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While statistics on cheating vary, one study estimated that approximately one-third of men cheat as opposed to approximately one-quarter of women [1]. Having your man cheat on you can be completely devastating, shaking up your world and leaving you wondering if dissolving the relationship is the only answer to dealing with this betrayal. However, before you make a decision, it’s important to understand why men cheat, how to deal with cheating, and whether there’s anything you can do to reduce the likelihood of cheating within your relationship. In some cases, it may be possible to save the relationship if you’re committed to doing so.
What is Considered Cheating?
Cheating is often defined as having sex with an individual outside of your current relationship, but it’s not always that simple. Cheating can come in various shapes and forms, but every form of cheating can be devastating to your relationship.
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Physical Cheating
Physical cheating is the most commonly thought of type of cheating, which involves being sexually intimate with a person other than your current partner.
Interestingly, men are generally more distressed by sexual/physical infidelity (while women are generally more upset by emotional infidelity) [2]. Physical behaviors such as kissing, hugging, necking, oral sex, touching, and intercourse may all be associated with physical cheating, although some people have differing opinions [3].
Although this type of cheating is common in both men and women, it affects them in different ways. When a man cheats on a woman physically, she’s often more likely to see beyond physical cheating if she feels that no emotions were involved in this affair. This is crucial to overcoming trust issue.
Emotional Cheating
Another highly researched and recognized type of cheating is emotional cheating, and this type of cheating is defined as when a man shares emotional intimacy, spends quality time with, or falls in love with an individual outside of the relationship. It involves the development of a deep emotional bond with someone other than the primary partner, and it can be just as traumatic and harmful as physical cheating. In fact, for many women, getting over emotional cheating is even more difficult than getting over physical cheating.
Cyber Cheating
Physical and emotional cheating are both the most recognized forms of cheating, but the popularity of the internet has resulted in cyber cheating becoming increasingly prevalent today as well. In fact, cyber cheating is now thought to be as traumatic as actual infidelity on relationships. The definition of cyber infidelity is a sexual and/or romantic relationship with another individual that starts with online contact and is maintained through electronic conversations that take place through chat rooms, email, messengers, etc. It may be one continuous extraneous relationship or synchronous relationships with multiple members of the opposite sex [4]. Some polls show that men may be less likely than women to consider electronic activity like sending sexual texts or photos to be cheating [5].
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Some individuals also feel that viewing pornography online is a type of cyber cheating, and statistics show that 40 million adults in the US regularly view pornography online [6]. While not all women feel that viewing pornography is an act of cheating, others have a very significant problem with undisclosed viewing of pornography by their partner.
The Main Reasons Why Men Cheat
Cheating when in a relationship can be socially, financially, and personally costly, yet many men continue to cheat despite the risks. Why? Research and studies shed some light on some of the main reasons that men are unfaithful to their relationship partner.
Reason #1 – Cheating as a Part of Culture
Overall, cultural standards forbid extramarital affairs, but behaviors in different cultures may actually vary. For example, in some Hispanic culture, it’s often understood that the man may have extramarital relationships. In the Igbo society found in Southeastern Nigeria, men of financial stature display girlfriends to peers to show their status, while their wives are strictly forbidden from having affairs. In Thailand, where commercial sex is the norm, infidelity has also become very common as a part of that culture. Because extramarital affairs have been common in various cultures around the world, some men still feel that they deserve to have affairs on the side, while most of these men feel that their wives should remain committed to them [7].
Reason #2 – Sexual Desire
Feeling unsatisfied with the sex within a relationship and unmet sexual desire is one of the most reasons that men cheat. In some cases, a partner may not have the same sex drive as the man (learn how to increase sex drive), and when his sexual needs are not met, he may go somewhere else to have them met. One recent study suggested that men may be more likely to succumb to cheating than women because they experience far stronger sexual impulses than women do. Men studied reported that they experienced stronger sexual impulses than women did and they were more likely to act on those impulses.
Reason #3 – Falling Out of Love or Falling in Love with Someone Else
Romantic love is considered an essential ingredient for committed relationships, and the idea that romantic love should last a lifetime prevails. However, it is possible for individuals to fall out of love with their partners for many reasons, including loss of intimacy and trust, lack of sex in your marriage, emotional pain, negative sense of self, or even a sense of gradual decline in the relationship [9]. When a man feels that there’s no longer love in the relationship, then he may decide to cheat on his current partner because he no longer feels love for that partner. This may also involve him falling in love with someone else.
Reason #4 – He Wants Out of the Relationship
Whether he’s fallen out of love or he’s unhappy with the relationship in some other way, it’s common for men to cheat when they want out of the relationship. You may feel that your relationship is going well, but he may think otherwise. Many men don’t have the guts to let you know that something in the relationship is not working, so they often cheat because they know it will result in a change in the relationship. Literature and studies have found that the more dissatisfied individuals are with a relationship, the more likely they are to engage in infidelity, and in many cases, this is a sign that they want out of the relationship [10] [11].
