Squirting 101: How To Squirt Like A Pornstar

Today you’ll learn how to squirt when alone as well as how to make yourself squirt when you’re with your man.


Quick Note: If you want to learn my most powerful dirty talking phrases, tips & techniques, then you will learn a lot from this dirty talking tutorial video. Enjoy!

Additionally, your man may find this guide useful to read too, so that he understands how to help you achieve that wonderful feeling of female ejaculation.

Here’s How The Tutorial Is Structured:

1. Your anatomy – The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.

2. The process & techniques to squirt – With detailed instructional diagrams!

3. FAQ on common squirting questions that I’m often asked as well as debunking some annoying myths about squirting.

1. Your Anatomy

Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there’.

In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.

The G Spot

While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute it’s existence, we firmly believe it exists, but that it’s sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from it’s entrance.

Please understand that G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged (i.e. it becomes bigger). When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.

Skene’s Gland

When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is actually where you squirt or ejaculate from.

You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot. As a result, this entire tutorial will focus on stimulating your G Spot.

Just one last thing on the Skene’s gland before we move on: When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women.

It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt, while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation. I will also discuss other factors that can help or hinder your ability to squirt in the FAQ section at the end of this article.

The Clitoris

When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation. Full disclosure: It’s not impossible as  noted anecdotally here.

So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. So to keep things simple, we won’t be covering the clitoris for the rest of this article. If you want to learn some great clitoral stimulation techniques, then you may be interested in this article here. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color

2. The Process & Squirting Techniques

One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and very comfortable. I’ll explain why in just a minute.

Getting Comfortable & Relaxed

Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the first priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.

Getting Aroused

Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:

  • Reading erotica
  • Watching porn
  • Fantasising about something or someone
  • Massaging yourself
  • Using a vibrator or dildo

While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.

As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.

At this point, your G Spot should be also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:

G spot cross section masturating

All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to actually squirting. Without it, you’re Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot more difficult to actually squirt. Now, the good stuff…

Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.

The Hook

The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your stomach. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.

fingering yourself masturbation techniques

Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.

Push The Button – You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next 2 techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.

Come Hither – Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.

The Arm Shaker – The arm shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of simply using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.

Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.

Sex Toys

Optionally you can a sex toy like dildos or penis shaped vibrators. There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.

There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.

Squirting During Sex

As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man really only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches in order to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that your man should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot


But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:


4 Sex Positions To Help You Squirt

While you will find over 100 different sex positions with professional photographs in the sex positions section here, the following 4 positions are the ones that I would most recommend you try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:

G Spot Sniper Position – As the name suggests, the G Spot sniper position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust. For more information on the G Spot Sniper position, click here.


Launch Pad Position – This position is great as it gives you a lot of control…you can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward like in the demonstration below.

Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick. To find out more about the Launch Pad Position, click here.


Down Stroke Position – Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot Sniper. It’s also a bit more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit. If you’d like to learn more about how to perform the Down Stroke and get the most out of it, click here.


Jockey Position – The Jockey position is much more easy going for you as you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated below. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a very specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot.

Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot. Click here to find out more about the Jockey position:


Pressure & Release

As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a build up in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee. This feeling is completely natural for a 2 reasons:

1. Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.

2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.

So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.

As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.

3. FAQ

If you are having trouble squirting, then most likely you’ll find an answer to your problem here:

Question: I feel like peeing when I try to make myself squirt. Why?

Answer: Like I explained above in Pressure & Release, this is because you are applying pressure to an area right beside your bladder, which in turn puts pressure on your bladder. Additionally you will be squirting from your urethra which is the same place you pee from, hence the very similar feeling.

Just ignore this natural feeling and keep going. If you are still worried, then try to make yourself squirt in the shower and you will see that the smell and texture of the fluid you ejaculate is not the same as pee. Remember that the fluid that comes out is from the Skene’s gland, not the bladder.

