11 Dirty Text Messages To Send Your Guy

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dirty text messages, bad girls bible, sexIn this article on dirty text messages, I am going to teach you:

  • 3 Dirty Text Message To Send That Will Keep Him Thinking About You.
  • 2 Sexy Text Messages To Make Him Horny.
  • 4 Dirty Text Messages That Will Build Sexual Tension.
  • The 3 Keys To Making Dirty Text Messaging Work.
  • 2 Naughty Text Message To Tease And Titillate Him With.

Sending dirty text messages or these dirty talk examples is a great way to talk dirty to your man when you are not around. So what kinds of dirty SMS text messages should you send your man to keep him thinking about you?

Dirty Text Messages To Keep Him Thinking About You

Quick Note: If you want to learn my most powerful dirty talking phrases, tips & techniques, then you will learn a lot from this dirty talking tutorial video. Enjoy!

I personally find that the most powerful use of dirty messages is to keep him thinking about. Here are some examples that you can send him:

I had this crazy dream about you last night x

Just saw something that made me think of you. x

I was thinking about you last night as I was falling asleep.

All three of these text messages are designed so that they are not very direct, just like some of the dirty talking phrases I’ve written about in the past. You’ll also notice that they are hardly sexual at all. The purpose is to get him thinking and wondering about you, while also telling him something that he would really want to hear.

One very important point to keep in mind when sending your man a dirty text message is that it’s often better to send him a message that is short and isn’t asking for a reply.
 This is subtle sign of confidence to your man.

Dirty Text Messages To Build Sexual Tension

Text messages are the perfect way to build sexual tension with your man. The texts you send can be quite sexual, but the fact that you and your man are quite far apart means that there is a barrier to anything sexual from actually happening (barriers are what build sexual tension). Try sending these messages to your man. You may find that some of them are a little wild and ‘out there’ while others are a little quieter:

I’m going to blow your mind later!

The great thing about this one, is that it could mean a lot of things. It could mean that you are going to give him an awesome blowjob…or it could mean that you are going to show him something cool. By being indirect and not clear like this, you will also get him thinking about you, which is exactly what you want!

I don’t know what it is, but I really need to see you right now. x

I really miss having you inside me. I wish we were in bed right now.

If I didn’t have to go to college/work today I would fuck you really hard!

These messages will build a lot of anticipation with your man. So when he finally does get a chance to be alone with you, he will be pretty much panting like a dog. You will find lot of other great ways to build sexual tension by talking dirty on the main dirty talking page.

Dirty Text Messages To Arouse Him

Keeping your man thinking about you and building sexual tension are 2 of the more subtle ways of sending dirty text messages to your man. A more direct way is sending him a message simply to arouse him. Try these for example:

I want you on top of me now.

I have been reading some tips online that I want to try on you. I think you’ll like them. x

You will find that it’s easier to send your man messages like these when you have been seeing him for a while first, otherwise, it may seem as if you are coming on a little strong!

Dirty Text Messages To Tease Him

You need to be careful when sending your man a message to tease him. It’s important that you are not overly mean to him when you send them in case he gets the wrong idea. Here are some good examples of what you should consider sending him to tease him:

How come I’m always horny when you’re not around. Grrr! x

If you were here right now, I would give you the blowjob of your life!

3 Dirty Text Message Tips

1) Just because the title of the article is ‘Dirty Text Messages’, it doesn’t mean that you can’t send your man these types of messages as an email or private facebook chat or IM.

2) You may be eager to start sending your man all kinds of dirty text messages, but my advice is to first test the waters with some tame messages to see if he’s into it. If it’s clear that he is, then you can proceed to send raunchier messages. If you start off by sending him a message that’s really out there, then you risk him getting weirded out by it.

3) You will notice that there is a lot of overlap between sending messages for turning your man on, building sexual tension, keeping him thinking about you and for teasing him. Don’t worry too much about this. Just keep in mind the 4 main reasons for sending your man dirty text messages so that you always write the message that fits what you want to achieve best.

If you enjoyed learning these dirty text messages, but want to learn my most powerful dirty talking tips to build sexual tension, turn him on and keep him attracted to you, then you will probably find the advice I give in the dirty talking tutorial video to be incredibly helpful. Enjoy!

