Squirting 101: How To Squirt Like A Pornstar

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Today you’ll learn how to squirt when alone as well as how to make yourself squirt when you’re with your man.

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Additionally, your man may find this guide useful to read too, so that he understands how to help you achieve that wonderful feeling of female ejaculation.

Quick Note: If you want to learn my most powerful dirty talking phrases, tips & techniques, then you will learn a lot from this dirty talking tutorial video. Enjoy!

Here’s How The Tutorial Is Structured:

1. Your anatomy - The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.

2. The process & techniques to squirt - With detailed instructional diagrams!

3. FAQ on common squirting questions that I’m often asked as well as debunking some annoying myths about squirting.

1. Your Anatomy

Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there’.

In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.

The G Spot

While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute it’s existence, we firmly believe it exists, but that it’s sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from it’s entrance.

Please understand that G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged (i.e. it becomes bigger). When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.

Skene’s Gland

When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is actually where you squirt or ejaculate from.

You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot. As a result, this entire tutorial will focus on stimulating your G Spot.

Just one last thing on the Skene’s gland before we move on: When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women.

It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt, while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation. I will also discuss other factors that can help or hinder your ability to squirt in the FAQ section at the end of this article.

The Clitoris

When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation. Full disclosure: It’s not impossible as  noted anecdotally here.

So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. So to keep things simple, we won’t be covering the clitoris for the rest of this article. If you want to learn some great clitoral stimulation techniques, then you may be interested in this article here. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color

2. The Process & Squirting Techniques

One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and very comfortable. I’ll explain why in just a minute.

Getting Comfortable & Relaxed

Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the first priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.

Getting Aroused

Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:

  • Reading erotica
  • Watching porn
  • Fantasising about something or someone
  • Massaging yourself
  • Using a vibrator or dildo

While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.

As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.

At this point, your G Spot should be also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:

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All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to actually squirting. Without it, you’re Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot more difficult to actually squirt. Now, the good stuff…

Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.

The Hook

The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your stomach. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.

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Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.

Push The Button - You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next 2 techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.

Come Hither - Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.

The Arm Shaker - The arm shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of simply using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.

Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.

Sex Toys

Optionally you can a sex toy like dildos or penis shaped vibrators. There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.

There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.

Squirting During Sex

As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man really only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches in order to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that your man should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot

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But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:

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4 Sex Positions To Help You Squirt

While you will find over 100 different sex positions with professional photographs in the sex positions section here, the following 4 positions are the ones that I would most recommend you try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:

G Spot Sniper Position - As the name suggests, the G Spot sniper position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust. For more information on the G Spot Sniper position, click here.

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Launch Pad Position - This position is great as it gives you a lot of control…you can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward like in the demonstration below.

Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick. To find out more about the Launch Pad Position, click here.

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Down Stroke Position - Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot Sniper. It’s also a bit more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit. If you’d like to learn more about how to perform the Down Stroke and get the most out of it, click here.

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Jockey Position - The Jockey position is much more easy going for you as you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated below. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a very specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot.

Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot. Click here to find out more about the Jockey position:

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Pressure & Release

As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a build up in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee. This feeling is completely natural for a 2 reasons:

1. Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.

2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.

So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.

As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.

3. FAQ

If you are having trouble squirting, then most likely you’ll find an answer to your problem here:

No matter what I try, I can't squirt. What should I do?

Answer: Firstly, don’t worry too much about it, stressing yourself about the outcome will only make it harder to ejaculate. For many women, it takes time to learn about their bodies, what feels right and what brings them closer to squirting. So take the time to masturbate and discover the kinks and fantasies that really turn you on. Like I said previously, you need to build up to it by slowly turning yourself on for up to 30 minutes before paying attention to your G Spot. In time, you will get closer and closer to squirting.

According to the research of Emanuele Jannini, some women unfortunately don’t have a Skene’s gland, making it next to impossible to squirt.

The pressure keeps building, but I never hit the peak & squirt. Help!?

Sounds like you are very close and it will take just a little bit more to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.

Like I said previously, for some, they need to let go, be at peace with how they feel and just relax. But for others they need to push out. This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your kegel muscles. Others need intense clitoral stimulation at the same time as G Spot stimulation to squirt.

My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.

Fluid flowed/gushed, but I didn't squirt a stream of fluid. Why not?

