so tired of being stuck in this rut in our relationship that I could scream! Please! Anyone with a little advice!

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        • Sam says

          January 18, 2016 at 8:47 pm

          Sounds like he is insecure. I been married for 25 years and among the very few in this day and age. I would take this as a warning flag. Marriage is 2 people but they aren’t hooked at the hip. If he can’t handle or is suspicious of you for spending time on yourself now, it won’t get better after u tie the knot. Run away

          Reply
    • Hush says

      September 26, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      You should try and talk with him about it….thats the only way he would understand what you mean …. is this comment helpful? let me know thanks…

      Reply
  5. Sistina says

    January 27, 2013 at 4:26 am

    OLivia I am in the very same situation than you with my man. I feel he loves me but sometimes I feel he doesn’t desires me. My man is an amazing lover but he doesn’t like sex like me (or do it with me?). I think I try everything. Abstinence, , being a shy and lovely girl, tantra, kamasutra, white tigress’ things. I don’t want to end my relationship but I feel tired fighting and talking about it. Sean help me!

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    • Sean Jameson says

      January 30, 2013 at 9:13 am

      Hi Sistina,

      This is a tricky question as I don’t normally deal with relationship questions. My only advice that I can give you is to talk to him and see if you can get him to be truly honest. Find out what he really wants, what his turn ons are and go from there.

      Sean

      Reply
  6. Vanessa says

    February 7, 2013 at 4:22 am

    So, my boyfriend and I have been together for one year, but we live an hour away from each other. I want to leave him speechless after having sex, when we do have time. I want to try new things. Since we are an hour away, I want him to keep thinking about me once I leave, be have things interesting between us! How or what can I do? Please help! Thank you!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 12, 2013 at 4:42 pm

      Hi Vanessa, you might be interested in checking out the sex tips section for some ideas.

      Reply
      • Sarah says

        March 9, 2013 at 2:39 pm

        Hi

        I have the same situation, with living an hour away. the dirty texting I know does work, but my question is how can I get my guy to ask me to come and visit a little more often. with him bringing it up and not me?

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          March 26, 2013 at 9:32 am

          Hi Sarah,

          This sounds like more of a relationship question. If you want him to come visit you more, then I suggest you talk to him about that in a slightly more serious way than using dirty text messages.

          Sean

          Reply
  7. Ritisha says

    February 8, 2013 at 5:28 am

    Hey, Tell me how to know that whether my partner likes dirty talks or not?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 12, 2013 at 4:36 pm

      Hi Ritisha,

      The key is just trying some light dirty talk to see if he enjoys it.

      Sean

      Reply
  8. Jennifer says

    February 13, 2013 at 6:16 pm

    How do I learn to swallow? I want to surprise my husband of 18 years with this special thing but I’m’ not sure how to do it without gagging – that would kind of ruin it.

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    • Sean Jameson says

      February 19, 2013 at 12:47 pm

      Hi Jennifer,

      First try swallowing just a tiny amount of his ejaculate the next time your give him a blowjob. Then if you enjoy that, try swallowing a bit more. Let me know how you get on!

      Sean

      Reply
      • L Wolf says

        March 30, 2013 at 2:01 pm

        Sean, I appreciate your website and valuable information, but I disagree with this advice to Jennifer.

        A sure-fire way to swallow is just before he ejaculates put the penis deep in your mouth and you will swallow effortlessly without even tasting it.

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          April 9, 2013 at 11:48 am

          Hi L Wolf,

          Thanks for your comment! This is a great suggestion.

          Sean

          Reply
        • beribonita says

          February 4, 2017 at 10:38 pm

          I agree with L Wolf…that’s how I do it.

          Reply
    • L Wolf says

      March 30, 2013 at 1:54 pm

      When you are pleasuring him orally and he about to orgasm, put the tip deep in your mouth, and you will swallow the ejaculate without even tasting it.

      Reply
  9. Lisa says

    March 2, 2013 at 6:57 am

    Hi, is there any way of pleasing my man, because I don’t do BJs the smell makes me feel sick. Can I do anything else? Thank you.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 5, 2013 at 9:40 am

      Hi Lisa,
      If you don’t enjoy the smell, then talk to your man about it and make sure that he thoroughly cleans himself before you try it. But if you still don’t want to do it, then why not try giving him a handjob. You can find some great tips in this article on handjobs.

      Reply
      • aairah says

        November 21, 2014 at 1:45 pm

        Hey sean,
        Actually I just got married about a month ago and due to reasons my husband had to leave the town and go out! Hes returning in like 10 day! The thing is i’m very shy wid him and i also feel very awkward in having sex (the way he wants) as in changing positions and giving a blow job! Usually i’m very nervous about it! I cannot completely participate ! Could u pls help me as im tensed about my future sex life!
        Regards
        Aairah

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        • Sean Jameson says

          November 24, 2014 at 9:47 am

          Hi Aairah,

          Try talking to your man about this so he understands where you’re coming from and you’ll also learn a ton of tips from the newsletter here.

          Reply
    • Cheyenne says

      May 8, 2013 at 11:10 am

      If it’s purely the smell that is a turn off, join him in the shower! He won’t smell like anything except water! And it’s definitely a sexy move on your part.

      Reply
  10. Jami says

    March 14, 2013 at 4:17 am

    Hi Sean, 4 some reason i’ve always had a problem talkin dirty not just 2 my man just talkin dirty period n idk y. i made a promise 2 my man n i was that ur word is ur bond. & I really hate breaking a promise. can u plz help me?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 26, 2013 at 9:18 am

      Hi Jami,

      All the information is here on the site. Try starting out in the dirty talking section.

      Sean

      Reply
  11. Lilly Rose says

    April 16, 2013 at 1:31 am

    hi sean, im afraid of giving a blow job to a man i don’t have a small mouth and small tongue, I’m afraid the guy will think I’m not good or anything, what should i do?

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    • Sean Jameson says

      April 19, 2013 at 8:49 am

      Hi Lilly,

      The first thing that I advise is not worrying about it. Most people don’t do it perfectly the first time they try it. Try using just 2 or 3 of my tips from the blowjob section on him. The best way to get better is with experience.

      Sean

      Reply
  12. lola says

    April 22, 2013 at 9:39 am

    So tonight I put the baby to sleep early and I told my bf to stay up with me all night and have sex and he sounded like hue was edited but rite after we finished the first round he said he was really tiered and wanted to go to sleep should I be upset or should I just drop it… And the sex was amazing!

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    • Sean Jameson says

      April 29, 2013 at 10:34 am

      Hi Lola,

      In my opinion, it sounds like you shouldn’t be upset. Guys often feel tired enough to sleep after sex and your man will be no different. However, you should talk to him to let him know how you’re feeling about it. The key to great sex and a great relationship is great communication after all.

      Sean

      Reply
  13. Sookie says

    May 22, 2013 at 6:50 am

    Hi
    I need help talking dirty it’s hard four me I don’t no why. I’m married an we live long distance
    So phone is all I got right now with him . He’s in the marines ! But it’s really hard I miss him more
    Wen I try an talk dirty to him .

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 27, 2013 at 10:18 am

      Hi Sookie,
      Try start with something easy like, “I miss you so much”, “I wish you were here right now”, “I’m going to give you such a great time when you get home!”

      It doesn’t need to be super sexual, but once you notice the positive reaction that you get to it, you’ll feel a lot more confident getting more sexual on the phone.

      Sean

      Reply
      • Shelbie says

        September 13, 2013 at 3:10 am

        Hey Sean,

        I get kinda nervous about telling my partner what I want him to do. I feel like I’m being bossy in otherwords so I kinda don’t tell him.. I don’t know how to overcome this fear. Can I get some help?

        Thanks, Shelbie.

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        • Sean Jameson says

          September 16, 2013 at 7:51 am

          Hi Shelbie,

          Here’s what I’d recommend doing in this situation: The first thing is letting him know how hot, horny and enjoyable you find that things that you want. So if you really want to try a certain position, let him know that it’s something you think would be really fun and hot to try.

          Let me know how it goes!

          Sean

          Reply
    • Sunshine says

      February 15, 2018 at 12:21 am

      Try playing with yourself while you talk dirty.stroke got clitoris. He will like hearing you cum

      Reply
  14. Sookie says

    May 22, 2013 at 6:53 am

    I read the dirty talk section . I freeze up its soo frustrating four me

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 27, 2013 at 10:12 am

      Hi Sookie,
      Sorry to hear that. Can I help?
      Sean

      Reply
  15. Sarah says

    June 9, 2013 at 1:41 am

    when will there be anything new??

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 11, 2013 at 10:39 am

      Soon! Don’t worry, I’m just a little busy at the moment. Much more awesome content coming in the next 2 months!

      Sean

      Reply
  16. louise says

    June 16, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Hi Sean,
    I am in a relationship at the moment with a guy who is a lot older than myself and am worried he will soon get bored of me as he has a lot more sexual experience than I do as i do not have much. Do you have any suggestions on how I can keep him interested in me, or things I could try to keep him on his toes?
    Thanks

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 18, 2013 at 11:12 am

      Hi Louise,

      You will find tons of tips in this section that will keep him satisfied. You can also sign up to the newsletter to receive tips every few days right into your inbox.

      Sean

      Reply
  17. Lynn says

    July 1, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    Hey Louise,
    I was in the same situation as you in a way. Just be calm and when you start to get intimate and become unsure if he is enjoying himself, just ask. Maybe say something:
    1. You’re a little quiet there boy. How do you want me?

