One aspect of being a bad girl who owns her sexuality is the ability to climb on top of her partner and ride him to her heart’s content. Men love positions where the woman is on top, partly because they don’t have to do the physical labor and partly because it often offers a great view.
However, these positions are also great for the woman because she controls the speed and depth. Many of these positions also provide access to your clitoris for additional stimulation. In short, there’s no reason not to get on top, so you should definitely try one or two of these woman on top sex positions the next time you’re between the sheets!
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1. Cowgirl
This sex position is what many people would consider a staple, perhaps even the counterpart to Missionary. While your man gets to relax as you ride him, you control the pace, angle, and depth to maximize your own pleasure. There’s plenty of eye contact, and you can kiss or lean down close to your partner who gets a great view, especially if you squeeze your breasts together with your hands and arms.
Cowgirl is an excellent position because either of you can stimulate your clit. Try this: have your man place his hand, palm down, on his stomach and split his fingers between the middle and ring finger like Spock’s hand. He’ll slide his fingers around the base of his penis, and you can grind against his knuckles when riding him.
Don’t forget that your man can thrust from below too. If you’re into it, your man can also reach around with his hands stimulate your anus in the Cowgirl position.
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2. Thigh Tide
The next woman-on-top position we’d like to recommend isn’t as common, but it should be! Thigh Tide looks similar to Reverse Cowgirl, but with a unique twist. That difference is what makes Thigh High a must-try sex position! To get into it, you straddle your man as he’s lying down, facing away from him. Rather than keeping his legs straight, he’ll bend one knee as shown above and you will straddle his thigh. As you ride him, you can grind your clitoris against his thigh.
If you need more leverage, grab his knee/leg with your hand as you grind.
Guide to Thigh Tide Sex Position
3. 69
If you enjoy giving and receiving oral sex at the same time, you probably know of the 69 position. In this position, one of you lies down while the other lies on top, face down and facing the other direction. This lines up one person’s mouth with the other’s genitals.
Although the 69 position doesn’t have to have the woman on top, it certainly can. Being on top might allow you to control the depth of penetration better though. You can prop yourself up with your elbows or a pillow if it’s more comfortable.
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4. Lap Dance
The Lap Dance sex position looks just like the name suggests! Your man sits on a chair or sofa with his thighs together, and you sit in his lap with your thighs on either side of his in this sex position where you are in control. You can swivel and grind your hips while he grasps them to give you a hand,
The Lap Dance position might be a bit difficult if you’re especially short and your feet cannot reach the ground or if your arms can’t reach the chair beneath your man. If you can lean on a table in front of you, it may help.
5. Lotus
Look no further if you want to try a sex position that’s incredibly close and a bit tricky because it requires a bit of flexibility. First, have your man sit down and cross his legs. Then, you sit on his lap with your legs crossed and ankles meeting behind his back with your arms wrapped around his shoulders.
Lotus will work best if you can freely swivel your hips, so those with certain body shapes or mobility issues might not find it particularly pleasurable. You can also enjoy Lotus simply by focusing on the filling sensation, making eye contact, and exchanging breath, a practice in Tantric sex.
6. Amazon
This sex position where the woman is on top is pretty novel, so pay attention to the image. Your man will lie on his back and bend his knees toward his chest. Then, you straddle the back of his legs, either kneeling or squatting, depending on your height. You’ll rest your butt on the back of his thighs/butt. Meanwhile, he can wrap his legs around you, and you can rest your arms on his knees.
The Amazon position is all about bouncing, which should be pretty easy, thanks to his bent knees, if you can comfortably get into this position.
7. Crab
Here’s another unusual sex position. Have your man lie flat on the bed. You’ll position yourself on top of him with your legs extended in front of you toward his upper body/shoulders. Rest your feet on the bed. Lean back on your arms, resting your hands on the bed behind you or your man’s legs. Don’t rest them on his knees.
To make the Crab work, you’ll need to firmly place your hands and feet on the bed to use them to lift your hips. Alternatively, you can remain in place while your man pushes your butt up and down. The Crab can be quite strenuous, so it’s understandable if you don’t stay in this position for long.