The level at which women squirt/ejaculate/gush is highly variable. Some women can shoot a steady stream into the air, while for most, fluid simply runs out of their vagina. It’s the same for guys when they ejaculate. For many, it just oozes out, while for others it can fly across the room!

My man wants me to squirt for him, but I can't. What should I do?

Your boyfriend needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. He also needs to understand that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with him. So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your man.

You will find that the more pressure your man puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so get him to take a chill pill and relax.

Lastly, remember that some girls simply can’t squirt and that’s perfectly normal.

I squirted, but I didn't have an orgasm, what happened?

This is perfectly normal. Squirting is not always linked to having an orgasm. Sometimes you can squirt/gush and not orgasm while you do it.

I want my man to make me squirt. What should I do?

The short answer is to teach him and show him. Give him a demonstration and show him exactly what you do to make yourself orgasm. Additionally, he may find reading this very article helpful.

I've never had an orgasm, but I want to to squirt, what should I do?

Slow down. Everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and give yourself an orgasm first, before moving on to squirting. This tutorial  and these techniques will show you how to masturbate effectively as well as this one on giving yourself an orgasm will help.

The last thing I’d like to say on squirting is that I have made a number of assertions & assumptions based on both scientific and anecdotal evidence. Despite huge numbers women reporting being able to squirt, the scientific community is still debating aspects of squirting such as the make up of the fluid that is squirted as well as the existence of the G Spot!

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  1. Sarah May 8, 2013 at 4:28 pm #

    and how can I squirt with my partner?

    • Sean Jameson May 13, 2013 at 9:04 am #

      Hi Sarah,
      A large part of learning how to squirt with your partner is being comfortable with them. I would suggest learning how to make yourself squirt first before learning how to squirt with your partner. Remember, if you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it’s going to be much more difficult to actually do it. A much better approach is to just enjoy the experience whether you squirt or not.

      Sean

  2. Bri July 29, 2013 at 5:11 pm #

    Um when I do it, I’m pretty positive I actually peed? I might have cummed a little but then after I peed? Sooo :/ idk

    • Sean Jameson August 5, 2013 at 9:46 am #

      Peeing a little while you’re cumming is perfectly fine and normal Bree, so don’t worry!

      Sean

  3. Brittany July 30, 2013 at 6:42 pm #

    Is it possible to squirt without massaging your gspot?

    • Sean Jameson August 5, 2013 at 9:44 am #

      Hi Brittany,
      Some people can and some people can’t. It really depends on the person.

      Sean

  4. Trina August 3, 2013 at 6:46 pm #

    I have tryed alot of things and still I cant. I get that pee feeling then it go away.. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I want to give up. My boyfriend has tryed to and i get that pee feeling and he will tell me to let it go and it go away every time what else can I do…Am starting to feel bad over this..

    • Sean Jameson August 5, 2013 at 8:48 am #

      Hi Trina,
      You shouldn’t feel bad about this at all! You’ll actually find it harder to squirt at first when you’re with your partner. The best place to try it is in the shower, when you are alone. This way you can immediately wash away any ejaculate with the shower water.

      And remember…some people can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.

      Best,

      Sean

  5. ash von August 6, 2013 at 8:25 am #

    My girlfriend wants me to make her squirt with my tongue. Is this possible and if so How? Thank you!

    • Sean Jameson August 12, 2013 at 8:51 am #

      Hi Ash,
      It is possible, but a lot harder if you are not stimulating your G-Spot. So you could experiment with using your fingers (or a toy) to stimulate her G-Spot while using your tongue to massage he clit.

      Let me know how it goes!

      Sean

  6. Alex August 12, 2013 at 3:29 pm #

    So I never thought I would be able to squirt but I have a new partner and we had a spur of the moment sex experience. We ended up on top of a sink and I don’t know if it was the position, or my arousal from this new position but I became aware that I was getting very wet and he told me to
    Look down and I did and I was squirting all over him. It didn’t feel like an orgasm though…. But I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm so I’m not sure if what I did was squirting or not…..

    • Sean Jameson August 18, 2013 at 7:11 pm #

      Hi Alex,
      Yup, sounds like you squirted. Not everyone orgasms while squirting though.

