How To Give A Hand Job To Your Man

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Learning how to give a great hand job to your man is an important tool to have in your arsenal. Along with knowing how to give a great blowjob and some great sex positions, knowing how to give a handjob properly will take your sex skills to the next level. You may be wondering what the ‘single best handjob technique’ or the ‘way to make it perfect every time’.

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The truth is there is no ‘single best handjob technique’ or ‘way to make it perfect every time’

This is crucial to understand. It’s something I teach in my FREE Bad Girl’s Bible newsletter. The truth is, different guys like different things. So if you think that one single technique will work every time on every guy, then you are unfortunately wrong. Fortunately this article will teach you enough different hand job techniques so that you will always have something that your man will thoroughly enjoy.

Now you are probably wondering, what are these handjob techniques…

Tease, Tease & Tease Some More!

You are probably well aware that most guys can get turned on very quickly and very easily, right? A lot of girls take this to mean that they should bring a man to orgasm the minute he is aroused.

Getting a quick handjob can be fun for guys, but only very occasionally.

A much better way, to make your man’s orgasm far more enjoyable is to tease him and slowly build up to his orgasm so that when he finally does cum, he has an incredibly powerful and fulfilling orgasm. So what hand job techniques can you use to to make it more satisfying and fulfilling for him?

Outside His Trousers

Before you even take his penis out of his trousers, a great technique is to slowly and gently massage his penis outside his trousers. This is probably the easiest thing you can do to turn him on and arouse him. You just need to use your hand(s) to massage his inner thighs, his testicles and his penis outside his trousers (it’s that simple!)

You’ll find that you can also use your fingers to slowly ‘tickle’ his balls and penis. You can use this technique for as little as a minute before you start giving him a handjob or for many hours before you start giving him a handjob (like when you are at a party or club together).

Reach Inside

After a rubbing your man outside his trousers for a while, you will then want to move inside. You will just need to unzip his trousers and pull them down. You may be eager to start giving him a handjob the minute you see his penis, but at this stage, it’s still a good idea to keep teasing him and building anticipation. So for between 10 seconds to 2 minutes, start to massage his penis and ‘tickle’ his balls with your fingers to further build anticipation.

Grab That Shaft!

At this stage you should be able to feel a lot of precum at the tip of your man’s penis. This is a good sign that you have been doing everything right and that he is highly aroused. Now you need to actually grab his penis to start giving him a handjob.

Just wrap your hand around his shaft like you would if you were grabbing a handrail. Then just start to move your hand up and down so that you are masturbating his penis. That’s all there is to it…although this is just the basic hand job technique. If you have never given a handjob before, you may want to stick with only this technique until your man cums.

Rub The Head

Giving your man a handjob by only concentrating on the shaft is fine. But if you want to give your man a really powerful orgasm, then you need to pay attention to the head of his penis too. The head of your man’s penis (also called the glans) is much more sensitive than the rest his shaft or balls.

The best way to stimulate the head of your man’s penis with your hand is to rub it. Using your thumb is the easiest way to rub it, while the rest of your hand is gripping his shaft. You can also use the rest of your fingers or your palm if you want.

His Balls

When you first start learning about giving your man a hand job, you will mostly be working his penis (shaft & head). But if you are serious about giving your man a super pleasurable hand job, then you can’t forget about concentrating on his balls too. Your man’s balls are almost as sensitive as his penis, but more importantly, they provide your man with a different type of stimulation.

The only thing to keep in mind to make sure that you don’t apply too much pressure and hurt him!

All you need to do is rub them with your palm and fingers. You will also find that your man likes it when you slowly and gently drag your fingers and nails over them (just make sure not to accidentally cut or nick them!).

Finishing Up

When your man is about to cum, you will be able to tell: he will start breathing a lot faster and will often start to groan. When you hear him doing this, then it’s time speed up, right until he cums.

When you can feel him start to cum, his penis will become very sensitive and even sore to touch. This is when you will need to slow down and release practically all the pressure you are applying to his penis so that you are only holding it very lightly.

These 3 techniques are all you need to give your man a basic handjob. To provide maximum pleasure to your man, just alternative between all 3 to see which he enjoys the most. Obviously if you are interested in learning more, then you should check out the FREE Bad Girl’s Bible newsletter…or

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  1. natalya April 8, 2013 at 1:01 pm #

    Hi
    I can not find any thing about anal sex in your site.would you please learn about this kind of sex.

    Thanks in advance.

