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Why do guys like anal sex? We surveyed 82 guys (70 straight guys & 12 gay/bisexual guys), asking them this exact question. Their responses were wild, ranging from power to pleasure to pain, from the taboo to the tightness. However, some men like anal sex due to the intimacy and connection they experience.
Warning 1 – There are no edits to the responses, except for some spelling and grammatical corrections. This means some of the responses below might seem frank, shocking, or overly explicit. But this means you get an unfiltered look right into guys’ minds to learn why they like anal so much!
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Warning 2 – The most common reasons why guys like anal are listed near the top, but…
As you keep reading, you’ll discover less common, more unique, and sometimes downright crazy reasons why guys love anal.
Here we go!
“It feels tighter”
By far the most common response to our survey was that men enjoyed the “tightness” when having anal sex.
The ring of muscle in the anus (known as the sphincter) causes this tightness, which is why anal sex feels so good for men.
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They often described pressure or friction on their penises, even after using a lot of lube. Some even preferred the tightness of anal sex over vaginal penetration because they have smaller penises (5 positions and 3 techniques for small penis sex).
1. I adore anal sex. It gives me pleasure and orgasms and after I discovered that, I quickly got hooked. My cock in my gf ass it’s just delightfully filling, tight and [enjoyable].
2. It’s a surprising tightness with moisture that applies pressure on your penis that makes you want to bust.
3. I love anal sex because it’s at least double the pleasure for the man receiving it. For the man topping, there’s nothing like a tight hole that can grip and milk your fuckstick.
4. As my penis is only as thick as my thumb, it feels much tighter. [Women] don’t mind as bigger guys would hurt them.
“It’s taboo”
The second-most commonly given reason for enjoying anal sex was that it’s taboo or wrong. Despite the fact that anal sex is pretty common, it feels like breaking a rule for many people…
Which makes it exciting!
Some used the word “nasty” in a good way when talking about how anal sex is taboo.
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5. It’s forbidden and taboo, and also I like the feeling I experience as I get my cock in. I also love the “Dirty” status about anal sex.
6. [Everyone] I’ve had anal with has an intense orgasm due to the taboo. (How to orgasm).
7. There’s something hot about putting yourself where you’re not meant to go.
8. It’s much kinkier and taboo and feels like we’re not [supposed] to do it. (23 freaky sex ideas).
9. It’s the forbidden fruit.
10. The times I have had anal sex, it makes me feel very naughty. I feel like I am in the forbidden zone.
11. The potential taboo-breaking is delicious.
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“It makes me feel powerful”
Many men mentioned that anal sex makes them feel powerful. For some, it was about taking power and ownership, while others were starkly aware that their partners were handing over control. This sometimes involved power-exchange (D/s) relationships, but not always.
12. It makes me feel like I own her. (How to be a good domme)
13. When topping, I’m putting my submissive in the place she wants/needs to be. And I help her associate orgasm with anal sex by pleasuring her clit simultaneously.
14. It’s like she’s totally submitting to me, and it physically feels so good. I also love seeing her open up for me.
15. I’m a Dom, and it is a feeling of control over the other.
16. The power I feel when she surrenders her ass to me is overwhelming. Makes me feel aggressive, possessive, and Beastly.
“Anal sex offers intimacy and connection”
Responses frequently touched on this theme as one of the main reasons they enjoy anal sex. Many guys mentioned making sex more intimate or bonding specifically, while others talked about how feelings of love add to anal enjoyment–and vice versa. Some also reflected on their partner’s trust, allowing them to be in this vulnerable position.
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17. A nice, tight feeling and knowing I’m trusted to play with a vulnerable part of my wife’s body.
18. It’s a different experience, very arousing, and it lets me know she really cares for me.
19. Because it’s different and it’s intimate [and] personal, it’s not something we do all the time, it’s special occasions
20. It’s the edge of intimacy with a woman you love.
21. Feels extremely intimate and like there’s no way to be closer.
22. I like it because it’s the ultimate in lovemaking, feeling my partner giving me what I need and crave for.
23. The intimacy of being let in there is mindblowing.
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“She likes it”
A partner’s enjoyment is a significant factor in why many men like having anal sex. This enjoyment sometimes means more intense or different types of pleasure and orgasm. You might be surprised to learn that some men didn’t get much from anal sex but only did it for their partners.
24. I really only like it because she likes it. Her nerve endings there are so sensitive that she cums almost instantly.
25. The feeling of being able to give my partner enjoyment is also important.
26. The tightness of her asshole and the ability to reach around and stimulate her clitoris to heighten her pleasure. The several women I have had anal sex with each had an orgasm from it.