      Sean

    • georgie January 2, 2014 at 5:57 am #

      Hi baby

      the best squirting experience i got from my girlfriend is she was on top of me and after a few drinks i liked her pussie from underneath. she was squatting on me and i licked her very well and when she squirtee i thought she peed on me , but it was a good experience. I want her to do it again. If you also want her, she is available

  7. Chris August 17, 2013 at 3:09 pm #

    Hi, my wife and I have been trying to make her squirt for ages without success and to the point where my fingers start to hurt her. She gets the peeing sensation but that’s it. We put no pressure on eachother with reguard to this subject and I’ve tried all of the above without success. When I suggested this subject to her she was a little apprehensive at first but warmed to the idea after reading a few forums. It’s ended up where I’ve been stimulating her g spot for over an hour, have an aching arm, very wet fingers, lost my and failed miserably at getting the desired result. I can sometimes feel the inside of her vagina swelling, almost forcing my fingers out but the the upper wall eventually seems to move away from my fingers. She always empties her bladder before we try but always has to visit the bathroom when we are finished. What could we be doing wrong? Could I be being too rough inside her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’ve had other partners before my wife who I could make squirt through g spot stimulation with ease so I don’t think it’s what I’m doing though I’m not 100% sure.

    • Sean Jameson August 18, 2013 at 7:02 pm #

      Hi Chris,

      The first thing I would do her is get your wife to try it on her own. It’s more likely that she knows the exact buttons to push to bring herself to the point of squirting. Then once she can do it on her own, get her to show you exactly what she did. However do keep in mind that not all women have the ability to squirt unfortunately.

      Best,

      Sean

    • Eva November 18, 2013 at 3:44 pm #

      Maybe youre trying too hard or you just don’t turn her on. Move on and find another partner that won’t take as much effort.

  8. Eva August 19, 2013 at 5:19 am #

    Hi, I’ve read your advice and have been trying to make myself squirt all night long, but I’ve had no such luck of actually making it happen. I’ve rubbed on my clit and kept myself from coming, and then found my g-spot and fingered it, but I’ve only had a regular orgasm. No squirting here. Maybe you could come over and do it for me, lol, seriously though, please help! Thanks.

    • Sean Jameson August 26, 2013 at 7:39 am #

      Hi Eva,

      The key is not to be ‘outcome dependent’. In other words, try not to focus on squirting. Rather, focus on just having a good time, while doing the things that will help to increase the chances of you squirting. You should feel a small amount of pressure building up when you stimulate your G Spot (very similar to the feeling of needing to pee).

      Often you need to apply quite a bit of force to your G Spot to achieve this. Don’t forget to experiment with different techniques and even toys. And finally, don’t forget that some women simply can’t squirt, but it’s really not a big deal

      Sean

    • yuvi November 16, 2013 at 12:33 am #

      Try with fingers in ur ass too… That’ll help

      • Bethmary June 17, 2014 at 1:56 am #

        I love my ass being handled and teased to get me so aroused, not necessarily anal but a finger always feels amazing! I quite honestly believe that i am unable to squirt yet i manage to have some extremely intense orgasms that i am more than satisfied without a mess

  9. Megan August 26, 2013 at 11:14 pm #

    I have always squirted when masturbating but just in the past year or so started doing it while having sex with my hubby. He loves it. But I have trouble doing so during oral. Any advice?

    • Sean Jameson September 3, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Hi Megan,
      Squirting is almost always a result of G Spot and/or vaginal stimulation. When your man is going down on you, he will mostly be stimulating your clitoris. While squirting from clitoral stimulation is possible, it’s much less likely than occur than from penis in vagina (PIV) sex.

  10. Cici August 27, 2013 at 8:21 am #

    Hello there! My problem seems to actually be the opposite of most of these other posts. My boyfriend, and previous boyfriends have been able to make me squirt, no problem. The technique seems to be to finger me really hard, in an upward motion over and over. I wouldn’t consider it rubbing or pressing, it’s more like slamming. Sorry if that is graphic but it gets the job done. Anyway, now my boyfriend is away on an extended trip and I can’t get myself to squirt no matter how much I try. I think my fingers are too short, and I don’t have the arm strength to hit my gspot that hard? I also used a dildo but that didn’t work for me either. I’m able to have a gspot orgasm but it doesn’t squirt. Any advice?

    • Sean Jameson September 3, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

      Hi Cici,

      Try using a dildo, but…instead of using it with with you arm lying over your stomach, try putting your arm behind your back to use the dildo. This will make it much easier to provide yourself with a lot of pressure on your G Spot area and hence make squirting a lot easier.

