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In this chapter of the Blow Job Guide, you are going to learning everything on how to deep throat your man. From controlling your gag reflex, to what oral sex positions make deep throat super-easy to how to breathe and of course you’re also going to learn how to finish him off in style.
If you’ve already read Chapters 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 & 6 of the Blow Job Guide, you’ll know everything there is to know about giving your man an incredible blow job. In fact, I recommend checking them out now, if you don’t quite feel ready to deep throat your man. It’s best to start on Chapter 1 here.
Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.
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The Enemy: Your Gag Reflex
The most important aspect of learning how to deep throat your boyfriend or husband without gagging is getting your gag reflex, also known as your pharyngeal reflex under control. While this isn’t an issue for the roughly 37% of women who are fortunate enough to not have a gag reflex[1], if you do have a gag reflex, then this section will teach you how to get it under control.
Once you get it under control, deep throating becomes ridiculously easy. Your gag reflex is usually gets triggered when something touches the back of your throat, roof of your mouth, tonsils or even the back of your tongue causing a spasm-like sensation or reflex contraction [2].
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Getting your gag reflex under control is a simple case of desensitizing it. Desensitizing it means that you’ll be “training” the back of your throat and tonsils to stop causing you to gag anytime something touches the, i.e. your man’s dick. The process of desensitizing your gag reflex takes time and effort, and there is no other way around this. Just follow the below steps to start desensitizing your gag reflex.
- You’ll be using either a finger or the handle of a toothbrush or a dildo or something phallic shaped. Just make sure that it’s clean and sterile first. And also make sure that it wouldn’t damage your throat or get stuck in it.
- Place it into your mouth and slowly edge towards the back of your throat.
- Eventually, it will trigger your gag reflex as it reaches the back of your throat. When this happens, consciously try to suppress your gag reflex hold it there.
- You now need to maintain your breathing through your nose while at the same time concentrating on relaxing your throat. Sometimes this is easy and sometimes this can be quite difficult. The key is to keep trying, even if you do find yourself accidentally gagging now and then.
- Hold your finger/dildo/toothbrush steady at the back of your throat for up to 10 seconds. Don’t try to move it in or out.
- Try doing this two to three times every day for a week. You’ll find that towards the end of the week, it will get a lot easier, and your gag reflex won’t be as sensitive compared to when you started.
- Your gag reflex will become less and less sensitive over the coming weeks as you continue practicing. Once you notice this, then it’s time to take it a step further. Every once in a while, try slowly moving your finger/toothbrush/dildo in and out of your mouth so that it’s repeatedly brushing off your gag reflex.
- The first few times you try this, your gag reflex will be heavily stimulated making you feel like throwing up. But it’s important to try your best to stay calm, keep breathing and relax even if your throat is in spasms!
- After a few weeks of this, you will have eventually worn down the sensitivity of your gag reflex to the point where you are quite comfortable taking a dildo deep into and out of your throat without convulsing, gagging or coughing excessively.
- Now you need to try it with your man!
This is the most effective way to get your gag reflex under your control. While there have been studies done showing that other methods work for getting your gag reflex under control like using acupuncture [3][4][5], wearing ear plugs[6], applying pressure to the palm of your hand[7], using nitrous oxide (aka laughing gas)[8], and even using ketamine[9], the above strategy doesn’t require you to do anything during the act, allowing you to focus entirely on your technique. After all, since when is it sexy to wear ear plugs or perform acupuncture on yourself before deep throating your man?!
Your Man Needs To Know This One Thing
Now that you’ve learned how to get rid of your gag reflex, it’s time to use this training to deep throat your husband. Before beginning, it’s important to understand your man’s perspective on deep throating…If he’s smart and genuinely cares about you, he’ll know how it can sometimes be incredibly uncomfortable and challenging for you to deep throat him…But, if he’s an oaf, then maybe he doesn’t care how uncomfortable it can be for you.
Either way, it’s important that your man understands that deep throating can sometimes be difficult, but that he can make it easier and more pleasant for both of you. The first few times you try it on your man, it’s going to be much easier for you if your man remains perfectly still, while you do all the moving.
This way, you can control how fast he is thrusting and how deep you take him. If your man understands that you need to be in control, then it’s going to be a lot easier for you and ultimately, you’re going to be able to make him cry with pleasure. What I’m trying to say is that you NEED TO TALK to your man, so he understands just how difficult it can be to deep throat him. I cover good communication more in this in-depth guide.
Positions Can Make It A Breeze
A significant aspect that makes deep throating your boyfriend much easier is choosing a BJ position that works for you. Thankfully you can see a bunch of different oral sex positions demonstrated here in Chapter 6.
Many women report that any position where your mouth and throat are in alignment is best as there is less pressure on the sides of your throat. Positions that achieve this alignment include the Lie Back position and the Jack Hammer position.
However you may have a different preference and if your man’s penis curves in a certain direction, then you may find that a different position works way better. As I always say, the key is experimenting and figuring out what works best for you.
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Don’t Forget To Breathe
Controlling your gag reflex when deep throating your man is just the start.
You also need to breathe. Sounds obvious, right?
It’s a little more complicated than that. When you have his penis lodged in your throat, you’re naturally going to find breathing a lot tougher. If he is particularly well endowed, then there it’s going to be near impossible. Here’s my advice…
Try breathing through your nose. You may only be able to do it for a split second when he pulls out of your throat with each stroke, but you may find it completely impossible to breathe at all. It all comes down to your anatomy and the size of his penis. If you can breathe this way, then great. If not, then there is another way…
Take breaks.
It’s that simple. If you can’t breathe at all, then just take a break every 10 seconds or so to catch your breath. It’s not ideal, but it’s the only option. Thankfully, taking a break doesn’t mean you have to stop giving him oral sex, you can always use one of these techniques on him from Chapter 2 or some of these oral sex tips from Chapter 3 or Chapter 8.
