How To Edge A Guy For Stronger Orgasms – 20 Edging Tips

Below are 20 powerful edging tips and techniques to leave your man quivering in front of you as you take complete control of his pleasure. Even better, you can even use them on yourself when masturbating! We start with the basics, then move on to the really intense edging techniques.

What Is Edging?

Edging is a sexual practice where you bring someone (or yourself!) close to orgasm before backing off, usually by reducing stimulation. When you repeat this multiple times, you’ll be building on the mental and physical arousal over time to give him a better, stronger orgasm! That’s how edging works in a nutshell. It’s like the opposite of making him come fast.

This process can be delicious torture for him before you finally allow him to come and experience ultimate pleasure. There are other benefits to edging, too. Edging can also help a man deal with performance anxiety and offers a potential solution to premature ejaculation. It’s no wonder so many seem to have an edging kink!

Related: How to last longer in bed.

Use these edging techniques on yourself too! – This entire guide focuses on how to edge your man, but…

You can also use them on yourself when you are masturbating (14 masturbation tips with demonstrations).

1. Stop and Start

The most basic edging method is simply to stop whatever you’re doing before your partner comes. This might mean stopping suddenly or changing the speed or intensity. For example, when you’re edging before sex, you might slow down a hand job or use less pressure so that your partner can’t orgasm…yet.

2. Learn When He’s About to Orgasm

Edging requires you to know when you’re man’s about to come, the point of no return. You can look (and listen and feel) for certain signs, such as rapid breathing, a firmer penis, muscle straining/bodily tension, or any moans or other sounds he makes.

You may have noticed that your partner does something unusual when he’s about to have an orgasm.

His balls – Holding his balls so you can feel when they get tense is a great way to tell when he’s about to come. While you’re down there, you may want to try some of these testicle massage techniques.

He can let you know – But it’s not obvious when every man will come. Some people are less expressive, and some bodies don’t really show telltale signs that an orgasm is imminent. If that’s the case, you can ask your man to let you know when he’s about to come. He doesn’t just have to say it either; you can come up with a signal, such as a tap, to alert you when he’s about to cum.

Of course, this requires him to be aware of his own body, and he may accidentally come when you don’t want him to if he doesn’t let you know soon enough. You may have to ask for the signal with plenty of time to respond at first. As the two of you get to know his body better, you may be able to shorten the time between the alert and his potential orgasm.

Practice makes perfect – Don’t worry if you go past the point of no return in the beginning. The more you practice edging, the better you’ll get at pinpointing when you need to back off.

3. Put Him In Bondage

Putting your man in bondage before edging him is a great way to amp up the tension and pleasure.

Related: Light Bondage – Powerplay & Enhancing Your Sex Life

Here are a few bondage positions and ideas to use when edging him:

• Tie his wrists to the best posts
• Tie his ankles to the other bed posts so that he is spread eagled and completely at your mercy
• Handcuff his hands behind his back or use an arm binder
• Hog tie him
• Bind his arms to his sides
• Put a straightjacket on him
• Put him in wristcuffs that attach to his thighs or a belt
• Put him in mittens or gloves, so he can’t use his hands
• Tie him to a chair
• Secure his entire body or leave only his penis free

Go deeper: The complete bondage guide for beginners.

4. Only Let Him Come After He Completes an Assignment

It can be a fun game to prevent him from having an orgasm until he does something you tell him to do. The tasks in your edging instructions can be sexual, but don’t have to be.

You first – For example, make him go down on you until you orgasm (repeatedly?) or for a pre-determined period of time. You can even set a timer.

He should read this first: How to eat pussy like a god and 85 techniques to give a girl great head.

Chores or admissions – You can also assign a chore or ask him to admit something private/secret before you allow him to orgasm.

Punishment – He might have to accept punishment (16 punishment ideas) before he can come or dress in a certain way (potentially including hair or makeup) or act and say something specific.

Confusion – If you’re especially devious, make him do something that actively turns him off that you pair with stimulation.

You might even get inspired by these submissive tasks that you can adapt.

5. How to Edge During a Blow Job

Many of the ways to edge during a blow job (27 blow job tips) are pretty common sense:

• Go slower
• Take his penis out of your mouth occasionally
• Focus on something other than the head of his penis
• Use only your tongue, especially tiny licks, instead of your whole mouth
• Stop using your hands
• Switch from stimulating his penis to balls (how to suck his balls)
• Pause

But you can also try unusual edging techniques, such as blowing air on his wet penis or even pinching or flicking to prevent him from coming. You can even lightly scrape with your teeth.

Then, when you’re ready to let him come, break out these foolproof BJ techniques.

6. Edging During a Hand Job

The same general advice applies to edging during a hand job. Try to avoid the things that are most likely to make him cum.

This can mean going slower and lighter and pausing occasionally. You can switch to massaging his balls or even use your nails to tap on or run down his shaft.

Reduce the sensation – Try wearing a glove as you stroke him to reduce sensation. Having him wear a condom also works to reduce the sensation.

7. How to Edge During Sex

To edge a guy during sex, focus on the angle, speed, and depth of penetration. You can also change position more frequently to ensure he doesn’t get too much stimulation.

Being on top, like in the Cowgirl position, gives you a lot of control, which can make edging him easier.

Related: How to ride your man with confidence – 4 simples tips.

Slowing down will require you to move or thrust more slowly (slow sex tips). While you can control depth through thrusting, you can also choose sex positions that prevent deep thrusting, keep your thighs close together to prevent him from going too deep, or use a sex toy that goes around the base of his penis to keep things shallow.

