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Learning how to give a great hand job to your man is a valuable weapon to have in your sex toolbox, along with learning how to give a good blow job. That’s why I’m giving you 23 different hand job techniques below that will bring your man back-arching ecstasy and having him begging you for more.Now, you may be wondering what the best hand job technique is.
The truth is there is no perfect, works-on-every-guy hand job technique.
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This is crucial to understand. It’s something I also talk about when learning how to pleasure your man. The truth is different guys like different things. So if you think that one hand job tip will work every time on every guy, then you are mistaken.
Fortunately, this article will teach you enough different hand job ideas, techniques, and tips so you will always have something for your man to enjoy.
Before we get to my famous hand job techniques, we’re first going to cover a CRUCIAL aspect of hand jobs that is often overlooked.
1. Your Hands
Of course, the most important part of learning how to give a good hand job is your hands. Rough, calloused hands aren’t going to make for a particularly satisfying hand job and can even make it painful (unless your man likes rough sex)
So before you even get to giving your man a hand job, make sure your hands are soft and smooth so that they provide maximum pleasure.
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Here’s a quick checklist of things you should probably do beforehand if your hands aren’t in good shape:
- Use a pumice stone on tough callouses.
- Keep your hands moisturized, so they stay soft.
- Keep your nails free of sharp edges that may hurt him.
- Keep them clean.
2. The Build Up…Or No Build Up
Many women adore a slow build up towards sex. Sexual tension, slowly amped up throughout an evening, day or even whole week, followed by teasing foreplay before reaching a climax of lust and passion can be incredibly satisfying and even addictive.
Many men also enjoy this build up and being teased into a sexual frenzy.
But others find that a long build with sexual tension and foreplay before sex can be frustrating and even a turn off. They hate it.
So keep this in mind for your man. If he doesn’t enjoy foreplay and prefers getting right down to it, then scroll down to the next technique.
If he does enjoy it, then before you even take his penis out of his trousers, try slowly and gently massaging his penis outside his pants. This is probably the easiest thing you can do to turn him on and arouse him. You just need to use your hand(s) to massage his inner thighs, his testicles and his penis outside his trousers. It’s that simple!
You’ll find that you can also use your fingers to slowly ‘tickle’ his balls and penis while doing this.
You can use this technique for as little as a minute before you start giving him a hand job. But, you can also do it for much longer if you are sitting down on the sofa watching TV or just lying in bed together.
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3. Reach Inside With Gentle Fingers
After rubbing your man outside his trousers for a while, you will then want to move inside. You will need to unzip his trousers and pull them down along with his briefs too.
You may be eager to start giving him a hand job the minute you see his penis, but at this stage, it’s still a good idea to keep teasing him and building anticipation. So, instead of just grabbing his penis and starting to give him a hand job, move your fingertips gently over it.
Make sure to keep your touch super light and soft as you trail your fingers up and down his penis. Try touching him like this as far down as his perineum (the patch of rough skin between his testicles and anus) all the way to the head of his penis, aka the glans.
Side note: Use these tips to make him hard if he isn’t already.
4. Precum Play
If he is already pre-cumming at this stage, touch it with a fingertip and then slowly trace your fingertip around the head of his penis spreading his precum across it.
His precum is the perfect lube, so it will make the sensations from your fingertips even more intense. The longer you build up to foreplay, the more likely your man will start producing precum. So, don’t be surprised by a lack of precum if you suddenly launch into giving him a hand job.
5. The Gentle Claw
Another very sensual hand job technique is to make your fingers into a sort of claw, just like the ones you find in those games in bowling alleys and games arcades where you try to position the claw and then pick up a prize, usually a teddy bear or stuffed animal.
This time you’ll be keeping your fingertips together as you lower your hand onto the head of his penis. Your fingertips will touch it first. Then allow your fingertips to spread out over the head of his penis as you lower it further down.
You can focus everything on the head of his penis, or you can move your fingers further down to his shaft too.
Simply moving your hand up and down with a minimal amount of pressure will provide him with lots of sensations, especially if you are using lube. Of course, you can changes things up too, by varying the amount of pressure you apply.
Related: This is also something you can try when giving your man a lingam massage.
6. Traditional With A Twist
The ‘standard’ or traditional way to give your man a hand job is to grab his penis and wrap your fingers around it and then stroke it up and down. It’s easy, but it’s slightly dull.
Thankfully there is an easy way to enhance this technique for more pleasure.
- Start by grabbing his penis and wrapping your fingers around the shaft. Your pinky finger should be closest to his balls while your index finger should be closest to the top of his penis.
- Slowly stroke him up and down with your hand as you normally would.
- This step is the important part: While stroking him up and down, rub your thumb over and back on the head of his penis. This means that your fingers will perform the standard up and down hand job technique, while your thumb is focused only on pleasuring the top of his penis.
- Lube makes this technique much easier for you and far more satisfying for him.
Read: Try these lube alternatives if you haven’t got any on hand.
7. Double Handed Backhand
The previous technique feels wonderful for your man, but it can be a bit tricky to master quickly. A much easier way to perform ‘Traditional With A Twist’ is to use both hands.
One hand will be focused on his shaft, jerking it up and down.
The other will be focused on the head of his penis. Here are some hand job techniques you can use to stimulate the head and the tip.
- Keeping your fingers loose, run the tips of them over the head and then back again.
- Use the tip of one finger to make small circles around the tip of his penis.
- You can replace the hand that is stimulating the top of his penis with your tongue during a blow job. Your taste buds are slightly rough which means they provide massive amounts of stimulation without it ever being uncomfortable.
8. The Escalator
I call this technique ‘The Escalator’ because your hands never stop moving, just like an escalator never stops moving.
To start, you’re going to take your right hand and stroke him all the way from the top of his penis down to the bottom. Once your right hand reaches the bottom of his penis, take it away. You won’t be stroking back upwards.
As your right hand reaches the bottom, take your left hand and perform the same motion, stroke him from the top of his penis all the way down to the bottom. When you reach the bottom of his penis, take your left hand away.
Now use your right hand again, and then your left, and then your right and so on. You will be doing this so that the moment your right hand reaches the bottom of his penis, you will then start stroking downwards with your left hand and so on.
This way, your man’s penis will be feeling a constant stream of sensation from your hands. I highly recommend using lots of lube for this one.
Remember: The entire time, you will be stroking downwards only, from the tip of his penis to the base of his penis.