Advanced Deep Throating Techniques
Many men never get to experience any deep throating during their entire lives. Even if you can only manage a few in and out movements when you attempt it, your man is going to be very grateful. But if you want to step it up a level, there are some super powerful techniques you can try.
Licking his balls – If you are on your knees, and he is standing while you deep throat him like in the kneeling blow job position, then you are in the perfect place to extend your tongue outwards and start licking his testicles. The key is keeping him deep in your throat as you do this, where he is neither moving in or out.
Most guys have never even thought of this, so be prepared to have one happy man on your hands when you do it.
Humming – Another simple but powerful technique you should try at least once when deep throating your man is humming while keeping him deep in your throat (so no thrusting in and out). While it may not make him shoot his load, the vibrations provide a powerfully satisfying sensation, especially when he orgasms.
Spasms On His Head – An advanced and hard-to-master technique is using your throat contractions to your advantage. When you gag, your throat naturally tightens as your pharyngeal muscles contract. This contraction can be quite uncomfortable for you, but if your man is in your throat, then the contractions and spasms they make can feel incredible for him.
If you have significant control over your throat spasms, then you can allow your throat to spasm slightly while he is inside you. However if you find that you can’t control your throat spasms at all, then I don’t recommend attempting this technique. You can accidentally bite down when you gag…which can lead to a trip to the emergency room…and nobody wants that.
Your hands – When deep throating your man, your hands will be free. You can put them on his legs and stomach to control the speed you take him into your throat or you can reach around, grab his bum and pull him deeper into you.
But there are a bunch of other techniques with your hands that you can try on your man too that I teach here.
Here’s even more ideas:
- Use your nails to scratch his chest and back while deep throating him.
- Use your hands to squeeze his bum.
- Rub/scratch/caress his perineum.
- Insert a finger (or two!) to massage his prostate gland. This guide will show you how to do it expertly.
- Rub/massage/gently squeeze/caress his balls.
Finish down your throat – Many guys will have received blow jobs where they finished in their partners mouth. Most likely, your man is used to this feeling and has done it many times before. However, very few guys have ever climaxed down their partners throat while getting deep throated. It feels completely different for your man…and of course it feels very different for you too!
As with everything involved in deep throating, this isn’t particularly easy, but if you can manage it, then you are going to have a euphoric man on your hands.
Side note: We put together this guide on how to avoid using your teeth during deep throating and blow jobs. If you are afraid of accidentally using your teeth on your man’s penis while deep throating him, you may want to check it out.
Wet, Wet, Wet
When you start deep throating your man, you are going to quickly notice that you are producing large quantities of saliva. For almost all women, this is unavoidable and is definitely NOT something you should worry about. It’s natural, and on the plus side, it acts as a natural lubricant. So if you want to give him fellatio like a pro and make it extra sloppy, then deep throating your man is the perfect way to kill two birds with one stone. More tips on sucking cock like a pornstar here.
The Unlucky Few
This guide will arm you with the knowledge and skills to deep throat your man like a pro…but…Not every woman is going to be able to deep throat her man, no matter how much she practices and tries to reduce her gag reflex.
Why?
A small percentage of women have an overactive gag reflex. No matter how much effort they exert, trying to reduce and desensitize it, it just won’t go away, and it will remain hyper-sensitive to even the smallest stimulation. This overactive gag reflex can even make giving a regular blow job tough to do without gagging.
If you are one of these women, then don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world. There are plenty of different sex tips that you could be using on your man instead of deep throating him. Start here if you’re looking for more powerful sex tips.
I wish I could give you some magical technique that would work to eliminate your gag reflex, but I can’t. Some people recommend that you use a throat numbing spray. I DON’T RECOMMEND THIS EVER. Your gag reflex and any type of pain your body produces is your body’s natural way of telling you that there is something wrong.
The Finish
As I mentioned earlier, you can let your man cum and ejaculate his semen down your throat. Alternatively you can let him finish in your mouth and swallow it, tips on that here in Chapter 9. There are also a lot of other great ways that you can finish him off when giving him head that I describe in Chapter 4 here.
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I would suggest practicing with a sausage than a banana.
When you deep throt, your throat opening squeezes really tight around the object and a banana will often break very quickly, especially if you’re gagging. It’s both dangerous and ruins the practice.
A sausage also has skin on it, which will get slippery like a penis would which will help with sliding it down your throat.
Start with a thin but long one until you’re used to having something pass your throat opening and then move on to a sausage with more girth.
Last but not least, don’t be afraid of gagging! It’s what helps produce that thick viscosity spit that will help you go down on his member so much easier!
Hi Fayone,
Excellent suggestion! One thing I would suggest though is to use a cooked sausage (make sure you allow it to cool first) to avoid any possible diseases transferring from the sausage to your throat.
Sean
Keep the cockskin tight and stretched. I love a bj best with that strong pull while i get bigger and deeper into her throat. I love her gurgling sounds as I ejaculate deep and she swallow and smiles and laughs with a big semen load!
dammit..i can’t do a sausage..it’s not kosher lol
I want some dick in me and deep throat me and cum
Hi Sean I was sucking his dick and I started going a bit deeper then my guy whole my head and push it down I literally felt like to gag but the quote came in my head just bread through my nose and I literally deep throated him .. I remember that quote cause I read the deep throat info
Glad I could help, but he should have talked about what he was planning beforehand. Not cool to just grab your head.
Since i want to know how a woman can deep throat, i taught myself w a dildo.
I’ve found that if I keep my pelvic floor muscles loose (by gently pushing/ always relaxing, while my gag reflex kicks in, the result of the gag will send shutters down to my groin area. This will help me achieve orgasm when I gag a bit.
