How To Stop Squirting During Sex

Below are a bunch of tips to help you stop squirting. However, you’ll also learn how squirting can be positive and how to talk to your partner about it or deal with the mess if you don’t mind squirting but just need some practical tips to reduce how much you squirt.

What is Squirting, Anyway?

Squirting – Squirting is a fairly common bodily response to sexual stimulation, especially if you stimulate your G-spot. Squirting typically involves a gush of liquid. In reality, this liquid comes out of the urethra. G-spot play can make you feel like you have to pee, which may indicate that you’re going to squirt.

Learn more: Techniques to make yourself squirt during sex and masturbation.

Female ejaculation – On the other hand, female ejaculation involves a small amount of whiteish liquid that’s not “squirt” but is made by the Skene’s gland, also known as the female prostate [1]. Female ejaculation is also due to sexual activity. It can happen at the same time as squirting, but research finds female ejaculation to be less common.

Dive deeper: In-depth female ejaculation guide.

Coital Urinary Incontinence – A third option, coital urinary incontinence, can also lead to fluid being expelled from your body during sex. This typically occurs due to a weak bladder or pelvic floor muscles.

Read more: Peeing during sex? What to do.

Squirting Can Be a Natural Part of Healthy and Pleasurable Sexuality

You might be wondering, “Is it normal to squirt?” The answer is, yes! Most of the time, squirting is totally normal. It’s your body’s response to pleasure, whether masturbating alone or having sex with a partner. It can be fun to master squirting and show off your squirting abilities to a partner.

However, if you squirt every time, you might be frustrated, especially if it means you need to wash your bedding every time.

Furthermore, some women experience shame or embarrassment when they squirt. This can happen if you’ve never squirted before and don’t know what it is. You may also feel self-conscious if a partner made you feel bad about squirting in the past or if you’ve been exposed to people talking badly about squirting. If that applies to you, it makes sense that you want to learn how to stop squirting during sex.

Of course, if you have a humiliation or degradation kink and want to incorporate this kink consensually with your partner, then having them “shame” you for squirting in a roleplay could work.

Many People Enjoy It When Their Partners Squirt

You probably don’t need to worry if you’re unsure how your partner feels about squirting. One study found that 90% of people think a partner squirting enriches their sex life [2]! The only thing holding you back from enjoying your ability to squirt may be your own fears.

Stopping Yourself From Squirting or Squirting Too Much

Below are tips to prevent squirting if it’s getting in the way of your sex life, which can happen if you’re experiencing nonstop squirting. Keep in mind that squirting is an involuntary reaction, so the answer to the question, “Can you stop squirting?” may be that, no, you can’t control it.

Identify if You Have Coital Incontinence

Coital incontinence is a type of incontinence where you experience urinary leakage during sex. A systematic literature review found that coital incontinence due to penetration is more common than coital incontinence during orgasm (orgasmic coital incontinence) [1]. Typically, it happens because of a weak bladder or pelvic floor muscles. While squirting is a similar expulsion of fluid from the urethra, it also contains non-urinary components.

You may not be able to tell the difference between coital incontinence, especially if you only experience it with a G-spot orgasm (orgasm tips). The sensation and product may be quite similar. But if you struggle with urinary continence outside the bedroom–when you sneeze, cough, or move in certain ways, for example–it may be likely that what you’re experiencing in bed is coital incontinence.

A pelvic floor therapist can recommend activities like Kegel exercises and other treatments for urinary continence.

Figure Out What Causes It

Before you can stop squirting, you need to figure out what causes you to squirt or why you can’t stop squirting. Pay attention to the sexual techniques, toys, sex positions, or other factors that cause it. Many people squirt from G-spot stimulation. Or you may find that a specific vibrator (use your vibrator for maximum pleasure) is more likely to make you squirt than intercourse or fingering. Then, you can avoid those activities entirely or limit them so you’re less likely to squirt.

Get more sex position ideas.

