How To Give A Great Blowjob Tonight: 5 Powerful Tips

by Sean Jameson, author of The Blowjob Bible and The Bad Girl's Bible.
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Learning how to give a blowjob is not difficult. I’m going to show you why. Just follow the advice below you will soon be giving your man a great blowjob.

Having talked to many girls about learning how to give a great blowjob to their man, I have realised that giving your guy great oral sex comes down to a few key things which I cover in depth below. These are:

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Let the Bad Girl’s Bible show you exactly what you need to do to become a BJ Queen!

Knowing Some Fantastic Blowjob Techniques

Building Your Sexual Confidence

Avoid These Blowjob Pitfalls

5 Fantastic Blowjob Techniques To Use Tonight

The most important part of giving your man a great blowjob is knowing and using the best blow job techniques to give him maximum pleasure. Below are 5 of my favorite BJ techniques,

Building Up

When you are going to give your man a blowjob, his orgasm will be far more powerful if you slowly build up towards it, instead of just ripping his pants off the minute things start heat up. So how can your build up to giving him a blowjob?

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The build up to a blowjob can almost be as important as the blowjob itself!

Start with the obvious stuff, foreplay. This means kissing and cuddling him. While you are kissing and cuddling, slowly lower one of your hands until it is down by his crotch. Start to slowly massage his penis and balls outside his trousers. After a minute or two of this, start to unbutton his trousers and lower them, so that you can easily access his penis with your hands. Gently grab hold of his penis with your hand and slowly start to massage it up and down. In other words, start to give him a gentle hand job.

At this stage, it’s really important to only apply a tiny amount of pressure with your hands, so that you are barely gripping it.

The reason? Applying just a tiny amount of pressure helps to build up tension so that when you do eventually start giving him a blowjob, he will orgasm a lot harder. You can give him this gentle handjob for just minute or up to 10 minutes. Just remember that the longer you give it to him, the more likely he is going to blow his load.

After giving him this very gentle handjob for a while, it’s time to lower your head down towards his crotch.

But when you do, don’t start giving him a blowjob just yet. You still need to keep building up to it.

This will help to further build the tension for your man

To keep building up the tension before you start sucking his penis, start to very softly and gently kiss his penis. Just purse your lips together and kiss his penis all over. This means that you need to kiss the head (aka the glans) of his penis all the way down to the bottom of his shaft.

Quick note: If you just came here looking for my famous tutorial video on how to give your man an incredible blow job (with detailed examples), then you can watch it here.

After 20 seconds to 2 minutes of this kissing, start to lick it. This is really easy. Just stick out your tongue and slowly lick his penis. It’s much easier to lick his penis upwards from the bottom of his shaft to the top instead of licking it up and down. The underside of a man’s penis is the easiest side to lick and coincidentally it’s also the most pleasurable. This is because the corpus spongiosum which runs the length of the underside of his shaft and the frenulum are both located on the underside of a man’s penis. But don’t forget about the head! After another 30 seconds to 2 minutes of licking his penis, it’s finally time to take his penis into your mouth and actually start sucking his cock!

Hand & Suck

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Using your hands is crucial if you are serious about giving a great blowjob.

The Hand & Suck is a common blowjob tip, but it’s still very powerful. I advise everyone to use this technique if they are serious about giving their man a lot pleasure when learning how to give a good blowjob.

To perform the Hand & Suck, you need the take about the first inch of your man’s penis into your mouth. When it’s inside your mouth, you need to use your tongue to massage it. Just simply rub your tongue back and forth over his penis or instead make a circular motion using your tongue over his head.

Make sure to use lot of saliva, the more the better.

You’ll find that the top side of your tongue (the side with all your tastebuds) provides more stimulation as it’s slightly rougher.

While using your mouth to give the top of his penis a blowjob, you need you grab the rest of his penis with one of your hands (two hands can work also, but you’ll find that one hand is easier). Now just simply use this hand to give him a handjob. I find that it’s best to alternate the amount of pressure you apply using your hand.

The Tongue Squeeze

This is one of my favorite techniques for 2 reasons.

I love teaching it because it gets results.
I love having it performed on me, because it feels fantastic!
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Depending on the setting, you can make your blowjob an act of dominance or submission…

The Tongue Squeeze is one of the more advanced techniques that you should try when learning how to give head to your man. To perform it you need to take your man’s penis quite deep into your mouth. So if you have a very sensitive gag reflex, this technique may not be for you.