Question: No matter what I try, I can’t squirt. What should I do?

Answer: Firstly, don’t worry too much about it, stressing yourself about the outcome will only make it harder to ejaculate. For many women, it takes time to learn about their bodies, what feels right and what brings them closer to squirting. So take the time to masturbate and discover the kinks and fantasies that really turn you on. Like I said previously, you need to build up to it by slowly turning yourself on for up to 30 minutes before paying attention to your G Spot. In time, you will get closer and closer to squirting.

According to the research of Emanuele Jannini, some women unfortunately don’t have a Skene’s gland, making it next to impossible to squirt.

Question: The pressure keeps building, but I never hit the peak & squirt. Help!?

Answer: Sounds like you are very close and it will take just a little bit more to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.

Like I said previously, for some, they need to let go, be at peace with how they feel and just relax. But for others they need to push out. This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your kegel muscles. Others need intense clitoral stimulation at the same time as G Spot stimulation to squirt.

My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.

Question: Fluid flowed/gushed, but I didn’t squirt a stream of fluid. Why not?

Answer: The level at which women squirt/ejaculate/gush is highly variable. Some women can shoot a steady stream into the air, while for most, fluid simply runs out of their vagina. It’s the same for guys when they ejaculate. For many, it just oozes out, while for others it can fly across the room!

Question: My man wants me to squirt for him, but I can’t. What should I do?

Answer: Your boyfriend needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. He also needs to understand that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with him. So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your man.

You will find that the more pressure your man puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so get him to take a chill pill and relax.

Lastly, remember that some girls simply can’t squirt and that’s perfectly normal.

Question: I squirted, but I didn’t have an orgasm, what happened?

Answer: This is perfectly normal. Squirting is not always linked to having an orgasm. Sometimes you can squirt/gush and not orgasm while you do it.

Question: I want my man to make me squirt. What should I do?

Answer: The short answer is to teach him and show him. Give him a demonstration and show him exactly what you do to make yourself orgasm. Additionally, he may find reading this very article helpful.

Question: I’ve never had an orgasm, but I want to to squirt, what should I do?

Answer: Slow down. Everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and give yourself an orgasm first, before moving on to squirting. This tutorial  and these techniques will show you how to masturbate effectively as well as this one on giving yourself an orgasm will help.

The last thing I’d like to say on squirting is that I have made a number of assertions & assumptions based on both scientific and anecdotal evidence. Despite huge numbers women reporting being able to squirt, the scientific community is still debating aspects of squirting such as the make up of the fluid that is squirted as well as the existence of the G Spot!

If you enjoyed my tips in this article but want a true sex masterclass, then you may be interested in watching this blow job tutorial video where you'll learn my most powerful techniques & tips for giving your man incredible oral sex. Enjoy!

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    • says

      Hi Sarah,
      A large part of learning how to squirt with your partner is being comfortable with them. I would suggest learning how to make yourself squirt first before learning how to squirt with your partner. Remember, if you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it’s going to be much more difficult to actually do it. A much better approach is to just enjoy the experience whether you squirt or not.


      • B. Holley says

        Hello. I’ve only recently discovered “squirting” to be an actual source of pleasure. Seeing it in porn before I use to think it was fake or water or pee. Only until I watched a “learn to squirt” video and was informed that it’s a real way to ejaculate and feel pleasure, and that the fluid is not pee. Since then I’ve had a strong desire to do it. Not just for myself but for my partner who is extremely turned on by this. I want to fulfill his fantasy but he doesn’t always have the patience for the process. We have tried it and I’ve felt like I really could squirt but it never happens. He tends to get frustrated with the process and finds it very tiresome. Then he gets in a bad mood about it. He thinks that he doesn’t have what it takes to pleasure me and I try to explain to him that, that’s not the case at all. I’m very turned on by him and I really do want to squirt for him, but I haven’t been successful. I try to explain to him that he hasn’t really given me a chance to do it yet. But I don’t think putting pressure on the situation helps either. To the point where we have argued about this. When I think it is very possible if he would only be more patient. It’s discouraging. I just want to fulfill his fantasy. What could I do to be successful at squirting? I refuse to believe that Im just not enough intouch with my sexual self because I am very self aware. I just haven’t had success at it yet. Any helpful tips would be very much appreciated. Thank you for your time.
        Oh and P.S. I’m pregnant I don’t know if that henders the situation any or not, but I haven’t been successful, and I really want to be. Thanks again.

