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The people who know how to give a good blow job all do the same few things.
Today, I’m going to reveal these things: the exact techniques, attitudes, and tips that these “blow job queens” use to give their men the best oral sex of their lives.
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I’ll be breaking everything down, step-by-step so that you’ll be armed with multiple techniques to start giving your man a blow job smoothly. You’ll also learn the tips, and tactics to heighten his pleasure during it and how to finish giving him head so that he orgasms harder than ever before.
I’m also going to teach you some very advanced techniques that will make him think you’ve befriended a pro!
You are currently reading Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide. In this chapter, I’ll be covering the important blow job basics you need to know to ensure you give him the best blow job of his life. Don’t skip this part if you want to know how to give a proper blow job.
At the end of this page, you will then find a list of links to all the other chapters, so you can learn every aspect of giving the perfect blow job once you’ve mastered my foundational blow job instructions. Whether it’s discovering some BJ techniques to make it slow and sensual or figuring out how to give your first blow job, it’s all here.
You can click here to skip down to the chapter list, but my advice is to read all of Chapter 1 first to make sure you know how to give a bj with confidence.
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Using This Blow Job Guide For Incredible Oral Sex
Using this guide on giving your man the best blow job of his life is pretty straightforward. Every chapter is crammed with wonderful tips and blow job techniques, so my advice is to read it from start to finish. Even if you think you already know how to give a blow job, there’s probably something new to learn!
But before you continue, I have some quick tips to ensure you get the most out of this guide.
Don’t be overwhelmed – You’re about to learn hundreds of powerful blow job techniques to use on your man. Trying to remember every technique when you’re in the moment and figuring out which one to use is near impossible.
To avoid any confusion, just try to remember and use one or two techniques at a time. Once you’ve mastered these techniques, try adding another one or two to your repertoire. This way, you will always be surprising your man with something new or a variation of an old technique.
Of course, it is vital to avoid that dreaded feeling of routine and boredom that will diminish his sexual interest [1].
This is a recipe book – Treat this blow job tutorial like you would treat a recipe book. Don’t feel compelled to use every suggestion, tip, technique, and position.
Instead, be flexible.
- Use the blow job techniques that work for you and your man to provide the most pleasure. And, forget about the blow job tips that don’t work as well. Some men respond better than others to different techniques.
- Feel free to put your own spin on these techniques and alter them to suit you.
Lastly, it’s totally fine if blow jobs aren’t your thing. If you don’t like giving your man oral sex, don’t feel compelled to do it.
Quick Quiz: Do You Give Lousy Blow Jobs?
If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.
Communication & Preferences: Don’t Ignore This
While many in the animal kingdom engage in oral sex…wolves [2], ground squirrels [3], bonobo monkeys [4], Tibetan macaques[5], flying foxes [6], bears [7] and fruit bats [8] to name a few, they can’t communicate their preference as effectively as you and your man can. Effective communication will help you to quickly figure out what techniques your man adores and which ones he finds so-so.
- Some guys love it when you deep throat them, some don’t care for it at all.
- Some guys love the idea of you swallowing their load while others are turned off by it.
- Some guys fantasize about giving you a facial, but others find it pointless.
- Some guys want you to constantly spice up your blow jobs while others actually prefer you using the same few techniques.
- Some guys may adore you fondling their testicles during oral sex, while others will find it distracting.
The point I am trying to make is that your husband is going to adore some of the techniques from this blow job tutorial while he isnāt going to get much from other techniques and ideas. The key is talking to your man and learning his preferences.
This way, you can quickly figure out which techniques give him the most pleasure and work best.
What about you!
To be clear, communication isn’t just about accommodating his desires; it’s about yours too.
According to one study, up to half of all women between 16 and 25 have felt pressured into giving their man a blow job [9]. In another study, 12% of young adult women had repeatedly engaged in oral sex and other sexual practices they disliked because their partner insisted on it [10]. This isn’t right or fair, and it certainly doesn’t make for a great relationship. If you aren’t comfortable with doing something, then it’s important your man understands and respects this.
With this in mind, here are a few quick tips on communicating effectively with your man so that you can give him the best blow job of his life…
Getting feedback
Getting honest feedback on your blow job technique is vital if you want to improve. The best time to get feedback is right after his orgasm. At this time, he’ll be relaxed and very thankful and more likely to be open about his desires with you.
The other times that almost always work great is during foreplay or after he’s had a few drinks.
What if your man is incredibly uptight, and won’t give you helpful, direct feedback?
Here’s what to do:
The next time you go down on him, just beforehand, give him a choice of two options:
“You have a choice: I can deep throat you til you cum, or I can focus only on the tip of your cock. What would you prefer? And you can’t choose both.”
If you are stuck for blow job ideas, you can give him a choice of any of the techniques, tips, and ideas for sucking his cock throughout the rest of this guide.
Choking, gagging, and throwing up
This is what happens when you combine a selfish guy together with a lack of boundaries.
If there is anything you don’t enjoy when giving your man a blow job, he needs to know, and he needs to respect your wishes. So if you don’t enjoy:
- His hands on the back of your head, pulling you in and out.
- Deep throating.
- The taste of his semen.
- Never-ending blow jobs.
You need to tell him, AND he needs to respect these boundaries.
Of course, if you do enjoy these things, then you should let him know too š
What if he smells?
It’s not uncommon for guys to smell a little ripe after working out or a hard day at work. If your guy hasn’t had a shower recently, it might not be too pleasant when you get down there. This is a communication issue!
If he likes bluntness, you might simply be able to say “Hey babe, wanna hop in the shower before I go down on you?” You may even suggest taking a shower together!
One thing that plays a part in a strong or unpleasant odor is how close his genitals are to his anus. That’s true for women, too! If he doesn’t have good hygiene there, it can smell pretty horrible. You might purchase wet wipes to use instead of toilet paper to keep each other fresher. However, some guys really need to get in there and clean, especially if they’re hairy.
This leads to our next point.
On the issue of hair
Genitals have hair. Yours do. His does. That’s how mammals are. But it doesn’t always make giving a blow job fun.
If his hair is getting in the way of you giving a blow job for the first time or going down on your man as often as he’d like, suggest that your man trim it. Trimming is less likely to cause a cut than shaving, and he’ll still be more kempt. If he wants to shave but struggles, offer to help him in the shower.
This is also something that could lead to shower sex.
Your Blow Job Compass
For most guys, their body will provide the best feedback for you. When a guy is really enjoying himself, he will find it hard to keep quiet or prevent his body from reacting to the pleasure you’re giving him. So…
Listen to his breathing – Does it shorten/quicken or get heavier, meaning he’s enjoying himself? Or does it remain unchanged?
