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Today you’ll learn how to squirt when alone as well as how to make yourself squirt when you’re with your man.
Additionally, your man may find this guide useful to read too, so that he understands how to help you achieve that beautiful feeling of female ejaculation.
Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.
Here’s How The Tutorial Is Structured:
1. Your anatomy – The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.
2. The process & techniques to squirt – With detailed instructional diagrams!
3. FAQ on common squirting questions that I’m often asked as well as debunking some annoying myths about squirting.
Squirting Podcast
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1. Important Anatomy
Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there.’
In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.
The G Spot
While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute it’s existence [1], we firmly believe it exists, but that its sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.
The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from the entrance.
Please understand that your G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged (i.e. it becomes bigger) [2]. When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.
Skene’s Gland
When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt or ejaculate from.
You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot. As a result, this entire tutorial will focus on stimulating your G Spot.
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Just one last thing on the Skene’s gland before we move on: When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women[3].
It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation. I will also discuss other factors that can help or hinder your ability to ejaculate in the FAQ section at the end of this article.
The Clitoris
When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the vast majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation, although it’s not impossible[4].
So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. So to keep things simple, we won’t be covering the clitoris for the rest of this article. If you want to learn some great clitoral stimulation techniques, then you may be interested in this article here. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color
2. The Process & Squirting Techniques
One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and very comfortable. I’ll explain why in just a minute.
Getting Comfortable & Relaxed
Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in a pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.
Getting Aroused
Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:
- Reading erotica
- Watching porn
- Fantasizing about something or someone
- Massaging yourself
- Using a vibrator or dildo
While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.
As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell[5] and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.
At this point, your G Spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:
All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to squirting. Without it, your Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot harder to actually squirt. Now, the good stuff…
Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.
The Hook
The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.
Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.
Push The Button
You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.
Come Hither
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.
The Arm Shaker
The Arm Shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.
Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.
Sex Toys
Optionally you can use a sex toy like dildos (tips here) or penis shaped vibrators (tips for using your vibrator here). There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.
There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.
Squirting During Sex
As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that he should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot
But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:
4 Sex Positions To Help You Squirt
While you will find over 100 different sex positions with professional photographs in the sex positions section here, the following four positions are the ones that I would most recommend you try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:
G Spot Position – As the name suggests, the G Spot position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust.
Launch Pad Position – The Launch Pad sex position is great as it gives you a lot of control… You can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward. Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick.
Down Stroke Position – Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot position. It’s also a bit more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit.
Jockey Position – The Jockey position is more easy going for you as you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated below. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a very specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot.
Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot.
Pressure & Release
As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a buildup in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee [6][7]. This feeling is completely natural for two reasons:
1. Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.
2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.
So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.
As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.
3. FAQ
If you are having trouble squirting, then most likely you’ll find an answer to your problem here:
Question: I feel like peeing when I try to make myself squirt. Why?
Answer: As I explained above in Pressure & Release, this is because you are applying pressure to an area right beside your bladder, which in turn puts pressure on your bladder. Additionally, you will be squirting from your urethra [8] which is the same place you pee from, hence the very similar feeling.
Just ignore this natural feeling and keep going. If you are still worried, then try to make yourself squirt in the shower, and you will see that the smell and texture of the fluid you ejaculate is not the same as pee. Remember that the liquid that comes out is from the Skene’s gland, not the bladder.
You can also direct the flow of water from the shower head over your clitoris for some extra stimulation.
You may also feel the need to pee if you are applying pressure by placing your hand on your lower stomach close to your Mons Pubis. This technique can help to make you squirt, but can also contribute to that feeling of needing to pee.
Question: No matter what I try, I can’t squirt. What should I do?
Answer: Firstly, don’t worry too much about it, stressing yourself about the outcome will only make it harder to ejaculate. For many women, it takes time to learn about their bodies, what feels right and what brings them closer to squirting. So take the time to masturbate and discover the kinks and fantasies (check out BDSM) that turn you on. Like I said previously, you need to build up to it by slowly turning yourself on for up to 30 minutes before paying attention to your G Spot. In time, you will get closer and closer to squirting.
According to the research of Emanuele Jannini, some women unfortunately don’t have a Skene’s gland[5], making it next to impossible to squirt.
Question: The pressure keeps building, but I never hit the peak & squirt. Help!?
Answer: Sounds like you are very close and it will take just a little bit more to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.
Like I said previously, for some, they need to let go, be at peace with how they feel and just relax. But for others they need to push out. This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your kegel muscles. Others need intense clitoral stimulation at the same time as G Spot stimulation to squirt.
My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.
Question: Fluid flowed/gushed, but I didn’t squirt a stream of liquid. Why not?
Answer: The level at which women squirt/ejaculate/gush is highly variable. Some women can shoot a steady stream into the air while for most, fluid simply runs out of their vagina. It’s the same for guys when they ejaculate. For many, it just oozes out, while for others it can fly across the room!
Question: My man wants me to squirt for him, but I can’t. What should I do?
Answer: Your boyfriend needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. He also needs to realize that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with him. So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your man.
You will find that the more pressure your man puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so get him to take a chill pill and relax. The same is true when you’re learning how to make a man cry in bed, you can’t force it.
Lastly, remember that some girls simply can’t squirt, and that’s perfectly normal.
Question: I squirted, but I didn’t have an orgasm, what happened?
Answer: This sounds normal. Squirting is not always linked to having an orgasm. Sometimes you can squirt/gush and not orgasm while you do it.
Question: I want my man to make me squirt. What should I do?
Answer: The short answer is to teach him and show him. Give him a demonstration and show him exactly what you do to make yourself orgasm. Additionally, he may find reading this very article helpful.
Question: I’ve never had an orgasm, but I want to squirt, what should I do?
Answer: Slow down. If you can’t orgasm, then everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and climax first, before moving on to squirting. This tutorial and these techniques will show you how to masturbate effectively as well as this one on giving yourself an orgasm will help.
Question: I’m a guy who wants to make my partner squirt. What can I do?
Read our advice for making a woman squirt.
The last thing I’d like to say on squirting is that I have made a number of assertions & assumptions based on both scientific and anecdotal evidence. Despite huge numbers women reporting being able to squirt, the scientific community is still debating aspects of squirting such as the makeup of the fluid[9] that is squirted as well as the existence of the G Spot[10]!
and how can I squirt with my partner?
Hi Sarah,
A large part of learning how to squirt with your partner is being comfortable with them. I would suggest learning how to make yourself squirt first before learning how to squirt with your partner. Remember, if you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it’s going to be much more difficult to actually do it. A much better approach is to just enjoy the experience whether you squirt or not.
Sean
Hello. I’ve only recently discovered “squirting” to be an actual source of pleasure. Seeing it in porn before I use to think it was fake or water or pee. Only until I watched a “learn to squirt” video and was informed that it’s a real way to ejaculate and feel pleasure, and that the fluid is not pee. Since then I’ve had a strong desire to do it. Not just for myself but for my partner who is extremely turned on by this. I want to fulfill his fantasy but he doesn’t always have the patience for the process. We have tried it and I’ve felt like I really could squirt but it never happens. He tends to get frustrated with the process and finds it very tiresome. Then he gets in a bad mood about it. He thinks that he doesn’t have what it takes to pleasure me and I try to explain to him that, that’s not the case at all. I’m very turned on by him and I really do want to squirt for him, but I haven’t been successful. I try to explain to him that he hasn’t really given me a chance to do it yet. But I don’t think putting pressure on the situation helps either. To the point where we have argued about this. When I think it is very possible if he would only be more patient. It’s discouraging. I just want to fulfill his fantasy. What could I do to be successful at squirting? I refuse to believe that Im just not enough intouch with my sexual self because I am very self aware. I just haven’t had success at it yet. Any helpful tips would be very much appreciated. Thank you for your time.
Oh and P.S. I’m pregnant I don’t know if that henders the situation any or not, but I haven’t been successful, and I really want to be. Thanks again.
First try to squirt on your own, then after you can comfortably squirt on your own, with no outside pressure, try it with your man.
Sean
My man made me squirt so hard by fingering me. It was amazing. Now I want to squirt all the time
I am not sure where to put my factual advice and sincere opinion.
Squirting is not a competition among men because, the phenomenon has just 5% to do with a man.
It has everything to do with the size of the skene gland and which is in majority cases small or even negligible It is not a common opportunity
Am 53 years and have been with 78 women that is at least where I lost the count and I have been lucky to encounter only two squirters
I don’t care what research is out there to comfort or to worry anybody but to say the word “squirters” with all health norms considered diet contributes 50% with consistency with intake of adequate water and the resulting capacity of squirt should be about 300ml or simply a full cocacola bottle per completed session.
I’m in the same situation. I’m five months pregnant so some positions I can’t do. But I’ve never came through vaginal intercourse only clitoral. So in order for me to cum there has to he a vibrator used.
I have the same issue. except twice. ever. and I’m a call girl, my number is in the 500+ range. but only 2 times haves I ever cum from simple penetration. therewasno emotional connection to either one. the first was when I first started working my 10the client ever. was tall ginger that I wasn’t expecting to be hung like a horse. and that c*ck stuffed me, like I hadnt ever been stuffed before, he had me Bent over doggy on the edge of the bed. that was years and years ago and I still fantasize about it. the second time was really odd I thought.he was a totally unattractive, fat balding guy, and I wanted to run outta there. maybe it was the fact that I made myself stay and let him have his way with me, once again it was doggy but this time it was back door stimulation. he wasn’t well endowed by any means but considering how short it was it was sorta thick . best way to describe it is a ‘chode’. he grabbed myhips and I mean the thrusts had to be quite small but he kept thrusting like it bad actually much bigger, entirely pull ing out and reinserting with every thrust so the pace was somewhat quick so I had to be careful not to break rythm or move at all for fear of breaking it or feel liking I got stabbed with a butter knife. I think it was the popping in and out that did it that time. I was so surprised by it I almost immediately crumbled. legs and arms failed me to abrublty I probably shot right down. definitely memorable.
and then there was the time my ex woke me by trying to shove is entire had into my p*ssy. I was probably asleep fkt an hour first. out cold. and then being rudely awoken . I didn’t say anything when I woke, I didn’t stop him I just let him keep trying I was sleeping on my stomache so after a while I curled my knees up under me to I was in fetal position , kind of crouched over with face still buried in the pillow , as I was moaning quite loudly. and at this point had never been fully fisted wrist deep by a man before nor did I think he had any interest in it. but I’ll take what I can get I guess so I didn’t stop him even though he was hurting me I just kept my ass in the air, welcoming the ruination of my cunt. I was crying from the lain if it and he hadn’t even gotten past kuckles. the only time I have squirted abundantly and repeated. it hurt so much but it felt so good at the same time.
the weird thing though is that I don’t necessarily feel myself squirting and I can’t really identify whether I’m going to or not. might also be the other extreme sensations involved that make it hard to place lol. I also had to let everything I was pushing out as to let him in further so maybe that’s what did it. best sexual experience of my life. oh and that was the first day after moving into my new place. I think my new neighbors thought I was being murdered.
B. Holley,
I also always thought squirting was fake when I saw it in porn until my most recent boyfriend. He tried for months to get me to squirt (even though I didn’t realize this was his intent), and eventually it just happened! I was completely surprised, excited, in disbelief, etc. LOL! Since then he has only been able to make it happen a few times, but I think he’s getting the hang of it. I made myself squirt for the first time today which was even better! I have a curved G-Spot vibrator which I don’t think I would have been able to do it without, so I think if you followed the positioning in the tutorial and used the same type of vibrator you might have some luck! I also found it easier sitting in an upright position with my legs in the air… GOOD LUCK!!! : )
This is so true. I managed to squirt for the first time on my own.I didn’t think I could. Can’t wait to try this with my boyfriend!!!
I think excitement,being turned on,being extremely comfortable with your sexuality,and not really trying too hard. My wife and i tried many times but nothing happened i mean she felt the urge but nothing until one day i took her in front of a stand up mirror stood behind her totally undressed slowy then kissed her neck while running my hands all over her naked body while she watched it all in the mirror now by the time i got to touching her vagina her hips were already thrusting like she was trying to grind the air in front of her if it would put pressure on her clit. And then i took my time with her clit and her labia folds until i inserted a finger or 2 into her and my god its the wettest most turned on ive felt her so from there i started playing with her g spot not really intentionally and out of no where while she was having her normal clit stimulated orgasam she must have just let go and it surprised us both when she gushed this amazing clear liquid and from that point on we played all day learning how to do it now shes a pro and so am i. Sometimes i think she prefers that orgasam to the clitoral one.
Thanks Chris!
Hey so I’ve been also wanting to do it for the longest time and wasn’t ready to give up. My boyfriend would just keep hitting the gspot…sometimes i would lise the feeling and we would just go back to foreplay. I thought that i didnt have to do no work in the process however the first time it happened i had to play with my clit. It helped alit and i have to do it every time. Now i can do it 8 times in a hour. Dont give up! Youll get tbere!!!
can u help me I am a single mom and I need to know how to do it I have never had a boyfriend it has been just me and Bethany (my daughter) so I don’t know how to I was raped that’s how I got pregnant with beth
Hey Iam 63 and for the first tine i made mywoman squirt and it
wwa her first too. It took a lit of fingering licking and rubbing but when she came i was so excited i think i ate every bit of her cum awesome just dnjaimeo it
What is the difference between squirting and having an orgasm?
You can orgasm/climax without squirting. You orgasm/climax and squirt. And you can squirt without orgasming/climaxing.
can you orgasm and squirt at the same time
yup!
Sean Jameson please help me!
I want to give my girlfriend the best sex life possible. We have been together for over 2 years now and she’s never masterbatied before. Until recently… I asked her to send me a video of her while she was while I was away and I asked her if she felt more relaxed doing it by her self. And she said yes. It feels like I just got stabbed in the heart is there something I’m doing wrong? I askd her what gets heron the mood and she just says thinking of me. And when I asked her what feels better, if I get her to orgasm or if she does it? She says me but it just feels like she’s just saying that to make me feel better. I don’t know what to do.
