Learning how to give a blowjob is not difficult. I’m going to show you why. Just follow the advice below you will soon be giving your man a great blowjob.
Having talked to many girls about learning how to give a great blowjob to their man, I have realised that giving your guy great oral sex comes down to a few key things which I cover in depth below. These are:
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Knowing Some Fantastic Blowjob Techniques
Building Your Sexual Confidence
5 Fantastic Blowjob Techniques To Use Tonight
The most important part of giving your man a great blowjob is knowing and using the best blow job techniques to give him maximum pleasure. Below are 5 of my favorite BJ techniques,
Building Up
When you are going to give your man a blowjob, his orgasm will be far more powerful if you slowly build up towards it, instead of just ripping his pants off the minute things start heat up. So how can your build up to giving him a blowjob?
The build up to a blowjob can almost be as important as the blowjob itself!
Start with the obvious stuff, foreplay. This means kissing and cuddling him. While you are kissing and cuddling, slowly lower one of your hands until it is down by his crotch. Start to slowly massage his penis and balls outside his trousers. After a minute or two of this, start to unbutton his trousers and lower them, so that you can easily access his penis with your hands. Gently grab hold of his penis with your hand and slowly start to massage it up and down. In other words, start to give him a gentle hand job.
The reason? Applying just a tiny amount of pressure helps to build up tension so that when you do eventually start giving him a blowjob, he will orgasm a lot harder. You can give him this gentle handjob for just minute or up to 10 minutes. Just remember that the longer you give it to him, the more likely he is going to blow his load.
After giving him this very gentle handjob for a while, it’s time to lower your head down towards his crotch.
This will help to further build the tension for your man
To keep building up the tension before you start sucking his penis, start to very softly and gently kiss his penis. Just purse your lips together and kiss his penis all over. This means that you need to kiss the head (aka the glans) of his penis all the way down to the bottom of his shaft.
After 20 seconds to 2 minutes of this kissing, start to lick it. This is really easy. Just stick out your tongue and slowly lick his penis. It’s much easier to lick his penis upwards from the bottom of his shaft to the top instead of licking it up and down. The underside of a man’s penis is the easiest side to lick and coincidentally it’s also the most pleasurable. This is because the corpus spongiosum which runs the length of the underside of his shaft and the frenulum are both located on the underside of a man’s penis. But don’t forget about the head! After another 30 seconds to 2 minutes of licking his penis, it’s finally time to take his penis into your mouth and actually start sucking his cock!
Hand & Suck
Using your hands is crucial if you are serious about giving a great blowjob.
The Hand & Suck is a common blowjob tip, but it’s still very powerful. I advise everyone to use this technique if they are serious about giving their man a lot pleasure when learning how to give a good blowjob.
To perform the Hand & Suck, you need the take about the first inch of your man’s penis into your mouth. When it’s inside your mouth, you need to use your tongue to massage it. Just simply rub your tongue back and forth over his penis or instead make a circular motion using your tongue over his head.
You’ll find that the top side of your tongue (the side with all your tastebuds) provides more stimulation as it’s slightly rougher.
While using your mouth to give the top of his penis a blowjob, you need you grab the rest of his penis with one of your hands (two hands can work also, but you’ll find that one hand is easier). Now just simply use this hand to give him a handjob. I find that it’s best to alternate the amount of pressure you apply using your hand.
The Tongue Squeeze
This is one of my favorite techniques for 2 reasons.
Depending on the setting, you can make your blowjob an act of dominance or submission…
The Tongue Squeeze is one of the more advanced techniques that you should try when learning how to give head to your man. To perform it you need to take your man’s penis quite deep into your mouth. So if you have a very sensitive gag reflex, this technique may not be for you.
Once you have his penis in your mouth, you need use your tongue to push it upwards so that the head/glans is forced against against your palate. Your palate is the hard bit of flesh on the top of your mouth.
While the head of his penis is forced onto the top of your palate, use your tongue to massage the underside of his penis, from his shaft all the way up past his frenulum. You’ll find that using your hand to keep his cock in place is a good idea so that your jaw and tongue don’t get too tired.