Listen to his voice – Along with his breathing, does he start to moan, groan, or “Ahhhh” & “Ohhhh.” These are some very obvious signs that what you’re doing is working. Calling out to God is also a great sign š
Listen to his body – Does he remain perfectly still, or can you see his body writhing with pleasure. Clenched fists, curled toes, grabbing you, arching his back, tilting his head back/lifting his chin up are all signs that you have been thoroughly satisfying him.
The best part about listening to his body is that it never lies.
Here’s what I mean…
Some repressed guys may claim that they don’t like anal stimulation during a blow job, but if you try it, you may find that his body responds differently, with shorter breaths, groans of pleasure, and a more intense orgasm than usual.
The bottom line
So listen to what he says, learn what he prefers, make sure he understands your boundaries and make dam well sure you listen to his body if you want to learn how to give him the best blow job of his life.
You’ll find more great anal stimulation tips here.
For more information on having good communication when it comes to sex, you may want to check out this guide on sexual communication to help you better communicate your preferences.
The Golden Technique – Enthusiasm
While there is an encyclopedia of knowledge through each chapter of this guide on how to give your man a perfect blow job, you may be wondering what the best blow job technique is?
The number one blow job technique is actually an attitude. It’s…
Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm is by far the most powerful thing you can incorporate into your blow job skills AND sex life [11]. Think about it this for a minute…
Have you ever been merely going through the motions with a guy, where he seemed almost uninterested and unenthusiastic about getting it on? It’s a real turn off and can make you feel very unsexy.
On the other hand, have you ever been with a guy who can’t keep his hands off you, who looks at you like a lion eyeing his prey and when you do get intimate with him, he kisses you with intense passion and makes love to you with his entire being. It’s like he’s possessed and all he can think of is…you.
It’s incredibly arousing.
He’s acting with complete enthusiasm and focus on you.
This is the power of enthusiasm.
When you give your boyfriend a blow job (or hand job or have sex with him) while being completely enthusiastic about it and totally focused on him, it’s going to massively arouse and turn him on.
So even if you’re aren’t totally sure about what you’re doing, just focus on being enthusiastic. You’ll be surprised at how much this tip alone can be enough to make your man scream with pleasure. You don’t have to give a perfect blow job if you’re really enthusiastic and into it!
Here are two examples that should open your eyes to the importance of enthusiasm when giving a guy a blow job.
1. Imagine that you have little experience of giving blow jobs. You aren’t sure what to do, but you can’t wait to go down on your man. When you get him alone, you push him down on the bed, rip his pants off, and quickly take him into your mouth.
You’re using a simple up & down motion and nothing else, but he can hear your enthusiastic slurping, see that you are enjoying yourself, and feel your hands all over his body as you feel the pleasure you are giving him. You are entirely lost in the moment and seem joyfully fixated on making him cum.
2. Now imagine being very experienced and you agree to give your man a blow job. First, you ask him to shower and take out the trash. You then place a pillow on the floor to protect your knees and take off your top, because your priority is keeping it clean.
You then start giving him a blow job using multiple techniques, but you don’t make a sound or seem enthusiastic at all. You stay on your knees and barely move at all. You’re completely out of the moment and are thinking about work emails.
Which is hotter?
Scenario #1, obviously!
That’s the power of enthusiasm. Even if you are a complete beginner, being enthusiastic automatically makes your blow jobs feel incredible.
Podcast: Orgasmic Oral Sex – 12 BJ Techniques
Before continuing with the guide below, you may want to listen to this podcast I recorded on how to give a blow job so powerful he will cry out in pleasure.
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Building Blow Job Confidence
You’ll find that none of these techniques for giving your man a good blow job are that useful if you feel super awkward and nervous during the act. The same is true when it comes down to what sex positions you use.
It will be a lot more sexually satisfying for your partner if you appear and genuinely feel confident.
That’s why I’ve put together this list of tips that will help to boost your sexual confidence.
Practice, Practice, Practice – If you want to be more confident when going down on your man and actually give him a good blow job, then you need to practice first. The good news is that you don’t have to practice on your man. The easiest way is by using a dildo or something else clean and phallic-shaped.
Just be careful not to push the dildo too far down your throat to prevent choking! A flared base can prevent a dildo from going too far, and it’s great for anal safety, too!
With practice, you’ll easily memorize multiple techniques and learn how deep you enjoy taking a penis into your mouth.
Sexual Confidence Is Not Just About Sex – It can be confusing hearing someone talk about sexual confidence when trying to satisfy your man. Being sexually confident is not just about being good at sex. Instead, it’s about being comfortable with your body.
Researchers have even done studies that show that the more comfortable you are with your body, they more sexually satisfied both you and your husband will be [12].
So if you think that learning everything there is to know on how to give a good bj is going to provide you with all the sexual confidence you need, then you are sadly missing an important point. To get sexually confident, you need to get comfortable with who you are.
The truth is that nobody is perfect, and everyone has things about themselves that they wish were different, but can’t change.
To get more comfortable with who you are will take time. The important thing is to realize that most of the things you worry about are not that big of a deal.
Remember That He Is Nervous Too – Don’t forget that guys often suffer from a severe lack of sexual confidence! Some of the things guys worry about:
- Not getting an erection
- Losing his erection
- Cumming too quickly
- Not cumming at all
- Is my penis big enough?
- Is my penis ugly or a weird shape?
- Is she actually attracted to me?
These are just a few of the things that guys get nervous about, but there are lots more.
So the next time you give head to your man, remember…
He will often be too worried about his own performance to notice any “mistakes” you make.
There is no such thing as a bad blow job – Lastly, keep in mind that there is no such thing as a bad blow job. Even a lousy blow job will still feel good to your guy.
Low Expectations
Having low expectations is an important attitude you need to foster when you go down on your man.
Here’s what I mean.
If you give him a blow job and then expect something in return, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons and also setting yourself up for disappointment. Here are some examples of expecting something in return:
- You expect that he will go down on you afterward.
- You expect that he does you a favor (chores, lends you some money, etc.).
- You expect him to lavish praise on you.
Giving him a blow job and then expecting something in return is the WRONG reason to do it. It’s almost as if you are treating sex as a bargaining chip.
Instead…
You should try to only give him oral when you genuinely want to give him pleasure…AND nothing else.
Of course…
This all sounds good in theory, and having zero expectations would be wonderful, but this is the real world, and it’s natural to feel some expectations when you do something for someone else, whether that’s sexual or otherwise.
And, if you did nothing but give, give, give, and never expected anything in return, you are setting yourself up to be taken advantage of. In fact, research finds that men are slightly more likely to receive than to give oral sex [13, 14, 15]; so this can happen if you don’t talk about your needs.
The point that I’m trying to make is that you should try to have as few expectations as possible when giving your man a blow job (or any sexual pleasure).
Giving A Hot, Sexy Blow Job Is About Feeling Comfortable
I get emails every week from female readers asking, “How can I be sexier for my man when I give head?” or some similar variation. These emails usually include questions on what to wear and how to act.
