Once you get past the honeymoon phase, cuddling can sometimes drift away from your repertoire of relationship bonding activities.
This is a natural part of relationships, but it’s one that you should pay attention to and correct as soon as possible. According to a new study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences journal, cuddling produces a hormone called oxytocin, which creates a sense of well being and even triggers the production of dopamine.
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If you want to bring this essential addition back to your relationship, consider the following cuddling tips for when, where, why, and how to cuddle…
When to Cuddle
It’s almost always a good time to cuddle, but there are a few times where a quick cuddle session is non-negotiable.
After Sex – A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that “couples who spend more time showing affection after sex feel more satisfied with their sex lives, and in turn, with their relationship in general. Since you might not have time for cuddling every time you have sex, make sure to show plenty of affection during sex itself by kissing, caressing, etc. You’ll find more incredible sex tips here.
When you’re sad – Whether it’s a bad day or a bad fight, cuddling is a great way to comfort one another when you’re sad. It provides a physical affirmation that can make you feel instantly better, but at the very least it will allow you to calm down. To maximize the effects, cuddle while listening to uplifting music or watching something light on TV.
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When you wake up – What better way to start your day than by snuggling close to the one you love? Since it’s already been established that cuddling releases feel-good hormones, this can start you off in a good mood and with more energy to boot.
Where to Cuddle
Believe it or not, you don’t always have to cuddle in bed. However, you probably don’t want to take the PDA overboard by cuddling in the middle of the mall…
Here are a few less-common cuddling locations, with some extra cuddling tips to get in some more touchy-feely time.
At the movies – Lift up that armrest and wrap your arms around your sweetheart in the romantic, intimate darkness of the movie theater. This is how to cuddle if you want a better bonding experience because you’ll be able to literally feel each other’s experience of the movie: your heart beating, his body heaving with laughter, squeezing each other’s hands during an emotional moment—you get the idea.
In the car – Especially during chilly fall and winter days, car cuddling can help you both keep warm and turn up the heat in your relationship. Although you can always hit up the backseat for an extreme cuddle sesh, you can also keep it subtle by snuggling his arm while he drives (or vice versa) or even just holding hands.
In nature – Whether you’re picnicking in the park or hiking to the top of a mountain, cuddling is a great way to bond and feel secure as you take in the beauty of the great outdoors. If you’re not about getting down and dirty with the bugs and grass, here’s how to cuddle without getting messy: Have him sit down with his legs parted and knees raised, while you lean back against his chest and he wraps his arms around you. Hold his arms with your hands to get more intimate.
How to Cuddle
Speaking of cuddle positions, these three off-the-beaten-path options can add a little more spice to your next spooning session.
Head-in-lap – This can be a sexy position because it leaves one partner in a uniquely vulnerable situation. Not to mention, it puts either you or him pretty close to a certain pleasure zone. If he’s lying down in your lap, you can make the moment more affectionate and erotic by playing with his hair and delicately tracing his facial features. It’s a perfect position for him to talk and you to just listen.
Verona skeleton snuggle – A quick Google search will reveal that the Verona skeletons, which were two skeletons discovered in Italy that were found locked in an embrace lasting 5,000 years. With this position, you face one another with your arms wrapped around each other and the “little spoon’s” knee bent above the “big spoon’s.”
Pancake cuddle – Perfect for playful moods, the pancake cuddle is when one of you lies down directly on top of the other. It’s not the best long-term cuddle position, but it can actually feel pretty good to get completely decompressed. Bonus points if the top pancake throws in a sensuous back massage!
Why Cuddle in the First Place?
If you haven’t found a good enough reason yet, don’t fret: there are tons of benefits that come with cuddling.
It boosts your immune system – Our good old friend oxytocin is a renaissance man when it comes to your health. On top of just generally making you feel good, this miracle hormone boosts your immune system too. As a result, you’ll enjoy better health and a lower chance of getting sick.
It reduces pain – You know how when you hit your knee or elbow against something and your first instinct is to rub it? This is sort of the the same logic behind cuddling and pain reduction. When you and your partner touch each other via cuddles and caresses, it releases hormones that reduce pain and make you feel better.
It leads to sex – When your sex life is lacking, forget starting with foreplay and instead start by cuddling. Physical touch (even non-erotic touch) releases dopamine in the body, which increases energy and sexual desire. More sex is an easy and effective way to get more exercise into your day, which reduces stress, improves overall health, and strengthens your relationship.
There is no wrong or right way how to cuddle. The most important of all cuddling tips is just making sure you’re taking time to show affection toward your partner and along with avoiding routines. So even though it might feel silly sometimes, cuddling is one of the most effective ways to keep the bond between you and your boo strong.
Remember that cuddling can mean different things at different times. Sometimes it can be affectionate, sensual, or just downright sexual. In fact, it can be a great bonding experience to try out some of the Bad Girls Bible sex positions here that involve full-body contact. But no matter how, when, where, or why you cuddle, one thing you can definitely count on is having a lot of fun.
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