8. Jugghead
Your man will get quite the rush when you try out this sex position, a head rush that is! In Jugghead, your man lies on the ground with his legs resting on a chair, sofa, or ottoman. This lifts his hips from the floor. Your job is to straddle him while facing him. In Jugghead, you can either sit up or lean over your man with your arms supporting you.
The key to comfort in this position is the right furniture. If it’s too tall or short, then it can feel awkward instead of pleasurable. Either way, he might experience a headache if you stay in this sex position for too long and all his blood rushes to his head, so feel free to switch things up.
9. Back Seat Driver
If you’re too short to make the Lap Dance sex position work (that’s position #4 above), you can try this variation. Your man spreads his legs while sitting and you sit in between his thighs or resting slightly on them. The Back Seat Driver position makes it a bit easier for you to support yourself, either on the surface beneath you or with your hands on your man’s thighs.
Although you’re limited in what you can do in this sex position, your man can pull your hair or scratch your back if you like that.
10. Bouncing Spoon
You don’t need fancy sex furniture for most positions. Consider this position where your man sits on the floor next to the wall, and you sit in his lap, leaning your shoulders against his chest. Your man will lift your hips with his hands, hence the “bouncing” part of this sex position.
Your man needs to have hit butt far enough away from the wall to provide room for your legs and feet. However, this isn’t too hard if you’re short. Unfortunately, if your bodies don’t line up correctly, this position may be too uncomfortable to be worthwhile.
Guide to Bouncing Spoon Position
11. Mastery
Mastery is a great sex position to try as your man watches TV or plays video games. All you need to do is straddle him as he sits and line up your bodies for penetration. Because you’re face to face, you can kiss deeply, pull each other’s hair, or touch each other’s chests. Your back is free for him to rub or scratch as well.
This sex position is fun because you don’t even have to get naked. You can wear a skirt or dress and push it up. Similarly, you man can undo his pants or wear loose shorts that he can work around if he isn’t interested in taking off his pants. To make this more of a female dominant sex position, bind his wrists so he can’t move them.
12. Side Ride
When it comes to woman on top positions, this one certainly has a twist. Have your man lie down. Then, you rest atop him facing the side. Bend your knees and rest your feet in front of you while leaning on your arms behind you.
Side Ride is a pretty limiting position. Your man may be able to thrust up from beneath you while you have limited hip movement.
13. Side Saddle
It’s easy to get this sex position confused with Side Ride, but they’re very different. Your man lies down on his back, while you sit down on his penis facing away from him with your knees bent and feet flat on the bed beneath you while your hands rest on his thighs.
Not everyone will be flexible enough to make Side Saddle pleasurable, but it’s worth a shot if you’re looking for a new sex position to try.
14. Acrobat
Are you agile and sexually adventurous? Then, this sex position might be up your alley. In Acrobat, your man lies on his back, and you lie on top of him. The trick is to bend your legs at your knees and lie all the way back to rest your upper body on his.
It’s understandable if you find this sex position a little hard to perform. You need to be super flexible. It can also be hard on your knees. But if you can accomplish it, this position leaves your breasts and clit free for stimulation.
15. Betty Rocker
Here’s a sex position that’s not super difficult. Start by having your man lie down. Next, you straddle him facing away. You want to lower your body so that you can bend your knees and tuck them into your sides. Rest your forearms on the bed outside of his thighs. Then, your man can grab your butt or hips and rock your body.
Betty Rocker is the perfect position for any guy who loves butts. But if you lean too far forward, it might hurt his penis. Try leaning up on your arms. It’s also easy to switch into Reverse Cowgirl if this sex position becomes too strenuous.
16. Big Dipper
Most woman on top positions allow the man to relax, but that’s not always the case! The Big Dipper will give your man quite the arm workout as he rests his feet straight in front of him on a piece of furniture such as a chair or ottoman or even a step. He’ll keep his arms straight behind him to prop up his body—and yours! You’ll straddle him with your feet flat on the floor and your arms around his waist.
For the Big Dipper to work well, your man will need to have quite strong arms to hold himself up. You’ll also need to find furniture that’s the right height and won’t move beneath your weight. Of course, even if you do, there’s a chance that you can tumble to the ground, and someone might get hurt.