Many women feel more relaxed and comfortable when masturbating alone rather than when their partner is there beside them. This is usually because many women (and men) get performance anxiety. The feel like they need to put on a show for their partner, which makes it harder for them to relax and focus on enjoying themselves.
I did my first squirt on my man. I was riding him but leaned back so it was angle up more n rubbed my self. I thought I peed but no lol
Is it normal to squirt from anal sex? My boyfriend and I were having sex and I just about to cum when he took it out and started anal all of a sudden I felt this urge and pressure and I gushed all over….. please help
Sounds normal to me. The only thing to worry about is whether you enjoyed it or not.
I have taught many many women to squirt and helped many men learn to help a woman squirt with a 100% (seriously) success rate. Sometimes it takes a few sessions to get comfortable with it, and while I think pressure and anxiety of insisting squirting happen can be counter-productive, I also think the idea of not focusing at all on the goal of squirting (if that is indeed a goal) is also counter-productive.
Great point Chris
How can I get in contact with you please?
Have learned over the years and some woman are truly amazed when it happens and actually say that it was the best orgasm they ever had. Helps I take my time foreplay and especially being very ddf vasectomy safe if she is helps so so much more that skin on skin hot vest feeling in the world seemed to make the best squirts for a woman tbh being older more secure and experienced
When you squirt is it pee or water ?
It can be pee or ejaculate or a combination of both.
I really want to learn to squirt for my boyfriend as it’s one of his biggest fantasies, I’ve tried masterbating on my own, I get all the build up then go to using my fingers on my g spot. I orgasm while doing it but don’t even cum let alone squirt. please help? I really want to do this for my partner.
Everyone is different so based on experience ask him to turn his hand around and put pressure on the bottom of your vagina. Best if done after you’ve cum from oral sex first. Find the spot opposite your g spot then hit it hard and fast. ?
I have just started squirting with my boyfriend. I’m 44 years old. I absolutely soak the bed and floor but I want to be able to “shoot” my ejaculation instead of it essentially just gushing down. Can I learn to do that?
Possibly, if you can strengthen you Kegel muscles and then squeeze the fluid out.
This is great advice kirsty! It can take me an exhaustive hour to squirt from stimulating the traditional g “spot” on the anterior wall. But regular to little effort on the posterior/bottom wall’s g “region”, only con is I can’t use fingers, so I use a g spot vibrator with a curved head and just flip it upside down, as someone who always has some type of ejaculation from any kind of orgasm, I Def reccomend trying this method.
Bottom wall is an underrated, underdisscussed region;I didn’t think I enjoyed anal until I started thinking of it in terms of posterior wall access, that exploration led me to enjoy it for its own sake.
P. S When you build up but can’t release, is worth trying the pull out technique, some squirt from swiftly pulling out whatever you’re fucking, the sudden emptiness can cause involuntary clenching or unclenching(pushing out or relaxing). I don’t always use this method, but find it noteworthy & useful if I can’t focus my mind when trying for non climax squirting.
Yes! The quick pullout is KEY for me once my g spot is swollen and is what really gets it squirting out in streams. I also find kneeling and leaning back helps.. I have done it in different positions but something about being on my knees and using a dildo with a buildup of stimulation, THEN pull out quickly… mmm yes! And then I can move to using my fingers for clitoral stimulation and continue squirting and sometimes it just gushes out slowly and it just drips down my legs. Which I find equally sexy…
All I can tell you my side as a man I’ll gently rub my wifes clit with a vibrator as I lick her pussy lips than I’ll pull back and insert my index finger and find that juicy G spot I’ll rub it with friction than I’ll suck on her clit at the same it drivers her insane than she squirts all over my face I’d rather finger fuck like this and suck her her clit I love nothing more than her pussy juice all over my face and dam does it taste amazing and just the sent of her pussy juice makes me squirt my jizz all over
Hi Sean,
I’ve learned thanks for that:)
Just one things to add to these useful information.
We need to drink a lotsof water all week to make this happen bcos If our body is not hydrated and we (force) this amount of liquid out from our body it may cause headache or just not happening at all. I started drinking enough water all week to be more hydrated generally and the headache gone after squirting. Maybe this will help others to understand water could come out from our body if it’s enough there and won’t If it’s not our body will keep it (and maybe squirting less or not at all)
Linette
Oh MY GOOD!!!! As a guy I know some of this and was doing the movement but a little bit more info and Gizzz….Made 3 Women Squirt!!!! Multiple times, every next squirt bigger than previous!!!! This guide is so simple yet gives info that rocks!!!! Thank you!!!!
glad I could help
Um when I do it, I’m pretty positive I actually peed? I might have cummed a little but then after I peed? Sooo :/ idk
Peeing a little while you’re cumming is perfectly fine and normal Bree, so don’t worry!
Sean
When I squirt it first feels like an orgasm, but then after a few seconds the gushing feeling just feels like peeing and if I try to stop the flow I usually can, like peeing, although afterwards if I go to the restroom I can still actually pee. I do this every time I orgasm and I am nervous to try with my partner because I don’t want to pee all over him if that is the case.
I have this same story!!! Need answers!!! Lol
Is it possible to squirt without massaging your gspot?
Hi Brittany,
Some people can and some people can’t. It really depends on the person.
Sean
I have tryed alot of things and still I cant. I get that pee feeling then it go away.. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I want to give up. My boyfriend has tryed to and i get that pee feeling and he will tell me to let it go and it go away every time what else can I do…Am starting to feel bad over this..
Hi Trina,
You shouldn’t feel bad about this at all! You’ll actually find it harder to squirt at first when you’re with your partner. The best place to try it is in the shower, when you are alone. This way you can immediately wash away any ejaculate with the shower water.
And remember…some people can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.
Best,
Sean
I tried to squirt but I felt like peeing and try to press my g spot harder but i didn’t squirt… I did all the ways but I didn’t squirt.please help me wat should I do?
Did you get wet at all? Some women don’t squirt a stream, but instead they get very wet, very quickly.
My girlfriend wants me to make her squirt with my tongue. Is this possible and if so How? Thank you!
Hi Ash,
It is possible, but a lot harder if you are not stimulating your G-Spot. So you could experiment with using your fingers (or a toy) to stimulate her G-Spot while using your tongue to massage he clit.
Let me know how it goes!
Sean
Yes. I’ve had my gf squirt when I go down on her. The first time it was a lot and had no taste at all. Now when she does it has a musky odor. I tell myself it’s not pee bit after reading this I think it might be. Either way I’m comfortable with her so she can do as she pleases.
The same thing happens with my husband, because of that he doesn’t like going down
Try with another person
Really? Are you serious?
Yep. I love it
I wish my wife would give it a go. She wants absolutely nothing to do with “squirting”. I’ve tried rubbing her g-spot every which way from here to Sunday. She just doesn’t like it. Says “it hurts”, even if I’m super easy fingering her. I told her I don’t care if she “pee’s on me”. I’d get turned on like crazy. Nothing a women’s body does grosses me out. I love “period sex” and luckily she doesn’t mind it either. I’ve even gone down her when she’s still “light” and lived it. Turned me on because she loved it so much. I just wish she’d try to squirt, but doesn’t look like it’ll ever happen. Oh well. Always porn I guess.
So I never thought I would be able to squirt but I have a new partner and we had a spur of the moment sex experience. We ended up on top of a sink and I don’t know if it was the position, or my arousal from this new position but I became aware that I was getting very wet and he told me to
Look down and I did and I was squirting all over him. It didn’t feel like an orgasm though…. But I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm so I’m not sure if what I did was squirting or not…..
Hi Alex,
Yup, sounds like you squirted. Not everyone orgasms while squirting though.
Sean
Hi baby
the best squirting experience i got from my girlfriend is she was on top of me and after a few drinks i liked her pussie from underneath. she was squatting on me and i licked her very well and when she squirtee i thought she peed on me , but it was a good experience. I want her to do it again. If you also want her, she is available
I squirter on my boyfriends face during 69 n it ruined it. I felt like I peed on his face. He swears it had no taste or smell but it freaked me out. I haven’t tried to do it since cus it was weird. I’m gonna try it on myself first
Just be open and honest with him. I know a lot of guys who really like. Personally I love when my gf squirts all over my faces while continuing to go down on me usually harder and deeper. We’ve even cum at the same exact time a couple time collapsing on each other with heads still between each other’s thighs in pure bliss. What an amazing experience. Communication is the key to great sex. Not surprises. Well not usually;)
My lady want me to help her squirt but am not in support of it, but question is does it have an effect?
Hi, my wife and I have been trying to make her squirt for ages without success and to the point where my fingers start to hurt her. She gets the peeing sensation but that’s it. We put no pressure on eachother with reguard to this subject and I’ve tried all of the above without success. When I suggested this subject to her she was a little apprehensive at first but warmed to the idea after reading a few forums. It’s ended up where I’ve been stimulating her g spot for over an hour, have an aching arm, very wet fingers, lost my and failed miserably at getting the desired result. I can sometimes feel the inside of her vagina swelling, almost forcing my fingers out but the the upper wall eventually seems to move away from my fingers. She always empties her bladder before we try but always has to visit the bathroom when we are finished. What could we be doing wrong? Could I be being too rough inside her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’ve had other partners before my wife who I could make squirt through g spot stimulation with ease so I don’t think it’s what I’m doing though I’m not 100% sure.
Hi Chris,
The first thing I would do her is get your wife to try it on her own. It’s more likely that she knows the exact buttons to push to bring herself to the point of squirting. Then once she can do it on her own, get her to show you exactly what she did. However do keep in mind that not all women have the ability to squirt unfortunately.
Best,
Sean
I’ve also found that if you press down on your pelvis with your other hand it helps to “push” your g-spot towards your fingers etc and makes it easier to squirt. My fiance is the only man who has ever been able to make me cum or squirt. It’s definitely an amazing feeling. I only found this article bc I was trying to find out how to squirt during intercourse and not just while he was fingering me. This article has been a great tutorial for us and our sex life is even more amazing than it already was and it was really really fucking amazing before. Thanks for your help.
I have found the use of Ben Wa balls very helpful in learning to isolate the necessary pelvic muscles to release the fluid. They are also very helpful in helping to stimulate and engorge the g spot.
Here’s how: Begin by arousing your Vagina to the point where your vulva are pink and engorged and your clit is erect and sensitive. Then stop self arousal and insert both balls deep into the vagina. You will feel the pressure of them against your swollen g spot when placement is correct. Then use your fingers to jiggle the balls against your g spot. This feel good fairly fast. Soon you’ll feel the urge to pre but keep jiggling the balls and don’t fight it, this is good. When the orgasm contractions begin, spread your legs wide and bear down pushing against the balls, try to push them out. This is the set of muscles needed to release the fluid. You should squirt.
Damn! Gonna have to get some of those balls and try it.
Maybe youre trying too hard or you just don’t turn her on. Move on and find another partner that won’t take as much effort.
The guy, Chris was talking about his wife! That’s a pretty shoddy thing to say. I’m wondering if you are married yet, or even in a serious relationship.
Maybe Chris’ wife should be the one to move on. It could be that he just doesn’t do the trick for her and she needs a real man to make her feel good.
…not being able to squirt shouldnt be the end of a relationship. Dickwad
That’s not the right thing to tell someone (move on and find different partner ),as stated it takes patience and understanding of your own body which most women are not taught growing up ,so once grown no matter how comfortable they have become with themselves as adults that remains a area of uncomfortablilty in the subconscious .
Only a Jezebel type would say such a thing. You obviously know nothing about a REAL relationship…he’s MARRIED and I’m sure he doesn’t want to leave her over a squirt!!
Sounds like she’s not 100% comfy. It’s not uncomfortableness with you, but uncomfortableness with the “pee factor” if it happens. Plus if a woman is too up in her own head she could easily loose any orgasmic feeling. G spot orgasms are tricky. I’ve had several with two guys but at that moment I’m in a true horny hot blissful state. I can also make myself squirt and it’s pretty remarkable. It’s like my body tingles all over and I can’t think. When the fluid comes out I don’t even realize at first. Don’t get discouraged. Just tell your lover how much you want to make her feel good before the sex (maybe during foreplay), and don’t speak repetitively during, “I wanna make you squirt.” That’s too much presure on a woman. Keep practicing and have fun!!
Wow, love your comment.. Thank you
Comfort is crucial my husband made me pee on him to show me he didnt mind …its not that he likes pee but he wanted to show me it the pee meant nothing to him when it came to pleasing me….. After that i tried it by myself a few times then we had some crazy passionate sex and the squirting didnt stop i was amazed at what he made me do we were both soaked……after you make her truely comfortable it will happen and Some advice lay down some towels just incase
He have a brother? Lol
Hi, I’ve read your advice and have been trying to make myself squirt all night long, but I’ve had no such luck of actually making it happen. I’ve rubbed on my clit and kept myself from coming, and then found my g-spot and fingered it, but I’ve only had a regular orgasm. No squirting here. Maybe you could come over and do it for me, lol, seriously though, please help! Thanks.
Hi Eva,
The key is not to be ‘outcome dependent’. In other words, try not to focus on squirting. Rather, focus on just having a good time, while doing the things that will help to increase the chances of you squirting. You should feel a small amount of pressure building up when you stimulate your G Spot (very similar to the feeling of needing to pee).
Often you need to apply quite a bit of force to your G Spot to achieve this. Don’t forget to experiment with different techniques and even toys. And finally, don’t forget that some women simply can’t squirt, but it’s really not a big deal
Sean
Try with fingers in ur ass too… That’ll help
I love my ass being handled and teased to get me so aroused, not necessarily anal but a finger always feels amazing! I quite honestly believe that i am unable to squirt yet i manage to have some extremely intense orgasms that i am more than satisfied without a mess
Absolutely! I was about to point that out, then I seen your comment. My first squirt experience was from anal sex.
Maybe you need to move on and find another partner that won’t take that much effort. Take your own advice
I have always squirted when masturbating but just in the past year or so started doing it while having sex with my hubby. He loves it. But I have trouble doing so during oral. Any advice?