The only problem with the Tongue Squeeze to give your man a blowjob is that sometimes your mouth will be too small or his penis will be too big for your to perform it comfortably. But if his penis fits comfortably, he will enjoy it a lot!
Don’t Forget About His Balls
When a lot of people are first learning how to give oral sex to their boyfriend, they only concentrate on his dick. This is perfectly fine, but…
Stimulating his balls is really easy, much easier than sucking his penis in fact. To stimulate them, you just need to use an open palm to slowly and gently rub the up and down. When you first start to massage them, make sure to only use a tiny bit of pressure as you don’t want to hurt him. Then when you can tell he is enjoying it, start to vary the amount of pressure you use to see what he likes best.
Just using your palm is easy. A slightly more advanced technique is to use your fingers. You can slowly run them over his balls. This may tickle him slightly, but it feels really wonderful at the same time. Make sure that you have filed down any rough edges on your nails before you start fondling his testicles to prevent yourself from accidentally giving him any nicks, scratches or cuts.
Eye Contact
Maintaining eye contact with your man during a blowjob can make it feel far more intimate.
Maintaining eye contact with your man is a very interesting and often misunderstood oral sex technique when you are learning how to give your guy a blowjob. You won’t realise it until you first try it, but it’s really powerful. Most men like taking on a dominant role when having sex with their partner. When you are on your knees, looking up at him, you are actively taking on a submissive role, which will enhance his dominant feelings.
The main reason that eye contact is so misunderstood when giving your man a blow job is that it’s actually really difficult to do properly. You may feel awkward, shy or even a little nervous doing it, especially if you want to hold eye contact with your man for a long time. This is why I consider eye contact to be a Pro technique in The Blow Job Bible.
If you want to learn how to build your sexual confidence when giving your man a blowjob so that maintaining eye contact with him is easier, the keep reading…
Building Your Sexual Confidence
When you are thinking about how to give a blow job to your man, you may be wondering about all these different blowjob positions and blowjob techniques as well as some of the more advanced stuff like giving your man deep throat. But there’s a catch:
It will be a lot more sexually satisfying for your man if you appear confident and know what you are doing.
If you are not that sexually confident, then this can be quite tough for you. Below are some great blowjob tips that you should use to help build your sexual confidence.
Practice, Practice, Practice
If you want to get more confident at the prospect of going down on your man, then you need to practice first. But not necessarily on your man. The best object for practicing on is a peeled banana. It is soft but firm, so it won’t hurt your throat. It also tastes great! There is literally nothing better than using a peeled banana, but if you want, you can also experiment with a dildo or another object.
Sexual Confidence Is Not Just About Sex
Often girls get confused when I talk about sexual confidence. Being sexually confident is not just about being good at sex. Instead it’s about being comfortable with your body and who you are as well as knowing some great sex positions and techniques.
So if you think that learning every blowjob technique, position and tip is going to give you all the sexual confidence you need, then you are sadly missing an important point. To get sexually confident, you need to get comfortable with who you are. The truth is that nobody is perfect and everyone has things about themselves that they wish were different, but can’t change.
To get more comfortable with who you are takes time. The important thing is to realize that most of the things you worry about are not actually that big of a deal.
Remember That He Is Probably Nervous Too
Don’t forget that guys often lack sexual confidence also. He may be worried about not getting an erection or even about maintaining his erection. He also may be worried about cuming too quickly or not cuming at all. These are the main things that guys get nervous about, but there are tons more.
So the next time you give head to your man, remember…
Avoid These Blowjob Mistakes & Pitfalls!
To give him a good blowjob requires you using some oral sex positions and techniques AND completely avoid making the following mistakes.
Don’t Use Your Teeth!
Remember that his penis is incredibly sensitive. That means you need to be careful with your teeth!
This one should be totally obvious, but is often easy to forget. Your man’s penis is the most sensitive part of his body. Using your teeth on it is excruciatingly painful for him. Sometimes it’s almost completely unavoidable because he penis is either too big or your mouth is too small.
But how do you prevent yourself from using your teeth? The answer is pretty simple, just wrap your lips over your teeth. It’s not the most pleasant thing for you, but your man will really appreciate it.
