Spooning is one of the classics along with the Missionary, Cowgirl and Doggy Style sex positions. It’s not a sex position for rough or ‘hardcore’ sex. Instead it’s more for those who enjoy slow, intimate sex with their man as your bodies are in full contact with each other.
Spooning is really easy. It’s a lot like the Sofa Spooning position except it’s performed in bed. You and your man both need to lie on your sides, facing in the same direction. Your man will be behind you and then needs to enter you. When in the Spooning position, you need to bring your top leg forward a little bit to make it easier for your man to penetrate you. Once he has entered you, he can wrap his arms around you for closeness.
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What The Girl Does In The Spooning Position
When you are Spooning with your man, you can push back against him with each thrust. You can also play around with your position by bending forwards slightly or lifting your legs towards your stomach to change the angle that your man is entering you at.
You’ll find that you can also lean slightly onto your stomach as well to change the angle of entry. When Spooning with your man, you will be in the perfect position to start massaging your clitoris or using a vibrator to help bring yourself to orgasm or you can finger yourself if you are having anal sex with your man.
What The Guy Does In The Spooning Position
Like I have said before, Spooning is a really easy position for cuddling or sex. Your man doesn’t have to be flexible or strong at all to Spoon with you. He simply needs to thrust in and out of you while on his side. He may find it easier to thrust into you if he leans over you slightly.
Your man is also in the perfect position to reach around and start masturbating you, by rubbing around your clit and labia with his fingers. He can also grab the top side of your waist so that he can thrust into you with a little more force. If your man puts his arms around you, then his lower arm may become numb or get pins and needles if he keeps it there for too long. To prevent this from happening, he can put it behind your back or stretch it out above him (which will make him look a little like Superman flying).
Things To Consider When Performing The Spooning Position
Almost everyone has tried Spooning (or some slight variation of it). Below are some of the thoughts and feedback on it by students of the Bad Girls Bible:
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- Spooning is perfect if you have just woken up or if you are really exhausted and you don’t want to do too much during it.
- Spooning is perfect if you want to feel really physically close to your partner during sex.
- You can perform anal sex while Spooning with your man.
Similar Sex Positions
Sofa Spooning
You don’t have to change much up for Sofa Spooning–just the location!
Tea Spooning
If you like your man behind you but want to mix it up, try kneeling, instead.
Bent Spoon
Another variation has the man on his back and the woman on hers on top of him!
Sean’s Thoughts On The Spooning Sex Position
Like just about everyone else, I am a massive fan of Spooning. If feels wonderful, especially when it’s with someone that you are really close to. I highly recommend you try it with your guy if haven’t already.
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How can I perform anal sex while spooning with my man?
Hi R,
It’s pretty easy and straightforward. Just follow the tips for the .
Sean
Hi,
I was wondering, does the guy need to have a larger dick to perform the spooning?
Thank you, amd great website!
A.
Nope, normal sized is fine 🙂
I have a 5 inch penis, is it still possible to do this position? I feel that it would be harder for a guy with a smaller penis to enter deeply enough into the vagina..
The key is just trying it. It depends on your shape and your partner’s shape.
My bf & I have tried this but still find it difficult. First, how is this done for vaginal intercorse? My bum is about 42″ around, & he’s about 4 1/2″ so it’s hard for him to enter, but almost impossible for him to stay inside during this. We really like this position & want to know if there’s a technique to somehow make it possible.
Try modifying the position a bit so that you bring your legs close to your chest. This will allow you to “open up” and make it easier for him to stay inside, but unfortunately this takes away the intimacy.
My partner and I tried this position unintentionally. We had finished a long session where he had already satisfied me but unfortunately he couldn’t finish and didn’t maintain his erection. We started lying side ways in the same direction with him behind me as we were about to cuddle until we fell asleep and I found my bottom was directly on top his penis and I started grinding on it. He started to get an erection and started to grind me too while he fingered me and kissed my neck. He ended up inserting right into my vigina from behind and the sensation was good for both of us regardless of the pace of the thrusting and he finally was able to ejaculate after a while. It’s now one of our firm favourites.
That’s a great story! My wife and I love this as one of our favs too. Similarly, we were just cuddling one time and I got hard and she started grinding and so we went with. It felt so different and we both orgasmed so fast. After a few tries, I’ve learned to get better and appreciate this position. Now we do it all the time! Normally we like face to face positions over the behind ones, but cuddling and spooning, rather than traditional doggy, is so relaxing, passionate and intimate and the closeness is amazing. It’s so fun to cuddle and have her guide me inside her and just go ever so slow and make it last longer. While I kiss her neck or suck on her ear or something, I use my free hand to rub her her breasts or massage her clit. She uses a free hand and massages my balls or uses her nails and scratches me underneath them and it’s so hot and feels amazing. But we can really enjoy each other romantically and still be lazy in this position and not get tired out hehe.
this position is great for slow, passionate sex on weekends. The sensation of my b/f big shaft rubbing against my G leads to some mind-blowing duo orgasms. I am 43 and dating an amazing 52 year old man, he believes that as far as an orgasm is concerned – it should always be ‘ladies first’. I love that he is always thinking of me first, but I’m wondering if there is a modified version of the spoon that i could tempt him with, that would surprise him with his orgasm first…?
Okay, I am am slightly thicck girl and my husband is a little bigger too. We have been trying to do spooning for a while and we just can’t seem to get it right. I mean I feel like sometimes my larger behind gets in the way or he just can’t seem to get it in. He is average length (5-5.5 in). Can someone explain what we are doing wrong or do I just need to give up on the ultra intimate fantasy of spooning with greatest love?
Can you start by folding forwards more, so that your vagina is more exposed? Once he is penetrating you try slowly straightening out
That’s a great story! My wife and I love this as one of our favs too. Similarly, we were just cuddling one time and I got hard and she started grinding and so we went with. It felt so different and we both orgasmed so fast. After a few tries, I’ve learned to get better and appreciate this position. Now we do it all the time! Normally we like face to face positions over the behind ones, but cuddling and spooning, rather than traditional doggy, is so relaxing, passionate and intimate and the closeness is amazing. It’s so fun to cuddle and have her guide me inside her and just go ever so slow and make it last longer. While I kiss her neck or suck on her ear or something, I use my free hand to rub her her breasts or massage her clit. She uses a free hand and massages my balls or uses her nails and scratches me underneath them and it’s so hot and feels amazing. But we can really enjoy each other romantically and still be lazy in this position and not get tired out hehe.