27. At first, I didn’t like it, but when I am with a woman who likes it, it makes me want to please her even more.
28. She can usually come twice before I do. Anal orgasms drain and satisfy her, and I enjoy giving my wife that level of absolute pleasure. (How to have multiple orgasms).
29. I like hitting her g-spot, and it’s very domineering, which turns me on…. not that I’m into dominating my partner, just that brief time where she can relax and allow herself to be free to experience a different type of pleasure.
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30. My wife goes crazy when we do it once in a while.
31. It makes me feel great when I am doing stuff to her and her ass and hearing the great moans and groans of pleasure from her if I am doing things right.
32. I enjoy it if, and only if, the woman is happy.
33. I like it because my wife absolutely loves it. She says it gives her the best orgasms she’s ever had. The fact that I’m able to do that for her makes me feel great. During anal, she talks dirty and all sorts of stuff that she doesn’t do during vaginal sex, so it’s fun because of that as well. (How to talk dirty).
34. Makes my partner flow like a fire hydrant. (How to make a girl squirt).
35. My girl orgasms from it because I hit her G Spot in a different way. And she squirts from Anal.
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“I’m a butt lover”
Some guys just love butts, so it makes sense they’d like anal sex, too!
36. [If] like me you have a true love of the female butt, then there’s nothing better than doing a little cave diving 😉
37. Attracted to bottoms.
38. I enjoy ejaculating on her butt when cumming.
“It gets me in touch with my submissive side”
For some men, being on the receiving end of anal sex helped them get in touch with their submissive sides (and allows their partners to be dominant in the bedroom).
39. Mainly receptive in practice thru pegging, feels naughty, submissive, and fantastic. (17 pegging positions).
40. I like feeling my fiancée wear a strap on dildo and make me her bitch up the ass.
“It causes pain”
Some of the men who took our survey specifically wanted to hurt their partners during anal sex.
41. I love how very tight the anus is. I love the pain that she is in.
42. I also like how it can be a little more painful for her.
43. I enjoy causing her a little bit of pain.
“It’s a mix of pain and pleasure”
While some men like causing pain to their partners, others prefer the challenge of balancing pleasure and avoiding pain during anal sex.
44. The reaction from her – the squeals of joy & pain at the same time – usually tighter than her pussy – I like going slow – hearing her begging for more or deeper.
45. I don’t need it or ask for it. But when my partner wants it, I love seeing their reaction as my dick goes deeper and deeper. It feels empowering to know you could cause them either intense pain or pleasure.
46. [It’s] a challenge to make her come without hurting her
“I like the novelty and variety”
For many guys, anal sex is fun just because it’s different from the usual. Sometimes, this means they don’t have anal often or save it for special occasions.
47. It’s not on our normal sex menu of sexual things, which [makes] it different and naughty.
48. Variety is the spice of life.
49. [It] switches things up. Keeps the love life from getting routine when there are options.
50. Incredibly hot. The feelings were amazing—she felt so tight around my cock—but the best part was the eroticism of going somewhere new, having her be vulnerable with me, bringing her pleasure in this totally new way, and the acceptance of asking me to cum inside her.
“There’s no risk of pregnancy”
Survey takers liked that there’s no risk of pregnancy with anal sex, and this sometimes means it’s the only type of penetration they can have without condoms or the only way they can cum in their partners.
51. I can creampie her there.
52. Anal sex feels great, especially when using lube. It is extremely tight, warm, and overall pleasurable. I like the ability to cum inside without the consequences of pregnancy.
53. It gives me better penetration, and if I do anal sex, then there is no tension of condom or pregnancy.
“It stimulates my prostate”
Some men like it when their partners penetrate them anally, usually with a strap-on, AKA pegging.
54. I enjoy the sensation of pressure on my prostate. Maybe in another life, I would have been gay.
55. Only bc it’s my wife and she plays with my prostate when I have [an orgasm].
“I feel euphoric”
Several people talked about the emotional high they get from anal sex.
56. Emotional ecstasy.
57. Anal sex makes me feel euphoric.
“I can experiment with double penetration”
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58. Because I can be in her ass and she can have a toy in her vagina.
59. I like the idea of double penetrating her, but don’t really like the idea of having another man fuck her as well. So anal sex with a dildo is the perfect solution to this, just not as easy to do as it sounds. But the feel of her asshole clinching on my shaft is a nice feel.
“I wanted to be the first”
Others enjoyed that they were likely to be the first person to have anal sex with their partners, which meant they could try something new together that only they shared (29 new things to try in the bedroom).