Once you have his penis in your mouth, you need use your tongue to push it upwards so that the head/glans is forced against against your palate. Your palate is the hard bit of flesh on the top of your mouth.

While the head of his penis is forced onto the top of your palate, use your tongue to massage the underside of his penis, from his shaft all the way up past his frenulum. You’ll find that using your hand to keep his cock in place is a good idea so that your jaw and tongue don’t get too tired.

The only problem with the Tongue Squeeze to give your man a blowjob is that sometimes your mouth will be too small or his penis will be too big for your to perform it comfortably. But if his penis fits comfortably, he will enjoy it a lot!

Don’t Forget About His Balls

When a lot of people are first learning how to give oral sex to their boyfriend, they only concentrate on his dick. This is perfectly fine, but…

Don’t forget that your man’s testicles are super sensitive too.

Stimulating his balls is really easy, much easier than sucking his penis in fact. To stimulate them, you just need to use an open palm to slowly and gently rub the up and down. When you first start to massage them, make sure to only use a tiny bit of pressure as you don’t want to hurt him. Then when you can tell he is enjoying it, start to vary the amount of pressure you use to see what he likes best.

Just using your palm is easy. A slightly more advanced technique is to use your fingers. You can slowly run them over his balls. This may tickle him slightly, but it feels really wonderful at the same time. Make sure that you have filed down any rough edges on your nails before you start fondling his testicles to prevent yourself from accidentally giving him any nicks, scratches or cuts.

Eye Contact

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Maintaining eye contact with your man during a blowjob can make it feel far more intimate.

Maintaining eye contact with your man is a very interesting and often misunderstood oral sex technique when you are learning how to give your guy a blowjob. You won’t realise it until you first try it, but it’s really powerful. Most men like taking on a dominant role when having sex with their partner. When you are on your knees, looking up at him, you are actively taking on a submissive role, which will enhance his dominant feelings.

The main reason that eye contact is so misunderstood when giving your man a blow job is that it’s actually really difficult to do properly. You may feel awkward, shy or even a little nervous doing it, especially if you want to hold eye contact with your man for a long time. This is why I consider eye contact to be a Pro technique in The Blow Job Bible.

If you want to learn how to build your sexual confidence when giving your man a blowjob so that maintaining eye contact with him is easier, the keep reading…

Building Your Sexual Confidence

When you are thinking about how to give a blow job to your man, you may be wondering about all these different blowjob positions and blowjob techniques as well as some of the more advanced stuff like giving your man deep throat. But there’s a catch:

None of this information is much use if you are really awkward and nervous when you give your man a blowjob.

It will be a lot more sexually satisfying for your man if you appear confident and know what you are doing.

If you are not that sexually confident, then this can be quite tough for you. Below are some great blowjob tips that you should use to help build your sexual confidence.

Practice, Practice, Practice

If you want to get more confident at the prospect of going down on your man, then you need to practice first. But not necessarily on your man. The best object for practicing on is a peeled banana. It is soft but firm, so it won’t hurt your throat. It also tastes great! There is literally nothing better than using a peeled banana, but if you want, you can also experiment with a dildo or another object.

Just be careful not to push the banana too far down your throat to prevent choking.

Sexual Confidence Is Not Just About Sex

Often girls get confused when I talk about sexual confidence. Being sexually confident is not just about being good at sex. Instead it’s about being comfortable with your body and who you are as well as knowing some great sex positions and techniques.

So if you think that learning every blowjob technique, position and tip is going to give you all the sexual confidence you need, then you are sadly missing an important point. To get sexually confident, you need to get comfortable with who you are. The truth is that nobody is perfect and everyone has things about themselves that they wish were different, but can’t change.

To get more comfortable with who you are takes time. The important thing is to realize that most of the things you worry about are not actually that big of a deal.

Remember That He Is Probably Nervous Too

Don’t forget that guys often lack sexual confidence also. He may be worried about not getting an erection or even about maintaining his erection. He also may be worried about cuming too quickly or not cuming at all. These are the main things that guys get nervous about, but there are tons more.

So the next time you give head to your man, remember…

He will often be too worried about his own performance to notice any mistakes or awkwardness.

Avoid These Blowjob Mistakes & Pitfalls!

To give him a good blowjob requires you using some oral sex positions and techniques AND completely avoid making the following mistakes.

