9 Kinky Sex Ideas: Very Freaky Tips To Spice Up Sex

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Sometimes regular sex just doesn’t do it for you anymore. It that’s the case, then it’s time for some kinky sex! The Bad Girl’s Bible is here to help with 9 kinky sex ideas that will show you new and exciting ways to get off with your man.

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Kinky sex is perfect for spicing things up in the bedroom. Try it and see for yourself!

The 9 kinky sex tips are below, and then after them, I will show you how to talk about how to introduce the idea of having kinkier sex to your man. 

1) Restraints

The great thing about using restraints during sex is that it’s up to you how far you want to go with them.

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You can use restraints lightly and still make it kinky, by simply using a bra or stockings to lightly to be tied to the bed so that your man has more control than usual.

But if you like, you can get a little more serious and invest in handcuffs, shackles, straightjackets and more to take it to where your man is in total control of you. As you can imagine this makes for much more kinky sex!

Here are a few scenarios that you can try with your man when using restraints:

  • Get tied to the bed
  • Tie your man to the bed and give him a blowjob or handjob
  • Get your hands tied behind your back
  • Get tied to a chair
  • Have your arms and feet bound like a kidnap victim
  • Get hogtied
  • Wear cuffs and a collar that can be tied together quickly and easily

These are just a few ideas to try out with your man, but don’t forget to do these things to him too!

2) Punishment & Spanking

Many find the idea of getting punished by a strict master or mistress to be a super kinky sex idea while some adore the thought of being the one who punishes their man! Some even like switching between the 2.

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A simple way to try out spanking and getting punished by your man is to just lie down on your bed naked and have your man spank you with his hand a few times.

If you find that you enjoy getting spanked by your man, then let him know and think about trying other more kinky scenarios. And don’t forget about adding in dirty talk to you spanking sessions.

  • Maybe you could using a whip instead? Or a paddle? Or a flogger? Or a cane?
  • You could add in elements of restraint too.
  • You roleplay being a naughty schoolgirl or a bratty kid and your man has to punish you.
  • Ask your man what he would like to try with you.
  • Don’t forget that there are lots of other ways to punish and be punished. Nipples clamps, eye contact restrictions, etc.
  • Again don’t forget to try switching roles here, you might find that you have just as much fun delivering punishment and some spankings!

3) Sensory Deprivation

Sensory deprivation is a really kinky sex idea to try out with your man. Just like with Punishment & Spanking, you can be quite tame but you can move all the way up to being very extreme too!

What makes sensory deprivation so kinky is that you are blocking one or more of the 5 senses in order to confuse, arouse and hopefully heighten your other senses.

So what kinds of things can you do to experience sensory deprivation?

  • Use earplugs to block out your sense of sound
  • Use earplugs in your nose to block out your sense of smell
  • Use mittens on your hands to block out your sense of touch
  • Wear a blindfold to block what you see
  • A fun game is to blindfold your man, put ear plugs in his ears and then get him to guess what sex position you put him in.
  • Try using some or all of these techniques together for an even more powerful effect
  • You will also find that using restraints as well as some of these sensory deprivation techniques will greatly heighten your experience!

4) Get Kinky With Public Play

Another great kinky sex idea is public play with your man. Some people find this to be a massive turn on, while others don’t find it that hot at all.

Public play does not necessarily have to involve you doing things with your man in public places. It can be in a private place, but in front of other people. So what sort of things can you do with your man during public play?
To be honest…anything.

Take all of the naughty, kinky ideas that I’ve already described above as examples of what you could do and include other things like:

  • Giving your man a blowjob or handjob in front of other people.
  • Having sex in front of other people.
  • Being paraded in front of other people by your man.

If you are on the fence about public play or not sure, then just try it once and decide afterwards if you enjoyed the experience.

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5) Master & Slave

The master and slave scenario (or mistress and slave scenario) is one that many find to be incredibly hot and kinky. And it’s pretty simple too!

