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Once you’ve tried all the usual sex positions, blow job techniques and tips on talking dirty, it’s time start thinking about something new and exciting to try with your man. That’s exactly why I have put together this list of 5 kinky sex tips.You shouldn’t feel compelled to try every single one of these sex tips. Some may seem a little too kinky for you. That’s perfectly fine. Hopefully though they will at least give your an idea of what you may be interested in trying in the future.
Springing these kinky sex tips on your man when you first meet him may freak him out a little bit…unless you want to be a freak in bed for him 😉
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It’s a much better idea to first try the regular sex techniques that you’ll find throughout the Bad Girls Bible, then slowly graduate to the kinkier sex ideas, making sure that he’s comfortable with everything first.
Ok, lets learn some kinky sex techniques and tips to uses on your man!
1. Get Dominant
Becoming the dominant partner is a great way to make things a lot kinkier for you and your man. When you see the words, “Become dominant”, you may start thinking that you need to buy some whips and chains. The truth is, you can! But you don’t need to jump in at the deep end to become more dominant over your man. There are a lot of much easier ways to do it.
Here are a few:
Start With Woman-On-Top Sex Positions – If you’ve never been the dominant partner in the bedroom before, then you may be a little apprehensive about it. That’s why I recommend that you start with something simple like riding your man during sex. While the cowgirl is a favorite, you should also try out the Amazon position or even Reverse Cowgirl.
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Take The Initiative – If you are already comfortable with being on top of your man during sex, but find that your man is usually the initiator, then it’s time to switch things around and become the one who’s initiating things in the bedroom.
You don’t need to suddenly become a voracious tiger, instead it can be something as simple as grabbing your man and bringing him into the bedroom or even just start giving him a blow job when he’s least expecting it (like when you’re both watching TV).
Tell Him What To Do – Once you see your man’s positive reactions to you being the dominant one, then it’s time to take things to the next level. It’s time to start giving him commands and telling him what you want him to do. Again, start with easy things before giving him more hardcore commands like, “I want you to go down on me” or “I want to climax at least twice before you do”.
Learn more: How to talk dirty and 81 wild things to say during sex.
A Little Slap Here & There – Now we are getting into seriously kinky territory! The next time you are having sex with your man, try slapping or spanking him. Once you can see that he’s ok with this, then take it a little further…try slap it a little harder!
Then start thinking about other areas of his body that you can slap…his back, his legs…even his face.
Once you start straying over into this really kinky territory, then you should start talking to your man, to make sure he is ok with it and that you both agree to a safe word in case things get out of hand.
2. Roleplaying With Your Man
If becoming more dominant over your man in the bedroom is a kinky sex tip that doesn’t really do it for you, then another awesome way to make things kinkier is to try some roleplaying with him. Just like with being dominant over your man, you don’t necessarily need to take roleplaying to it’s limit, it can be just as much fun when you experiment with it.
There are a 2 main themes that permeate roleplaying with your man in the bedroom. One theme is that one of you has all the power, while the other is bold or naughty or needs to be punished or is generally in a submissive role. Roleplays that involve this include:
- Prison guard & prisoner
- Headmaster & naughty school girl/boy
- Cop & Criminal
- Nurse/Doctor & sick patient
- Sports coach & athlete
- The Boss & Secretary
Here are 43 incredible role play ideas to heat things up.
Others include an element of you you being sexy, sultry and irresistible. These are role plays where your man is in a position where he is irresistibly drawn to you. Kinky roleplays that involve this include:
- The bored housewife/girlfriend & the plumber/milkman
- Stripper & customer – how to strip
- Escort & client
- Model & photographer
However these aren’t the only themes that you should think about when roleplaying with your man. There is literally a never ending stream of roleplays that you can try out with your man. The only limit to what roleplays you do try is your imagination and fantasies.
A Few Notes On Roleplaying
Safe word – Remember that the idea of roleplaying is creating a fun & safe environment where you can act out your fantasies and kinks with your partner. With that in mind, you should never do anything your partner is not comfortable with it, even if it’s a kinky sex tip that you really want to try. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if your partner is or isn’t enjoying something, especially when you are experimenting. This is a exactly why you should use a safe word.