    If you’re a little shy maybe you could just ask him what he likes or what kind of porn he watches.

    Reply
  18. Lucy says

    July 14, 2013 at 11:41 am

    Hi Sean,
    I just got together with my first bf he is older than me. I am virgin. I have never done this kind of stuff before and anything like that. How can I still satisfy him? What can I do to make him lose his mind? I wish I was more experienced… And I think he would never say to me that I’m sucks even if am. Do you have some good tips to girls that are as inexperienced as I am?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 16, 2013 at 7:19 am

      Hi Lucy,

      Don’t worry, we’ve all been there! My advice is to not over think things too much. Try to relax and enjoy the experience. You may be interested in checking out the sex positions section for some ideas on what positions that BOTH of you might enjoy.

      Sean

      Reply
  19. Melissa says

    July 24, 2013 at 2:34 am

    Hey,

    So my one year anniversary with my boyfriend is coming up very soon and I want it to be very special for both him and me. And I was wondering if there are even better ways I can spice it up and surprise him to give both of us a memory that will last for a life time.
    Any tips?

    Thanks~

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 29, 2013 at 9:34 am

      Hi Melissa,
      Honestly, there are a hundred different things you could potentially do based on my tips on the Bad Girls Bible, but at the end of the day it’s really up to you which ones you use. After all, you know your man better than me.

      If you really do want to blow his mind though, here is one suggestion: Make it all about him and don’t expect anything in return (although if it’s your anniversary, then obviously he should be pulling his weight!). So you could sit him down and just start giving him a very slow blow job. Then you could lead him to your bedroom, push him down on the bed and just start riding him in a position like cowgirl. It’s a great way to show him how attracted you are to him and how much you care about him.

      Have fun!

      Sean

      Reply
  20. Alsia says

    July 26, 2013 at 4:56 am

    i was hoping to get sexual advise me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years now and are thinking of getting married but i have a problem i love him and feel comfortable around him sexually but i just cant feel any pleasure during sex and i was wandering if you have any position or ideas that we could try to help the sexual frustration I’m feeling

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 29, 2013 at 9:19 am

      Hi Alsia,

      The first thing is making sure that you can easily orgasm by yourself (without using a vibrator, dildo or excessive pressure). If you can easily orgasm while masturbating, then it’s a case of incorporating what you enjoy and get off on into your sex life.

      So if you enjoy direct clitoral stimulation, then you should try positions like the coital alignment technique as well as cowgirl. You can also try most doggystyle variations as you will easily be able to rub your clit throughout.

      Others prefer the feeling of their man dominating them. If that sounds like you, then you’ll find the anvil position or even the deckchair position to really fun!

      The real key to discovering how to enjoy sex more is by experimenting and focusing on what is actually fun and enjoyable while ignoring the things that don’t bring you much pleasure.

      Let me know how things go!

      Sean

      Reply
  21. shannon says

    August 16, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    hey Sean,
    just need your thoughts My husband and I have ben married 11 years in that time we have had a lot of things go on he had an affair 6 years ago I forgave him . Both my parents died last year with in 10 months of each other and I emotionally and physically pushed him away not intentionally but I shut down . I found out recently he has been texting this older women he says their friends I want to trust him however she show him attention I didn’t so now I want to spice it up ( we have decided to work on our marriage) but don’t want to come off to pushy where do I start?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 18, 2013 at 7:05 pm

      Hi Shannon,

      I always recommend starting with some fun new sex positions with your man from the sex positions section and just go from there. You may also want to sign up to the newsletter for tips on oral sex, talking dirty and other fun sex tips.

      Best,
      Sean

      Reply
  22. Kirstie Sorec says

    September 2, 2013 at 1:21 am

    Hi, I’m kinda new to al this. I am 24 and I’m married to the most wonderful man in the world but I feel like he is more interested in his playstation and drinking then me! I just don’t know what to do. He says if I pay him more attention then he’ll give me more attention but it just doesn’t seem to work. Our sex life has pretty much come to a stop and we have only been together for 5 years! What can I do??

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 3, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Hi Kristie,
      This sounds like both a relationship and sex question. As I am not a relationship expert, let me help with the sex side of things. The most important thing to do is to talk to him about it. Let him know your wants, needs and desires. Next, I would suggest that you start taking the initiative. So start initiating sex, try wearing something a bit more provocative than usual. You can even try sitting down beside him one day and just start rubbing his crotch with your hand. Let me know how things go.
      Sean

      Reply
  23. Cielo says

    September 12, 2013 at 6:17 am

    I don’t moan and neither does my boyfriend when we have sex , I just want too know is it normal? Does everyone moan?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 16, 2013 at 7:57 am

      Hi Cielo,
      It’s completely normal 🙂 Not everyone is vocal during sex. The terrible thing is that some people fake it or feel the need to fake it.

      Sean

      Reply
  24. Annette says

    September 25, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    This guy I have know for years, we went out years ago and just kissed that’s it. Well he moved away, I moved away he moved back asked about me. I finally moved back.We never really talked because we didn’t think either one of us where interested in the other one. Well now he just got married again a year ago and im divorced. We now work together and are texing each other and the texes are pretty deep. And he has kissed me also.I feel so bad and why would a newly wed man do that.He wants us to get down and dirty together. But I so want to but my feelings would get involved,and I don’t understand why he would do that to his wife.Please help

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 30, 2013 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Annette,
      Sounds like a pretty complicated relationship question. Honestly, I don’t have the answer for you. It could be for a near infinite number of reasons.
      Sean

      Reply
  25. Melissa says

    October 8, 2013 at 2:01 am

    Dear Sean,
    My question is this. I love my boyfriend very much and we are able to talk openly and honestly about our sex life we joke and play and have no problems discussing what we want or what our limits are. I love the idea of dirty talk and he is very good at it but I seem to keep hitting some mental roadblock I can text him all the naughty things I want to say and do but when I try to say them out loud I just can’t do it I giggle and blush and clam up. What can I do so I can get over this awkwardness? Please help
    Melissa

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 8, 2013 at 8:08 pm

      Hi Melissa,

      Start with the smallest, easiest thing when it comes to talking dirty…moaning. Just moan a little louder than normal. Once you are comfortable with that, progress to using just one or 2 words, “Yes”, “Like that”, “Harder”, etc. Then progress to using longer and longer dirty talking phrases.

      Sean

      Reply
  26. Jenny says

    October 14, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    Hi Sean,
    I’m hoping you can help me out please I’m stuck in a situation obviously it’s about a guy. So there is this guy that I’ve known for three years we met in pre-military sort of thing. I find him overly attractive in multiple ways for his appearance, personality, behaviour, sexually you name it I’m attracted to him. So he could tell that I liked him and I think he liked me… So we’ve been friends for a while. Just recently we started dating h it e picked me up for lunch in a really nice car and we had lunch and He asked me if be ok for us to be a couple so I said yes and a hug turned into a cuddling session and a cuddling session turned into passionate kissing making out to grinding then sex. It was lovely and the first date we had sex. Is that alright? We text another consistently and friendly texting and sexual and and all that.. Then 5 days later he drove up to where I was and started telling me reasons why we shouldn’t date and he broke up with me. He said the reasons were that I was 4 years younger than he and it was illegal and he could get charged. So I looked it up and it’s not then I confronted him and he said nother that reason but because he’s a higher rank in the military than I so he could be charged and no he cannot I looked it up the law says “As long as both parties agree to sexual activity it’s allowed”. I told him again he said he’d be honest it was because a girl he’d dated before me ruined him and he’s not very rich and he wasn’t right for me. I told him he was and well that girl was a bitch. So we text a lot and he says he still really likes me and I really like him. How do I get him back? Please help me Sean
    And also he had text me about how he got a massive boner thinking of me and over thinking of the person he has had the best sex with and it was me. I flirted with him but first I bugged him an said if I was with him right now I could… and didn’t finish… but every time I text him we flirt he flirts with me then I flirt back and he basically pushes me away. Does he like me or something? What do you think he thinks of me? Should I move on? Please help me or even email me to answer.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 12, 2013 at 9:38 am

      Hi Jenny,

      Thank you for your comment but, this sounds like a tricky relationship question. I would love to be able to help you out, but the Bad Girls Bible focuses only on sex advice. I hope it works out for you.

      Sean

      Reply
  27. Is says

    October 21, 2013 at 2:38 am

    I have this guy that I’m seeing… together or apart I am totally turned on. Sex is gr8 but… he cums fast when we do it raw because condoms r irritating to my vigina and when we upgraded to oral sex he wouldn’t get hard…. what can I do? Is there something wrong with me? HELP!!!!!!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 11, 2013 at 7:55 pm

      Hi Is,

      Sounds pretty normal to me. Your man may just have a little performance anxiety if he has trouble getting hard for you, that’s all. Just keep trying, WITHOUT putting pressure on him.

      Sean

      Reply
  28. Bailey says

    November 3, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for roughly six years on & off. But, I’m still a virgin & don’t want to have sex with him yet. & he’s had sex once. I’ve always been scared to do sexual things with him because I was afraid I’d be bad at it, & I was afraid he’d leave me again. He’s always been eager to please me sexually, it makes me feel selfish.

    But we’re back together again, no fights, no anything. It’s the perfect relationship. So, I decided just recently to give him a blow job. I’ve been told by many of my past boyfriends that I’m pretty amazing at it. I even follow some of your steps. But I was trying to get him off for almost an hour & he just wouldn’t cum! I tried everything!
    It really lowered my self-esteem. He told me it was absolutely amazing & he loved it. But that he’s never been able to get off with a girl, Not even the one he had sex with.