Important: Make sure that your man doesn’t straighten his knees fully in this position otherwise he risks injury.
Once in this position, your movement is limited, too. He might be able to lift his hips, or the two of you can move together, but you don’t want to push his body down too forcefully.
17. Pearly Gates
Think of this position as a bit like Spooning. But instead of being on your sides, your man is lying on his back, and you’re on top of him. You can both bend your knees slightly; yours will be on top or outside of his. Touch your feet to the ground of the bed beneath you and hold your body up with more stability and have him do all the thrusting.
The Pearly Gates sex position is ideal for vaginal or even anal penetration. Either of you can rub your breasts or clit. One thing we love about this position is how intimate it feels. Your man can whisper loving or sexy words into your ear. However, it takes some stamina to stay in this position for long.
Pearly Gates Sex Position Guide
18. Reverse Cowgirl
Finally, we have another woman-on-top sex position. In Reverse Cowgirl, you straddle your man as he lies down. However, you face away from him. You can brace yourself on his legs if you’d like for stability. This position works well for various bodies, and you don’t have to be super flexible to get into it.
Reverse Cowgirl is all about grinding your hips back and forth or swiveling them around. Don’t forget to stimulate your clitoris if there’s enough room to do so!
How to Have Sex On Top
Aside from the woman on top sex positions listed above, you might benefit from the following advice.
First, remember that you don’t need to do any of these girl on top sex positions perfectly. In fact, you may need to alter them slightly to fit your bodies, agility, and any injuries you have or other considerations. Pillows can be especially helpful, and memory foam sex position pillows retain their shape, making them super useful in any sex position where you are on top.
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A lot of women initially struggle when riding on top because they’re not sure what to do. There are a couple of options to try. If you’re squatting or resting on your feet with knees bent, you can bounce up and down. This is the Asian Cowgirl position. Alternatively, you might prefer to swivel and grind your hips if that’s not possible. Grinding is especially useful for clitoral stimulation.
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Because many of these are positions where you are in control, they can work well if you’re into BDSM or dominating your man.
Many woman on top sex positions work as well for anal sex as they do vaginal penetration. You might even experiment with double penetration with your partner’s penis and a toy.
Of course, you can always use your hands and mouth when possible to add to the experience when you’re on top. While some people think the woman does all the work, your man may be able to thrust upwards in some of these women on top sex positions.
Aside from doubting your skill, you might also feel vulnerable because riding on top highlights your body. However, that’s one of the very things that men tend to love about woman on top sex positions. If you need to build confidence before trying a sex position where you are on top, check out this article with 10 Tips To Feel Super-Confident In Girl On Top Positions.
Finally, remember that the penis tends to bend upward naturally, so if you’re facing away from your man and his penis is forced downward like in the Betty Rocker position, it might hurt him. Be sure to talk about sex and what feels good or what you want to maximize pleasure.
Few things feel as powerful or pleasurable as when you ride your man. Once you master how to have sex on top and find positions that you like the best, you may not want to go back to any other sex position!
Resources
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Frequently Asked Questions About Girl on Top Positions
FAQ #1 – How can I be more confident when riding on top?
First, remember that pretty much any position with you on top is great for your man visually. Then, remember there is no right way to have sex, whether you’re having sex on top or not. Experimentation and connection are more important than doing everything perfectly or having sex in a specific way. Finally, remember that woman on top positions are great for you to enjoy yourself, so focus on doing what feels good to you!
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FAQ #2 – What do I do in girl on top positions?
Generally, you either:
- Bounce up and down, which is easier when squatting, especially if your man has thicker thighs to support your booty.
- Rock/grind/swivel, which involves tucking and rolling your butt. Your hips and legs do much of the work. It’s not a full-body movement.
The method depends on the specific position and your physical ability. Of course, you can always stick to one method if it feels better to you. Or you might start by grinding when having sex on top but move to bouncing when you near orgasm.
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You can also try hip and butt movements such as twerking, which can be fun.
