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If you’re looking for a way to switch things up in a bedroom, look no further than the harness and strap-on dildo section as your nearest sex toy store. These implements provide a way for you to send your lover over the moon as you penetrate him (or her), and you can experience the powerful side of giving during sex, too. This guide to strap on sex will teach you how.
Read on for the best strap on sex techniques.
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Using a strap-on to provide anal stimulation to your man is also known as pegging [1, 2, 3].
Discover how to peg your partner.
It may not be the most common sexual activity, but it’s a great way to spice up your sex life. Check out other tips to add thrills to the bedroom.
What’s So Great About Using a Strap On?
When you’re the one penetrating your man, instead of the other way around, it gives you a feeling of power (this may be partly why guys like anal). You get to provide the pleasure. Pegging also works well with power exchange and bondage, because you get to fill the dominant shoes — more tips on dominating here.
Of course, strap on sex is an excellent way for you to provide prostate stimulation to your man. The prostate is a walnut-sized organ that makes prostate fluid, which is part of semen [4, 5]. A man’s prostate can be accessed via his rectum and also through his perineum, the area of skin between his testicles and anus, which you may better know as the “taint.”
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Check out this guide for more tips on prostate play. Even though you don’t have a prostate, you might have enjoyed anal sex, so imagine how good it can feel for him with an additional sweet spot!
Strap on Orgasms – Strap-on sex might give him prostate orgasms, which are dry (without ejaculation) [6]. Also, they may be the key for him to experience multiple orgasms. Yes, some men can experience multiple orgasms just like some women.
Read More: How To Have Multiple Orgasms
Plus, the anus is full of nerve endings [7], so penetration can feel great.
Wearing a strap on can even make for a great image. When you look down and see your fake cock bobbing up and down or your partner sees you coming, it can make the room feel electric if you enjoy a bit of kinkiness. And if you want to take a sexy photo or two? A strap on is a great prop to add to the photo shoot and can be sent as a reminder of a good time.
Some harnesses include pockets for bullet vibrators or attachments, so you can experience stimulation simultaneously while penetrating your man.
For some couples, pegging is a special activity that happens every once in a while. You might only have anal sex on special occasions like birthdays or anniversaries, or you may need a drink to take off the edge first. Pegging might be similar for your partner. Most tips for great anal sex work as strap on sex tips, too.
Even if it’s something you only do on special occasions, it can be nice to broaden your horizons.
How to Get Him Interested
You may be reading this because your man indicated some interest in pegging, but perhaps you think the idea’s pretty hot, and you want to bring it up to him. You could simply point him in the direction of this article, compare your sexual bucket lists or ask whether he’s ever experienced prostate play.
Of course, not everyone will be interested in strap on play, and you should be prepared for an outright rejection or your man needing time to get used to the idea.
Some guys may worry what it means if they’re willing to try pegging or even if they’re actively interested. We tend to associate penetrating guys with homosexuality. Of course, if he’s doing it with you, a woman, it can’t really be gay, can it?
For any guy who is on the fence, the most convincing argument may be that pegging and anal play stimulates his prostate and can lead to more intense orgasms [8, 9].
Related: Prostate Massage 101
The prostate, which can become inflamed and infected, may also benefit from stimulation.
That doesn’t mean that it’s not without risks. Anal sex that’s too vigorous or done without lube can lead to tearing known as fistulas and bleeding.
Although pegging doesn’t involve bodily contact, tears from anal sex can make a person more susceptible to STIs such as HIV [10, 11]. So if your man is also engaging in anal sex with others, he should be aware of this. Also, anal sex can cause other conditions such as anorectal abscesses [12].
Some people experience fecal incontinence from anal sex [13, 14], and anal penetration can also make hemorrhoids worse. Vigorous play with toys too large can even damage the colon. There has even been cases of sex toys leading to rectal perforation [15]. An extremely rare risk of rough anal play is anal disruption [16].
This post has info about the risks of anal sex and how to safely have anal.
But by choosing the right tools and taking your time, you can minimize those risks and maximize your chances of having a great time. So we’ll start with the tools of the trade.
How Do Strap Ons Work?
The basic strap on requires two pieces: the dildo and the harness that it fits into. Most harnesses have an O-ring, which may be permanent or swappable, and is typically made of a stretchy material that fits around the flared base of your dildo. The stretchy O-ring should be snug around the dildo, so you may need to have a couple of O-rings on hand if your dildo collection ranges in size. Some harnesses have permanent O-rings, so you’ll need to purchase a dildo with the correct diameter to fit in the O-ring without it slipping out.