Hi Megan,
Squirting is almost always a result of G Spot and/or vaginal stimulation. When your man is going down on you, he will mostly be stimulating your clitoris. While squirting from clitoral stimulation is possible, it’s much less likely than occur than from penis in vagina (PIV) sex.
The other night I was playing with my clit with my fingers to make myself orgasm and I could feel myself getting ready to squirt, and I hadn’t done any penetration into my pussy at all, and when I made myself have an orgasm I then let myself squirt, without penetration. That was the first time I squirted without penetration of any kind, and surely will NOT be the last time! 🙂
Hello there! My problem seems to actually be the opposite of most of these other posts. My boyfriend, and previous boyfriends have been able to make me squirt, no problem. The technique seems to be to finger me really hard, in an upward motion over and over. I wouldn’t consider it rubbing or pressing, it’s more like slamming. Sorry if that is graphic but it gets the job done. Anyway, now my boyfriend is away on an extended trip and I can’t get myself to squirt no matter how much I try. I think my fingers are too short, and I don’t have the arm strength to hit my gspot that hard? I also used a dildo but that didn’t work for me either. I’m able to have a gspot orgasm but it doesn’t squirt. Any advice?
Hi Cici,
Try using a dildo, but…instead of using it with with you arm lying over your stomach, try putting your arm behind your back to use the dildo. This will make it much easier to provide yourself with a lot of pressure on your G Spot area and hence make squirting a lot easier.
Best,
Sean
I have never had a squirting orgasm i am trying i dont know if im doing it right or what but it just isnt happening.my boyfriend and i wanna experiance this together ive had really powerfull orgasms trying so i think i am doin somethin right i just need advice please help
Hi Nicole,
Don’t focus too much on squirting as the last thing you want to do is put pressure on yourself (it will just make it harder to squirt in the long run). It sounds like you are already doing well and to be honest, I suggest that you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Please keep in mind that some women can squirt and some can’t, not everyone can.
Sean
Can you squirt by rubbing your pussy?
Yes, it’s possible, but just not that common.
Hy, my girlfriend really want to be squirt…. and i tried alot, by finger, by toung etc….. this time i will try my best to get her squirt. give me some tips for that and also tell me what is actually squirting material… can it harm my dick like periods blood??
Did you read this article at all?
No doubt… Sometimes I wonder what the hell people are looking at, because it can’t be the same, pretty simple to follow advice I’m seeing.??
How the hell can period blood harm your dick. You really must be thick if you believe that Should you even be having sex I wonder
Hi. I’ve been trying to squirt for some time. I’ve read a lot about how to do it but never really succeeded. I was perfectly relaxed and I had the urge to pee but nothing. I always empty my bladder before masturbation and sex. No squirting but the need to visit the bathroom after that. Is there something wrong?
Hi Bubbles,
Honestly you sound completely normal 🙂 Remember that some people can squirt very easily, while others have much more difficulty. Keep trying and just focus on what feels good NOT on what you think will make you squirt. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it really helps.
Sean
Like I commented on another person’s post….try to push on your pelvis and apply there with your free hand. It seems to help push your g-spot towards your fingers more and make it easier to squirt. Good luck.
There is something called reflux, a lot of women say that they have urinated before sex and get up multiple times to pee during sex, they are refluxing ejaclate into their bladder. I did this my entire life then met a man who I became a geyser with! A lot is about comfort level, trust and more than anything else, technique. Now I can make myself squirt but it still is tough for me to do it with my present lover and I believe it is because I don’t feel the intimacy I’ve felt with others. Most importantly, we women get freaked out when the urge to pee comes, you have to give birth to your orgasm…… meaning, let it go and it will come, you can push it out or just greatly relax and it will flow.
Happy Squirting ! ????
Hi sean i came once for my fiancee and none of my past bfs couldnt make me cum or squirt i really want to squirt for him again without a dildo and i practice by myself alot lately and i have my hood pierced what else can we try ? Please help please send to email thank you
Just answered 🙂
None of my past bfs could make me cum or squirt. Same question as first comment
Test, try, experiment and get to know your own body first. This way you can discover what you need to feel in order to cum or squirt without the pressure of having your man there. But remember, some women just can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.
Best,
Sean
Thank you sean i know i can squirt cause i did it already but with a toy and my fiancee was going fast and hard, but it kills his arm cause it takes me forever to let myself go. Ugh i want to cum with him ,
Hi Tiffany,
Don’t worry, it just takes time to get relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt easily for a lot of women. Just give it time and enjoy the process.
Warning: If you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it actually going to be much harder to do it. Just focus on what’s pleasurable and stop keeping track of time.
Best,
Sean
When I masturbate/finger, i always do it alone. WHen i do it, im really turned on, the first time i thought i squirt, it looked like i peed. and it smelt like it to. should i go to the bathroom before i masturbate? I also haven’t orgasmed. I want to be able to squirt for my bf when we first have sex.
Hi Jessi,
Ideally , you should go to the bathroom both before and after masturbation/sex.
Sean
It felt great thanks for the tips
Hello. Im a 29 yr old female I don’t know if that makes any difference. I’m also on the heavier side I’m 5’2 and weigh inn at 185lbs on my way to a healthier me. I’ve been trying to squirt by myself I want to surprise my BF. I know we would both love it. I’ve tried my finger and stimulating my G spot but I only have my usual orgasm as well as stimulating my clitoris and again I only have my usual orgasim I’ve never had an issue with having an orgasim wether through oral, self or penetration so now on to my new venture of squirting and proving to be quiet a challenge. Any advice?
Hi Jessica,
The most important thing is to make sure you are not putting pressure on yourself to perform. Putting pressure on yourself is completely counter-productive. Just keep doing what you’re doing, but make sure to focus on what feels most pleasurable, enjoying it, without expecting to get anything from it. In time, you will slowly discover nuances to your technique which will bring you closer and closer to squirting.
Sean
I followed your advice. You’re right about feeling like you have to pee. I couldn’t believe I was doing it. Thank you so much! 🙂
Hi im drea,
I have tried for the longest to make myself squirt but just dont understand how to do it. Is it a way to do it without using fingers?
So I am able to squirt with my partner but not by myself. I don’t really feel comfortable fingering myself and when I do squirt he’s usually in very deep and I also like when he puts it in my ass, huge turn on!!!!
A couple years ago I squirted for the first time but never knew how to make it happen again but then a couple days ago while my boyfriend was on top I noticed that it was happening again so of course my boyfriend being the kinky guy he is wanted to see it so we did it from behind and I then proceeded to squirt over ten times it was amazing now I’m able to do it all the time just not .by myself
Hi,
im from Spain and sorry if i write something wrong 🙂
I would like to ask you about squirting. Actually i did it few days ago and yesterday too, but I’ve noticed that i do it only after a few orgasams. I do everything what you wrote and i feel the peeing feling very hard but nothing happens when i cum. Then i go for another one after a second or two and another and it happens. I would like to try it with my boyfriend but it would be so stupid when he would try so hard and nothing would happen. 🙁 Am i doing something wrong or.. pls help. Thanks 🙂
Hi Nadia, sounds like you are doing everything right.
Sean
Hello Sean,
This is more for the ladies not really a question. So I am a man that has been very successful with making my girlfriends past and present squirt. The most important thing ladies is to relax. I know not every woman can squirt but chances are your not one of them. And if you can make your self squirt but your partner can’t don’t get upset. Coach him until he gets it right. As a man myself I can full admit it took lots of practices and studying. Yes studying the female body( which includes reading ) to fully understand how and where to stimulate. So in conclusion fully relax and either alone or with a partner, do what feels best for you. No one knows your body like you do and don’t be afraid to guide your partner. Happy squirting.
I’ve never tried this on my own, just with my boyfriend and I started to feel that pee- sensation but I’m not sure to what point of that feeling I should try and let it go. Does the body release it on its own? Or do I have to push it out? Also it seems like every time I get close to that feeling my boyfriend has to stop because his arm hurts and then he’ll go back to doing it but its like starting all over again to get back to that feeling. I feel like I’ll never succeed and letting my boyfriend down
Try pushing
Hey when I masterbate. . I only rub my clip but after a while it hurts it raw but i still wanna keep going is there a way not to stop but stop the pain
Try using lube and a vibrator
The past few weeks my hubby and I have been trying to get me to squirt. We’ve done tons of research on the many methods, but I am having one issue… having myself actually “let go” and squirt. I’ve gotten to the “gotta pee” stage handfuls of times, I just can’t get over that fence. I’ve even tried thinking about “peeing” to get it to release… and we are getting no results. But afterwards I have to pee like a rushing race horse.. HELP ME!
Hi Renee,
Try it in the shower and just go for it. This way if you do think you’ll pee (which you won’t) it will all be washed away by the shower immediately. Additionally, you’ll find it much easier to do it alone first before trying to do it with your man.
Sean
Is it normal to squirt a little bit the first time? Do I eventually squirt more after some practice?
Absolutely, it’s normal. Different people squirt different amounts.
Does it get easier to squirt the more you do it? is it like something you get better at by practice?
Hi Sara,
Yep, this is usually the case.
Sean
When I squirt it sometimes smells like I peed and sometimes it is yellow like pee. Did I squirt or no?
Hi Sky,
Sometimes your ejaculate can mix with a small amount of urine. Try peeing right before you get down to sexy times to help prevent it from happening again.
Sean
Hi Sean,
Okay so I masturbate I feel it i I let loose and I feel that great feeling but I do not cum or get extremely wet. When I keep going it’s that feeling that I just can’t continue because it feels idk it feels weird and my body twitches more but I can’t keep going, am I suppose to keep going?
You could be getting this feeling because you are stimulating your clitoris. If so, it’s totally natural and nothing to be worried about.
Hi,
I’ve squirted once with a past partner in a big way while having sex – I consider it a random event. However my current partner wants me to squirt for him and I’m finding it hard to do. I feel really pressured to squirt, I do get a peeing sensation sometimes. I think I occasionally squirt a little but not the big gush that he wants. I’ve never really tried to squirt on my own and I’m finding it harder and harder to do with my partner – squirting has become an issue in our sexual relationship because it’s something he needs in order to be sexually satisfied. I love our sex life and want to find a way to do it. We have tried fingering, him going down on me orally and stimulation of both my clit and G spot. I’m not even sure I can do it because I feel like I it’s not possible. Do you have any advice?
Hi Lola,
The first thing to understand that in order to squirt, you need to be relaxed. So talk to your man about it. If you feel pressured, it’s going to be harder and harder for you to squirt because you won’t be relaxed. The less pressure you are under, the better.
Next, you may want to do a little experimentation on your own to figure out exactly what to do to bring yourself closer and closer.
Sean
hey ,
i can squirt as in feeling it and letting go and having wet spots on the bed but i wud like to know the technique to have it more of the water fountain “porn star” squirt
Hi Brittany,
To make it appear more like a water fountain, try “pushing” as you squirt. The pushing feeling is very similar to the feeling of pushing out urine when you pee.
Sean
I too have this problem. I feel it building and building and I can feel some squirt come when I’m fingering myself but it doesn’t gush or splash out. I feel as though it’s about to explode but then it doesnt. How can I achieve this final step?
Sean,
Just read ur article and found it very detailed, THANK U! I TRIED last night w/ my man on the phone w/ me- I did get that peeing sensation! What I did was I was on my back, I used my strong arm to rub my clit and my left hand (index n middle fingers bc I heard use 2) to go as fast as I could n as hard as I could press on it but found my arm getting tired….I felt like I was under pressure (just a tad tho) bc I wanna squirt so bad! I tried to relax as much as I could. The peeing sensation lasted quite a while! I did actually finish but what I FORGOT to do was push when I came….is there a particular moment when I’m supposed to push? Oh n I did use lube I made sure of that bc I watched a video that said to do that- I’m def. Gonna TRY again tonight bc I wanna squirt so bad like I said! I just hope I’m not 1/10 of the percentage that CANT DO IT! I read 99.9% even ALL women CAN! Can u give me ANY feedback on this plz- much appreciated
Kelly
Also Idk if I actually squirted before….just thought I’d tell u that an ex of mine asked me if I had peed- he actually started going down on me and then finished inside me- but when we finished I remember him asking me if I peed- I laughed n said no haha there was a huge puddle tho! Was this possibly squirting?!
It sounds like it was squirting, I’m 99% sure it was.
I actually did it 2x last night w/ my man (sorry I commented 2x prior to this as well) and the 2nd time was much more powerful…felt like I wanted to scream/moan but I didn’t (not only 1 in house lol) it felt awesome but I didn’t push like I said in 1st comment was I there? But just had to push?
I’ve never squirted before… But I tried tonight and maybe I sound really dumb but does it make a sound? Or did I pee?!
Some women gush instead of actually squirting. If the sounds you made was ‘squelching’, then you were most likely gushing/squirting.
This has really helped a lot…before i could absoutely not squirt at all…I’ve tried so many things but nothing at all helped so i read this article and its no lie…all i had to do was really really false my self and think more of the pleasure and not so much focus on squirting…but then i started getting that peeing feeling but i knew not to worry…i had the peeing feeling for about 15min straight and i was wondering Why i wasn’t Squirting yet but then i started to think that ishould push it out…i started to Squirt little by little bit then it came out so fast and so much…I’m so happy that i can squirt now But now i gotta figure out how to squirt with my partner….Thank you so much!!!! Great Advice!!!!
Glad I could help!
Sean
Okay so my husband and I have started experimenting with trying to get me to “squirt” Every single thing he’s doing feels good now. Before, it was a little painful on my bones with his knuckles but we’ve found that laying on my stomach is the easiest, most comfortable way for me. How in the world am I supposed to relax and orgasm!? Am I the only one whose body completely siezes up and spases out? I don’t know how to release when it feels so good! I also am so let down when it doesn’t happen! I truly try so hard not to even worry about the outcome but I know that’s what my husband is looking for. Will it just happen like a regular orgasm or am I supposed to push it out? Ugh…it’s so frustrating
Here’s a bit of advice: To help you relax, you can try a glass of wine. Others find that weed can help too.
