Fingers In Mouth Your During Sex – Why & How

Putting your fingers in your partner’s mouth during sex can be hot or “meh” or weird, depending on the context. This guide will explain the 8 reasons why people do it, how to prepare your hands and 9 tips to make putting your fingers in your partner’s mouth extra kinky.

8 Reasons Why Guys Put Their Fingers in Your Mouth During Sex

Why does anyone do anything during sex?

The truth…

It varies!

But here are a few reasons why a guy might put his finger in your mouth during sex:

1. To simulate a blow job – Putting his fingers inside your mouth so he can move them similar to thrusting during sex can simulate a blow job and almost feel like double penetration. And if you’re already using a toy such as a butt plug to DP, adding fingers to your mouth makes it that much more intense.

2. To dominate you – Putting fingers in someone’s mouth during sex can be a show of dominance (how to be dominant in bed). It’s like “Look at what I can do to you?” If you’re using an open-style mouth gag, it practically screams “Put something in the mouth!” You can give your partner specific commands about sucking on your fingers during sex, too.

Sticking your fingers in someone’s mouth can also be embarrassing or humiliating, which is great if you are both into erotic humiliation.

It’s also possible to gently pull or direct the position of someone’s head/face with fingers in their mouth.

3. To simulate porn – Some guys might put fingers in their partner’s mouth because they saw it in porn and think it’s what they’re “supposed” to do or that a partner must like it.

Ugh…

It’s usually better to talk beforehand about what you like and don’t like when it comes to sex. Get tips for discussing sex.

4. It’s their kink – Some people might have a kink for having fingers in their mouth or putting their fingers in someone else’s mouth (list of all kinks). They might like that it’s wet and warm or taboo, or there may not even be a specific reason they do this thing during sex.

Related: 23 kinky sex ideas to try in bed.

5. Some guys find it sensual/sexy – For some people, making as much contact or being in as many orifices as possible is incredibly hot. Others like watching someone suck on body parts, even if it’s a finger or thumb.

6. To get you to do it back – Sometimes, we do things during sex as a hint to our partners because we really want those things done to us. As we said above, direct communication is usually the better route to getting what you want in bed.

7. To make you taste or swallow something – You can use fingers to transfer a scent or bodily fluid after they have been in an orifice or ejaculated on (tips for swallowing cum).

8. To feel good – A warm, wet mouth with a soft, strong tongue, just feels good! So…

Having any body part inside that mouth can feel good, especially when they’re sucking your fingers during sex! Fingers are some of the few body parts that fit, but some people even like having their toes sucked.

4 Preparation Tips Before Fingering Your Partner’s Mouth

It’s easy to overlook one of the most important aspects of fingering your partner’s mouth:

Preparation!

Preparation makes it easier for your partner to enjoy it.

1. Clean fingers – Starting with clean hands is important to keep things hygienic unless you specifically want to introduce certain smells or tastes to your partner’s nose and mouth.

2. Smooth skin – For those with rough and calloused hands and fingers, you might consider exfoliating, scrubbing, or filing to smooth them down. Top it off with a moisturizing cream to keep your fingers soft.

3. Trim nails – Having trimmed and, perhaps more importantly, filed nails makes it less likely that you’ll accidentally poke, stab, or cut a person. You especially want to avoid doing so and causing an infection in the mouth.

If you have long nails that you don’t want to trim, consider wearing gloves. You can put cotton balls in the fingertips of the gloves to prevent unwanted poking.

And for those who paint their nails, give plenty of time and use a quick-dry topcoat to avoid ruining your manicure.

4. Discuss it with your partner – While your fingers might be prepared to enter someone’s mouth, it doesn’t mean your head is in the game. Talk about what you do and don’t like when it comes to when and how you can stick your fingers into someone’s mouth. If you don’t, you might wind up getting bitten or triggering someone’s gag reflex, which most people would rather avoid.

Side note: How to stop gagging when deep throating.

How to Make Fingering Their Mouth Hot & Sexy – 9 Tips

As with all things sexual, it’s usually a good idea to start slow, instead of…

Jamming your fingers into your partner’s unsuspecting mouth. Here are a few tips for starting slow and working your way into more intense territory.

1. Trace their lips with your finger – First, you can trace your partner’s lips with a finger or two.

• You could even hold them against their lips for them to kiss.
• Try holding two fingers against your partner’s mouth and parting them slightly so that your partner can slip their tongue between your fingers.
• Experiment with gently pulling their lower lip downward with your finger tips.
• If your partner opens their mouth willingly, you can insert a finger.
• You can even tell them to open their mouth or lightly push against their lips to encourage them to open their mouth so you can proceed to finger sucking during sex.

2. Use a single finger – Try pushing just a single finger into your partner’s mouth first to give both of you time to acclimate before adding more. If you or your partner clearly don’t like a single finger, it’s unlikely that adding more will help, and you can try out other things instead.

Try next: 40 kinky things to try.

3. Use multiple fingers – If you enjoy having a finger in your partner’s mouth (or vice versa), you can add another. You can keep your fingers close together or spread them to push against and stretch your partner’s cheeks.

4. Use your thumb – Instead of using a finger, you can insert a thumb in their mouth during sex. Even though you’re still using a digit, it can feel significantly different from using your fingers.

You can insert your thumb rightside up or upside down. Inserting just your thumb keeps your other fingers free to rest against or lightly caress your partner’s face. And because thumbs are thicker and shorter, they’re a little easier to suck on than multiple fingers. You can even use this as practice for giving a blowjob.

Related: 55 satisfying blow job techniques.

5. Get aggressive – When it comes to sticking fingers in someone’s mouth, “aggressive” can mean:

• Pushing your fingers back toward their throat
• Hooking the side of their cheek
• Pulling on their teeth
• Pushing their mouth open wide for a toy such as a dildo or your penis
• Using your fingers in their mouth to move and position your partner where you want them.

6. Make them taste themselves – We’ve already mentioned that you might put your fingers into your partner’s mouth to give them a specific taste. It’s common to do so after fingering your vagina or giving a handjob.

Or if there’s cum on your fingers, you can make your partner lick and suck it off.

7. Experiment with positions – You can put a finger in your partner’s mouth while facing them or if you’re behind them during sex (such as in Doggy style or during anal sex). The different positions create different sensations and opportunities. For example, if you’re behind, you’re in a good position to pull your partner’s hair while your fingers are in their mouth.

Go deeper: Hair pulling during sex – how to do it right.

This is also a great position to put a hand over their mouth during sex, especially if they’re moaning loudly with pleasure during sex (or in pain if you’re kinkier or like to add it to your rough sex).

8. Transition to other activities – Putting your fingers in someone’s mouth can act as a bridge before insert a sex toy or a penis.

You can also transition to activities such as kissing when you remove your fingers. You could even kiss “through” your fingers as you slide them out of your partner’s mouth.

9. Get feedback – As always, talking about what worked and what didn’t is a great way to make sure you keep having a good time in bed together! So feel free to ask in the form of dirty talk with a quick “You like that, baby?” or be more intentional as you bask in the afterglow.

With that, you’re set to try something new in the bedroom.