Don’t Use Your Teeth!

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Remember that his penis is incredibly sensitive. That means you need to be careful with your teeth!

This one should be totally obvious, but is often easy to forget. Your man’s penis is the most sensitive part of his body. Using your teeth on it is excruciatingly painful for him. Sometimes it’s almost completely unavoidable because he penis is either too big or your mouth is too small.

But how do you prevent yourself from using your teeth? The answer is pretty simple, just wrap your lips over your teeth. It’s not the most pleasant thing for you, but your man will really appreciate it.

The only time when using your teeth is okay, is when you very gently and lightly drag them over his penis to tease him and give him a slightly different sensation to your soft lips and tongue. Remember, light & gentle. He should barely feel it.

Don’t Use Blow Jobs To Manipulate

Nothing will ruin a relationship faster than if you use oral sex (and regular sex) to manipulate your man. This means withholding sex from him until he does something for you or as a punishment. Obviously there are times when he will be inconsiderate or you will just not be in the mood, which is a perfectly fine reason not to have sex with your man. But using it as a weapon to manipulate him will slowly poison and ruin your relationship.

Don’t Rely On Just One Position Or Technique  (Hint: Use Variation)

When you find a great blowjob technique or oral sex position that your man really enjoys, you may feel like using it every single time you give him fellatio. Don’t. He will invariably get bored of it. Instead, it’s a much better strategy to constantly vary what you do, while using the blow job techniques that he enjoys most a little more often than the other bj techniques you know.

The phrase “Variation Is The Spice Of Life” may ring a few bells. It’s completely true.

Using variation is a lot more satisfying to your man, instead of just relying on the same one or two techniques.

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  1. Luna March 28, 2012 at 6:32 pm #

    Thank you Sean!!!
    I read over these tips mostly out of curiosity and to try new things in bed because I found myself getting bored of giving bjs. Now… I love it! And so does my man. Your tips really work and have inspired me to try out even more things using my imagination. I have my man literally begging for more now, which is definitely a first. So again thank you. You’re awesome!

    Shannon

    • Sean March 29, 2012 at 12:44 pm #

      Hi Luna/Shannon,
      Thanks for your kind words, glad I could help. Make sure to check out the blog for all the latest updates to the site!

      Sean

  2. V April 25, 2012 at 11:51 pm #

    Oh my goodness your tips and tricks work AMAZINGLY WELL! I used to just give oral sex to my boyfriend because I knew how much he enjoyed it. But now I think I like it more than he does haha. The two things he absolutely loves is when I use a little mouth wash before because of the cooling sensation, and when I can comfortably look at him during. Now I feel so much sexier and more confident knowing a few tricks. Thanks so much! We both really appreciate it!

    - V

    • Sean April 27, 2012 at 2:18 pm #

      Glad to hear you enjoy my tips so much V. Make sure to check out the blog to keep up to date with my latest sex tips and techniques!

  3. Sarah P. July 7, 2012 at 2:07 am #

    So what do you do if your mouth is too small? …

    • Sean July 18, 2012 at 12:02 pm #

      Hi Sarah,

      Having a small mouth is really only a minor inconvenience when it comes to having a great sex life. It’s not something that you should worry about too much. The main problem with having a small mouth is that it’s much more likely that you will accidentally scrap your man’s penis when trying to take it into your mouth.

      But you don’t have to take his penis right into your mouth to give him a good BJ. Remember that the tip is the most sensitive part for him. So concentrate on this with your lips and tongue. But you can also lick, kiss and suckle the rest of his penis without ever taking it into your mouth.

      Sean

    • anjellicka January 14, 2013 at 5:46 pm #

      Find a smaller dick or just suck the tip

  4. clueless July 18, 2012 at 8:32 pm #

    I have had a major issue, almost like an OCD about BJs and kept avoiding it. But I think it is about time I got rid of my hesitation. And this is what brought me here. Firstly, I have major issues with looking at him while I’m doing it. Second, I get demoralised very easily and leave it in the middle. And I emit nervous vibes while I’m at it. Any form of bossiness from him discourages me. I want to get rid of these, please help. Also, you are immensely helpful. If only I could do it without hesitation or a mind block.
    Thanks.

    • Sean October 11, 2012 at 9:43 am #

      The key is to take baby steps and to talk to him about it, to let him know what you like and don’t like when giving him a blowjob. Start off by giving him a very simple blowjob, by just stroking his shaft with your hand and licking the tip of his penis. Then as you give him more and more blowjobs, start to add more techniques that I mention throughout this section.