        • Nicole says

          I’m in the same situation. I’m five months pregnant so some positions I can’t do. But I’ve never came through vaginal intercourse only clitoral. So in order for me to cum there has to he a vibrator used.

        • Justina says

          B. Holley,

          I also always thought squirting was fake when I saw it in porn until my most recent boyfriend. He tried for months to get me to squirt (even though I didn’t realize this was his intent), and eventually it just happened! I was completely surprised, excited, in disbelief, etc. LOL! Since then he has only been able to make it happen a few times, but I think he’s getting the hang of it. I made myself squirt for the first time today which was even better! I have a curved G-Spot vibrator which I don’t think I would have been able to do it without, so I think if you followed the positioning in the tutorial and used the same type of vibrator you might have some luck! I also found it easier sitting in an upright position with my legs in the air… GOOD LUCK!!! : )

  1. Bri says

    Um when I do it, I’m pretty positive I actually peed? I might have cummed a little but then after I peed? Sooo :/ idk

  2. Trina says

    I have tryed alot of things and still I cant. I get that pee feeling then it go away.. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I want to give up. My boyfriend has tryed to and i get that pee feeling and he will tell me to let it go and it go away every time what else can I do…Am starting to feel bad over this..

    • says

      Hi Trina,
      You shouldn’t feel bad about this at all! You’ll actually find it harder to squirt at first when you’re with your partner. The best place to try it is in the shower, when you are alone. This way you can immediately wash away any ejaculate with the shower water.

      And remember…some people can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.



    • says

      Hi Ash,
      It is possible, but a lot harder if you are not stimulating your G-Spot. So you could experiment with using your fingers (or a toy) to stimulate her G-Spot while using your tongue to massage he clit.

      Let me know how it goes!


    • Edward says

      Yes. I’ve had my gf squirt when I go down on her. The first time it was a lot and had no taste at all. Now when she does it has a musky odor. I tell myself it’s not pee bit after reading this I think it might be. Either way I’m comfortable with her so she can do as she pleases.

  3. Alex says

    So I never thought I would be able to squirt but I have a new partner and we had a spur of the moment sex experience. We ended up on top of a sink and I don’t know if it was the position, or my arousal from this new position but I became aware that I was getting very wet and he told me to
    Look down and I did and I was squirting all over him. It didn’t feel like an orgasm though…. But I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm so I’m not sure if what I did was squirting or not…..

    • georgie says

      Hi baby

      the best squirting experience i got from my girlfriend is she was on top of me and after a few drinks i liked her pussie from underneath. she was squatting on me and i licked her very well and when she squirtee i thought she peed on me , but it was a good experience. I want her to do it again. If you also want her, she is available

  4. Chris says

    Hi, my wife and I have been trying to make her squirt for ages without success and to the point where my fingers start to hurt her. She gets the peeing sensation but that’s it. We put no pressure on eachother with reguard to this subject and I’ve tried all of the above without success. When I suggested this subject to her she was a little apprehensive at first but warmed to the idea after reading a few forums. It’s ended up where I’ve been stimulating her g spot for over an hour, have an aching arm, very wet fingers, lost my and failed miserably at getting the desired result. I can sometimes feel the inside of her vagina swelling, almost forcing my fingers out but the the upper wall eventually seems to move away from my fingers. She always empties her bladder before we try but always has to visit the bathroom when we are finished. What could we be doing wrong? Could I be being too rough inside her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’ve had other partners before my wife who I could make squirt through g spot stimulation with ease so I don’t think it’s what I’m doing though I’m not 100% sure.