A safe word is a word or phrase that you wouldn’t normally use during sex with your man to indicate that you want him to stop what he’s doing. Here are a few examples, “Angry Birds”, “Walmart” or “iPhone”.
Learn to relax – Getting in the mood to roleplay with your man can sometimes be tricky. You may really want to try something, but you may be nervous or feeling a little awkward about it. A really simple way to get over these awkward feelings is to have a glass of wine (no more, you don’t want to be drunk!) or a joint (where it’s legal). You may also want to check out these foreplay tips to help you get in the mood.
3. Just because your man suggests a roleplay to try out doesn’t mean you have to do it. At the very least hear him out, then let him know that you aren’t interested right now. If it happens to sound totally ridiculous, don’t laugh or belittle him for it. More on effective sexual communication.
3. Public Sex
Before you even think about having sex outside make sure to first check that you aren’t breaking any laws.
If you aren’t sure, then it’s not worth risking it. So make sure to check your local laws first!
Public sex is one of those kinky sex tips that most people seem to either love or hate. Some people really get off to it: the thought of being caught, the feeling of freedom, the breeze blowing against your skin, even feeling the sun shine on them. However there are people who aren’t so enamoured with it. They are either indifferent to it…or they are actually turned off by it.
So before you jump in head first and drag you man somewhere for public sex, make sure to talk to him about it to make sure that he truly is on board. Once you are sure he is, then it’s time to start having some fun!
Picking Your Spot – Sure, spontaneous sex is usually the best, but it’s not always possible, so the first thing that you’ll be doing is choosing a place to have sex with your man.
If you love the idea of being watched by others, then the safest place to go is a swingers club. That way you can be sure that you aren’t offending people while at the same enjoying being watched by people who are respectful of your lifestyle.
Learn: What is a swinger
If you’d prefer to be all alone, then a great choice is a wooded area or even a private beach (if you can find one). If you do choose somewhere like this, then make sure to bring a rug for comfort and to help prevent sand, dirt and other things going where you don’t want them!
Lube Factor – Another thing to think about if you are having sex outside, if you are in a warm, but dry place, then you may find that you are drying out much faster than usual. If this is the case, make sure to bring some lube.
Just to remind you one last time, if you live in an area where public sex acts are illegal, don’t risk it.
4. Toy Story
Introducing sex toys is a kinky sex tip that you absolutely must try. Of course some say that it’s cheating or that it’s not fair, but the truth is that it’s not. It’s just another fabulous way to keep things hot and fun.
The only time an issue will arise is if your man thinks that you NEED sex toys to get off. It can be a big blow to his ego if he THINKS that he can’t get you off. So if you suspect that he is someone who may be a bit insecure about you using a sex toy, make sure to explain the situation to him.
Choosing the right sex toy can be somewhat of a minefield. There are literally thousands of different toys that you can choose from. There are various different kinds of vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, prostate massagers and more. The reason being…different people have different preferences when it comes to this thing. Some people love certain toys, while others don’t get any pleasure from them.
So rather than letting me suggest what you should try, my advice is to take a look yourself and decide for yourself what you want to try and use.
5. Get Submissive
I covered becoming dominant earlier, but not everyone likes or even gets turned on by the idea of being more dominant over their man. For these people, they just don’t find it to be a kinky sex tip worth trying.
But what about the polar opposite of being dominant, what about becoming more submissive to your man? This is obviously going to be way hotter if your man enjoys being dominant in bed too! Lets look at a few different strategies that you can use to explore being submissive with your man…
Tell Him – By far the easiest and most direct way to introduce the idea of you being submissive to your man is to just tell him. If you are super direct about it, then it might work well or…it might catch him off guard and freak him out.
A better way to tell him is to just start talking to just bring up how much you enjoy seeing and feeling him be ‘manly’ & dominant. The next time you are finished having sex, tell him something like this:
- That was so hot how you just pounded me harder & harder. I felt completely helpless, it was incredible.
- I love how you throw me around when we’re in bed together. It really turns me on when we have rough sex.