    But I still feel bad. Is there anything wrong with me?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 6, 2013 at 8:39 am

      Hi Bailey,

      Honestly, I think you are over thinking this. Yes, it’s true, some guys have trouble getting off with any girl. The reason is usually because they masturbate too often or with a grip that is very tight (this trains them to need a lot of pressure to get off, so much, that it’s almost impossible to replicate with a blowjob or sexual intercourse).

      Some girls are like this too. They have lots of trouble getting off when having sex with a guy. So there is absolutely no reason for you to feel bad as there is nothing wrong with you.

      Sean

      Reply
  29. Lulu says

    November 16, 2013 at 4:17 pm

    Hello!

    I want to thank you for this amazing website. Im in a relationship for almost a year now. I was never a jealous type of a girl. But lately it all changed. Im constantly worrying about him wanting other women. My confidence that used to be above clouds went spiralling down. I couldn’t stop over thinking everything. Our sex has always been good. But due to my recent feelings I decided to research ways to make him more satisfied. And I figured out I would get my confidence back.

    I think I took a right step and I hope your advice will help. Cant wait to try them all.

    Best regards!

    Reply
  30. Brenda says

    November 17, 2013 at 10:41 am

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 years now and i really just want him to degrade me in bed. We normally have nice clean respectful sex. Whats the best way of telling him what i want without hurting his ego.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 18, 2013 at 8:16 am

      Hi Brenda,
      Getting this right can be tricky. Most likely you won’t hurt his ego. What’s more important is communicating to your man in the right way. If you just come out and tell him all of sudden, it may come as a bit of a shock to him. So it’s better to slowly build up to exactly what you want. So one night, try talking to him about his kinks and turn ons. Then when he shares his, let him know that you’d find it hot if he told you what a bad girl you’ve been and how terrible you are, but only in the bedroom.

      Once he starts to act out these things, then make sure to praise, compliment and reward him for it. This will encourage him to keep doing it.

      Let me know how it goes,

      Sean

      Reply
  31. Ari says

    November 27, 2013 at 8:13 pm

    So boyfriend used to be with a dominatrix and now he’s all about dirty nasty talk, I am pretty shy and submissive but I know he’d like it if I talked dirtier to him, the “basic stuff” just isn’t cutting it, I need some examples of some pretty raunchy things to say to him! Please help

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 1, 2013 at 6:02 pm

      Hi Ari,
      You may be interested in checking out Wild Dirty Talk. It has a ton of advice and tips for you to use.
      Sean

      Reply
  32. Susan says

    December 9, 2013 at 4:08 pm

    Hi my name is Susan but I am a boy. I recently gave a blojob to a friend of mine but I couldnt get him to cum. What am I doing wrong. I am meeting him again soon so I got some ladies cloths hopefully to get him excited bu I still thing I will fail. can you help? Susan.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 15, 2013 at 8:07 pm

      Hi Susan,

      You’ll find some great tips on giving guys a pleasurable blowjob on the main blowjob page as well as in the Bad Girls Bible newsletter.

      Sean

      Reply
  33. Susan says

    December 17, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Thanks Sean,

    Some great tips, I intend trying them all. Let you know.

    Susan.

    Reply
  34. Elaine Hammond says

    January 19, 2014 at 2:31 am

    Hi Sean, I’ve been chatting to a guy, he contacted me in August 13, I went out with him 35 years ago, he works around the Pilbra WA.We are proff that sexting does work, We stay in contact by email ,phone calls and texting, thank for rekindling our relaintionship .

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 20, 2014 at 7:36 am

      Great to hear Elaine, let me know how it goes!

      Joe

      Reply
  35. Pearl says

    February 8, 2014 at 7:02 am

    Hi Sean
    Since I have your tips my sex love with my man is getting exciting each time we doing it.Thanks ,still to get more .

    Kind regards

    Reply
  36. atricia says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:56 am

    hi sean !

    i’m married 2 years ago. my husband is my first love. and recently i felt that he had lost interest in me. in the past, we would have sex every few days or so. even when i’m pregnant that time. and now we only have sex once a month or so. even when i take the initiative to ask for sex he will reject me. he usually browse through those sex forum as well. does this shows that he is cheating outside or? how do you see this as? and most of your bad girl bible tips we have already used it before. do you have any suggestions/recommendations that you can give me? thank you in advance, sean !

    best regards,
    atricia

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 17, 2014 at 9:05 am

      Hi Atricia,

      Sounds like a pretty serious situation. The best thing you can do with your man is to have a talk with him about it, to let him know how you’re feeling. The problem many couples face is that after the initial spark fades, so does the hot sex. The key is finding a way to reignite that spark and lust you both previously had.

      Sean

      Reply
      • atricia says

        February 17, 2014 at 1:27 pm

        hi sean !

        thank you for your advice given, i really appreciate it ! but i have tried to talk to him several times about it. but he wouldn’t pay much attention to what i had said or even though he did listen, he will not do anything about it as well. could you share with me some keys on how to reignite that spark and lust that will at least do a trick on me and my man? because i did tried my ways before but it doesnt seems to work as well.

        best regards,
        atricia

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          February 24, 2014 at 7:47 am

          Hi Atricia,

          Keep trying new things, see what works and what doesn’t work. Then keep doing the things that work, forget about what doesn’t work all why tyring new things.

          Sean

          Reply
  37. Kay says

    February 21, 2014 at 7:02 pm

    Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now.. He says we are perfect in the sex department.. I want to spice things up in the bedroom but he says he doesnt want to try toys.. what else can I try besides different positions?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 24, 2014 at 7:40 am

      Hi Kay, there are tons of things to try. You should take a look at the blow job section, dirty talking section and this sex tips section to get you started.

      Enjoy!

      Sean

      Reply
  38. atricia says

    February 27, 2014 at 1:06 pm

    hi sean !

    thank you so much for your reply and advice given ! (: will try out new ways with my man soon and see what works best ! (: but surely your blow job section is good ! *thumbs up*

    best regards,
    atricia

    Reply
  39. Hannah says

    March 23, 2014 at 9:25 pm

    Hey Sean,

    my boyfriend and me have been a couple for 2 years now. Do you have some tips for stripping for a man without making a fool of oneself? I’d really like to try, since undressing each other seems so boring over time.
    Thank you and regards,

    Hannah

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 24, 2014 at 2:05 pm

      Sure, you should check out this article I wrote:

      https://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-strip

      Enjoy!

      Reply
  40. Lisa says

    March 31, 2014 at 5:15 am

    Sean
    My fiance and I have been together 2 years are having a baby in 4 months. He travels every month for work and I want to keep things going even while he’s away. I’ve done the whole dress in lingerie and a robe to the airport to get him and that has an amazing outcome but we Skype a lot and I’m looking more for something to keep him on the verge of meltdown while he is away! I want him to be so anxious to get done and get home that he can barely control himself. But I want the attraction not to be just to get laid because he’s so hot n bothered I want it to be that he wants me because I’ve got him so hot n bothered by the tension and sexual agony I’ve created the entire time he’s gone! What’s your thoughts on this??

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      April 2, 2014 at 9:15 am

      Hi Lisa,

      You may enjoy this article on sexual tension a lot!

      Sean

      Reply
  41. Gina says

    April 23, 2014 at 1:07 am

    Hi Sean. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years & engaged for a year. I am very freaky. But I don’t think I’m freaky enough. I’ve been cheated on a handful of times but haven’t recently except he had meetme on his phone. What can prevent from another mistake? Am I doing something wrong? I want to keep him satisfied & well pleased.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 2, 2014 at 11:29 am

      That sounds like a touch situation Gina. My advice is to talk to him.

      Sean

      Reply
  42. Ashley Howard says

    April 27, 2014 at 11:29 pm

    Hey Sean,

    Me and my husband has been together almost 8 years and married almost 6 years…and we have two gorgeous daughters. They are 3 and 5…the problem is our sex is more less how should i say…bland…since we have had our girls and they’re getting older. So my question is how can I get him all worked up to where when we do have sex its mind blowing?

    Thanks in advance and best regards!

    Ashley

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 2, 2014 at 11:10 am

      The key is building sexual tension and holding out until he literally grabs you and has to have his way with you.

      Sean

      Reply
  43. Kendra says

    April 29, 2014 at 4:34 pm

    Been with my guy 6 yrs married for almost 2 yrs. 3 kids as well. Im more sexually aggressive then him and I think ive turned him off because of that. We have had lots of rough patches. What advice can you give me to help get the sexual tension back. Hes not dominate in the bedroom at all. Help please

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 2, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Hey Kendra,

      Building sexual tension takes time. Instead of initiating sex, do things that build up to sex but don’t actually initiate it. So do things like send him dirty text messages, touch him and let him know whats on your mind, but wait for him to take charge. The key though is TALKING. You need to have great communication in order to find out what really gets him going.

      Sean

      Reply
  44. Debra says

    May 9, 2014 at 6:37 am

    Hi Sean,

    I have been with my partner 6 months now and we have a great sexual relationship. I want to ask him to call me names (sometimes), like ‘good girl’, ‘slut’ etc but I’m worried this will seem weird and he’ll think I have self esteem issues. How can I ask him to do this? Thank you.