I always reply with the same advice:
Focus on feeling comfortable, and don’t worry too much about being sexy.
When you focus on feeling comfortable, you’ll be natural, relaxed, and confident…and blowing your man will feel effortlessly sexy.
But…
When you wear uncomfortable lingerie, awkwardly talk dirty and try to deep throat him even though you absolutely hate it, that’s not sexy.
Worse still, your man will feel your awkwardness.
And, it won’t feel sexy for either of you.
Fortunately, we have guides on the Bad Girls Bible that teach you how to pick out the perfect lingerie and how to talk dirty without feeling awkward.
Stay Safe
It goes without saying that safe sex is paramount. Unsafe sex can lead to sexually transmitted infections. This includes oral sex! You can still transmit STIs through oral sex [16, 17, 18].
While some STIs have no symptoms at all and others are easily treatable, that’s not the case for all of them. Herpes, for example, can stick with you and leading to repeated outbreaks [19, 20, 21]. Gonorrhea and herpes are among the infections that transmit via oral sex [22, 23]. HPV can also cause cervical cancer [24, 25, 26]; however, it can also cause cancer in the throat [27, 28, 29]
Fortunately, using condoms during oral sex can lower your risk of giving or getting an STI [30, 31, 32]. If you want to use condoms when giving a blow job, flavored condoms can make the experience more pleasant.
Now that you have a solid foundation for giving your man a blow job confidently, it’s time to go to Chapter 2 of this Blow Job Guide to learn some bj techniques to make the start of your blow jobs extra satisfying
Of course, you can also check out the other chapters too:
Chapter 1
You’re currently reading Chapter 1.
Chapter 2: The Build Up & Blow Job Foreplay
In Chapter 2, you’ll discover how to build up to a blow job along with how the first few licks and kisses you give your man’s cock can make him groan wildly. I like to call this “blow job foreplay.” Get it right, and you can be sure that he will be bragging to his friends about how you give an amazing blow job!
You want to begin by teasing and touching him before you then slowly and gently start to pleasure him with your mouth. I cover every technique you should be using in Chapter 2. Click here to read Chapter 2 now.
Chapter 3: Blow Job Techniques
Once you begin giving him oral sex, you DON’T want to use just one technique from start to finish. The best way to give a blow job is to use multiple techniques so that he never knows what to expect next, including massaging his balls. In Chapter 3, you’re going to learn 55 different techniques you can use while going down on him. Click here to start reading Chapter 3.
Chapter 4: Finishing Him Off In Style
There is a right way and a VERY WRONG WAY to finish your man off. You can make it deeply pleasurable for your man when he ejaculates…or it can be almost painfully unenjoyable.
In this section of the Blow Job Guide, I take you by the hand and show you exactly how to finish him off so that he has the most mind-bending, toe-curling, back-arching, screamingly-satisfying, powerful orgasm ever from your epic blow job. Read Chapter 4 here to learn how to finish him off in style.
Chapter 5: Hardcore & Filthy C*ck Sucking
You can still take it up to another level and surprise him with the ultimate blow job when you learn even more blow job skills!
Here you will learn how to give him a blow job like a pornstar. The techniques that you will learn in this section are not for the faint of heart, but they will make your man wonder what’s gotten into you! Click here to read Chapter 5 and learn how to suck dick like a pro.
Chapter 6: 10 Blow Job Positions Demonstrated
In addition to the techniques you use on your man, the position you are in when you give your man a blow job plays a vital role. Will you submissively get down on your knees? Will you push him onto the bed and take control? Or will you lie back on the bed, with your head hanging over the edge while your man remains standing?
The position you are in when giving your man a blow job can change the sensations you give him. Check out each of the 9 best blow job positions in Chapter 6 of this blow job manual.
Certain positions can also make deep throating way easier, speaking of which…
Chapter 7: Deep Throat With Ease
Deep throating your man can be tough…OR…surprisingly easy. In this chapter, you’re going to learn how to control your gag reflex, what positions make it easier, and how to breathe so that deep throating him is something you BOTH look forward to. All it takes is the right blow job training.
Toward the end of this chapter, you’re also going to learn more advanced deep throating techniques that will make him lose himself in pure, mind-bending bliss. Click here to read Chapter 7 and start learning how to deep throat your man.
Chapter 8: 9 Bonus Oral Sex Techniques
I’ve put together another chapter, where you’ll discover nine more techniques to deeply pleasure your boyfriend and give a killer blow job.
This way, you’ll never run out of ideas to keep your man happy with! Check out the nine bonus oral sex techniques in Chapter 8 here.
Chapter 9: How To Swallow His Cum & Make It Taste Good
You should never feel forced to swallow his cum, but if you want to try it, then this chapter of the bj tutorial will show you how to make it easy, sexy, and fun. You’re also going to learn some techniques you can use to turn this simple act into something that is highly arousing for both you and your man. Click here to read Chapter 9.
Chapter 10: Fantastic Fellatio
Readers have contributed their own incredible oral sex tips that you can try out your man to put him over the edge and into complete orgasmic bliss in Chapter 10. It’s also the place where you can contribute your own blow job tips. Read Chapter 10 on how to perform fellatio here.
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I read over these tips mostly out of curiosity and to try new things in bed because I found myself getting bored of giving bjs. Now… I love it! And so does my man. Your tips really work and have inspired me to try out even more things using my imagination. I have my man literally begging for more now, which is definitely a first. So again thank you. You’re awesome!
Shannon
Hi Luna/Shannon,
Thanks for your kind words, glad I could help. Make sure to check out the blog for all the latest updates to the site!
Sean
bore giving head? That’s like saying you’re sick of life. Suck and swallow deep and enjoy and I hope he does at least the same to your very private place.
Oh my goodness your tips and tricks work AMAZINGLY WELL! I used to just give oral sex to my boyfriend because I knew how much he enjoyed it. But now I think I like it more than he does haha. The two things he absolutely loves is when I use a little mouth wash before because of the cooling sensation, and when I can comfortably look at him during. Now I feel so much sexier and more confident knowing a few tricks. Thanks so much! We both really appreciate it!
– V
Glad to hear you enjoy my tips so much V. Make sure to check out the blog to keep up to date with my latest sex tips and techniques!
beautiful… I hope you love his ejaculate so well that you swirl it before swallowing!
So what do you do if your mouth is too small? …
Hi Sarah,
Having a small mouth is really only a minor inconvenience when it comes to having a great sex life. It’s not something that you should worry about too much. The main problem with having a small mouth is that it’s much more likely that you will accidentally scrap your man’s penis when trying to take it into your mouth.
But you don’t have to take his penis right into your mouth to give him a good BJ. Remember that the tip is the most sensitive part for him. So concentrate on this with your lips and tongue. But you can also lick, kiss and suckle the rest of his penis without ever taking it into your mouth.
