How To Sit On A Guy’s Face With Powerful Confidence & Intense Orgasms

I’m going to show you how to sit on a guys face, how to make it incredibly kinky and do it with supreme confidence. If you’re a guy who enjoys your partner sitting on your face, then we’ve got tips for you too!
If you ask many men about their secret fantasy, it may just be face sitting (which is also a very popular porn genre!). They want their partners to sit in their faces and use them for their pleasure in a carnal and selfish way. We’re taught that we should be giving and selfless during sex, and there are plenty of reasons why women are hesitant to do this.

But sitting on your man’s face can be immensely pleasurable – both physically and mentally. Once you work out the mechanics, it might become one of your favorite sexual activities. Read on if you want to know how to ride someone’s face perfectly!

We’ve also got a bunch of face sitting tips for guys too, which you can skip to here.

What’s So Great About Face Sitting?

Just in case you’re not sure why you might like this, here are a few reasons. He eats you out, which feels good. And the position means the focus is all on you, not like 69, where you can’t fully focus on the pleasure you’re receiving because you’re also going down on your man.

It can feel incredibly powerful and empowering, which works well during roleplay. If you’re normally being of service to your man, why not switch things up by sitting on his face?

Some men particularly find having their faces sat on and being “used” to be appealing to the point of a fetish, and why shouldn’t you take advantage of that? A healthy sex life allows you both to realize your most intense sexual fantasies.

Of course, you might have your own reasons for loving sitting on someone’s face. We won’t judge!

But Won’t I Squish Him?

One of the main reasons women prevent themselves from having fun by sitting on their man’s face is the worry that they’ll somehow squish him or suffocate him to death. Listen up, ladies: this just doesn’t happen! Even if you’re a hot, bigger lady and your guy is tiny, you’re not going to squash him.

Find a position that’s comfortable for you both. He can always let you know if he needs a break or can’t breathe. Some guys even like not being able to breathe a bit.

While we’re on the subject, the same rationale applies to riding your man. You will most definitely not break him. He’ll love it when you take the reigns. Learn more about confidently being on top of your man during sex.

Is There Special Hygiene for Face Sitting?

There’s nothing you absolutely must do before you sit on a guy’s face. Instead, consider what will make you feel comfortable when face riding. If you want to shower beforehand or shave (vulva and ass), you can. Because there’s a lot of grinding when riding his face, you’ll want to make sure that your anus is clean. However, you don’t need to be squeaky clean.

In fact, several commentators on our site mentioned how much they enjoy a woman’s musk or the aroma of her sweat and anus during face sitting. For them, it’s part of the face sitting experience! This might come as a surprise to some women, but you can definitely use it to your advantage.

Most women are more worried about their own hygiene, but your man’s personal care can make or break the experience, too. Some women hate the feeling of “beard burn” from stubble when riding their men. It may be better to ask him to shave clean or wait until his beard is a bit longer and softer before you ride his face.

How to Get Him to Agree

So you want to try sitting on your guy’s face, but you’re not sure to bring it up. Before you learn how to sit on a guy’s face, you need to make sure it’s okay. There are a few ways to go about it.

• If he regularly goes down on you, you can simply suggest a position change.
• If he’s mentioned that he wants you to sit on his face, you can simply push him down on the bed (or instruct him to get in position) and sit on top of his face.
• He may want to go down on you or simply be willing to, even if you’ve never done it before. Discover how simple it is to get him to go down on you. Encourage him with personal hygiene or even trade a few sexual favors to get what you want.

However, you might just go ahead and ask, “Can I sit on your face?” Lots of guys will readily agree. He may be confused or ask, “What is face sitting?” This gives you a chance to explain what it is and why you want to try it and why he might like it, too.

For some people, talking about sex in any way is difficult. It’s totally normal if you’re one of those people, but you deserve a sex life where you’re treated to what you want and need. You can get what you want or need in bed and become closer to your man with proper sexual communication.

If sexual anxiety about performance or how you look is what plagues you, check out our helpful post about getting rid of sexual anxiety.