The only time when using your teeth is okay, is when you very gently and lightly drag them over his penis to tease him and give him a slightly different sensation to your soft lips and tongue. Remember, light & gentle. He should barely feel it.
Don’t Use Blow Jobs To Manipulate
Nothing will ruin a relationship faster than if you use oral sex (and regular sex) to manipulate your man. This means withholding sex from him until he does something for you or as a punishment. Obviously there are times when he will be inconsiderate or you will just not be in the mood, which is a perfectly fine reason not to have sex with your man. But using it as a weapon to manipulate him will slowly poison and ruin your relationship.
Don’t Rely On Just One Position Or Technique (Hint: Use Variation)
When you find a great blowjob technique or oral sex position that your man really enjoys, you may feel like using it every single time you give him fellatio. Don’t. He will invariably get bored of it. Instead, it’s a much better strategy to constantly vary what you do, while using the blow job techniques that he enjoys most a little more often than the other bj techniques you know.
The phrase “Variation Is The Spice Of Life” may ring a few bells. It’s completely true.
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Thank you Sean!!!
I read over these tips mostly out of curiosity and to try new things in bed because I found myself getting bored of giving bjs. Now… I love it! And so does my man. Your tips really work and have inspired me to try out even more things using my imagination. I have my man literally begging for more now, which is definitely a first. So again thank you. You’re awesome!
Shannon
Hi Luna/Shannon,
Thanks for your kind words, glad I could help. Make sure to check out the blog for all the latest updates to the site!
Sean
Oh my goodness your tips and tricks work AMAZINGLY WELL! I used to just give oral sex to my boyfriend because I knew how much he enjoyed it. But now I think I like it more than he does haha. The two things he absolutely loves is when I use a little mouth wash before because of the cooling sensation, and when I can comfortably look at him during. Now I feel so much sexier and more confident knowing a few tricks. Thanks so much! We both really appreciate it!
- V
Glad to hear you enjoy my tips so much V. Make sure to check out the blog to keep up to date with my latest sex tips and techniques!
So what do you do if your mouth is too small? …
Hi Sarah,
Having a small mouth is really only a minor inconvenience when it comes to having a great sex life. It’s not something that you should worry about too much. The main problem with having a small mouth is that it’s much more likely that you will accidentally scrap your man’s penis when trying to take it into your mouth.
But you don’t have to take his penis right into your mouth to give him a good BJ. Remember that the tip is the most sensitive part for him. So concentrate on this with your lips and tongue. But you can also lick, kiss and suckle the rest of his penis without ever taking it into your mouth.
Sean
Find a smaller dick or just suck the tip
I have had a major issue, almost like an OCD about BJs and kept avoiding it. But I think it is about time I got rid of my hesitation. And this is what brought me here. Firstly, I have major issues with looking at him while I’m doing it. Second, I get demoralised very easily and leave it in the middle. And I emit nervous vibes while I’m at it. Any form of bossiness from him discourages me. I want to get rid of these, please help. Also, you are immensely helpful. If only I could do it without hesitation or a mind block.
Thanks.
The key is to take baby steps and to talk to him about it, to let him know what you like and don’t like when giving him a blowjob. Start off by giving him a very simple blowjob, by just stroking his shaft with your hand and licking the tip of his penis. Then as you give him more and more blowjobs, start to add more techniques that I mention throughout this section.
It’s also important to let your man know what you enjoy and don’t enjoy him doing when you are giving him a blowjob. If him being bossy is something that you find discouraging, then let him know. But also make sure to let him know about the things that you find encouraging and enjoyable that he does when you’re giving him head.
Im going 2 try this on my man tonight!
Good to hear Dawn, hope it goes well for you!
One thing I learned accidentally while brushing my teeth in the shower is that if you hold the liquified tooth paste in your mouth instead of spitting it out, you can use it as a lube for either oral or just sex, the mint will provide a hot and cold variation that leaves a tingling sensation. The same feeling it has in your mouth, like what V said about mouthwash only slightly easier since the toothpaste provides a much thicker substance to work with so you can eliminate the fear of accidentally swallowing. It works great and cleans your teeth at the same time!
I found its much more to giving head to your man then just sucking.i beleave i may be able to now keep him home.thanks
Truee!