Psst, you might want to get dildos and rings of various sizes to try anal training. Find out more.
Some harnesses connect to dildos using a different mechanism. The Vac-U-Lock system is ideal for using a strap on that’s realistic because many of the compatible cocks are phallic rather than whimsical in design. These Vac-U-Lock systems usually require that you use specialized dildos, however.
An O-ring makes your harness compatible with the wider range of dildos compared to Vac-U-Lock regardless of who makes it, and adjustable O-rings mean you can use dildos of any size to boot.
There are also “strap-ons” without any straps at all. Shaped like two-sided dildos, that “strapless” strap on toys are inserted into your vagina and curve around your pubic bone so that you can penetrate your partner. If you have especially strong PC muscles, then this might be a good idea. However, you may still be able to use your favorite harness with the strapless dildo, depending on the design, as harnesses offer more stability when fucking your partner with a strap-on.
Side note: You may be able to use butt plugs with a strap-on, but this isn’t their intended use. Learn how to use a butt plug for anal pleasure.
Similarly, you can use a dildo with a flared base for anal masturbation.
Choosing a Strap on Harness
It’ll be much easier to learn how to use a strap on when you choose a harness that fits your body and tastes. Harnesses are readily available in the following styles:
- Three-strap/jock — the harness is worn around the waist with loops for each leg, like a jockstrap, that leaves your vagina unobstructed [17 p 208]
- Two-strap — the harness is similar to a G-string with one strap that goes between your legs and one strap around your waist.
- Corset — the harness cinches together like a corset at the sides or back to provide a custom fit and aesthetic appeal
- Underwear/lingerie — the harness is worn like underwear.
- Rope — with a length of rope, you can tie a harness to use with a dildo, then simply untie it when you’re done. This is a bit more advanced, but you do get the option of choosing whichever color rope that you like best.
Lingerie-style harnesses are made from soft fabrics, which makes them more comfortable for the wearer. These harnesses are usually in the style of boxers, briefs and bikini hipsters. The underwear harness is probably the simplest to use for beginners or anyone who isn’t sure how to wear a strap on. You may also prefer the lack of straps if you have dexterity problems or issues such as arthritis.
Traditional harnesses are often made of leather. Nylon harnesses are also common and tend to be more affordable. Many strap on kits, like those from Sportsheets, come with a basic, adjustable harness made of nylon. Plastic and PVC harnesses like those that are made of a clear “jelly” material are available on the market, but you may find them less comfortable or chafing. You can wear underwear beneath a harness if it’s more comfortable
Different materials require different care. Many of the underwear-style harnesses can be laundered. Otherwise, you can spot-clean most harnesses with a damp rag. Test any cleaning or treatment products on a small patch of the material before applying to the entire harnesses. Leather harnesses may require conditioning. Follow any care instructions.
Size is important when it comes to your harness. A harness that’s too large will slip down and not allow you to peg your partner, but a harness that’s too tight will cut into your flesh, becoming uncomfortable and unattractive. Most harnesses are measured by hip circumference, and stretchy or adjustable harnesses will fit a larger range. Make sure to check size guides because sizes vary between manufacturers.
A strap on for beginners doesn’t need to break the bank, especially if you’re not sure that you’ll love strap on sex.
Novelty Harnesses
While most strap ons are intended to be worn around your waist, so you feel like you’ve got a sexy, silicone cock, there are some weird but fun harnesses on the market. For example, you can purchase harnesses that you wear on your hand, forehead, thigh, and even your ankle! Not everyone will be into these unique harnesses, but it can be hot to have your partner grind against your thigh as you penetrate him!
Choosing the Right Dildo
The strap on harness that you choose will determine the dildo options available to you. Any dildo with a flared base should work with an O-ring. You’ll have plenty of options from manufacturers such as Fun Factory or Tantus as well as independent makers.
Stick with body-safe silicone, stainless steel, or glass, which can be disinfected [18] and won’t harbor bacteria because they’re nonporous [19]. This means you might already have a dildo that you can use for pegging your man.
Dildo material impacts which lube you choose, and lube is a must when it comes to backdoor play. Water-based lube is compatible with all toys [20] and can be quite plush, which some people find comfortable, but it can become sticky as it dries. Some people prefer silicone lube, which is slick and longer-lasting than water-based lubes, but some softer or low-quality silicone toys may interact with silicone lube.
Related: What Is Lube And Should You Use It?