It becomes not just a reward for him, but especially for me too ! I’ve since fantasized about having my girl force my head down on a guy
I see your thought here, and it makes great sense once you start to enter the esophagus… I think the point is for it to be soft initially just for the gentle stimulation of the relax itself. Once you want to practice penetration, your idea is perfect. The point about the girth of the sausage option in perfect too!!! I never paid attention, but it is handy since it’s not just sausage that comes in different sizes!!! LOL I will definitely pass that one on to a friend. She used to deep throat for her ex, but can’t handle it because her husband is so much thicker. Taking your idea, I will get her to find some sausage a tad thicker than her ex and have her get used to it and then step up to a thicker one, and so on… until she can handle one the size of her husband. She’s gonna love you for that suggestion I promise!!! BTW: I love the advice on the gagging… I have taught a few GF’s how to deep throat and never really made that correlation. I guess it’s easier to notice on the giving side!!! lol
Cazzie, YES it can be an OMG turn on to hear the gagging sound. I want to know she is OK for me to be able to enjoy it, but if she is in full control or hasn’t indicated there is an issue… that “struggle to manage my cock, in an all out effort to pleasure me” is d@amn near enough to make me cum on its own!!! Same thing applies to the gagging/struggling when someone first learns to swallow too!!!
On the numbing spray: I’m in the medical field, so first let me say this is NOT IN ANY WAY “medical advice!!!” Just take what you want from it.
The main reason a woman’s gag reflex exists is to make those without one better at blow jobs than everyone else!!! Right??? j/k!!! Seriously though, it is to protect your “airway” so you can breath. Overdose on pain meds and alcohol (in addition to other things) knock out a person’s gag reflex and is part of what can kill them… i.e. falling asleep on their back and drowning in vomit, etc… Women I have been with who had no gag reflex I could really detect will still gag/cough when something “goes down the wrong hole” so to speak.
Now, I totally agree with Sean on “to each their own”. That said, from a medical standpoint think about what I just told you above. From a “real life” standpoint, I would only let a GF use it if you can be EXTREMELY aware of your actions and use as LITTLE as possible!!! You want to make the reflex “something you can control/tolerate.” You DO NOT want to be drooling like you went to the dentist’s office!!! At that point it’s very possible you will not know you are “aspirating” until it is too late. (Fluid going into your lungs which can cause a type of pneumonia, and other life threatening issues such as sepsis.) The same “numbing spray” if sprayed in the wrong spot, or even inadvertently inhaled while spraying it in the right spot, will numb your cough reflex too. If you are going for the facial, cool… Just remember if you are so numb you don’t feel him in your throat, when he cums, you are too numb to notice if he pulls out of your throat… hence you are also gonna have trouble realizing you need to start swallowing until it is too late and you could very well end up aspirating on something a LOT thicker than your saliva!!!
Putting all that together, have you ever had water (or worse coke) has gone down the “wrong hole” before? Have you ever found yourself hacking to get rid of it? Now think of a decreased the ability to cough as hard… Now thing and realize that if it burns in the eyes, it will probably (I’m guessing here) burn other mucus membranes too, similar to soda maybe… Oh yeah, one more thought: If you cough for 10 min on liquid soda, how long will have to cough to get something as thick as semen coughed up? If you swallow (which is the what makes sense anyway, from my standpoint lol), you probably never noticed, but a portion of semen is designed to coagulate and basically form globules. Imagine those forming in the tube you are trying to breath through! The good news? It will liquify. The bad news? In roughly 15-30 MINUTES!!!
Don’t get me wrong, if something is completely consensual… then I’m all for it. So I’m not saying “don’t” I’m just wanting you make sure you realize there is some risk.
One last note, from the guys side… if it makes your throat numb, it will make his penis numb too!!! That’s basically the same stuff they put in the “endurance gel” for guys.
I use Hillshire Sauasges. They are fully cooked. Better if you warm it slightly, just to body temp. thaen swallow away. But it wont cum, sorry to say.
Peeled frozen banana would probably be the best. Tastes great too.
Do not use anything that can come apart. Bannana and sausage can break in half get lodged in your throat and it could be fatal. A dildo works the best and you can pull it out if you need to.
Hi Sean,
Great advice! I think practicing on a hot dog wiener may be better… unpeeled bananas have a tough fibrous end that may scratch the throat, what do you think?
Fayona’s comment about “Last but not least, don’t be afraid of gagging! It’s what helps produce that thick viscosity spit that will help you go down on his member so much easier!” really makes sense, (seems to be something a guy would love to hear too) 😉 What is your opinion on a numbing gels? I’m no deep throat champion but this stuff makes all the difference in the world. Seems like the “sex positive” community frowns on numbing gels for the butt but I never see anything about numbing gels for the throat. What is your expert opinion? Thanks!
Hi Cazzie,
My opinion is ‘to each their own’ as long as they are not hurting anyone.
Sean
Doc Johnson.com has a 10’long 1″ across, 3 1/2″ around toy that works out for learning to get something INTO your throat and around the corner. It’s solid enough to push unlike a banana with no chance of part of it breaking off in the throat. It’s also very smooth and very cleanable. Can also be used for getting used to the idea of anal play/
For obvious reasons this comment has to be totally anonymous, as I am a guy and have deep throated a friend. I simply have always felt it unfair to ask my lady to do something without knowing what it entails, apart from basic sex of course. So I know what cum tastes like and I know how to deep throat. What I found made it posible was quite simply, extend the tongue out as far as you can, and when your guy’s cock gets to the point of the gag réflex, start swallowing, and keep swallowing, as with food. Even when pulling it out again, keep up the swallowing action as that eliminates the gag réflex. After all, we don’t gag when we swallow food do we? Have fun and go deep.
I have to agree. Plus the swallowing motion is great for when he’s cumming. Just like when he’s cumming during sex. You know the moment he thrust deep in you and goes still. His cock get’s really sensitive at this point and the spasms from your orgasm are more than enough movement. Well if you’re ok with him taking control when gets close to finishing. When starts cumming he’ll do the same thing. You slow down the swallowing motion while he’s still. If already doing it when cums you won’t worry about the taste either if that bothers you.