When you feel the pressure build inside you, push out…even if it feels slightly like peeing.
I made my wife squirt for the first time she’s 31 29 I was surprised at first fire it up really liking ItI recommend this to everybody I wanted to do it all the time now trying to learn how to make her do it again
Im sure you have answered this but I seriously am terrified that I am going to pee instead of squirt. I have never squirted but my bf said that last night he felt it building and that I almost did….I didn’t feel close to orgasm which I know is normal but still totally freaked out that I will pee instead. OMG I would be so embarrassed…..I do go to the bathroom before and after but still……any suggestions….
Try it in the shower, so if you do happen to somehow pee (unlikely), then you don’t have to worry about a mess.
Sean
Hi Heather. I know it really feels like you but trust me, you are not going to pee! This feeling is completely normal and I felt it for months before i learnt how to squirt. You need to relax and know that you are not going to pee. And most importantly, you need to breathe, slowly and deeply, don’t expect to squirt, just enjoy the feeling and breathe. My boyfriend tried to make me squirt, it took months, but eventually he did it. I didn’t try and do it myself first. After the first time, it stopped feeling like I was going to pee. Now, my boyfriend can touch me and within a minute I am squirting, it’s ridiculous and soooo good. And I can just keep squirting, 10, 15 times in one session. Keep at it, take your time, don’t put yourselves under pressure, just enjoy each other and breathe. If it happens, wonderful! If it doesn’t, don’t let it spoil anything, just keep trying. Good luck
Trying to get my wife to squirt and I understand what everyone is sying but can her cum be too thick to squirt ?
It seems like she would but it flows like lava rather then a guyser
Sounds perfectly normal, not everyone is a squirter. Many gush and never squirt.
:):):):)thanks
s,i tried this method..i feel peeing,,but there is no squirting .plz i need wny i hapend?
Make sure to read the end of the end of the article where I explain that the ‘need to pee’ feeling is totally normal. The main reason is because your bladder is right beside your G Spot.
I’ve been trying to squirt so bad and I can’t I haven’t the whole time throughout matrubating I’m always horny but yet I mastrubate and don’t squirt even though I really want to please could someone help
Have you felt “close” to squirting yet?
thankz a lot…my partner was hapy..i can make squirt…
Hi
I’ve tried your technique and it felt like it was working until it was time for me to cum. Nothing happened as far as ejaculating but I had a helluva orgasm. I was dating this guy and he have made me squirt like twice. I’ve also done it a few times with another partner but as of late I’ve been unable to do so. I really would like to get that feeling again cause I had the best orgasm of my life. I’ve been relaxed and I’ve followed your directives but, I have been unsuccessful. Please help!!
Hi Lin,
You’d be surprised at just how much pressure some women need to apply in order to squirt. You may want to try applying some more pressure…or use something like a dildo if it’s too awkward and/or difficult.
Enjoy!
Sean
I’m pretty sure I did it… is it controllable? You k ow, when it happens.
My experience with squirting is when I am playing with my clitoris while having anal sex. I feel a tremendous pressure building inside me and then I orgasm and squirt out a lot of clear fluid, usually enough to leave a big wet puddle in the bed. I doesn’t smell like urine or look like it. It’s clear to slightly milky and has no odor.
I think that your readers should be aware that some of the squirting you see in some porn, IS actually urine. Some years back, squirting was sort of an unknown, an urban legend type thing. Many people didn’t know if it was real or not, nor how to do it. But the porn industry was glad to fake it, if it’d sell videos.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fan of squirting, I’ve had several partners do it, and only one who was unable to squirt.
But even with women who squirt easily and often, it still doesn’t always happen. And when it does, sometimes it’ll just be a little splash, sometimes a gusher 🙂
Don’t be discouraged if you don’t squirt like a porn star! I don’t have a dick like a porn star either, haha!
I forgot to give you the techniques that work best for me!
I have been able to make several women squirt pretty consistently. Here’s what works for me (them)
First, have a few orgasms! Get your body all full of sex hormones. Squirting is intense. Once you’re worn out a little, and getting to that next orgasm takes some time, you’ll probably be more successful. This is related to how the article above says to build up for 5 to 20 minutes. A quickie, rub-one-out orgasm probably won’t get you squirting.
Two things work best for me. First is woman on top, traditional cowgirl position. Her kneeling astride me. The difference is, I grab her hips and slide her back and forth against me, with my dick as far inside as it reaches. This makes her clit rub against my public bone, and causes the shift of my penis to rub against the roof of her vagina/her G-spot.
It’s fun for me, because I end up covered in her cum, all wet, while she usually collapses on top of me.
It’s a pretty satisfying feeling to exhaust a woman like that 🙂
The other way that works best is, use your hand. She lays on her back, you kneel beside her. Use your strong hand, insert your middle and ring fingers in her all the way, so that the heel of your Palm is on her clit and your hand cups her pussy. Your forefinger and pinky extend down alongside, out the way. Then you curl those 2 fingers inside her to rub against her G-spot, and rapidly and forcefully rub her clit and pump the fingers. Generally, you’re not pulling the fingers in and out more than a little bit. More just rubbing.
Your hand is doing the job of a vibrator, not a dick.
It’s harder to explain than it is to do.
You can see this technique pretty frequently on videos from kink.com, but their videos aren’t for everyone, being mostly oriented to bondage and the like.
Good luck and happy squirting!!
Awesome, thanks for sharing!
How do I squirt without anything to do with Vaginal penetration?
Hi Jamie,
The short answer is that many women can’t without vaginal penetration. However, if you can get yourself super turned on while masturbating and firmly press down on the lower part of your stomach while masturbating, then you are going to find it easier and it will put pressure on your Skene’s gland, making it more likely to happen.
Hello Sean,
Just wondering…. this is really embaressing but can you lose your virginity from masturbation?
I squirt like mad! I don’t even have to be touching myself or having sex. I love to suck cock. This guy and the last one have me squirting so much and so many times each session that I have to put a towel between my legs. I soak it completely and I squeeze my legs together so tight that I have bruises on my thighs. I can make myself squirt just thinking about it. None of this happened until I was 63. I’m almost 68 and I have to wash my sheets three times a week. Love it!
Will I be able to cum my first having sex.
Is there a way to do it without it hurting the first?
Hi Tina,
The answer to both questions is “It depends”. Some people cum during their first time and others don’t. A key to cumming is making sure that you are completely relaxed. Whether or not it hurts depends on your man’s size and your size too. A key to preventing excessive discomfort is making sure that he takes is slow at first and also using a good condom compatible lube if you need extra lubrication.
Sean
Hi I’m new to having sex and I really want to orgasm. I think ive gotten close but I’m not sure. Any advice on how to reach an orgasm. Please respond to email, thanks
Hi Alexis,
Sure, try out some of these clitoral stimulation techniques and these tips on finding and stimulating your G Spot. Once you know how to very easily bring yourself to orgasm, then it’s time to try it with your man. He may also learn a thing or 2 by having a read of these articles.
Sean
Hi 😀
So, I’d say I’m an ‘experienced’ squirter… been naturally happening since the first time I discovered masturbation.
Unfortunately, with young uneducated/ inexperienced men… this can be very embarrassing trying to convince them you didn’t just piss everywhere lol.
With today’s porn, I’m sure all the kids are trying it lol – but it lead me to hold back and not enjoy sex with a partner.
When I met my husband, the first time we made love – he commanded I cover him in squirt hovering over his face…. JACKPOT! lol
Now to my question!
1. Girls in porn, do they just drink mass amounts of water and actually pee to get that massive stream with so much force? I’m a bit envious of them, it feels amazing when I squirt hard… but I bet squirting like that is earth moving!
2. I can’t squirt while my husband is penetrating me vaginally – we have the pull out and squirt mastered, and I can squirt during anal penetration, but I’d love to feel him inside of me while I squirt – any suggestions?
Hi Myranda,
1. I’m guessing they drink a lot of water, but I’m guessing that’s not the only thing. I’m sure it’s just a quirk in their physiology that allows them to squirt so hard.
2. He should first try to make you squirt using only his fingers (and keeping them in there while you are squirting). Then once you can reliably squirt this way, you should start trying it when he’s inside of you. At first it may feel like you need to ‘push’ and force yourself to squirt, but eventually it should come more naturally.
This is a little awkward to ask given the time that’s passed since this article was published.
When I squirt while using my toy I have to stop and re-apply lube before I can keep going or my toy will get stuck in me. Will this happen if I squirt during sex?
Jessica, this shouldn’t be a problem during sex.
Here I am again!
😀
If any of you love anal as much as I do, this may be the golden ticket!
I always find that I cum harder and for longer during anal, and almost always squirt, but FINALLY I was able to have the ‘porn star’ cover the walls experience I’ve been waiting for.
A few shots of patron, a hot date with my husband teasing me all night, and finally the hitachi on my clit and 4 fingers in my ass… I hit the wall across from my bed with the most insane squirt of my life!
Maybe someone here will give it a go and do the same!
Cheers to trying 🙂
Hi
I have been trying to squirt forever with no luck. I read your article and used a gspot dildo and it finally happened!
Thank you!!! 🙂
When I try this alone as I feel the pressure start I stand up and it gushes out. Is this normal?
Yup, sounds totally normal to me Tresa
I read all the information and thank you I really appreciate it!
So I have regular, incredible sex with my boyfriend and we both want me to squirt. Every time we are having sex I find myself getting to the point where I have to pee and I try pushing to let it begin but it’s like it’s blocked. I was wondering, should my boyfriend pull out to help release the flow of the squirt/gush? I wasn’t sure if his penis was kind of blocking it from happening. And just to add he is quite sizable in length and girth – I wasn’t sure if that was a factor.
Please let me know and thank you again!
Hi Claire, yes he should try pulling out.
During sex I have no problem squirting but the fluid will only come out if he pulls his penis out for a few seconds.why can’t I squirt while his penis is in me???
A few students have emailed me about this and I wish I had an answer, but I unfortunately don’t.
I always use the bathroom before sex or masturbation. When I feel the urge to pee I stop and run to the bathroom and I actually pee. I’ve done this multiple times during sexual activity. It’s nerve wrecking. How is this possible on an empty bladder? And how can I let go if I know I can pee during arousal?
Try having sex in the shower and just go ahead and “release” when you feel like peeing. You should find that it’s mostly ejaculate that’s built up.
Sean
When me and my wife have sex i would like to make her squrit. But it takes time and she gets impatient So i goahed and finish. But when im done i have the feeling that im cummin but nothing comes out could this be to the fact that from 14 to 18 i would jackoff 3 and 4 times a day and now that im 30 i have to do it at least once a day even if i know that me and my wife will have sex later that night. I need answers please help
Try stopping masturbation for a few weeks and see if it improves
I had some experience with squirting in my former relationship, now I’m in a new relationship were the sex is much more intense, I squirt over and over every time, to the point I feel exhausted, then I have a huge mess to clean up afterwards. I’m not complaining, because it is earth shattering, but at the same time I miss the days that an orgasm was fulfilling, its a lot less messy. My question is if I do enough kagel exercises or use ben-wa balls can get to the point were I can control when it happens?
Hi ST, from talking with students, squirting is one of those things that they have trouble controlling. This includes making it happen in the first place as well as preventing it.
Sean
P.S. Use towels!
im sure ive squirted before but i feel like it smells like urine and it makes me wonder if i peed or squirted, help?
does it have a smell ?
Sometimes it’s pee, other times it’s just ejaculate, usually it’s a combination of both.
No odor to squirt. I did not know what it was the first time but determined it was not pee because of lack of smell. I asked my doctor and she informed me it was a female ejaculation.
I had never heard about squirting up until about a year ago I have read on it researched it and very much want to try it and succeedI have done the techniques that have been shown and said to do and have not accomplished it which is very frustrating and I find that I get very angry I have had a complete hysterectomy does that have anything to do with the fact that I have not been able to accomplish this any help would be great
Hi Tina, yes, having a hysterectomy could have had an effect on your ability to squirt. Quick question, do you get wet when you are aroused?
I have had a hysterectomy. I still can squirt so that is not the problem.
It may be the issue with her specifically though, the ability to squirt is dependent on so many different things with different people.
I have been experimenting more with playing with myself then I ever have. I wish I would have started it when I was younger!
Reading all this is helpful but still worried I am peeing. I get to the squirt point (I think) with a dildo and clit playing then use the vibrating dildo on my clit and there it goes. I think it has happened during sex too. I have never had it from g-spot. Puddle can be large had to change sheets. Am I peeing???
Hi
I am having problems squirting.
You see everytime I get fingered the whole gushing and fluid is there as you can hear the noise but whenever I try and push it out nothing comes out yet Im having orgasms and hearing the whole gushing and fluid noises. Can anyone help me on what to do for it to actually come out
Jennifer, this sounds about right. Not everyone squirts like a fountain, many just gush like it sounds you do.
I think we women get caught up on the word “squirt” when it is often times not actually a visible projectile that happens. If you are feeling the fluid and gushing, your body is technically obtaining the definition of a squirt, it’s just not a fountain, like porn has convinced us (and our partners) it needs to be. Next time try having your partner slowly pull out at the same time you use the muscles and action you would as if you were trying to push him out. You should see a bit of projection at that point. If not…it’s no big deal. Enjoy the practice anyway! 🙂
wow showed my boyfriend this and we just did it and woo
We had sex right after as well in all the positions thank you sooo hutch
Hi Sean,
I’m having issues with this. I have never been able to masterbate, touching myself gives me no pleasure what-so-all. The only orgasms, the only pleasure I feel is when my fiance does it. He wants me to squirt for him, and I want to. But if I can’t bring myself to do it, how is he going to be able to? I’m not as sensitive as other women, I’ve already figured that out. Things that works for others, isn’t always easy for me. I also understand that not everyone CAN do it… but do you have any more tips that might help us? I don’t use toys, I don’t like the idea. And again, doing it myself gives me no pleasure at all. Any more help would be greatly appreciated!