One of you is going to be in charge calling all the shots, while the other is the slave who will have to follow all the orders. They can be very simple orders or instead they can be quite tough ones:

Simple Kinky Orders & Demands:

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Wearing a collar can make it feel extra kinky!

  • Kiss my feet
  • Get down on your knees
  • Get me a glass of wine
  • Show me your breasts/ass/other body part

Tougher Kinky Orders & Demands:

  • Clean the house
  • Get down on your knees, crawl to me, unbutton my trousers and suck my cock
  • Do a striptease for me
  • Get the whip so I can spank you
  • Turn around, stick your ass in the air and present yourself to me

6) Gags

Another kinky idea to make sex more interesting is to use a gag on yourself or your partner. A lot of people view wearing a gag as a cross between Sensory Deprivation and Restraints as you are restrained from speaking, meaning that you can’t communicate properly.

Before wearing a gag during sex, make sure to test it out first to make sure that it’s comfortable.

Make sure to agree limits and boundaries if you do. Having a safety sign is very important here.

You can buy a gag specifically for this or if you don’t want to spend money, then try using something like a used pair of panties or a shirt.

7) The Kinky Director

The ‘Kinky Director’ is a kinky game that you can play with your man to really spice things up in the bedroom. You don’t necessarily need a camera to play, but it can be fun if you want to watch it once you are finished.

One of you is going to be the director, while the other is the star who wants to be famous, following the directors every word. The Director might command you to:

Don’t forget that both you and your man should make up your own demands as well. And don’t forget to change roles!

8) Wrestling

Wrestling with your man is a surprisingly hot and kinky sex tip that you should try at least once.

You are just going to be play wrestling with your man, just like you did with friends/siblings as a kid, except obviously this time there is going to be more of a sexual element to it!

If you have a submissive side to your personality, then you’ll find it really hot to struggle with your man and then eventually get pinned down by him, before he gets to have his way with you. All the while you should be struggling to break free.

If you are more of a dominant person, then you are going to be the one in control, pinning your man’s hands above his head, spreading his legs and getting exactly what you want. This is perfect for trying out some girl on top positions on your man.

While wrestling with your man, make sure to keep it light hearted and fun (unless you get turned on by more serious aggression!). Also make sure to use a safe word, just in case.

9) Sex Toys

I thought that you’d forgotten about sex toys Sean!

Of course not!

There are so many different types of sex toys that you can use with your man to have more kinky, naughty, dirty horny fun in the bedroom. The key is trying a few of them out and then deciding on the ones that you really like. There are literally thousands to choose from. Here are a few to give you some ideas:

  • Dildos
  • Vibrators
  • Remote Controlled Eggs
  • Fucking Machines
  • Strap Ons
  • Restraints
  • Collars
  • Whips
  • Ben Wa Balls
  • Anal Beads
  • Butt Plugs
  • This list could go on and on. In Truth, there is almost an endless array of different sex toys you could use!

There you have it, 9 wonderful kinky sex ideas

Introducing Your Man To Kinkier Sex

So maybe you are keen and ready to start trying exciting, kinky and sexy new things in the bedroom, but how do you get your man on board?

Compliment His Adventurousness

This is probably the easiest and best way to start. Let your man know that you appreciate and enjoy his adventurousness in the sack. If you both had a particularly fun sex session, then send him a message the following day making sure to praise his adventurousness,

Last night was amazing, I love how adventurous you are in the bedroom! x

or

You made me cum so hard last night! I love how you always have something up your sleeve in the bedroom x

or

You always have so many fun ideas in bed, I love it!

If you do this a good few times over a number of weeks, your man will start to actually see himself as adventurous and will want to maintain his adventurousness in front of you.

Tell Him About A Book/Movie/Magazine You Read On Kinky Sex

At the same time as complimenting your man on being adventurous, you also need to drop hints about your kinkier thoughts, ideas and desires.

  • Let him know that you’ve been reading some erotica (50 shades of gray anyone?)
  • Tell him about a magazine article you’ve been reading on kinky sex. Ask him what he thinks about it?
  • Just watched a hot movie? Tell your man about the scenes that really turned you on.