9. Balls In Play
In case you don’t already know, your man’s balls are insanely sensitive. So if you are just learning how to give a hand job, then you need to take advantage of this fact. This means that you can use one hand to give him a hand job, while at the same time using your free hand to massage his testicles. Here are some super erotic ways to do it.
Fondling – Fondling your man’s balls is the easiest way to play with them. Cup them in your hands and play with them using your fingers. You should be super light here, allowing them to fall through your fingers and gently tickling them with your fingertips.
Pro Tip: Try this technique the next time you and your man shower together. Use a small amount of soap or shampoo on his balls for an extra silky feeling. You can also go further and learn how to have great shower sex using these hot shower sex positions or get a bit selfish and learn how to masturbate with a shower head.
Squeezing – Instead of just fondling his testicles, you can take them into your hand and softly squeeze them. The key word is ‘softly.’ If you are too hard or rough here, you may hurt your man and even injure him.
Pulling – This technique also requires caution, so you need to be gentle here. Otherwise, you may injure him. You need to gently grab your man’s testicles and softly pull them away from his body. This doesn’t provide that much stimulation during a hand job, but some guys adore this pulling technique as they climax and reach orgasm.
Licking/Sucking – This final testicle technique is more of a blow job technique. While giving him a hand job, you can take his balls into your mouth and softly lick, suck and massage them with your tongue. Of course, you need to careful not to hurt him or accidentally use your teeth here.
Further reading: How to avoid using your teeth during a blow job.
This technique can be crazy hot when your man is about to cum.
Here’s how it would work: If he is standing, get down on your knees, like in this kneeling blow job position and take his balls into your mouth. Meanwhile, you should still be giving him a hand job. Then as he is cumming, he can give you a facial, depending on the position of his penis.
Doing this can feel a little awkward and be pretty tiring on your arms, so don’t worry if you feel exhausted after less than a minute of doing this.
Extra resource: Learn how to suck a guy’s balls.
Milking & Sucking – An awesome way to suck your man’s balls while giving him a hand job is to have him get down on all fours so that when you are giving him a hand job, it looks like you are milking a cow. Seriously! The easiest way to give him a hand job (or milk him!) when he’s on all fours is to position yourself behind him.
In this position, his balls will also be exposed, so it’s perfect for sucking him. Take his balls into your mouth while using your hand(s) to milk him.
Also, you’ll be in the perfect position to start eating his ass. Speaking of eating ass…
10. Anilingus Hand Job
If you are just figuring out how to give a hand job to your man for the first time, then you may want to skip this next tip. It’s called anilingus and as the name suggests, it involves pleasuring your man’s butt.
You need to set your man up just like in the previous technique: he should be on all fours, and you should be behind him.
While giving your man a hand job, you are in the perfect position for anilingus. All you need to do is lick your man’s anus and around it. You can also try licking his perineum in this position. Just make sure to check that it’s clean first!
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11. The Frenulum Is Your Friend
Like I said previously, the most sensitive area on his penis is the head or glans; that’s the purple part on the top of his penis.
But the head of his penis covers a relatively large area, and you may be wondering what the most sensitive spot on the head is…
For almost all guys, the most sensitive spot on the head of their penis is the frenulum. This is the tiny piece of flesh on the underside of his penis that connects the shaft to the head, and it feels almost like a piece of string to the touch.
The most important piece of advice I can give you about the frenulum is to be gentle with it. If you apply intense pressure to it during a hand job, then it will probably feel painful for your man.
Instead, you need to be soft and gentle with it. Here are three hand job ideas to try on his frenulum
- Run your fingertips lightly over it.
- Softly flick it from side to side
- Stroke it up and down with just one finger.
An excellent hand job tip for finishing your man off is to start playing with his frenulum only when he is about to cum. This can make his orgasm feel very different when compared to a regular hand job.
Many men find that their frenulum is by far the most sensitive spot on their bodies. However, for some men, they don’t find it particularly sensitive.
You can learn more about your man’s most sensitive areas or erogenous zones.
12. Twisting In Opposite Directions
Hand jobs aren’t just about stroking his cock up and down with a little variation here and there. You can also try twisting your hands around his cock instead of stroking it.
You may be wondering what the most pleasurable way to twist your hands around his cock is…just follow these guidelines:
- Grab the bottom part of his shaft with one hand and grab the remaining part of his penis with your other hand so that both hands are holding it. Don’t worry if your bottom hand is holding most of his penis and your other hand doesn’t have much to hold.
- Without applying much pressure, rotate one hand in a clockwise direction around his penis while rotating your other hand in an anti-clockwise direction.
- When you can’t turn either hand any further in one direction, change direction and rotate each hand as far as possible in the opposite direction.
- This sounds like quite a slow process, but it is much more pleasurable the faster you do it. Lube also helps you to speed it up without hurting your man.
NOTE: This can feel very much like giving your man an ‘Indian burn’ or ‘Chinese burn’ on his penis if you accidentally apply too much pressure and grab the skin of his penis. Doing this is excruciatingly painful for him.
So make sure that you use light enough pressure that your hands pass over the skin of his penis with ease without actually grabbing the skin.
And remember, using plenty of lube makes this far, far easier and safer.
Related: You can use this twisting technique in conjunction with these 43 erotic role play ideas to keep things fresh.
13. The Ring
The Ring is a very simple hand job technique to use if you are struggling to come up with new ideas. You just need to make an ‘O’ shape by touching the tip of your index finger to your thumb.
Then instead of wrapping your whole hand around your man’s shaft, use only the ‘O’ and then stroke him up and down with it.
When you combine The Ring with The Escalator technique that I mentioned above, it can feel both exhilarating for your man and very different to any other hand job technique.
Read: 29 new things to try in bed.
14. Stroking Fast & Slow
When you masturbate by yourself, you may enjoy pleasuring yourself at various speeds. Sometimes you don’t have time for a long, teasing build up and need to be fast. While on other occasions, you may have all the time in the world and take it slowly.
Both can feel fantastic but are very different.
The same applies for your man. Giving him a quick hand job while he’s standing in front of the mirror brushing his teeth in the morning can be super hot and very unexpected. It’s going to feel very different to giving your man a massage and finishing it off with a slow, sensual hand job using lube.
This is the magic of changing up the speed of your hand jobs; you can provide your man with completely different sensations that still make him shake, shudder and scream as you make him cum.
Pro Tip: If you are trying out a new hand job technique on your man, try starting slowly. You’ll find that it helps you master it faster.
Learn: How to have slow sex. and tips to have a hot quickie.
15. Prostate Play
I’m only going to touch on this briefly as I have created a whole separate guide on how to find and stimulate the male G Spot…many men adore having their prostate played with, and you’re in the perfect position to massage his prostate when giving him a hand job.