Hi Alyssa,
Like I say, if you want to squirt with your man, then you need to comfortably learn how to do it yourself. If you can’t do it yourself, then it’s really not that much of a big deal, there are plenty of other things that you can enjoy with your man. The key is communicating this to your man. The problem is when your man starts to pressure you…it’s a recipe for you having even less fun.
Sean
Alyssa, I think you are going to have to start with getting more comfortable with your own body. You said at first you are unable to bring yourself to orgasm by masterbation but later said you can’t being yourself to actually self pleasure. I think those two things are 100% related. If you aren’t comfortable touching yourself, you aren’t relaxed enough to climax. Without being relaxed, you aren’t going to be able to squirt either. Try getting comfortable with self pleasure first, even if it is just trying it WITH your partner watching or even helping. I think maintaining that comfort level with yourself is going to go a LONG way in improving your sex life and your ability to squirt in the long run. Good Luck! Happy Practicing! 🙂
I’ve been reading the comments and it sounds like many of the women are putting to much pressure on themselves to squirt. Several years ago after watching porn “squirting 101” I thought I would give it a try with the wife and to my surprise it worked. Now it’s a regular part of our sex life it does make for messy sheets but it’s well worth it. I’ve learned for us it’s not a foreplay kind of thing my wife enjoys it during a good session or after I finish. As a guy once you have the tecnique down its actually very easy to do. The wife says you have to get over the fear of pee feeling, for her it helps to be really turned on. Ladies get your partner to do some research, there’s lots of Internet stuff out there on the subject. Relax and have a good time don’t plan on doing it, just do it. As a bonus once it happens the wife said it seems to be easier to do. I’ve been able to make here gush multiple times in a row the highest count was 7 and she beg me to stop cause she thought she was going to pass out. Have fun it’s sex .
Thanks for the tips Mike!
Hi there, I know it sounds weird but I every time I try fingering myself, I feel like I’m about a reach an orgasm and the pleasure that I was feeling just disappears. Is this normal? And do you have and tips for me to reach an orgasim using my fingers
If you find that you are experiencing a huge amount of pleasure followed by that feeling disappearing, then it sounds like you are reaching orgasm. You can learn some great fingering tips in this guide.
What if your vagina is really tight
I need help sean
You could have a condition called vaginismus. My advice is to talk to your doctor.
I am really grateful for this article. I had been trying for over a year and after I read this it happened for me that first night. My man was so excited and pleased with himself. This was really important to me so im super appreciative. Ive gotten close but I wasnt sure how to make it happen. Relaxing was the biggest thing. That and I made sure I peed first so I wouldnt be afraid I would piss lol. Thanks Sean!!!!!!!
I have always been able to have multiple orgasms while masterbating and during intercourse, but have never squirted.. i don’t know what I am doing wrong.
Hi Crystal, this is because over time you’ve become the LeBron James of making yourself orgasm. However, your man will never know how to replicate the exact technique that you use. Try stopping masturbation for a few months and you’ll notice that it’s easier for your man to make you orgasm.
Sean
hi,thanx for the article,i have been trying for 2 weeks and now im sure that the fluid coming out is not pee,but there’s a problem for me , i cant squirt while my arousal , it only come out after the orgasm,is it normal that i feel nothing while squirting?? what have i done wrong ??
Hi Mary,
Yes, some people don’t feel anything when they orgasm.
Sean
Hi Sean,
I’ve been trying to squirt for weeks by myself but every time I reach organism it doesn’t work. I’ve tried a bunch of techniques but nothing seams to work.
thank you for the help this made it sooooo eazy
My wife and I have been together for about 8 years. I’ve always wanted to make her squirt and couldn’t figure out how to make it happen(and neither could she) until about a year ago. She squirts by orgasm from the clitoris, but she can’t seem to do it herself. Basically, after having sex for a bit, I rub the head of my penis up and down really fast on her clitoris. That makes her squirt. And the longer I rub the longer she squirts. Might work for some of you so I thought I’d share.
I have NEVER been able to squirt. I even tried this by myself and just came 3 times really intensely but nothing (I even had to pee beforehand) :/ I hate it, I wish I could just do it already but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or what squirting is supposed to feel like 🙁
So, my fiance and I have been studying and talking about getting me to squirt all over him. In our 11 years of true love making, we haven’t been successful and I think it was because it was all new information to me. He calls me”The Good Girl”, because although when I met him, I had already had 2 children, I was very inexperienced. No one had ever made me cum, I’d never had a real orgasm, no masturbating, and no oral(on my part). So we’ve taught, experienced and learned a lot with each other together. Anyhoo, we really want to be successful with this. I have been trying through masturbating but I always stop. I’m scared I might pee!! I want to be able to do it both ways too by myself and ultimately, with him. Any thoughts or suggestions?
Hi, my boyfriend likes receiving oral sex but doesn’t like giving it. He wants me to squirt but part of the reason why I don’t think I can is because we don’t really have any foreplay before sex. I would like him to have an exchange of oral play to help me get extremely aroused but I always do him and he just doesn’t want to return the favor, although he has done it a couple of times and we’ve know each other over 20 years….How do I tell him the this exchange will most likely be the boost I need to finally squirt??
You just need to tell him in a non-judgmental and non-confrontational way. The more positive you can make the experience, the better.
Leave him he is just satisfying himself from you… Just time pass…
Hi Sean, about a year ago me and my husband was having sex in the doggystyle position and all of a sudden I felt like I had to pee really really bad and I had to make him stop because I felt and thought I had to pee when I did go to the bathroom it was clear it came out fast and hard and it felt amazing when we were having sex and when it came out, this has happened to us quite a few times but I always thought I had to pee, I’m 33 and just recently found out about squirting and its a huge turn on for me and my husband, so was I possibly squirting all those times I thought I had to pee?
Sounds like it 😉
Hi sean, I read your other article on how to find your gspot and it was very, very helpful I found my gspot! I hit a few times the night before and I squirted. but because I went to the bathroom to early when I did it the first time it had some urine in it but this timeI found my gspot and was dead on and I went to the bathroom right before, I had 2 orgasms and then I really squirted no slight urine smell, it was clear female ejaculation! I finally did it, and me and my husband have you to thank,thank you oh so very much! My masturbation techniques have also improved, so thank you so much!!! As time goes and I do it more will it take less time for me to squirt? Again thank you so much!!!
Hi sean, thank you for answering my question, I have another question, o after reading all the info at the top on how you can make yourself squirt I tried it, I had 3 amazing orgasms better than usual because I fingered myself for the first time in years, I have only had orgasms through clitoral stimulation so I did that as well but I didn’t have that need to pee sensation until after I had the 3 orgasms and yes a lot of fluid squirted out and it had a very slight urine smell to it, is that normal and is it possible for me to have a vaginal orgasm during sex if I just relax and let myself go, and know that its ok to squirt all over my husband, is relaxing a huge factor in achieving vaginal ejaculating orgasms?
Yes, relaxing is vital to squirting and having vaginal orgasms.
Hi sean I just want to say thanks for the wonderful instructions I have found my gspot and finally was able to squirt! I really look forward to learning so much more and I’m very excited for me and my husbands new sex life I am really excited about trying out the new things that I have learned from you and I’m pretty sure my husband is going to be thankful as well! I appreciate and respect what you do and how you really help people to better their sex lives, you really are thee sex guru! Thank you again!!
Hi, I would love to make my girlfriend squirt because I think she will love it and also because it’s an idea that really turns me on. I have tried to make her squirt once or twice and I have some question.
When I put my fingers in I massage all the area of the G spot, but when I do the hook technique I don’t know what to do with my fingers. Do I have to press against the facing area of the G spot all the time? Do I have to do any movement apart with the fingers? Or just block them and move my hand up and down?
You can do multiple things BUT the key is doing what works most effectively to make her squirt, so talk to her and find out what she enjoys you doing the most.
We reached the pee feeling, but I think I should move my hand faster and faster with more pressure, is that possible? I don’t want to be too rude and hurt her and she sometimes stops me.
The key is doing what’s pleasurable for both of you, not necessarily squirting. If it feels good for your partner, then definitely faster can help achieve more intense squirting orgasms.
I have one final question. When I do the fast movements, do I have to touch her G-spot with my fingertips or with the top of my fingers? Maybe that is a key point and I don’t know how to do it properly.
PS: We definitely want her to squirt.
Try both and see what works for her. Everyone is different and responds to different stimuluses.
Have a few questions:
Can you have an orgasm without “ejaculation”.?
Whenever me and my boyfriend have sex and we get to a certain point my body would start to shake to that point where it just feels like I can’t handle it anymore… if I stick through it will I finally evacuate.?
Also, can you ejaculate without knowing.?
While my boyfriend gives me oral, I sometimes get this pleasurable feeling as if I ejaculates but there’s always nothing lol what will that be.?
I’m sorry for all of these questions but I am curious.
And thank you in advance.
Also, I should have mentioned, after sex I HAVE to use the restroom and its usually clear, like I’ve drank water mainly, will that be me ejaculating AFTER all the.? ?
Sounds like it’s mostly pee, but ultimately it’s hard for me to tell.
Sean
Yep, you absolutely can ejaculate without an orgasm.
Dear Sean
I’ve been able to squirt a little over a year. My husband isn’t in to. I thought all men love to see a woman squirt. I think it’s amazing that I can squir!! Anyway to get my husband on board with me.
Hi Sara,
Different people have different preferences. Perhaps when he understands how much it turns you on, he will be on board. The key is talking to him about it so he really, deeply understands why you enjoy it.
Sean
I keep feeling like I’m about to pee like you said but then my pussy tightens up really fast and the feeling goes away. How do I not get my pussy to tighten?
Sounds like you are orgasming. If not, then try to consciously focus on staying relaxed and this will help you to squirt.
I get close to squirting but i automatically stop or hold it in because I’m scared about weeing myself! How can I stop this habbits!
Try it in the shower, that way if you do pee, it will be washed away anyway
Hahaha I’ve known a few chicks who only squirt via being on mdma
I just tried and i think i just peed. It smells like pee as well, how do i know if it was the real thing or not?
It’s perfectly natural for there to be some pee when you squirt.
my girl and I resiliently found out that she can squirt but the way we did it was to take a dildo and pump her pussy with it fast and then pull it all the way out. keep doing that and you’ll gush for sure. It has worked every time, but you have to get her real horny first. I hope the way I said this wasn’t inappropriate
if i start with clitoral orgasm, and after that i do the squirt techniques, can i squirt successfully?
It all depends on you and your physiology.
Hey,
my girlfriend only squirts every other month. We found out it will ahppen alot easier when she drank a 1-2 glasses of water before sex. We use a massage wand combined with that arm shaker technique. But usually she squirts after that when having sex in downstroke position. Also it starts dripping out just moment BEFORE she’s having an orgasm. The most important thing was already stated by the writer of this article, its the fuckin mood, make her a perfect day before, it never happens when she was stressed by some reasons (work or other stuff like that). Pick the right day to try guys 😉 you know when she was having a great day, thats the day to let the fountain spray
OMG! just squirted for the second time in my life. It’s amazing. Both times it’s been alone. The second time, just tonight, was with encouragement from my long distance girlfriend over skype. She was really turned on by the idea and had been trying for a while so I looked at this website and a few others last night. A large ribbed G-spot vibrator and pressure on the clit really worked for me.
The only problem is I squirt so much liquid that the bed gets soaked through. At first I kind of thought it was pee but the colour and odour is totally clear. Does anyone else have this problem as it’s kind of frustrating to have to immediately change all the bedding? How do you deal with it? I’m actually considering getting a waterproof sheet in case it happens again. In some respects I really hope it does as I’ve never felt such a release but in other respects I’m not sure how to deal with a mattress soaked in cum.
Laying out a towel for this is a really good idea.
How long does it take to have an orgasm???
It completely depends. 5 seconds, 5 minutes, 1 hour. It’s impossible to answer this accurately I’m afraid!
I feel the pressure building and building and then I do feel a kind of squirt coming as I’m fingering myself but it doesn’t squirt or gush out. How can I achieve this final step?
Thanks
Hi Amelia, for some women, it just takes time to learn how to “let go.” It sounds like you are on the right path and just need to keep going without worrying too much about the end goal of squirting.
I did as u said but it is yellow is it okay
That sounds more like urine
Incredible! I just squirted for the first time by myself and omg I soaked my bed, there was so much! Is that normal? I cannot wait to surprise my boyfriend! Thank you so much for your tips!
I am having some difficulty… I have squirted a couple times in the past with my boyfriend and now when I feel so close to soaking the bed I can’t cross that puddle (no pun intended). I’m not sure what to do..
Oh my goodness. I didn’t squirt, but I haven’t felt that satisfied in a very long time. Thank you for the advice!!!
Glad I could help!
Hi I’ve been able to make my girlfriend squirt but she only squirts a little bit. I know I shouldn’t expect sex to be like the pornos but is there anything either of us can do to make her squirt even more like in the porn actresses?
Get her to drink a good amount of water about one hour before sex. Also, the more relaxed she feels, the better.
Hi,
Um I was just wondering about the whole not very many women can squirt from clitoral stimulation thing? The only time I’ve ever squirted has been from exactly that. My fiancée has made it happen with a vibrator, rubbing with his fingers, and during 69, but I don’t think I’ve ever done it through penetration of any kind except for maybe once. Is that weird?
Sounds normal to me Josi
Hey , My name is Tiffany
And i Fingered myself 2 times and it touch my g-spot , and then i feel like i wanted to pee and i feel really nice
But when i force it to come out , it just don’t come
Plzz help .
Focus on relaxing as much as you can and that will make it easier to squirt.
I’ve always been a squirter, but when i squirt, the liquid (whatever it is) doesn’t come out of my urethra. It actually comes from my vagina. So idk if this is normal or what.
Does it shoot in a stream or does it gush?
