How To Satisfy & Explore A Spit Kink

Below, you’ll learn how to explore and satisfy your spit kink. First, I’ll cover the important beginner stuff, then you’ll learn tips and techniques for spitting on your partner’s body, spitting on their face, spitting in their mouth, and an additional 10 ways to satisfy your spit kink.

What Is a Spit Kink?

A spitting kink or fetish is just what it sounds like: some people find spitting during sex to be a huge turn on!

If you’re interested in learning about other things that turn people on, here’s a list of all 257 kinks and fetishes.

Why Do People Spit on Each Other During Sex

Spitting on your partner during sex can be appealing for multiple reasons, especially because it’s freaky and taboo. Here are a few other reasons some people spit during sex.

Imitating porn – People, especially men, often do things in the bedroom because they’ve seen them in porn and they think they “should” or that it’s normal. But it’s not uncommon for neither partner to really like doing things, even if they’ve seen them in porn.

Some people find it hot – On the other hand, some people really find spitting hot. It might seem animalistic and work well with their primal play.

Part of degradation/humiliation- For some, the fact that spitting on someone can be seen as degrading is part of the draw. Saliva can be seen as dirty, which makes spitting on someone rather insulting or embarrassing for them… but sometimes that’s the goal!

If you’re into this kind of thing, then definitely check out our guide to erotic humiliation and degradation.

They like the messiness/sloppiness – Others may have a spitting kink because it’s sloppy and they like that. They may love playing with other bodily fluids, up to and including snowballing.

Saliva for lube – While spit doesn’t really make good lube, it can work in a pinch, especially if you don’t want to interrupt the moment.

How to Spit on Your Partner During Sex & Make It Hot – 10 Beginner Tips

1. Discuss beforehand – With something as polarizing as spitting on your partner during sex, you definitely want to talk about it beforehand.

Spitting on your partner without talking about it beforehand can come as a shock to them! Even worse…

Many people aren’t into spitting during sex, so it may be a turn off for them.

And…

If your request is “Spit on me” or even “I want you to spit in my mouth,” be prepared that not everyone will be into it, or you might have to explain why you find it appealing.

2. Consent – While consent is always a must for any sexual activity, it takes on a different meaning with a spitting fetish.

That’s because some people might be really sensitive to bodily fluids like saliva, and spitting might make them gag or even throw up. Make sure you know your partner’s on board before you spit on them.

Then, figure out where it’s okay to spit. Some might not mind if you spit on their body but might recoil at the idea of you spitting in their mouth during sex.

Go deeper: Sexual consent guide.

3. Safewords – Aside from establishing interest and consent, during negotiation is a great time to talk about your safe word or signal (which is important if you’re gagged)

Get ideas for safe words.

4. Hygiene – It can play a big role in spitting. If your mouth isn’t clean or moist or if you have an infection, your spit and breath might smell quite bad, which may be noticeable when spitting. At the very least, drinking a glass of water before engaging in any spitting fetish keeps you hydrated and fresher.

When it comes to oral infections, there’s another concern: spitting could infect your partner’s body if it gets into any cuts or scrapes. If you’ve got major dental or oral issues, it’s best not to engage in any spitting (or oral) until you can get them taken care of.

And even if you have no concerns, be careful about spitting close after eating spicy food, unless the goal is to make your partner uncomfortable.

Speaking of hygiene, keeping a towel or waterproof blanket beneath you helps to ensure your bed and linens remain clean as you enjoy your spitting kink. You could even keep your spit play in the shower or a paddling pool to make cleanup easy!

5. Avoid chafing – Making your skin wet with saliva can soften it, making it more sensitive and vulnerable to friction and chafing.

This often gets worse if that spot makes contact with short, sharp stubble. For example, a partner’s five o’clock shadow can feel awful if you’ve got spit on your face and genitals, or prickly genitals can feel bad against your partner’s body.

So consider a fresh shave or avoiding areas that aren’t super smooth, unless you want that sort of experience.

6. Producing saliva – Spitting can sometimes be difficult, especially if you’re not hydrated or if you’re on medication that dries you out.

One solution is sucking on a hard and sour candy, which will boost your saliva production. Others have luck with sucking on lemons or coating their mouths in honey to produce more saliva.

Dry mouth products like Flintts Mints can also help you create more spit if you really want to make an impression or struggle to make any saliva at all.

7. Positioning – It’s often easier to spit when you’re above your target rather than below or in front of it.

With this in mind, the Cowgirl position is a great position for women to spit in, while Missionary works better for men.

8. Spit versus Drip – Spitting doesn’t have to be forceful. Letting your saliva drip onto your partner can be an interesting way to switch things up, especially because they have to wait for what they know is coming.

9. Aftercare – Aside from whatever general aftercare you need, spit doesn’t require much more. Washing with soap and water will clean off your skin and hair (which works the same for linens).

But if you’re adding your spitting kink to rougher sex or more extreme play, including erotic humiliation, it’s important to offer (or receive) whatever emotional aftercare works for you and your partner.

10. Feedback – Getting and giving feedback is an important part of any sexual activity. It helps you learn what went well so you can do more of it (and maybe even do it more intensely) and what doesn’t work so well for you or your partner. Talking about these things can also bring you closer together.

Understand Context

As with so many other things, context matters. Spitting on your partner might be okay during kinky or rough sex, but will probably be out of place during romantic lovemaking. It’s important to read the room.

Is it a Good Idea to Surprise Your Partner with Spitting?