Forget trying to force yourself to not gag. That’s just asking to have a horrible experience with it…. Instead, make sure you take a drink of something and are well hydrated because it’s nearly impossible to deep throat without enough spit, comfortably at least.
This trick I’m about to tell you won’t work if you don’t have enough spit especially the real thick good, deep throating spit at the back of your throat…. and simply do a hot breath with your mouth, like you’re fogging up a mirror, as you go past the point of the regular blowjob to deepthroat cock swallowing. Continue to do the hot breath the entire time that you’re doing the down stroke of the deep throating action, you can breathe thru your nose the whole time for oxygen, and you can do a new hot breath if need to come up for air or a drink of h2o to replenish the amount of spit that you are able to generate especially the good thick spit at the back of the throat aka the good deep throat spit and inhale as you do the upstroke…. and it certainly doesn’t hurt to really like what you’re doing cuz that makes it way easier to facilitate the whole process so just like his good advice for anything never force it. Enjoy!
That`s so helpful!!!! I can swallow like, 4 inches penis but i only did it once when i was so drunk i could barely think, sobered up when i felt semen running down my throat and was like wtf am i doing? I will use the sausage and see what it happens. my date is gonna be so…. pleased.
It’s great useful for my girl to learn how she can give a wonderful oral sex to me! She has been felt so difficult to do a perfect deepthroat while she perform a blowjob. But now she can take a whole cock fully in her mouth. Thanks a lot!
This is what I hope my end result will be I want to be the 1st and only girl to not only make my man cum from oral but CUM FROM DEEP THROATING AS WELL :-)Wish me lu k hehe
Good luck,
…. Three yrs later
Agreed my s/o is 9 long 3 fingers wide (I never measured that way) and I can’t close my hand around it (I was a boxer and have big hands lol again never measured that way) but he is BIG, anyways he has never been deep throated before, I was able get him in my throat (all way down) but couldn’t get to the thrusting part without puking ( gagged getting it down but once in fine, movement hahaha no) so I really want to be the first and only that has let him throat fuck( it’s like his fant6as it’s never happened and he use be very ummm out there lol) so ima try all the tips and advice and see how this goes
what if his penis is too big that i can hardly deep throat even without gagging….
Well that’s just one of those things you’re going to have to deal with. If he’s too big to deep throat, then you’ll just need to focus on giving him an ordinary blow job. C’est la vie and don’t worry too much about it.
Spit! Gets it very wet. Proven fact men have g spots too. They like deep throating for awhile but towards the end use your hand and ask him where his spot his and focus on it and he will cum all else fails…lay flat on your bed with your head straight but tilted some off the bed and be sure to take small breaths and when you gag you form spit which helps and he will give u breaks. Relax your throat as well and have him stimulate your clit or finger you to get you going. Or do what was posted …use your toothbrush 3 times a day to back of your throat and hold it when you gag. Also have him stay still let you do the work
That G-spot is called the prostate.
I cannot take 9 1/2 inches in my mouth he’s thick and long which is great for everything except blowing????
Is it bad if you do gag while deep throating? Like, is it a huge put off? I don’t actively practice, but usually try go hard when i’m BJing so i gag but i kinda always thought it was normal to gag but is it best not to even try if you haven’t done the practice first and know you’ll gag. (gag-not spew lol) Thanks
Hi Rachel, it’s not really a big deal if you gag.
Most men view this asite a confidence builder. Ie “My cock is really big”. Don’t allow the gagging to discourage you at all
Rachel– you’ll get over the gagging. Try relaxing your throat but with a real penis, and preferably a big one with good girth. I’m almost 7′ and 3″ girth so my lady friends need warmup sessions. Forget bananas and sausages. They don’t ejaculate in your throat! And be sure to gurgle with joy when sucking and swallowing!
My man is 9 long can’t close hand around it, he long and THICK, I’ve never had issue gagging before him, but he thick and wide so even the width makes it really hard to go down my throat (have a few times but can’t let him thrust or puke) so how do I get it to point while he’s in my throat even breathing ect without puking it goes past gagging and again never had this issue before..
Honestly, this sounds like one of those things that just isn’t going to be possible in a safe manner
Hi Rachel, I can only speak for me but to be honest, its a huge turn on when my wife gags while deepthroating me. I love to see and hear her gag and love to see her tummy tighten when she gags. I doubt it would be a turn off to many tops at all.
People who came here to search for deep throating…newbies etc..check David’s comment. I cant believe noone talks about the risks…even the girls!!! What is wrong with you
In response to the questions about gagging, I’ve been told by a few guys that it actually feels really good to them and isn’t a turn off at all.
Thank goodness lol
as long as she can take the penis deep, she and he will get turned on by some gagging and choking. It adds to the thrill.
Love to deep throat my guys. I have practiced so now I can deep throat at least 8″ easily. My guy love it and holds my head as he pushes his big cock all the way down my throat. Love him coming in my throat!
Just started deep throating ….but I found a throat numbing spray it works great we’re both very happy
what is the spray u used called? I want to be able to buy I have an extremely sensitive bag reflex
Awesome ima haft to check that out.
I want to thank everyone for their comments. I come from a very religious family who looks down on things like this. I’m new in a relationship and while I haven’t yet had the opportunity to get to try (as his family is also religious), I have been very nervous and so this helps. So thanks!!!!
