One of the most common fetishes for a body part is that of the foot fetish – 47% of people who have a fetish for a particular body part even prefer feet ! Both Elvis Presley and Andy Warhol were said to have a foot fetish, so you’re in good company if a pair of feet does it for you.
So, what is a foot fetish?
It’s simply a sexual preoccupation with feet that’s specifically known as a paraphilia [2, 3]. Someone with this type of fetish might like touching or kissing another person’s feet, or they might prefer to be on the receiving end. Viewing images of sexy feet and footwear might also be up your alley if you have a foot fetish.
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Note that some people with a foot fetish like all feet while others prefer to see feet in particular shoes or states of dress. For example, some people only like feet in shoes or boots, while others prefer them in sandals or barefoot. Some foot fetishists prefer feet of a certain shape or toes that are long or short.
Some want them small and feminine with a perfect arch. There are foot fetishists who even prefer larger feet or manly feet. For some people, a foot that’s especially dirty and stinky does the trick. You’d be surprised by how many variations there are when it comes to this — or any — fetish. There’s definitely a pair of feet for everyone with a fetish.
How Common is Foot Fetishism?
You shouldn’t feel weird about having a foot fetish or if your partner admits to having one. It may seem a little weird to you (this list has more weird fetishes), but it’s perfectly safe and legal, and you might find that sex involving a foot fetish is pretty hot! Plus, it’s fairly common as far as foot fetishes go.
How common? One study found that 47% of people who had a fetish for a specific body part had a foot fetish, making it the most common fetish for a part and more than five times more common than the next most popular fetish . The same study found that socks and shoes, objects associated with feet, are among the most common fetishized objects. Another book lists the foot fetish among the most common body part fetishes (the others are hair and hands) [4 pp 89-110].
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The presence of feet in erotic magazines has grown exponentially over the last few decades, and there are even theories that foot fetishism increases during times of sexual epidemics ( syphilis, etc.) .
What Causes A Foot Fetish?
The next logical question to ask is what causes a foot fetish if it’s so common. The jury is still out on the definitive cause of foot fetishism if there is even just one! Researchers such as Vilayanur S. Ramachandran suggest that the feet and genitals occupy adjacent portions of the brain, so it’s easy for signals to get crossed .
One theory suggests that the areas of the brain related to sexual arousal and feet. Another theory posits that foot fetishists underwent conditioning during the critical moments of puberty. Even a single event might be impactful enough to cause a lifelong sexual obsession with feet .
You might remember that Freud thought that feet look like genitals and fetishism originated there.
Whatever the reason, we’re sure plenty of foot fetishists are glad!
How to Satisfy a Foot Fetish
Perhaps give some foot lovin’ a try in exchange for him trying something you’ve been wanting to do in the bedroom. And if you’re the one who wants to try something kinkier, our guide on sexual communication might help you bring it up with your man. Remember, kinky means something different to every person.
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We’ve got some sexy ways to experience a foot fetish, too.
1. Foot Massage
If you ask people “What is a foot fetish?”, not everyone would consider a foot massage a feet fetish. After all, many people enjoy them for non-erotic reasons. Still, it’s worth mentioning because a sensual massage of the feet might be your introduction into the world of foot fetishism! A massage is relaxing – and it’s always nice to be pampered – but it can also be sexually arousing when the part of your body being massaged has sexual connotations in your mind.
For some people, this is their feet. Alternatively, you might find giving your partner a sensual foot, and ankle massage also gets your juices flowing. The feet have a lot of pressure points, which make them an ideal location for giving or receiving a massage. Some reflexology guides list as many as 20 different areas of stimulation on the foot and their corresponding body parts. Of particular note for those with a foot fetish is the bottom of the heel, which is said to stimulate the pelvic region.
Some people also enjoy adding tickling to their foot massage or fetish. Although this isn’t for people who are overly ticklish or who aren’t ticklish at all, it’s something to give a try. Consider adding it when you’re lightly bound – read about light bondage – and unable to stop your partner from tickling your feet!
4. Foot jobs and Genital Stimulation
If your foot fetish is more intense, you might be interested in trying a foot job, which entails stimulation of the genitals with feet. Porn often depicts women stroking their partners with one or both feet, and you can easily get this started by playing a little footsie underneath the dinner table! Women aren’t left out in the cold, either, as their partners can rub the vulva with their feet.
Some women can even kneel with their ankle pressed into their vulvas for clitoral stimulation! This requires a fair bit of agility, of course. There are much easier ways to stimulate your own clitoris, including the tips in this guide.
You can end by having your partner ejaculate on your feet and toes if you’re both okay with that. Head to the shower to clean off (or have him lick you clean).
5. Oral Attention
Moving on, we have foot kissing and sucking, especially with toes. You’ll probably want clean tootsies before you allow your partner to do this, but many people enjoy how sensual this can feel. This is especially true for women, who don’t have the phallic equipment to receive a blowjob.
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Another way to live out a foot fetish is through activities such as pedicure. Getting a professional pedicure leaves you with cute toenail polish and touchable feet, which might be a great precursor to other fetishistic activities! Start with a luxurious foot bath, which you can do with your partner or alone. If you need to nick a few stray hairs first, you might want to do that in private.
After a soak, which softened your skin, you can slough off any dead or dry skin. Pat your feet dry – or have your partner do it for you! – and slowly rub a moisturizing lotion into the skin. Clean any old polish from your toes and remove dead cuticles to prepare for a new shade. Apply at least two layers of your favorite color.
Remember that nail polish can take a long time to dry, even if it seems dried. A fan can help, but we also recommend a quick-dry top coat so that you can get to the dirty business even faster!