    Debra

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 12, 2014 at 1:14 pm

      Hi Debra,

      Honestly, that sounds totally normal! It’s just a case of communicating it to your man effectively. You just need to tell him how hot you find it when he is vocal during sex, that you like hearing him talk dirty. If you are vague, then he will ask you questions like, “What kind of dirty talk?” or “what do you want me to say?”

      Sean

      Reply
  45. John says

    May 24, 2014 at 5:47 am

    I am in a four year relationship, we have tried anal once and she said it hurt at first but she stared liking it but that its kind of gross. She was molested as a child and I am very cautious not to bring those memories back while in the bed room. She knows that I like blow jobs and anal and is willing to do what ever I want. And I want to make these things as pleasant for her as possible I also want to do some things just for her but all she ever says when I ask her is vaginal with me on top and doggy, but she is a practical nymph she wants sex 24/7. Is there some technique I can apply during sex that will help her to open up and tell me more of what she wants to have done to her?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 25, 2014 at 10:34 am

      Hi John,

      It sounds like a very tricky and difficult situation. My advice whenever there has been any type of abuse is to talk to a medical professional first.

      Sean

      Reply
  46. Lilly N says

    May 24, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    Hi Sean,
    My sexual relationship with my bf of almost 2 is going great. We’re both sexually active, we’ve tried new sex positions and we make sure we both are satisfied after each sexual intercourse. Well I like to talk dirty to him, I also tell him that I love how he does it and how he makes me feel. The problem is that during sex he’s very quiet and I wish to change that and also get him to moan. I only rememeber him whispering dirty to me 3 times and it was because he was drunk. How can I get him to talk dirty or moan?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 25, 2014 at 10:32 am

      The best thing to do is first to make sure you let him know how much you enjoy it. Then anytime he does talk dirty to you, make sure to compliment him and let him know how much you appreciate it. Finally, get him to start slowly with talking dirty. It can be daunting if he feels like he has to describe things to you in a very detailed way. So start with getting him to moan more. Then try to get him to use 1 or 2 word sentences and then keep ramping it up from there. Have fun!

      Reply
  47. Jeni says

    August 29, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    Hey any help about stripping ??

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 3, 2014 at 6:47 pm

      Hi Jeni,

      Sure, try out this article on stripping.

      Sean

      Reply
  48. Yasmine says

    September 4, 2014 at 4:13 pm

    Hi Sean,
    Love your blog and all the useful tips!
    I love ‘sexting’ and have been doing so for a while, but we have taken it to a whole new level since I’ve discovered your site!
    Here’s a tip for anyone else who loves to send naughty messages to their man: send someecards! They have a whole collection of great, fun and dirty cards, I’ve collected a whole bunch on my phone and love sending them via WhatsApp! (And he LOVES receiving them!
    Yasmine

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 8, 2014 at 12:11 pm

      Awesome idea Yasmine!

      Reply
  49. Elizabeth Fanning says

    November 4, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Hi Sean,
    I’ve read a few of your articles now – I like reading ones that are written by men, rather than women who THINK they know what they are talking about.
    I’ve just got a question I was hoping you could help me out with.
    I’m figuring I can be open about our sexual relationship given the nature of the article and the above comments.
    I’ve recently started seeing a man who i’ve got in a long distance relationship with. We are apart for around six or seven weeks before seeing one another. We met overseas on a tour and this week he came to visit me. While overseas, we were involved sexually and I found it wasn’t too hard to bring him to his climax. However, when he was here at my house, I was really struggling to get him to that point – orally and during actual intercourse.
    He assures me that he still enjoys it, that i’m brilliant at oral and that i’m not doing anything wrong, but I don’t like feeling that he might be leaving the bedroom unsatisfied. I had a couple of theories….
    One was that maybe we were getting physical a little too often… while he was here we were probably having sex twice a day, while on tour it was more like once every few days. Do men sort of get ‘worn out’ after doing it too often?
    I also found it was quite hard to get him erect and then to keep him erect…. and trust me, i was doing everything in my power to help the situation.

    Do you have any advice or tips? I’d love to be able to bring him to climax using oral more often (i’ve only been able to do this once, and it was a lot of work and pressure – though I love doing it) . I want to be able to bring him to his climax a little more often, but there isn’t any way I could do that same oral technique each time because its just too much pressure on my mouth and body.

    Do you have any tips for those ladies out there, like me, who struggle getting their fellow hard and to the point of ejaculation no matter what they do (hand, mouth, intercourse) or how long they go for?
    This man has told me that he has always been VERY difficult to bring to a climax, and so i’m sure it isn’t me, but I also wouldn’t mind being the person that could get him to that point more often : )

    Thanks, and sorry for being so explicit for all those people out there who might not like it so much. Just wanting some proper advice.

    Lara

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 10, 2014 at 8:59 pm

      Hi Lara,

      It sounds like your man’s penis is a little bit desensitized. All you really need to do is get him to quit masturbating for 1-2 weeks and then he will be close to exploding the next time your are together.

      Reply
  50. Nokomis says

    November 7, 2014 at 4:58 am

    So I’ve been with my guy got about 2 years now and we have amazing sex…. but I feel like my sex talk sucks….we get pretty dirty, out of bed I’m practically a nun… Any tips?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 10, 2014 at 6:51 pm

      First up, don’t feel that every single thing you say and do has to be “super sexy”. However if you want to brush up on your dirty talk, then check out the dirty talking guide and the Dirty Talking Bible.

      Reply
  51. Nicole says

    November 8, 2014 at 12:58 pm

    Although I’m not a fan of some parts of your website, I absolutely understand that the mind of a man is different to a woman in how we express what we want! But the best part is, we actually want the same thing! Sex brings people together, creates a safe place to play and enjoy each other without inhibition and be pleasured and pleasurable! So, three cheers to hot bedrooms (and beyond!)

    Reply
  52. ann alladem says

    November 20, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    hi, i just got married last October 04.. me and my husband had been together for 7yrs. And unfortunately, i found out that he had an affair with his colleague before we got married. they started on july,Im staying far from him and id been very busy with the wedding preparation. But now, i must admit, she had an impact with my husband when it comes to sex. He was just so different and I just wanna make him crazy for me again.. I wanna add spice to our relationship as husband and wife. maybe sex just gotten really boring between us thats why he cheated on me.Any suggestion how to make him crazy for me?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 24, 2014 at 9:51 am

      Hi Ann,

      While you will learn a huge amount of techniques & positions on the site and newsletter, you may also want to check out this article on building sexual tension with him, so that he is literally gagging for you.

      Sean

      Reply
  53. J says

    December 14, 2014 at 5:10 am

    I have never had sex with this guy that I’m with right now and we have been talking about doing it, so what would be the best things to text him while I’m not with him?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 15, 2014 at 11:05 am

      Honestly, it’s hard for me to tell you the best thing to text him because I don’t know and understand your situation as well as you do. It could be something subtle or something overt, I just don’t know.

      Reply
  54. Mariuxi says

    January 1, 2015 at 9:38 pm

    Hey Sean. So this is the situation, my boyfriend and I don’t live in the same city. He is going to live with me the next year… But for now, we can barely see each other. So is it good for us to have dirty talks? Or is it going to make him look for another woman to have sex with? Should I be afraid about that?
    Thanks!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 5, 2015 at 10:58 am

      Dirty talk can work great for keeping him thinking about you and amping up the sexual tension. And of course if you do that, he will want a release. Whether he does that himself (masturbation) or with someone else is usually entirely dependent on your man. If he is a loyal guy, then you don’t have to worry about it. If not, then it doesn’t matter whether you talk dirty or not, he will cheat. So don’t worry about talking dirty…just worry about what your man is prone to do anyway.

      Reply
  55. sami says

    January 2, 2015 at 5:36 pm

    Hey Sean,
    I have been with my boyfriend now for four years, we have five kids and having alone time is kinda impossible. Between both of us working and being mom and dad there ist much time left for us, what can I do to make him want to make time to spend with me instead of falling asleep on the couch. Please help I’m about at my wits end here. Thanks

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 5, 2015 at 10:53 am

      Sami,

      First you need to talk to him so that he knows how you’re feeling, then you need to start planning a few hours here and there where you both have alone time. Get the kids to do a sleepover, spend a night in a hotel, hire a babysitter.

      Reply
  56. Kristyn says

    January 9, 2015 at 1:43 pm

    Hi I was just wondering if you could tell me what I could do about my boyfriend of a year. I feel like he rather watch porn rather then have sex. I’m twenty eight and he is thirty five. I only had threee partner’s my whole life

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 12, 2015 at 6:10 pm

      The main thing is talking to him about your feelings in a non judgmental, non confrontational way.

      Reply
  57. Vanessa says

    January 14, 2015 at 5:01 am

    Hey Sean ,
    I just recently started to give my bf blowjobs and I feel embarrassed sometimes because I have such a delicate gag reflex and if it goes anywhere near the back of my throat I feel as if I’m about to throw up, not because it grosses me out but because I start gagging so quickly and I don’t know what to do because I really want to give him an amazing blow job , I tried holding and object near the back of my throat but it still makes me gag! I’m not sure what to do, please help!!!!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 19, 2015 at 12:11 pm

      Hi Vanessa,

      Honestly, it’s really not that big of a deal. There is still so much you can do besides taking him deep. Check out the main blow job guide here for more tips.