Many strap-on attachments vibrate or come with options to add a bullet vibrator if your partner is into that. We’ve got more tips on how to choose & use a dildo.
If you want to stimulate your partner’s prostate, then you’ll want to adjust a dildo so that it curves in the right direction depending upon position (anal sex position ideas). For example, if you peg your man from behind, the dildo should curve downward to hit his prostate. The same goes if you’re with another woman in Doggy style, and you want to hit her G Spot. You can modify most sex positions into strap on positions.
Start with a dildo that’s smaller than you think you need and work your way up. Just remember that sometimes our eyes can be larger than our backsides. You can always go larger if you need to, but you can’t undo discomfort if you go too large too fast.
A good rule of thumb is to choose a dildo that’s about as wide as how many fingers you can insert. If you haven’t experimented with manual stimulation, choose a toy no more than three fingers wide. Some people recommend choosing a toy around the same size as your partner’s bowel movements. I’m completely serious btw.
After the first time, an experienced receiver may be able to go larger [21 p 36].
Finally, one last type of dildo is a packer, which is super soft and generally not suitable for penetration. Instead, the look and feel of the dildo is what matters. These dildos are usually worn by trans men but can be worn by others.
How to Put on a Strap On
Even if it seems complicated at first, you’ll get the hang of putting on and adjusting a harness.
- Lingerie: Step into the harness like a pair of underwear
- Two-strap harness: Place the bottom strap between your legs and connect the side straps one at a time. If there is enough slack, you can take it on and off like underwear and simply tighten the straps if needed.
- Three-strap harness: Step through the waist and leg loops before pulling it up. Adjust each strap once it’s in place.
Most corset-style harnesses are actually two or three-strap harnesses with corset detailing, and you can adjust the side straps without messing with the ribbons.
Whether you put the dildo on before or after depends on personal preference. You may need to tighten the straps that hold the dildo if they’re adjustable after the harness is on, however.
Preparation
You’ll probably want to strut around in your new harness and dildo once you buy it, and that’s actually useful. You can figure out how tight it should be so that you can wear it comfortably and control the dildo. Spend enough time learning about your harness to insert, remove, or switch dildos. You can find videos that show you how to use a strap on dildo if the mechanism isn’t clear.
Your man may be interested in knowing how he can prepare for anal penetration. It can be helpful for him to shave because men tend to have more hair, which can become tangled, but that’s not a requirement. Generally, a shower is all he needs to be fresh, and a wet wipe can also do the trick. He should make sure he focuses on cleaning his anus.
For the guy who wants to feel squeaky clean, a douche is another option. He can fill it with lukewarm water and squirt it into his anus as he sits over the toilet. In most cases, an enema is not necessary to prepare for anal penetration.
Get more tips on preparing for anal sex.
You probably don’t want to dive right into toy penetration, especially during the first time. Instead, try using your fingers or even mouth (learn how to toss his salad) to stimulate your man anally before penetration. Make sure your nails are trimmed short and smooth if you plan to do any anal fingering.
Try oral sex or PIV sex to help him relax and get into the mood before pegging.
Strap On Positions
Although it might not seem like it, anal penetration can occur in most of the same positions as vaginal penetration as long as your dildo is long enough. You can perform in a modified version of Missionary with your man’s legs up, and knees bent toward his chest. Any position where he’s bent over works as well, including Doggy or with him leaning over a piece of furniture or appliance.
Check out this list of sex positions from behind for more ideas.
Virtually any of the penetrative sex positions we list in our sex positions guide work if you’re wearing a strap on with another woman too!
How to Have Sex With a Strap On – Insertion
Insertion is often the hardest part of anal play. Make sure your toy and his anus are lubricated to reduce pain. Lube is important, as the anus doesn’t produce a lot of lubrication [22]. You can still enjoy eating ass, though.
If you rush into things and skip the lube it may be uncomfortable or even painful, and your man may not want to try again. However, if you use plenty of lube, help him relax, and choose the right dildo for the job, you might find that pegging becomes a normal part of your bedroom play.
Discover how to get rid of pain during anal sex.
Warning: Do not use an anal desensitizer. These creams and oils are a bad idea. Pain is your body’s way of sending you a message that something isn’t right. If he cannot feel pain and you cannot get feedback from the dildo, you may not know if something has gone terribly wrong.
Once you’re in position, you can spread his cheeks or have him do it for you. Guide the dildo to his rectum with your hand. You’ll push in but expect some resistances as the rectum is a ring of muscles. Your man can make this easier by pushing downward as if he were using the bathroom. Here’s a great beginner strap on tip: relaxing the throat can also help to relax the anus.
