11 Dirty Text Messages To Send Your Guy

dirty text messages, bad girls bible, sexIn this article on dirty text messages, I am going to teach you:

  • 3 Dirty Text Message To Send That Will Keep Him Thinking About You.
  • 2 Sexy Text Messages To Make Him Horny.
  • 4 Dirty Text Messages That Will Build Sexual Tension.
  • The 3 Keys To Making Dirty Text Messaging Work.
  • 2 Naughty Text Message To Tease And Titillate Him With.

Sending dirty text messages or these dirty talk examples is a great way to talk dirty to your man when you are not around. So what kinds of dirty SMS text messages should you send your man to keep him thinking about you?

Dirty Text Messages To Keep Him Thinking About You

Quick Note: If you want to learn my most powerful dirty talking phrases, tips & techniques, then you will learn a lot from this dirty talking tutorial video. Enjoy!

I personally find that the most powerful use of dirty messages is to keep him thinking about. Here are some examples that you can send him:

I had this crazy dream about you last night x

Just saw something that made me think of you. x

I was thinking about you last night as I was falling asleep.

All three of these text messages are designed so that they are not very direct, just like some of the dirty talking phrases I’ve written about in the past. You’ll also notice that they are hardly sexual at all. The purpose is to get him thinking and wondering about you, while also telling him something that he would really want to hear. One very important point to keep in mind when sending your man a dirty text message is that it’s often better to send him a message that is short and isn’t asking for a reply.  This is subtle sign of confidence to your man.

Dirty Text Messages To Build Sexual Tension

Text messages are the perfect way to build sexual tension with your man. The texts you send can be quite sexual, but the fact that you and your man are quite far apart means that there is a barrier to anything sexual from actually happening (barriers are what build sexual tension). Try sending these messages to your man. You may find that some of them are a little wild and ‘out there’ while others are a little quieter:

I’m going to blow your mind later!

The great thing about this one, is that it could mean a lot of things. It could mean that you are going to give him an awesome blowjob…or it could mean that you are going to show him something cool. By being indirect and not clear like this, you will also get him thinking about you, which is exactly what you want!

I don’t know what it is, but I really need to see you right now. x

I really miss having you inside me. I wish we were in bed right now.

If I didn’t have to go to college/work today I would fuck you really hard!

These messages will build a lot of anticipation with your man. So when he finally does get a chance to be alone with you, he will be pretty much panting like a dog. You will find lot of other great ways to build sexual tension by talking dirty on the main dirty talking page.

Dirty Text Messages To Arouse Him

Keeping your man thinking about you and building sexual tension are 2 of the more subtle ways of sending dirty text messages to your man. A more direct way is sending him a message simply to arouse him. Try these for example:

I want you on top of me now.

I have been reading some tips online that I want to try on you. I think you’ll like them. x

You will find that it’s easier to send your man messages like these when you have been seeing him for a while first, otherwise, it may seem as if you are coming on a little strong!

Dirty Text Messages To Tease Him

You need to be careful when sending your man a message to tease him. It’s important that you are not overly mean to him when you send them in case he gets the wrong idea. Here are some good examples of what you should consider sending him to tease him:

How come I’m always horny when you’re not around. Grrr! x

If you were here right now, I would give you the blowjob of your life!

3 Dirty Text Message Tips

1) Just because the title of the article is ‘Dirty Text Messages’, it doesn’t mean that you can’t send your man these types of messages as an email or private facebook chat or IM.

2) You may be eager to start sending your man all kinds of dirty text messages, but my advice is to first test the waters with some tame messages to see if he’s into it. If it’s clear that he is, then you can proceed to send raunchier messages. If you start off by sending him a message that’s really out there, then you risk him getting weirded out by it.

3) You will notice that there is a lot of overlap between sending messages for turning your man on, building sexual tension, keeping him thinking about you and for teasing him. Don’t worry too much about this. Just keep in mind the 4 main reasons for sending your man dirty text messages so that you always write the message that fits what you want to achieve best.

If you enjoyed learning these dirty text messages, but want to learn my most powerful dirty talking tips to build sexual tension, turn him on and keep him attracted to you, then you will probably find the advice I give in the dirty talking tutorial video to be incredibly helpful. Enjoy!

If you enjoyed my tips in this article but want a true sex masterclass, then you may be interested in watching this blow job tutorial video where you'll learn my most powerful techniques & tips for giving your man incredible oral sex. Enjoy!