To stimulate his prostate, you need to slide a finger inside his anus about 2-3 inches and then curl the tip backward towards his balls. The position of his prostate in his ass is similar to the position of your G Spot in your vagina.
You then need to stimulate it by stroking it, massaging it, pressing it and moving your finger in and out like you would when stimulating your G Spot (G Spot massage techniques here).
If your man isn’t used to anal play, then you need to take your time and make sure that your nails are trimmed. Using lube is very necessary, so make sure to have some nearby. If you want to try it in the spur of the moment, then saliva can be a good alternative.
For more tips on massaging his prostate, make sure to also check out the Prostate Massage Guide.
16. Talking Dirty
Talking dirty to your man is not strictly a hand job technique, but it’s a way to change things up and add yet another hyper pleasurable angle to your hand job toolbox.
While lying in bed together, try leaning over and start whispering some of these 64 dirty talk examples in his ear while jerking him off. Talking dirty in this situation can be slightly tricky if you don’t know what to say. Thankfully, there are two very easy things you can do.
1. Just tell him what you are doing, let him know how it feels and ask him for some feedback. Here’s an example:
“I love feeling your cock in my hand and hearing you groan every time I stroke it. I can feel you precumming now and I’m going to rub it all over the tip of your cock. How does that feel? Do you want it faster or slower? I can’t wait to feel you explode and cum everywhere for me.”
This is much hotter if you softly whisper it in his ear instead of saying it loudly.
2. Narrate a story for him as you jerk him off…making it about your hand job is even better! Here’s an example:
“I’m that girl your mom warned you about. I just need to grab hold of your dick and then you’re mine. I can stroke you fast or I can stroke you slow, it doesn’t matter, because when your dick is in my hand I control not only your orgasms, but I control you. And, I know you like it when I dominate you.
Now I want you to imagine all the hot, nasty, filthy things I could do to you as I jerk you off. It could be me whipping you, it could be me sitting on your face, it could be me tying you down in bondage and fucking you against your will or it could be me giving you this hand job.”
If you are struggling to saying something, then try these 81 filthy, hot lines you can use during sex. Here’s an additional 91 dirty things you can say to your man.
17. Put On A Show For Me
If you aren’t sure what technique your man enjoys most, then the best thing you can do is getting him to show you. Not only will you learn what he likes most, but you also get to see your man in complete ecstasy. As you lie down beside him and get him to jerk himself off, take note of:
- How he positions his hand(s).
- How fast or slow he jerks himself off.
- Does he hold his penis tightly or loosely?
- Does he speed up before he cums?
- Does he slow down or loosen his grip and he is cumming?
Once you know how he likes to get himself off, then it’s time to steal his techniques so you can use them on him yourself.
Side note: You may also want to show him your favorite masturbation techniques, so he knows exactly what you like.
18. Lube Or No Lube
A nice way to increase the sensations when giving your man a ‘handy’ is to use some lube. You just need to have it close by when you start giving him a hand job and then add a little bit to your hands and his penis. This will make everything feel more slippery, sexy and luscious for both of you.
While you can certainly buy lube specifically for sex, you can just use coconut oil which is also edible. Do bear in mind that coconut oil does not play well with condoms and will degrade them quickly as it’s oil based, so if you plan on moving on to sex after your hand job, make sure you use a water-based lube instead.
19. When Consistency Is Key
Many women (perhaps including you) find that a consistent rhythm during clitoral stimulation is best when you want to make yourself cum. If your man breaks this rhythm when rubbing your clit, it can be super frustrating.
Many guys feel the same when you are giving them a hand job (or blow job). As he gets closer and closer to orgasm, keeping a consistent rhythm is going to feel way more pleasurable than stopping and starting. So bear this in mind when your man is close to orgasm.
20. What Happens When He Reaches Orgasm
As your man reaches orgasm, you may be wondering,
“What do I do now?”
You only need to worry about two things here:
- Where he shoots his load
- How much pressure to apply
1. Where he shoots his load – This all depends on your preferences. If you enjoy it, you can let him ejaculate into your mouth and swallow his cum or spit it out. If you’re naked, then you can allow him to ejaculate over your face, neck, breasts or any part of your body. You can also let him blow his load over your hands. Some people find this super hot; others don’t. It all comes down to personal preference. Just be careful that it doesn’t get into your vagina if you’re not on the pill!
Alternatively, if you don’t want his cum covering your body, you can let him ejaculate onto his own body or elsewhere.
2. How much pressure to apply – As your man starts to ejaculate and shoot streams of semen from his penis, it may become super sensitive to touch. In this case, you should dramatically loosen your grip and slow down, so it’s not painful for him.
Many women experience the same problem when climaxing; their clitoris becomes extra sensitive and even painful to touch.
While not all guys experience this ‘super-sensitivity,’ most do.
For more on finishing your man off so that he screams out in pleasure, check out these techniques from our guide on giving great head.
By the way: If you get off to giving your man pleasure while dominanting him, you may be a Pleasure Dom.
21. Exciting New Locations
The easiest way to give your man a new hand job experience is to change the place where you jerk him off. Most couples reserve all their sexy times for the bedroom, but there are so many other great locations where you can totally blow your man’s mind with your hand job skills.
- In the bathroom when he is getting ready for the day or just before bed.
- When you’re both sitting down on the sofa together.
- Sneaking into a bathroom together at a party.
- While he’s driving (just make sure not to break any laws!). Tips & positions for having fantastic car sex.
- Jumping in the shower with him after he’s had a long day.
These are just a few examples. The key is doing some experimenting with new locations to see which you both find most exciting.
Related: If you like having sex outside, then try giving him a hand job outside.
22. Get Feedback
I’ve given you a huge bunch of different hand job tips, techniques, and ideas, but the crazy thing is that your man may only find a small fraction of them to be particularly enjoyable. You see, every guy is different and has different turn ons and techniques that he likes during a hand job.
While one guy may enjoy a particular technique, it may not be particularly satisfying for the next guy. So, you can spend lots of time trying to guess which technique he likes the most, but this is very haphazard, and you’ll never be sure if he likes it or not.
The simple solution is to talk to him and get feedback on the techniques you are using.
Read: Our guide to great sexual communication should help.
You don’t need to interrogate him, but it is a good idea to ask him, “How does that feel?” or “Do you like that?” while trying a new technique or if you prefer, you can wait until after he has cum to ask him.