You may not successfully achieve penetration the first time, and that’s okay. Sometimes it takes a few tries to get used to the idea and relax enough for penetration. But once you’ve made it past the outer sphincter, things tend to go more smoothly.
Strap on Techniques Once You’re In
Some people think that penetration is all about thrusting, but there’s more to it than that. Just imagine any partner you’d ever had who simply thrust in and out haphazardly. It’s generally not a very good time.
There are a lot of things you can control when it comes to thrusting, including speed, depth, and angle. The first two are a bit easier, but the second will take some practice. Once you’ve honed your skill, you’ll be able to stimulate a specific target, which is important for prostate stimulation.
So practice lifting or dipping your hips. You might lean forward or back. A great strap on sex tip is to slip a sex pillow beneath your partner’s hips to adjust their body, which will changes the angle as well. You can grasp your man’s body — at his shoulders or hips or beneath his stomach, just to name a few — to give you more leverage when you thrust or to thrust deeper and to reduce the space between your bodies.
If you find your dildo too difficult to control, the harness may be loose or the toy may be too long or too floppy. Heavier dildos such as those made from metal or glass will also tend to hang lower in a harness, so you may have to adjust the tightness of straps as you’re learning how to use a strapon on a guy. Remember that harder materials will feel more intense during use, so you can ease up on thrusting speed or depth to prevent discomfort.
You can also do more than thrust. You can grind, which will result in much less of the shaft pulling out. Try swirling your hips around in a circle or even in a Figure 8 motion.
Note that he may lose his erection as you fuck him, which is totally normal and doesn’t mean he’s not enjoying it [23 p 31]. Note that some men can feel like they have to pee when their prostates are stimulated, similar to how G-spot stimulation can feel for women.
While it can be exciting to experiment with all these different ways of moving, remember to check in with your partner to see if he likes it. Talking about how things feel is of the utmost importance because your toy cock doesn’t have nerves, and you cannot feel what’s going on internally. Even if you could, you cannot know how it feels for your partner.
So talk before, during, and after. This gives him a chance to let you know if you should ease up, change position, or stop altogether.
We know that talking about sex can sometimes be difficult, which is why we wrote this guide to sexual communication.
Don’t Forget the Rest of His Body
When you’re first getting used to penetrating your man with a strap on, you’ll probably focus on that alone. However, as you get used to it and become more confident in your skill, you can direct your attention elsewhere and not just the strap on tips in this guide. This may mean reaching down to stimulate his balls, pinching his nipples, caressing his body, scratching his back, pulling his hair, or otherwise incorporating his most sensitive spots into your sexual activity.
Learn more: 13 Awesome Male Erogenous Zones
While this advice should help you choose the right strap on and develop the skills you’ll need to be a good lover, these things take practice. Things can go wrong. Or you may discover that either — or both — of you doesn’t really like strap on sex, and that’s okay.
How to Experience Pleasure When Using a Strap On
For many women, the appeal of using a strap on and pegging their partner is the feeling of control and power that it brings. However, that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for you to experience physical pleasure. You’ll just need to adjust to accommodate for the harness.
The good news is that the base of most strap on harnesses tends to sit over the mons pubis and clitoris, so you’ll feel pressure from the base of the dildo as you penetrate your partner. That may not be intense enough or provide enough consistency. Another option is to insert a small vibrator between the harness and your body for clitoral stimulation if it fits. Some harnesses may even have pockets for this, or you can wear underwear beneath the harness and insert a vibe into them.
If you prefer vaginal stimulation, try inserting a dildo while you’re wearing the harness. So-called “strapless” strap on dildos work by inserting into your vagina, but they tend to be a little tricky in practice. Many people use them with harnesses, anyway, so they have more control and comfort.
Take It One Step Further
There are a few things you can do once you’ve tried pegging and decided that you like it.
- Make your own harness out of rope.
- Have your partner worship your strap on cock. This works well if you’re into femdom (get other femdom ideas).
- Your man can perform oral on your dildo.
- Purchase an ejaculating dildo for an even greater sense of realism.
Of course, you don’t have to go beyond the basics, and you may find that you aren’t interested in strap on play after your first time.
However, it can take a few goes for you to find your stride. After all, sex isn’t always awesome the first time, and that can include the first time you try a new activity even if it’s with a comfortable partner. And sometimes we can think that we’ll enjoy something only to find out otherwise. The important thing is to be honest with yourself and your partner. But even if you decide that strap on sex isn’t for you, it’s not a failure! After all, you’ve learned something about yourself and your partner.