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  1. Eliza says

    I want to send my boyfriend the “I just had a crazy dream about you“ text. What should I say if he replies asking about it? Do I tell him what it was about or do I leave him guessing?? Thanks Sean xx

  2. Amber says

    Hey guys, I want to have a really sexy night with my boyfriend I want to blow him away. Any tips? And what is the best sex position to pleasure him? I really need a fuck tonight, so please helpppp! 😀

  3. Sofi says

    I like doggy style personally, but there are two others! One is if you get your guy to sit on the couch (naked) then you put his dick were you know it goes! And you bounce up and down! The other is I’d you lay down on the bed with you’re legs up and out! Get him to kneel down and wrap you’re legs round his neck! This will stretch out your pussy!! Then he simply thrusts his hard wet cock in you! I had a fuck last night actually and these positions made it worth while!!! I’m planning to fuck with my guy tonight aswell, so do you have any tips?! I want it hardcore and dirty! Oral is fine too!

  4. Madison says

    I really want to use some of these right now with this guy I’ve been talking to for weeks and we like eachother but we just aren’t together yet. What should I do .? Do you think it’s to early for ” sexting” persay.?

    • Sean says

      Hi Madison,

      Unfortunately I just can’t help you with that as I don’t know all the facets of your specific situation. If you are going to use them though, I would suggest that you use the most subtle ones first to judge his reaction and then take it from there.


  5. Jassy says

    My boyfriend is away in colorado in the army nd he comes back n february. I want to send hin a turn on sext but wht shud i say ???

    • says

      Hi Jassy,

      It’s totally up to you what you send him, but I would always suggest starting off with something light and judging his reaction, then going from there. The last thing you want to do is send him a super-raunchy text only for it to catch him off guard and freak him out. Something as simple as, “I was thinking about you a lot last night” will work great as it could mean something sexy or simply something romantic.


  6. Nicole says

    My bf likes it when i lick his penis after he cums and i taste it, personally i like the taste it’s creamy and salty!

    • porscha morgan says

      I do the same thing.after he.cumms..i like to flick the underside of his head while my fingers play with his balls… just as he gets worked up again Iick everything like a popsicle then st stop. and hell be in heaven or ready to pop!

    • says

      Hi Gabrielle,

      To be perfectly honest, I believe that including a picture with a dirty text message can be risky in case your man decides to share it with someone else. However at the end of the day, it’s truly up to you with what you do.


  7. Mary-Jane says

    Admittedly, I have this guy who texts me whenever he wants a Blowjob (so I’m technically not a booty call). He texts me when he doesn’t want a BJ too, and I want to send him a dirty text that doesn’t sound romantic but not completely subtle. I don’t dirty talk a lot and when I do, I feel like a loser after attempting to say something dirty. Help?!

  8. Mandy says

    I am in a long distance relationship, my bf lives in another country the area is remote and it’s hard to communicate sometimes. The area that he works in sometimes there is no signals at all. I know he loves me but when I’m not able to speak to him it makes me feel some frustrations and insecurities. I love him to death but am scared that we will eventually loose interest. I want to know what to say to him to keep him thinking and smiling when he thinks about me.

    • says

      Hi Mandy,
      It sounds like you are going to need talk to him about this. Unfortunately the Bad Girl’s Bible only deals with one aspect of relationships…sex. However there is much more than just sex that you need to look after if you want to make your relationship last, like a shared connection, great communication, common interests, etc.


  9. Sarah says

    Hey Sean

    how often a day or week should the texts be sent to my guy?
    I sent him one the other day and he responded with nice.

    Please help

    • says

      Hi Sarah,

      Honestly, I advise you to send them infrequently. This way they will never be expected. Instead they will always be a nice surprise for your man. So try to stick to only once or twice a week.


  10. Carolyn says

    What are the best positions when youre man is built like a football linebacker 5 ft 11 and 280 and I;m 5 ft 4 and 135 lbs LOL Some of the positions are a lil rough on me

  11. naina gull says

    hi…i m in great trouble, my husband has 2nd wife, how can i get him back sexually. plzzzzzz help me

  12. Steph! says

    Hey sean!

    Like the previous comment, my bf is 6’2, 235lb, qnd built like a line backer and I’m 5’1 so some positions are a bit tough/rough haha, but my guy really enjoys dominant positions any suggesons for some spice without such diffiuculties?

    • says

      Hi Steph!
      As well as trying the positions where YOU are on top, also make sure to talk to your man to let him know what you do and don’t enjoy. This way he will know what positions are uncomfortable for you and what things he does that you find uncomfortable.