I will follow the risk an take my time as I do it ik how to deep throat it feels GD as it massages my throat an tongue but I will take the risk that was said by David beneficial because anything is possible if your not aware óf what your doing it’s ok if you wanna please your partner but you still have to be aware that you can have a high risk of being in the hospital so with that said be safe às long as your man turns you on an you turn him on their are multiple ways of pleasing each other specially if your familiar be creative but also be safe what you do gagging is GD an most men prefer that because they like the idea that your enjoying it as much as he is makes him harder an want to please you more an trust me the ending results are immaculate an erotically insane enjoy
I love gagging, sometimes its best to let your man fuck your throat without mercy or respect. I love being spat on, slapped and force face fucked. As an Indian girl its very taboo but its something I love, the degradation. Mmmmmm
My gf used to take me to the hilt, and used to make gulping sounds, as if she were progressively swallowing cum as it shot out. I find it impossible to swallow with something in my mouth. Is deep throating the ability to get it into the esophagus and just passively let the stuff flow in? (i assume you are bypassing the airway) she moaned loud as she almost took it into her stomach to get every last drop. i would love to do that
Hi Chris, I’m not entirely sure of what is happening to the body during deep throat so it’s difficult to comment on it with certainty, but what you’re saying sounds about right.
It depends on the cock’s length. If it’s long enough, it can shoot directly down your stomach without the need to swallow. If not, you will need to swallow to push his cum with some of your saliva. Don’t be disappointed if you tried and it seems impossible to swallow while deepthroating, doing so is the final, elite skill and you have to persistently practice for a long time.
When you achieve it, however, you are invaluable and can use it in two ways, stimulation and finishing move:
1) Stimulation: Take him balls-deep, keep it there and start swallowing. Optionally, you may gently push and retreat your head slightly or shake your head to rub his cock on your throat while doing that. The swallowing will have your throat muscles caressing his cock in a tight yet soft way. The sensation is so strong that you can make your partner finish in no time. I have seen more than one guy finish in just 90 seconds this way, LOL!
2) Finishing move: When he warns you he is about to cum, take him balls-deep and keep it there. Wait for him to shoot his first, main load (about 9-12 seconds). THEN start swallowing. Your throat muscles will massage his extremely sensitive cock while he will be cumming its final shots. There is no stronger sensation than this one, he will be moaning, panting, cursing and then begging you 24/7 to do it again. If he is shooting directly down your stomach, you can tell when he shoots by the different gulping sounds (cum is thicker and makes a different, deeper sound). Strangely, I find this gulping sounds erotic, am I the only one? Anyway, last but not least, this way you squeeze his cock inwards your throat, literally milking him from every last drop. With that milking action, when that cock resurfaces from your mouth it will be cleaner than it went in. That’s how a deepthroat master climaxes his service. 😉
The way I eliminated mine fully was doing it with a popcycle ‘BEFORE’ every meal. The coldness of it numbs the throat and makes it more comfortable so if you do gag, you don’t vomit since its a numbed stimulus.
It took me two months or so.
But I upkeep practice daily.
I like to gag when I can that is,I usually have no gag reflex,and I like to because I makes me squirt like crazy,which ends up being a big turn on for not only myself but my man looses it when he hears and feels my hot juice spraying him,lol
I just started dating someone after a long hiatus and he is only the second guy I’ve ever been with. He has an above average sized penis so I was a little worried about our first time and giving him a BJ…well unbeknownst to me, get some alcohol in me, preferably shots of any kind, and I can deep throat like a pro. He’s had several partners before me and a wife so he’s far more experienced than me but he said in his whole life he’s never cum from a BJ its always had to be finished off in some other way (usually him jerking) and our first time he came about 3 minutes in, simply because I just relaxed and did what felt natural with him, and that was deep throat. So for any girl who is worried about it, don’t be. I had practically zero experience at it, and my carnal desire for him just kicked in and it was mind blowing for both of us. And the more noises I made (little moans) the wilder it got for him. Knowing I was enjoyIng giving him head made it all the more pleasurable for him. That said, don’t think that I can now deep throat on command. I can tell when it just ain’t gonna happen, and on those times, I make sure I keep a firm grip on his shaft up to the point of no return so when he starts thrusting or pushing on my head, I have a stopping point to avoid any mishaps…
Granted, I’m incredibly novice, but just trust yourself, trust your partner, and it will all be amazing for both of you.
Thanks for your response. My be is so eager for me to deep throat him which is what led me to this site. I will definitely try a few shots tonight and hopefully the night will end with much success.
Your comments cover just about everything. Be sure to look him in the eye especially when he’s cuming deep. And I love gurgling and laughing sounds!
A way to reduce or almost eliminate the gag reflex is to put your left hand in a fist with your thumb inside the other fingers. It totally works for me!
Some of us really like it when you gag though… Just saying…
Hello Sean. I practiced deep throat with a dildo, and I managed to get all the 7 inches in and out without a problem after a while. When I tried to do it with my bf it was impossible his penis would not fit in my throat since he is thicker than the dildo. My theeth hurted him trying to do so…. He says not to worry about deep throat cause he loves the bj I give him. But I still want to do it.. What do you recommend?
If he doesn’t like then it’s no biggie, but if you really enjoy it, then let him know and try it again…this time try wrapping your lips around your teeth to offer him some protection.
Hi Sean ,tks for the tips on swallowing without gaging,wow it realy works,mmmm,now I can enjoy my man cum mote
Hi Sean ,tks for the tips on swallowing without gaging,wow it realy works,mmmm,now I can enjoy my man cum more I’m still getting better at blo jobs
I loved those tips you give us for a blow job, simple & understandables, am just practice with my man ‘s cock, as he knows am new on bj he understand my gags & he give me time to train me, he is happy that am on a good way, he now can cum deeper in my throat although has a big cock that ci was scared of before, am also happy to see him proud of me
Curious what y’all might suggest to avoid gagging while deepthroating and I start to cum (ideally wanting to cum in her throat). A girl I see can deepthroat but right when I start to cum she always gags and even throws up (she really does try). I think it’s the pulsating of my head, or maybe it’s my cum tricklingdown her throat. I don’t produce very much cum at all though. I’m a bit above average in length (7.5″) and not thin but slightly above average in girth (especially my head, it gets to a 6″ circumference when fully excited/ejaculating).
I would just like to experience cumming all the way deep in her throat without her throwing up. Is it just the swallowing suggestion? When I am cumming she should make a concerted effort to make a swallowing motion? I feel bad being greedy but getting deepthroated truly is the most amazing feeling in the world and I just want the cherry on top. Thanks in advance.
