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Are you a sub who has looked for ways to better serve and show your adoration to your dom? On the other hand, perhaps you’re in the dominant role and want to train your submissive partner and reinforce your power exchange relationship. Either way, submissive tasks are one way to achieve that, and if you keep reading, you’ll find out how sub tasks can help you in more ways than you imagined and get a few ideas for tasks, too!
What Are Submissive Tasks?
In short, a submissive task is any request from the dominant that the submissive must accomplish. It can be a one-off or part of a routine. Sub tasks can be sexual but often aren’t.
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Consent – Like any BDSM activity, submissive tasks can look forced from an outsider’s point of view. But consent is a cornerstone of any power exchange relationship, even if it only lasts a few hours. Subs and doms can establish consent through a BDSM contract, although consent may be verbal and informal.
When it comes to submissive tasks specifically, the couple may brainstorm and discuss tasks, ensuring individual tasks are agreed upon. So anything you make your submissive do is ultimately okay with them. However, the dominant may assign tasks that aren’t specifically agreed upon because of the submissive’s overall consent to the relationship.
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Finally, submissive tasks might only happen once. But daily tasks might overlap with these rules for submissives.
Tasks Vs. Punishment
Tasks for a submissive differ from BDSM punishments in several vital ways.
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- They’re not a response to poor behavior, even if they’re designed to remind the submissive of the relationship dynamic.
- Furthermore, submissive tasks aren’t necessarily unpleasant, although they can certainly be trying.
- Tasks are often aligned with the type of submission that a sub is practicing.
- Finally, if a sub fails to complete their tasks on time and satisfactorily, the dom may have to administer punishment on top of the task.
Check out this post about BDSM punishments if you’re looking for things to do to your submissive to discipline them.
Why Assign Tasks to a Sub?
A dominant may give their slave tasks for several reasons. For example, these tasks serve as a reminder in a total power exchange relationship or any relationship with some element of BDSM. Tasks can be assigned in a way that’s playfully annoying, but submissives may find performing these tasks gives them a sense of pride and allows them to show their care and loyalty for their partner.
The dom may also use tasks to train their sub, which helps them become more submissive, and tasks can test how well the submissive listens or pays attention to detail. Tasks may progress over time, becoming more intricate or demanding.
On top of that, the specific or type of task might reflect the relationship and shared interests. For example, service subs are more likely to perform household chores. Because tasks should reflect the relationship and the unique people in it, not every sub has to perform the same tasks.
Submissive tasks can also include the cleaning and preparing of items such as bondage ropes used in BDSM scenes, giving them a practical purpose along with their significance to the couple or their relationship.
Finally, a dominant might assign tasks to their submissive to help the submissive become a better person or care for themself. If the submissive forgets to eat, having a healthy snack or meal could become a task. Similarly, paying bills can become a submissive task if it suits the dom and sub.
Rewarding Tasks for Your Submissive?
Depending on what type of dom they are, they may choose to reward their submissive for completing tasks according to expectations and on time. However, the reward for finishing a task is often the dom’s response and the pride a sub has in a job well done.
11 Types of Submissive Tasks
1. Sending Selfies & Nudes
Examples include, taking a morning selfie for makeup and clothing approval or taking a nude for your Dom at night.
Tips for taking a sexy selfie.
2. Acquiring, Preparing, and Serving Food and Drink
Help the dominant start their morning off right by brewing their morning coffee and serving it the way they prefer. Pack the dominant’s lunch (with an adoring note).
Subs can also learn a new recipe for their dom. Meal prepping is another good task, that the submissive can benefit from, too.
Finally, the dominant might instruct the sub to buy them a special treat while shopping. Whether the submissive knows what to buy can become part of the task.
3. Using Sex Toys
For example, the dominant might assign a sub the task of:
- Wearing a butt plug every day at a certain time.
- Wearing nipple clamps as part of nipple play.
- Wearing Ben Wa balls also make good submissive tasks and trains their Kegel muscles.
- Giving themselves an orgasm while using a vibrator.
4. Sexual Tasks for Your Submissive
The dominant may request pleasure or a blow job at a moment’s notice. Doms can make the task harder by making the sub give a blow job while humming a song.
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On the other hand, the submissive may have to cum on command. Edging is a related activity that can work as a task, and dominants can require the submissive to ask to orgasm or even wear a chastity device. Calling your sub repeatedly while their phone is on vibrate and between their legs is an especially devious thing to a submissive! You can also mix this with sending them dirty text messages.
Filming a solo session for the dominant is also an option for a task, especially if the video needs to meet specific requirements.
Show your submission by writing the dominant’s name or nickname on your body. Other degrading phrases can work, too.