  13. Millie says

    Hi, having sex for the first time is kind of nerve racking… Um, obviously i am a virgin. I was wondering what position feels the best for him, that wont hurt me a whole lot. We have definitely done other things such as foreplay, ect.. Also, with talking dirty i feel like i might scare him… What should i say first? He is a very nice sweet and caring guy, but he loves to take control. :) Thanks

    • says

      Hi Millie,
      When you first have sex, try choosing a position where YOU control how deep you take him. Cowgirl is perfect for this. When talking dirty, start off with slowly with subtle things, then slowly ramp up how explicit you are.


  14. liz says

    im with a marine whos in another state he likes sexing when im up for it but im not sure how to start without making it obvious i want to any ideas?

    • says

      Hi Liz,

      Start of with some flirty texts that are vaguely sexual. Send him things like, “I was thinking about you last night” or “I wish you were here right now”. These could potentially be interpreted as something sexy and naughty, but if he’s not digging them, then they can equally just be flirty and fun.

      Have fun!


    • says

      Hi Sierra,

      It sounds like a tough situation. I can’t really give you any advice on it as it’s more of a relationship question, not a sex question. My advice is to talk to your man about it.


  15. Zoe says

    I am chatting with my man tonight. Since he is away from me having his holidays and i am working these days. So, i sent him a message that if i am with him tonight, i would fuck him really hard. And he answered why??? What will i say now? Hahahaah :)))

    • says

      Hi Zoe,

      It’s important to try figure this out yourself, this is how you’ll get really good at talking dirty. All you need to do is text him back something like this, “coz I can’t stop thinking about you…grrr I wish you were here right now”


  16. Brown says

    I want to blow my bf his mind,I don’t what things to say when I’m with him due to lot argument.Our communication breaks down,how can I rebuild the relationship?

    • says

      Hi Brown,

      Unfortunately this sounds a lot like a relationship question. I feel that your best bet is to talk to him and let him know how you feel and what you want from your relationship.


  17. Dawn says

    Hay my bf always asks me for a dirty txt message and he said if I get a really gud one he won’t ask me again please help me find a long one for him xo

    • says

      Hi Dawn,

      Start off by trying some of the ones on this page, but also try tailoring them to his specific tastes. So if he is into something like anal sex, then use this to your advantage when writing them.


  18. Hilary says

    My boyfriend is in Mississippi right now because he is leaving in a month for The military and will be gone for a year. He is coming to visit me next week and I want to do something fun with him so he won’t forget about me while he’s gone because we won’t be able to talk the entire year he is gone. Any tips?

  19. Michelle says

    Hi Sean
    I’m in a friends with benifts relationship ..it’s great suits us both ..
    He love that I can squirt and have milky breasts and are big .
    I want to spice things up between us as we’re at this a yr next wk …any suggestions

    • says

      Hi Michelle,

      Honestly, the best way to spice things up is to constantly experiment and add to your repertoire. You’ll find that some things you try aren’t actually that enjoyable, while other things absolutely blow your mind.

      A great way to keep things spicy is to sign up for the Bad Girl’s Bible newsletter. Every few days, I’ll send you some of my most popular tips and techniques to use on your man. Another suggestion is to use the Sex Bucket List as a checklist for things to try with your man.

      Let me know how you get on!


  20. Han says

    Hi sean, I’m in a fairly new relationship with a truly incredible man. Our sexlife is amazing, NO complaints there! We are also very much in love.
    In the past, in previous relationships, I have been quite adventurous with dirty talk/texts, feeling like I can try new positions with partners, generally quite confident in the bedroom. I don’t know if it’s because I’m now older (30) than I was back then, or if its a case that my new man is quite a lot more experienced than i am, but i just can’t seem to get my courage back to be more brave to initiate new things together…any advice would be greatly recieved thanks.

    • says

      Hi Han,

      The key is to start with something small. Don’t feel like you need to do everything all at once. So start with something like moving him into a new position during sex or initiating foreplay when you are both on the couch together by rubbing his leg/crotch. Then progress from there.

      One important piece of advice: The longer you wait to start being more aggressive and the more you think about doing it without acting on it, the harder it will be. When you do take the initiative with him in even a small way, you’ll quickly notice just how easy and fun it is. My advice is to do this today or tonight, not next week.

      Good luck and let me know how you get on!


  21. Bree says

    Me and my bf like to talk about sexy things , but he’s afraid when he’s excited, that he might hurt me .. I don’t believe that , I’ve known him since I was little .. What can I do to make him want to have sex with me or touch me more.. I try not to make it too obvious but what can I do ??