Don’t neglect ball sucking! Also let him eat you for even longer time than the bj. It’s a real test for him if he slobbers your vulva just after he’s swallowed you ejaculate.
I practice with an 8” lifelike cock. It didn’t take long before I could take the whole thing. I plan to try some of the techniques mentioned here to increase the time in my throat.
Someday maybe I will be able to actually try it on a real dick. I’d love to feel a dick pulsating in my mouth and throat as it releases its cum down my throat.
I’ve been fortunate to have been deep throated by a number of women over the years. I’m around 7″ with a girth of over 5″. The women who can do deep throat on me are experienced and don’t have a problem with their gag reflex. All but one couldn’t get my entire cock down- they couldn’t get my last inch in their mouth. I’m not particularly thinker at the base so what is down there around the 6″ mark in their throat that stops my cock from going deeper? It like it hits a wall at that point!
They are swallowing your cock to the bottom of their throat, but not through the throat sphincter into the esophagus. You will absolutely know when someone does open their throat to you! Let’s just say you will experience extraordinary sensations,and so will your partner.
Thanks for the tips my bf loved it.
I love deep throating a guy, love for him to make me suck him till he shoots his load down my throat, makes me feel sub to him. I am a sub bi guy and dearly love giving men head… I also love to be nailed after I give a guy a good head job!
Hi
I’m a bi
I want to thanks everyone for your tips I been practicing with a dildo for 3 weeks and now I able to take any size down my throat with out a problem
I’m so happy it really turns me on
Like I have a clit in my throat
Thanks Jhon
I can deep throat I just can’t go long before I start to gag, what can I do to keep from having in that situation?
Just focusing on *trying* to relax. This will help only a little bit, but the more you try to relax, the easier it will get each time. This has the effect of desensitizing your gag reflex.
I learned on a dido. You have to get it very wet for it to work. You’ll be able to take in any man.
Amen ….finally a great answer!!….I learned on a 7, then a 8″ dildo and graduated to a 10″….very easy once you learn and the spit is an incredible turn on…Went down on my neighbor who is seriously packing after a few drinks and damn now I can’t get rid of him…Love the feel of a big cock sliding down my throat…..lololol
I love to deepthroat a cock who wants a BJ
When your dudes D is deep in your throat, you can let him blow by just swallowing every two seconds. That way his product won’t make you gag. Just keep swallowing every two seconds, even if you don’t taste it or realize he’s shooting in your throat. You won’t even taste his product either since he would be shooting past your taste receptors!
But remember you have to keep swallowing if he’s deep in your throat. Otherwise his load will come back up throat and you’ll cough, gag, and have a nose full of semen.
Any help with the thick saliva? Everything is good and fine, but when the saliva or whatever it is starts being really thick, I just start gagging really hard and have to stop for a few seconds, but once I’m back, I immediately start gagging again. I don’t think it’s just a problem of gag reflex, I’m really not used to deep throating nor blow jobs tbh (was a 21 yo virgin until 4 months ago) but don’t have an over active gag reflex and can almost deep throat him with no problem. Maybe my problem is not breathing? I seem to forget to, and that’s what stops me from deep throating at all. What do I do about the thick saliva? 🙁
I find this subject depressing. I love the male anatomy and sex in general. I love cunnilingus and even fellatio. But the idea of gagging and swallowing cum is a turn off. If it was easy I would do it to please my man. Maybe it’s just my fear of it that is in the way. I grew up not even knowing about this and now I’m trying to learn and grow. I take it it is a normal sex practice. Is there something wrong with me?
I find this subject depressing. I love the male anatomy and sex in general. I love cunnilingus and even fellatio. But the idea of gagging and swallowing cum is a turn off. If it was easy I would do it to please my man. Maybe it’s just my fear of it that is in the way. I grew up not even knowing about this and now I’m trying to learn and grow. I take it it is a normal sex practice. Is there something wrong with me?
Just some thoughts. If you can breath with a cock in you mouth, you probably really don’t have his penis all the way down your thoat – it taks at the the very minimum 6.5″ of cock to get in your throat = better if 7″. When truely in your throat that is NO WAY to BREATH. The cock is completely shutting off breathing from you mouth OR YOUR NOSE. If he cums down you throat you will feel almost nothing, taste almost nothing – it is totally bypassing your mouth and going straight down you throat. Frankly, I love the taste of cum and enjoy licking up any that get spilled, and getting any of the last drops. I like to hold his load in my mouth and savor it. When the cock is fully in your mouth and trying to press for getting into the throat, try hard to cover your teeth with your lips – this is not mean accomplishment but it is hard to hold the mouth fully open when a thick, long cock is trying hard to enter you throat – there is almost a sphincter muscle in the back of the throat and you have to get passed that with the cock. Try and extend the tongue so that the bulk of the tongue does not fill the part of the back of your mouth and make it harder to accomodate the penis.
Can a penis be to hard to deep throat?
Or is that not a factor?
People swallow swords… I think I
may have answerd my own question.
I am not a doctor but I think the gag reflex is to make sure you don’t try to swallow something to big to go down into your stomach.So that is why a sword can be swallowed because its thin and flat and that is more like the tube its going down.Sword swallowing is dangerous of coarse.Never should be sharp or pointed.The penis is much larger in diameter and so the body thinks it can’t swallow it.With practice it can try but the repeated swallowing effort will squeeze the penis in a very erotic way. Using peeled bananas is dangerous because a piece can break off and choke you to death.Buy and use a dildo the same size as your mans.Make sure it has a large end on it so it cannot go down your throat.If you are successful with the dildo then bring it out and show your man swallowing the dildo.He will become hard instantly and want you badly.And the fun starts.