It’s possible that you’ll find strap-on play brings you and your partner closer together and helps increase intimacy due to the vulnerable nature and communication that’s required. Pegging isn’t for everyone, but you’ll never know if you’re not willing to give it a try.
Resources
Unbound Babes has a great visual explanation of the different types of strap on harnesses.
One Reddit user asks women about their experience with strap ons.
Lovehoney’s video strap on guide introduces you to the various types.
FAQ #2 – Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ #1 – Can men use strapons?
Yes. While traditional strapons are intended for use by people without penises, there are those harnesses that can be worn by a person with a penis. These designs have a ring or hole for the penis that sits beneath the dildo. Men may choose to use a strapon if they struggle with erectile dysfunction, have a small penis, or want to please their partners in new ways. Strap on sex may be an alternative to prosthetics [24].
FAQ #2 – Do lesbians always use strapons?
While porn and other media imply that strap ons are always used during lesbian sex, this isn’t always the case. Penetration isn’t necessary for sex, and women can stimulate one another with their hands, mouths, other body parts, and toys without using a strap on. In fact, some studies find that female couples count a greater variety of acts as sex [25].
Some lesbian couples may never use straps ons. However, there are couples who may use strap ons most or all of the time because they prefer to.
Read now: 14 lesbian sex positions that include strap ons, fingering and oral sex.
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Lucy says
Amazing thank you! Great tips x
Steve says
thank you I ll keep all this mind when trying this
Monkey says
My guy wants me to peg him. I am so excited but what about squirting dildos?
Steven Dwyer says
hell yea tell him to take it and you can find them easily. Sounds hot too
Camjohn says
Thought about it for years every time she got to my butt when running her fingers down there..Did know how to bring it up and surprise her after a few drinks , told to close here eyes walked up behind her pulled down her undies..Before she new what was happening, telling her to open her eyes and look in the mirror…She couldn’t wipe the smile of her face.. Glad I had been getting my butt use to a good reaming for the a few weeks at wearing a few hours at night in from of her was hot… Don’t know what happened next…leading me out on the balcony pushing down over the railing talking dirty to each other and nearly sent me over the edge ripped butt plug and shoved back in trying to get away.. And still can’t believe she said I asked for it first…thought I was going to gag when she got into it….finding my cock loved it when I could relax…
Deb says
I meet a really nice man, he wants me to be his dominant and he to be my submissive, I started reading a lot of Elise Sutton, which he recommend I do, he also send videos on paddling, and pegging.
I have paddled twice now, and pegged him once. Now I need to conquer his mind with humiliation that’s the hard part for me in this relationship. I’m sixty years old, and want this with him, and looking forward to pegging him again and paddling him harder, butts heal he ke tells me. Any suggestions, would be appreciated
Oneluckyguy says
Told my girl I’m into peggING through a pegging video. She wants to do it to me. And I’m so looking forward to the day I get penertrated
Colleen says
Me and my man have been together for a little over four years. I found out after about two that he was interested in bisexual experiences. I’m very open when it comes to doing things sexually to my partner getting that I give my love my all. So in order for him not to go cheat and keep our relationship strong I told him I was willing to explore, whatever hee would like me to do to him to keep him happy and at home with me. I started slowly rimming, massaging and moved up to fingering and using strap on. Our sex life is amazing butt I still feel like I’m not performing close enough to a man to keep him happy and at home. He says I’m doing fine but my mindkeeps telling me differently. I love my man and I love helping him with this and in all actuality I think I really enjoy pegging him but sometimes trying to get himinto a position which is comfortable for him and me both we are struggling at. And most times when I’m playing and pegging him, he also has to be watching gay porn to get him stimulated. That bothers me to a degree thinking I’m not doing enough to keep him stimulated. Are there any tips you could give me that may help?
rockyfortune says
Stop worrying and trust what he tells you…;)
Khloie says
Try communicating more. Ask questions and if your comfortable add in some dirty talk. Referring to your addon as a male reproductive part(cock,dick ect) may help keep the focus on you as well. Enjoy taking control and vocalize your new power in the bed room. As far as movement and mimicking a male partners action. Practice as well as communication will improve this over time. Remember no two partners thrust the same and try to find what works for both of you.
Couple extra tips.
If you feel he is focused to much on the porn, then try getting a bit more aggressive. Throw his legs up on your shoulders, tug at his hair, or even just increase speed slightly.