      Reply
  58. Debbie says

    January 20, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    I met this guy on a dating site about 6 months ago. Everytime we made plans to meet it seems as work for one of us caused us to cancel. Talking late one night we both decided that we really wanted to meet so we did. We sis have sex that night. I do but I don’t regret it, it was the best sex I’ve ever had in my whole life, and yes I’m over 50! We have had sex a few times a month since. The thing is I’m very attracted to him and I want more of a relationship with him other than the ” friends with benefits” . He says he likes me to but he’s made no attempt to commit. He leads a very busy life with work and his children which I understand that he has responsibilities. He recently stated that he really likes fucking me, we have great sex together, and we make it fun so it’s filled with pleasure experimenting a lot. What can I do to get him to commit to me? Should I stop seeing him and stop the great sex we have found with each other? Please help!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:49 am

      Honestly, it sounds like you just need to have a serious conversation with him about how you feel.

      Reply
  59. Tamika says

    January 21, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    Hi Sean, I’m writing to say that I have been married for 6yrs. I love my husband but he is not the most sexual person. But I’m the super freak. I know my sex is great but he is so not the type to tell me in do many words, to me he is boring in bed. But I love him, and I the sex is fun cause of me. How do I get him more into it, he is trying to be so hard when I know he wants to scream sometimes. I don’t know how to make him be more adventurous in bed. Anything would be great. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:42 am

      Hi Tamika, it sounds like you should just talk to him. When you do, you might find that he opens up and shares some kinks and fetishes that you love yourself. Communication is key here.

      Reply
  60. Andrew says

    January 21, 2015 at 8:31 pm

    Hi Sean, I was just wondering how can I let the guy I’m dating know that I want to have sex with him without being too risky. Thanks

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:41 am

      Honestly, just start at the start. So start with flirting and see if he reciprocates. If that goes well, progress to getting a bit more touchy with him. And if he seems to enjoy this, then maybe you should try kissing him when you’re both alone and just take it from there.

      Reply
  61. Alejandra says

    February 14, 2015 at 4:38 am

    Hi. I’ve been with this guy for about four months. We never meant to have something serious but now we are in a relationship. We had sex on our first date but now I feel like it’s always the same. I love giving blow jobs (I watched you’re video about them and I actually already use all of those techniques) but every time I try to go down on him he won’t let me! He just grabs me, gets on top and we just have the same sex. Also, I have already let him know that I’d like him to give me oral sex but he’s done it like twice and not for very long, just like 3 minutes and then sex. We both like pregame but I’d love to get him into oral sex! How can I do this?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 17, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      Have a chat with him, tell him all the wonderful things you’d like to do him so that he’s actually excited about it.

      Reply
  62. emma says

    May 1, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    Hello Sean! For the past 7 months my husband of 6 years my husband has been going out with his buddies almost every weekend. We recently had a talk and he says we have lost chemistry but i dont think so and this is why… i started sending him dirty messages telling him i love him but even phone sex and it seems it worked but i still feel he prefers going out with his buddies than be with me. Is there something else i should be doing or could i be doing something wrong? In desperate need of help

    Reply
    • Jenny Fox says

      May 4, 2015 at 7:20 am

      Wow, sounds like a difficult situation that you understand better than I do. It would be best to have a frank and honest discussion with your husband about how you’re feeling

      Reply
  63. Kelly says

    June 30, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    Hi Sean. I really love my man and he is great in bed. I give him blow jobs and he goes down on me to. He appreciates my blow jobs but I really want to give him a thrilling blow job that will make him cum so hard and scream very loud. I really can’t get a detailed explanation on how to do that. Can you help me or any one who is aware

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 7, 2015 at 3:41 pm

      Hi Kelly, you’ll find a bunch of super powerful tips on giving him an awesome bj in this video.

      Reply
  64. Hayley says

    August 4, 2015 at 4:50 am

    Hey,I am in a 5 year relationship and it is kinda boring he keeps every thing the same and I need a way to spice things up a little ty?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 17, 2015 at 1:48 pm

      Hi Hayley,

      The perfect place to start is by joining the newsletter here, you’ll learn a ton!

      Reply
  65. Sky says

    August 26, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    I’ve tried dirty talk and attempting to give my husband a blowjob several times. He just doesn’t seem to be interested in sex of any form. I’m pregnant and almost always horny, he cllaims that my pregnant belly makes me sexier but he hardly wants to touch me. Any advice on how to get him in bed? All I want is to satisfy him. He always complains that I don’t do enough so what am I doing wrong now?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 2, 2015 at 7:43 am

      Hi Sky,

      Talk to him in an open and non-confrontational way to see what’s up. It could be that he has something like low testosterone that is affecting his sex drive.

      Sean

      Reply
  66. Goddess says

    October 4, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    So I need some help here ladies. I’ve been with my guy going on 2 years. We have great sex!! No problem there. I just have a hard time expressing myself sexually in words. What can I do? I don’t want to lose him because of lack of communication in bed.

    Reply
  67. Carmin says

    October 28, 2015 at 2:42 pm

    Hi there! I’m sexually inexperienced although I am over 40. I’m newly dating a guy who has had a lot of sexual experiences. He has gone to strip clubs, had escorts, was into other kinks, etc. He liked it that I was somewhat innocent and I’m getting more comfortable with him but I think he’s taking it slow with me. I like music and dance and sometimes I just feel like dancing sexy for him but knowing he’s seen many strippers, I’m afraid I’d make a fool of myself! How do I keep him interested when this guy has seen it all and has done it all? Help! (This is not a serious relationship. We’re FWBs.)

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 9, 2015 at 11:46 pm

      The best thing you can do is talk to him and let him know how you feel about it.

      Reply
  68. atricia says

    October 29, 2015 at 8:26 am

    Hi Sean,

    I recently found out that my husband have been viewing porn websites, would like to know if it is normal for married man to watch porn? we have been in this marriage about 4 years now…is there something i need to work on it? please advise…thank you !

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 9, 2015 at 11:44 pm

      Thankfully, it’s perfectly normal.

      Reply
      • Sunshine says

        February 15, 2018 at 12:17 am

        Hi try sliding his penis on the side of your mouth. It still hits your mouth and suck on it or just lick the tip

        Reply
  69. kendra says

    December 15, 2015 at 9:18 pm

    Hi,

    I am a bit shy but my boyfriend isn’t really just quiet. I love sex but he loves it wayyy more than I do. I would like to be more open and sexy with him but i always end up shying and kind of afraid to give him the kind of sex he loves to watch on porn sites. I love him and he loves me i know but I would like for once to be his fantasy…. Please help.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 21, 2015 at 12:39 pm

      Hi Kendra, it sounds like talking to your man is your best option.

      Sean

      Reply
  70. Emma says

    December 21, 2015 at 10:10 am

    Hi Sean,
    I read a reply to someone’s post about enjoying sex more and you replied saying : The first thing is making sure that you can easily orgasm by yourself (without using a vibrator, dildo or excessive pressure). If you can easily orgasm while masturbating, then it’s a case of incorporating what you enjoy and get off on into your sex life.

    I find it extremely hard to orgasm by myself- I have to use vibrating wand and dildo. This and butt plug with a vibrator on my clit are literally the only ways I can make myself cum. Obviously this is extremely frustrating when having sex as I hardly ever get to orgasm , unless I sort myself out after whilst he’s touching other parts of my body. So I’ve got two questions-1. Are there any ways that could help me orgasm easier ?
    2. How we could make it easier to orgasm when having sex? There are few positions which allow the space for a wand on my clit !!

    Thanks 🙂

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    • Sean Jameson says

      December 21, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Hi Emma, it sounds like you’re in a frustrating situation. Certain medications can affect your ability to orgasm, as can nerve damage. Could these be the causes in your case?

      Sean

      Reply
      • Assy says

        January 14, 2016 at 1:07 pm

        Hi, have the same problem I hardly get orgasm, only when im masturbating. i used to take migraine medication. what can help?

        Reply
        • Sean Jameson says

          January 18, 2016 at 5:24 pm

          Try talking to your doctor to see if this is the cause.

          Reply
  71. Brenda says

    January 23, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    Sean,
    my boyfriend wants me to dirty talk with him during sex but I never know what to say. he doesn’t like the words cock or dick so I don’t know how to be sexy without saying those things like “oh your penis feels so good inside me.” doesn’t sound very sexy in my opinion. I just don’t know what I should say instead. please help!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 25, 2016 at 3:14 pm

      ask him what he DOES like 🙂

      Reply
  72. Jonothan says

    January 28, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    I think the OP is really presenting 2 things. In the examples of types of “Dirty Talk” at the top of the post, some are good examples and others are not really “Dirty Talk.” I get why Sean Jameson presents them as part of a kind of dirty talk spectrum, but I also can see where it could be confusing.

    In my opinion, you can express desire, body appreciation, and sexual anticipation, without necessarily being “dirty.” To me talking “dirty” is a bit more extreme and there really are two alternatives. I think that some people have a “kink” for either themselves or their partner talking in language that is not just racy but vulgar. It’s between consenting adults, of course, but they like talking in a way that we might relate more to drunken sailors who have been too long at sea. That is essentially fetish fulfillment.

    On the other hand, you can legitimately choose not to use “dirty talk” and still communicate your desire, your passion, your appreciation, just as effectively. All I’m saying is that something I almost never hear being said is that how to turn your partner on without anyone being a “slut” or “whore” or without the use of DICK/PUSSY/CUNT/TITS as some kind of guttural aphrodisiac. The same desires and dynamic are there no matter what language you choose to express them. I just think that I’d like to see effective ways to express these dynamics in BOTH ways more often on the internet.