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  1. Eliza October 2, 2012 at 11:15 am #

    I want to send my boyfriend the “I just had a crazy dream about you“ text. What should I say if he replies asking about it? Do I tell him what it was about or do I leave him guessing?? Thanks Sean xx

    • Sean October 11, 2012 at 9:32 am #

      If he replies, then send him this:

      “I’ll tell you about it later!”

    • monique October 18, 2013 at 1:54 am #

      Or evn better… U cn tell him u’ll show him later

  2. Amber November 21, 2012 at 8:31 pm #

    Hey guys, I want to have a really sexy night with my boyfriend I want to blow him away. Any tips? And what is the best sex position to pleasure him? I really need a fuck tonight, so please helpppp! :D

  3. Sofi December 30, 2012 at 10:53 pm #

    I like doggy style personally, but there are two others! One is if you get your guy to sit on the couch (naked) then you put his dick were you know it goes! And you bounce up and down! The other is I’d you lay down on the bed with you’re legs up and out! Get him to kneel down and wrap you’re legs round his neck! This will stretch out your pussy!! Then he simply thrusts his hard wet cock in you! I had a fuck last night actually and these positions made it worth while!!! I’m planning to fuck with my guy tonight aswell, so do you have any tips?! I want it hardcore and dirty! Oral is fine too!

  4. Madison January 24, 2013 at 4:16 am #

    I really want to use some of these right now with this guy I’ve been talking to for weeks and we like eachother but we just aren’t together yet. What should I do .? Do you think it’s to early for ” sexting” persay.?

    • Sean January 24, 2013 at 11:13 am #

      Hi Madison,

      Unfortunately I just can’t help you with that as I don’t know all the facets of your specific situation. If you are going to use them though, I would suggest that you use the most subtle ones first to judge his reaction and then take it from there.


  5. Sarah January 26, 2013 at 12:49 pm #

    How soon in the relationship can you send those text messages?

  6. Jassy January 29, 2013 at 2:37 am #

    My boyfriend is away in colorado in the army nd he comes back n february. I want to send hin a turn on sext but wht shud i say ???

    • Sean Jameson January 30, 2013 at 8:55 am #

      Hi Jassy,

      It’s totally up to you what you send him, but I would always suggest starting off with something light and judging his reaction, then going from there. The last thing you want to do is send him a super-raunchy text only for it to catch him off guard and freak him out. Something as simple as, “I was thinking about you a lot last night” will work great as it could mean something sexy or simply something romantic.


  7. Nicole February 5, 2013 at 4:01 am #

    My bf likes it when i lick his penis after he cums and i taste it, personally i like the taste it’s creamy and salty!

  8. Gabrielle February 7, 2013 at 4:46 am #

    Any tips on how to include a picture?

    • Sean Jameson February 12, 2013 at 4:39 pm #

      Hi Gabrielle,

      To be perfectly honest, I believe that including a picture with a dirty text message can be risky in case your man decides to share it with someone else. However at the end of the day, it’s truly up to you with what you do.


    • Sam February 16, 2014 at 10:26 pm #

      Don’t add your face incase it gets out and someone else sees xo

  9. Mary-Jane February 7, 2013 at 7:14 am #

    Admittedly, I have this guy who texts me whenever he wants a Blowjob (so I’m technically not a booty call). He texts me when he doesn’t want a BJ too, and I want to send him a dirty text that doesn’t sound romantic but not completely subtle. I don’t dirty talk a lot and when I do, I feel like a loser after attempting to say something dirty. Help?!

  10. Mandy February 17, 2013 at 6:44 pm #

    I am in a long distance relationship, my bf lives in another country the area is remote and it’s hard to communicate sometimes. The area that he works in sometimes there is no signals at all. I know he loves me but when I’m not able to speak to him it makes me feel some frustrations and insecurities. I love him to death but am scared that we will eventually loose interest. I want to know what to say to him to keep him thinking and smiling when he thinks about me.

    • Sean Jameson February 19, 2013 at 12:38 pm #

      Hi Mandy,
      It sounds like you are going to need talk to him about this. Unfortunately the Bad Girl’s Bible only deals with one aspect of relationships…sex. However there is much more than just sex that you need to look after if you want to make your relationship last, like a shared connection, great communication, common interests, etc.