Even though this isn’t necessarily a hand job technique per se, I had to include it as many women (and men) never actually talk about this stuff and end up fumbling around for years, never sure if they truly satisfy their partner or not!
23. More, More, More….
Now that you know how to give a good hand job to your man (or any man), it’s time to learn some more powerful sex techniques. With this in mind, you may have noticed is that it’s very natural and easy to transition from a hand job to sucking his cock…you just need to get your mouth involved.
24. Bonus Tip From A Reader
I’m an “old guy”…I’m 68 years old…and I find it very interesting that so many women want to know how to give great hand jobs. Also, I want them to know that I have had a lot of sexual experiences in my life with many different women, and it’s amazing to me that so many women…and I mean women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s…don’t know how to give a good, pleasurable, hand job!
In fact, I am visiting a woman today, late 30s, maybe 40, that I met two weeks ago, had sex with, and had her give me a hand job after the sex, and before I left, as I was getting aroused again…and, honestly, it was pitiful! It was dry…”mechanical”…”jerky”…really like she had no idea of what might feel good to me, but wanted to please me…which I appreciated!
Now, this pretty lady has been married and divorced, and has a “boyfriend” right now, although he is out of town for some time, due to work. Yet, she still had very little clue on how to give a good hand job.
That is all going to change! lol
So, today I am going over for another visit as, at my age, while I still love sex in all it’s forms, it gets very difficult to find willing women to play with. So, when I do, on occasion, find one of those great ladies, I do all I can to promote a good time for the both of us. Today, we will be working on her “hand maiden” techniques…no “regular” sex….well, maybe just a quick Doggy Style hump!, lol…but I am going to teach her how to give great hand jobs, and I won’t be leaving until she has made me cum at least twice…most likely three times…and I know she can do it, as I’ve taught other women to do it…and they have been happy to have me take the time, and patience, to show them what feels good, how fast…and slow…to go…and basically use all the techniques that are talked about in this article…a great article, by the way!
Women should realize that a great hand job is very much like a good fuck…sometimes it’s fast, and sometimes it’s slow…or even VERY slow…but is almost never faster than a women could use her vagina while sitting on top in the Cowgirl position. So, if you get going too fast, remember that little tip…never faster than you can “milk him” with you on top…and some women can milk pretty fast on top! lol
One other tip for the ladies that are worried or a bit discouraged…DON’T GIVE UP!
You might suggest to your boyfriend/husband, that you would really like to tie him to the bed…arms and legs spread out and tied to the four corners (light bondage tips). Tell him that you would like to be in total control, and that you just want to play with his cock…and that IF he cums, that’s fine, but if he doesn’t, that’s okay too. The point is that YOU want to just play with his dick, and do what you want…then do it!
Go slow…go fast…stroked it…suck it…”waggle it” around while holding on to the base of his cock…really just do what ever you want…but keep in mind that you really do want to get him to cum.
You might even put a blind fold and a gag over his mouth so he has nothing to say about what you are doing…that is a kinky sex idea to try.
And another thing…you don’t have to stop just because he cums one time…tell him that is “not enough today”…that you want to “drain him dry”…and slowly start to stroke him again…I can almost guarantee that he will start to get hard again very soon…and just keep going…if..and when…he cums…do it again…it’s amazing how many times it works. You will eventually reach a point where he is NOT going to get hard again…so, slowly end the “session”. But tell him how much you enjoyed it, and that you were “quite impressed” with how well his cock “performed” for you. He will love it.
After he is soft again…and staying soft…you can take off the “gag”, if you used one, and even ask him to tell you what he thought about what you just did to him…but keep him tied up, just for fun. lol
Just remember…KEEP HIS COCK “SLICK!’…use your mouth…or lots of lotion/lube…so that there is NEVER any friction, or “pinching” of his skin…try to make your hand…and/or mouth…feel like the inside of your hot, wet pussy!
Anyway, I hope that this helps at least one lady in some manner. It’s worked for me on several women, and turned them into hand job/blow job experts…and is definitely a WIN/WIN scenario!…in fact, I have “turned the tables”, and tied up several women the same way when I ate their pussy (tips on how to eat pussy), and told them that I was going to do “whatever I wanted” with them, and, sure enough…they absolutely LOVED it!. LOL
Good luck, don’t get discouraged, just keep trying…it’s well worth it, and really, sex is one of the greatest treasures God gave us all….enjoy it!
Have fun!
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I can not find any thing about anal sex in your site.would you please learn about this kind of sex.
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My husband and I have been married for 5 years and things are getting a little boring (routine) in the bedroom. I would like to learn how to give a hand job. Maybe it would spruce things up a bit. I am a little nervous about doing this though… I’ve never really given one. I have started before but stopped. I’m always afraid that I’m gripping him too tight or not tight enough. It would be so much easier if women could try a penis on for a day… It really would clear a lot of things up.
Lol, this made me laugh! Hope it works out for you!
Sean
I’ve read several articles on your website and they are all things I’ve never done any advice
Hi Krystal,
My advice is to try out some of the easier-to-do things that you are most comfortable with trying.
Sean
What is the best position in which to give hand jobs? is standing in front of him too hard? what about sitting on his lap while making out?
I’ve always had great outcomes by sitting behind him so it is the same position he is in when he does it himself. It will feel totally natural to him and it will help you to be able to do the act in a comfortable position and let you be able to do it longer before you get tired and it starts to hurt you
What are the best positions in which to give hand jobs? does standing up work?
Hi Serafina,
It really comes down to your and your man’s personal preferences. There is no ‘best handjob position’. So standing up, sitting down and even lying down can all work great.
Sean
Personal experience and believe me I’m a hand-job freak. I’d pass-up sex for a good hand job – if you’ll believe me. There’s something so intense about a good hand-job from someone you care deeply about that its in-describe-able.
Ok so for the position: Get him to lie on his back on the bed. Sit at the side of his knees, facing him and able to look into his eyes and give him a hand-job. Look into his eyes and do it. You can also use your free hand to rub his chest and stomach.
Do it that way and see – you’ll be his queen forever!
So I have limited experience, and I’ve been reading over this page extensively because I recently had a handjob experience that befuddled me slightly. I like to think of myself as fairly informed in sexual matters and have been able to pleasure myself (and other women) with my hands no problem. I know that men are different but I always assumed that it would be a little bit easier! So basically I was with a guy and I knew he was really excited; I’d led up to it with lots of foreplay, kissing, stroking over the pants and teasing his thighs, getting him into it, and when we got to it he was even giving instruction on what to do (“touch the head a little more”, etc) which I took to be a good sign. Communication is key, right? And I would adjust and he would be very vocal. So I guess my curiosity is about how as things really started to pick up, he seemed to get frustrated and “took over” for a minute, doing it at a much faster pace than I had (maybe frustration and impatience), and then when he was about to come led my hand back over to help him finish. I guess this was a case of my not doing it fast and hard enough? I guess I just felt a little insecure since I don’t usually have such a problem getting people off – much more difficult people, in fact – or so I thought!
