Ben Wa balls – are they the real deal? Will they change your sex life? Are there medical benefits? Or is it all just hype with nothing to back it up? We’ve got the low down!
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What Do Ben Wa Balls Do?
The function of Ben Wa balls are twofold. First, they’re supposed to provide stimulation for the woman wearing them. Secondly, Ben Wa balls can be used to strengthen your PC muscles, the muscles you use to stop the flow of urine and the very same muscles that contract during orgasm. Learn just where PC muscles are in your anatomy.
This can help you have better orgasms or achieve multiple orgasms. If you’ve given birth to a baby, your doctor probably recommended kegel exercises to help prevent or correct urinary incontinence. More on that in this post.
Whether you find Ben Wa balls and the more modern kegel balls to be pleasurable depends on personal preference and the type of balls you’ll use. Traditional Ben Wa balls are made from metal and smaller than their modern counterparts, typically been 1/2″ and 2″ in diameter. Sometimes you’ll find lighter, plastic Ben Wa “beads” of a similar size. Magnetic hematite can even be smoothed to a sphere that you can wear inside. This metal is especially hefty, with some sets weighing almost 5 ounces!
Glass Ben Wa balls, usually in clear or black, are more recent and often larger than the traditional balls. They’re still weighty and smooth, which can make it difficult to keep them in, especially when you first start with your exercises. Some manufacturers will add colored glass or even a flower bud in the center of the glass ball for visual appeal. Egg-shaped glass balls, sometimes with ridges, depart from the traditional shape of ben wa balls.
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It’s unlikely you’ll orgasm through use of Ben Wa balls alone, but they can certainly tease to help get you in the mood. This is especially true if you find a set of Ben Wa balls that stimulates your G-spot. Read more about that. Plus, you’ll be extra aware of your genitals and erogenous zones, and there’s nothing wrong with that!
Ben Wa Bells in the 21st Century
The modern take on Ben Wa balls offers some user-friendly and hygienic updates. You can now easily find vaginal balls made from body-safe silicone, like many of the vibrators that are on the market. More on that here.
Silicone lacks pores, so you can completely disinfect your Ben Wa balls. Plus, the retrieval cords can also be made from a softer silicone, so the entire thing can be sterilized. Two brands to consider are Fun Factory, which makes the Smart Balls, and the Luna Beads by Lelo.
Some Ben Wa balls are connected with a cord or thread that’s simply cotton or a similar material. This is quite unhygienic because you can never fully disinfect the cord. The same is true of anal beads, which should only be used when they’re made of silicone. Nylon cords could potentially wear thin over time and break when you’re trying to remove the balls.
Silicone balls tend to be lighter — from 1 to 3 ounces, typically – and larger with more texture, which makes them easier to grasp during insertion and removal. They also tend to include inner balls that vibrate free within the outer shell. As you do exercises or simply go about your day, you can feel those inner balls vibrate.
According to the companies, this causes involuntary contractions of your pelvic floor muscles, which strengthens them passively. This might be more pleasurable and a greater motivation to perform your kegel exercises than traditional Ben Wa balls, which you might not even feel while they’re inserted.
However, finding the right size is important for comfort and satisfaction with your Ben Wa balls. Fun Factory makes a single Smart Ball and VeDo also makes single balls, which are a better option if dual balls tend to be uncomfortable, and if wearing two of them causes pinching.
Other options include single egg-shaped Ben Wa balls, which may be made of glass, stone or silicone. The tapered design is more comfortable and pleasurable for some women. If you ever wanted to know just how strong your PC muscles are, sex toy maker Minna Life has a smart kegel exerciser that measures this and helps you improve!
Of course, companies have figured out how to add vibrations to Ben Wa balls, too. Maia, for example, makes a vibrating, dual-ball toy for internal use. And some of those egg-shaped toys work well for this, too. Jopen has an option for you, too. Because they’re insertable, these vibrators tend to have unique control systems. They may be remote controlled, like Lelo’s Jula Beads, or they may use a non-button control mechanism on the toy itself.
Finally, you’ll have several choices if you want ot be able to choose the weight and size of your kegel balls. Systems such as Lelo’s Luna Beads and Ami by JeJoue, which comes with three difference pelvic exerciser options, mean you don’t have to settle for one-size-fits-all Ben Wa balls anymore. As your PC muscles become stronger, you can adjust size and weight for a more impactful workout!
Work Out Your PC Muscles
So what’s a good workout anyway? For starters, you should be standing up. Gravity works to pull those balls out once you’ve got them inserted – squatting can help with this – so you use your muscles to keep them in place. Any kegel exercises you do without tools can be done with a Ben Wa ball or two inserted. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Push your hips forward while tensing your abs and butt muscles. Release those muscles as you push your hips back. Repeat eight times.
- Quickly contract your kegel muscles around the Ben Wa balls for three seconds. Your butt should remain still as you flex your muscles. Release tension for three seconds. Repeat ten times.
- Sit with legs crossed. Contract your PC muscles for a count of fifteen short inhales. Release your muscles and breath at the same time, slowly.
- Contract your muscles around the kegel balls. Imagine trying to pull them up inside of you. Hold for up to ten seconds.
- Tug on the cord for three to five seconds with your finger while holding your kegel balls in with your PC muscles.
- If you’ve got dual balls, you can squeeze as you pull out the first ball and try to pull it back inside.
Many of these activities can be done while you’re running errands, doing chores or even watching TV! It might not seem like much a workout, but your man will feel the difference when you have sex.
Some activities can greatly increase the stimulation, including wearing your kegel balls while running, while sitting in a rocking chair and during vigorous exercise. A wand type massager can be pressed against a kegel ball or its retriveal cord to make it vibrate, which is especially interesting when it’s the type with the inner ball.
Some people wear Ben Wa balls for hours at a time, but that’s up to you. When you’re ready to remove them, use your PC muscles and the string to pull them out before washing.
Kegel balls can be difficult to remove, especially if they’re the type that are unconnected with a string. Don’t worry, however. They can’t get stuck as long as you have a cervix. Although, some women who have had a hysterectomy might want to avoid this type of Ben Wa ball. Squat and push with your muscles to help expel the Ben Wa balls.
If you’re not sure whether Ben Wa balls are for you, you could try inserting a bullet or egg vibrator. This is a good approximation for vibrating kegel balls, especially. Of course, it’s not exactly the same, but it can give you an idea.
For many women, using Ben Wa balls is pleasurable, but it can also help increase elasticity of your PC muscles, which has real health benefits.
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