Negotiating in BDSM is vital. This complete guide will teach you why you should always negotiate before a BDSM scene and more importantly…how to do it! Why Negotiation in BDSM is Important Because BDSM often means greater physical or emotional risk than vanilla sex, kinksters have developed a few tools to promote safety and pleasure as much as possible. Negotiation is one of those tools. … [Read more...]

Safe words–you’ve heard of them, but are they really necessary? And does it make a difference which safe word(s) you use? By the time you finish this article, you’ll understand why we recommend safe words, how to pick a good one, and what to do when someone uses one to minimize any harm. If you'd prefer, you can skip straight to the end if you just want safe word examples. What Is a Safe … [Read more...]

It seems like BDSM is full of acronyms–including its own name! If you’ve ever heard of SSC, RACK, or PRICK, you might be confused about their meaning and use. Fortunately, we’re here to clear that up and introduce you to one more ethical framework for BDSM that you might find helpful…CCCC! What Are SSC, RACK, PRICK, and CCCC? These acronyms are all different BDSM philosophies that promote … [Read more...]

Below, you’ll read about the 19 most common types of dominants and their styles of domination…along with a lot of kinky examples of what they can do to dominate their submissive.  Whether you’re into BDSM for the kinky sex or the whole shebang, including the lifestyle and community, you’ll come across some common terms. Dominant and submissive as among the most common. What is a … [Read more...]