Hi Natasha,
Often the problem lies in the fact that your man may be used to masturbating on his own with his ‘own special technique’. If he is, then he will have pretty much trained himself to only get off by his own hand and it’s not actually a case of being ‘hard and fast enough’
So the most likely scenario is that it’s not your problem or fault in the least.
Sean
I had the same problem with my boyfriend. It was my second time and he took my hand away and then finished. It made me feel insecure. Like I did something wrong.
I have a similar problem… I was giving my boyfriend a handjob, then he took over, and let me try again, but after almost an hour, he didn’t cum, and he was starting to soften. I felt really bad about this, and started to blow him in hopes that he would cum, but again, after almost an hour he didn’t, and started to soften again… Afterwards, we tried to talk about it, and he said he didn’t know why he couldn’t get there. Do you have any advice about how to get him off? I feel really bad about myself.
Your man has been masturbating for years, so he is like the Michael Phelps of handjobs. He knows exactly what to do to get himself off. It’s natural that it’s going to be harder for you to get him off. He also may have been feeling pressure to get off in front of you, which can actually make it harder to cum.
hi i have a major crush on this boy at school and he is way out of my league so how do I attract his attention? I really like him but am afraid to talk to him because word would get round that I chatted him up or whatever 🙁
anyway what should I do!?!?!?!?
thanks
sugar xx
Hey Sugar,
Thanks for your question. I’d love to help, but unfortunately I only give sex advice here at the Bad Girls Bible. I hope it works out!
Sean
hi sean, me and my guy have been together for a while but i have never given him a handjob. i was just wondering how fast to go? like, do most men prefer faster or slower? also, will i need lube?
Hi Liz,
My advice is to start very slow (almost like you are teasing him) and then slowly build up your speed. When your man is cumming though, try to slow right down.
Enjoy!
Sean
Hi,
I’m 26 year old from India. I do always handjob myself. I’m scared of that i’m doing often is danger as i thinking. I dont knw much about that if i do dailybasis, is it any problem to my body or anything ? Please suggest me regarding this.
It shouldn’t be a problem as long as you are not hurting yourself.
Sean
Hi,
Great site. I’m not sure how to word my question… I’ve heard that life is like a dry hand job.
Does a dry hand job hurt a man? In my experience licking the hand or spitting on it works wonders for slicking things up down there during a handie. Also, pulling foreskin back? Should that always happen? Should one be gentle whilst doing so?
I’ve always used hand jobs with blow jobs and have shied away from strictly hand action because I’ve never been clear about these things. Thank you!
Hi Kel,
In general, a dry handjob is not great at all. But at the end of the day it really depends on your man’s preferences. It can hurt him if you are rough with him. Otherwise, it won’t hurt him at all. Don’t worry too much about pulling the foreskin back. It’s not that important if you do or don’t.
Sean
If you have extremely soft hands and they and his shaft are COMPLETELY dry… you can cup his balls in one hand and super lightly hold his shaft with the other while sliding up and down very slowly. You don’t want you feel any friction… just a light rubbing of your hand and his cock. You probably won’t get him off like this, but if your hands are really soft, it can be a VERY sensual and pleasing experience to start his engine before you progress to a more “normal” style with spit/lube.
I on firmness of the grip, I can say that I’m a pretty firm believer in the tighter the pussy the better it feels!!! LOL Some guys can’t handle it tight because they cum too fast… but my exwife was 4’10” 86lbs and a virgin when we met. 2 years later my pinky SOAKED in Astroglide would still make her cringe… (granted with tons of Astroglide, going slow, gentle, and lots of foreplay… she still tore/ripped everytime we had sex for well over a year… and I’m just “average”) but I could still last an hour plus… My point? If you use a LOT of lube, it’s almost impossible to squeeze the shaft too tight. Unless you are a professional arm wrestler or something, you won’t squeeze it too hard unless you are just focusing everything you have on trying to squeeze his dick in half!!! So as long as you can slide up and down his cock pretty quick, you aren’t holding it too tight, and it isn’t going to hurt 99% of guys. Realize some women are SO tight inside that they act like a cock ring and even if the guy sits inside and relaxes so long he gets soft, he will not come out because she is so tight the blood can’t leave his cock. I have been blessed with dating a couple women tighter than any woman has ever been able to manually squeeze my cock… so lube it up and when it’s sliding good and he gets close, squeeze it TIGHT and say “how would you like it if my pussy was this tight” while grinning at him and watch his eyes roll and toes curl… just watch where you aim, because you may make him cum SO hard it hits the ceiling!!! Though, to me, nothing is better than a woman who loves my cum so much that right as I start to cum she puts the head in her mouth and strokes me until I feed her my cum!!! Swallowing can be EXTREMELY sensual if done properly!!! (Yes, to me there is a right and wrong way to swallow!!! But I’m OCD and don’t settle for average sex… if I’m going to bother having sex, at least one of us will be seeing stars before we finish. If you’re gonna do it, do it right!!! That’s my motto. LOL)
Excellent insight David!
Lol as a woman, I call bullshit on your alleged “wife’s tiny constantly tearing pussy”. If she was that bad, she had something medically wrong with her. It just doesnt work that way bud???? Nice try at a penthouse letter tho
And I was a mortician for years; and a dialysis technician, biology was my major in college, so I am 100% calling you out with authority.
For an intact (uncircumcised) guy, you can quite possibly give a dry handjob by stroking his glans through/underneath his foreskin. Usually his precum should create enough lube. The feeling of exposing the glans and then covering it again is quite stimulating, and there are many pleasure nerves on the tip of the foreskin and the frenulum. Just be gentle on the downward stroke (short and fast or long and slow)… pull it back too hard and fast and you can tear the frenulum.
For guys that have been cut (circumcised) they usually don’t have much skin mobility (missing out on lots of fun), so lube will be needed.