      It’s also important to let your man know what you enjoy and don’t enjoy him doing when you are giving him a blowjob. If him being bossy is something that you find discouraging, then let him know. But also make sure to let him know about the things that you find encouraging and enjoyable that he does when you’re giving him head.

  5. dawn October 16, 2012 at 9:25 pm #

    Im going 2 try this on my man tonight!

    • Sean October 31, 2012 at 10:49 am #

      Good to hear Dawn, hope it goes well for you!

  6. M. November 12, 2012 at 8:14 pm #

    One thing I learned accidentally while brushing my teeth in the shower is that if you hold the liquified tooth paste in your mouth instead of spitting it out, you can use it as a lube for either oral or just sex, the mint will provide a hot and cold variation that leaves a tingling sensation. The same feeling it has in your mouth, like what V said about mouthwash only slightly easier since the toothpaste provides a much thicker substance to work with so you can eliminate the fear of accidentally swallowing. It works great and cleans your teeth at the same time!

  7. lilbitt December 9, 2012 at 5:50 am #

    I found its much more to giving head to your man then just sucking.i beleave i may be able to now keep him home.thanks

    • Cherellynne December 16, 2012 at 7:53 am #

      Truee!

  8. Cherellynne December 16, 2012 at 7:51 am #

    Do you have any tips for calming my nerves? I’m scared to give my Fiancée a BJ!!
    -cherellynne

    • Sean January 2, 2013 at 5:19 pm #

      I always advise people to start slowly and then build up to giving him a blowjob. You can start by just rubbing his crotch with your hand outside his pants. Then once you’re comfortable with that then try giving him a handjob. Then afterwards, when you are comfortable with that you can finally try to give him a blowjob. It’s totally natural to feel a bit nervous. The key is to keep moving forward and trying new things (that you are happy to do for your man).

  9. Ms.Love December 28, 2012 at 9:43 pm #

    Thanks for the tips we will be trying these tonight. I am going to make him very happy tonight.

    • Sean January 2, 2013 at 5:02 pm #

      Great to hear! Also, I love your name…Ms. Love

  10. Madison January 22, 2013 at 4:33 am #

    Omg.!! I can’t wait to try these tips .!!! I think my guys going to like them .!! Im trying some tomorrow.!!

  11. lac February 8, 2013 at 3:52 pm #

    i love you Sean….the world needs swities like u.i ve learnt alot frm u…thnx,mwa

    • Sean Jameson February 12, 2013 at 4:35 pm #

      Thanks! This kind of feedback makes it all worthwhile!

  12. June February 10, 2013 at 2:11 pm #

    Dont forget to swallow!

  13. Kt February 18, 2013 at 3:03 am #

    I like giving my guy a blowjob, but when I wrap my lips around my teeth, so I don’t bite him, my lips get sore. Any advice as to how to avoid this?

    • Sean Jameson February 19, 2013 at 12:36 pm #

      Hi Kt,
      This is unfortunately one of those annoying things that you are just going to have to deal with I’m afraid. Unless your man can somehow shrink his penis or you can magically widen your mouth, there is unfortunately very little you can do. Sorry
      Sean

      • Kimberly February 26, 2013 at 7:55 pm #

        Hey Kt, I find that wrapping my lips around my teeth gets sore too and can be very distracting, I find that wrapping my lips only when I am going quite deeper and then unwrapping when I am just paying attention to the top & unlikely to scrape him helps a lot, and alternating between lots of different things helps my lips and jaw from getting sore. Plus my husband absolutely loves the variation!

  14. L February 24, 2013 at 9:17 pm #

    How can I keep from gagging while deepthroating? I’m not exactly sure how to fix it….

  15. tnx February 28, 2013 at 2:12 am #

    Hei Sean, can you please provide some blow job tips with tongue piercing? how to make him feel the pierceing? thanks! xxx

    • Sean Jameson March 5, 2013 at 9:51 am #

      Great question! The tip of your man’s penis is the most sensitive, so I would suggest trying to rubbing the piercing on that. The most important thing though is judging his reaction. Some guys may love it, while others may not be so turned on by it. He will also most likely enjoy feeling it run over his balls.