  11. Sarah February 18, 2013 at 11:18 am #

    Hey Sean

    how often a day or week should the texts be sent to my guy?
    I sent him one the other day and he responded with nice.

    Please help

    • Sean Jameson February 19, 2013 at 12:32 pm #

      Hi Sarah,

      Honestly, I advise you to send them infrequently. This way they will never be expected. Instead they will always be a nice surprise for your man. So try to stick to only once or twice a week.


  12. Carolyn February 19, 2013 at 1:03 am #

    What are the best positions when youre man is built like a football linebacker 5 ft 11 and 280 and I;m 5 ft 4 and 135 lbs LOL Some of the positions are a lil rough on me

    • Sean Jameson February 19, 2013 at 12:28 pm #

      Hi Carolyn,

      In general you’ll find most positions where YOU are on top to be best. You may also be interested in some of the spooning positions.


    • Sean Jameson February 19, 2013 at 12:29 pm #

      Hi Carolyn,
      The positions that I most strongly recommend in your situation is any where YOU are on top.


  13. naina gull March 20, 2013 at 5:27 pm #

    hi…i m in great trouble, my husband has 2nd wife, how can i get him back sexually. plzzzzzz help me

    • Sean Jameson March 26, 2013 at 8:54 am #

      Hi Naina,
      Sounds like a tough situation. Unfortunately I don’t offer relationship advice, sorry,


  14. Steph! March 22, 2013 at 10:33 am #

    Hey sean!

    Like the previous comment, my bf is 6’2, 235lb, qnd built like a line backer and I’m 5’1 so some positions are a bit tough/rough haha, but my guy really enjoys dominant positions any suggesons for some spice without such diffiuculties?

    • Sean Jameson March 26, 2013 at 8:47 am #

      Hi Steph!
      As well as trying the positions where YOU are on top, also make sure to talk to your man to let him know what you do and don’t enjoy. This way he will know what positions are uncomfortable for you and what things he does that you find uncomfortable.

  15. Millie March 25, 2013 at 11:17 pm #

    Hi, having sex for the first time is kind of nerve racking… Um, obviously i am a virgin. I was wondering what position feels the best for him, that wont hurt me a whole lot. We have definitely done other things such as foreplay, ect.. Also, with talking dirty i feel like i might scare him… What should i say first? He is a very nice sweet and caring guy, but he loves to take control. :) Thanks

    • Sean Jameson March 26, 2013 at 8:36 am #

      Hi Millie,
      When you first have sex, try choosing a position where YOU control how deep you take him. Cowgirl is perfect for this. When talking dirty, start off with slowly with subtle things, then slowly ramp up how explicit you are.


  16. liz April 29, 2013 at 10:52 pm #

    im with a marine whos in another state he likes sexing when im up for it but im not sure how to start without making it obvious i want to any ideas?

    • Sean Jameson May 6, 2013 at 8:48 am #

      Hi Liz,

      Start of with some flirty texts that are vaguely sexual. Send him things like, “I was thinking about you last night” or “I wish you were here right now”. These could potentially be interpreted as something sexy and naughty, but if he’s not digging them, then they can equally just be flirty and fun.

      Have fun!


  17. Sierra May 9, 2013 at 9:02 pm #

    Sean i think my husband is seeking some sex arousal to his ex wife. Wat do i have to do?

    • Sean Jameson May 13, 2013 at 8:57 am #

      Hi Sierra,

      It sounds like a tough situation. I can’t really give you any advice on it as it’s more of a relationship question, not a sex question. My advice is to talk to your man about it.


  18. Zoe May 11, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

    I am chatting with my man tonight. Since he is away from me having his holidays and i am working these days. So, i sent him a message that if i am with him tonight, i would fuck him really hard. And he answered why??? What will i say now? Hahahaah :)))

    • Sean Jameson May 13, 2013 at 8:37 am #

      Hi Zoe,

      It’s important to try figure this out yourself, this is how you’ll get really good at talking dirty. All you need to do is text him back something like this, “coz I can’t stop thinking about you…grrr I wish you were here right now”


  19. Brown June 9, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    I want to blow my bf his mind,I don’t what things to say when I’m with him due to lot argument.Our communication breaks down,how can I rebuild the relationship?

