If you have never done it before, then you are in for a treat. Learning how to masturbate is fun and completely natural. The main thing with masturbation is that you are learning about your body. You are finding out what feels good to have touched, caressed and stimulated and you are learning about what areas of your body are most sensitive. While this guide will show you how to get started on the path to giving yourself some nice ‘O’s, there is one thing that I’d like you to know before reading on.
Different people respond to different things. You may find that certain techniques or sensations do nothing for you, while they work wonders for others.
The Set Up
Masturbation is so much more pleasurable and fun when you are relaxed and in private. So a little planning ahead can do wonders. If you are going to masturbate, make sure that your are not going to be disturbed. This means that you need to lock your door so people can’t burst in on you. If you don’t have a lock, then wait until no one else is around.
From talking to students, I have found that a slow and relaxed build up leads to more fulfilling orgasms. So if you have the time, you’ll find that running a bubble bath or having a nice, long and relaxing shower first is a great way to get in the mood.
You may read elsewhere that lighting candles, using incense and playing relaxing/sexy music can all add to the experience. It’s true. But it can often be a hassle preparing all that stuff beforehand.
The Build Up
Now that you have everything set up and you are sure that you are not going to be disturbed, it’s time to get down to it and start masturbating. If it’s your very first time masturbating, then I recommend that you turn off the lights and get under the covers of your bed. Doing this makes it feel like there is less pressure.
You may be eager to start masturbating right away, but instead, it’s better to keep build up to it. Start by slowly rubbing from your thighs up to your stomach and over your breasts. Try to listen to your body to find out where feels best to have rubbed and stimulated. Your breasts may feel the most sensitive and pleasurable to touch or maybe your inner things feel best or maybe even your waist does. The key is to experiment and find what works best for you and your body.
Keep doing this for just a minute or 2 until before finally starting to lower one hand towards your crotch. This slow build up is all part of making your orgasm that much more powerful when you do climax.
How To Actually Masturbate – The Basics First
Finally, we get to the actual masturbation part of this masturbation guide! When you lower your hand to your vagina, use just one finger (your index finger is best) to very lightly and softly glide over the middle of your vagina and clitoris, from top to bottom, up and down. Really listen to your body to feel which areas provide the most pleasure and stimulation when touched.
Above your vagina is your clitoris (often called the clit), under a small bit of skin which is called the clitoral hood. For almost all girls, this will provide you with the most pleasure when stimulated. On either side of your vagina are folds of skin called the labia which are not quite as sensitive as the your clit, but still feel great when they are pressed, rubbed, touched and massaged.
Try to find a point that you enjoy most. When you do, start to make small circular motions with your finger around it. Also try alternating how much pressure you apply to it. Sometimes a lot. Sometimes hardly any at all. This is all to find out what you enjoy most.
And that’s the basic techniques you need to use when masturbating.
Bringing Yourself To Orgasm
When learning how to masturbate, there is a trap that you must avoid. This trap is thinking that you ‘have to have an orgasm’. This kind of thinking puts pressure on you, which makes it much less likely that you will have one. Instead, a better way to approach masturbating is to have no goals. Instead you should look at it as
With that said, bringing yourself to orgasm is not too difficult. You just need to find the spot you enjoy the most and start to stimulate it more intensely. This means rubbing it faster and/or using more pressure. This will provide more stimulation and bring you closer and closer to that wonderful ‘O’.
For some, penetration during masturbation can feel great and take it to the next level. There are a number of ways you can do this. You can try penetrating yourself with your fingers, although this can sometimes be awkward and difficult, especially if you prefer deep penetration.
A better way can be to use toys, like a dildo or vibrator. Using a dildo or vibrator for masturbation is totally up to you. Most love it, while others don’t like it much at all. It’s really a personal preference. The fun thing is trying it out!
As I just mentioned, using a vibrator can be super pleasurable. But before you rush out the door and buy one, here are 2 pointers:
- Vibrators can provide intense stimulation which can be too much for some (to the point where it’s not pleasurable but actually a bit painful).
- Cheap vibrators usually only have one speed which can be annoying if you want something slow and relaxed. If you are serious about great masturbation, then go for a vibrator that has variable speeds even if it costs a little more.
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