  16. B March 9, 2013 at 11:08 am #

    I know more than one man who really enjoys teeth and being bitten. You shouldn’t assume that all guys hate teeth!

    • Sean Jameson March 26, 2013 at 9:34 am #

      Hi B,

      You’re absolutely right. Quite a few guys enjoy it, especially if you are just lightly grazing him or nibbling his penis ON PURPOSE. However it can get incredibly uncomfortable for your man if you don’t even realise that you are doing it constantly. The most important thing here is communication. Ask him and find out from him what he likes and prefers.

      Sean

  17. Heather May 9, 2013 at 6:02 pm #

    wow! this advice!
    you really are amazing!
    iloveyou! haha x thankyou

  18. Phil May 19, 2013 at 5:07 pm #

    Dude, you are a genius. I sent my girlfriend several links to your site, and according to her, she read everything on every page. She didn’t buy any of your books because she lives with her parents and doesn’t want them to find out, but she read everything on your site, and jesus, dude.

    Her blowjobs are the best I’ve ever received. In. My. Life. Thanks so much for putting all this up here, or me and her would have been over a long time ago.

    • Sean Jameson May 20, 2013 at 12:01 pm #

      Hi Phil,
      Great to hear! Thank you so much for your feedback
      Sean

  19. sam May 19, 2013 at 9:48 pm #

    Hi I’m Sam and I have a major problem. I’ve done it before but was really young (younger than I like to talk about, the guy took advantage of the fact that I was new to sexual feelings, just hitting that stage in adolescence.) But yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I were able to do it. I actually have two problems. Even though I don’t particularly have a small mouth I have a bad habit of scraping my teeth against the penis, which hurts him, and I found myself apologizing multiple times during it…also another problem is the gag reflex I have. One thing I enjoy that he did is that UE controls my head, pushing it up and down (I know I’m weird but he usually has me be the controlling one because he gets turned on from being controlled.) But…I can’t get his penis in more than like two inches without gagging and had to stop him from pushing my head, even stop sucking completely a few times to keep myself from throwing up….what do I do??????

    • Sean Jameson May 20, 2013 at 12:07 pm #

      Hi Sam,

      Don’t worry too much about having a small mouth, it’s not the worst thing in the world. If you find yourself scraping his penis with your mouth, then try wrapping your lips over your teeth so that they act like a cushion.

      As for your gag reflex, some people have a strong gag reflex, while others have none at all. The great thing is that you can slowly train your gag reflex to get weaker and weaker until it’s hardly noticeable. You’ll find some great tips on reducing your gag reflex in this article on deep throating.

      Sean

  20. X June 1, 2013 at 3:56 pm #

    Is cumming in a girls mouth really a turn on?

    • Sean Jameson June 3, 2013 at 1:04 pm #

      Only if one or both of you find it a turn on. Different people have different preferences. The truth is that not everyone enjoys everything.

  21. Ness June 30, 2013 at 12:27 am #

    I have found that using your teeth can be quite pleasurable if you do it the right way. My man’s favorite thing is when i gently graze my teeth on his penis. this only works though if the area is wet. It’s almost like you’re gonna bite on it while your head is turned sideways, but since the area is wet, your teeth won’t go into his member. It’s a really good trick for the building up stage. Just don’t actually have any of his skin between your teeth or in your mouth.

    • Sean Jameson July 10, 2013 at 11:18 am #

      Agreed :) It can be super hot using your teeth on your man, but you need to be super careful at the same time not to accidentally hurt him.

      Sean

  22. Pam July 7, 2013 at 4:56 am #

    Hi, Sean!

    All of this has ALREADY helped me go from good to great :) We both thank you!
    Question: I’ve always been careful to wrap my lips over my teeth — but after the action, the inside of my upper lip is incredibly sore from rubbing against my teeth. Actually kind of shredded, and it takes 1-3 days for it to “heal.” My teeth aren’t snaggly or rough, just, y’know, teeth.
    Any suggestions, either how to protect him while not hurting myself, or how to heal my poor abraded mouth faster?
    Thank you!

    • Sean Jameson July 10, 2013 at 10:55 am #

      Hi Pam,
      This can be a tricky one. The only reason you need to cover your teeth with your lips is if you are hurting your man with your teeth when giving him a blowjob. Many couples have this problem because of either a large penis or a small mouth or a combination of both. You may want to try giving him a blowjob without wrapping your lips over your teeth to see if he enjoys it. If this hurts and you need to wrap your lips over your teeth to prevent the pain, then unfortunately there is little else you can do :(

      Sean

  23. e July 12, 2013 at 2:29 am #

    I’ve never given someone a handjob or blowjob. I would like to know how not to hurt the guy. I want to surprise my boyfrined with either. I’ve never dine this before and i don’t want to hurt him. I want to make him feel good but i’m worried i might hurt him.

