The Tug Of Love sex position is probably the last position that you could dream up of yourself. It is quite unlike any other position that you will read about in the Bad Girls Bible, which you can see if you check out all the positions in our Sex Positions Guide here.
To get into the Tug Of Love, your man first needs to lie down on the bed on his back with his legs open. You then need to sit down on top of him and let him enter you, with your legs on either side of him in front you. Next, you need to start leaning backwards until you are lying down on the bed (put your arms behind you to ease yourself down). Your head should be close to his feet. You can rest your legs on his chest or on either side of him, whichever is more comfortable.
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Now that you are both lying down, your man should grab your hands/arms so that he can pull you in towards him. He could potentially rub your feet, which is perfect if you have a foot fetish. More on that here.
What The Girl Does In The Tug Of Love Position
When you first try out the Tug Of Love position, you may find it to be a little weird and that it takes a little while to get used to. That’s perfectly normal.
When you are comfortable, you then need to start focusing on grinding on your man. Simply move your hips up-and-down and side-to-side while he is inside you. This is a lot trickier when on your back, but it’s still easier than thrusting onto him. You are also in a perfect position to start masturbating yourself while in the Tug Of Love position if your man is not holding your arms.
What The Guy Does In The Tug Of Love Position
Your man will also initially find it uncomfortable in the Tug Of Love, especially because his penis will be bent backwards slightly
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Your man will be holding onto your hands/arms when in the Tug Of Love position. He can pull himself tightly into you and then start grinding on you using his hips or he can alternate how tightly he holds you. Your man can also thrust up and down in the Tug Of Love position. Your man needs to be careful not to hurt you in the Tug Of Love position. If your arms are starting to get sore, then your man can hold onto your legs instead.
Alternatively, he could rub your clit or play with a vibrator. Check out our recommendations for vibrators.
Things To Consider When Performing The Tug Of Love Position
The Tug Of Love is a fairly ‘odd’ sex position. Despite that, a decent amount of students of the Bad Girls Bible have tried it out with their man. Here is some of the feedback they have given me:
- Some found that the Tug Of Love was uncomfortable and not worth it. It can be tricky to make it not painful.
- Some women it to be great for switching things up in the bedroom with their guy, even if it doesn’t feel fantastic.
- A small number of women found that it was uncomfortable when their man grabbed their arms.
Similar Positions
- Octopus – Adjusting your legs puts you in another tricky sex position.
- Scissors – Here’s another position where the two of you are leaning away from one another.
- Exposed Eagle – Your man leans up toward you while you remain leaning back.
- Bridge – Another acrobatic sex position if you’re willing to try.
Learn about more sex positions where you’re on your back.
Sean’s Thoughts On The Tug Of Love Sex Position
I don’t enjoy the Tug Of Love position that much. Even though I am not a fan of it, I still think that it’s worth trying out a few times to keep things interesting in the bedroom.
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MY man and I were having a little trouble with the regular woman on top position, so I leaned back and we ended up in the position. I had never thought of doing it before because it seemed so weird, but this position really hits my g-spot and I orgasmed within 2 minutes. We found that only one of us could move at a time and if I moved the wrong way he would slip out, but we both liked it and I would definitely recommend giving it a try.
I can’t get my girlfriend to have an orgasm is their any position that will help us
First try to get her to orgasm on her own in private so that there is no pressure. Once she can comfortably do that, get her to assist herself during sex. Then once she can do that, try to use a position that mimics this stimulation during sex.
I have the most intense orgasms in this position. G spot heaven. All he has to do is lay there. She does the work. And she won’t mind at all. Powerful strong orgasms. One after another. Well worth the weird position.