How to Sit on a Guy’s Face Comfortably

You’re on the same page, and now it’s time for the fun to begin, but how exactly do you go about sitting on his face?

1. Start by having him lie down on his back.
2. Next, start to get in the traditional 69 position, by placing your knees are on either side of his head but remain upright.
3. Then lower your vulva/vagina or anus down towards his face by bending your knees are lowering your hips.
4. If your legs are getting tired, you can place your hands on the bed and his stomach to help support yourself.
5. Your man can then grab your legs with his hands to give you feedback. He can pull you in deeper if he wants more pressure or push you away slightly if he wants less.
6. You can also face in the opposite direction. If there’s a wall or headboard in front of you, grab ahold and use it to balance yourself.

Voila!

He licks. You grind. Everyone wins!

Sitting on his face isn’t really a crazy sex position (Read: 31 Crazy Sex Positions You Won’t Believe), but it does take a bit to find the style that works best for you and your man.

Alternative Face Sitting Positions

Squatting – Some people prefer to squat instead of kneeling, but this is more strain on your leg muscles.

Hand Job/Blow Job – When queening him and facing towards his body, you can give your man an amazing hand job or blow job.

Dominate Him – If you’re agile enough, you may be able to wrap your legs around your man’s head. This is especially dominant.

Related: 10 Ways to Dominate Your Man

Standing & Kneeling – Although it’s not exactly “sitting” on his face, you may find it fun to stand while your man kneels behind you. You can grab the back of his head and push it into your vulva or between your cheeks. It might be hard for him to reach your clitoris, so you can try leaning forward and spreading your legs to make it easier.

Extra Pillows – If you find yourself struggling to find the best face sitting position, you might try a position pillow. These pillows are taller than the regular pillows you sleep with and made from a firm memory foam that doesn’t lose its shape. These pillows are especially helpful if you don’t have a headboard or your headboard isn’t good for leaning on. Aim for a pillow that’s tall enough to lean forward on as you ride your man’s face. Extra height and shape don’t matter as the pillow will decrease somewhat under your weight.

Let Him Tap Out When You’re Face Sitting

So you’re on his face, but he obviously can’t keep this up forever, especially if it takes you a while to orgasm. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but you can give him a break. He can simply tap you on the leg to know if he needs a breather.

At this point, you can scoot back to his chest or simply pause for a rest. It’s up to you.

Do You Need to Cum?

If your man needs a rest, your legs are feeling tired, or you’ve simply had enough, feel free to switch to any other activity. You don’t need to have an orgasm for face sitting to be successful. Ask any man: he enjoys a blow job, but he doesn’t necessarily need to finish. If you really want to make him cum during oral, use these 55 blow job techniques.

You can add a small clitoral vibrator to play if your man is focusing on your vagina and not your clitoris. Check out the anatomy lesson in this guide on how to finger yourself so you know what we’re talking about. Learn how to use a vibrator.

If your bodies allow, he can add fingers to the mix to get you off. But, again, orgasm isn’t necessary to have a good time.

Advanced Face Sitting Tips

If your man needs a rest, your legs are feeling tired, or you’ve simply had enough, feel free to switch to any other activity. You don’t need to have an orgasm for face sitting to be successful. Ask any man: he enjoys a blow job, but he doesn’t necessarily need to finish. If you really want to make him cum during oral, use these 19 tips.

You can add a small clitoral vibrator to play if your man is focusing on your vagina and not your clitoris. Check out the anatomy lesson here so you know what we’re talking about.

If your bodies allow, he can add fingers to the mix to get you off. But, again, orgasm isn’t necessary to have a good time.

Let Him Tap Out When You’re Face Sitting

So you’re on his face, but he obviously can’t keep this up forever, especially if it takes you a while to orgasm. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but you can give him a break. He can simply tap you on the leg to let you know if he needs a breather.

At this point, you can scoot back to his chest or simply pause for a rest. It’s up to you.