    • Sean Jameson July 16, 2013 at 7:31 am #

      Hi e,
      Here are a few things to help.

      1) Start slow and gentle.

      2) Gauge your man’s reaction. If he is enjoying what you are doing then keep on doing that! If not, then try something else.

      3) If in doubt, don’t be afraid to ask your man for advice on what his personal preferences are.

  24. Barry July 27, 2013 at 4:44 am #

    I love these suggestions. Thank you so much for the good info. I am lucky enough to be very experienced at giving blowjobs and I am quite good at it. I practice the suggestions that Sean lists. I totally love giving blowjobs!!!

  25. SP August 5, 2013 at 5:05 am #

    Hi Sean,

    I’m from the uk n interested in ur books, my bf is the first guy I’ve gone down on n this has given me a few things I might try, as I don’t think he enjoys it as much as he hoped he would.

    Do you ship to the uk?

    • Sean Jameson August 5, 2013 at 8:45 am #

      Hi SP,

      Thankfully all the books are digital, this means that they are sent to you immediately after purchase. It also means that you can read them anywhere, on your phone, computer, iPad, etc.

      Let me know if you have any other questions.

      Sean

  26. Ginger August 9, 2013 at 12:39 am #

    Hi,Sean. quick question, it is okay when my man comes in my mouth and I swallow the sperms?
    Thanks, and you’ve been really helpful

    • Sean Jameson August 12, 2013 at 8:44 am #

      Hi Ginger,
      Provided you are not allergic to seminal fluid, then you shouldn’t have a problem, but I always recommend that you talk to your doctor if you have serious concerns.

      Sean

  27. Emily August 12, 2013 at 6:01 am #

    Hi Sean,
    Thank you so much for these tips! I recently gave my first bj, my boyfriend loved it, because it was the first bj he has ever received. I really plan on using these tips next time. But I do have a question, is the positioning of the lips on the penis super important?

    • Sean Jameson August 12, 2013 at 7:58 am #

      Hi Emily,

      Great to hear! It’s only as important as you want it to be. Remember that the glans your man’s penis (the top part) is most sensitive, so focusing most of your effort on the glans is going to result in the most amount of pleasure for your man.

      Sean

  28. KB August 19, 2013 at 12:21 am #

    After years and years of giving blowjobs without problems, a few years back, I started hurting the inside of my upper lip while doing it. I really don’t know what changed. I can usually make it through the experience but the next day, my inside upper lip is very sensitive and sometimes even shows an open wound!! In those cases, it can be up to a week or even more before I can give another blowjob! This is very frustrating, since I don’t know what changed to make this problem start occurring.

    Have you ever heard of this before? Any tips on avoiding it?

    • Sean Jameson August 26, 2013 at 7:40 am #

      Hi KB,
      This can happen if you wrap your top lip around your teeth while giving a blow job. Are you doing this?

      Sean

  29. kristin October 2, 2013 at 8:57 pm #

    Just found your website – and I’m very excited to try out the Tongue Squeeze. Just a question: when I press his head/glans against my palate, how do I prevent his shaft from rubbing against my teeth? Will that hurt him?

    Also would very, very very lightly “scraping” his shaft with my teeth hurt him? Is that what you’re referring to when you say don’t use your teeth? I don’t intentionally scrape or bite or anything like that, but sometimes when I’m sucking his shaft will accidentally touch my front teeth

    • Sean Jameson November 12, 2013 at 2:25 pm #

      Hi Kristin,

      Preventing his shaft from rubbing against his teeth is tough. Changing the angle of entry helps. Another way to prevent yourself from accidentally hurting him is to keep his penis from moving when it’s in your mouth, but continue to use your tongue on it.

      Very, very lightly scraping or running your teeth over his shaft shouldn’t hurt him, but make sure to get feedback from him, in case it does hurt (different guys have different levels of sensitivity).