For posistions for the hand job me and my boyfriend ussually have him.laying down and me at his side over him slightly so we can still kiss yet i am not crushing his body. Also i like when we are in bed and hes facing away from me and i get him from behind we both find this so sexy and its a different way to enjoy its simple but enjoyable. Xx
Hi, I’m a female and would like to know the best way to give clitoral stimulation,iI’ve read your article on it but it doesn’t work for me…
Hi Susan,
The first thing you need to do is get yourself in the mood. For some this could be watching porn, reading some erotica or even just imagining your favorite fantasy. Then start rubbing around your clitoris, but paying close attention to what feels best and focusing on doing that.
Sean
hi, i have a slight problem, and that is that i have chicken arms soo i get tired pretty easy when giving my boyfriend a hand job and it’s hard to make him finish cause i give up soo please if you could give some advice then that would be great ! 🙂
There’s a few things you can do when you arms get tired. You can start by switching hands, you can also try resting your arms by giving him a blow job or you can try using your hands to slowly caress his legs to give yourself a break
Just hold his cock and let him move his hips for a while when your getting tired.
Hello, the other day I was giving my boyfriend a hand job an I started going faster and he started breathing really heavy and he tried holding his breathe it went on for like 2 mins and then he came. I don’t think I did that bad and I saw that I did actually do everything the article told me to do but so you have any more tips or articles about givin a really good hand job?
I’ve also got some really detailed advice in the Blow Job Bible here, including illustrations.
Hi 🙂 I’ve given my boyfriend hand jobs at least 5 times now and he hasn’t come once. The only time he came was when he took over and finished off himself. However, every time I have done it he said he was so close and that I was doing it right. We were doing it for quite a while today with no results and it really knocked my self confidence. I don’t know if it’s something I’m doing wrong or possibly that he feels pressured into coming, is that a likely cause? I would be really grateful for some advice
The truth is that it all depends. He could be one of those guys that isn’t that sensitive down there, he could masturbate with ‘death grip’ so is used to a much tighter, vice-like grip that no one else in the world can match. Or maybe he’s nervous around you and this is affecting him. One thing that could help is getting him to stop masturbating for a week or 2 before you guys hang out.
Sean
My boyfriend of two years has told me he is bored in bed and I am not good at blow jobs, hand jobs and am not a ‘slut in the bedroom’.
Apparently the sex used to be good, but stayed consistent and now it is boring??
I have asked him what he wants in regards to sluttiness, but he isn’t sure and I’m just too much of a nice girl in the bedroom?
Any tips or suggestions? I am really lost and trying not to be really offended here, especially because it once was good apparently?? 🙁 🙁
A great starting point is using the tips from my newsletter as well as browsing the site to discover what you and your man enjoy most.
Hi so I read the article and it’s great. I’ve been with my boyfriend for like over 3 months now and I’ve given him a hand job twice so far. I know when he’s almost there because he starts being very vocal and stuff. The problem is my arm starts to get really tired and twitches in a warning for me to stop when I speed it up so he can cum. Do you have any advice on how to get him to orgasm? It takes quiet some time for him to even get close and after he feels really bad because he didn’t. I also swear he goes upstairs to the bathroom to finish himself off. Anyway I’m really worried because I want to be able to please him but I just can’t seem to get him over the edge.
Thanks
Hi Tori, try switching arms or giving him a blow job instead. Also, you can get him to take over for a while if you want.
I have a queation, I have been with my boyfriend almost 2 years now and anytime we are both so in the mood, getting each other worked up once I start giving him a hand job like a couple minutes later its all out the window. I pay attention to what he says but when I try to do it the next time its lime I’m totally wrong… Like do I start it middle I just feel I can’t accomplish this and now every time I feel the embarrassment creeping up and the disappointment in his face… I Dont know what to do anymore
Hi Lorelle,
Don’t worry, you’ll get it 🙂 One way to get it ‘perfect’ is to just slow things right down (although you should never feel like you need to give the perfect handjob, blow job, etc) and simply ask him what he enjoys. Or you can ask him to ‘show’ you what he likes the most. Just watch him and then emulate him.
Sean
I have always been more of a blowjob girl and shied away from handjobs, but I really want to give one. I’m just scared that there is no natural librication, like spit in a blowjob I guess or how a girl gets wet… and I want it to be pleasurable for him of course! So is that problem? Like will it be too “dry”? And any further suggestions would be appreciated too! 🙂
If you think it’s going to be too dry, just use some spit…or try using lube.
Hi so me and my boyfriend have been together for a couple months and the other day I was giving him a handjob but he stopped me when he was about to cum? I asked him later on what it was and he told me he didn’t want any cum stains on my clothes nor his clothes, how do I avoid cum stains? And would it be weird to have tissues in my back pocket to clean up after?
Thanks in advance!
Skye xxo
Some simple ways to avoid cum stains:
Don’t wear clothes
Use a condom
Swallow
Take his load into your mouth, then spit it out afterwards
Yes, use tissues
Hi Sean, I am looking for some advice here..
I would like to know how I can get my man to last longer. Handjobs he lasts about two minutes if I don’t stop when he is close, so that isn’t really a problem since we can just stop for a little while he focuses on me and go back to it a bunch of times! But when it comes to blow jobs and sex, he finishes in about the 20-30 second mark. We are both eachothers first sexual partners, but have been trying for a while. Every time we try and have sex or do oral, he finishes so quickly and it is very upsetting for him and if we are trying to have sex it is usually upsetting for me, although I don’t show it because I don’t want to bring his confidence down further. I really enjoy giving him head and would really enjoy to have sex that lasts a bit.. How can we fix this?
Hi Kasex, this is a toughie. You can try getting him to use a desensitizing cream that helps some men lose sensation in the penis and so they can last longer. Another option is to masturbate before sex.
I love watching other people and prefer the wife swapping. Is it natural or am I sick?
Hi,
My issue is a bit more different than the others. I’ve actually never given any handjobs before, and I was wondering; what am I supposed to do with the guy’s cum? if, by example, I’m giving him a handjob in a public place with no close restrooms, and that I am not comfortable swallowing it as the guy starts to cum, what do I do? And how do I leave no mess?
Thank you.
You can swallow it, catch it in your hand and then wash your hand or do whatever you feel comfortable doing. It’s up to you.
Sean
Hi, i’ve never given a handjob before. I’m confused about the “dry” part. If it’s a more spontaneous thing so we have no lube or anything, how can i make it wet? I don’t have soft hands at all. Is licking my hand a sensual or more of a disgusting thing?
Just spit on it.
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pls now I need sex techniques that will blow my husband mind
I tried this on our 2nd date whilst sat in a pub. Rubbed his leg and used my forearm to massage his penis. Soon had him groaning and wanting more so finished off in his car till he came.
your advise is giving me amazing results
When you’re giving your guy a hand job and he’s about to finish, where do you “point” so to speak?