    • Sean Jameson June 11, 2013 at 10:34 am #

      Hi Brown,

      Unfortunately this sounds a lot like a relationship question. I feel that your best bet is to talk to him and let him know how you feel and what you want from your relationship.


  20. Dawn June 16, 2013 at 2:08 am #

    Hay my bf always asks me for a dirty txt message and he said if I get a really gud one he won’t ask me again please help me find a long one for him xo

    • Sean Jameson June 18, 2013 at 11:13 am #

      Hi Dawn,

      Start off by trying some of the ones on this page, but also try tailoring them to his specific tastes. So if he is into something like anal sex, then use this to your advantage when writing them.


  21. Hilary June 30, 2013 at 1:40 pm #

    My boyfriend is in Mississippi right now because he is leaving in a month for The military and will be gone for a year. He is coming to visit me next week and I want to do something fun with him so he won’t forget about me while he’s gone because we won’t be able to talk the entire year he is gone. Any tips?

  22. Michelle July 24, 2013 at 1:10 am #

    Hi Sean
    I’m in a friends with benifts relationship ..it’s great suits us both ..
    He love that I can squirt and have milky breasts and are big .
    I want to spice things up between us as we’re at this a yr next wk …any suggestions

    • Sean Jameson July 29, 2013 at 9:39 am #

      Hi Michelle,

      Honestly, the best way to spice things up is to constantly experiment and add to your repertoire. You’ll find that some things you try aren’t actually that enjoyable, while other things absolutely blow your mind.

      A great way to keep things spicy is to sign up for the Bad Girl’s Bible newsletter. Every few days, I’ll send you some of my most popular tips and techniques to use on your man. Another suggestion is to use the Sex Bucket List as a checklist for things to try with your man.

      Let me know how you get on!


  23. Han July 26, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

    Hi sean, I’m in a fairly new relationship with a truly incredible man. Our sexlife is amazing, NO complaints there! We are also very much in love.
    In the past, in previous relationships, I have been quite adventurous with dirty talk/texts, feeling like I can try new positions with partners, generally quite confident in the bedroom. I don’t know if it’s because I’m now older (30) than I was back then, or if its a case that my new man is quite a lot more experienced than i am, but i just can’t seem to get my courage back to be more brave to initiate new things together…any advice would be greatly recieved thanks.

    • Sean Jameson July 29, 2013 at 8:59 am #

      Hi Han,

      The key is to start with something small. Don’t feel like you need to do everything all at once. So start with something like moving him into a new position during sex or initiating foreplay when you are both on the couch together by rubbing his leg/crotch. Then progress from there.

      One important piece of advice: The longer you wait to start being more aggressive and the more you think about doing it without acting on it, the harder it will be. When you do take the initiative with him in even a small way, you’ll quickly notice just how easy and fun it is. My advice is to do this today or tonight, not next week.

      Good luck and let me know how you get on!


  24. Bree August 19, 2013 at 12:26 pm #

    Me and my bf like to talk about sexy things , but he’s afraid when he’s excited, that he might hurt me .. I don’t believe that , I’ve known him since I was little .. What can I do to make him want to have sex with me or touch me more.. I try not to make it too obvious but what can I do ??

    • Sean Jameson August 26, 2013 at 7:32 am #

      Hi Bree,
      Rather than trying to ‘convince’ him to have sex with you, you may want to try taking the initiative and being the one who initiates sex.

      Let me know how you get on,


  25. Kristal September 3, 2013 at 10:19 pm #

    Hi Sean,
    My boyfriend is 6’5 and is a quarterback. We are going to try and do it for the first time but I’m a little scared. I don’t want to have to tell him that it’s to rough/it hurts or anything of the sort just cause he’s so tall/heavy (as in muscle) What would be some good tips,positions to do with him that would be comfy and safe but also sexy and good?


  26. Amanda October 7, 2013 at 12:04 am #

    My hubby just recently started working away from home so I thought I’d give dirty texts a try. I started with telling him ‘Oh the things I’m going to do to you when you get home’ and he lol’d….this was a first attempt, so should I try again or just give up since he didn’t seem into it? He shares a room when he’s away so maybe this has something to do with it?