      Sean

  30. Cristabella. October 13, 2013 at 4:35 am #

    Hello Sean. Well here i am wanna comment on your ‘How To Give A Blowjob’ forum. Well, my boyfriend always want a blowjob and I will do what him want. Um, I dont know how it feels when I do blowjob on him. He likes it very much until he cums. I want to ask that is blowjob can do everyday and does it wont hurt his penis? Thanks and thanks for answering :)

    • Sean Jameson November 8, 2013 at 8:09 pm #

      Hi Cristabella,

      Giving your man a blowjob is perfectly fine for his penis and shouldn’t hurt…unless you are biting it!

      Sean

  31. Ms. Jones October 30, 2013 at 1:15 pm #

    I already do everything on this list, but I am discouraged. My bf and I have been dating 3 months and I still am unable to make him cum from a blow job. I have never had this problem before so this is very new to me. He enjoys what I do. His reactions are amazing, I just can’t get him to cum. I’m not sure what to try now and like I said I am discouraged. HELP PLEASE

    • Sean Jameson November 8, 2013 at 8:52 am #

      The funny thing is that some guys just can’t get off when receiving a blow job. It’s similar in a lot of ways that some girls can’t orgasm during intercourse. It’s most likely nothing that you are doing wrong, so don’t worry and try to focus on having fun.

    • TM December 12, 2013 at 1:55 am #

      The most common cause of this problem is stopping. You want to change things up but once you start, don’t stop! Use your hand to stroke as your mouth runs up and down his shaft. Pay special attention to the head, gently sucking it against the roof of your mouth, Gradually increase the amount of suction. Good luck!

  32. Sarah November 10, 2013 at 12:21 am #

    Hi Sean. your advice is really good now, I have ywo quest for you. My guy is lik an alpha male always likes to be in control, but i know that guys like it when we take control sometimes, but how can I do that with him, as I do like when he is aggressive? My other quest is this feels weird when i give him a BJ he likes when I put pressure with my lips, but I have trouble doing both at the same time. any suggestions? thank you

    • Sean Jameson November 11, 2013 at 7:49 pm #

      Hi Sarah,

      Thanks for your questions. In response to your first question, your best option is to ask him if he’d find it hot with you in control…nothing crazy, maybe just putting a blindfold on him or tying his hands behind his back while you go down on him. In response to your second question, just make sure to talk to him about it. Let him know how you find it difficult to both at the same time.

      Sean

      • Sarah November 17, 2013 at 1:21 pm #

        thank you, I have done one thing, he works at an auto shop and got a new pair of pants for work, ever since i told him I loved those pants on him, I see them on him a lot.

  33. Lizziee December 6, 2013 at 2:10 am #

    Hi Sean,

    I have a retainer and I’ve tried giving my boyfriend a blowjob and I can’t seem to get him in as much as I have before. Any tips?

    • Sean Jameson December 9, 2013 at 7:27 am #

      Hi Lissiee,

      Try taking out your retainer while going down on him. Problem = solved :)

      Sean

  34. TJ December 19, 2013 at 6:40 am #

    Hey one big time query whenever me & my BF start BJ my BF comes out in 2sec which spoils our mood & so bit worried is he having problem should we consult any doctor??? Tips required which can help me out..

    • Sean Jameson December 23, 2013 at 4:23 pm #

      Hi TJ,

      Sounds pretty normal. Some guys cum quickly, others don’t. It all depends on the guy.

      Sean

  35. Steph January 8, 2014 at 7:37 am #

    I’ve always been self-conscious about giving blow jobs because of my deviated septum. I can’t inhale through my nose and there’s only so much I can do while holding my breath. Do you have any tips (no pun intended) for someone in my situation?

    • Sean Jameson January 9, 2014 at 11:29 am #

      Hi Steph,

      Try focusing more on licking and kissing his penis instead of taking it into your mouth. This way, you don’t have to worry about your breathing.

      Sean

  36. Maria De February 11, 2014 at 8:37 pm #

    I really need to thank you,i have the best relationship ever.

  37. Megan February 13, 2014 at 12:27 am #

    Hi Sean-
    My boyfriend usually takes up to 30 minutes to cum and my neck and jaw just get so tired and I keep having to take breaks and use my hand instead and I can tell that it really kills it for him. I try my best to stay relaxed, but its hard to do that and suck with enthusiasm at the same time. I know a lot of other women have the same problem. Do you have any tips to combat the tiredness/soreness so I can give him the amazing blowjob I want to give him?
    -Megan

    • Sean Jameson February 17, 2014 at 9:09 am #

      Hi Megan, Some guys take longer than others to cum, that’s totally normal…but there is a really easy solution to this. Just get your boyfriend to stop masturbating for a few weeks and you’ll find that he cums a lot, lot quicker.