- I feel like the more aggressive and dominant you get, the more submissive I become.
Complimenting your man is the perfect way to boost his ego and is a kinky sex tip on it’s own. The more your reinforce how awesome it is and how much you love it when he is dominant with you, the more he is likely to continue doing it.
Even if he’s not particularly dominant with you right now, let him know how kinky you find anything that he does that is even slightly dominant. If doesn’t work, then there are other ways to approach it…
Just Do It – Rather than waiting for your man to be more dominant, a quicker strategy is to take the bull by the horns and just go for it. You can start acting submissive to your man sexually without him prompting it. So what kinds of things can you do to be more submissive to him?
Don’t Even Ask – The next time you are both getting ready for bed, just drop to your knees as he is changing out of his clothes and start giving him a blowjob. Don’t worry, he won’t be upset!
The Unprompted Hand Job – When you and your man are just lying in bed together, slowly slide your hand down his stomach, grab his penis and start giving him a hand job. Bonus kinky, submissive points for giving him puppy eyes as you are doing it.
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Nisha says
I have been talking to this guy for a couple of months now and we have gotten very very close…we don’t have a title but he does talk to other females. We have started exchanging I love yous and crying with each other and doing a lot together. Even though he shared the first I love you now he is kind of drifting away from me. He recently told me him and his ex started communicating again but she has a boyfriend. I don’t know what to think. We are so close but I fear he is scared of what could become of me and him. Please help me
Rocky says
The best way to deal is to talk. Talk with him directly as to what he has in mind. See, the best thing about talking is , you’ll know what he is upto. If you are too scared or shy to ask, then be as dominant as you can while having sex, show him why you are better than anyone else in this world for him. Suck him out, tease him till a point that it becomes irresistible for him to stop before fucking all over you , show him your sultry side. He will definitely fall for you.
All the best !!!
Lou says
My boyfriend always initiates I would love the confidence to initiate and just be more for him in the bedroom, very self concise about my body my boyfriend says there’s nothing wrong but I get embarrassed, ,,, been together 3 years lol
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Jackie says
Hi Sean,
I have been dating a guy now for about a year now. I am recovering from a 25 year marriage with an alcoholic who wouldn’t hardly touch me at all and now that I am with someone new I am going through a whole new sexual awakening where my partner allows me to do things I could never do before and Its like something has turned over in me and I want to do things like dominate /submissive roles however, my partner has a very low libido and ed.I want sex all the time and have talked to him about what I want and nothing has changed… He is very quiet in the bedroom and I’m not. How can I make him engage… I am offering him everything any man would want. I have toys and have talked dirty to him, told him I want him to be dominate me anytime and roughly but nothing yet. Suggestions on how to make him as dirty as me.
Sinthia says
You need to find a man with the same sexual style and appetite as you. You cannot *make* someone dirty, can only encourage and free it if it’s in there somewhere. You’ve suffered enough, now found yourself yet another man to save and change and “be good enough” for. Don’t go down that path. Find a man who worships you and f$&cks you as the sex goddess you are.
marther says
great tips helped me a lot in my time of need.
Desiiiibbbyyyy says
Sooo I like this guy, but he likes it rough sex and I mean rough. I’m not really sure how to feel or what to expect because I don’t even know if I like it. I’m nervous for our first time having sex but any tips of testing the waters slowly for rough sex?
Sean Jameson says
Talk to him. Let him know what YOU want. Good sex is about both getting what you want.
Armena says
Ok so I’m with this guy and the sex is amazing he turns me around and grabs my hair while hitting it from the back and I love it. But when he wants head he says that I don’t give him it enough but I will literally suck it forever until he cums any suggestions on this
Sean Jameson says
Ask him to stop masturbating for a few weeks so he becomes more sensitive.
Susan says
My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile and have had amazing sex but he told me he wants things to get more filthy and dirty and intense and he wants me to lead the way…I’m all up for this challenge but I want to know what filthy dirty things I can do to him or tell him to do? Any ideas would help!
Sean Jameson says
These Kinky Sex Ideas should help as should these Freaky Tips.