Hi, my names Emma and i ve been trying to make myself squirt forever. But I just can’t do it. I don’t know if it’s the position I’m in or what. Does anyone have advise
My husband and I are very comfortable with each other no matter what the other might request, I have definitely mastered the squirting thing itself but we both really want to make me “shoot” instead of just “gushing”. There is plenty of fluid, no problem there, but I just don’t know how to “pressurize” and get a stream. Are there any techniques or exercises you would suggest? I feel like it is definitely possible but that I’m just not figuring out the direction I should take. Any help at all will be greatly appreciated.
Hi Stacey, it may come down to kegel muscle strength. Try some of the kegel exercises here and let me know how you get on.
Okay so during sex, sometimes I get this urge to wanna push. It feels good and I think I’m going to squirt. But I don’t. It’s just a constant need to feel to push. I fear that I’m one of the girls who can’t squirt.
Just try pushing.
Hi Sean,
So My Husband Wants Me To Squirt While We Have Sexual Intercourse But I Have Yet To Squirt! I’m Not Sure If It’s Just Me,Or If I’m One Of Those Few Woman Who’s Unable To Preform Squirting. I’ve Gone Over Your Helpful Guide On How To Squirt,& Have Not Yet Tried Doing So Myself Yet But I Will Deff Be Practicing,& Try Doing So By Myself & Then With My Partner! I Jus Feel So Bad Cuz My Husband Wants This So Bad,& I Feel As If He Isn’t Fully Satisfied With Me Because I Am Unable To Squirt. Plz Help!! Also My Last Question; How Do Yu Know If You Are One Of Those Select Few Females Who Is Unable To Squirt.!?!
Thanx So Much For Your Time Sean! Hope To Hear Back From You Soon..
Thank You..
Cathy!
Hi Cathy, your man putting pressure on you to squirt will probably make it harder to actually squirt. Stressing about it doesn’t help. Besides, many women don’t actually squirt a stream of fluid. Rather, they just gush fluid from their vagina. My advice is to first try it on your own before trying it with your man.
Why did I have to find this article when the missus is away for the week ?
Can’t wait to try it out on her !
Read this this afternoon and squirted for the first time tonight with my boyfriend! And not only once but 3 times! Thank you so much! He absolutely loved it!
Hi. I’m a virgin but I bought a vibrator and a dildo to quench my sexual appetite. While I had no trouble getting a hold of how to use the Vibrator, I couldn’t understand why I felt like I needed to pee when using the dildo. I also didn’t understand why I wasn’t cumming as quickly with the dildo. Your website explained it all and helped me understand that everything was natural and fine. Thank you so much!
Glad I could help Katie!
hi please help i can find my g spot but my finger is the tiniest bit short to reach it ive tried a tampon but i cant get the exact spot.
Try using a dildo, it’s what they’re designed for after all!
oh and sorry last question-can u squirt twice or more than twice in 1 night???
yeah, it’s possible for sure
I find that having a full bladder makes it easier to squirt with my partner
I found my G-Spot, it’s spongy and rough, unlike the rest of my vagina. I can make myself orgasm by clitoral stimulation. I’ve pushed myself to the edge of orgasm that even clenching my muscles the wrong way will send me over… so why does G-Spot stimulation either feel like nothing at all, or painful…? I’ve tried this in the bathroom where I can feel comfortable about the “need to pee” sensation, but I never feel it. The varied pressure and friction either feels like nothing at all, uncomfortable, or down right painful….
Help for a disappointed gal?
Have you tried stimulating during sex or with a dildo/vibrator? It can come down to the type of stimulation.
My husband and I try various positions that hits the spot but it doesn’t amount to much. It’s still fun and sex feels good in general, but not orgasm good. I want to try a toy, but I’m nervous – which do I get, how do I use it, how much will it cost?
The key here is research. While I have advice on using a vibrator here and tips for using a dildo here, the only way to find the right toy for you is to do some research based on your tastes and budget.
Can you make your own self squirt even if you don’t have a partner?
Yes, it’s definitely possible.
I have orgasms regularly by stimulating clitoris with my fingers, and sometimes using water(force of shower).But i have never squirted. What should I do?
Just follow the tips in the above article.
How do I know I’m about to squirt and not actually pee everywhere?
Both have a very similar feeling. But, if you pee before sex, then it’s most likely going to be squirting, not ejaculate.
I cant cum and im pretty sure i have eveything in he diagram(s) I’ve used some other suff and my fingers and i still cant cum. Can anyone help plz?
Do you get wetter than normal using these techniques?
Why is the only time I seem to have to be able to squirt is why I have smoked b4 I have sex?
It can help you to relax and let go.
Is there any other way to help me relax other than smoking?
Doing some intense exercise beforehand? A glass or two of wine?
My boyfriend loves squirting, i know that it turns him on a lot.
when we have sex, i get really wet. i even gush a lot but no matter what i do solo or with him i can not squirt.
i have watched videos and read articles.
i am seriously afraid that i can’t squirt, and it really bothers me.
Some women can squirt easily while others gush where only a small amount of fluid drips out. Try not to let it bother you.
Best,
Sean
I tried to squirt while i finger myself, but it seems to go away every. Can u help me to squirt a bit more. Teach mehow to squirt
My wife is at the point of exploding and has such an urge to pee it just doesn’t come out any ideas that can be helpful?
She should try just letting go and seeing what happens. If she’s concerned about what will come out, then you should try it in the shower.
So today I was playing with my self in the bathroom w something I use and I felt like I was peeing on my self but I didn’t know what was happening I noticed that it’s easier for me to squirt when I use my toy how can I squirt without the toy
I have been trying for years in this order to empty my bladder and always masturbate but cannot find my G spot. very weird but I wanted to surprise my partner of 7 years, but it won’t work please help.
This website has helped me so much! Thank you. I’ve always tried looking stuff up online and not getting my answer when it comes to sex, this website is the ONLY one I’ve come across to actually help me! Thank you so much!!!
I am single and I have read so many articles about squirting but no matter why i do I just can’t do it. I feel like I need to pee and I feel my g spot swelling but it just never happens. How can I make this happen?
I would like to share with you that after reading this and doing what you said, I made myself squirt after 30 minutes. I’m pretty excited about it because I thought I was in the past, but nope! I now know the real deal and I owe it all to you!! Thank you for writing this!!
Also, after laying on my back and using the finger trick as stated above for about 30 minutes, I stood and leaned on my bed and continued with my middle and ring finger and it just came out of nowhere!
Does squirting is equal to peeing
I recently discovered this past uear that i can squirt. I met a man who was able to male me multiple time in a row. It was amazing. I have researched a lot of info. I have tried using my vibrator and my fingers and some reason i just cant. I think my fingers are to short and my toy is to powerful. Im just not sure. Do you have any advice.
I never knew about squirting till I got with my fiance now. It is the most AMAZING feeling in the world. I do it almost every time but I want to do it all the time.. it turns us both on even more than what we already are.. I just wish I could figure out how to do it during for play so he could watch while I done it.
I actually managed to do it, I’ve only ever had clitoral orgasms, and this was the first time I managed to orgasm through penetration and I managed to squirt a steady stream. I however have a question, I didn’t use my G-spot, instead I used the A-spot, is that okay? and I have a little pit of a tingling feeling left in the deeper back spot of my vagina is that something I should worry about?
Due to having short fat fingers and large outer labia, I cannot reach my g spot without pain. I have been able to squirt maybe once using a toy, but I can’t do it with my hands. Any tips?
Thank you soooo much I cummed so hard and so much nearly the whole bed it wet- it felt amazing keep doing masterbation techniques – the bed is soaking I tried to dry my cum up with tissues but the cum absorbed the whole 4 tissues I love masterbating
When it comes to trying to squirt and you feel the urge to pee do you try to pee or just continue with whatever action/activity that is occurring?
Thanks!
My advice is to go with the flow. If you’re worried about a potential puddle, then put down some towels beforehand. Have fun!
Hi Sean! I’ve never had a problem squirting for my man. In my eyes he was gifted with a godly tongue. This information was really helpful for myself! That’s not why I’m writing this comment though. In a previous relationship I was the dominant sexually. It was really easy and sooooo arousing. I LOVED IT, but in my current one I’m usually the submissive, I love being dominated just as much as dominating, but the boyfriend wants me to take charge and dominate him in bed… We’ve tried several times but it always comes to him taking me in a rough doggy style position. How can I “rekindle” my dominance? For lack of better wording.
These tips on dominating your man should help
As someone who can get themselves to cum pretty easily, relaxing is absolutely necessary. You have to be in the moment, super aroused and just let go. I’ve only had 1 guy be able to make me squirt where it actually shot out instead of drip down. I think the reason it happened was how aroused I was and how into him emotionally I was. We had that connection. It takes two people to make squirting happen. Your guy has to be turning you on and using the right angle and touch, but you have to be relaxed and focus on just letting it happen. You will not pee I promise, and I’ve cum without inserting any fingers in so being in the right mindset and arousal state is important too. Just have fun and let it happen 🙂
I’ve been curious and trying to make myself squirt after learning some interesting things about it in my human sexuality course in university. So first off, some medical professionals have a theory that all women ejaculate when they orgasm, but in the ones that don’t “squirt” it actually gets absorbed into the bladder and then flushed out with urine. Secondly, female ejaculate is not pee and doesn’t have any in it, it’s actually a fluid that is very similar to seminal fluid that transports sperm in males, there are similar proteins in the female ejaculate. The fact is that our genitalia behaves very similar to men, when we are aroused we cannot pee because the tissue becomes swollen and blocks the urinary tract to the bladder. My issue is the technique of how to do it! Thanks for the informative article
So, I am not entirely sure if I squirted, but I had already come once and then waited awhile, and then when I started again and came, I felt liquid come out (different then my normal wetness)and that has never happened before, and I wasn’t trying to squirt. It was clitoral stimulation too. Do you think I actually squirted?
Sincerely,
A super nervous and shy teenager
Sounds like it!
Hi, I use to squirt a lot for my boyfriend every time we have sex and he goes rough on me, but over the past months have not being able to squirt and we have been trying different things…what happened? M I okay? I miss squirting. The sex with my boyfriend is still amazing though but I want to squirt! Please what can I do?
I use to squirt a lot with my bf but over the past months have not being able to…. The sex with my bf is still amazing but I miss squirting!… What’s happening,am I okay? What can I do about it?
One question I always ask my friend.. What does the women get from blowjobs??
Hi Sean Jameson, I was wondering why did I often feel orgasm but didn’t even squirt when making love with my man. Is it because I don’t have Skene’s gland?
It’s hard to tell. There could be many different factors. Did you apply enough pressure to your G Spot area? Were you relaxed enough?
This is an awesome article! I recently squirted for the first time with my man. Amazing! The next few times I realized I had to “push” it out. I wasn’t sure that was normal until I read this so thank you!! The last time I squirted it went clear across the bed. ????
When I have sex most of the times I felt a sudden urge to pee, so I always hold back till we’re finished or run to the bathroom cuz I thought is pee I wanted to pee. Didn’t know it was from the urethra it came from. So next I feel like I wanna suddenly pee in the middle if sex I gonna squirt that water out cuz when I do go to the bathroom it is always clear and plentiful
My finance and I discovered my ability to squirt by happy accident…the first time I had been so worked up I finally asked(I love to be watched????) for my toy, as I climaxed I also gushed/ejaculated an immense amount of fluid, which startled me at first then I realized what had happened and felt quite embarrassed and sexy at the same time..Well he was so full of exciting gratitude that he wanted to repeat the “squirting” again… We did once again by him simply fingering me and I (for lack of better wording) super soaked his bottom half entirely…but, alas our efforts have not been able to be repeated….do u have ANY specific suggestions for one or both of us to try??
Congrats! Make sure you are thoroughly hydrated and relaxed as a starting point. A LOT of foreplay will also help.
when i squirt it smells like pee
Hi, I’m Mike, It’s normal that she cum without squirting… Only with fluids that come slowly out of her vagina??
And if I press my palm against her pubic bone during the hook position can help the stimulation??
Thank you, Mike.
“Like a pornstar”, yeah that is part of the porblem. Men watxh porn and get obsessed with squirting. No one I know enjoy squirting more than clitoris stimulation, and over half of people I know dont orgasm from s1uirting at all. :c
If her hymen is still intact can i reach her g spot without breaking ti?
I came here to seek advice well am a squirter and i’ve had an orgasm on my own (i masturbated) and my first worry was that all that i did on my own i ve never had it with a guy ,i lived with that i would just enjoy what i got but now am worried because i can’t get stimulation as i used to when i masturbate is it normal to not get horny anymore am worried sick!
Also your man engage both the clit and the gspot. My husband does this by using is his thumb on my clit and pointer finger inside me. As he going out he pulls his fingers together like a pinching motion and pushing them back apart as he goes back in. Its intense and I not into fingering other than that. We have been together 18 years and been friends longer than that and tried alot. Some stuff works some doesn’t. If have a good partner you can be open with it helps.
Thank you so much for this! I had previously had my VERY FIRST squirting experience with a man who played my body like a fiddle (I’ve had 2 kids and never knew whst an orgasm felt like before this.)and I had no idea what was happening when it was building up.
My stomach was tightening up and honestly it felt like I was about to puke from the tightening and presure of the orgasm building. And when I squirted I thought I had wet myself.
That was the very first time I had ever squirted, and when I asked him what had happened he had to explain to me what I had just done, I was so EMBARRASSED and had apologized all over myself. He had to explain to me that it only meant he did his job and that he was proud he was the first one to give me that pleasure and my first squirting. And let me tell you, it wasn’t my last. Thank you for explaining this!
Glad I could help!
Dear Sean
I have only one question for you I would like know if it isn natural to cum only and not squirt and not have an organsm
Plz answer ASAP PLZ
It can be. Are you saying that you never orgasm?
When I masterbate I get that “have to pee feeling” even if I pee before I start. I’ll get to the point where if Im go hard and be wet and stuff but I can tell if I keep going I’ll litterally just piss the bed… is the ‘building up’ feeling the same as the “having to pee feeling??” I’m so confused
I don’t care to squirt but my husband wants me too. What do I do???
Follow the above advice 😉
Sorry if this is a stupid question but….. can i still be a virgin and squirt? Thanks!!
Short answer: Yes.