      Best,
      Sean

  11. nicole jock August 28, 2013 at 7:26 pm #

    I have never had a squirting orgasm i am trying i dont know if im doing it right or what but it just isnt happening.my boyfriend and i wanna experiance this together ive had really powerfull orgasms trying so i think i am doin somethin right i just need advice please help

    • Sean Jameson September 3, 2013 at 10:07 pm #

      Hi Nicole,
      Don’t focus too much on squirting as the last thing you want to do is put pressure on yourself (it will just make it harder to squirt in the long run). It sounds like you are already doing well and to be honest, I suggest that you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Please keep in mind that some women can squirt and some can’t, not everyone can.

      Sean

  12. Snowy September 4, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

    Hy, my girlfriend really want to be squirt…. and i tried alot, by finger, by toung etc….. this time i will try my best to get her squirt. give me some tips for that and also tell me what is actually squirting material… can it harm my dick like periods blood??

  13. bubbles September 15, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

    Hi. I’ve been trying to squirt for some time. I’ve read a lot about how to do it but never really succeeded. I was perfectly relaxed and I had the urge to pee but nothing. I always empty my bladder before masturbation and sex. No squirting but the need to visit the bathroom after that. Is there something wrong?

    • Sean Jameson September 16, 2013 at 7:43 am #

      Hi Bubbles,
      Honestly you sound completely normal :) Remember that some people can squirt very easily, while others have much more difficulty. Keep trying and just focus on what feels good NOT on what you think will make you squirt. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it really helps.

      Sean

  14. tiffany wolfe September 16, 2013 at 3:03 am #

    Hi sean i came once for my fiancee and none of my past bfs couldnt make me cum or squirt i really want to squirt for him again without a dildo and i practice by myself alot lately and i have my hood pierced what else can we try ? Please help please send to email thank you

  15. tiffany wolfe September 16, 2013 at 3:04 am #

    None of my past bfs could make me cum or squirt. Same question as first comment

    • Sean Jameson September 16, 2013 at 7:40 am #

      Test, try, experiment and get to know your own body first. This way you can discover what you need to feel in order to cum or squirt without the pressure of having your man there. But remember, some women just can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.

      Best,
      Sean

      • tiffany wolfe September 17, 2013 at 3:51 am #

        Thank you sean i know i can squirt cause i did it already but with a toy and my fiancee was going fast and hard, but it kills his arm cause it takes me forever to let myself go. Ugh i want to cum with him ,

        • Sean Jameson September 23, 2013 at 6:26 am #

          Hi Tiffany,

          Don’t worry, it just takes time to get relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt easily for a lot of women. Just give it time and enjoy the process.

          Warning: If you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it actually going to be much harder to do it. Just focus on what’s pleasurable and stop keeping track of time.

          Best,

          Sean

  16. Jessi September 22, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

    When I masturbate/finger, i always do it alone. WHen i do it, im really turned on, the first time i thought i squirt, it looked like i peed. and it smelt like it to. should i go to the bathroom before i masturbate? I also haven’t orgasmed. I want to be able to squirt for my bf when we first have sex.

    • Sean Jameson September 23, 2013 at 6:13 am #

      Hi Jessi,
      Ideally , you should go to the bathroom both before and after masturbation/sex.
      Sean

  17. White wolf September 25, 2013 at 1:21 am #

    It felt great thanks for the tips

  18. Jessica October 23, 2013 at 12:09 am #

    Hello. Im a 29 yr old female I don’t know if that makes any difference. I’m also on the heavier side I’m 5’2 and weigh inn at 185lbs on my way to a healthier me. I’ve been trying to squirt by myself I want to surprise my BF. I know we would both love it. I’ve tried my finger and stimulating my G spot but I only have my usual orgasm as well as stimulating my clitoris and again I only have my usual orgasim I’ve never had an issue with having an orgasim wether through oral, self or penetration so now on to my new venture of squirting and proving to be quiet a challenge. Any advice?

    • Sean Jameson November 11, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

      Hi Jessica,

      The most important thing is to make sure you are not putting pressure on yourself to perform. Putting pressure on yourself is completely counter-productive. Just keep doing what you’re doing, but make sure to focus on what feels most pleasurable, enjoying it, without expecting to get anything from it. In time, you will slowly discover nuances to your technique which will bring you closer and closer to squirting.