7. Sexy Footwear
A pedicure provides you with direct foot contact for quite some time, but you don’t need to make foot contact if that’s not your specific foot fetish. In the popular show “Mistresses,” for instance, Josslyn meets a man named Scott. As they explore their relationships, she discovers his deep, dark secret – the foot fetish. At first, Josslyn is worried that he enjoys wearing expensive women’s heels, but he she discovers that he enjoys it when his partners wear them, especially during sex.
The couple enjoys shopping for shoes together, and Scott buys Josslyn expensive shoes that she couldn’t otherwise afford to fulfill his foot fetish. Although the couple eventually parts ways, they enjoy exploring this part of their personalities and sexuality together. Chances are, wearing heels makes you feel sexy, as will parading in front of your partner while wearing them. Why not give it a try?
Footwear pairs particularly well with sexy lingerie. Read how to pick that out in this post. Don’t forget about foot jewelry such as ankle bracelets and toe rings, which can be quite sexy, too!
8. Erotic Media
It comes as no surprise that a fetish as common at foot fetishism makes an appearance in erotic media (porn, erotica, cam girls, etc.). Plenty of other fetishes make it into porn, too. One estimate states that fetishism is involved in 1/4th of all porn made in America .
Cam girls will pose for viewers with their feet in the center of the camera. Models will sell photos of their polished and naked feet in plain view. Acts of foot fetishism like those listed in this post are not an uncommon theme in written erotica, either. There’s plenty to consume if you have a foot fetish or to help your partner enjoy his own fetish — and you could even make your own erotic content that’s centered on feet.
There are those people who have a foot fetish who experiment with their fetish by masturbating with footwear. They may rub against a shoe or rub a shoe against them or simply watch it while they pleasure themselves. Minus an attraction to feet specifically, this might be more indicative of a shoe fetish, however.
10. BDSM and Foot Worship
Foot fetishists often seem primed for different BDSM activities. For instance, boot worship is common in femdom – more on that here. When the female in charge wears a pair of sexy boots, she may demand her submissive partner lick or kiss them in worship. In fact, there are men who seek out pro dommes specifically because they desire to be erotically used in such a way. Virtual dommes, who communicate with clients online, have also found that exchanging videos or photos of their sexy feet and footwear can be quite lucrative when they find a client with a foot fetish!
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This sort of foot fetish can extend beyond worship into erotic pain. A woman wearing a heeled shoe or boot might use the heel to pinch a man’s body or otherwise leave a mark. Or she may actually walk on him if she can do so without causing permanent damage. In some extreme cases, a domme may crush or otherwise hurt a submissive’s genitals with her feet as part of their play, a practice known as cock and ball torture when the submissive is a man.
Flip it around, and you might find the suggestive nudge from the toe of your man’s boot quite thrilling. If you’re into service type submission (tips about that in this post) then cleansing and shining those boots might be something you incorporated into your play.
Of course, you don’t have to incorporate pain. You can dominate your man without pain in many ways, some of which satisfy a foot fetish.
Remember that you don’t have to give in to your partner’s every whim. You can tease and deny him by taking away stimulation or the object of his desire (in this case, your foot or footwear). You can also incorporate ruined orgasms if you feel especially feisty.
Of course, you can engage in a foot fetish without such extreme forms of play. There’s no right or wrong way to explore your fetish as long as it doesn’t permanently hurt anyone and everyone involved can give consent. If your partner expresses interest in a foot fetish, but you realize it’s not your thing, that’s okay, too. There are plenty of other things you can do to keep the spark in your sex life!
Check out the following resources for more information about foot fetishism.
- The New York Post has an article about how fetishes mean big money on Instagram.
- Head over to Filthy, which peers in-depth into the history of foot fetishism.
- If you want to get into the mindset of someone with a foot fetish, check out this post on Thought Catalog.
- Cosmopolitan has a similar article featuring people who reveal the moment they realized they had a foot fetish.
- Dr. Mark D. Griffiths gives an overview of foot fetishism on Psychology Today.
- Daniel G Wood examines the neuroscience of foot fetishism.
- This article on Shape presents possible reasons why fetishes form.
Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ #1 – Is a foot fetish the same as a shoe fetish?
There is often overlap between foot fetishists and shoe fetishists. A foot fetishist may prefer feet in a certain type of footwear. But a person with a foot fetish often prefers the foot to have specific characteristics while a someone with a shoe fetish might not care about the foot at all.
FAQ #2 – What causes a foot fetish?
While there’s no scientific answer for certain, there are two prevailing theories. One centers on the parts of the brain that deal with genitals and feet. They just happen to be adjacent to one another! The second theory posits that one or more events during puberty conditions an adolescent to develop a fetish about feet.
FAQ #3 – Is someone who has a foot fetish weird, a freak or perverted?
Nope! As we’ve discussed, it’s among the most common of fetishes. It’s usually out of the person’s control, and some people feel a lot of shame about their fetish. However, it can be explored healthily and safely with a willing partner.
If your partner expresses an interest in feet, try to react calmly and without judgment. It’s okay to tell him that you need a bit of time to consider it. During this time, you may want to consider if you want to be involved and, if so, how much. On the other hand, if you’ve come to realize that you have a foot fetish, you should be gentle with yourself as it’s common and doesn’t indicate anything negative about your character or sexual preferences.
FAQ #4 – What if I don’t want to be involved in my partner’s foot fetish?
While this is a common type of fetish, it’s not for everyone. Some people will be willing to help their partners explore such a fetish, but it’s okay if you’re not interested. If your partner pushes these activities, it may be time to rethink your sexual relationship. If he’s okay with your lack of interest, it might be acceptable for him to masturbate to feet in porn or with shoes but for the two of you to engage in sexual activities that you both find pleasurable.
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