Long answer: Being a virgin is whatever you define it as. If you classify losing your virginity as having sex, then that’s the only way to lose your virginity. But maybe you classify it as something else?
i cant squirt, am i alright?
Some people have trouble squirting, you sound perfectly normal to me Lola
I have a question ? I am new to my body and when i was a teenager and in my 20s always thought it was gross to masterbate.
So is it normal to masterbate being a woman in her 30s now? The first dildo i had i hurt my self with and i have been used by a lot of men, i am wondering if it is okay to try to please my self?
Of course it’s ok!
I have squirted so many times,OMG! It does feel like you have to pee but hey,IT WORKS!!!!
I can do it by rubbing my clit and also while having sex, once you do it you will love it! The way it turns your partner on will get you even hotter. Then it’s time to change the sheets baby! 😉
My problem is the opposite – how do I stop squirting?! Most of the time we have sex I squirt and it’s getting really annoying. I wish I was joking – but it puts me off having sex and I miss my old orgasms. It’s been the past year since I was pregnant. I either don’t come now or I squirt! Any advice?
Sounds very frustrating…Do you also squirt from clitoral orgasms? Talking to your doctor/gynaecologist may be your best option.
No I don’t seem to from clitoral but can from receiving oral – I spoke to doctor and was just told I should enjoy it as it means I am super turned on. But hey. Who wants to change the sheets every time?! Thanks anyway!
We have ben trying this a lot, and actually succeeded once – but my girlfriend almost always feels as if it gets too intense and wants to stop. It’s not that it feels as if she has to pee – it did that that time it worked. I have been giving other girls squirting orgasms earlier, so I think I got the technique right. Any advice?
Focusing too much on the outcome can ironically work against you. However, if you both focus on just providing her with as much pleasure as possible, then you’re both going to find it easier to make her squirt in the long run.
I didn’t try this, but I’m asking because I was wondering.
If you try to make yourself squirt for the first time, and when you do, is it normal for a dot of blood to come out. Especially if you accidentally cut yourself with your fingernail?
Sounds like a question your doctor can answer
So I’m having some trouble. I’ve been trying these techniques on my gf but it doesn’t seem to be working. And every other guide to this is pretty much the same except for a few that describe what the g spot is supposed to feel like a bit differently. I know my gf Can squirt because she said she did once with the guy before me one time when he was fingering her. The last time i tried to at one point i could feel her clamping down on me and i did hear the squelch for a couple of seconds but no squirt. My fingers aren’t very long or big at all and my gf is a little on the heavier side. Could it be they just aren’t long enough to reach her g spot at all or consistently enough? She does have problems with keeping her mind off other things so when she and i discussed this last time i told her it’s not gonna bother me if it doesn’t happen and i tried telling her when we are getting warmed up before sex to try not to think about trying to squirt and even try not to think about trying to cum at all and she should just relax and focus on what feels good. I even asked her if she knew where her own g spot is because she did ment something about it one time and she told me it’s back in there deep. So i asked her if it’s angled up at all or if she’s talking about straight in and deep back there and she said straight in. Is she possibly confusing this for her cervix? One time i tried to go straight back and felt something that felt swollen and could just barely reach it with my fingertip. Could that be it? She does prop up on a pillow underneath her every time. Is that changing the angle enough where it would be straight back? I do always try to give her at least one clitoral orgasm before we even do anything whether that be by giving her head or playing with her clit with my fingers. Please help a brother out. I don’t want to have to buy a g spot vibrator unless i absolutely Have to. I want to be able to do this for her by myself
Getting very wet & squelching = squirting. Different women squirt at different level. Some shoot a stream, others gush/squelch. Congrats, it sounds like you’re doing everything right.
And that engorged area deeper in her vagina sounds like her deep spot.
Wow I was so thrilled with this issue Sean. I never knew squirting was normal. Most men make women feel bad for squirting. When I first discovered it I was pregnant with my 3rd child and I thought it was not normal but the experience was amazing. Thank for a well detailed guide.
Hi. My partner always wants oral then we have sex for about 1 minute before he cums and I’m always left hanging. Sometimes he plays with my clit hard and rough. It does feel nice but too intense that I get him to stop. Then we just have rough sex but I rarely get any pleasure from that. To be honest it’s becoming exhausting from faking it all the time. Tonight I am alone and I played with myself a bit with my vibrating egg and when I put it on my clitoris it felt too intense I had to remove it. I used my fingers for a while and went back to using the egg gently and I felt some liquid trickle out of me so I thought i peed myself. I went to the toilet and tried to push a wee out but there was nothing there. Was this me squirting a bit?
Also when my boyfriend next rubs my clit and it’s too intense do I get him to slow down for a bit and if it feels nice do I just persevere and carry on. I really want to squirt for him.
It seems to me when I get that nice feeling it feels like it’s too much. It’s not painful its just scary as I feel like I need to wee
That sounds like squirting alright
Hi Sean! I’m a virgin and I masturbate daily and I have tried everything to make myself cum or squirt but nothing works what should I do?
Start with the Orgasm Guide if you’re having trouble.
I just wanna say this is the best article on squirting I have ever read! Every other article I’ve read all say the same thing, “just relax and keep going.” But after reading this and getting actual techniques to use all I can say is WOW!! I never knew I could do that and it felt amazing. So thank you for educating me on things I could try to do to make myself squirt.
Glad I could help 🙂
Ok so here’s my deal. I masturbate all the time, however I can’t seem to give myself very good orgasms, let alone squirt. My boyfriend makes me squirt all the time. I typically use a small vibrator that stimulates my gspot while also using my wand at the same time to stimulate my clit. I feel a small sensation but definitely never squirt or give myself the amazing orgasms my boyfriend does. My sex drive is much higher than my boyfriend’s so I’d really like to figure something out to help me out while waiting in between our sex sessions.
Get yourself some toys. Explore your body and find out what feels good for you when you’re alone. Try some different techniques. Play with your nipples, ass and clit. Try experimenting with a dildo. Maybe finger yourself, or skip using the toys. Also something that I like doing is to go into a doggystyle position but with my face on the ground/bed so my ass is in the air. Then rub your clit, use a wand, do your thing. Try water masturbation too.
I only used to be able to have an orgasm or squirting would happen. Now I don’t have the wonderful feeling of having an orgasm all I do is squirt and it squirts across the room my boyfriend enjoys how far it goes and turns him on but even he can’t give me an orgasm now. Help I loved having an orgasm
Can you orgasm on your own, without squirting?
For the answer to some questions on here. If your doing it yourself just get deeeep in there and if your man is doing it however get him to do it the same if your comfortable telling him
I squirt, but it doesnt feel like an organsim what should i do
Learn how to orgasm.
I’ve squirted before in past sexual encounters, but I’ve gotten into a new relationship and the sex is amazing and I can feel myself about to squirt so I relax like I normally do but nothing happens. I know I can squirt cause it’s happened before I just don’t know what’s going on that’s causing me not to be able to with my significant now.
The position helped, but I still don’t squirt.
Well I know I could but have not in about 25 ish years and I’ve tried so hard to make myself but never get there and I’ve been with my partner for almost 10 years and he has I’m not good at sex issues because of a previous partner and had never been with a women that had squirted well I’m so happy to say I push him to that point and it’s was amazing well it’s planted the seed let’s see what he thinks to do with it
I can only orgasm by clitoral stimulation. I’ve never orgasmed from actual penetration. (Also I can only orgasm if I’m pointing my toes). I’ve read a lot that in order to squirt you have to be relaxed and I’m wondering is there any hope at all for me to squirt? I’ve tried many suggestions about relaxing my body and my muscles but it just doesn’t feel as good relaxed. It’s like that tension is what really pushes me over the edge or rather clean throws me off the edge lol. I really want to be able to squirt but I’m worried I won’t be able to if I have to be relaxed. Can anyone else relate or have any advice?
Some girls can’t squirt, but instead get very wet. Perhaps you are in this group?
I was having sex with my boyfriend in the cowgirl position. It felt really good but I’m pretty sure I didn’t orgasm. However it suddenly seemed to get very wet and ‘sloshy’ inside my vagina. Like he’d come, but he hadn’t. There was a lot of clear liquid that soaked everything but came from inside rather than my urethra. Was this squirting? Didn’t feel any orgasm but felt satisfied after. Thanks.
Sounds like you were gushing (releasing a lot of fluid with actually “squirting” it).
So… I taught myself to squirt years ago. I asked myself one question. What happens if I keep going when I feel as if I just cant take anymore pleasure? I had a dildo, a large mirror, and l was on a mission. I lay down in front of the mirror so that I could see what I was doing and what was happening. As I approached the feeling of “I can’t take this anymore,” I tried to relax and continue pleasuring myself. Next thing I know my body gave a push and this liquid started spraying out. I jumped up asking myself, did I just pee on myself? I went to the bathroom and went pee to make sure my bladder was emptied before starting over again. This time I put a few towels down. The same thing happened. After smelling and tasting the liquid that projectiled from my vaginal area I went back to the bathroom to pee a second time and repeated the entire process. After 3 times, I curiously got my laptop out and searched asking if the liquid was pee. After finding out I did NOT just piss all over the place, I went back to the bathroom and back to exploring. I pleasured myself for probably an hour. I felt unstoppable, like I just conquered a huge obstacle. I was on top of the world floating like a goddess. I use a combination of “g-spot” and clitoral stimulation.
I shared one sentence with a friend and she told me the next day… It worked!! So, I would like to share that same sentence here in hopes that it may help someone else as well.
When you arrive to the point of overwhelming pleasure and feel like you need to stop or have your partner stop… DONT STOP!!
I’ll add this… and this is just from my personal experience… Just keep going and if you feel the need the push, then push bc you will probably squirt. Sometimes instead of pushing you may need to just completely relax and “let go.”
I hope by sharing my experience, p.o.v., and thoughts I have helped someone to reach their full squirting potential.
ALL LADIES REMEMBER YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL QUEEN!!! NEVER let ANYONE tell you or make you feel that you are ANYTHING less!!!
Thx for reading!!!
AJW, NC 35
I honestly dont know why I can. But I squirt all the time. I definitely have to be hydrated. Empty bladder. Sexually aroused. And not even physically but mentally sexually aroused. It takes not even 3 thrusts of my beautiful glass dildo, or a beautiful hard cock. I have to have a towel available all the time. In fact I squirt so easy now It surprises me. My current man can’t handle how easily I do squirt and our sex life has gone from Ok to not at all. However, I still use my dildo regularly cause I’m always so horny. I love squirting … and sorry some cant handle it. At this rate I don’t know what to do – find a new partner who loves squirting and sex for that matter … or continue using my dildo and be in a relationship?
Look me up. I’ve got the opposite problem. My other half is not into “squirting” at all. I’d love a girl who could squirt all the time. I find it beautiful and sexy as hell.
Hun, squirting is a GIFT. Embrace it. If your man doesn’t like your body and the way it works, and if he stopped having sex with you because of it, tbh he DOES NOT DESERVE YOU! If u luv squirting, find someone who will appreciate you body and gift. Find someone who will love you for who u r and how ur body is.
So I am a “squirter”, I even ejaculate vaginally during orgasms from penetration, clitotal, anal or any combo at any speed, honestly esp. going slow But true squirting from the urethra after a build up that’s hard and fast is something I have only ever done by myself. Even after 6 years of marriage I still haven’t shared this, which is now a problem as we rebuild or sex life, (after both being on anti depressants for the last 2 1/2 yrs, which had major blows to our desire) we’ve gone back to doing things in bed we’ve always loved, but my body has changed, I deal with PGAD worse than ever b4 so I can no longer separate my regular anal orgasms & squirting, a problem that’s creeping into all the other ways to climax as well. I’m ready to bring my husband into the fold, have this out in the open at least. & I’ve wanted to try it with him for a few weeks now. I know he has the patience and knowledge to accomplish this, & while we’ve had a comfortable open sex life so far, it’s just been lucky we also have abt. 95% the same fantasies/preferences.
Squirting is one thing I have never seen him take an interest in whatsoever. Like -10% interest shown.A big reason we havent even explored G region pleasure together yet. Lastly, I belong the the 16% of women who have it on the bottom wall, causing the need to make a session more purposeful. (something he greatly dislikes)
I have no idea how to even go about going about starting this conversation with my husband.
You need to talk to him and get him on the same page. The sexual communication guide will help.
OMG thx u sooo much!!! I finger myself till I squirted and came! I squirted for the first time!!! I used “the hook” and “the arm shaker”. Yay! Also, I am a virgin and I did this with 2 fingers and no pain. If it hurts shun u do it, try just ur middle finger. Also if u don’t hv lube, coconut oil is a great sub. Hv fun squirting! 😜
It makes me sad how many women are either down on their bodies because they cannot do “this” or “that,” think they are “broken” or how many men are on here complaining because their women don’t work in this “way” or are afraid to try things. That’s on you guys….seriously, you may think you know it all—I have been with several guys like that and nearly all of them were the worst lovers I have ever had. Guys who think they may not know it all, but WANT TO LEARN are the best lovers. Be a life-long sexual learner. All women’s bodies are slightly different, but those slight differences can have huge ways they play out.
I hope my experience will help you all. I am 52 and had been with quite a few (at least 30 or more) men before I married my husband of 18 years. This past year, we went on an information quest to solve some issues with us sexually that have developed since I hit perimenopause. We have always had a great sex life and I could orgasm from penetrative sex 90+% of the time. We always went off the physical marker that when I was wet, my body was ready for sex. WRONG!!!!!!! That’s what we have learned on this info journey, but it was only the beginning.
At 52 I learned that being wet for a woman is akin to precum oozing out of a penis for men. It does not necessary require an erect penis. So–a man is not necessarily ready for sex when precum is present and neither is a woman when she is wet. Actually, for women it’s REALLY CRITICAL, that men and women both easily recognize other physical markers for when a woman is truly ready for sex and has reached the height of her arousal, for women to have the best potential to reach the heights of their sexual function (squirting, orgasm(s) and enjoyable penetrative sex).