    • says

      Hi Bree,
      Rather than trying to ‘convince’ him to have sex with you, you may want to try taking the initiative and being the one who initiates sex.

      Let me know how you get on,


  22. Kristal says

    Hi Sean,
    My boyfriend is 6’5 and is a quarterback. We are going to try and do it for the first time but I’m a little scared. I don’t want to have to tell him that it’s to rough/it hurts or anything of the sort just cause he’s so tall/heavy (as in muscle) What would be some good tips,positions to do with him that would be comfy and safe but also sexy and good?


  23. Amanda says

    My hubby just recently started working away from home so I thought I’d give dirty texts a try. I started with telling him ‘Oh the things I’m going to do to you when you get home’ and he lol’d….this was a first attempt, so should I try again or just give up since he didn’t seem into it? He shares a room when he’s away so maybe this has something to do with it?

    • says

      Hi Amanda,

      Sharing a room could certainly have something to do with it. There are other factors too…If you text him something hot completely out of the blue, then there is a good chance that he may think you are joking. That’s why building up to sending him a dirty text message is a much better idea. Here’s an example build up:

      “Really miss you babe”
      “Wish you were here last night”
      “I was thinking about you ;)”
      “And it was hot”

      Then gauge his reaction to it and go from there. Let me know how it goes!


  24. Elle says

    I am really interested in this guy at work. I know he likes me too as he’s told me but I am not very good with expressing my feelings. I want to flirt with him but not sure how to do this subtly. Any advice on texts or things I could do around him to show i’m interested without actually saying it.


    • says

      Hi Marie,

      To be honest, it could mean a lot of things. He may want you to take more control or even just be on top of him during sex or maybe he wants you to peg him. If you want to understand exactly what he means, then just ask him


  25. larry says

    Hello am Larry from Ghana and am single here and i like what i see here… i need you to help me out to date a woman i really not know how to tell a woman that i love her i think she will kill me when i said that …am just 19 to 20 years if any one have answer for me can reply me
    And i do not know if any girl will like to date me

  26. Kim says

    My husband and I are having some major issues with sex. We have talked about it lately and have determined that “good girls” don’t turn him on. I am the classic “good girl.” Pretty much…he wants a Marilan and I am a Jackie. Is it possible to learn to be sexy?? If so, how?

    Determined to Please

  27. Licia says

    I just started talking to this guy sexually but we have known each other for over a year, he was my sis bf. I sent him a text but what happens if he doesn’t reply. Does it still have an effect on him. I don’t know.

  28. Ashley says

    Hi! My bf is stationed in NC- I make the days drive about once a month to see him for a weekend. In the mean time we OCCASIONALLY do dirty texts and he’s very direct and explicit of his wishes. It’s quite sexy- however when I actually see him sex isn’t a priority to him at all. I feel as if hes not attracted to me physically or is just in love with who I am when I’m so far away. Am I overthinking this? Is there a way to let him know I want him without having to say it? I’ve tried kissing him or rubbing him suggestively but he’s oblivious?! Help!!

    • says

      Hi Erin,

      Sounds like a tough relationship situation. Unfortunately, the Bad Girl’s Bible is all about sex, so I’m unable to help, sorry! I hope this work out


  29. Carleigh says

    So I’ve been talking to this guy for about 3 months now and we really like each other bit he has girl friend. They’ve been dating for a little over a month. For the first time ever we sent each other nudes. Many nudes and videos of us master bating. That was two days ago. Is it too soon to start another sexy convo that will lead to nudes or should I just go for it?

  30. Nani says

    Hi Sean,

    I am curious as to what advice you might have for me. My fiancé recently opened up to me about how he likes baby talk, like the how I met your mother episode where he pics up that chick while talking like a little boy. Usually I am more into being submissive or seductive dominace. I am cute with my baby talk but I am not quite sure how far my creativity will take me, or if in the right direction. He is very sensitive about letting me be dirty with him, because I am his little baby so I have been thinking about how to ease him into getting what he wants from me. I want to get him so good that he isn’t afraid to dominate me anymore and is dying to be rough with me. Help me get what I want too, please. I thought I could start with a striptease, cute then seductive .. Maybe tie him to the chair and blow his mind with how dirty I can be. What would be your advice to help him get over this whole madonna complex and maybe give him back that dominance he has everywhere else. I know he has it in him, he is just a bit of a lazy lover and likes things being done to him so he can act innocent to it all and simply enjoy the show. Problem is it’s been a while since I’ve been at a loss for control and he just seems to be very wary about being like that to me, he says he loves me too much to corrupt me, when I feel like he might really be afraid that I could possibly corrupt him. Let me know what you think thanks.

