Fingering yourself is easy…and fun!
It’s not actually that hard to finger yourself. But if you want to do it right and have very powerful orgasms then this guide will help you a lot. As well as reading this guide, I also highly recommend that you read my tips on how to masturbate and how to cum and how to orgasm so that you have a full understanding on what you need to do to give yourself maximum pleasure with your fingers.
Before You Start – Getting In The Mood
Before you even start fingering yourself, you need to do a little preparation so that you really enjoy it. The most important thing to do is to make sure that you are somewhere that you feel comfortable and relaxed. A great place is your bedroom or on a sofa in a place where you won’t get disturbed. This will make it easier to reach orgasm without having to worry about someone walking in on you.
Everybody has different things that will help them get in the mood. For you it might be dimming the lights and playing some music. For others it may be something else. Here are some of the most popular things you can do to help you get in the mood:
- Burn some incense
- Light some candles
- Wear something sexy
- Watch pornography (yes, some girls do enjoy it)
- Massage yourself first
There are lots of other things that will help you to get in the mood that I haven’t mentioned. The important thing to do is what you enjoy. Don’t just follow my advice blindly.
How To Finger Yourself
This simple diagram indicates all the major parts of the female sexual anatomy that you should focus on when fingering yourself.
Once you are set up and in the mood, it’s time to start fingering yourself. Start by lowering your hand from your breasts, down to over your stomach until you can feel your clitoris which is located outside your vagina and just above it. Below your clit, using just one finger, you will be able to feel fleshy folds of skin on either side of your vagina. These are your labia.
Using your single finger, start to slowly rub these. Using a gentle circular motion is best. You will find that as you rub you labia, you will naturally start to get wet. This wetness will act as a natural lubricant on your finger. As your finger gets covered in this natural lubricant, start to slowly press the tip of it in and out of your vagina to check how it feels. As you push your finger in and out, it will get covered in more and more of this lubricant, allowing you to easily slide your finger deeper and deeper into your vagina.
Fingering Your G-Spot
As you push your finger in and out or your vagina, you’ll notice that pressing up against certain parts of your vagina feels really good. If you have slid your hand down your stomach and then started to finger yourself, try curling your finger(s) backwards so that you are pressing against the upper wall of your vagina with your finger tips. This is where your G-Spot is located. You’ll know it when you press and rub it because it feels like the back of your palate in your mouth or a raspberry. In other words, it feels soft with tiny lumps. Try concentrating on the G-Spot for some really intense orgasms.
The picture below features a man’s handing fingering a woman. You can see his thumb stimulating her clitoris. His first 2 fingers are inside her vagina, fingering her. The tips of these 2 fingers are stimulating her G-Spot.
This simple diagram nicely illustrates how to stimulate your G-Spot with your fingers.
Notice how the G-Spot is right beside the bladder. A problem this often causes is the feeling that you need to pee when you stimulate your G-Spot. So if you feel the need to pee every time you finger yourself and stimulate your G-Spot, then don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal.
Awesome Fingering Technique #1
If you slowly build up to fingering your G-Spot, by first concentrating on your clitoris (like I explain in my article about masturbating) and then after 5-20 mins of this you move onto your G-Spot, you’ll find that your G-Spot is more engorged (bigger) and more pleasurable than usual leading to more intense and body shaking orgasms.
Awesome Fingering Technique #2
When you are fingering yourself, your arm will be on your stomach. A part of your hand will be very close your your clitoris. By pulling your arm slightly backwards, while keeping your fingers inside, you will be able to bring part of your hand into direct contact with your clit. By doing this, you can rub both your G-Spot and your clit at the same time, leading to some really fantastic orgasms if you do it right.
Awesome Fingering Technique #3
Another way to finger yourself is from behind. Put your hand down your lower back, over your anus and then into your vagina. Once you enter your vagina, if you curl your finger backwards, this time you will be stimulating the opposite side of your vagina to your G-Spot. Some of my students have reported this to feel incredibly pleasurable.
Final Words On Fingering Yourself
That’s all there is too it. Fingering yourself is incredibly straightforward. While I have gotten great feedback from those who have tried my 3 techniques above, I strongly encourage you to explore and try to find your own favorite techniques for pleasuring yourself with your fingers.
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Thank you so! This helped me a lot!!:)
Glad I could be of help!