  2. Sara April 16, 2013 at 4:52 pm #

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years and things are getting a little boring (routine) in the bedroom. I would like to learn how to give a hand job. Maybe it would spruce things up a bit. I am a little nervous about doing this though… I’ve never really given one. I have started before but stopped. I’m always afraid that I’m gripping him too tight or not tight enough. It would be so much easier if women could try a penis on for a day… It really would clear a lot of things up.

    • Sean Jameson April 19, 2013 at 8:40 am #

      Lol, this made me laugh! Hope it works out for you!

      Sean

  3. krystal May 3, 2013 at 1:59 am #

    I’ve read several articles on your website and they are all things I’ve never done any advice

    • Sean Jameson May 6, 2013 at 8:22 am #

      Hi Krystal,
      My advice is to try out some of the easier-to-do things that you are most comfortable with trying.

      Sean

  4. Serafina May 20, 2013 at 11:08 pm #

    What is the best position in which to give hand jobs? is standing in front of him too hard? what about sitting on his lap while making out?

  5. Serafina May 21, 2013 at 12:19 am #

    What are the best positions in which to give hand jobs? does standing up work?

    • Sean Jameson May 27, 2013 at 2:14 pm #

      Hi Serafina,
      It really comes down to your and your man’s personal preferences. There is no ‘best handjob position’. So standing up, sitting down and even lying down can all work great.

      Sean

      • RN June 27, 2013 at 7:47 am #

        Personal experience and believe me I’m a hand-job freak. I’d pass-up sex for a good hand job – if you’ll believe me. There’s something so intense about a good hand-job from someone you care deeply about that its in-describe-able.

        Ok so for the position: Get him to lie on his back on the bed. Sit at the side of his knees, facing him and able to look into his eyes and give him a hand-job. Look into his eyes and do it. You can also use your free hand to rub his chest and stomach.

        Do it that way and see – you’ll be his queen forever!

  6. Natasha August 2, 2013 at 7:13 am #

    So I have limited experience, and I’ve been reading over this page extensively because I recently had a handjob experience that befuddled me slightly. I like to think of myself as fairly informed in sexual matters and have been able to pleasure myself (and other women) with my hands no problem. I know that men are different but I always assumed that it would be a little bit easier! So basically I was with a guy and I knew he was really excited; I’d led up to it with lots of foreplay, kissing, stroking over the pants and teasing his thighs, getting him into it, and when we got to it he was even giving instruction on what to do (“touch the head a little more”, etc) which I took to be a good sign. Communication is key, right? And I would adjust and he would be very vocal. So I guess my curiosity is about how as things really started to pick up, he seemed to get frustrated and “took over” for a minute, doing it at a much faster pace than I had (maybe frustration and impatience), and then when he was about to come led my hand back over to help him finish. I guess this was a case of my not doing it fast and hard enough? I guess I just felt a little insecure since I don’t usually have such a problem getting people off – much more difficult people, in fact – or so I thought!

    • Sean Jameson August 5, 2013 at 9:21 am #

      Hi Natasha,
      Often the problem lies in the fact that your man may be used to masturbating on his own with his ‘own special technique’. If he is, then he will have pretty much trained himself to only get off by his own hand and it’s not actually a case of being ‘hard and fast enough’

      So the most likely scenario is that it’s not your problem or fault in the least.

      Sean

  7. sugar August 11, 2013 at 12:25 am #

    hi i have a major crush on this boy at school and he is way out of my league so how do I attract his attention? I really like him but am afraid to talk to him because word would get round that I chatted him up or whatever :(
    anyway what should I do!?!?!?!?
    thanks
    sugar xx

  8. liz August 21, 2013 at 7:34 am #

    hi sean, me and my guy have been together for a while but i have never given him a handjob. i was just wondering how fast to go? like, do most men prefer faster or slower? also, will i need lube?

    • Sean Jameson August 26, 2013 at 7:28 am #

      Hi Liz,

      My advice is to start very slow (almost like you are teasing him) and then slowly build up your speed. When your man is cumming though, try to slow right down.

      Enjoy!

      Sean

      • Dimple Rajeesh April 4, 2014 at 11:01 pm #

        Hi,

        I’m 26 year old from India. I do always handjob myself. I’m scared of that i’m doing often is danger as i thinking. I dont knw much about that if i do dailybasis, is it any problem to my body or anything ? Please suggest me regarding this.

        • Sean Jameson April 7, 2014 at 9:15 am #

          It shouldn’t be a problem as long as you are not hurting yourself.