Wherever you want him to finish.
Me and my boyfriend started having sex 8 months ago, he always wants to expirement new things, we’ve already used so many positions and still wants to try more, will this affect our sex life in the future?
Sounds pretty healthy to me.
I ‘m really nervous about giving my boyfriend a handjob. I really don’t want to disappoint him. I don’t want to hurt him. How fast or slow should I go? Do I have to have lube? Can it be dry? Does it hurt? Could a condom replace lube kind of?
Start slowly and then get faster. See what he prefers. You can use lube if you want. Saliva is a great lube. Of course it can be dry. As long as your grip isn’t too tight, it won’t hurt. A condom could sort of replace lube.
Hi.
My boyfriend and I have resently become sexual I’ve had so much trouble with making him cum. I’ve given him many blow jobs and hand jobs but still can’t seem to get him to cum. Any advise?
Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he will become super sensitive.
I want more for my wife
Hi, I love when my boyfriend begins to jack off. I encourage him too. It makes me cum so hard instantly just watching. I can’t get enough! He gets too sensitive for days sometimes because I make him cum so much many different way. Just wondering two things
1. Should I not be so turned on by watching him? I mean I don’t want to make it so that he can’t cum with me giving him handjobs. I haven’t really tried much. Just so turned on by the thought of him touch his own cock drives me crazy
2. I always want more no matter how many times we both came. He is usually too sensitive to continue but really hard all the time. Turns me seeing him so hard and I want to learn tricks so he will be desensitized after cumming so much. Usually it’s to the unbearable point of touching his dick after cumming 2 or 3 times. I want 15+
Haha.. I got high hopes!!
I’m on medication/chemo in which prevents me from intercourse but I know my gentleman is needing a little something-I tried handjob/blowjob but have some problems.
Such as-
He has dice in his “Area” so handjobs are painful. Plus I have no strength to keep going for a long time.
He says playing with the testicles is painful.
An last but not least I can’t stand the taste of sperm an well “vomited” at just the pre-ejection or what ever it was.
I need to do something he has already complained!!!! He is going to end up cheating again or just plain leave me.
dice?
Hey, small question about “the gentle claw”. Should I use all of my fingers or maybe not?
My advice is to try it and see if it works better than using less fingers.
Wow, I was wondering if these instructions\techniques were written by a man or women, now I know Saun, your a guy. Irregardless they were excellent and taught me a thing or two.
Hi Sean, what can I do when there is no lube around? I have used saliva but I need to reapply very often and it gets my mouth dry.. are there techniques that require none? Also, I gave my boyfriend a hj last week and he didn’t cum. He told me to grip tighter, but how do I know when it’s too tight (I don’t want to hurt him). Thanks
Out of curiosity, any tips or tricks on giving a hand job with a guy that prefer no lube?
Only ever been with two guys, my first I was with for 10 years and would use half a bottle of lube if given a chance. I knew exactly how he liked things, but after the relationship ended, I met someone who is amazing. Sex is so much more fun, but he isnt a lube guy. Even when he touched himself, other than some deep throat or spit, he doesnt like lube.
Just keep spitting?
Spit can work, but if he doesn’t like that either, the best way to pleasure him is to…
Get some feedback from him on what he likes and go from there
OK…. Help! What is the deal with hand jobs! Have a guy I’ve known a little over a year total time now (6 mo, not around for 6 yrs, then now for 8 mo) who will not have intercourse or please me except fondle my breasts when I give hand jobs. He will also do himself and wants to give me a facial…said I don’t like, but wants to cum on me where he wants and does on himself too. Does he have an intimacy issue? Porn issue? said porn only on occasion though not into technology.He is 50 yrs. old Really? Is this where men are headed in order to be with a woman???
The person with the answers is your man. You need to talk to him to let him know what you want and DON’T want.
One thing that was said is incorrect about circumsized men… a handjob without lube doesnt feel bad at all. My girl does it to me and it never fails to feel great. Also many guys prefer to be squeezed hard during.. just wanted everyone to know that you may only be getting opinions from a specific portion of guys and some of what was read may not be based in fact.
Thanks Dan
What are the best options if you don’t like your man to ejaculate in your mouth? Can I finish him off with my hands or will the difference in sensation ruin the orgasm he is about to have? (similar to losing rhythm as you talk about)
Talk to him and find what you both enjoy
Sean, so I’m gonna get laid and I struggle with being faster at hand jobs bc most guys ask to go faster and I try but it hurts my wrists. What can I do?
Also it’s the same with bj but not my wrist that hurts
Just take a break and try giving him a blow job while your wrist recovers 😉
Hi. I’m really new to all this and i just want to know how to really pleasure my man and be sure he’s actually enjoying it and notfaking it for me
Talk to him and ask him
It worked!!!! I just fondled my hubby the way it said and he couldn’t stop precumming!!!!!! Bless yourfreakin heart!! Lolololol
Hi I’m a bisexual male married to a female .I know that I want to be with my wife but I also like to give BJ’s and having a guy Fu**me in the ass I’m also attracted to men but I don’t want a relationship with a guy I tried toys bisexual porn and it satisfied for a min I still want to suck cock because it makes me feel good to know that I can make a guy cumn how would I talk to my wife and let her know that I want to give a guy a bj is it cheating plus I want to feel a real cock going inside me but I love my wife and we’ve talked and I explained that getting off by the p-spot anully is different than a cock orgasm so she surprises me and starts to play with my p-spot and boy it was amazing.now though when she tries she’s not into it and in turn I’m done. the reason is I’d be almost there and she would change position and id lose it so I try to explain what she should do in the end she gets annoyed so I quit a little disappointed im not mad but I do want that feeling again toys don’t work all that well and I can do it but it’s hard and I never climax I know I could get a guy who would either fu** me I know I’d get off with a real cock or he knows how to give a p-orgasm but I am not going to cheat what should I do because I’m really wanting to give a bj and make a guy explode and I don’t know what to do is there any advice on how to tell her I want a prostate orgasm and should I let her know my desires even though I am not as bad as I want to going to act on it what should I do I know be honest but can you tell me why a guy likes to be a receiver when it comes to sex I love getting a cock in my ass I love it when he gets off because then I feel confident and desirable.knowing that while I’m sucking his cock I’m in control with him and his cock it’s hot as hell but I like to be the one who is submissive to I want him to take me push his dick inside me and ask me if I like it plus he does try to make me cumn which most times I do. he knows how to get me to that point but my wife does to she can get me off in less than a min with a bliwjob and she orgasms most of the time if the mood is right I also double penetrate her with a toy I try and do whatever it is to satisfy her but when I ask her about prostate massage she avoids it and says it don’t just happen like that even when I tell her I’m in the mood it’s not that she won’t do it it’s just I know she don’t want to so I don’t bother so what should I do plus what is the best male vibrator that actually touches the prostate most I’ve had don’t work like they say I just want to experience a freaking body twitching mind blowing orgasm given by my wife help me because I’m bout to secretly hookup with and give a guy a helluva bj that feeling when he gets off is almost as satisfying plus I need to feel a real dick advice please
Rubber or latex gloves with some water based lube will help you deliver a nice wet and successful HandJob that he will never forget. As long as the gloves are on, go ahead a slip a finger deep into his hole while you stroke him, and as he cums. He will EXPLODE for you.