      Sean

  19. Ashley December 11, 2013 at 6:23 am #

    I followed your advice. You’re right about feeling like you have to pee. I couldn’t believe I was doing it. Thank you so much! :)

  20. drea December 16, 2013 at 3:28 am #

    Hi im drea,

    I have tried for the longest to make myself squirt but just dont understand how to do it. Is it a way to do it without using fingers?

  21. Sasha December 16, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

    So I am able to squirt with my partner but not by myself. I don’t really feel comfortable fingering myself and when I do squirt he’s usually in very deep and I also like when he puts it in my ass, huge turn on!!!!

  22. Melanie December 16, 2013 at 4:11 pm #

    A couple years ago I squirted for the first time but never knew how to make it happen again but then a couple days ago while my boyfriend was on top I noticed that it was happening again so of course my boyfriend being the kinky guy he is wanted to see it so we did it from behind and I then proceeded to squirt over ten times it was amazing now I’m able to do it all the time just not .by myself

  23. Nadia December 19, 2013 at 11:08 pm #

    Hi,
    im from Spain and sorry if i write something wrong :)
    I would like to ask you about squirting. Actually i did it few days ago and yesterday too, but I’ve noticed that i do it only after a few orgasams. I do everything what you wrote and i feel the peeing feling very hard but nothing happens when i cum. Then i go for another one after a second or two and another and it happens. I would like to try it with my boyfriend but it would be so stupid when he would try so hard and nothing would happen. :( Am i doing something wrong or.. pls help. Thanks :)

    • Sean Jameson December 23, 2013 at 4:15 pm #

      Hi Nadia, sounds like you are doing everything right.

      Sean

  24. Bobby December 28, 2013 at 4:41 pm #

    Hello Sean,
    This is more for the ladies not really a question. So I am a man that has been very successful with making my girlfriends past and present squirt. The most important thing ladies is to relax. I know not every woman can squirt but chances are your not one of them. And if you can make your self squirt but your partner can’t don’t get upset. Coach him until he gets it right. As a man myself I can full admit it took lots of practices and studying. Yes studying the female body( which includes reading ) to fully understand how and where to stimulate. So in conclusion fully relax and either alone or with a partner, do what feels best for you. No one knows your body like you do and don’t be afraid to guide your partner. Happy squirting.

  25. Dee January 2, 2014 at 4:18 pm #

    I’ve never tried this on my own, just with my boyfriend and I started to feel that pee- sensation but I’m not sure to what point of that feeling I should try and let it go. Does the body release it on its own? Or do I have to push it out? Also it seems like every time I get close to that feeling my boyfriend has to stop because his arm hurts and then he’ll go back to doing it but its like starting all over again to get back to that feeling. I feel like I’ll never succeed and letting my boyfriend down

  26. Renee January 3, 2014 at 12:16 am #

    The past few weeks my hubby and I have been trying to get me to squirt. We’ve done tons of research on the many methods, but I am having one issue… having myself actually “let go” and squirt. I’ve gotten to the “gotta pee” stage handfuls of times, I just can’t get over that fence. I’ve even tried thinking about “peeing” to get it to release… and we are getting no results. But afterwards I have to pee like a rushing race horse.. HELP ME!

    • Sean Jameson January 9, 2014 at 11:23 am #

      Hi Renee,

      Try it in the shower and just go for it. This way if you do think you’ll pee (which you won’t) it will all be washed away by the shower immediately. Additionally, you’ll find it much easier to do it alone first before trying to do it with your man.

      Sean

  27. Nessa January 6, 2014 at 2:42 pm #

    The only time it happened for me was when I was 16 and on extasy. Thought I peed. No orgasm with it tho. Been trying to do it for years since and nothing.it’s weird

  28. Savannah January 7, 2014 at 7:42 am #

    Is it normal to squirt a little bit the first time? Do I eventually squirt more after some practice?

    • Sean Jameson January 9, 2014 at 11:11 am #

      Absolutely, it’s normal. Different people squirt different amounts.

  29. sara January 12, 2014 at 10:10 pm #

    Does it get easier to squirt the more you do it? is it like something you get better at by practice?

    • Sean Jameson January 13, 2014 at 8:30 am #

      Hi Sara,

      Yep, this is usually the case.