ThankyouThankyouThankyou!! This helped so much! I tried these out on my friend (we’re both girls, not lesbians just curious and horny at the time) and it was FANTASTIC. It made us both so wet and horny, she even asked me to do it again sometime! THANKS!! Very satisfied customers.
thnx it felt really nice ahha i want to do it with someone now
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Pls help ive been fingering myself in the shower but i can seem 2 squrit!
Hi Alina,
The truth is that some people find it easier than others to squirt. The key is not to be focused on squirting. Instead you should just focus on enjoying yourself and doing what feels best for you. This will help to take pressure off.
Sean
Wov, Thank you. It makes me wet and horny. It was really fantastic.
I finally was able to get my hand inside. It took approx 2 hours of kegals and pushing technique but was well worth the work. Tonight i am going to try a 1 liter plastic bottle with the same method. Tnx.
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!:) I WISH MY BF WOULD FINGER ME…..THAT FELT AMAZING!!!!!! I WAS LIKE….AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
oh god… I CUMMED =O Yaaaaay!! imma try this again! cya good person that helped me cum =D
It would be nice to have a graphic of a woman’s hand doing this instead of a man’s hand; it’s obvious that a woman couldn’t have her hand in that position and do that.
You’re right! If I can find a graphic with a woman’s hand instead of a man’s, I will update it. Thanks,
Sean
Sean,
It’s seems like you know all the tricks. You must be quite the ladies man.
What should I do if I’ve never had an orgasm? I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years now and still nothing.
Hi Ashlee,
It’s much easier to first have an orgasm by yourself, while exploring your own body and what turns you on without the pressure of your man being there. Then when you can comfortably and easily give yourself an orgasm without much effort, then it’s time to start trying to have one with your man or by his hand.
The key is enjoying the process, not focusing on orgasming.
Sean
hi Sean,
These tips are really amazing!!! Just from reading and imagining the sensation made me wet wet wet
thank you soo much! (im going to give it a go and feel in real the experience fom your advise)
i was wondering, its a little stupid though.. Whats the difference between feeling wet, cum and orgasm??
You’re like the sex master, so i hope i, the dummy have asked the right person c:
Hi KY,
Thanks for your praise & question!
Becoming wet is the self-lubrication process that occurs when many women become aroused.
Cumming doesn’t always accompany orgasm (but often it does), when you rapidly self-lubricate a lot and can even ejaculate (from your Skene’s gland).
Orgasm is a peak moment of pleasure that occurs during sex, foreplay or other stimulation. You don’t necessarily have to cum when you orgasm or even be that wet.
Sean
ohh thank you sean,
I finally understand the difference ^^
I hope you dont mind me asking another question.. But is it normal to be wet for no reason, like after a long day out.. You come home and somehow find yourself wet? I mean i am not in an ‘aroused mood when this happens.’
Well thank you again for the clear explanation
Hi KY,
Yes it’s perfectly normal and nothing to be worried about.
Sean
I tried it but, i don’t seem to be cumming. Any Tips??
Hi Jasmine,
The key is not to ‘force it’. In other words, don’t put pressure on yourself to have an orgasm and cum. Instead, just focus on enjoying the process and discovering what sorts of things you enjoy.
Sean
Hii, I was fingering the clit and I got reallt wet and such, but I came to a point where I couldn’t keep on rubbing the clit because it was to sensitiv… Hard to explain, it felt like I came, but it happened to fast… I am confused
Hi Frida,
This is completely normal. After you orgasm, your clit can become very sensitive, usually too sensitive to keep on rubbing. All you need to do is just wait until this super-sensitivity subsides and then you can go back to rubbing it again.
Sean
Thanx, i really appreciate the help/advice
Glad you enjoy the advice!
Hello,
I’m very new at this and I don’t know what it feels like to achieve a orgasm so I don’t know if I’m doing it right. I rubbed my clitoris until it became so sensitive I couldn’t take it anymore. As for the G-Spot I can’t seem to find it, any tips?
Hi Paige,
There is no right way or wrong way to rub your clitoris as different people enjoy different things. The important thing is to keep experimenting to see what is the most enjoyable thing for you. So experiment with all different kinds of touch, from feather light to soft to quite hard touching.
Your G-Spot is much easier to find when you are very aroused, so my advice would be to only try to find it when you are super aroused.
Sean
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