Get him going and semi hard, slip off your silky panties and wrap them around his cock. Stroke him thru the silky material and whisper “next time I will make you wear these” and he will get rock hard and shoot a big load for you… he will look forward to the “next” when you make him wear the silky or nylon panties as well.
Is there any way to have a longer orgasm or to have more cum ? Without having to just stop masturbating for a while ? (That does not work for me anyways) I am a divorced guy and just am not ready to be with anyone yet. Even though it’s been 3 years. Partially because I had only been with my ex. 23+ years and I am embarrassed to to be with another woman because I have a small penis kinda cums quickly but can last longer jerking off. It took me many years to learn to last a little longer when I was with my ex, because of my fear of embarrassment of my small penis, it’s preventing me from finding a women I have no other choice but to jerk off and when I do I only produce a few drops or less sometimes when I do cum. ( not much pleasure at all.)
Dan, if you’re interested in lasting longer, then check out my guide on how to last longer in bed.
Hey Sean,
Can men have multiple orgasms?
Anecdotally, I have heard that some men can, but I haven’t seen the research backing this up.
What if you have a small mouth and your guy really likes blow jobs and deep throat? I feel inferior!!
It sounds like one of those frustrating situations where you’re going to have to compromise, I’m afraid.
No boredom here. AND…we’ve been married over 40 years…if you believe it!! And my wife is the primo wife. She keeps it interesting and we still have WOW factor. She captivated me in the very beginning with her charm…and her prowess, and she still makes sex interesting and erotic. That’s why I married her, because I didn’t want to lose her, I wanted her for myself, and she still aims to please. It’s all about conversation. We try hard everyday to make each other a priority. I give her long massages, help with household chores. When I’m out in the shop working on my project vehicles, she will come out and hang with me, even though she has no clue what I’m doing, she knows it’s important to me and wants to be there. I enjoy her company, and sometimes she’s even figured out ways to have sex in the shop. And when I’m in the house helping her with the things that matter to her, we have sex then too, it just makes things more fun and enjoyable. We also have “date” nights to endulge in our passion. I set a night where it’s her pleasure, I pleasure only her and anything she wants, she gets, and there is no stress on her to have to reciprocate. And she does the same for me. We each enjoy knowing we can ask for anything sexually and know we can expect it. Trust is a huge issue between us. Conversation and trust are the best ways to keep it hot. I think she has given me every fantasy I’ve ever wanted. We’ve christened every room in our house. (Having sex in every room, the front and back deck, the pool, the garage, the car, and any outside area we can find to spice up our lives). Even spending naked time without sex is fun, but naked sex is better. As I said earlier, I love giving her massages. I don’t like sports of any kind. My “football Sunday” is spent giving my wife a luxurious massage. Her body is my sport, and I love giving her pleasure and orchestrating her orgasm. Just take time and get to know your spouse or S.O. Spend quality time together. Make him or her your priority and keep the conversation flowing, and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. I do and my wife is quick to respond.
I just got a boy friend and I really wanna know if the foreplay handjob techniques would work while kissing him
There’s only one way to find out 😉
I find a common unfortunate occurrance is that many women do a great job (parden the pun) in getting you there, but after the first or second spurt they suddenly release thier grip and believing it’s all over (actually by now it’s all over them!) but in fact we’re just getting started and have plenty left in the tanks to give! It’s over for Rover when we’re completely drained have have to blurt out the “safe” word, eg: “STOP!” … followed by a “Please” then a polite, “Thank you, ma’am! Best to talk about it beforehand. Quite often I’ll also give a countdown to “blast off” as well! A wonderful hand job done well is immensely satisfying!
How do I make a girl give me hand job and also arousing her.
Ask her if she would like to do it?
Hi,
My boyfriend and I both struggle to come during oral and normal sex. He has more experience than me and when he gives himself a handjob he does come, but somehow he loves when I pleasure him and I can see he does but I can’t get him to come. I tried a lot of techniques from the bad girls bible but I don’t know what to do now.
I also can’t get myself to come, I don’t think about it but it’s quite frustrating when you get the whole build up and nothing after that. And yes I mean the whole build up, shaking legs, short breath, everything. Do you have any tips what I can try with myself and with my boyfriend to get the most pleasure with each other and myself when having sex or other activities?
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Hi Sean
My boyfriend is very ticklish. The first time I tried to give him a handjob, he immediately push my hands off him (knocked my confidenceout the park). He can masterbate himself and ejaculate. He says he’s too ticklish. So we tease and play for months now until he’s bit more comfortable with my hand on his penis. But whenever I tried to do a blowjob or handjob, I never seem to get him to ejaculate, he shows all the signs and he does communicate, yet 45 mins later, nothing. Same for sex. Is there something else I can try to get him more riled up to want me to touch him? Like a little tease then walk away?
These tips for teasing your boyfriend should help!
There are alot of factors that make a handjob the best release a man can have. Luckily I am heavily attracted to my wife and her hands. She will always do her nails nice like paint them a colour I like or she will do it in random yet sexy positions. He really is the best and the release it second to none! I’m apparently called a “pleasure dom”? Basically I love pleasing a woman more than getting the pleasure myself. However this makes an incredible partnership between me and my wife. I am able to give her multiple orgasms due to knowing her body like it was my own. So I make sure I satisfy her multiple times (8-10 times sometimes) and once she has gathered herself she gives me the most incredible handjob while kissing me passionately! Bottom line…handjobs over most things!
Hands down the best handjob I ever had was with a woman who did something akin to the “ring method,” she used her whole hand and did one hand over the other. Always a down stroke, never an up stroke, lube is a must, don’t be afraid to keep reapplying. It feels almost like anal sex, but much better. I was shooting the ceiling when I came!