Sean
Thanks for the confidence about the small mouth issue. It’s mine too.
my girlfriend has the best technique for a mind blowing bj. She holds my erect penis tight by circling her two fingers at my cock base and pulling the shaft skin tight. Gets me to full length and girth before I explode in her throat.
Find a smaller dick or just suck the tip
I have had a major issue, almost like an OCD about BJs and kept avoiding it. But I think it is about time I got rid of my hesitation. And this is what brought me here. Firstly, I have major issues with looking at him while I’m doing it. Second, I get demoralised very easily and leave it in the middle. And I emit nervous vibes while I’m at it. Any form of bossiness from him discourages me. I want to get rid of these, please help. Also, you are immensely helpful. If only I could do it without hesitation or a mind block.
Thanks.
The key is to take baby steps and to talk to him about it, to let him know what you like and don’t like when giving him a blowjob. Start off by giving him a very simple blowjob, by just stroking his shaft with your hand and licking the tip of his penis. Then as you give him more and more blowjobs, start to add more techniques that I mention throughout this section.
It’s also important to let your man know what you enjoy and don’t enjoy him doing when you are giving him a blowjob. If him being bossy is something that you find discouraging, then let him know. But also make sure to let him know about the things that you find encouraging and enjoyable that he does when you’re giving him head.
Im going 2 try this on my man tonight!
Good to hear Dawn, hope it goes well for you!
One thing I learned accidentally while brushing my teeth in the shower is that if you hold the liquified tooth paste in your mouth instead of spitting it out, you can use it as a lube for either oral or just sex, the mint will provide a hot and cold variation that leaves a tingling sensation. The same feeling it has in your mouth, like what V said about mouthwash only slightly easier since the toothpaste provides a much thicker substance to work with so you can eliminate the fear of accidentally swallowing. It works great and cleans your teeth at the same time!
I found its much more to giving head to your man then just sucking.i beleave i may be able to now keep him home.thanks
Truee!
Do you have any tips for calming my nerves? I’m scared to give my FiancĆ©e a BJ!!
-cherellynne
I always advise people to start slowly and then build up to giving him a blowjob. You can start by just rubbing his crotch with your hand outside his pants. Then once you’re comfortable with that then try giving him a handjob. Then afterwards, when you are comfortable with that you can finally try to give him a blowjob. It’s totally natural to feel a bit nervous. The key is to keep moving forward and trying new things (that you are happy to do for your man).
Thanks for the tips we will be trying these tonight. I am going to make him very happy tonight.
Great to hear! Also, I love your name…Ms. Love
Omg.!! I can’t wait to try these tips .!!! I think my guys going to like them .!! Im trying some tomorrow.!!
i love you Sean….the world needs swities like u.i ve learnt alot frm u…thnx,mwa
Thanks! This kind of feedback makes it all worthwhile!
Dont forget to swallow!
I like giving my guy a blowjob, but when I wrap my lips around my teeth, so I don’t bite him, my lips get sore. Any advice as to how to avoid this?
Hi Kt,
This is unfortunately one of those annoying things that you are just going to have to deal with I’m afraid. Unless your man can somehow shrink his penis or you can magically widen your mouth, there is unfortunately very little you can do. Sorry
Sean
Hey Kt, I find that wrapping my lips around my teeth gets sore too and can be very distracting, I find that wrapping my lips only when I am going quite deeper and then unwrapping when I am just paying attention to the top & unlikely to scrape him helps a lot, and alternating between lots of different things helps my lips and jaw from getting sore. Plus my husband absolutely loves the variation!
Soft retainers from tooth/teeth straightening companies are GREAT to use with the very girthy. I suppose a sports dental guard could work, but the soft retainers is thinner and fits like a glove.
Cons: 1) Talking to your dentist about it, and 2) the cost.
āRetainers ARE thinner…ā
I have no idea how you can actually keep your teeth under your lips…. itās so difficult for me and he always ends up pulling me away. I just wanna be more and be better for go but my damn mouth is small lol
Talk to him to find out what he likes and doesn’t like.
How can I keep from gagging while deepthroating? I’m not exactly sure how to fix it….
Hi L,
Check out this article on deep throating for more advice.
Hei Sean, can you please provide some blow job tips with tongue piercing? how to make him feel the pierceing? thanks! xxx
Great question! The tip of your man’s penis is the most sensitive, so I would suggest trying to rubbing the piercing on that. The most important thing though is judging his reaction. Some guys may love it, while others may not be so turned on by it. He will also most likely enjoy feeling it run over his balls.
I know more than one man who really enjoys teeth and being bitten. You shouldn’t assume that all guys hate teeth!
Hi B,
You’re absolutely right. Quite a few guys enjoy it, especially if you are just lightly grazing him or nibbling his penis ON PURPOSE. However it can get incredibly uncomfortable for your man if you don’t even realise that you are doing it constantly. The most important thing here is communication. Ask him and find out from him what he likes and prefers.
Sean
wow! this advice!
you really are amazing!
iloveyou! haha x thankyou
Dude, you are a genius. I sent my girlfriend several links to your site, and according to her, she read everything on every page. She didn’t buy any of your books because she lives with her parents and doesn’t want them to find out, but she read everything on your site, and jesus, dude.
Her blowjobs are the best I’ve ever received. In. My. Life. Thanks so much for putting all this up here, or me and her would have been over a long time ago.
Hi Phil,
Great to hear! Thank you so much for your feedback
Sean
Hi I’m Sam and I have a major problem. I’ve done it before but was really young (younger than I like to talk about, the guy took advantage of the fact that I was new to sexual feelings, just hitting that stage in adolescence.) But yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I were able to do it. I actually have two problems. Even though I don’t particularly have a small mouth I have a bad habit of scraping my teeth against the penis, which hurts him, and I found myself apologizing multiple times during it…also another problem is the gag reflex I have. One thing I enjoy that he did is that UE controls my head, pushing it up and down (I know I’m weird but he usually has me be the controlling one because he gets turned on from being controlled.) But…I can’t get his penis in more than like two inches without gagging and had to stop him from pushing my head, even stop sucking completely a few times to keep myself from throwing up….what do I do??????
Hi Sam,
Don’t worry too much about having a small mouth, it’s not the worst thing in the world. If you find yourself scraping his penis with your mouth, then try wrapping your lips over your teeth so that they act like a cushion.
As for your gag reflex, some people have a strong gag reflex, while others have none at all. The great thing is that you can slowly train your gag reflex to get weaker and weaker until it’s hardly noticeable. You’ll find some great tips on reducing your gag reflex in this article on deep throating.
Sean
Is cumming in a girls mouth really a turn on?
Only if one or both of you find it a turn on. Different people have different preferences. The truth is that not everyone enjoys everything.
I have found that using your teeth can be quite pleasurable if you do it the right way. My man’s favorite thing is when i gently graze my teeth on his penis. this only works though if the area is wet. It’s almost like you’re gonna bite on it while your head is turned sideways, but since the area is wet, your teeth won’t go into his member. It’s a really good trick for the building up stage. Just don’t actually have any of his skin between your teeth or in your mouth.
