The woman on top sex position is sort of like a reverse form of the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). Instead of your man being on top, you are. Some women love these positions while others prefer the variety of positions from our sex positions guide with illustrations.
To set up the woman on top position, your man needs to lie down on his back as if he was performing the Asian Cowgirl or the Side Saddle positions. You then need to straddle him as you would when performing the Cowgirl position. So you will be on your knees on top of your man, facing him. Next, you need to lean over him and rest your weight on your hands. This next part is the most important:
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You then need to position yourself so that your clitoris is in contact with your man’s pubic bone. You can see our female model do this by arching her back like a cat.
What The Girl Does In The Woman On Top Position
When in the woman on top position, you are not going to focus on moving up and down on your man. Instead, you are going to be concentrating on moving forwards and backwards over your man, while he remains inside of you. This is so that you get a lot of clitoral stimulation.
You’ll find that it’s easier to do this by arching your back or by performing a sort of ‘ab crunch’ movement. Different things work for different people, so my advice is to play around with moving your body in a lot of different variations to see what gives you the most satisfaction and pleasure.
You might find this article on boosting confidence when you’re on top to be helpful.
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What The Guy Does In The Woman On Top Position
Your man does not have a lot to do in the girl on top position. He just needs to lie there. But he can experiment with gently grinding up against you to see if it’s more satisfying. He can also put his hands on your hips to help rock you backwards and forwards while you are grinding on him.
Things To Consider When Performing The Woman On Top Position
Many students of the Bad Girls Bible, who have tried out riding their guys, have often done so inadvertently while performing the Cowgirl or another position. They have given some really great insights on it:
- You may find that you have to play around with a good few slightly different variations when performing the on top of your man position until you find something that feels perfect.
- You can try using a vibrator when performing the woman on top position with your husband.
- Better yet, your man can try using a vibrating cock ring when performing the woman on top sex position. More on cock rings here.
Similar Positions
- Betty Rocker – Turn around and lean down low over your man’s legs while you ride him.
- Cowgirl – You can go slow and steady or be wild when you’re on top in this classic position.
- Lunge – Change the position of your legs in this sex pose.
- Man Missionary – Try switching things up when you’re on top of your man.
Read about even more positions where you’re on top.
Sean’s Thoughts On The Woman On Top Sex Position
I can honestly say from a man’s point of view that the woman on top is not that much fun. But with that being said, it is quite nice seeing my girl on top of me having a good time. So I don’t use this position for extended periods of time with my girl. Luckily, it’s really easy and quick to switch to a lot of other girl-on-top sex positions, though.
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David says
August 9, 2013 at 8:56 amSean, I see your point… though I totally get off on making my partners have multiples!!! One GREAT thing about this position IS that the guy gets mainly visual stimulation in this position. So even guys that cum pretty fast will be able to last a while in this position. When I’m proving to my partner that she can have over 100 real orgasms in a row, I love this position!!! Its a great way to “take a break” for a little bit, and, once inside, even if you get a little soft (as many of us do for a little bit once you get past the 30-45 min mark of thrusting) she can keep cumming and cumming.
yea, yea… I hear you from here!!! I know in a setting like this people brag about crap that isn’t true… Unfortunately there are SO many men that are not educated or don’t try hard enough to please their partners out there that many will women think I’m FOS or that a woman has to be “faking it” to have that many. All I can say is I’m sorry because if you think I’m exaggerating, then you have no idea what you are missing!!! However, if you don’t believe me and live close to NW Florida, I have more than one video to prove it!!! LMAO!!! :o)~~
TIP: Try putting a pillow under your man so it elevates him. It can be a little awkward mounting him at first, but it is worth it. We aren’t all as skinny as those models (No offense to anyone, but I wouldn’t want to be as skinny as that guy!!!), and when you focus all the weight in one spot of the mattress, you typically sink. If your man hits your cervix when you ride him and it hurts you, this can be a good thing. If you like it deep or he isn’t real long, you can regain the 1-2″ of penetration you have been losing from the mattress. I’m pretty much an “average” guy… but for probably 80-90% of the guys out there, 2″ it a pretty big loss in size.
If you can’t mount him with the pillow, don’t worry, just remember that depth isn’t required for orgasm. Done properly, a man can give a woman multiple orgasms, through penetration alone, using only the head (or first 1-1.5″) of his penis. Try it sometime, you will love it. Don’t get me wrong, I know almost all women prefer more than 1-2″… but if he builds you to orgams the head and as you are about halfway into your orgasm he slams hard and fast with everything you are used to feeling… well, I’m told it’s OMFG, Holy crap (and several other 4 letter words) AMAZING!!!!!!
ThisChickKnows says
January 15, 2018 at 3:19 pmI dont know this guy, but I know what he is saying to be true. I like to start on top and at least get 3 orgasms quickly, then no matter what else follows, I know I’m already satisfied. Pros: your partner doesn’t have to do anything but lie still and stiffen his body. You work your own magic. 9 times out of 10 your partner will not finish in this position so you know you’re gonna get another position. If you do this every day you will loose weight the fun way. Your partner will never accuse you of being a lazy lover. Cons: it takes a while to get to athlete status, it’s difficult to do for hours. You’ll start to feel that your partner is a lazy lover. If you have belly flab or stretch marks you may feel odd, but you can keep your shirt on. May require lube for your clitoris to keep from becoming raw. Thinner men have less of a “saddle” for you to sit on. Notes: men like to feel your hands on their chests. It’s easier to glide and grind if you put your hands on their hips and raise your knees up.
Octavia says
May 23, 2019 at 3:44 pmI guess I am a lucky gal. My so loves the woman on top with me any which way I position my legs and vary. He said he never finished in this position until me. So now that he gets to finish every time and not spend a lot of effort it’s pretty much our ‘missionary’ like there’s never been an instance where I can’t get him to orgasm this way ? Con to that is that sometimes I do get bored and would like to be submissive more. I ofc love it too because of all the stimulation. But it can feel a little masturbatory after a while when that’s what he wants all the time. Sometimes I wonder if there are other gals out there with this problem. Or if it is really a problem at all. Cause it seems to me women would love to be in my shoes. ?