    • says

      Hi Chris,

      The first thing I would do her is get your wife to try it on her own. It’s more likely that she knows the exact buttons to push to bring herself to the point of squirting. Then once she can do it on her own, get her to show you exactly what she did. However do keep in mind that not all women have the ability to squirt unfortunately.



      • Tiff D. says

        I’ve also found that if you press down on your pelvis with your other hand it helps to “push” your g-spot towards your fingers etc and makes it easier to squirt. My fiance is the only man who has ever been able to make me cum or squirt. It’s definitely an amazing feeling. I only found this article bc I was trying to find out how to squirt during intercourse and not just while he was fingering me. This article has been a great tutorial for us and our sex life is even more amazing than it already was and it was really really fucking amazing before. Thanks for your help.

    • Eva says

      Maybe youre trying too hard or you just don’t turn her on. Move on and find another partner that won’t take as much effort.

      • Starr says

        The guy, Chris was talking about his wife! That’s a pretty shoddy thing to say. I’m wondering if you are married yet, or even in a serious relationship.

    • Cici says

      Sounds like she’s not 100% comfy. It’s not uncomfortableness with you, but uncomfortableness with the “pee factor” if it happens. Plus if a woman is too up in her own head she could easily loose any orgasmic feeling. G spot orgasms are tricky. I’ve had several with two guys but at that moment I’m in a true horny hot blissful state. I can also make myself squirt and it’s pretty remarkable. It’s like my body tingles all over and I can’t think. When the fluid comes out I don’t even realize at first. Don’t get discouraged. Just tell your lover how much you want to make her feel good before the sex (maybe during foreplay), and don’t speak repetitively during, “I wanna make you squirt.” That’s too much presure on a woman. Keep practicing and have fun!!

  5. Eva says

    Hi, I’ve read your advice and have been trying to make myself squirt all night long, but I’ve had no such luck of actually making it happen. I’ve rubbed on my clit and kept myself from coming, and then found my g-spot and fingered it, but I’ve only had a regular orgasm. No squirting here. Maybe you could come over and do it for me, lol, seriously though, please help! Thanks.

    • says

      Hi Eva,

      The key is not to be ‘outcome dependent’. In other words, try not to focus on squirting. Rather, focus on just having a good time, while doing the things that will help to increase the chances of you squirting. You should feel a small amount of pressure building up when you stimulate your G Spot (very similar to the feeling of needing to pee).

      Often you need to apply quite a bit of force to your G Spot to achieve this. Don’t forget to experiment with different techniques and even toys. And finally, don’t forget that some women simply can’t squirt, but it’s really not a big deal


      • Bethmary says

        I love my ass being handled and teased to get me so aroused, not necessarily anal but a finger always feels amazing! I quite honestly believe that i am unable to squirt yet i manage to have some extremely intense orgasms that i am more than satisfied without a mess

  6. Megan says

    I have always squirted when masturbating but just in the past year or so started doing it while having sex with my hubby. He loves it. But I have trouble doing so during oral. Any advice?

    • says

      Hi Megan,
      Squirting is almost always a result of G Spot and/or vaginal stimulation. When your man is going down on you, he will mostly be stimulating your clitoris. While squirting from clitoral stimulation is possible, it’s much less likely than occur than from penis in vagina (PIV) sex.