Keep in mind that if you avoid certain activities, you won’t get to experience any of the pleasurable feelings that come with them. For example, if you love G-spot stimulation, but it makes you squirt, you may have to give up G-spot stimulation to avoid squirting.

Pee Before Sex

Peeing before sex may decrease the likelihood that you’ll squirt because it empties your bladder.

Peeing before sex doesn’t guarantee you won’t squirt, however.

You can empty your bladder and still squirt a surprising amount of liquid! But it can be helpful if you’re dealing with excessive squirting.

Pause Sex to Empty Your Bladder

If you feel like you have to pee during sex, you can pause to use the bathroom. If you do this, hopping in the shower or using a bidet helps you get clean again, especially if you plan on oral sex afterward!

Drink Less Before Sex

It may be harder to squirt if you drink less before sex, especially when combined with peeing beforehand. This can reduce the amount of fluid in your body.

However, you don’t want to become dehydrated, which can cause health issues. If you’re dehydrated enough, you may also have difficulty getting wet, so you may want to have some lube available just in case.

Related: How To Get Wet For Sex FAST

Use Your Pelvic Floor Muscles to Stop Yourself From Squirting

Many people can prevent squirting by squeezing their pelvic floor muscles to stop the flow of liquid. These are the same muscles you use to stop yourself midflow when peeing.

Of course, you’ll still need to expel the fluid later. Additionally, you might find that controlling your squirting this way causes discomfort or pain. Don’t use this method if it leads to an increase in UTIs.

Block Your Urethra (Not Recommended)

Some people can’t squirt if something or someone is in their vagina and blocking their urethra. However, blocking your urethra can cause serious pain and discomfort. As a result, we do not recommend this option.

Do Kegels to Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor

Kegel exercises, which work out your pelvic floor, can have a variety of benefits. They may help you feel more pleasure, have stronger orgasms, or feel tighter to your partner. Kegels are also important if you struggle with urinary incontinence.

However, you shouldn’t start a Kegel routine without talking to your doctor first.

Overly tight pelvic floor muscles can also cause urinary incontinence.

So, you’ll need to make sure you’re doing the right exercises correctly.

Embrace Squirting – and Plan For It!

It’s a superpower – While there are some times when squirting isn’t ideal, we fully encourage you to embrace this awesome ability—it’s also physical evidence of a good time. It’s like a superpower, and many people learn how to make their partner squirt for this very reason!

Minimize the mess – If your issue is mainly about the mess, you can take a few steps to minimize it. Putting a waterproof mattress cover under your bedding can also make cleanup easier and protect your mattress. But, this doesn’t work well in other rooms or if you have an oddly sized bed.

Towels & waterproof blankets – In that case, you can throw down a towel, a waterproof blanket (sex blankets are great, but many pet blankets are cheaper), or even a pee pad. Choose the option that works best for you and the places where you like to have sex.

The shower – Of course, you can always have sex in the shower, so you don’t have to worry about cleanup. Your squirt will wash down the drain, and after you’re done getting down and dirty, you can clean up before leaving the shower.

Related: 12 wild shower sex positions.

Talk to Your Partner

You can let new partners know that you squirt to see how they feel about it–and potentially avoid those people who aren’t okay with it if you are otherwise.

If you’re talking about an existing partner, you might explain how you’ve been trying not to squirt because of your fears or how previous partners reacted. Explain how it makes you feel mentally and physically, and that you’d like their support. Then, you can talk about ways to deal with any mess.

Our guide to sexual communication should help.

Talk to a Professional

Aside from talking to your partner, you may want to speak to a professional. Your doctor may be able to help if you’re experiencing coital incontinence. However, if you want to get over your mental hangups about squirting rather than discovering how to stop squirting, a certified sex therapist could be helpful. Note that not every therapist is sex-positive or informed about sexuality issues, which is why we specifically recommend a sex therapist.

Now you know how to stop squirting–if that’s what you really want.