Agreed š It can be super hot using your teeth on your man, but you need to be super careful at the same time not to accidentally hurt him.
Sean
Hi, Sean!
All of this has ALREADY helped me go from good to great š We both thank you!
Question: I’ve always been careful to wrap my lips over my teeth — but after the action, the inside of my upper lip is incredibly sore from rubbing against my teeth. Actually kind of shredded, and it takes 1-3 days for it to “heal.” My teeth aren’t snaggly or rough, just, y’know, teeth.
Any suggestions, either how to protect him while not hurting myself, or how to heal my poor abraded mouth faster?
Thank you!
Hi Pam,
This can be a tricky one. The only reason you need to cover your teeth with your lips is if you are hurting your man with your teeth when giving him a blowjob. Many couples have this problem because of either a large penis or a small mouth or a combination of both. You may want to try giving him a blowjob without wrapping your lips over your teeth to see if he enjoys it. If this hurts and you need to wrap your lips over your teeth to prevent the pain, then unfortunately there is little else you can do š
Sean
Try orthodontic wax! It’s made to be put on poky and uncomfortable appliances for protection. It’s like plasticine, and you can stick it onto the ends of your teeth or anywhere needed. You could probably ask your dentist or orthodontist for some, or go buy some at a store.
I’ve never given someone a handjob or blowjob. I would like to know how not to hurt the guy. I want to surprise my boyfrined with either. I’ve never dine this before and i don’t want to hurt him. I want to make him feel good but i’m worried i might hurt him.
Hi e,
Here are a few things to help.
1) Start slow and gentle.
2) Gauge your man’s reaction. If he is enjoying what you are doing then keep on doing that! If not, then try something else.
3) If in doubt, don’t be afraid to ask your man for advice on what his personal preferences are.
I love these suggestions. Thank you so much for the good info. I am lucky enough to be very experienced at giving blowjobs and I am quite good at it. I practice the suggestions that Sean lists. I totally love giving blowjobs!!!
Hi Sean,
I’m from the uk n interested in ur books, my bf is the first guy I’ve gone down on n this has given me a few things I might try, as I don’t think he enjoys it as much as he hoped he would.
Do you ship to the uk?
Hi SP,
Thankfully all the books are digital, this means that they are sent to you immediately after purchase. It also means that you can read them anywhere, on your phone, computer, iPad, etc.
Let me know if you have any other questions.
Sean
Hi,Sean. quick question, it is okay when my man comes in my mouth and I swallow the sperms?
Thanks, and you’ve been really helpful
Hi Ginger,
Provided you are not allergic to seminal fluid, then you shouldn’t have a problem, but I always recommend that you talk to your doctor if you have serious concerns.
Sean
Hi Sean,
Thank you so much for these tips! I recently gave my first bj, my boyfriend loved it, because it was the first bj he has ever received. I really plan on using these tips next time. But I do have a question, is the positioning of the lips on the penis super important?
Hi Emily,
Great to hear! It’s only as important as you want it to be. Remember that the glans your man’s penis (the top part) is most sensitive, so focusing most of your effort on the glans is going to result in the most amount of pleasure for your man.
Sean
After years and years of giving blowjobs without problems, a few years back, I started hurting the inside of my upper lip while doing it. I really don’t know what changed. I can usually make it through the experience but the next day, my inside upper lip is very sensitive and sometimes even shows an open wound!! In those cases, it can be up to a week or even more before I can give another blowjob! This is very frustrating, since I don’t know what changed to make this problem start occurring.
Have you ever heard of this before? Any tips on avoiding it?
Hi KB,
This can happen if you wrap your top lip around your teeth while giving a blow job. Are you doing this?
Sean
Just found your website – and I’m very excited to try out the Tongue Squeeze. Just a question: when I press his head/glans against my palate, how do I prevent his shaft from rubbing against my teeth? Will that hurt him?
Also would very, very very lightly “scraping” his shaft with my teeth hurt him? Is that what you’re referring to when you say don’t use your teeth? I don’t intentionally scrape or bite or anything like that, but sometimes when I’m sucking his shaft will accidentally touch my front teeth
Hi Kristin,
Preventing his shaft from rubbing against his teeth is tough. Changing the angle of entry helps. Another way to prevent yourself from accidentally hurting him is to keep his penis from moving when it’s in your mouth, but continue to use your tongue on it.
Very, very lightly scraping or running your teeth over his shaft shouldn’t hurt him, but make sure to get feedback from him, in case it does hurt (different guys have different levels of sensitivity).
Sean
Hello Sean. Well here i am wanna comment on your ‘How To Give A Blowjob’ forum. Well, my boyfriend always want a blowjob and I will do what him want. Um, I dont know how it feels when I do blowjob on him. He likes it very much until he cums. I want to ask that is blowjob can do everyday and does it wont hurt his penis? Thanks and thanks for answering š
Hi Cristabella,
Giving your man a blowjob is perfectly fine for his penis and shouldn’t hurt…unless you are biting it!
Sean
I already do everything on this list, but I am discouraged. My bf and I have been dating 3 months and I still am unable to make him cum from a blow job. I have never had this problem before so this is very new to me. He enjoys what I do. His reactions are amazing, I just can’t get him to cum. I’m not sure what to try now and like I said I am discouraged. HELP PLEASE
The funny thing is that some guys just can’t get off when receiving a blow job. It’s similar in a lot of ways that some girls can’t orgasm during intercourse. It’s most likely nothing that you are doing wrong, so don’t worry and try to focus on having fun.
The most common cause of this problem is stopping. You want to change things up but once you start, don’t stop! Use your hand to stroke as your mouth runs up and down his shaft. Pay special attention to the head, gently sucking it against the roof of your mouth, Gradually increase the amount of suction. Good luck!
Hi Sean. your advice is really good now, I have ywo quest for you. My guy is lik an alpha male always likes to be in control, but i know that guys like it when we take control sometimes, but how can I do that with him, as I do like when he is aggressive? My other quest is this feels weird when i give him a BJ he likes when I put pressure with my lips, but I have trouble doing both at the same time. any suggestions? thank you
Hi Sarah,
Thanks for your questions. In response to your first question, your best option is to ask him if he’d find it hot with you in control…nothing crazy, maybe just putting a blindfold on him or tying his hands behind his back while you go down on him. In response to your second question, just make sure to talk to him about it. Let him know how you find it difficult to both at the same time.
Sean
thank you, I have done one thing, he works at an auto shop and got a new pair of pants for work, ever since i told him I loved those pants on him, I see them on him a lot.
Hi Sean,
I have a retainer and I’ve tried giving my boyfriend a blowjob and I can’t seem to get him in as much as I have before. Any tips?