    I have only posted here because think that Sean Jameson actually can address them both (unlike many others)

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  73. Alice says

    March 19, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    I have been dating a guy with ED almost a year even living together at one time. While he is great at satisfying me almost always I don’t seem to make him cum sometimes. He says it’s not me its just the way it is with him. We were apart for a month and then he didn’t cum again last night. Any suggestions on how to do better?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 21, 2016 at 2:05 pm

      Get him to stop masturbating for a few months and it should resolve itself

      Reply
  74. Tris says

    June 6, 2016 at 4:42 am

    Hi, I have a small problem.

    When I get ontop to ride my man, It’s like I can’t move literally. It’s like I can not position my feet properly. What should I do? Should we try another position?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 10, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      Try a variation like Asian Cowgirl.

      Reply
  75. Amanda says

    June 15, 2016 at 7:32 pm

    I wanted to thank you! I have been happily married for 15 years. WhIle things are still great for us, I wish I could do more in the bedroom. Like be more engaging, more sexier, more of a turn on. I want things to continue to be great! So, I thought I should up my dirty talk game and landed here looking for ideas. You helped me understand a couple of things. I have been dirty talking. It is the less explicit kind and I had dismissed it as dirty talk. I thought dirty talk had to be vulgar and abrassive. That isn’t me and while my husband could handle vulgar and abrassive, he knows that isn’t me either. The other thing you helped me understand that was how I may be effecting him. I didn’t realize how alluring a subtle comment in a crowded venue can be and I had started leaving my comments at the bedroom door. No more. I will be dusting those off and playing them again! Also, I understood how I can change up my bedroom talk for the variety I was seeking and in a way I am comfortable with. He has responded very well. So thank you!!

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  76. Kylie Turner says

    August 5, 2016 at 12:44 am

    hey my man is in prison how can i have phone sex tips on wat to say or write a letter he keeps asking but i dunt wanna say i dunt now how too thanks

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 5, 2016 at 10:37 am

      Check out the Phone Sex Guide here.

      Reply
  77. Nazanin Sound says

    August 12, 2016 at 7:41 am

    Hi
    I’m in an LDR (long distance relationship) with my boyfriend. He lives in another city and we hardly ever meet. Do u have any tips to keep our sex life all heated up even with the distance?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 12, 2016 at 4:14 pm

      Try Skype sex and sending him some saucy, sexy messages.

      Reply
  78. Kimberley says

    August 24, 2016 at 10:38 am

    Hi
    Me and my boyfriend are both facing an important exam and I’m afraid that we won’t have sex as often as we do before is there any way to fix this problem?
    Oh and btw he wanted me to say some dirty talk but I’m not really good at it

    Reply
  79. MAMAWOLF says

    August 27, 2016 at 6:41 am

    Hi sean,

    I’ve always had this question. On a women, we have a sweet spot, “the clitoris” that will make us orgasm very quickly if sucked, is there a secret spot on a man that will make him blow his load quickly? The head? The frenulum, or mid shaft? And what is a special technique i can use that will definitely get him off? Thank you <3

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 2, 2016 at 1:36 pm

      Usually it’s the top part of his penis. But everyone responds differently, so my advice is to talk to your man and find out what he needs to really get off.

      Reply
  80. Esther says

    August 28, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    hi Sean. my relationship is just 4months.when ever he is angry. I can’t turn him on.instead he push and shout at me,

    Reply
  81. selin walker says

    November 11, 2016 at 10:22 am

    hi i am female what type food or fruits i need to eat to have vaginal sweetness

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 18, 2016 at 10:25 pm

      Fruits like pineapple work great

      Reply
  82. Rif says

    December 14, 2016 at 5:19 am

    Hey Sean,
    I have following been following this site about a year and all tricks and tips have been very useful but is there anyway to talk dirty indirectly?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 16, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      Of course, it’s called innuendo.

      Reply
  83. Nick says

    December 30, 2016 at 2:07 am

    As a man I find this to be very true and this article has helped me and my girlfriend increase our sex life Thanks

    Reply
  84. Adrian says

    January 15, 2017 at 4:14 am

    Hi my name is adrian
    My man is very sexual and constantly want to have sex. We try almost everything in our sex life. How can I be more dirty and sexy with him? I feel bad cause he tells me he gets frustrated and wants me to do more. But there’s days I don’t feel pretty or sexy to give him what he wants what can I do to fill his needs?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 20, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      Talk to him and let him know about your needs too. Never feel like you *have* to do something. Great relationships are built on two partners contributing equally.

      Reply
  85. saiyada sanasty says

    January 16, 2017 at 10:09 pm

    My partner is always busy he dnt have time for me, so what should I do

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      January 20, 2017 at 2:22 pm

      talk to him!

      Reply
  86. Sherin Mathew says

    February 12, 2017 at 4:17 am

    could you suggest some words like “oh baby, come on, fuck me, taste my pussy” etc. that I may use while having sex with my boyfriend.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      February 17, 2017 at 10:30 am

      Lol, that’s what the article above is all about!

      Reply
  87. Tash says

    April 16, 2017 at 9:39 am

    Hi, i enjoy your website. May you please remove this comment. It is slightly inappropriate in my opinion. Thankyou and keep doing what you do.

    Reply
    • Fuck says

      July 3, 2017 at 9:46 pm

      Stfu remove your boring as commemt

      Reply
    • Dawn says

      August 2, 2019 at 9:50 pm

      If it bothers you why are you reading The Bad Girls Bible. Personally I found I either already say these things only better because I mean it I think it is mild.

      Tell him what you want and you know he wants and go for it. What are you savong your body for? Science?

      Reply
    • Mrs.Mashue says

      February 4, 2020 at 6:51 pm

      What? That makes zero sense.. a website that talks about anal sex and blow jobs and you think a comment saying you enjoy this website is inappropriate. That wouldn’t be Inappropriate on a children’s site! Lol

      Reply
  88. Tash says

    April 16, 2017 at 9:41 am

    Hi, tash again. May this comment be taken down as i find this inappropriate also. Thankyou very much.

    Reply
    • Pregnancy is a normal thing get over yourself says

      June 29, 2018 at 4:59 am

      this whole website is inappropriate.
      her comment isn’t any different than the others that ask for advice or tips, the only difference is that she’s pregnant, it doesn’t make it any worse than the other comments on this site.

      Reply
    • Me says

      June 17, 2020 at 5:56 pm

      You need to stay off this site then cause everything to you is inappropriate!!!

      Reply
  89. Jennifer says

    April 20, 2017 at 11:12 am

    That is just disturbing and sick you need help yo y would any father want to do that …holy shit u r one sick and twisted piece of work

    Reply
  90. Takeahike says

    May 9, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    I found that laying on our sides was the most pleasurable for me when pregnant. Also, the further along I got the more insatiable my desire became.

    Reply
  91. Ann says

    June 26, 2017 at 8:39 am

    All of these suggestions put the female in a very submissive role, what about phrases a dominant woman can say to her submissive man? That would be a good list? Maybe

    Reply
  92. caroline says

    July 28, 2017 at 8:54 am

    Hi Sean

    My question is how do i make him more relaxed with sexting in terms of him taking and sending nude pics to me without him feeling weird about it

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 31, 2017 at 9:26 am

      Talk to him about it

      Reply
  93. Alecia Harvey says

    August 9, 2017 at 12:36 am

    Hi. I’m in a relationship of 3 years it will be 4 in January. I don’t know exactly how to talk dirty or sexy. I tried but I was too nervous or I couldn’t find the right phrases. Both my boyfriend and me would like to talk dirty while having fun. Any tips?

    Reply
    • Makenzie says

      February 1, 2018 at 6:02 am

      well.. calling him daddy is a good start. if he wants to talk dirty but isn’t making the move he might secretively be unsure and insecure on whether you actually want to spice up the kinkiness. a good starting scenario is;
      “daddy?” see how he responds, “i don’t think i’ve been a good girl. i think i need a lesson.” this will win over his heart and his pene for sure haha

      Reply
  94. Been around says

    August 28, 2017 at 12:14 am

    Talk dirty to me if you want me to blow my load immediately. Don’t talk dirty to me if I am a premature ejaculatory. Fuck me, fuck me harder, cum in me, I want your cum, will all do it. Be direct and explicit. We men love your begging for us, or our man juice.

    Reply
  95. A. Egerton says

    November 27, 2017 at 4:48 am

    I’m honestly feeling a little nervous as I type this out right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. We are currently expecting our first child (I’m six months along at this point). Our sex life is… very enjoyable, but there are times where I’ve…wanted nothing more than to hear him growl or groan in pleasure. He is a very quiet lover, and sometimes, the quiet makes me feel like HE is not really enjoying what I have to offer. I would love to know if I’m REALLY giving him pleasure or if he’s just…going through the motions. I really don’t know what to do, and would appreciate any advice.

    A.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      November 27, 2017 at 11:07 am

      Talk to him and let him know what you are missing and want from him. Communication is the answer 😉

      Reply
  96. Makenzie says

    February 1, 2018 at 5:58 am

    hi so i just started talking dirty to my boyfriend, one night i was pretty drunk and it was fucking rolling off the tongue. but when we finished having sex he said that i was too much, a little bit of a turn off to him. at the same time, he loves dirty talk and the best times we get it on are when i run my mouth with dirt. i want to better myself in this, gain enough confidence, and be damn sexy along with my general cuteness he loves. any tips?

