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If you’ve ever wondered where is the clitoris, you’re not alone. Some women have trouble finding their clitoris, particularly women who haven’t yet fully explored her their own bodies. So to answer where is the clitoris, it is located just above the opening to the vagina.
Its only purpose is to provide pleasure, so it’s important to find it. The clitoris is responsible for the main type of women’s orgasms. Read more on what an orgasm feels like. It’s the female version of the head of a man’s penis because it’s packed with nerve endings and is sensitive to the touch.
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Female Sexual Anatomy
Once you have an understanding of female sexual anatomy, you should have no trouble finding your clitoris. Where you need to aim your focus is the external genitalia, which are the vulva, labia and clitoris. The vulva refers to all the external genitalia.
The next point of interest is the mons veneris, which is Latin for “hill of Venus.” This is a fatty pad, also known at the mons pubis, that covers the pubic bone, located right below the abdomen.
The outer vaginal lips are called the labia majora. The inner vaginal lips are called the labia minora. Some bodies have both while the labia blend together in other women. They serve to protect the clitoris. The clitoris is small tissue that is highly sensitive.
How to Find the Clitoris
Here’s an easy way of finding your clitoris. Run a finger down your mons veneris, or pubic bone. You should feel a groove where the vaginal lips join. The top of what you’re feeling is your clitoral shaft. Keep sliding your finger down, and you will feel the clitoral shaft end before your vaginal opening. It may be up to several inches north from your vagina, and you may need to spread your labia to locate it,
The most sensitive part of the clitoris is the head, the part before your vaginal opening. It’s covered by a clitoral hood, which is similar to the foreskin on a penis. The clitoral hood is also sensitive to touch, but may be too sensitive for some women to touch.
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The Function of the Clitoris
You’ve got to love the clitoris because its only function is to provide you with pleasure. In fact, this is the only organ in humans that exists only for pleasure. And having pleasure is important. When you have a clitoral orgasm, your body releases oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. When you don’t have enough oxytocin, you’ll feel stressed, which could lead to a host of health problems, such as obesity, headaches, depression and anxiety.
The head of the clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve fibers. This is more than anywhere else on the body and almost twice the amount as the nerve fibers on the head of the penis.
When You’re Turned On
When you’re sexually excited, the clitoris swells as it becomes engorged with blood. The vaginal lips also swell and open slightly, and the clitoral hood pulls back.
Your vagina begins to lubricate, and you can use this natural lubrication to stimulate your clitoris. You just need to rub your fingers under the clitoris to spread the lubrication up from the vagina to the clitoris.
Size Varies
The size of the clitoris varies among women. Some are longer, and some are shorter. Some are thinner, and some are wider. Some are large and prominent, and some are difficult to find. And all of this is normal.
Hormonal changes also affect the size of the clitoris. A woman in her middle 30s can have a clitoris that is about four times larger than it was when she first entered puberty.
Most of the clitoris is actually inside the body. The entire clitoris is typically four inches long when you consider the internal part, which includes two crura that are located inside the pelvis and look like two wishbones on either side of the vagina.
Sensitivity Varies
The sensitivity of the clitoris varies among women as well. The size doesn’t always matter regarding sensitivity, but some women with smaller clitorises might have more difficulty achieving orgasm. The distance between the clitoris and the vagina can also play a role in how orgasmic a woman is, with the closer together they are often meaning the more orgasmic a woman can be.
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How to Stimulate Your Clitoris
It’s great to try to stimulate your own clitoris to learn what you like. It gives you a better understanding of what you’ll like during sex with your guy.
Start by running your fingers along the vaginal lips. You might also enjoy rubbing the pubic bone area. You can then run your finger inside your vaginal lips up to your clitoris. You can use either one finger or two. Try out all the clitoral stimjulation methods if you want to try something new!
Where you continue depends on what feels best to you. You can rub the clitoral hood, the clitoral shaft or the head of the clitoris, or you can alternate between the various areas.Some women like stimulating their clit through their labia or underwear better than direct stimulation.
As you become more aroused bring some of your lubrication to the clitoris. You might also enjoy putting your fingers into your vagina and then rubbing your clitoris. If you’re not producing enough natural lubrication, use an over-the-counter lube.
You can also experiment with sex toys, like a vibrator, dildo or showerhead.
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Help Your Man Find It
If you had a difficult time locating your clitoris, think about how challenging it can be for your guy. Guys often wonder where is the clitoris. But never fear. Now that you’ve found your clitoris, you can have some fun showing your guy where it is. He should be delighted to finally know how to please you.
Put your hand on top of his, and guide it to the right place. Once there, show him the type of movement you like. Or you can ask him to watch you touch yourself where and how you like, and then ask him to try. He’ll be turned on watching you, and he’ll also learn exactly what you like.
Conclusion
Finding your clitoris is the key to a huge amount of pleasure in your sex life. And the good news is that researchers have discovered that there is a learning curve regarding the female orgasm, so your sexual experiences should only get better with practice. Older women typically achieve orgasm easier than younger women who have less experience.
A reason some women have trouble having an orgasm during sex is that they have sex through vaginal intercourse alone without having clitoral stimulation. Men can orgasm through vaginal sex alone, but most women need clitoral stimulation as well.
A good plan for a healthy and happy sex life for you is to find your clitoris, know what to do with it, and be confident to show your man what you’ve discovered.
I remember as a male going through puberty, and hearing about the clitoris. I had seen nude photographs of women where the clitoral hood was clearly visible, but had not seen any photos where clitoral hood was pulled back to reveal the glans. I was greatly interested in my newly gained knowledge my female peers we’re gifted, as were males, with the ability to masturbate to orgasm, and that the clitoris played an all-important role in this process for women. To help to get myself used to this new idea, I practiced working through a certain number of imaginary female masturbation scenarios within my mind. When selecting a female role model to help me to visualize the physical dynamics, the choice for me, without hesitation, was Kelly from Saved by the Bell. I visualized Kelly masturbating in her bedroom when she got home from school in the afternoon, and I imagined her getting all steamed up and excited buy her own naughty and provocative thoughts, in a similar way that the boy would do in the same situation. Based on some of the handful or so of accounts that I had read, I imagine Kelly gently pulling back the hood of her clitoris, salivating onto fingertips, and running the saliva covered fingertips gently back and forth over her small well defined and visibly erect looking clitoris. My logic was hazy and uncertain, but I intuitively surmised that part of what turned Kelly on, and let to her needing to masturbate was her awareness that those men and boys around her during the day had found her to be beautiful, sexy, and physically irresistible. My view was over simplified, but I felt like the days when she looked the sexiest to me on the TV show, often as a result of wearing short little mini skirts, those, in turn were very likely indeed to be the same days that she would most needed to masturbate. It was all just guessing, and filling in the blanks, but it made me so happy and filled with love and admiration so know that my dream girl Kelly could experience astonishing mind-blowing pleasure of an orgasm.