      • sue says

        The other night I was playing with my clit with my fingers to make myself orgasm and I could feel myself getting ready to squirt, and I hadn’t done any penetration into my pussy at all, and when I made myself have an orgasm I then let myself squirt, without penetration. That was the first time I squirted without penetration of any kind, and surely will NOT be the last time! :-)

  7. Cici says

    Hello there! My problem seems to actually be the opposite of most of these other posts. My boyfriend, and previous boyfriends have been able to make me squirt, no problem. The technique seems to be to finger me really hard, in an upward motion over and over. I wouldn’t consider it rubbing or pressing, it’s more like slamming. Sorry if that is graphic but it gets the job done. Anyway, now my boyfriend is away on an extended trip and I can’t get myself to squirt no matter how much I try. I think my fingers are too short, and I don’t have the arm strength to hit my gspot that hard? I also used a dildo but that didn’t work for me either. I’m able to have a gspot orgasm but it doesn’t squirt. Any advice?

    • says

      Hi Cici,

      Try using a dildo, but…instead of using it with with you arm lying over your stomach, try putting your arm behind your back to use the dildo. This will make it much easier to provide yourself with a lot of pressure on your G Spot area and hence make squirting a lot easier.


  8. nicole jock says

    I have never had a squirting orgasm i am trying i dont know if im doing it right or what but it just isnt happening.my boyfriend and i wanna experiance this together ive had really powerfull orgasms trying so i think i am doin somethin right i just need advice please help

    • says

      Hi Nicole,
      Don’t focus too much on squirting as the last thing you want to do is put pressure on yourself (it will just make it harder to squirt in the long run). It sounds like you are already doing well and to be honest, I suggest that you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Please keep in mind that some women can squirt and some can’t, not everyone can.


  9. Snowy says

    Hy, my girlfriend really want to be squirt…. and i tried alot, by finger, by toung etc….. this time i will try my best to get her squirt. give me some tips for that and also tell me what is actually squirting material… can it harm my dick like periods blood??

  10. bubbles says

    Hi. I’ve been trying to squirt for some time. I’ve read a lot about how to do it but never really succeeded. I was perfectly relaxed and I had the urge to pee but nothing. I always empty my bladder before masturbation and sex. No squirting but the need to visit the bathroom after that. Is there something wrong?

    • says

      Hi Bubbles,
      Honestly you sound completely normal :) Remember that some people can squirt very easily, while others have much more difficulty. Keep trying and just focus on what feels good NOT on what you think will make you squirt. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it really helps.


      • Tiff D. says

        Like I commented on another person’s post….try to push on your pelvis and apply there with your free hand. It seems to help push your g-spot towards your fingers more and make it easier to squirt. Good luck.

  11. tiffany wolfe says

    Hi sean i came once for my fiancee and none of my past bfs couldnt make me cum or squirt i really want to squirt for him again without a dildo and i practice by myself alot lately and i have my hood pierced what else can we try ? Please help please send to email thank you

    • says

      Test, try, experiment and get to know your own body first. This way you can discover what you need to feel in order to cum or squirt without the pressure of having your man there. But remember, some women just can’t squirt, no matter how hard they try.


      • tiffany wolfe says

        Thank you sean i know i can squirt cause i did it already but with a toy and my fiancee was going fast and hard, but it kills his arm cause it takes me forever to let myself go. Ugh i want to cum with him ,

        • says

          Hi Tiffany,

          Don’t worry, it just takes time to get relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt easily for a lot of women. Just give it time and enjoy the process.

          Warning: If you put pressure on yourself to squirt, then it actually going to be much harder to do it. Just focus on what’s pleasurable and stop keeping track of time.



  12. Jessi says

    When I masturbate/finger, i always do it alone. WHen i do it, im really turned on, the first time i thought i squirt, it looked like i peed. and it smelt like it to. should i go to the bathroom before i masturbate? I also haven’t orgasmed. I want to be able to squirt for my bf when we first have sex.

  13. Jessica says

    Hello. Im a 29 yr old female I don’t know if that makes any difference. I’m also on the heavier side I’m 5’2 and weigh inn at 185lbs on my way to a healthier me. I’ve been trying to squirt by myself I want to surprise my BF. I know we would both love it. I’ve tried my finger and stimulating my G spot but I only have my usual orgasm as well as stimulating my clitoris and again I only have my usual orgasim I’ve never had an issue with having an orgasim wether through oral, self or penetration so now on to my new venture of squirting and proving to be quiet a challenge. Any advice?