I haven’t tried with an actual penis (bi dude btw) but it can certainly be difficult getting anything at all big down one’s throat. And yes, people swallow swords, but people also juggle burning chainsaws at the same kind of shows, and juggling apples can take weeks of practice. If you’re really curious, just try it with a safe object (one that won’t break, or hurt the throat) and you’ll find out.
I might be reading you wrong, but the way you said it can come of as somewhat condescending. Regardless of what role you portray during sex, it’s very important to acknowledge the work, and dedication that your partner is putting in when you get outside of the bedroom. A lot of women are led to feeling inadequate, despite having worked their asses off to be as good in the bedroom as possible, often in ways they don’t even find pleasurable themselves, and we all have a psychological need to feel competent, as well as appreciated. Just because the behavior is submissive in nature, doesn’t mean the person doing it is inferior or subservient, it means you should feel privileged to receive such a generous treatment.
Again, I’m not being critical of you in particular, I have no way of telling if you were simply unaware, or if you meant it in a condescending way, and I’m going to assume you’re cool, and I misread, but I just wanted to point it out, that there’s way to much pressure on women to be sexually talented already, and not nearly enough people who acknowledge the effort, or fact that sometimes people can just be unable, and that that’s ok, and has nothing to do with their worth. Sex should be a fun, open-minded thing, where everyone enters without expectations beyond respect and good intentions, not yet another way we are subject to being forced to prove ourselves, to feel sufficient, there’s to much of that already. Yes, I know I just ranted for two paragraphs, but I don’t think this is talked about enough, so I might as well.
Wow well said Johnny.
I don’t particularly enjoy that part but I get off on his face expressions and vocals haha.
I noticed in the past that guys will have not a happy face and refused to make any suggestions and totally ruin the mood. Instructions are kind of like dirty talk.
I always wondered if they just expected me to be a natural, experienced, or able to read their mind. Or do they not know themselves. . .
Oh well, I finally found someone who can be just as open and same drive. It’s euphoric
Just looking for new for special occasion surprise ?
Best advice for deepthroating: Find a kinky sex partner and let him train you, start early. That’s how I became the queen of BJ 🙂
And am I the only person that gets an orgasm from giving deepthroating blowjobs? I get the most turned on by pleasing my partner and this is the ultimate form of it.
I seriously think I have another CLITORIS in my throat, lol.
Was your throat always like that, or did it bevelop into a new clitoris?
I can also orgasm by deep throating
I recommend having only light meals before trying to /overcum/ the gag reflex. Really though, it made me through up.
My wife used to be able to deepthroat me regularly but after her pregnancy she can barely give a regular blowjob. I am really missing the extra special treatment. Now she doesn’t even seem interested in trying anymore. Anybody have advice on how to help her get back into the deepthroating fun. I think she also has a clit in her throat but is now scared to peruse it because her gag has increased since after the baby.
Help and advice would be appreciated to help ease the frustration.
I really want to be able to give my man the best possible experience the problem is my mouth cramps up occasionally when I try doing it too long, what can I do about this? I practice as much as I can to keep my mouth open long but my jaw always cramps up.
Take a break by giving him a hand job while you rest your mouth.
There is another way to temporarily disable the gag reflex. I don’t know if it’s effective for everyone, but if you press a finger in the middle of your palm (I know it seams random), you won’t gag for as long as you keep applying pressure. You’ll loose the use of at least one of your hands (if you make your partner press for you, which could be interesting), but it’s a useful technique.
Great tips. I can now swallow my men whole and it drives them crazy.
The perks of being bulimic
What a stupiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid story videooo. Staying with him after what he did and still making him feel good? whats with this new stupid brainless low love for themselves women these days? what a low trash brains they have. Don’t you have some love for yourself? Let me tell you this, a man wants good sex with the woman he loves PERIOD. If a man cheat on you HE DOESNT LOVE YOU, why? cause he doesnt care about getting bacteria from other girl into you as simple as that.
Daym these stupid women, we are guys, not sick for sex people.
I have just recently been able to take app. 6″ down thee throat and it seems like it is hitting something to further the gag reflex. I do not know if its a muscle or what but I would love to be able to take 12″ for my boyfriend…let me know and I am continuing to practice with what I can do so far without gagging. its a wonderful sensation as well as fulfilling. Thanks a bunch!
Practice makes perfect
i practice on a all beef ball park frank and my 9″X2″ dildo…i do love the feeling of a hard cock down my throat. then feel your cock twitch knowing cum is not far behind…..love sucking dick….
Use hands during a blow job?
No.
Just no.
To each their own
Hi. I learned that apple cider vinegar can make you less nauseos and less likely to throw up, so I wonder if consuming it works for suppressing your gag reflex. Not sure I want to suppress my gag reflex though because it produces the lubricating saliva, but I do want to avoid stomach acids from rising up towards the throat.
I already tried this. How I taught myself was a cough suppressant spray with Novocaine. It helped to get over the gag.
Simply spray once or twice, then use the toothbrush technique. Your throat will get used to it. But do not spray and then deepthroat. It can seriously hurt him. Just use in training with fingers and toothbrushes.
It helped me in less than 2 weeks to get his penis down.
I have another issue. I can deep throat however I have a pocket in the back of my throat that catches the penis. I want a better angle to go down. When he goes the back it hurts. He knows this and we try to avoid it. His penis is very large and had a bulge in the middle. So I can get most of it down and only a few times can I get the muscles in the neck of my throat to open up. Any tips for 9-10″ penises?
I only ask because I am pregnant and this is the only pleasure I can have for another 5 months. He’s too big for sex and can hurt the child.
The pocket to me indicates you are going at the wrong angle. Are you going with the curve? If it curves up, you need to change your angle. It needs to curve down. If you trying to take it curved up, it will cause damage. You can’t fight the curve. Have him lay down and go with your ass near his head.
Just move back one hole…A is for alternate:)
I learned how to do sword swallowing when I was young. The woman who taught me said,”If you start to feel pleasure, ignore it and just keep going” . I immediately experienced what she was talking about. I felt extreme pleasure in swallowing a 22″ sword.