While some things are fairly safe to surprise your partner with, such as wearing new lingerie or an erotic massage, spitting is much trickier. As we mentioned above, some people are really averse to spit, so this surprise could ruin the moment or even mean the end of your sexy times with this person (especially if it’s a more casual thing).

4 Tips for Spitting on Your Partner’s Body

There are plenty of larger targets on someone’s body if you don’t have great aim. For example, you can practice spitting on someone’s back or chest to get the hang of it before moving to their face.

Common targets include:

• Breasts
• Genitals, including into the vagina
• The butt and into the anus
• The back

Here are a few more tips and ideas for spitting on someone’s body.

1. As lube? – Spit doesn’t really add the slippery slickness of lube, so we advise against using it as your sole lubrication. However, spit can reactivate water-based lube, and you can certainly combine spit and lube for a better experience.

2. While they are in bondage – Spitting on someone can be extra fun when they’re tied up because they can’t get away. But you may want to avoid getting spit on anything that can’t easily be washed. The lingering smell often isn’t pleasant.

Read next: How to do bondage for beginners.

3. Instead of ejaculating – You can switch things up by spitting when your partner expects you to ejaculate or vice versa. Then, you can surprise them by following up with cum or spit, depending on what you withheld. Or you can spit instead of cumming inside of your partner if you’re worried about getting pregnant.

4. Play with it – You can use your fingers to play with your saliva once it’s on your partner’s body.

4 Tips for Spitting on Your Partner’s Face

Usually, we reserve our faces for intimate activities such as kissing. But you can switch things up with an unexpectedly degrading activity like spitting (or something rougher like slapping).

1. Spit on their hair – While your partner might not mind if you spit on their skin, they may not like saliva in their hair, especially if they wash it less frequently. Make sure you know how they feel and avoid the hair if that’s their preference.

2. Avoid nostrils – No one wants spit going up their nose!

3. To disrespect/degrade/humiliate – You can go past basic power exchange to erotic humiliation, especially if you combine it with degrading commands or dirty talk or refuse to let your partner wipe away your spit.

4. While they’re wearing a blindfold – If your partner is down with being spat on but you want to surprise them, you could do it while they’re wearing a blindfold. This works well for spitting on their face or into their mouth, which brings us to our next point!

3 Tips for Spitting in Their Mouth

1. Intimate domination – Spitting by default suggests a power imbalance between the spitter and the target. It can become incredibly intimate because you can get close to your partner before/while spitting.

2. While mouth forced open – Spitting in their mouth that you’ve forced open it can be an incredibly dominating move (19 tips on how to be dominant sexually). If your hands are busy, consider a gag that forces it open (more on that in just a bit).

3. How much/often to spit – How much or how often you spit depends on a few things, including what you and your partner like and how easy it is for you to spit. For some people, a little spit is enough while others really want to be covered in saliva. Consider the tips from above about hydration and producing more tips.

10 Ways to Satisfy a Spit Kink/fetish

1. Sloppy kissing – Now, most people don’t love a sloppy kiss. But you might if you’ve got a spit kink (while others may like spit but not sloppy kissing)! Let your partner know if that’s what you like.

2. Oral sex – The licking and sucking during a blow job or when eating pussy or eating ass naturally creates and transfers spit. But if you’ve got a spitting kink, you might want to encourage sloppier and more slippery oral sex to make the most of it.

3. Deep throating – The best part about deep throating your partner?

It can produce a lot of saliva in the giver’s mouth due to the constant stimulation of the back of their throat from the receiver’s penis. That’s perfect if you have a spit kink! Get tips for deep throating.

4. Toe sucking – Sucking or licking toes can produce a lot of spit and play well with this kink. It can also be a major part of a person’s foot fetish!

5. Spit in food or drinks – Some people have such a spit kink that they love the idea of their partners spitting into their food or drink.

6. Gags – Certain gags can cause the wearer to produce a ton of spit! The best gags for this are big enough to make swallowing hard, so that spit has to come out the mouth. A bag gag can work well, as can ring or spider gags that force the mouth open. Finally, stuffing fabric in someone’s mouth can make them drool (and works well in CNC scenes).

7. Spray bottle – If you’re adventurous, you could spit into a bottle to save it up.. or just use water that’s mixed with spit or pretend it’s saliva.

8. Use their spit – Make your partner spit into your hand before you rub it on their body or stick your fingers into their mouth to collect spit.

Related: Fingers In Your Mouth During Sex – Why & How

9. Lube as an alternative – If you’re unable or unwilling to actually use spit, you can use a thin water-based lube in place of spit. Warming it gently can make it feel more realistic, especially when using with mouth-shaped strokers/sleeves or oral sex simulators.

You can even use lube in place of spit with a partner. It works well when slightly warm. If you add mouth sounds, it becomes even more believable.

10. Role play – While you might not think of spit and role play as something that go together, you can incorporate saliva into certain scenes! Consider any scene with law enforcement that needs to take a cheek swab or spit sample. Or if you prefer, you could come up with a fun DNA testing scene.

Related: 42 kinky role play ideas for sex.

What to Do if Your Partner Is Trying to Force It?

If your partner is trying to push a spitting kink, whether they want to spit or be spat on, and it’s not your thing, you can say “No.”

You also have the right to end all play and continue only once you’re being respected. And if that doesn’t happen, it’s your right to walk away from the relationship.

Now you’ve got plenty of information about the spitting kink! You can talk to your partner about your (or their) spit kink and suggest ideas or new ways to explore it. Remember, there are lots of ways to enjoy this kink, so don’t think you have to go straight to spitting in their mouth during sex. You can start slow and dip your toe in the water, so to speak.