Ever fantasized about having sex with a fireman, a cop or even a movie star?Everybody has fantasies that range from the usual vanilla stuff like being with a guy you’re really attracted to all the way up to some really naughty and kinky sex.
We’ve even cataloged 31 true sex stories from women who have been able to live out their sexual fantasies.
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The great thing is that it’s totally normal to fantasize and to get turned on by them.
But why just keep these fantasies in your head?
Why not indulge them, explore them and enjoy them with your man?
I want to show you exactly how you can explore, experiment and enjoy your fantasies with your man without either of you feeling weird, awkward or guilty.
But how?
….It’s simple…
You need to try role playing.
Introducing Role Playing To Your Man
So you probably already know what role playing is. It’s when you pretend to take on a role. It’s just like when you were a kid and pretended to be a ringmaster/mistress in a circus and your dog was the elephant that had to perform tricks for the audience (your mom & dad)
In this case, your role playing is obviously going to be a bit more…’adult’!
Side note: We created a list with explanations of the 43 hottest, sexiest role play ideas you can try.
So the first thing you need to do is introduce the idea of role playing to your man. When introducing something new to your man, I always teach people to do it in a way that’s smooth and is hard for your man to object to.
Telling your man directly that you want to try something is NOT something that I advise you to do. It certainly can work. But if it doesn’t then it’s unlikely that he’ll ever want to try it with you. In other words, your man might completely shoot down your idea if it’s coming out of left field.
A better way to introduce the idea of role playing to your man is to do something really nice for him, that he really enjoys so he’s in a great mood. Then while he’s in a great mood, you should subtly introduce the idea to him in a really positive way.
Here’s an example…
Wait till the next time you and your man are going to be alone together in your house/apartment. Tell him that you’d like to do something special for him. Then slip into something sexy (10 tips for choosing sexy lingerie) and make a quick, tasty snack for him, while he is watching TV or while he is on his computer.
Then afterward, slowly strut over to him and give him a nice, slow, sensual blow job.
After you make your man orgasm, cuddle up next to him and tell him how much you enjoyed doing that for him. Then tell him that sometimes it feels really sexy when you are his personal maid. Tell him that maybe one night you could dress up in a short & sexy maids outfit and serve him dinner.
He won’t object!
Next, you can tell him other things that turn you on. Hopefully he will tell you what turns him on too.
Just make sure to start off with the tame stuff first. Then build-up to the more ‘out there’ sexual fantasies you have.
You could tell him…
- That you find it really hot when he’s dominant or in control. (He can learn how to be dominant in the bedroom)
- That you would love HIM to cook for YOU sometime.
- That you get really horny at the idea of having sex somewhere else like on a beach, in a 5-star hotel, on a yacht, etc. (The 15 best places to have sex).
- That you think it could be really hot to order him around the bedroom and tell HIM how to please YOU. (He can learn how to make a girl orgasm in the Bad Boys Bible section).
- That you would love the idea of him dressing up as your boss and you dressing up as his secretary.
- That you’d like to try having a threesome with him (girl/girl/boy or boy/boy/girl).
- That you think it would be hot to try some BDSM with him
- Use these 35 BDSM role play ideas to keep things freaky
- And keep continuing as long you are comfortable.
In most cases, as you start sharing and opening up to your man (and he is in a great mood), he will start sharing his fantasies and kinks with you too!
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But you may find that you do all the talking and that your man is fairly quiet throughout. If he is very quiet and you want him to share his fantasies with you, then just suggest some things to him and see how he reacts to them.
Once you know what his fantasies and kinks are, it’s time to start translating them to role playing…
Role Playing Games With Your Man
Ok, so now that you are both learning about each other’s kinks, fantasies and fetishes, it’s time to start actually playing some role playing games with your man.
Jail Warden & Prisoner
In this role play, your man could be the jail warden. He gets to decide what you can and can’t do. Maybe he doesn’t want you to go into a certain room. Or maybe he doesn’t want you to have a drink without his permission.
You can always be a ‘bad’ prisoner, which means the Jail Warden will have to punish you. But maybe you can do certain ‘things’ for him to gain privileges.
Related: These BDSM punishments can help make it feel more real
Cop & Criminal
The Cop & Criminal is quite similar to the Jail Warden & Prisoner. Your man could be the crooked cop who catches you doing something illegal. He could punish you, arrest you and tie you up… Or you could do him a ‘favor’ so that you don’t get arrested.
Related: You may want to learn about bondage if he is going to tie you up.