It’s all about swallowing. Swallow it like it’s food. I can swallow an 18″ dildo with less than a 2″ girth. The gag reflex can be eliminated with oragel or anbesol on the tip of the dildo. Don’t use oragel or anbesol on a penis. It’s really simple.
I like penis but not what is attached to it. On the penis issue, angle is everything. It has to be hard.Sometimes swallowing it makes it hard. If it doesn’t get hard, then, they have had enough.
Oh, I forgot. Do not deep throat with a full stomach. I wait about 8 hours actually.
Great tip about putting oral gel on dildo! Will definitely do that!
I would strongly recommend not using anything that desensitizes you or disguises pain/discomfort. Pain/discomfort is your body’s way of telling you that something is wrong.
I only experienced this one time, recently. I am 62 and this is the only time I can recall it being this good. The orgasm lasted 5-6 seconds, instead of my previous norm of 2-3 seconds.
The girl kept going as I was finishing in the back of her throat. It seemed like I finished twice, back to back. However, maybe the orgasm was so intense that it just seemed that way, Not Sure. But Fantastic for sure!!!
I’ve tried to deepthroat my man several times now – gagging isn’t much of a problem for me – the problem is that the head just seems to press on the back of my throat without actually going down, even when I push fairly hard…
anyone else had this kind of problem? I don’t know what to do!
It sounds like he is rock hard, but also that the position you are deep throating him with prevents you from taking him deeper. The lie back position will make it much easier 😉
Don’t assume its ok to spit on every guys cock. Some consider this disgusting and poor manners.
So, I know this super weird, but I just wanted to give my thanks. It’s nothing to do with sex, but I had to have a throat swab done today for covid-19, and my gag reflex is awful. I tried googling for advice specific to a swab, but there’s nothing. But I found this article after desperately searching for advice!! And it really helped, I barely gagged even after only an hour of practice! So thanks for helping make that experience less awful, AND now I can keep practicing so when lockdown is over I can give my bf a long awaited BJ, yay!! Stay safe everyone 🙂
I can deep throat quite big penises 12-15″ its my favorite sexual thing and the feeling when large penis is bottom of my throat is pulsating and ejaculating
I am one of the unlucky girls. I have that hypersensitive gag relfex.
I would like some techniques on how to please him best i can orally without almost throwing up on him.
What can i do?
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Hi thanks a million. I love ur blog it has helped me out so much. My man loves it when I blow him he can’t get enough. Thank u so much ur tips and tricks has change my sex life for the better.
So does deep throating mean getting his dick past your Larynx into your esophagus? Or just till it hits the back of your throat?
Depends on how big he is
This is deeply depraved. Horrible.
deeply 😉
Ya know, why not? I’ve spent years focusing on my own orgasm, and getting my boyfriends to focus on it. How he should perform oral sex on me, or give me a g-spot orgasm or make me squirt. And it’s been good, but now I feel like learning how to give him the oral sex. I mean I have been giving blow jobs since I was a teen and have always been complimented on it. Now I am 51 and my 55 year old man who is very large can take a while to come. I think it comes with age. He comes pretty easily in my vagina, but oral sex can be a challenge. I can deep throat for a while but then I have to slide it out of me to swallow and get a breath. I’d like to be able to constantly deep throat without having to slid it out and back in again. Also i am practicing with the toothbrush. Most importantly, I am really motivated!
I can Deepthroat a long dick as long as it’s not too fat or too stiff, yes I will gag some, actually if the dick is long enough at least 8” where I just go up and down the last 2 to 3 inches I can literally get off,
Just like the vintage porn movie Deepthroat
Congrats!
Will the breathing get easier with practise? I can breathe in a bit when practicing (only a little), but I can’t get rid of the air again and I keep having to pull off of my dildo (it’s girth isn’t huge and I can easily wrap my fingers around it) despite having practiced for a while
For most women yes, breathing gets easier with practice
I love giving head. I squirt 6-10 times while blowing my dude. I was married for over 42 years before I had another guy (used to have 4-6 a week between marriages). First dude had a HUGE cock and I deep throated him all of the time. Sex with my ex was awful. I always had to be the aggressor. Finally, I quit and left him. The first guy was very experienced and I read up on your site how to give head. The guy that I’m with now thinks I’m amazing. He couldn’t believe that I can take him all the way down. Last night I had him moaning and groaning. And I climbed up on top and fucked him for a while and then took him back in my mouth to finish him off. He said that the sensation was was amazing and better than usual. But he knew that I suck cock because I’ve talked about it while in a group of fellow A.A.’s. He found out that it wasn’t all talk. He throbbed and sobbed and I squirted so much that my bed was soaked.
Almost 67 and still having fun. And they’re always younger guys hitting on me!🥒👄
kielbasa works wonderful, taste good but there is a risk of it breaking…had to give myself heimlich over a chair once.
empty stomach***but a little ice cream right before helps….thickens the saliva and if you do gag, tastes better
(tooth)brush your tongue before sex thoroughly, significantly decreases gag reflex
there are benefits to you being fully in control and benefits to being submissive….enjoy what you do
enjoy the sensation of him going down your throat…you have to want to be doing this. it is an amazing feeling. enjoy your super-power
practice, practice, practice
My gag reflex isn’t too bad, my muscle control is great, saliva production is A+, and I can definitely throat him, BUT how do I practice fitting more length? It feels like it hits my throat and will not go further. Even relaxing my throat, I seem to have a “limit” for length. Is there a way I can practice opening my throat more, or a technique that allows more depth? I really want to fit every inch.
Practice with a dildo or try the lie back blow job position.
I am having the same issue as Scarlette. I have been practicing with a dildo for a few weeks and have my gag reflex under control. I also tried the lie back blow job position as Sean suggested. It feels like I hit a wall and will not go any further.Not sure what I am doing wrong. Has anyone else experiened this and resolved it. Sherry