Do you have any tips for calming my nerves? I’m scared to give my Fiancée a BJ!!
-cherellynne
I always advise people to start slowly and then build up to giving him a blowjob. You can start by just rubbing his crotch with your hand outside his pants. Then once you’re comfortable with that then try giving him a handjob. Then afterwards, when you are comfortable with that you can finally try to give him a blowjob. It’s totally natural to feel a bit nervous. The key is to keep moving forward and trying new things (that you are happy to do for your man).
Thanks for the tips we will be trying these tonight. I am going to make him very happy tonight.
Great to hear! Also, I love your name…Ms. Love
Omg.!! I can’t wait to try these tips .!!! I think my guys going to like them .!! Im trying some tomorrow.!!
i love you Sean….the world needs swities like u.i ve learnt alot frm u…thnx,mwa
Thanks! This kind of feedback makes it all worthwhile!
Dont forget to swallow!
I like giving my guy a blowjob, but when I wrap my lips around my teeth, so I don’t bite him, my lips get sore. Any advice as to how to avoid this?
Hi Kt,
This is unfortunately one of those annoying things that you are just going to have to deal with I’m afraid. Unless your man can somehow shrink his penis or you can magically widen your mouth, there is unfortunately very little you can do. Sorry
Sean
Hey Kt, I find that wrapping my lips around my teeth gets sore too and can be very distracting, I find that wrapping my lips only when I am going quite deeper and then unwrapping when I am just paying attention to the top & unlikely to scrape him helps a lot, and alternating between lots of different things helps my lips and jaw from getting sore. Plus my husband absolutely loves the variation!
How can I keep from gagging while deepthroating? I’m not exactly sure how to fix it….
Hi L,
Check out this article on deep throating for more advice.
Hei Sean, can you please provide some blow job tips with tongue piercing? how to make him feel the pierceing? thanks! xxx
Great question! The tip of your man’s penis is the most sensitive, so I would suggest trying to rubbing the piercing on that. The most important thing though is judging his reaction. Some guys may love it, while others may not be so turned on by it. He will also most likely enjoy feeling it run over his balls.
I know more than one man who really enjoys teeth and being bitten. You shouldn’t assume that all guys hate teeth!
Hi B,
You’re absolutely right. Quite a few guys enjoy it, especially if you are just lightly grazing him or nibbling his penis ON PURPOSE. However it can get incredibly uncomfortable for your man if you don’t even realise that you are doing it constantly. The most important thing here is communication. Ask him and find out from him what he likes and prefers.
Sean
wow! this advice!
you really are amazing!
iloveyou! haha x thankyou
Dude, you are a genius. I sent my girlfriend several links to your site, and according to her, she read everything on every page. She didn’t buy any of your books because she lives with her parents and doesn’t want them to find out, but she read everything on your site, and jesus, dude.
Her blowjobs are the best I’ve ever received. In. My. Life. Thanks so much for putting all this up here, or me and her would have been over a long time ago.
Hi Phil,
Great to hear! Thank you so much for your feedback
Sean
Hi I’m Sam and I have a major problem. I’ve done it before but was really young (younger than I like to talk about, the guy took advantage of the fact that I was new to sexual feelings, just hitting that stage in adolescence.) But yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I were able to do it. I actually have two problems. Even though I don’t particularly have a small mouth I have a bad habit of scraping my teeth against the penis, which hurts him, and I found myself apologizing multiple times during it…also another problem is the gag reflex I have. One thing I enjoy that he did is that UE controls my head, pushing it up and down (I know I’m weird but he usually has me be the controlling one because he gets turned on from being controlled.) But…I can’t get his penis in more than like two inches without gagging and had to stop him from pushing my head, even stop sucking completely a few times to keep myself from throwing up….what do I do??????
Hi Sam,
Don’t worry too much about having a small mouth, it’s not the worst thing in the world. If you find yourself scraping his penis with your mouth, then try wrapping your lips over your teeth so that they act like a cushion.
As for your gag reflex, some people have a strong gag reflex, while others have none at all. The great thing is that you can slowly train your gag reflex to get weaker and weaker until it’s hardly noticeable. You’ll find some great tips on reducing your gag reflex in this article on deep throating.
Sean