Reason #5 – Unreasonable Expectations
Men often feel that their sexual and emotional needs should constantly be met by their partners, but women are often juggling many priorities, such as finances, home, work, and children. When a man’s needs, whatever they may be for the specific individual, are no longer being met, he’s more likely to cheat [12]. Even though he may have unreasonable expectations, if he feels that his needs are not being met, then he may also feel entitled to look for intimate attention from someone else.
Reason #6 – Anger
Another reason why men cheat is out of anger. They may feel that their partner betrayed them in some way, so they lash out to hurt their partner. In some cases, their partner may have cheated, physically or emotionally, on them first, and out of anger they decide to go cheat on their partner [13].
Reason #7 – Sex Addiction
Compulsive sexual behavior, often called sex addition, is a psychiatric disorder that may be the reason a man cheats in a relationship, and today there are a growing number of treatment centers dedicated to the treatment of sexual addictions. One of the main hallmarks of sex addiction is the continued engagement in sexual activities, even when there are negative consequences to these actions [14]. This phenomenon is the same as that seen in other impulse control disorders and substance abuse. Psychologically, men may use these sexual behaviors as a way to escape physical or emotional pain, although these sexual behaviors actually create a cycle of even more problems and increasing preoccupation, desperation, and shame [15].
How Likely is a Man to Cheat?
The likelihood of why a man will cheat depends on many different factors. Studies have shown that both men and women are more likely to engage in infidelity the more economically dependent they are on their spouses. Men particularly don’t like feeling dependent upon another individual, and there’s around a 15% chance that men who are completely economically dependent on their spouse will end up cheating. Men who bring home 70% of the home’s income are the least likely to cheat. However, men who bring more than 70% of the home’s income become more likely to cheat as well [16].
Other studies have shown that college-educated men are less likely to have affairs, so lack of a college education may make a man slightly more likely to cheat. Being unhappy also increases the likelihood that a man will be unfaithful in a relationship [17]. Men who have jobs that require overnight travel are more likely to cheat because they are presented with more opportunities to cheat. Cheating is also more common when couples are cohabitating as opposed to being married [18]. Biblical beliefs and regular church attendance are factors that have been associated with lower rates of infidelity [19].
Can You Keep Him From Cheating?
While many women insist that their partner will never cheat on them, infidelity continues to be prevalent in today’s society. Although there’s no one thing that can affair-proof your relationship, preventing affairs requires a lot of conscientious and constant effort from both partners. You cannot control your partner’s actions, but there are some steps that can be taken consistently to reduce the likelihood of infidelity.
Make Your Relationship a Priority
As previously mentioned, when a man feels like his needs aren’t being met, whether they’re emotional or sexual, he’s more likely to cheat. While you cannot meet every need of your partner, you can make sure you’re making the relationship a priority. Failing to prioritize your marriage is one of the biggest issues that can result in cheating. While you’re spending time on your kids, hobbies, community events, and your career, you could be leaving your relationship behind. Make the relationship a priority by setting time aside for the two of you, making your relationship come first, discussing your commitment, and telling your partner how important he is to you regularly [20].
Develop Good Conflict Resolution Skills
In any relationship, conflict is going to occur at some point. However, you cannot avoid conflict or harbor resentment towards one another. Failing to deal with conflict and strain effectively can result in affairs within a relationship. Discussing frustrations honestly and openly is important. Be clear about what you’re thinking, don’t place blame, and don’t store up your frustrations. You can help strengthen your relationship by learning how to compromise with each other when conflict does arise [21].
Work on Rekindling Romance
Partners who are satisfied generally don’t wander, and one of the best ways to prevent cheating is to work on regularly rekindling romance within a relationship. The passion and romance in a relationship often waxes and wanes throughout the relationship, but studies on the effects of love on the brain have shown that it’s possible to reignite passionate, romantic love so the relationship feels new and exciting once again. One of the best ways to do this is to engage in sexual activity with each other, since it activates the reward circuit in the brain and increases oxytocin levels, which can make couples desire each other even more [22]. Focusing on being romantic, going on date, sharing the initiating of lovemaking (get tips for making love for a deeper connection), and being sensitive to the needs and wishes of your partner can all help rekindle romance and passion in a relationship.
Common FAQs
FAQ #1 – Should I End My Relationship If He Cheats on Me?
Once you have confirmed that your partner cheated on you, what do you do next? Should you end your relationship? You’re the only one who can decide if you want to try to stay in the relationship or if you need to end the relationship. To determine if you should end the relationship or if you should try to save it, you first need to identify why he cheated in the first place. Did he cheat because he wanted out, because he fell out of love with you and in love with someone else, or did he feel abandoned in the relationship? If he wants out of the relationship or he shows no regret for cheating on you, you may need to consider ending the relationship [23].
FAQ #2 – Is There Hope for a Relationship After Cheating?