5. Writing and Similar Assignments
Some dominants require their subs to write an adoring letter each day. Alternatively, submissives may be required to write daily journal entries or send the dom an email recounting their day.
The dom can designate tasks where the sub has to write about a previous session/scene. Essay writing also makes a good task.
Aside from the dominant, submissives may write correspondence to others. Submissives may have to create either, either as a way to spend time on existing hobbies or develop new skills.
Finally, subs can read the same book as doms to engage in discussions, like a personal book club.
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Related: You can also learn more about the meaning of Dom/sub.
6. Self Improvement Sub Tasks
Specifying self-care as a BDSM task ensures that submissives look after themselves, and self-improvement tasks help the slave grow. Furthermore, the dom can help the sub break tics or bad habits such as chewing nails, picking, or something else through tasks. Speaking positive affirmations about themselves in front of the dom can build self-confidence and also works if you have a praise kink.
You’ll find other self-improvement tasks below.
- Waking up at a specific time/having a sleep routine
- Going to the gym, for a run, or working out
- Drinking water
- Eating healthily
- Learning a new skill
- Meditating
- Joining a class or group
- Going to therapy
- Filling out applications
- Volunteering
- Doing homework
7. Household Management
Chores are the perfect thing to make a submissive do, especially if the chore is something the dominant doesn’t like. However, tasks for subs can go far beyond scrubbing the toilet! For example, the sub may need to plan a vacation or party, schedule appointments, pay bills, or send gifts (to the dominant or someone else).
Cleaning out the dominant’s inbox can be a time-consuming task, and subs will need to work harder if their task is a DIY project.
Helping the dominant dress (tying ties, buttoning clothing, etc.) is incredibly intimate and requires attention to detail.
Outside of the home, the sub may be tasked with dropping off documents or running errands. This can include shopping for a specific item.
8. Appearance
Dominants commonly get to dictate how their subs look. The sub may get some choice. For example, they could pick a few clothing options which the dominant can make the final choice from (for example, picking three pairs of lingerie). The dom may specify that the sub wear nail polish or makeup but not the specific look.
Related: How to choose the best lingerie
However, doms can take it further by requiring permission to wear underwear or having the submissive wear a certain outfit or piece depending on what day of the week it is. Wearing an item such as a collar that signifies ownership brings most subs so much pleasure that it almost doesn’t count as a task.
Side note: Your dominant may be a Pleasure Dom if they get off giving you pleasure.
Also: How to dress sexy for your partner
On top of that, shaving or trimming pubic hair is a common task, and the dom might request more complicated pubic hairstyles to increase the challenge.
9. Entertainment
There are plenty of tasks that involve ensuring the dominant never feels bored, and you can probably think of a few that aren’t listed below.
- Memorizing and performing a song or dance routine – This sexy song playlist will help
- Finding new entertainment for the dominant
- Teaching the dom skills such as a new language
- Singing the dominant to sleep
- Browsing for funny videos to send the dominant
- Creating a playlist for the dom
10. Kinky or BDSM Tasks
Submissives may have to endure a specific type or intensity of pain for their dominants. For example, they might move from spanking to caning.
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Finding new ways for the dom to tie them up, new ideas for punishments, or other ideas for a sub can be an assignment, too.
They also may need to engage in some form of self bondage for their partner.
11. Everything Else
A common submissive task requires the sub to get into certain positions, such as kneeling or getting on all fours at the dominant’s command. This is similar to the dom prohibiting the sub from using furniture for an hour each day, which may require them to stand.
Kissing on the lips or cheek can also be a task that’s also enjoyable.
Going on a scavenger hunt is an example of a creative task, but the dom might have to do a lot of preparation to make it work.
As a final, devious idea, you can get your submissive to come up with ideas for a submissive task to complete.
When a task is done – reporting that a task is done by assuming a certain position/posture such as kneeling in front of the dom with eyes downward or by sending a message can be a task in itself.
When You Need to Adjust Sub Tasks
Some tasks are better suited for certain environments. It’s easy to prepare lunch at home but not so much when you’re on vacation. Similarly, a sub can’t give a hand job to their dominant when they’re not together.
Because of this, you may need to adjust tasks based on where you are and if you’re together. Come up with ways that the sub can complete the task. They don’t necessarily need to be freaky sex ideas or involve any kind of nasty sex, but they might fellate a dildo (learn how to use a dildo) instead of their dominant, or may make reservations for lunch instead of preparing it themselves. Still, there are plenty of ways to adapt to include submissive tasks in your life every day.
Now that you understand the role that submissive tasks play in power exchange relationships, and you’ve got some ideas of great tasks for your sub, it’s time to talk to your partner and introduce tasks into your own life.
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