      Sean

  30. Sky January 13, 2014 at 4:39 am #

    When I squirt it sometimes smells like I peed and sometimes it is yellow like pee. Did I squirt or no?

    • Sean Jameson January 13, 2014 at 8:30 am #

      Hi Sky,

      Sometimes your ejaculate can mix with a small amount of urine. Try peeing right before you get down to sexy times to help prevent it from happening again.

      Sean

  31. Helloimshy January 23, 2014 at 11:18 am #

    Hi Sean,
    Okay so I masturbate I feel it i I let loose and I feel that great feeling but I do not cum or get extremely wet. When I keep going it’s that feeling that I just can’t continue because it feels idk it feels weird and my body twitches more but I can’t keep going, am I suppose to keep going?

    • Sean Jameson January 27, 2014 at 7:48 am #

      You could be getting this feeling because you are stimulating your clitoris. If so, it’s totally natural and nothing to be worried about.

  32. Lola January 23, 2014 at 9:32 pm #

    Hi,
    I’ve squirted once with a past partner in a big way while having sex – I consider it a random event. However my current partner wants me to squirt for him and I’m finding it hard to do. I feel really pressured to squirt, I do get a peeing sensation sometimes. I think I occasionally squirt a little but not the big gush that he wants. I’ve never really tried to squirt on my own and I’m finding it harder and harder to do with my partner – squirting has become an issue in our sexual relationship because it’s something he needs in order to be sexually satisfied. I love our sex life and want to find a way to do it. We have tried fingering, him going down on me orally and stimulation of both my clit and G spot. I’m not even sure I can do it because I feel like I it’s not possible. Do you have any advice?

    • Sean Jameson January 27, 2014 at 7:40 am #

      Hi Lola,

      The first thing to understand that in order to squirt, you need to be relaxed. So talk to your man about it. If you feel pressured, it’s going to be harder and harder for you to squirt because you won’t be relaxed. The less pressure you are under, the better.

      Next, you may want to do a little experimentation on your own to figure out exactly what to do to bring yourself closer and closer.

      Sean

  33. brittany March 17, 2014 at 6:53 pm #

    hey ,

    i can squirt as in feeling it and letting go and having wet spots on the bed but i wud like to know the technique to have it more of the water fountain “porn star” squirt

    • Sean Jameson March 24, 2014 at 2:16 pm #

      Hi Brittany,

      To make it appear more like a water fountain, try “pushing” as you squirt. The pushing feeling is very similar to the feeling of pushing out urine when you pee.

      Sean

  34. Kelly March 17, 2014 at 11:23 pm #

    Sean,
    Just read ur article and found it very detailed, THANK U! I TRIED last night w/ my man on the phone w/ me- I did get that peeing sensation! What I did was I was on my back, I used my strong arm to rub my clit and my left hand (index n middle fingers bc I heard use 2) to go as fast as I could n as hard as I could press on it but found my arm getting tired….I felt like I was under pressure (just a tad tho) bc I wanna squirt so bad! I tried to relax as much as I could. The peeing sensation lasted quite a while! I did actually finish but what I FORGOT to do was push when I came….is there a particular moment when I’m supposed to push? Oh n I did use lube I made sure of that bc I watched a video that said to do that- I’m def. Gonna TRY again tonight bc I wanna squirt so bad like I said! I just hope I’m not 1/10 of the percentage that CANT DO IT! I read 99.9% even ALL women CAN! Can u give me ANY feedback on this plz- much appreciated
    Kelly

  35. Kelly March 17, 2014 at 11:36 pm #

    Also Idk if I actually squirted before….just thought I’d tell u that an ex of mine asked me if I had peed- he actually started going down on me and then finished inside me- but when we finished I remember him asking me if I peed- I laughed n said no haha there was a huge puddle tho! Was this possibly squirting?!

    • Sean Jameson March 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm #

      It sounds like it was squirting, I’m 99% sure it was.

  36. Kelly March 17, 2014 at 11:41 pm #

    I actually did it 2x last night w/ my man (sorry I commented 2x prior to this as well) and the 2nd time was much more powerful…felt like I wanted to scream/moan but I didn’t (not only 1 in house lol) it felt awesome but I didn’t push like I said in 1st comment was I there? But just had to push?

  37. Notquitesure April 3, 2014 at 12:41 am #

    I’ve never squirted before… But I tried tonight and maybe I sound really dumb but does it make a sound? Or did I pee?!