How to Dominate Your Man While Sitting On His Face

One of the reasons why face sitting is so popular is that the woman gets to be in control. So if you like to dominate your man in bed, face sitting is perfect! Here are a few ideas to get started:

• Don’t get up from riding his face until he makes you cum.
• Pinch his nipples.
• Slap his penis.
• Kneel on his arms to pin them down.
• Tie him to the bed or cuff him before you sit down and start riding his face. Under-the-bed restraints work especially well because your man will be spread eagle position.
• Require him to “clean” your vulva or anus with his tongue.
• Use face sitting as a reward if he’s a fan or remove his access to it if he needs punishment.
• Make him beg you to sit on his face.
• Try some of these other femdom sex positions.

Pick one or two of these things to do while riding his face. It might not be possible to do them all, and it may be overwhelming if you try everything at the same time.

How Does Queening Relate to Face Sitting?

Some people love face sitting so much that they invest in a specific type of furniture designed specifically for it. This furniture looks like a chair or even  thrown; hence the name “queening.” But there’s a hole or slice cut out from the seat. Your boyfriend sits or lies face up beneath the throne while you sit or squat over the throne. Then, it’s time for oral ministrations.

Now, not everyone can afford expensive sex furniture, And you may not have space for it, anyway. However, you may be able to try a sort of DIY queening with regular furniture or sex pillows. And if you get to chance to try out queening in a public play area, don’t miss your chance!

Face Sitting Tips for Men

First, getting a girl to sit on your face doesn’t have to be hard! In fact, many women hope that their partners are into the idea and that they aren’t worried that they’ll be smothered (or that this is precisely what their husband wants!).

So speak up! Say, “I want you to ride my face.” Let her know how hot you find it when she does, and you’ll get to be her sexy face pillow more often.

As a guy, you might not be used to lying back while your female partner does the work, but having her sit on your face gives you that chance! So what do you do?

Eat Her Pussy – Mostly, you perform oral to the best of your ability. Remember that you may be coming at her clitoris “upside-down” and you’ll need to adjust your mouth position appropriately.

Your partner might be humping and grinding your face, so your technique doesn’t have to be perfect here. It’s more about enthusiasm. She’ll probably enjoy hearing your muffled moans.

Breathing Issues – You may struggle to breathe if your partner is especially exuberant or has a big booty. It’s useful to tap out if you need a break to breathe. Otherwise, you may be able to hold her hands or wrap yours around her thighs. It all depends on how much she’s tied you up!

Don’t forget to use your nose and chin if you can. If she’s into it, you can lick her ass cheeks and anus too! Our Analingus Guide has a lot more info on this.

Face Sitting As A Man – What about face sitting as a man? It’s less common but doable. If you kneel or squat over your girlfriend in a similar position, she may be able to suck you cock or stimulate your balls. Of course, you also have an anus that she can stimulate. She can either use her tongue or her fingers to stimulate your prostate. You might do her a favor and shave beforehand, however.

When done properly, face sitting is amazing for both partners!

Frequently Asked Questions About Face Sitting

FAQ #1 – What do you do with your hands during face sitting?

If you’re the woman, you can reach down to hold your man’s hands or restrict his arms or legs. You might also lean forward against the headboard or wall if you’ve got your back to him. If you’re facing him, then you can lean forward and rest your hand on the bed or even his chest/stomach/hips.

When you’re the partner on the bottom, you won’t have a lot of freedom of movement. You may be able to grab her hands or legs.

The key is giving each other feedback to figure out what works best for both of you.

FAQ #2 – What if he can’t breathe?

Devise a signal so that your man can let you know if he truly needs a breather. Otherwise, you might spend the whole time being too worried about whether he can breathe or not. Tapping out or dropping a ball are both good options because he won’t be able to speak while you’re sitting on his face.

FAQ #3 – Can you be too big to face sit?

A lot of women worry about actually suffocating their partners or even hurting them with their weight, even women who are just a bit curvy! Rest assured that it’s unlikely you’ll hurt your man when you sit on his face, especially if you develop some sort of a signal that he needs a break. Society shames women who aren’t thin, but there’s no need. In fact, for many men, the “struggle” of face sitting is part of the appeal!