Remember the goal of talking about kinky sex with your man is NOT to make him jealous. It’s to get it out in the open so that it seems completely normal to him.

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Wanna get spanked? Watch some spanking porn with your man to give him a hint!

Ask Him If He Wants To Watch Porn With You

Another way to get your man thinking about kinky sex with you is to ask him watch if he’d like to watch some porn with you. 99.9% of men will say:

Hell Yes!

Tell him that you’ve bookmarked some great videos to watch. He should be pretty much be salivating at this point!

All you then need to do is show him some videos of what you want to do with him. It’s that simple.

You now just need to be quite up front about what you want.

When you combine all of these 3 techniques together, then you’re man is going to be really excited at the idea of kinky sex with you.

I Want Kinky Sex!

There’s no need to be super direct (although you can be if you like). All you need to do is tell your man what you enjoy.

I love it when you’re in control during sex!

or

I love being the one who calls the shots in the bedroom

Then if he reacts positively to what you say, try to expand on it….

It would be so hot if you pinned my arms while we have sex

or

It would be even hotter if you tied my arms and legs to the bed

The entire time, you need to be judging your man’s reaction to see if he is excited and interested in what you are saying.

If he seems positive, then keep moving forward and suggesting new things that you would like to try with him. But also make sure that he contributes too. This way you both will get a lot of fun and enjoyment out of your kinky sexcapades.

Safe Word

If you plan on getting kinky with your partner, then you absolutely must use a safe word with them in case one of you wants it to stop.

A safe word is just a simple word that you say when you want your man to stop. It should NOT be the word, “Stop”. Instead, it should be a word that you wouldn’t normally say like, “Blueberry” or “Muffin”.

Make sure that you both agree to a safe word before you start having kinky sex with your man.

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  1. Madman85 February 26, 2013 at 8:24 am #

    I’m a 28yo guy and i’ve always wanted to be handcuffed to a bed naked and gagged while an older woman s*cks/w*nks me off before riding me. She can then f**k me for as long as she like because i can’t stop her and can’t tell her to stop either.

    • Chrystal74 February 26, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

      Good to know what you like!

  2. Chrystal74 February 26, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    Some fabulous ideas here… Especially like being the one in control. Hmm… may have to explore this in more depth.

    • michael August 31, 2013 at 2:18 pm #

      do you have any advice for men to talk dirty to a girl

  3. ashley January 16, 2014 at 2:50 pm #

    Thank you Sean… THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

  4. misslily619 January 20, 2014 at 3:23 pm #

    My boyfriend and I recently started doing some kinky stuff.. he has started choking me, and oddly I loved it! I do suggest a “safe word” for sure, as I nearly passed out last night and he had no idea. But the orgasm was freaking amazing!

    • Sean Jameson January 27, 2014 at 8:07 am #

      Hi,

      Being safe is the most important thing. Passing out is definitely not safe. So make sure that you have a safe word AND a simple ‘safe action’ so that your man knows when you’ve had enough, feel in danger or want him to stop.

      Sean

  5. pxiedust January 29, 2014 at 10:33 pm #

    Love the wrestling part, kind of like a rape fantasy. That’s another one, coming in at night, being gagged by his hand, telling you to be quiet, and then having his way with you.

    • Daddy_likes February 5, 2014 at 2:14 am #

      Ahhh now we are talking about taboo kind of kinky.

      Daddy likes!

      Great read. Very well written article!!

  6. Helen February 28, 2014 at 11:03 am #

    Love the article! Looking fro some help….I have been a vanilla girl for a loooong time and I am now burting out my shell and wanting to try new things…..the problem I am having is my awful lack of imagination when it comes to scenarios I want to try….can anyone help me!? I know I want some outdooor and public fun….and I’ve being trying restraints and toys…but feels like something is missing from them….all pointers gratefully received xxx

  7. BlOnDiE xoxo May 1, 2014 at 4:14 pm #

    FuuuuuuuuuuN :)
    Sooooooo going to be a good night for my.boyfriend …..
    # Surprise x

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