    Reply
  97. Amy says

    February 15, 2018 at 12:49 am

    Hi assy. Tell him to slide wet fingers in you slowly to stroke your G spot.Make sure he goes in about an inch and move his fingers foward like saying come here. You will cum for sure

    Reply
  98. K says

    February 25, 2018 at 1:03 am

    I have a question for any women out there. I am a husband married 24 years.The last few have not been good because of stress and probably re-menopause she has lost interest.Any suggestions of anything I can wear that she may like? When I ask she says no. She also is against anything I can think of to please her besides an occasional backrub. It make me feel guilty that I always want or need something. She wants no oral from me, no fingers, no vibrator. She has only had an orgasm once in the last year. We can only do it in the rare times we have the house to ourselves. I am not amazing looking. But I am OK for a 54 year old. i am in very good shape. (doing P90x now hoping she will like my looks better)

    I usually come to bed in flannel sleeping shorts. the same every nigh and have no ideas on something else to try.

    Thanks for any ideas.

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  99. Jamielee says

    March 14, 2018 at 10:33 am

    Hi,

    My new partner wants my to talk dirty as he loves slutty behaviour, I’m new to this as I was in a relationship for 5 years before and we didn’t really do the dirty thing and if we did I was never the one who had to come
    Up with what to say and how to turn him on by acting slutty.
    Can you help?

    Reply
  100. Maya says

    March 14, 2018 at 10:32 pm

    My boyfriend loves to dirty her especially in bed especially expressions like (I want to suck you bad, yeh fuck me hard …)

    Reply
  101. Don says

    April 7, 2018 at 3:32 pm

    Dirty Talk

    Hi Sean, my last girlfriend gave blowjobs bobbing up and down on me as fast as she could move. Although she Initiates the act but with no real enthusiasm it was like her duty to go down on me once in a while. It made me feel like she couldn’t wait for the BJ to be over. Was kinda of funny in a way the faster she went the longer it took me to cum. I was starting to not even like her giving me blowjobs. The sad part is my favorite thing was enjoying a good BJ before dating her which finally drove us apart.

    My new girlfriend is so enthusiastic in every way she is always grabbing my ass and crotch even in public when she thinks no ones looking. She says craziest things to me all the time. I can’t wait to we find a place or get home to put some lipstick on your big dipstick. She invited me over for a homemade meal when I got there she was in the kitchen I ask her what we were having for dinner and she goes your having a hamburger and I am having a tube steak as she dropped to her knees. I love how she talks to my penis changing it up all the. Mr. Penis you look so tasty. Mr. Penis I hope you fill my mouth full of that thick piping hot cum you make especially for me. Mr. Penis I am gonna take both your balls in my mouth to see if your cum factory is working overtime just for me. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want to cum in my mouth. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want to cum on my face. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want to cum on my tits. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want to cum somewhere else on me. Mr. Penis wiggle if would you like me to put a donut on you and eat it off. Mr. Penis wiggle if you would like to stand up in the chair so I can stand up also while I play music on your skin flute. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want me to deep throat you. Mr. Penis wiggle if you want my mouth now. I have never had so much fun getting a BJ it really takes the pressure off both of us. Words cannot explain how awesome she is…

    Reply
  102. Edith says

    April 28, 2018 at 3:28 am

    Hi Sean,

    I’ve followed the website for a long time now and really do love it but I was wondering if you have any tips on shyness in the bedroom..
    My boyfriend and i have sex regularly and its great but I am not the most confident person when it comes to initiating sex and i know that frustrates him. I’m just worried he will not like it or something but we have talked about it loads and for some reason i just can’t get past this one thing.
    So I’d like to know if you or anyone else has any tips over getting past being shy and nervous to initiate sex. It would help alot .

    Thanks, Edith

    Reply
  103. Ressey says

    May 28, 2018 at 5:40 pm

    Hey!! I’m a newbie here and love the information! It has helped sooo much. I have a question though. As my SO and I love rough sex, things are intensifying very quickly. He likes to choke me , pull my hair, throw me against the wall or on the bed. We are very aggressive, and recently said he wanted to make my mouth bleed so he can kiss it away. Don’t get me wrong I love it but the dirty talk also is getting intense. I’m slowly running out of things to say to him during sex. He likes calling me his dirty slut and sex kitten etc but he wants me to talk dirtier to him. What are some things I could say to keep him interested??

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 28, 2018 at 8:46 pm

      The Rough Sex Guide should help.

      Reply
  104. Esther says

    June 15, 2018 at 12:10 am

    My boyfriend is this kind of person that love sex and most especially he likes BJ and dirty talks can u guyz help me out

    Reply
  105. Mary says

    June 26, 2018 at 7:57 am

    Can anyone help decipher this dirty talk request? Or can you maybe add another chapter to dirty talk and call it “Dirty Talk To make your man feel like he’s a God” lol. Seriously though…

    I recently started a new sexual relationship but he is kind of sensitive (says his feelings get in the way) and tends to have trouble getting REALLY hard and with not lasting as long as he’d (or I’d) like. I asked him to tell me exactly what he wants and he replied with “I like to hear how one likes me or wants my cock but slow n rubbing my cock”

    Suggestions? If it helps, this is a forbidden relationship and he is educated (no he’s not my professor… although that’d be hot….) and thus very wordy so he likes quite a bit of variation to the regular old “your cock makes me wet” and “fuck me hard” kind of thing. I can literally feel his penis twich when I start quoting dirty lines from classic novels and especially Rennesance Era British literature (Shakespeare was a total freak… And a woman IMHO but that’s an argument for another site)

    Suggestions? Should I be running him with my hands or something else?

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  106. Rae says

    August 15, 2018 at 12:39 am

    Some one please help I have been with my fiancé for 3 years I am 19 and he is 32 he is beginning to lose all interest in me. I just found out about 6 months ago that I have to have a full hysterectomy which will enable me from having children ever since I told him he’s become more distant we had sex everyday until he found out admittedly I have put on a couple pounds since I found out doctor says it’s normal that after the Procedure I should go back to my normal weight but I’m getting married next June and I have to get him interested in me again I’m scared to lose him

    Reply
  107. Pearls says

    September 8, 2018 at 1:51 am

    My man always scream baby I cum and when he does I don’t know how to respond, what must I say? Please help.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 17, 2018 at 8:46 am

      You don’t have to respond, just enjoy the pleasure you’re giving him.

      Reply
  108. Pamela says

    September 14, 2018 at 1:16 pm

    I find it difficult being on top as my man is taller, bigger than me and he is pot bellied. What can i do to enjoy staying on top while making love as he also loves that position. His penis is also the normal size, not so big. Secondly what other positions can i use to satisfy him since he is huge and pot bellied and i am petite. He is an amazing guy and we love each other.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 17, 2018 at 8:36 am

      Hi Pamela,

      Ultimately it’s going to come down to experimentation. My advice is to try out lots of the positions in the Sex Positions Guide until you discover the ones that you BOTH enjoy.

      Reply
  109. Bella says

    November 28, 2018 at 1:22 pm

    Hi,
    So I love my boyfriend but I feel like our sex life can be boring at times.
    I’m not sure how to tease him during the day to make him go crazy, I’m not good at being flirty or anything.
    Our relationship is struggling due to not really being in the honeymoon phase anymore.
    Tips?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      December 3, 2018 at 9:15 am

      It’s totally normal for the honeymoon phase to end. This coincides with the novelty of your relationship subsiding. The key is rediscovering novelty and trying new things together.

      Reply
  110. Suman says

    January 21, 2019 at 6:16 pm

    Hi,
    Me and my boyfriend we live in different countries. We met online and started to like each other.We never met at real life becoz he needs time. He says he loves me so much and he didn’t has sex after meeting me online, which is almost seven months.He says loyalty is important for him.The problem started when we started to have sex texts.He is very sexual but that is not a problem, the problem is he likes to refer other people during sex. He wants me to say things like ” He can rip my sister ‘s pussy” or “fuck my friend hard so she will forget her boyfriend ” and many more things.It arouses him .But it makes me feel worthless, unwanted, makes me feel small, like i can’t make my man cum but other women could. We talk or argue so many times at this topic. He said it’s unlikely, he will change. He was always like this.I love him so much but it is painful…pls help me

    Reply
    • Adriana says

      January 28, 2019 at 6:26 am

      This could be something you can work through if it’s just a fantasy for him and never goes past dirty talk. Although, even then, he should respect your boundaries if it makes you uncomfortable. Involving other people is a common fantasy, and your man might want to look into why this does it for him. would you feel better if it wasn’t someone specific he talked about? is he willing to do things for you that aren’t his favorite? Is your sex life otherwise satisfying? Sometimes people have incompatible kinks or desires, and we just need to accept it and move on — especially if this bothers you and he won’t respect that.

      Reply
  111. Jessica says

    February 28, 2019 at 3:27 pm

    Please help me. My boyfriend says I dont fulfill his sexual needs enough because I don’t play with him enough or talk dirty enough. I’ve said most of the things on this list and he says that’s all PG-13 stuff and so if we get intimate and he says to talk dirty, my mind goes blank because to me I’ve said everything and it’s still not enough.. I am stressed and miserable because I feel like I do a lot in the bedroom but he’s never satisfied and I don’t want to give up. Do you have any x-rated tips I can do to drive him crazy

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 4, 2019 at 10:03 am

      Ask him specifically what he wants

      Reply
      • anomynous T says

        August 27, 2019 at 10:04 am

        i believe he wanted his girlfriend but bye sound of it he had other distractions obvisouly.

        Reply
  112. Wendy says

    January 14, 2020 at 2:52 am

    I’ve gotten the same reaction out of the only 2 men I’ve been with/dated after my divorce. “A little secret about me is…”I love tasting myself on your lips”
    At first they were speechless then were like omg! Let’s go.