      Have fun!

      Sean

  38. Mercedes March 7, 2014 at 4:11 am #

    Hi Sean! I’m in a LDR until I finish college and the last time I spend time with my boyfriend I used something “similar” to one of your techniques, he’s always saying I’m his goddess. Sadly I found your website very late, so I would have used all the things you write here. I’m gonna see him again in August or September, hope I could use some of your advices, and hope he love it!

    Btw, do you have something about LDR, how to keep your man interesting in you from a distance, this is gonna be for a year and a half only but I don’t want to loose him for the lack of sex.

    I’m glad I found your website, can’t stop reading, thank you!!!

  39. brandi March 25, 2014 at 9:34 am #

    I have a question.

    My husband isnt really the type to get all kissy lovey dovey type of guy. N neither am Im anymore really.

    Some of the positions on this page are very interesting and look like they could be fun. The only problem I have is well the doggy style n all he would be more interested in anal and I’m more wanting to try these pussy sex wise. How would I get him to do these normal sex wise and not anal all the time?

    • Sean Jameson April 2, 2014 at 9:42 am #

      Hi Brandi,

      The best and most important thing that you can do is to simply talk to your man to find out what you both want & like as well as what you both don’t enjoy so much.

      Sean

  40. Sandy March 26, 2014 at 2:14 am #

    Hi Sean, bit of a different question. I am OK with gag reflex (when it happens, I deal with it) but for the first time am with a man who loves deep throat. Difficulty was less with gagging and more with getting my throat open, plus after we do it I find a have a sore throat! Is this normal? Will the sore throat go away with practise?

    • Sean Jameson April 2, 2014 at 9:41 am #

      Hi Sandy,

      Firstly, make sure that you don’t do anything that could seriously hurts yourself. If you find that your man’s penis a bit too big, then you will have trouble actually fitting it in your throat.

      Best,

      Sean

  41. Armeegrl March 30, 2014 at 10:40 pm #

    Hi Sean,

    I am so glad I finally found this site. I have been married to my husband for seven years but we’ve been together for ten. I have never been comfortable with blow jobs as I’ve never been able to find any decent instruction and my husband has often told me he doesn’t think he should have to teach me. I’ve been more worried about ultimately dissapointing him than finding out how i can please him so up until about two years ago I did not even want to attempt to please him with a blow job. Two weeks ago I finally found your site and a few days ago I was able to purchase the blowjob bible. Its a lot more convenient to listen to your book than read it as I have two small kids and a full time job but i’ve been listenting to it over and over and finally tried a couple of techiniques on my husband. He was SSOOO happy that I was even trying to get better at giving him a blow job but was incredibly pleased with the techniques I used. He couldn’t even speak at the end. I can’t wait to try more techniques tonight. Giving him a decent blowjob and knowing that he was so pleased with my performance was a major turn on for me. I’m really looking forward to practicing on him now. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your wonderful instructions!!

  42. Mo April 4, 2014 at 8:24 am #

    Hey Sean,
    So I’ve been with my man for almost three years now and we are about as open as it gets, but when it comes to oral sex for us things just aren’t that great. And it’s not for lack of effort. We are both 100% honest about our sexual history (me having hardly any experience and him being in the double digits) and as far as I know he’s only been able to cum once when being given a blow job and that was with me almost a year ago and we both were a little drunk. He used to never even be able to stay up during a bj but now he stays hard throughout but still doesn’t cum, he says he’s never really been one for blow jobs but I’d really like to get it to the point I can make him cum without either of us being intoxicated. I’ve tried everything, he doesn’t like his balls being touched (he says it tickles), he sometimes likes his taint rubbed but very rarely, and he only likes his prostate being stimulated when he is drunk, I’ve even learned how to deepthroat him which he loves but it still doesn’t make him cum. What would you suggest I do?

    • Sean Jameson April 7, 2014 at 9:36 am #

      Hi Mo,

      The truth is that some guys love blow jobs and some guys aren’t the biggest fans. The absolute worst thing that you can do though is fixate on it…it will just make it a bigger issue in your mind. The best thing you can do is talk to your man about it to truly understand it and how he feels

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