60. More virgin territory for many females.
61. I’ve never had it. But would love to have it with my wife cause no other man has fucked her ass.
Other Reasons Why Guys Like Anal So Much
Several reasons that men enjoy anal sex were mentioned only once or twice.
62. So you can have sex when she has her period – Anal sex is good when she is on her period. Or just to change things up a bit.
63. Feeling desired – It’s the most intimate part of a woman, and I feel completely desired when I get to be near or in her ass.
64. Feeling like a conqueror – it is usually the last hole I get to feel so I feel like now I have fully conquered my woman.
65. Selfishness – Because it’s entirely for my pleasure, and an asshole is always tighter and has more friction than a vagina. Pure bliss.
66. Enthralled by the process – I enjoy the foreplay, lubing and fingering her ass before slowly pushing my penis – which is quite thick – into what is usually a very tight hole. It feels really good to explore her ass. Once we are both content, I can then bang it until I come.
67. It’s Primal – It feels like raw animal fucking. (He might be into primal kink).
68. Penetrating deep into her body – I like anal sex more than vaginal sex. I love putting my erection deep up a woman’s ass. I like how her intestine stretches around my erection. I like the idea of putting my semen inside her intestine.
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“I like all kinds of different sex”
Several men responded to our survey by saying that anal sex wasn’t special. They just like to have sex and fuck any hole, so anal sex was as good as any other type.
69. I just like sex; anal is not an exception.
70. I like to fuck all holes.
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Some guys who responded to our survey have sex with men, which gave us insight into why some guys like both giving and receiving in anal sex. There’s a lot of overlap with the responses above about why men like anal sex with women, so it’s clear that the reason why men like anal so much doesn’t necessarily have to do with who they have sex with.
Pleasing, giving up, or taking control, and being used by a partner were common themes, and feeling like a woman or being in touch with their feminine side also popped up, along with prostate stimulation, and certain sexual fantasies or kinks.
71. I like it when a man hits the G Spot on my prostate. It makes me feel wanted and loved.
72. It honestly hurts sooo good. I get to have a hot guy on top of me, enjoying my hole and making him blow his seed deep inside me.
73. Anal sex makes me feel great. I love fucking men in the ass and thrusting against them. I love the sound of skin hitting against skin. I love making other people feel good and pleasured sexually.
74. The general feeling of being in touch with my more feminine side as well as being a man with a man.
75. I like being used like a toy for guys to get pleasure.
76. I like receiving anal penetration as part of a threesome or foursome, etc. I like the experience of handling multiple partners.
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77. I like the feeling of giving my partner pleasure by allowing him to penetrate me. I do, of course, enjoy being stimulated and getting my prostate “massaged”. And as a bottom, it’s also the mental satisfaction of “giving” my partner what he needs in bed.
78. Because nothing feels better than having a huge dick splitting you open and a man being in control of you and the situation until you eventually end up dripping wet and fully “pregnant.”
79. I get to experience sex from the female’s perspective. I also find the humiliation of my penis being superfluous [to sex] exciting.
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80. Receiving is exciting because it stimulates my prostate, and I love how full I feel, and I almost always cum when I’m fucked. I also like the feeling of the cum running out of my ass. I also like to give, especially if I get to rim my partner first.
81. If I’m [receiving], then I love the sensation of the head of his dick and shaft gliding against my prostate. I love the different type of orgasm that anal sex gives. The orgasm [I] have from anal is more intense than that of a blow job. (How to give a perfect blow job).
82. I love to receive it. I love the feel of that plump and soft head rubbing & teasing before entry. It’s so sensitive there. Then, feeling his head slide in, popping through the muscle, knowing his excited, hard cock is in me and has control over me. I’m enjoying that motion of him with each stroke. Then that climax of draining his hot cum gushing deep inside me. I love it when he pulls out and then slides it back in. It feels so slick and soft.
If you’ve ever asked, “Why do men want anal sex?”, you’ve now got a pretty good idea of what they get out of it–both as a giver and receiver. From the physical pleasure of the tightness to emotional connection to taboo and more, there are certainly plenty of reasons why men enjoy anal sex!
What about you? Do you like/hate anal sex? You can share your own experiences in the comments section.
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I feel like a 42 year old virgin. Lol.
My Man has has revealed his interest in anal and can’t thank you enough for these. You actually did change my mind around anal and I feel curious enough to give it a try in good time… And lots more reading.
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If done with patience and foreplay first it can be very rewarding to you. My wife has such great orgasms that way.
So, have you finally tried it?