    Reply
  113. Andrew says

    April 18, 2020 at 4:14 pm

    Hello! Do you have any similar guide for what to say to her? I love hearing these so i’m hoping there’s a version for what to say too

    Thanks in advance!

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      April 28, 2020 at 7:40 am

      You can repurpose a lot of these phrases for your girl

      Reply
  114. Brittany says

    June 17, 2020 at 10:59 pm

    My husband wants me to do different things and talk dirty to him what should I do n say..

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      June 22, 2020 at 7:16 am

      Use some of the examples above!

      Reply
  115. Kristina says

    July 10, 2020 at 7:30 pm

    My husband can’t cum. No matter what we do, what te hniques we use, even him going without masturbating for extended periods of time, he says he can’t feel anything enough to cum. He says it all feels nice (sex, BJs, handjobs, even footjobs), but says he can’t feel it much. Anything we can do?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      July 20, 2020 at 7:38 am

      He could have nerve damage. Does he have diabetes?

      Reply
  116. Boss says

    July 23, 2020 at 1:22 pm

    Ok a guy doesn’t want a girl saying aroused!! They need to say wet and fuck to express how they feel even if they don’t cuss. I’m a male but found this site for a girl to help her but working on the next and ya really need to talk to a guy. I’ve left work several times just to get laid or told the girl to go to the bathroom to make herself cum and send me pics. But if this explicit dirty talk then it’d fairly new to yourself bc I’m not gonna think anything other than she’s dorky

    Reply
  117. Jem says

    July 27, 2020 at 6:34 am

    Do u have Joi instructions written?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      August 3, 2020 at 7:19 am

      These masturbation techniques should help.

      Reply
    • Adeola Ajulo says

      August 29, 2020 at 2:58 pm

      Y’all are literally the best, I can’t wait to try these techniques out

      Reply
  118. ice_river says

    September 23, 2020 at 11:13 am

    Imagine if you ask him to insult you, then he calls you dumb.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      September 28, 2020 at 7:14 am

      Haha!

      Reply
  119. KAREN says

    October 12, 2020 at 10:54 pm

    Girlfriend…just an fyi..my nasty boyfriend(he drives me crazy) …LOVES a pregnant woman…this is a huge turn on for him…hes the best!!! Just sayin…

    Reply
  120. Cari says

    February 21, 2021 at 11:51 am

    This was a good read.
    My ex husband and I did a 30 day “challenge” one summer. It was right after the pods challenge… it was summer time, hot, sweaty inside, and miserable and sticky outside…. We had been together 14 years when we tried this. Absolutely no excuses werw allowed. We never did set up a punishment, just followed the agreement. Imagine trying to cook dinner after work, and getting your pants pulled down and being ravaged, hoping the kids don’t walk downstairs. (We could hear them if they were, so we were discreet)

    It really opened some closed feelings, It was like we were kids again. The best part was him bragging about it to his friends on the field in the community between games.

    TBH that turned me on sometimes.

    Salud

    Reply
  121. Me says

    May 9, 2021 at 11:35 pm

    I appreciate that you answer every comment.

    Deep respects
    – Me

    Reply
  122. Kuvera Ocean says

    March 4, 2022 at 4:42 am

    Dear Sean,
    My inquiry is this. I love my beau without a doubt and we can speak transparently and really about our sexual coexistence we joke and play and have no issues examining what we need for sure our cutoff points are. I love filthy talk and he is generally excellent at it however I appear to continue to hit some psychological barrier I would message him every one of the underhanded things I need to be able to say and do yet when I attempt to say them without holding back I can’t do it I chuckle and blush and mollusk up. What else is there to do so I can move past this ponderousness?

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      March 21, 2022 at 8:53 am

      Our guide on effective sexual communication should help.

      Reply
  123. Jodi says

    April 21, 2022 at 2:21 pm

    I need some great more knowledge because my husband lives in Oslo so I need to keep him more better sexting

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 24, 2022 at 8:21 am

      The Dirty Talking Guide should help.

      Reply
  124. John says

    August 7, 2022 at 1:56 pm

    Ok. I think I have a method that will help those struggling with dirty talk.
    We have been married 33 years. I am 66 and my wife is 125 pound gorgeous redhead innocent looking MILF age 60. 3 adultchildren.
    Our dirty talk has exploded in last couple of years because I read idea that it has most powerful reaction when it is customized and personalized.

    So she calls me worthy master because I was president of my college fraternity which I never told her and that is the official title.
    I call her nasty bitch daily and especially “ are u good whore for your husband” in bedroom last 6 months.

    What I discovered is she was very shy about dirty talk years ago and so I started to make it easy for her by telling her what I wanted her to say.
    She can’t read my mind and I realized how natural it is so easy for me to tell her what I want her to say. I guess this is like my playing the Director role playing that Sean presents for us.

    It has taken time but eventually she learns what I like to hear and starts to repeat it. So I have her trained to use phrases I find most stimulating like “fuck my mouth you horny old bastard” or I ask her “which cum hole do you want me to use?” And she responds.

    Also if you do this long enough you will be surprised about what comes out of her mouth. She was a navy commander in reserves for 25 years. It almost broke up our marriage when she was deployed to Germany after 911 for 2 years and left me with our 3 children age 2-9.

    So we just bought a second home in st Augustine Fl and when we went by the NAS in Jacksonville I told her I wanted her to buy a dress white officers uniform so she could dress up in it in the bedroom. She said she still had her old one with all the insignias in storage but was considering getting rid of it.

    I told her I really want her to get it out and start wearing it but she didn’t want to do and still hasn’t.

    So last weekend we were having sex and she was giving me trademark 30 minute blowjob and I called her a cocksucking commander and she took my cock out of her mouth and said no it’s cocksucking commander callgirl.

    Where did the callgirl come from? So we have been using that name for her and we both enjoy it because it is our life story. Fortunately I recorded it on video as usual so I can listen to her magic words anytime.

    So tell her what you want her to say to get her started with dirty talk and you may be surprised where u end up.

    Reply
  125. Mia says

    November 23, 2022 at 6:20 pm

    Hello. Late 40s woman in a 3 year relationship. Sex is amazing. We have lots of fun together however when it comes to blow jobs (which I love giving) it’s hit or miss if he cums or not. It’s been inconsistent since the beginning. Maybe hit 5 times in a row then miss 2-5 times after that in a row. He gets to the point of arousal to finishing and then something changes. It goes downhill from there. It’s so frustrating for both of us and such a strain on our sexual relationship. I love to please him and have been told many times I give a great blowjob. He probably gets one 3-5x a week. I don’t think it’s me but I end up feeling to blame sometimes. Not sure what is happening. Any ideas?!!! Please help!!

    Reply
  126. Nils says

    February 24, 2023 at 12:30 pm

    Lots of good advice and suggestions here. But I would strongly object to “If you play your cards right, you’ve got some pleasure/fun coming your way”. This is a mere transactional message and, unless you are in a specific BDSM kind of kinky situation, nobody is interested in having to play his or her cards right in order to have some fun or pleasure. Your partner is not your pet (again: unless you are in a BDSM situation where your partner enjoys exactly this: pretending to be your pet): Don’t create ridiculous hoops and hurdles as gateway guards for having a good time and achieving mutual sexual pleasure. Promising pleasure and fun should not result in a test situation.
    Just don’t do this. Use all the other good examples here, but not this one.

    Reply
  127. Levi says

    May 20, 2023 at 12:29 am

    Bad Girls Bible exists. Is there a separate site for Guys? Bad Boys guys? As a male, I also want to learn about dirty talking, sexting, and all that. Even though the site has some stuff for males it’s still mostly focused on females.

    Reply
    • Sean Jameson says

      May 23, 2023 at 10:23 am

      Yep, we have an entire section teaching you how to pleasure your woman.

      Reply
  128. Paula says

    June 4, 2023 at 11:44 am

    I am 56 my hubby is 46. We have been married 20 years. He fucks me so good. Yesterday I sent him text telling him how I wanted him to fuck me when got home. I was waiting on our bed for him. He tore my pussy up. I can barely walk today.

    Reply
  129. Bolatito says

    October 6, 2023 at 6:13 am

    Thank you for this, I enjoyed everything, but I will love you if you can help me. I have never had sex before and I am ready to have but my virginal is too tight and the penetration is not coming in, it is too painful still no penetration. How can you help me so I can keep my relationship 🥹🙏

    Reply
  130. AGuyRingingBell says

    November 18, 2023 at 1:45 pm

    What always drive me crazy is when she let you know (in a dirty way) she doesn’t wear any panty. The less i’d be able to be reactive on the spot (public/friend party..), the more it intensify the desire continuously thinking of it.

    Reply
  131. Paula says

    June 27, 2024 at 10:51 am

    I am 57 my hubby is 41. I am a screamer and I love talking dirty to my hubby as he fucks. It turns us both on. I mean the whole house can hear me. My hubby loves it when I tell him to fuck my pussy as he pounds me relentlessly.

    Reply
  132. MP says

    August 12, 2024 at 9:26 pm

    My partner is pretty vanilla… I’m not. I’m more sub…. he said “saying daddy is weird”, and I went “noooo!” But I don’t think he got the hint.
    I don’t know how to be blunt with him, because I really like him and I’m afraid we just aren’t going to be sexually compatible. But I could really use some good old fashioned kinky sex!

    Reply

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