Hi Lissiee,
Try taking out your retainer while going down on him. Problem = solved š
Sean
Hey one big time query whenever me & my BF start BJ my BF comes out in 2sec which spoils our mood & so bit worried is he having problem should we consult any doctor??? Tips required which can help me out..
Hi TJ,
Sounds pretty normal. Some guys cum quickly, others don’t. It all depends on the guy.
Sean
I’ve always been self-conscious about giving blow jobs because of my deviated septum. I can’t inhale through my nose and there’s only so much I can do while holding my breath. Do you have any tips (no pun intended) for someone in my situation?
Hi Steph,
Try focusing more on licking and kissing his penis instead of taking it into your mouth. This way, you don’t have to worry about your breathing.
Sean
I really need to thank you,i have the best relationship ever.
Glad I could help š
Sean
Hi Sean-
My boyfriend usually takes up to 30 minutes to cum and my neck and jaw just get so tired and I keep having to take breaks and use my hand instead and I can tell that it really kills it for him. I try my best to stay relaxed, but its hard to do that and suck with enthusiasm at the same time. I know a lot of other women have the same problem. Do you have any tips to combat the tiredness/soreness so I can give him the amazing blowjob I want to give him?
-Megan
Hi Megan, Some guys take longer than others to cum, that’s totally normal…but there is a really easy solution to this. Just get your boyfriend to stop masturbating for a few weeks and you’ll find that he cums a lot, lot quicker.
Have fun!
Sean
Hi Sean! I’m in a LDR until I finish college and the last time I spend time with my boyfriend I used something “similar” to one of your techniques, he’s always saying I’m his goddess. Sadly I found your website very late, so I would have used all the things you write here. I’m gonna see him again in August or September, hope I could use some of your advices, and hope he love it!
Btw, do you have something about LDR, how to keep your man interesting in you from a distance, this is gonna be for a year and a half only but I don’t want to loose him for the lack of sex.
I’m glad I found your website, can’t stop reading, thank you!!!
I have a question.
My husband isnt really the type to get all kissy lovey dovey type of guy. N neither am Im anymore really.
Some of the positions on this page are very interesting and look like they could be fun. The only problem I have is well the doggy style n all he would be more interested in anal and I’m more wanting to try these pussy sex wise. How would I get him to do these normal sex wise and not anal all the time?
Hi Brandi,
The best and most important thing that you can do is to simply talk to your man to find out what you both want & like as well as what you both don’t enjoy so much.
Sean
Hi Sean, bit of a different question. I am OK with gag reflex (when it happens, I deal with it) but for the first time am with a man who loves deep throat. Difficulty was less with gagging and more with getting my throat open, plus after we do it I find a have a sore throat! Is this normal? Will the sore throat go away with practise?
Hi Sandy,
Firstly, make sure that you don’t do anything that could seriously hurts yourself. If you find that your man’s penis a bit too big, then you will have trouble actually fitting it in your throat.
Best,
Sean
Hi Sean,
I am so glad I finally found this site. I have been married to my husband for seven years but we’ve been together for ten. I have never been comfortable with blow jobs as I’ve never been able to find any decent instruction and my husband has often told me he doesn’t think he should have to teach me. I’ve been more worried about ultimately dissapointing him than finding out how i can please him so up until about two years ago I did not even want to attempt to please him with a blow job. Two weeks ago I finally found your site and a few days ago I was able to purchase the blowjob bible. Its a lot more convenient to listen to your book than read it as I have two small kids and a full time job but i’ve been listenting to it over and over and finally tried a couple of techiniques on my husband. He was SSOOO happy that I was even trying to get better at giving him a blow job but was incredibly pleased with the techniques I used. He couldn’t even speak at the end. I can’t wait to try more techniques tonight. Giving him a decent blowjob and knowing that he was so pleased with my performance was a major turn on for me. I’m really looking forward to practicing on him now. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your wonderful instructions!!
Glad I could help!
Hey Sean,
So I’ve been with my man for almost three years now and we are about as open as it gets, but when it comes to oral sex for us things just aren’t that great. And it’s not for lack of effort. We are both 100% honest about our sexual history (me having hardly any experience and him being in the double digits) and as far as I know he’s only been able to cum once when being given a blow job and that was with me almost a year ago and we both were a little drunk. He used to never even be able to stay up during a bj but now he stays hard throughout but still doesn’t cum, he says he’s never really been one for blow jobs but I’d really like to get it to the point I can make him cum without either of us being intoxicated. I’ve tried everything, he doesn’t like his balls being touched (he says it tickles), he sometimes likes his taint rubbed but very rarely, and he only likes his prostate being stimulated when he is drunk, I’ve even learned how to deepthroat him which he loves but it still doesn’t make him cum. What would you suggest I do?
Hi Mo,
The truth is that some guys love blow jobs and some guys aren’t the biggest fans. The absolute worst thing that you can do though is fixate on it…it will just make it a bigger issue in your mind. The best thing you can do is talk to your man about it to truly understand it and how he feels
OMG!!! All I can say is thank you, thank you, thank you! Last night was my first time ever giving head because after reading this article I felt brave enough to do it. It was a success! And I enjoyed it too! It will take me a few more times before I try the advance techniques but I am actually looking forward to the next time š I am a 37 year old recent divorcee who is now able to give her wonderful boyfriend exactly what he deserves – a nice blow job! Thank you for expanding my sex life!!!
How do I keep my jaws relaxed while giving hm a blow job?
It a tough one. My advice is to just take a break and switch to giving him a handjob instead of a blow job for a few minutes to give your mouth a break.
Hi Sean! I like your tips, I use most of them already, but I’ve been seeing this guy recently who is quite difficult to get off. I’ve never had this problem as I’m usually really great at giving blowjobs, but this guy is a pain! And the problem is, he LOVES blowjobs. It’s kind of a confidence killer. I spend 15 to 20 minutes down there and can only get him to 70 or 80%. He prefers stimulation of the tip and when I suck him like I’m milking him with my mouth, but he’s still proving difficult. Do you have any suggestions for such a challenge?
Ask him not to masturbate for a week or 2. You’ll be surprised at the difference š
You ought to take part in a contest for one of the best websites online!
So, my guy has just discovered a love of sloppy blow jobs and has requested them. I’m doing my best on the research, but so far all I can find is “use more saliva”. Is that really all there is to it? You wouldn’t happen to have anything on this subject, would you?
Or another technique is to use some flavored lube.
Have fun!
I just discovered your site and for me being so inexperienced this is just great. I wanna spice things up with my bf as our sex life is like dead due to the fact that i dot initiate as much…i will definitely try your bj tips and talk dirty tips.
just wanted some advice on deep throating as i gag but i take with practice i might be able to solve it??
You may want to check out this article on deep throating for some tips and techniques on how to make it pleasurable for both of you.
Thank you for you advise! It was perfect! I tried the techniques on my hubby when he got off work and he has never cum so much before! Thank you!