Your Angle – Remember that angle matters. Try learning forward or backward to make sex in these girl on top positions feel better for you and your man.
Your Hands – Aside from that, figuring out what to do with your hands can be confusing in a position where the woman is on top. While some of the sex positions in this post have specific suggestions for your hands, they might not work for you, and others have plenty of options. You can rest your hands on your man’s chest or shoulders or under his armpits. You can keep them at your sides or on your thighs; although, you’re missing out on the opportunity to bring extra pleasure. Sometimes when you have sex on top, you’ll be able to rub your clit, meaning extra pleasure!
FAQ #3 – Should I avoid woman on top positions if my man is smaller than me?
Not at all! It’s improbable that you could hurt your man when having sex on top. You might want to make sure your weight is distributed more on your legs than his body, but this concern is typically one driven by anxiety and not reality. Furthermore, don’t worry about how you might look. If you ask most guys, they’ll tell you they love seeing their girl on top, even more so when she’s confident!
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Sean, I see your point… though I totally get off on making my partners have multiples!!! One GREAT thing about this position IS that the guy gets mainly visual stimulation in this position. So even guys that cum pretty fast will be able to last a while in this position. When I’m proving to my partner that she can have over 100 real orgasms in a row, I love this position!!! Its a great way to “take a break” for a little bit, and, once inside, even if you get a little soft (as many of us do for a little bit once you get past the 30-45 min mark of thrusting) she can keep cumming and cumming.
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TIP: Try putting a pillow under your man so it elevates him. It can be a little awkward mounting him at first, but it is worth it. We aren’t all as skinny as those models (No offense to anyone, but I wouldn’t want to be as skinny as that guy!!!), and when you focus all the weight in one spot of the mattress, you typically sink. If your man hits your cervix when you ride him and it hurts you, this can be a good thing. If you like it deep or he isn’t real long, you can regain the 1-2″ of penetration you have been losing from the mattress. I’m pretty much an “average” guy… but for probably 80-90% of the guys out there, 2″ it a pretty big loss in size.
If you can’t mount him with the pillow, don’t worry, just remember that depth isn’t required for orgasm. Done properly, a man can give a woman multiple orgasms, through penetration alone, using only the head (or first 1-1.5″) of his penis. Try it sometime, you will love it. Don’t get me wrong, I know almost all women prefer more than 1-2″… but if he builds you to orgams the head and as you are about halfway into your orgasm he slams hard and fast with everything you are used to feeling… well, I’m told it’s OMFG, Holy crap (and several other 4 letter words) AMAZING!!!!!!
I dont know this guy, but I know what he is saying to be true. I like to start on top and at least get 3 orgasms quickly, then no matter what else follows, I know I’m already satisfied. Pros: your partner doesn’t have to do anything but lie still and stiffen his body. You work your own magic. 9 times out of 10 your partner will not finish in this position so you know you’re gonna get another position. If you do this every day you will loose weight the fun way. Your partner will never accuse you of being a lazy lover. Cons: it takes a while to get to athlete status, it’s difficult to do for hours. You’ll start to feel that your partner is a lazy lover. If you have belly flab or stretch marks you may feel odd, but you can keep your shirt on. May require lube for your clitoris to keep from becoming raw. Thinner men have less of a “saddle” for you to sit on. Notes: men like to feel your hands on their chests. It’s easier to glide and grind if you put your hands on their hips and raise your knees up.
When a girl is sitting all the way down on me and starts riding my tip feels like it’s rubbing against something and that’s what gets her off so what is my tip rubbing against?
Probably her cervix
I guess I am a lucky gal. My so loves the woman on top with me any which way I position my legs and vary. He said he never finished in this position until me. So now that he gets to finish every time and not spend a lot of effort it’s pretty much our ‘missionary’ like there’s never been an instance where I can’t get him to orgasm this way ? Con to that is that sometimes I do get bored and would like to be submissive more. I ofc love it too because of all the stimulation. But it can feel a little masturbatory after a while when that’s what he wants all the time. Sometimes I wonder if there are other gals out there with this problem. Or if it is really a problem at all. Cause it seems to me women would love to be in my shoes. ?
nice postions i will try with my partener!