The very first thing that gets often overlooked or “Poopooed away” by men is a mental/emotional connection with their partner. Women NEED to feel safe, secure and emotionally connected to their partner in order to open themselves to sexual arousal and satisfaction. This means: Either flirting or being emotionally connected OUTSIDE of THE BEDROOM prior to beginning foreplay or sex, or emotional connection needs to be addressed at the initiation of sex, and at that time it requires more foreplay and effort from partners. GUYS: You need to kiss her passionately, or touch her nonsexual parts (hips, lower back, neck, wrists, inner thighs, belly, etc) caressingly and telling her things that make her feel cared for, secure in your relationship and in your admiration or attraction to her, and respected. “Your body is so “______” (feminine, sexy, lovely, desirable, beautiful, tasty–whatever words will appeal to her and are honest from your perspective). “There is no where else I’d rather be right now.” “I love our sexy time together.” “I have been waiting to love on you all day.” You get it. It’s sexy, but not explicitly sexual–not at this time. Entice her mind, it helps her focus, relax and open herself up. This process will take 10 or 15 minuets OR MORE of focus on her—don’t be selfish. Giving her what she needs and craves will have huge payoff for you down the road.
You need to be able to read the feminine body. When she is in a closed hips/legs position, or has her hands or arms covering her sexual parts….she is not feeling accepted and/or not in a mental position to receive your affections. You need to double down on accepting her. Once she is in a mental state to RECEIVE and focus on your efforts, then and only then is it fair to both of you for you to proceed by easing into sexual acts. Men can go from relaxed to sexually aroused in a few minutes. That’s not the way a woman’s body works. Do not put your body experience on her. It’s unfair and wrong.
When a female relaxes her hips, moves her legs part or let’s them fall open, when her hands are not covering her body, when she is RELAXED, then and only, then start moving into her center zone. Start at the outside of her sexual center by kissing, gently stroking and applying soft pressure around the outside of the center of her vulva. When you finally start touching in the middle, her legs should be relaxed, her breathing slightly increased, and her nipples may even be erect. She may even be physically “asking” you to touch her in her sexual parts by moving or grinding her hips. ASK her if what you are doing feels good. Be aware if she moves your hand, or her hips to meet your hand or mouth, or notice how she breathes, squirms or moves her body closer (hands, legs, belly, etc). This all means things are good. If she stiffens, closes her legs even slightly or is moving away from you–not only have you hurt her or moved too fast, but you have just set the process backwards. She was removed from her state of being ready to receive you and your affections and you have to get her to open up again by starting over. At this point, apologize, and start asking where it’s OK to touch, reinforce your desire to be there, how much you desire or love her or compliment her honestly. Oh, and never touch a woman down the middle of her vulva without copious amounts of moisture. It feels like being poked with stickers from weeds. It makes a woman sore and unable to enjoy what you are doing and even possibly to shut down sexually. Virgin organic coconut oil is THE best. It never gets sticky like water based lubes, it’s good for her body, and it’s OK to ingest (it’s actually really good for you to eat. : )
Women’s bodies are remarkable. TELL HER THIS. HELP HER SEE IT, especially if she is one to practice negative self talk—which was what is in the back of the mind of most women who are reared in the US. Things like: My hips are fat, my belly is not flat enough, my boobs are too (saggy, small, large, etc), my vagina is nasty–who would want to put their mouth on that?, etc. I did this stuff too, and I am a fairly confident woman. I no longer do it and part of the way I got out of the habit was during masturbation, where I would replace the emotional connection part at the beginning of sex with my husband, with me telling myself the good things about my body, while closing my eyes, relaxing in an “open” position and breathing deeply in and out while starting to masturbate. I changed the dialog in my head and now my husband’s oral sex efforts are fully enjoyed by me, because there is no comment section in the back of my mind focusing on how gross I am. Instead I lean into what he is doing, and oral sex is 1,000 times better since I accepted myself–for both of us. He is more confident, because he feels me pulling him in and accepting positively what he is doing, instead of me squirming because I am uncomfortable with myself (which he thought was his fault in the past and completely untrue). Ladies, practice being kind to yourself–you are holding yourself back sexually if you practice negative self-talk. It’s so worth the effort and the orgasms will be instantly more powerful either by yourself or with your partner. YAY. So Practice!!!
Next both sexes need to understand female anatomy, and yes, ladies you need to explore your own body fully and become an EXPERT ON YOUR OWN ANATOMY. Sean’s information is good, but here is more info that I have witnessed with my own body, so maybe ladies, see if this is your sexual physical response too. The only way to know is to explore by yourself. The Skene’s gland or “Urethral Sponge” (I think this term paints a better picture) is located under the G-spot. Yes, it contains some components of urine but what is missing from squirt fluid is the urea–the stuff that is yellowish and what gives pee its traditional “pee” smell. It helps me to make sure I empty my bladder fully right before any serious touching or stimulation on my sexual parts begin. That way if I feel an overwhelming urge to pee, I know for sure, it’s just pressure and not a full bladder so no chance of pee leaking out. It’s easier to ignore if I pee first. So get in the mental space of wanting sex, then pee, then start pleasuring yourself physically. And as someone else said—hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. Just as dehydrated men don’t cum well, neither do dehydrated women with squirting.
Women have as much erectile tissue as men. There is the shaft of the clitoris which becomes erect, the clit itself, the vestible bulbs (at the base of the whole clitoral structure, which sit on either side of the vaginal opening and when fully erect, contribute to making the hole tighter (!!!!)), the perineal sponge at the lower (closer to anus side) part of the vaginal opening that swells and closes things in tight also, and the meatus, which swells up around the urethra hole to protect it like bubble wrap around it. Then you have the urethral sponge (Skene’s glad) that swells up big too. When my urethral sponge is fully engorged, it moves my G-spot from being 2.25″ inside of my vagina, to about 1″ from the opening (easier for me to reach), and here is the best part: The U-sponge swells so hard, my middle aged vagina that has pushed out a human into this world is as tight as my 16 year old self—no joke! That gland swells so hard it makes things TIGHT! Check it out!! If you have never been this turned on before–it will blow your mind and also your partners when he enters you and realizes what he has been missing out on, by not paying you the attention you need to be fully aroused. This is a game changer.
You need to look for all these markers: Puffy Vestible Bulbs around either side of vagina, swollen meatus (puffy at urethra opening)making it bomb proof to injure, swollen Skene’s gland (urethral sponge), puffy perineum, elongated clitoral shaft, puffy vulva that has pulled back the lips to expose all the swelling and giving good access down the middle, and possibly your G-spot moving closer to the vaginal opening (like mine). That is a lot of erectile tissue and you are not fully ready to have sex AND ENJOY IT, until it’s all there. BTW, the beginning of this process is where I am really wet, but that is only the start and the rest of the erectile tissue comes later, so be patient and give your body the time it needs.
Guys, it will take 30 minutes or more to get your lady here. The WORST thing you can do is to put pressure on her to: “cum,” Squirt,” or ? It should not be about the ending point, but about the journey of the entire event. Give her pleasure for the sake of pleasure, not for the end result or so you can get what you want later (you are not “owed”, and she will surpass your desires and may even show you up in the number of orgasms she can have, and be more motivated to return the affection on you. Quit putting your sexual goals on her. Give her room to grow and show you what she is capable of. If you give her this space, she will want more sex from you, and your overall quality of sex will improve for you both. It’s a process of discovery and exploratoin–not a 1-2-3 steps = results.
Again–these are all MY EXPERIENCES, but the take away is if you (or your partner) have never given yourself the time it takes to become fully aroused, and explored how full arousal looks in your own body you will never know what your body is capable of. And if put in the effort–maybe you will make great discoveries like mine—OR maybe you will put me to shame with your even better results. Ha ha! (DO IT–I triple dog dare you!!)
Ladies, masturbate a lot. I find if I keep myself sexually charged by at least touching myself every other day or a few times a week at a minimum, my sexual frame of mind (partner sex or masturbation), orgasms are easier, and I am more sexually ready in less time and less effort by my husband. It’s a win-win. I have worked up to giving myself 3 orgasms back to back, now he and I just need to figure out how to do that together. Woo Hoo!
Good luck and for gawds sakes, love yourself ladies, it’s healthy and the only way to really grow sexually. It may be initially uncomfortable at first, but trust me, start with little things that are true about yourself to be authentic and grow from there. There has to be something good about your body! Beautiful eyes, lovely smile or great skin? Lovely legs, cute toes, disease free body or sexual parts, beautiful hair, great nipples, amazing brain or beautiful loving heart–find the things you love about yourself or are grateful for, and start there only focusing on those. After you get comfortable with accepting some things about yourself, begin telling yourself about how great your sexual energy is. Sexual energy IS NOT dependent on physical features. It’s about attitude and acceptance. Anyone can have great sexual energy. Appreciate your body for being turned on and getting aroused or having an orgasm. Try to see the things that make you feminine as a whole, not by nitpicking this thing or that thing or focusing on individual parts. Faint lighting works really well for this (in my experience and at my age). Candles or fairy lights ($3.99 at Walmart). Wear lingerie when you masturbate if it contributes to your sexiness. Put lipstick on if you like the way it looks. Wear a tube top pulled down over your stomach if that is your insecure spot, or even a cheap tank top that you pull your breasts out of to show off (but leave your stomach covered), or lift up to expose your stomach, but hide your breasts and only see the outline. Wear lacy panties that you pull down to expose your hips but leave on in a sexy way. There are things you can do for nearly every budget or with materials you already have, with big pay off. Sex Toys are whole other subject. They are healthy and can introduce you to new ways to pleasure yourself.
Good luck. And BIG HUGS to your beautiful sexual self.- Assert your feminine. It’s yours to own and use.
This is amazing, thank you for sharing Dee!
My partner recently told me that I squirted and of course he loves it. So now I want to try to make it easier but I do not understand the Arm Shaker move at all…I’ve read it several times and it’s just not making sense how to do it.
What specifically do you not understand about it?
Is it possible to squirt without penetration? And how do I finger myself without hurting myself? I’ve tried to do this a few times but it’s always so painful and too tight. I think it’s because I’m still a virgin? I’m not ready to have sex yet but I really want to explore with my partner. Please help! Thank you.
Check out our in-depth guide on how to finger yourself.
I was worried about the whole is it pee thing. I can make myself squirt during masturbation but never allowed myself to do it during sex because I thought it was pee. Anyway, I’ve got an amazing partner now and he can make me let go in ways I never have before and I can’t even force myself to not squirt – it’s uncontrollable – I’m glad he loves it lol. It’s happens vaginally, during anal and when he goes down on me – and before I would’ve been mortified if I squirted while a guy was down there but again with him, can’t even hold it in. He comes back up and jokes that his face probably looks like a glazed donut. Your article is great advice when you say you just have to let go, and to do that with a partner you have to have that connection that you can let go. Mature, supportive partners play a big role in it just happening.
I want to squirt. I think I’ve come close many times, but I always force myself to stop because I feel as though I’m actually just going to pee. How to I let myself go.
Try in the shower. This way you can easily wash everything away
I squirt a lot but I don’t gush squirt how can I hush out I did it once I rubbed so fast it gushed out but it never does that during sex or while using dildos I want to start makin vids but I want the world to see me gush not waterfall lol what should I do also do you know why I am always horny like I just want to rub every night I get so horny is that a medical problem or is it normal please help me figure this out I might be asking more 😉
Hi Sean, I recently started having G spot orgasms when I masterbate but have yet to squirt. I’m frustrated because my G spot orgasms are extremely intense and I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong, help!
How do I get my wife to come to this site? She needs this.
talk to her?
Is it possible to make yourself squirt while stimulating your clitoris? Everytime I do pleasure myself with a vibrator I squirt is that possible? 🤔
Yep.
I orgasm fairly quickly where my legs tighten up and I kind of shake. I become super sensitive… I just can’t get to the point of buildup to ejaculate properly. Not sure what to do
Many women report that you need to find a way to relax as you build up to climax, almost like you are allowing yourself to pee.
Your website is incredible! The pictures and descriptions of positions and more is almost second to none!
Having said that, I find I have to completely disagree with your position on the source of ‘squirt’ fluid. As you mentioned, the presence of the Skene’s gland is debated and, even if present, could never generate the quantity of fluid released by a true “gush”. This would require the Skene’s fluid to be retrograde stored in the urinary bladder prior to release (since the gland has no bladder sac per se). Not just that but there are formal ducts adjacent to the urethra for expulsion of the Skene’s fluid. The most accurate description I’ve read thus far is that the fluid is dilute urine produced as a function of sexual stimulation. Many studies have proven the fluid is chemically consistent with urine as it contains creatinine and urate. Further, Skene’s fluid is produced in sub-millilitre quantities and is milky-white and thick. This couldn’t be further from the description of a gush of squirt. I’ve seen my girl squirt hundreds of times by now. Sometimes just some intense clitoral vibration will work. Sometimes scissoring during sex will do it. The ‘traditional’ methods like ‘come hither’ or the rapid up/down movements depicted in porn don’t seem to work that well. Sometimes she’ll squirt before a clitoral orgasm, sometimes after. Girls who find they have to run to the bathroom to pee right after sex are likely on the verge of actually squirting and it is quite possibly psychological holdbacks that can be difficult to get over particularly if the girl has never done that in front of their man. Sometimes a new partner will evoke the squirt as the inhibition of being reserved with their traditional partner is absent (especially if that partner dates back to when they were young and reserved and traditional). A basic example I can think of is if a man always cums inside his girl (like for years and years and years), he’d have a tough time pulling out and squirting on her tits or face. It just would seem ‘unnatural’ or ‘out of normal’.
Hi, so odd one but I have only ever squirted when I cum I have never orgasmed without it. Is there a way I can teach myself to orgasm without squirting sometimes . Only it means forward planning, and having a mess to clean up. So spontaneous sex or a quickly is kind of impossible. Ans it would greatly improve our sex life ( two small kids don’t give a huge amount of time for clean up/planning.) 🙈
Do you squirt from all types of orgasms? Clitoral, vaginal, anal?