Yes, there is hope for a relationship after infidelity in many cases. Discovering that your partner cheated on you can be devastating, but it is possible to rebuild trust and rebuild the relationship. One of the keys to saving the relationship is being able to forgive your partner [24]. If you are unable to forgive, the relationship will continue to be broken. In some cases, it is possible that the wound is too deep for you to ever trust your partner again. However, when your partner is motivated to change, and you are both ready to work on rebuilding trust and your relationship, there is hope [25].
FAQ #3 – If He Cheated on Me, Does It Mean He Never Loved Me?
Not necessarily. Many of the main reasons why men cheat are because they feel like something is missing in their relationship, whether it’s sex, emotional intimacy, or other needs that are not being met. In some cases, why a man cheats is because he feels like he is no longer in love, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that he never loved you. In many cases, the real problem is that he may not love himself. Low self-esteem, feeling unloved, and the inability to be loyal to a relationship are often signs that your man doesn’t love himself, and cheating may be a reflection of that.
FAQ #4 – Can Couples Therapy Save My Relationship?
If you decide that you want to save your relationship, couples therapy can help you and your partner work on and potentially save the relationship. Approximately 46% of couples who seek out therapy indicate that they had an affair during their relationship [27]. With the help of a therapist, it’s possible for couples to identify problems that led to infidelity, improve self-awareness, increase emotional expression within the relationship, give up blame and start accepting responsibility, establish accountability, and eventually, restore trust within the relationship [28].
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Maggie says
I’m in my 3rd marriage & all the husband cheated on me. The first one was after 22 yrs of marriage. When I found out about it he had 2 boys & a 3rd one on the way. I tried for about 2 yrs but just couldn’t get pass it. We got a divorce with me marrying again after 2 yrs post divorce. Foumnd out he was cheating with 2 gals. We were married about 8!yrs. Biggest mistake of my life since he always should of been AA. 2 yrs later I married again. We were not married 5 months & he cheated on me. I really wanted the marriage to so we started marriage counseling which I thought was going good. We’re now been married 13 yrs. The counseling was a smoke screen to him. I now of at least 12 or 13 women over the years. We haven’t slept together for almost 3 yrs. we get along as friends. That’s ok cause I don’t care anymore. He comes & goes as he pleases. Gone 4-6 hrs & I asked him what he had been doing he gives me a big song & dance routine about why he’s gone. About a year ago I started having an affair which is just what I wanted. I ‘m not looking for a 4th husband but want a lover. He’s very good in bed & I enjoy myself a lot. We usually are together 2-3 days which work out for both of us. He’s divorced & has been for 35 yrs & is not looking for a wife. I don’t know if this is right or wrong or neither. It’s working so why stop. Oh my husband doesn’t ask Snyder questions except when will you be back home. Have no questions or need advice. I know it’s not the best thing but as someone said “If it’s not broken don’t fix it.
The Truth says
I believe this article was written by a woman. I may be wrong but even so, it not accurate. The simplest answer is that men are biologically programmed to have more than one sexual partner and most women are not. Disney movies, Hollywood and religion are mostly to blame for people to believe otherwise. A man can love his wife dearly but sleep with other women. Most women can not do this or are brainwashed to look for a knight in shining armour. This is why divorce rates are through the roof. I used to believe the same thing but reality is what it is… it doesn’t mean someone doesn’t love you or wants to be with you. Trapping people is the surest way to lose them.
A Very Good Girl says
That is why when your husband cheats on you, the relationship should automatically be an open one. Why go through a divorce when you can get yourself handsome lovers that can please you more than your husband does. Life is way too short for divorces and remarry. Women should wise up and stop giving themselves headache by divorcing or worrying if hobby is faithful…just agree from start on open relationship 🙂 Cheating is human and men and women should accept that! (…by the way I am not a man, just an unapologetic woman ) Cheating is bae! Let’s all cheat 🙂
Megan says
Women can want multiple partners as well, and are even more biological fit to do so. Women are not likely to enter a refractory period after sex and have a wider selection of partner as we all as an easier time obtaining partners.
If you want a relationship but also want to have multiple partners then be honest and tell any potential partner what your views are. You may find a woman that is on the same page and also wants multiple partners. However, too many men lead women on and make them believe there will be monogamy, lure them into a relationship, and then cheat. That is actually trapping. Of course, women do this too, but regardless of the gender there needs to be far more honest conversations going on during the dating period if either party truly believes that monogamy is optional.
DJ says
I cheated on my wife multiple times. I didn’t realize how jealous of people(men as well) I’ve always been a huge socializing person. After years I told her I’m going to give you a reason to be like that. I brought my sister in laws bff over and had sex right in front of my wife. I did this for over a year. She finally saw a doc and was admitted to a psychological hospital. Her jealousy was just a piece of the problem. Here we are 13 years later marriage is great, mid 50s having sex with each other at least twice a week. It’s not always a man just a no good pig.