  31. Keilani says

    Hey Sean,
    I’ve been reading all your tips on pretty much everything and they’ve helped a lot. Except I’ve been having a little trouble in this area lately. You see I was pretty good at dirty talking and its all fine and good in person (its a long distance relationship so there’s sexual tension from not seeing each other) but if I don’t keep him interested in the meantime over text and what not I’m worried he’ll lose all interest. It started really well, and then things got pretty steamy but now I’m at a point where I’m not sure where to go now to keep things interesting. Theres been a bit of a gap lately between us talking and it seems like he’s losing sexual interest but its the total opposite for me, I only want him more but have to refrain from being “obsessive” and its driving me crazy! We still talk and are good friends but I feel the sexual tension slipping. I want to drive him crazy but be very subtle and not too out of the blue “hey I wanna fuck you”sort of thing, because I don’t want to be so brash, and I’m all out of “things I want to do to him”. I need help! (I would buy the book but can I get it in Australia?)

    • says

      Hi Keilani,

      Thanks for your kind words. Try some of the tips from the sexual tension guide to help build it up. The great thing about the book is that it’s digital, we don’t offer paperbacks for a number of reasons:

      1) I can offer you more for less as you do not have to pay for shipping.

      2) For discretion. You can rename the files and even password protect them for privacy.

      3) You get to access them immediately instead of waiting 7-14 days for delivery.

      4) You can transfer the books between devices (e.g. From your computer to Android phone, Kindle, iPad etc.)

      5) You never lose the books! If you happen to lose your phone or lose access to the books, just shoot me a quick email and I will resend you access.


      • Alex says

        Hi Sean I am interested in getting your books but i see there are two options, either Talking Dirty with Bonuses or Blowjob Tips with Bonuses. Do you per chance do an all inclusive deal as I don’t need the bonuses twice. :)))

  32. Carolyn. says

    me and my boyfriend are talking dirty to each other over facebook, and he asked me what i would do if i were to give him head, I want to sound sexy and not so awkward. help please.

  33. Jenny says

    Hello. I’m in a long distance relationship and I really want to express how much I want to be with him all night, sure you know what I mean, I just don’t know how too. He dosnt like the simplicity of some texts and wants me to be more verbal about my fantasy. What could I say?

    • says

      Hi Jenny,

      Think about sending your man texts like people write erotica. There is often a long build up of sexual tension before you actually get to the sex part. Try this with your texts. Describe how you’re feeling, what you’re wearing, what you’re thinking about and more before you get to the main course. This guide on building sexual tension should help.

  34. Chris says

    Hey Sean, I feel some hope after stumbling across your site. Im in a situation where if I do not step up the relationship im in will fizzle out. . Im timid and more often have been stuck in the starfish syndrome

    • says

      Hi Chris,

      Don’t forget that great relationships are not all about sex. Sex can be a major and fun part of your relationship, but there is so much else to making it work. You’ll find that if you sign up to the newsletter, you’ll get a lot of really great tips that you can start using with your man tonight.


  35. Andy says

    Hey Sean , Andy again. I’m pretty short and people have always called me cute including this guy I like , but truth is I really hate it. all my attempts to be sexy haven’t changed anything. How do I shake off my “cute” image and blow his mind ?

  36. Christy says

    Hi. I’m in a LDR and usually its my boyfriend who initiates the dirty texting. And when he does, I never know what to say and how to response so that he’ll feel desired. Besides that, I’m very, very inexperienced (he’s my first bf lol) and I want to have skype sex with him but I have no idea what to do (plus its very awkward for me). Although I have read your article on skype sex, I’m not very sure if its suitable because I also have no idea how to masturbate!!

    PS. I’m older than 18 if anyone’s doubting 😀

  37. Lisa says

    I am tickled I found this site. I have had some of the same questions and I’ve even bought books about the subject to find the best way to satisfy and keep your man or positions that will work best and more. I have only found a few that were really helpful. I did find one on amazon called orgasmic evolution it was very useful. I’d not heard of half the stuff it mentions in it. Made me feel like a amatuer for sure. But I use sexy text to get him excited when he is away and use the tricks i’ve gathered from different places including the one’s from that book when he is home. The I’m going to blow your mind later! text is perfect. He gets excited and asks me what im going to do and i tell him i have new tricks and then when i use them he is like holy shit where did you learn that at?! So worth the money that book was. ha

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