          Sean

  9. Kel September 25, 2013 at 5:25 pm #

    Hi,
    Great site. I’m not sure how to word my question… I’ve heard that life is like a dry hand job.

    Does a dry hand job hurt a man? In my experience licking the hand or spitting on it works wonders for slicking things up down there during a handie. Also, pulling foreskin back? Should that always happen? Should one be gentle whilst doing so?

    I’ve always used hand jobs with blow jobs and have shied away from strictly hand action because I’ve never been clear about these things. Thank you!

    • Sean Jameson September 30, 2013 at 4:32 pm #

      Hi Kel,

      In general, a dry handjob is not great at all. But at the end of the day it really depends on your man’s preferences. It can hurt him if you are rough with him. Otherwise, it won’t hurt him at all. Don’t worry too much about pulling the foreskin back. It’s not that important if you do or don’t.

      Sean

    • david December 6, 2013 at 6:40 am #

      If you have extremely soft hands and they and his shaft are COMPLETELY dry… you can cup his balls in one hand and super lightly hold his shaft with the other while sliding up and down very slowly. You don’t want you feel any friction… just a light rubbing of your hand and his cock. You probably won’t get him off like this, but if your hands are really soft, it can be a VERY sensual and pleasing experience to start his engine before you progress to a more “normal” style with spit/lube.

      I on firmness of the grip, I can say that I’m a pretty firm believer in the tighter the pussy the better it feels!!! LOL Some guys can’t handle it tight because they cum too fast… but my exwife was 4’10″ 86lbs and a virgin when we met. 2 years later my pinky SOAKED in Astroglide would still make her cringe… (granted with tons of Astroglide, going slow, gentle, and lots of foreplay… she still tore/ripped everytime we had sex for well over a year… and I’m just “average”) but I could still last an hour plus… My point? If you use a LOT of lube, it’s almost impossible to squeeze the shaft too tight. Unless you are a professional arm wrestler or something, you won’t squeeze it too hard unless you are just focusing everything you have on trying to squeeze his dick in half!!! So as long as you can slide up and down his cock pretty quick, you aren’t holding it too tight, and it isn’t going to hurt 99% of guys. Realize some women are SO tight inside that they act like a cock ring and even if the guy sits inside and relaxes so long he gets soft, he will not come out because she is so tight the blood can’t leave his cock. I have been blessed with dating a couple women tighter than any woman has ever been able to manually squeeze my cock… so lube it up and when it’s sliding good and he gets close, squeeze it TIGHT and say “how would you like it if my pussy was this tight” while grinning at him and watch his eyes roll and toes curl… just watch where you aim, because you may make him cum SO hard it hits the ceiling!!! Though, to me, nothing is better than a woman who loves my cum so much that right as I start to cum she puts the head in her mouth and strokes me until I feed her my cum!!! Swallowing can be EXTREMELY sensual if done properly!!! (Yes, to me there is a right and wrong way to swallow!!! But I’m OCD and don’t settle for average sex… if I’m going to bother having sex, at least one of us will be seeing stars before we finish. If you’re gonna do it, do it right!!! That’s my motto. LOL)

  10. Kelly January 8, 2014 at 12:31 pm #

    For posistions for the hand job me and my boyfriend ussually have him.laying down and me at his side over him slightly so we can still kiss yet i am not crushing his body. Also i like when we are in bed and hes facing away from me and i get him from behind we both find this so sexy and its a different way to enjoy its simple but enjoyable. Xx

  11. susan February 8, 2014 at 11:42 am #

    Hi, I’m a female and would like to know the best way to give clitoral stimulation,iI’ve read your article on it but it doesn’t work for me…

    • Sean Jameson February 17, 2014 at 9:24 am #

      Hi Susan,

      The first thing you need to do is get yourself in the mood. For some this could be watching porn, reading some erotica or even just imagining your favorite fantasy. Then start rubbing around your clitoris, but paying close attention to what feels best and focusing on doing that.

      Sean

  12. help... March 16, 2014 at 6:40 am #

    hi, i have a slight problem, and that is that i have chicken arms soo i get tired pretty easy when giving my boyfriend a hand job and it’s hard to make him finish cause i give up soo please if you could give some advice then that would be great ! :)

    • Sean Jameson March 17, 2014 at 10:20 am #

      There’s a few things you can do when you arms get tired. You can start by switching hands, you can also try resting your arms by giving him a blow job or you can try using your hands to slowly caress his legs to give yourself a break

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