Did I count more than 5 tips there? Anyway, I thought this was some great blowjob advice, and will try out the tongue squeeze next time I have a cock in my mouth š
Hey Sean,
I just found your website, thank God. Anyways I start to take initiative like you talked about and trying to’build up’ to the moment but the minute things get kind of hot my man has already got his trousers off. Do you have any suggestion for how I can show things down?
Honestly, the best way is to talk to him about it and let him know that you find it incredibly hot when he takes things slowly and there is a long build up. If this doesn’t work, then you may have to be even more direct.
Sean thanks for ur tips. Got My boyfriend screaming for. More he just can’t stop calling me the best
Great to hear!
I enjoy to see that ppl want and try to please their partner. exploring and sharing
The other night my boyfriend and i were talking and he said that the blowjobs i gave were wow for the first 8months but now everytime i do it, it doesnt feel right… like i dont want to. The thing is i do and i love giving him one, but i dont know whats happened… how do i fix this?
Talk to him and see what he enjoys AND what he isn’t so keen on. The key is great communication.
I’ve just come out of a 5 year relationship with a guy that use to demand blow jobs and i always hated them so much! Now i’m single and mingling, i love coming across as the confident sex goodness chick that can turn guys into jelly. This is such an awesome bible i’ve bookmarked it haha thanks a bunch x
Now, if only my great skills didn’t leave my current fling feeling so drained he can’t get it up for anything else for quite a while!
Hehe š Great to hear!
Ok so I have like a super bad gag reflex, sometimes I gag just from brushing my teeth, I know my bf wants one and I wanna try it ( never done it b4) but I’m so scared of gagging and/or throwing up on him please help!
Eve, it’s as simple as this…If you find yourself gagging, just stop for a moment to regain your composure. If the gagging continues…simply stop and try giving him a hand job instead (this article has some great handjob tips)
Geez, that’s unbbvielaele. Kudos and such.
You can avoid using your teeth without covering them with your lips. Guys don’t like it when you look like that. They want to see your lips wrapped around it…
And the biggest mistake is avoiding the final part. Decide where you are gonna allow him to cum and beg him for it there. Nothing sucks more then having her on her knees and she turns away at the last second. You dont want in in your face or your mouth? Then beg him to cum on your tits.
Thanks for your commment Bobby. The key here is that different guys like different things, so the key is talking to your man to see what he enjoys.
I don’t get the big deal my first blowjob and I swalled his cum don’t taste bad if you have his cock in your mouth why not just swallow his cum there’s no mess
I was wondering if you had any tip on how to use your teeth during a blow job? I know that you aren’t really suppose to but I have heard that you can actually make it feel good if you do it correctly. So I researched everything I could about it but most sites don’t go into enough detail or just don’t say anything about it at all except to not do it. Please help me. I really like trying new things but I don’t want to hurt him.
My advice is to NEVER-EVER use your teeth. However if you are dead set on using them, then try gently running your teeth over his shaft, using minimal pressure, so he can barely feel the sensation. Some guys like this, some don’t. The key is testing and seeing what your man enjoys.
Sean
Tried and he enjoyed it but my problem is I find it difficult getting wet for him what do I do? His getting paranoid because of that and I love him.
Communication is key. Also understanding that everyone is built differently is important. Some women get women very easily, while others have extreme difficulty getting wet and need to use lube.
What’s the big deal gave my first blowjob and swalled his cum don’t taste that bad and besides you already have his dick in your mouth you might as well let him finish in your mouth
What if I don’t want the cum?
I don’t minding giving blowjobs, but I hate when my man comes on me.
What do I do?
Hi Cat, just let him know how you feel about it.
You are awesome I’ve been using the tips and they really help!!!!!!
Ive always wondered how a man likes his blowjob as he is finishing in our mouth..tight and fast or stop and push into throat? What? When?
Most men enjoy it when you slow down as he starts to orgasm. Additionally try to use less pressure on his penis, almost to the point of feeling like a feather touching his penis.
But like with all of my techniques it’s important to experiment so you can see exactly what techniques your man enjoys most.
Hi I would like to know is it good to pratice a blowjob with a dildo and could I pratice every day and how long should I pratice for I want to get good at giving a blowjob!
Sure, practicing on a dildo is perfect. How long and how often you practice is up to you. The main thing is that you enjoy it and don’t hurt yourself.
Hey Sean! I love the newsletter and amazing tips and tricks š My new man is uncircumcised – any suggestions??
Thanks!
Hi D,
Honestly, there is not anything different that you need to do. The only real difference is making sure that your man keep under his foreskin clean.
Sean
Love the tips they really do work thank you. So me and my partner have to very different levels of sex drives mine being very high and his being low. How can i boost his sex drive? Ive tryed talking dirty walking around the house almost naked and i have even got him to catch me masterbating and nothing.when we do have sex he cums three times in a matter of minutes and im just left hanging.i can get him to help me finish every now and again but not very often. Do you hace any suggetions that might help
My advice is to talk to him about this in a non judgemental, non confrontational way. Sometimes guys can be a little stupid when it comes to pleasing you and it needs to be spelled out to him.
Hi, I’m hoping you can give me a bit of advice on what exactly I’m doing. My whole life I’ve always been very pure and innocent, something I’ve always been proud of until it comes to being intimate with my boyfriend. I’d never seen a penis nor did I have any sort of knowledge of what I was doing until yesterday when I attempted to give him a handjob which was relatively unsuccessful; however, it was something he told me he did enjoy, and to my surprise, I did, too. After last night I can’t seem to get the idea of giving him a blowjob out of my head, and this is where my question comes in: how do I even begin to start off? I’ve read your tips, but being the most sheltered little thing, I’m almost too timid to try any of them. I suppose what I’m asking is: what advice do you have for beginners?
My advice for beginners is to not worry too much about it being “perfect”. Try one or two tips from the guide and then go from there. Let me know how it goes, have fun!
Hi. I’m hoping for a bit of advice Sean. I have never been self conscious about giving blowjobs and I have never had any issues with my “teeth”. My new boyfriend thrusts while I am giving him oral and I feel the back of my teeth hitting his penis. I also get scared that my teeth will hit his penis when he thrusts into my mouth. Any suggestions?
Talk to him about it and see if it does actually hurt. He may not find it that uncomfortable.
Hi Sean! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us! I’ve tried some of the techniques that you’ve mentioned on my man and I noticed something, he doesn’t seem to be able to speak or whatever he says doesn’t make sense after I blow him, is that a good thing?
That’s a great thing!
Hi i find your tips very interesting and helpful….I’m really in love with a guy…he’s not my boyfriend but we love to make out for fun, and on the way I kinda fell in love…..but he only treates me like a barbie doll….and doesn’t really love me…
Help?pls.