Another thing i would suggest is to relax. Remember your learning and will get better. No one with a cock built in or added later is a pro a first. Have him give suggestions. Maybe even try some dress up roleplaying if both of you are unto that.
Thomas says
You need to leave this man. I’m a man that enjoys to be anally stimulated as well, but only from a woman. Not saying your man being bi is a bad thing. But if your man has to watch gay porn when your already going out of your way to give him the “male felling” and penetrating it may not be a healthy thing. To me that’s a red flag. Communicate your concern and see his reaction to your pressing question and you use your best intuition to decide if he is genuine. But understand this may be an issue, but it’s an issue with “him”, not with you, to me it seems that’s he really just wants to be gay. And a real cock arouses him most. Don’t exhaust your self trying to compete with the real thing, because your not. I hope this helps.
Tj says
I agree, I’m thinking he has a great woman giving him what he needs and still needs gay porn to get excited. Definitely a red flag. My Mistress Lavina takes the paddle and her strapon dildo to me on an almost daily basis. I love strapon sex with my Mistress Lavina and never once think about having the real thing. I love anal sex, but only with my Mistress. Find you a new submissive quickly, there are thousands of men who would love to have you as a Mistress. Good luck to you!!
Notmyname says
Hey, I realize this blog is a couple years old, but I really hope that someone can give some insight. My man told me when we got together that he enjoyed ass, like strap-on and all. So, I found this post to help me with this whole new idea of sex. Well, at this point we have done it together only a couple times. And i’m concerned Something isn’t right because he’ll say something like “this kinda makes me feel like going to the bathroom.” Otherwise, he obviously does enjoy what i’m doing. Any idea what might be going on? Is it just because it’s been a while since he last had shared this pleasure with someone?
Sean Jameson says
2 things:
1) That “need to use the bathroom” feeling is normal.
2) Get him to use the bathroom beforehand. Even better, get him to douche himself beforehand.
Frankie says
Im a 50 year ole male whoms been experiencing anal play thruout my entire life i can easily fuck myself with a bigger dildo but really want to shove my whole hand inside but still cant do it i have a diffult time cus i never can achive it either im afraid of shoving it inn and have experienced bad cramps in my hand so i said to my self fuck it ill go even bigger when im by my crazy self i use all that i can find taking my ass to even wider than my hand and have only little problems doing a squash vegtable and quite a large one but ud think i could shove my hand. Inside my ass but yet it just wont work so i just experment by sleeping with a huge dildo shoved inside me all night only to wake with it and somewhat of a long duration of self pleasure i just need a partner who will stay steady fucking me and stretching my ass but always shy from asking my partner always thinking she would completely go physco if i ask her causing me unwanted rejection she has played with my ass with a yltoy once but left me feeling embarresed! Anybody out their wanna take on the part i need in my life on a regular hookup just for straight anal play slash stretching and plowing my ass until i reach a satisfied state then from then on keep regular get to gethers for some serious anal worship and stretching me till i just feel like ok im satisfied then just keep us on a downside of her knowing i just cant bring her into what i need and want to experience..i really just wanna feel like i can be me and stress free ferl me?
Francis says
I once saw a picture guide, I think it was how to get your man to try anal, that described and showed how a woman should peg her man. It was in meme form, Have you seen it? I’m trying to convince my wife to try it. She wore a strapon once but was to buzzed to hit the hole and too stubborn to let me guide her. She hasn’t had any problem inserting dildos in me and fucking me by hand, but I want to feel her thrusting in and out and watch her face as she drills me
Frank says
So about 2 years ago I asked my wife to get a strap on and it was the best thing ever. Yes at first there is a little discomfort but if you have her fuck you at least 2-3 times a week for the first month you’ll get use to it I wouldn’t have sex unless I’m getting pegged every time I get off so much
Angela says
Thanks great advice x
My husband of 25yrs has always had erection issues and with new medication a couple it years ago it’s been a torrid no sex period. He’s always been a little submissive & thanks to your advice we e achieved a situation that’s given us both a release and probably saved us getting a divorce x
Mark says
It is super hard for me to get an erection. So I want my wife(woman) to peg me while the dildo also goes into her pussy so she can ride it and have pleasure too. I want it to feel like a real penia too. What do I get to do this?
Sean Jameson says
talk to her?
Aj says
Is it possible for a man to wear a strapless dildo in his ass? The reason is to then be able to double penatrate a woman.
Sean Jameson says
Great question. My answer is, I don’t know. But maybe try it and see what happens.