He can also pull out, or you can push him off you to stop stimulation.

8. Add a Little Pain

This edging technique is not for everyone…

Pain can decrease pleasure a little to stop him from coming.

Now, we’re not talking about severe or lasting pain, just some light pain to shock the senses so he’ll focus less on the arousal and stimulation.

Techniques include but aren’t limited to:

• Slap, flicking, scratching, or pinching his penis (or balls). Tips for slapping during sex.
• Twisting his nipples
• Spanking him
• Biting him. Tips for biting him during sex.

9. Switch to a Different Technique

You know that feeling when you’re about to come, but your partner changes the technique they were using…

It’s frustrating.

You lose your rhythm, and it becomes harder to climax.

You can do the same thing when it comes to edging your man.

Switching techniques can mean moving from vaginal sex to anal sex to prostate stimulation to kissing, cuddling, dirty talk, massage, or nipple stimulation.

You could even briefly stop sexy times as part of your edging training.

10. Squeeze

.This edging tip might seem a little different, but…

Squeezing the head of his penis can prevent him from having an orgasm, so you can continue edging him.

11. Grinding

While grinding on your man can feel great for you, not every man feels the same. This can work in your favor when it comes to edging because you get pleasure while stimulating him less.

For those who like grinding, Thigh Tide can be a great position to do it in.

12. Use a Timer, So He Knows He Has to Wait

Using a timer lets your partner know just how long he has to wait until he gets to come! There are plenty of timer apps, so you don’t have to buy a special device. Even the kitchen timer can be used for short periods of time, and Alexa or another voice assistant will be happy to help.

Your “timer” can be something super creative, too. Maybe he has to wait for a candle to burn down/out or an ice cube to melt.

13. Kegels

This edging technique requires you to stop stimulation and for your man to practice Kegel exercises.

14. Tantric Sex

With its focus on erotic energy and breathing, tantra might offer a way to edge your man. Specifically, he’ll want to focus on drawing energy away from his genitals and back into the rest of his body.

15. Cock Cages

If you’re into BDSM, you might already be familiar with cock cages. These chastity devices make it impossible for a guy to get fully erect, making it almost impossible for him to orgasm. You can use a cock cage while mentally edging a guy to prevent him from getting off until you say so.

And if you find cum control hot in general, you might be interested in ruining his orgasm!

16. Mental Edging

Mental edging is all about getting your man to think or fantasize about sex even when you’re not touching him. You can do this by stimulating him visually or physically before parting, by sexting (13 sexting tips) throughout the day, or even with a sexy phone call.

Related: How to have passionate phone sex + 49 examples.

17. Play a Game

If you really want to know how to edge a man creatively, make a game out of it.

• Roll the dice – Roll a pair of dice to see how much longer you continue edging your guy or whether it’s time to grant him release. You can even use sex dice to decide how you edge him.
• Flip a coin – To decide whether he gets to come or not. You can play best out of 3 coin tosses, 5 or 7.
• Silence, please! – Deny his orgasm if he makes a noise.
• Match the music – Stroke or thrust to the beat of a song that’s slower than you’d normally do.

18. Use Tools

If you want to discover how to edge better, why not add some tools? Here are a few ideas:

• Apply desensitizing cream to his penis and then put a condom on top
• Make him wear two condoms for less stimulation
• Use a male masturbation device and go very slow

19. Forced Orgasm or Edging

This one’s a little different than the standard advice you’d get about how to edge your man. Give him the option to come as long as he can do it within a certain time period. If he fails, he doesn’t get to come right now, and stimulation has to stop!

20. How to Edge Longer

There are usually limits to how long you can edge someone for, even if you know how to edge properly. Either they’ll orgasm, become unable to, or lose interest. But you can overcome some of those limitations with a little creativity and maybe even find yourself edging for hours.

• Mental edging – Focus on his inner thoughts without stimulation. You can prompt sexual thoughts with dirty talk or messages
• Edging when apart – You can send sexy text messages, phone calls, voice notes, or even a handwritten letter with directions on how he has to edge himself.
• Before an event – Try turning your man on before going to an event. This way, he won’t be able to get off because he is out in public.
• During a munch – You can even be extra mean by edging him in a sexy setting such as a BDSM dungeon without letting him get off!

How to Get Feedback on What He Enjoyed

Getting feedback from your man on edging can be a little tricky, but it is essential if you want to improve.

Ask – Make sure to ask him what he liked and would do again, and what he didn’t like. Think about ways you can adapt something if your partner didn’t like it, but you’d like to do it again. The following questions can help:

• Did it feel like a fun type of torture, or was it just frustrating?
• Would you like me to edge you for longer the next time?
• During the times when I stopped stimulating you, should I have waited even longer?

Make it a regular thing? – You might also talk about how often you want to incorporate edging into your sex life. Is it part of your regular routine or something you save for special times?

In the beginning, you might need a lot of feedback. But it’s totally normal to need less feedback as you get better at edging.

How Long Should I Edge For?

The best way to answer this question accurately is to simply ask your man:

Would you like to edge your for even longer the next time?

Does edging work for women, too?

You bet!

Edging isn’t just something for men to enjoy! Anyone can enjoy it, so feel free to ask your partner to try it on you.

Give him the link to this edging tutorial if you think it can help inspire him or if he’s curious how you got good at edging. You can even edge yourself during solo play if that’s more your style or you just want to see what the fuss is about!

Now that you know edging can be fun, lead to strong orgasms, and can be a part of your role playing, power-exchange relationship or BDSM games, it’s time to get out there and edge your man!