    • Sean Jameson April 7, 2014 at 9:39 am #

      Some women gush instead of actually squirting. If the sounds you made was ‘squelching’, then you were most likely gushing/squirting.

  38. Jay April 7, 2014 at 8:03 pm #

    This has really helped a lot…before i could absoutely not squirt at all…I’ve tried so many things but nothing at all helped so i read this article and its no lie…all i had to do was really really false my self and think more of the pleasure and not so much focus on squirting…but then i started getting that peeing feeling but i knew not to worry…i had the peeing feeling for about 15min straight and i was wondering Why i wasn’t Squirting yet but then i started to think that ishould push it out…i started to Squirt little by little bit then it came out so fast and so much…I’m so happy that i can squirt now But now i gotta figure out how to squirt with my partner….Thank you so much!!!! Great Advice!!!!

  39. annoyed and frustrated! April 29, 2014 at 6:04 pm #

    Okay so my husband and I have started experimenting with trying to get me to “squirt” Every single thing he’s doing feels good now. Before, it was a little painful on my bones with his knuckles but we’ve found that laying on my stomach is the easiest, most comfortable way for me. How in the world am I supposed to relax and orgasm!? Am I the only one whose body completely siezes up and spases out? I don’t know how to release when it feels so good! I also am so let down when it doesn’t happen! I truly try so hard not to even worry about the outcome but I know that’s what my husband is looking for. Will it just happen like a regular orgasm or am I supposed to push it out? Ugh…it’s so frustrating

    • Sean Jameson May 2, 2014 at 11:02 am #

      Here’s a bit of advice: To help you relax, you can try a glass of wine. Others find that weed can help too.

      When you feel the pressure build inside you, push out…even if it feels slightly like peeing.

  40. george May 13, 2014 at 10:15 pm #

    I made my wife squirt for the first time she’s 31 29 I was surprised at first fire it up really liking ItI recommend this to everybody I wanted to do it all the time now trying to learn how to make her do it again

  41. heather May 15, 2014 at 12:36 am #

    Im sure you have answered this but I seriously am terrified that I am going to pee instead of squirt. I have never squirted but my bf said that last night he felt it building and that I almost did….I didn’t feel close to orgasm which I know is normal but still totally freaked out that I will pee instead. OMG I would be so embarrassed…..I do go to the bathroom before and after but still……any suggestions….

    • Sean Jameson May 18, 2014 at 9:07 pm #

      Try it in the shower, so if you do happen to somehow pee (unlikely), then you don’t have to worry about a mess.

      Sean

  42. jeepguy May 15, 2014 at 9:41 pm #

    Trying to get my wife to squirt and I understand what everyone is sying but can her cum be too thick to squirt ?
    It seems like she would but it flows like lava rather then a guyser

    • Sean Jameson May 18, 2014 at 9:06 pm #

      Sounds perfectly normal, not everyone is a squirter. Many gush and never squirt.

  43. jwfuj May 23, 2014 at 7:49 am #

    :):):):)thanks

  44. dayana June 7, 2014 at 1:31 pm #

    s,i tried this method..i feel peeing,,but there is no squirting .plz i need wny i hapend?

    • Sean Jameson June 9, 2014 at 6:18 am #

      Make sure to read the end of the end of the article where I explain that the ‘need to pee’ feeling is totally normal. The main reason is because your bladder is right beside your G Spot.

  45. dayana June 7, 2014 at 3:10 pm #

    thankz a lot…my partner was hapy..i can make squirt…

  46. Lin June 9, 2014 at 7:34 pm #

    Hi
    I’ve tried your technique and it felt like it was working until it was time for me to cum. Nothing happened as far as ejaculating but I had a helluva orgasm. I was dating this guy and he have made me squirt like twice. I’ve also done it a few times with another partner but as of late I’ve been unable to do so. I really would like to get that feeling again cause I had the best orgasm of my life. I’ve been relaxed and I’ve followed your directives but, I have been unsuccessful. Please help!!

    • Sean Jameson June 16, 2014 at 6:22 am #

      Hi Lin,

      You’d be surprised at just how much pressure some women need to apply in order to squirt. You may want to try applying some more pressure…or use something like a dildo if it’s too awkward and/or difficult.

      Enjoy!