Hi Sean, do you have any advice on how to deal with huge ones like 7/8″ especially when my mouth is so small like typical miniature asian girls? As much I tried not to have teeth too much, how do I avoid it completely?
It can be next to impossible I’m afraid. The best advice I can give you is to wrap your lips around your teeth.
Two tips to add to your list about how to tell your guy is about to cum:
– his cock gets bigger. It gets extra firm and increases in girth and many guys also increase significantly in length. You can feel it during penetration too, and help him get over the edge by amping up your moans, gentle nails on the back, or dirty and encouraging talk.
– most guys start to squeeze their thighs together, or at least close their legs. If you are kneeling and he is laying down, keep your knees outside of, not between his legs so he has the ability to squeeze if he wants to. For some guys, if they can’t squeeze, it’s harder for them to get to the finish.
Hi Sean! I have been using your GREAT tips for a little more than a year, and they have encountered success only! Thanks so much! I began reading this before my first BJ, and it may be the reason why I love it!! Shared it w/ friends!
xxx ā A
Thanks so much!
My gf, Sarah, did your techniques on me and I absolutely love them!! I’ve always been in control but now it seems like she is. We do this almost every night and I enjoy it so much more then I have! Thank you so much Sean!
Hi.i think youve asked me when u said not aalot of us are comfortable with their bodies.. Im not really sexual active too my partner said to Me that I hold myself when I’m with him and I tried to explain myself but he said it’s been going on of which I’ve seen it. He puts the blame to me and I don’t like that… I really love to be intimate with him but I don’t know Y I get scared or confused.. He also mentioned oral sex to be and I was do disgusted but then I think I would enjoy it but it just that it’s him he doesn’t make me free at all.. I feel that way. The way I do wanna be nasty with him but just that he doesn allow me… He wants me to take charge.. Please help what to do.
Hi. I really want to give my bf a blowjob and it’d be a first for the both of us if I manage to and get over the anxiety I have about it. But I don’t know how to stop the nervousness and just at least give it a try, do you have any advice on how I could stop or even lessen the nerves about it?
Try starting with something easier like a hand job š
Iāve tried every possible thing to get my boyfriend to talk to me about sex, I.e. what he likes, what he doesnāt like, what he wants to try but he always avoids the conversation. Itās frustrating because heās the first man Iāve been intimate with so I donāt really know what Iām doing and I just want to make him feel good. Do you have any tips to get him to talk to me about it?
Try our guide to sexual communication.
This is incredible guide. I need to try it š
I have trouble with keeping my teeth from hurting my partner. Do you have any extra tips on how Icoikd stop this.
Wrap your lips over teeth so that they act as a buffer
Yay for giving a great BJ but what about giving guys a tutorial! So many donāt have a clue. Most women are all about the clit not the hole but guys seem to go there before ā primingā the clit. Some automatically think we all enjoy fingers in there pumping away and expecting an orgasm or a squirt. Really? That hurts me! Such a turn off
You’ll be glad to know that I created an entire guide for guys to please their female partners.
I really try my best during blowjobs to make him cum but it just feels impossible ? I really want to make him enjoy it and stick with me ?
Sean Iāve pored over your whole site. Iāve tried every trick you describe. I have perfected my BJs and can make my husband cum in 5 minutes, I enjoy Anal, I send him dirty texts, I switch things up and wear different lingerie, teddys, fake tattoos, etc. I show a lot of enthusiasm during sex. But he watches so much porn, he acts totally unphased by the amount of work I put in. To him, these things are normal things that every woman does. He doesnāt seem to appreciate how lucky he is to have a woman who enjoys these things & who wants to have sex with him every night. How can I help him see how lucky he is without coming across as super prideful or snotty?
Sounds like you need to have a chat with him in a non-judgemental, non-confrontational way. He doesn’t understand your needs and unfortunately, he may be assuming that you are satisfied.
Thanks for this article! You made my day now my girlfriend has really taken her skills to another level thanks to you!
My boyfriend is very neutral about blowjobs. I think it is because his head is very sensitive so even during sex he keeps his foreskin over his head. Is there any tips for making his blowjob experience better?
Talk to him and find out what he enjoys
I have been sucking cock for over fifty years. I have never spit a load. I was promiscuous in my teens and early twenties but got married for the second time at twenty two. I stayed faithful for forty two years but things went to shit. He got to the point that he didn’t even touch me or kiss me. I left because of that and other reasons. We agreed when we got married that if we didn’t love one another or we felt like having sex with someone else that we would tell each other.
At 63, I went straight up to him and told him that I was fucking someone else (a younger guy). He said “okay”. Fortunately I started reading your tips before I started up with the younger guy. I had 4 dozen partners before him and had always given blow jobs. He had had probably 100-150 women. The second time that we were together, I took him into the bathroom and told him that it was time for his Birthday Blow Job. Having read up on it, he was amazed. I even suggested a facial, which I had never done before. He also taught me about anally pleasuring him my fingers.
I’m with a different guy (9 years younger than I am) and he’d heard me talking about blow jobs. The first time that we were together, he started screwing me. I pulled him out and put him in my mouth. I had him moaning and groaning. He was completely “blown away”. He asked if I wanted him to pull out when he came and I told him that I’d never spit a load in my life.
He is addicted to my blow jobs! I have him crawling back for more! I can even make him come when he’s soft. He also loves the fact that I squirt several times while I’m blowing him.
I’m having the time of my life and I’m closer to 70 than I am to 65.
Thanks for your tips. According to your survey, I’m a “Blow Job Queen”. I love sucking cock.
Sorry that this is so long.
Hey DƩithe duit SeƔn!
Please, pleeeeeze, le do thoil, NEVER apologize for your beautiful accent! I speak like an American, but someday I’ll move go hĆirinn and learn to talk proper. It’s lovely. Not as lovely as Gaeilge itself but lovely and less scary complicated (!)
btw I AM NOT coming onto you, I don’t know you, I just love everything Irish and feel that(let me flatter myself) WE have been apologizing for ourselves far too long… “th” is overrated. Be proud. Be confident–it’s sexy, remember? ;-P
BTW thanks for BBB, I am waaaay too old to know the big fat zero I know…:-( lol
x bro
Iām a guy who has been giving other guys blowjobs. Iāve had trouble gagging while he shoots his load in my mouth. Now I lap up all that cum and love it. He hadnāt shot it in almost two weeks and came so much I couldnāt believe it. I think I am addicted to cum. I usually wear panties. Any tips on receiving anal sex? I canāt wait to suck another big cock.
Love giving head! This was helpful (O) xoxo
Hi Sean, Iām partially paralysed on my left side due to a stroke, what positions or tips do you recommend to help our sex life from becoming mundane and boring but not uncomfortable for me, my partner is very concerned about my comfort and pleasure during our lovemaking. Thank you
Hi Diane, I’m sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it’s hard to give you specific advice without knowing your full condition. It may be better to talk to a doctor about this.