Tighter then vagina. Not ever !
That’s true Eric! If it’s done properly and with patience at first few times it will be very enjoyable for her.
Most gay men love anal.They love another man thrusting in,and out of him.Especially doggy style,
which allows deep anal penetration.Alot of gay men who are on the receptive end of anal,love to be dominated by there partners.
Si es hermoso cuando te penetran hasta el fondo y eycylan el semen into the colon,mmm pleasure
Actually, and especially for women that are very sensitive in the vagina anal sex ones you get used to it has much less sensitivity and causes a lot less pain. Plus my wife has such great orgasms intense and many more!
Nobody mentioning the downside of anal sex. Anal tears , stool explosion, stretching of the anal sphincter . I know two guys who had to have anal surgery to repair their damaged sphincters So approach this activity with care. If a man wants and receives anal sex , I think his female partner should give him anal sex with a dildo…… see how he likes his downward passage treated as an upward one. As the saying goes all is fair in love and war.
100% agree
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Great point, thanks Brittany!
I’m super shy and have only just started dating my first bf and we’ve kissed and he’s always hard when we do which turns me on but haven’t gone any further. He’s way older and said he thinks I’m too young to lose my virginity and that he’d feel bad if we did it that way so suggested we try anal. Im totally freaked about him seeing, smelling and sliding something up my ass but I’m going to try it at least once.
My advice is this: don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with.
My wife loves my cock in her asshole. When I take my cock out her asshole gape big and I lick her gapping asshole and she cums she can cum anally when I fuck her asshole. My cock is not small but she loves it up in her asshole.
Hi I’m a transgender, my boyfriend and I enjoy anal sex frequently. He is fairly thick, so the first time was challenging but he took his time and it was incredible. I haven’t stretched out at all and he still starts slow. We do anal at least five times a week. He says I’m still as tight as the first time. Down side is he cums quickly most of the time. But still feels great.
Lucky guy 🙂
The first time my wife and I were newly married and I’ve always had a fascination of anal as it’s very sensitive and wondered if my wife would want to try it… we were in the midst of spooning and then I just slipped it in (without lube and yes, would do it differently and have done it differently since) but just slipped it in with very small action. I got so worked up I came pretty quick but she ‘felt’ the cum in her ass and it was so good.. still thinking of that night makes me get hard. Later we tried several other times with lots of lube but she’s just not that much into it… I actually like – the idea – the erotica of it I get worked up about and use it as foreplay – yes – wash up to make sure everything is clean! But, it’s about understanding if the wife doesn’t, it ain’t gonna happen sad to say.
I am both bottom and top for Anal, it was amazing, but should be careful with hygienic wash it well with finger before penetration, use liquid but should not be fast.
I am so sick of everything being about anal. At 37, when I was younger in my late teens and 20s it was still something men almost dared not ask for. Now, dating again, I’ve discovered that if you don’t provide anal you’re not considered a sexual person anymore (as a woman) and I’m so fucking sick of it. It hurts. Even when you go slowly and I and 2 of my friends have had our asses damaged from this because we gave in to the endless hassling of a man. New men, men youv’e dated for years, they never fucking stop asking.
And we endure it, and we are sore and we just carry on. If you want love in 2022, you provide ass and suffer, or you remain alone.
Wow, how unfortunate for you. Intimacy and sex are all about the desires and the paradigm one employs when exploring their sexuality. I’m 58, have never asked a woman, but, have had 2 women ask me. Which, I gladly indulged and enjoyed immensely. However, it should never be the other’s expectation. Anyway, sorry that you find so many men that “expect” you to participate in something that you don’t enjoy. Put the video games down kiddies, listen to your partner, serve her, respect her. The benefit of the wisdom of a 58 year old? Listening to what you say, not just hearing words…
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My husband and I have been together for 11 years. The first time we had sex I put his cock in my ass and he pounded me. I just felt the mood… after that we got married. We still have anal often and he recently started to also lick my ass. We have amazing v sex as well, but I love the feeling of him ejaculating inside my butt.
How should we clean up after anal if we want to go to vaginal? Or after rimming if we want to kiss/ have non-anal oral sex?
A good mouthwash after rimming?
Just soap/ water after anal?
It hurts and can cause incontinence. I refuse to do something just to pleasure him, while it hurts me.
My partner I rarely meet for sex we tried anal but I squirted on him and it was embarrassing he still talks but not sure if he’ll do me again I loved it , it was an accident bad . Wasn’t bad messy just wetter coming out my booty . Need help not to do that again . Makes me not wanna eat . HELP