      Sean

  47. Jacklyn June 20, 2014 at 2:42 am #

    I’m pretty sure I did it… is it controllable? You k ow, when it happens.

  48. metime June 20, 2014 at 10:53 am #

    My experience with squirting is when I am playing with my clitoris while having anal sex. I feel a tremendous pressure building inside me and then I orgasm and squirt out a lot of clear fluid, usually enough to leave a big wet puddle in the bed. I doesn’t smell like urine or look like it. It’s clear to slightly milky and has no odor.

  49. That one guy June 20, 2014 at 11:40 pm #

    I think that your readers should be aware that some of the squirting you see in some porn, IS actually urine. Some years back, squirting was sort of an unknown, an urban legend type thing. Many people didn’t know if it was real or not, nor how to do it. But the porn industry was glad to fake it, if it’d sell videos.
    Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fan of squirting, I’ve had several partners do it, and only one who was unable to squirt.
    But even with women who squirt easily and often, it still doesn’t always happen. And when it does, sometimes it’ll just be a little splash, sometimes a gusher :-)
    Don’t be discouraged if you don’t squirt like a porn star! I don’t have a dick like a porn star either, haha!

  50. That one guy June 20, 2014 at 11:59 pm #

    I forgot to give you the techniques that work best for me!

    I have been able to make several women squirt pretty consistently. Here’s what works for me (them)

    First, have a few orgasms! Get your body all full of sex hormones. Squirting is intense. Once you’re worn out a little, and getting to that next orgasm takes some time, you’ll probably be more successful. This is related to how the article above says to build up for 5 to 20 minutes. A quickie, rub-one-out orgasm probably won’t get you squirting.
    Two things work best for me. First is woman on top, traditional cowgirl position. Her kneeling astride me. The difference is, I grab her hips and slide her back and forth against me, with my dick as far inside as it reaches. This makes her clit rub against my public bone, and causes the shift of my penis to rub against the roof of her vagina/her G-spot.
    It’s fun for me, because I end up covered in her cum, all wet, while she usually collapses on top of me.
    It’s a pretty satisfying feeling to exhaust a woman like that :-)

    The other way that works best is, use your hand. She lays on her back, you kneel beside her. Use your strong hand, insert your middle and ring fingers in her all the way, so that the heel of your Palm is on her clit and your hand cups her pussy. Your forefinger and pinky extend down alongside, out the way. Then you curl those 2 fingers inside her to rub against her G-spot, and rapidly and forcefully rub her clit and pump the fingers. Generally, you’re not pulling the fingers in and out more than a little bit. More just rubbing.
    Your hand is doing the job of a vibrator, not a dick.
    It’s harder to explain than it is to do.
    You can see this technique pretty frequently on videos from kink.com, but their videos aren’t for everyone, being mostly oriented to bondage and the like.

    Good luck and happy squirting!!

  51. Jamie June 24, 2014 at 6:56 am #

    How do I squirt without anything to do with Vaginal penetration?

    • Sean Jameson June 29, 2014 at 12:08 pm #

      Hi Jamie,

      The short answer is that many women can’t without vaginal penetration. However, if you can get yourself super turned on while masturbating and firmly press down on the lower part of your stomach while masturbating, then you are going to find it easier and it will put pressure on your Skene’s gland, making it more likely to happen.

  52. Tina June 30, 2014 at 8:08 pm #

    Will I be able to cum my first having sex.

    Is there a way to do it without it hurting the first?

    • Sean Jameson July 7, 2014 at 6:16 am #

      Hi Tina,

      The answer to both questions is “It depends”. Some people cum during their first time and others don’t. A key to cumming is making sure that you are completely relaxed. Whether or not it hurts depends on your man’s size and your size too. A key to preventing excessive discomfort is making sure that he takes is slow at first and also using a good condom compatible lube if you need extra lubrication.

      Sean

  53. Alexis July 14, 2014 at 8:57 pm #

    Hi I’m new to having sex and I really want to orgasm. I think ive gotten close but I’m not sure. Any advice on how to reach an orgasm. Please respond to email, thanks

    • Sean Jameson July 21, 2014 at 6:33 am #

      Hi Alexis,

      Sure, try out some of these clitoral stimulation techniques and these tips on finding and stimulating your G Spot. Once you know how to very easily bring yourself to orgasm, then it’s time to try it with your man. He may also learn a thing or 2 by having a read of these articles.

      Sean

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