The Boss & Secretary
In this role play your man could be the big, powerful boss and you are his sexy secretary, making sure that he is always happy while making sure that you are always wearing something that he approves of.
Headmaster/Head Mistress & Naughty School Girl/Boy
You are the sexy headmistress of a prestigious boarding school. But your man is the most disruptive pupil and you need to punish him. Should he get caned? If not, how else can he show you that he is sorry? Kiss your shoes? Perform oral sex on you (he can use these 85 oral sex techniques to pleasure you)?
Learn: How to spank your husband
Plumber/Carpenter/Electrician & Bored Housewife
You play the bored housewife. Your man is always out at work or socializing with his friends. He’s never around to take care of your wants and needs. But when you hire a carpenter to fix your kitchen cabinets, you find yourself irresistibly attracted to him and start having the best sex of your life.
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Nurse & Sick Patient
Your man plays a wounded, sick man. You are a sultry sexy nurse that is willing to do ‘whatever it takes’ to bring him back to full health. Maybe you need to ‘suck’ the life back into him (29 tips for sucking his cock)? Or maybe just a massage will do (learn how to give a sensual massage)?
Stripper & Client
You are a hot and exotic stripper with all the moves. Your man is a rich client that wants to see you strut your stuff and dance for him. And he’s willing to pay. You could decide to only do certain things unless he pays you more.
More: How to perform a striptease for your man
Escort & Client
This one is quite similar to the Stripper & Client. But instead of stripping, you have to have sex with him for money. The fun thing about this is that you get to set the prices. Maybe a hand job is cheap, but a blow job is more expensive?
Model & Photographer
You are a sexy model on a big photo shoot. Your man is a top fashion photographer who wants to capture your beauty and sultry sexiness. Things start off like any normal photoshoot until your man starts to suggest that you take off more and more clothes….and things progress from there.
These are just a few examples of role plays that you can try with your man. But there are far, far more role play ideas you can try out with him that I haven’t mentioned here. You just need to use your imagination.
- Don’t forget to reverse the roles for double the fun!
- To really get in the mood for these games, try dressing up for the roles.
WARNING: Make sure to use a safe word when trying out these role playing games with your man in case one of you wants to stop.
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Shelbie says
Hi
I really loved your article on Role Playing, but I’m 21 weeks pregnant. I feel that my man isn’t as attracted to me as before. He plays his video games and we don’t get “close” much anymore, which is making me feel unwanted and unattractive. Is there a way I can keep his attention on me and not on his video games?
Much Appreciated
Thanks, Shelbie
Sean Jameson says
Hi Shelbie,
Honestly, I think the best thing that you can do is to simply talk to him and let him know how you feel.
Sean
Angel says
Have you try just wearing something supersexy and well he’s playing his game walk around in it and if nothing get in front of him drop to ur knees then pull his pants down and give him a BJ well he playing something should happen after that..
Jessica Walters says
As a female gamers opinion try what I’ve done before.. Give him a blowjob! Just get him out you initiate straight away and give him a bmowjob, he will be unable to concentrate on the game and have no choice but I concentrate on you
mrguy says
This is a toughie. You need to talk to him and also observe him to figure out why
he is not interested in you.
My most likely guesses are:
a) changes in your body are turning him off
b) he is afraid to hurt the baby
He may not admit (b). In fact, he may not even be consciously aware that he is afraid.
I’d talk this one over with him and really try to make sure this isn’t it. If it is, you need
to find some good write ups on the safety of having sex while pregnant. Get him to
go to one of your OBGYN appointments so *they* can tell him.
If it’s (a), that depends on the guy. There are a lot of things you have more of now, even if you
are gaining weight. You probably have bigger boobs, wider hips, a bigger rounder behind. Don’t be shy about it. Figure out which of those he really likes and dress to accentuate it. A bulging pregnant
belly and big boobs can be an enormous turn-on if you aren’t shy about them.
Adri says
I love my man so so much ….he loves blowjobs but never wants to kiss me afterwards
i’ve tried everything did everything but he wil not He use to kiss me before but now even if I ask nice he does not want to….said it s deguesting …on point of giving up …..I enjoy our sex he are grate in bed get orgams with and without toys if only he kiss me
jessica says
How do i get my bf attention he doesnt notice me. Any suggestions?? I try black dress and black pantie its doesnt work. Can u give me some suggestions and advice how to get his attention email me and let me know please. Thanks you.
Sean Jameson says
First, work on turning him on, then work on using the right physical techniques.
Jessica says
What are list of guy turn on spot i like to know to get my bf attention he doesnt notice me at all
Sean Jameson says
These male erogenous zones should help.