    • Sean Jameson November 11, 2013 at 8:43 pm #

      Hi Amanda,

      Sharing a room could certainly have something to do with it. There are other factors too…If you text him something hot completely out of the blue, then there is a good chance that he may think you are joking. That’s why building up to sending him a dirty text message is a much better idea. Here’s an example build up:

      “Really miss you babe”
      “Wish you were here last night”
      “I was thinking about you ;)”
      “And it was hot”

      Then gauge his reaction to it and go from there. Let me know how it goes!


  27. Elle October 28, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

    I am really interested in this guy at work. I know he likes me too as he’s told me but I am not very good with expressing my feelings. I want to flirt with him but not sure how to do this subtly. Any advice on texts or things I could do around him to show i’m interested without actually saying it.


    • Sean Jameson November 8, 2013 at 8:56 am #

      Hi Elle,

      Sounds like a dating/relationship problem you have. Unfortunately I don’t cover that in the Bad Girls Bible, just sex….sorry :(


  28. MARIE October 29, 2013 at 2:04 am #


    • Sean Jameson November 8, 2013 at 8:55 am #

      Hi Marie,

      To be honest, it could mean a lot of things. He may want you to take more control or even just be on top of him during sex or maybe he wants you to peg him. If you want to understand exactly what he means, then just ask him


  29. larry November 5, 2013 at 10:51 pm #

    Hello am Larry from Ghana and am single here and i like what i see here… i need you to help me out to date a woman i really not know how to tell a woman that i love her i think she will kill me when i said that …am just 19 to 20 years if any one have answer for me can reply me
    And i do not know if any girl will like to date me

  30. Kim November 23, 2013 at 7:29 am #

    My husband and I are having some major issues with sex. We have talked about it lately and have determined that “good girls” don’t turn him on. I am the classic “good girl.” Pretty much…he wants a Marilan and I am a Jackie. Is it possible to learn to be sexy?? If so, how?

    Determined to Please

    • Sean Jameson November 27, 2013 at 8:50 am #

      Hi Kim,

      Keep reading the site and even think about signing up to the mailing list, there are thousands of tips on how to be a bad girl right here!


  31. Licia January 1, 2014 at 10:26 pm #

    I just started talking to this guy sexually but we have known each other for over a year, he was my sis bf. I sent him a text but what happens if he doesn’t reply. Does it still have an effect on him. I don’t know.

  32. Micheal February 8, 2014 at 7:38 am #

    Can i have the pleasure of asking some questions?

  33. Ashley March 26, 2014 at 3:29 am #

    Hi! My bf is stationed in NC- I make the days drive about once a month to see him for a weekend. In the mean time we OCCASIONALLY do dirty texts and he’s very direct and explicit of his wishes. It’s quite sexy- however when I actually see him sex isn’t a priority to him at all. I feel as if hes not attracted to me physically or is just in love with who I am when I’m so far away. Am I overthinking this? Is there a way to let him know I want him without having to say it? I’ve tried kissing him or rubbing him suggestively but he’s oblivious?! Help!!

    • Sean Jameson April 2, 2014 at 9:32 am #

      Hi Ashley,

      The best thing that you can do with your boyfriend is talk to him about it to find out the problem.


  34. Allie April 8, 2014 at 7:44 am #

    I would just like to know how you can deal with all the misspellings and grammar mistakes.

    • Sean Jameson April 14, 2014 at 7:15 am #

      Hi Allie,

      I try my best to have everything perfect & correct, let me know if you spot anything that needs fixing :)


  35. erin April 20, 2014 at 12:27 pm #

    Hi Sean,
    I was wondering if there are any text messages I can send when a man starts pulling away?

    • Sean Jameson April 21, 2014 at 12:18 pm #

      Hi Erin,

      Sounds like a tough relationship situation. Unfortunately, the Bad Girl’s Bible is all about sex, so I’m unable to help, sorry! I hope this work out


  36. Carleigh April 27, 2014 at 2:37 am #

    So I’ve been talking to this guy for about 3 months now and we really like each other bit he has girl friend. They’ve been dating for a little over a month. For the first time ever we sent each other nudes. Many nudes and videos of us master bating. That was two days ago. Is it too soon to start another sexy convo that will lead to nudes or should I just go for it?

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