    • says

      Hi Jessica,

      The most important thing is to make sure you are not putting pressure on yourself to perform. Putting pressure on yourself is completely counter-productive. Just keep doing what you’re doing, but make sure to focus on what feels most pleasurable, enjoying it, without expecting to get anything from it. In time, you will slowly discover nuances to your technique which will bring you closer and closer to squirting.


  14. Ashley says

    I followed your advice. You’re right about feeling like you have to pee. I couldn’t believe I was doing it. Thank you so much! :)

  15. drea says

    Hi im drea,

    I have tried for the longest to make myself squirt but just dont understand how to do it. Is it a way to do it without using fingers?

  16. Sasha says

    So I am able to squirt with my partner but not by myself. I don’t really feel comfortable fingering myself and when I do squirt he’s usually in very deep and I also like when he puts it in my ass, huge turn on!!!!

  17. Melanie says

    A couple years ago I squirted for the first time but never knew how to make it happen again but then a couple days ago while my boyfriend was on top I noticed that it was happening again so of course my boyfriend being the kinky guy he is wanted to see it so we did it from behind and I then proceeded to squirt over ten times it was amazing now I’m able to do it all the time just not .by myself

  18. Nadia says

    im from Spain and sorry if i write something wrong :)
    I would like to ask you about squirting. Actually i did it few days ago and yesterday too, but I’ve noticed that i do it only after a few orgasams. I do everything what you wrote and i feel the peeing feling very hard but nothing happens when i cum. Then i go for another one after a second or two and another and it happens. I would like to try it with my boyfriend but it would be so stupid when he would try so hard and nothing would happen. :( Am i doing something wrong or.. pls help. Thanks :)

  19. Bobby says

    Hello Sean,
    This is more for the ladies not really a question. So I am a man that has been very successful with making my girlfriends past and present squirt. The most important thing ladies is to relax. I know not every woman can squirt but chances are your not one of them. And if you can make your self squirt but your partner can’t don’t get upset. Coach him until he gets it right. As a man myself I can full admit it took lots of practices and studying. Yes studying the female body( which includes reading ) to fully understand how and where to stimulate. So in conclusion fully relax and either alone or with a partner, do what feels best for you. No one knows your body like you do and don’t be afraid to guide your partner. Happy squirting.

  20. Dee says

    I’ve never tried this on my own, just with my boyfriend and I started to feel that pee- sensation but I’m not sure to what point of that feeling I should try and let it go. Does the body release it on its own? Or do I have to push it out? Also it seems like every time I get close to that feeling my boyfriend has to stop because his arm hurts and then he’ll go back to doing it but its like starting all over again to get back to that feeling. I feel like I’ll never succeed and letting my boyfriend down

  21. Renee says

    The past few weeks my hubby and I have been trying to get me to squirt. We’ve done tons of research on the many methods, but I am having one issue… having myself actually “let go” and squirt. I’ve gotten to the “gotta pee” stage handfuls of times, I just can’t get over that fence. I’ve even tried thinking about “peeing” to get it to release… and we are getting no results. But afterwards I have to pee like a rushing race horse.. HELP ME!

    • says

      Hi Renee,

      Try it in the shower and just go for it. This way if you do think you’ll pee (which you won’t) it will all be washed away by the shower immediately. Additionally, you’ll find it much easier to do it alone first before trying to do it with your man.


  22. Nessa says

    The only time it happened for me was when I was 16 and on extasy. Thought I peed. No orgasm with it tho. Been trying to do it for years since and nothing.it’s weird

    • says

      Hi Sky,

      Sometimes your ejaculate can mix with a small amount of urine. Try peeing right before you get down to sexy times to help prevent it from happening again.


  23. Helloimshy says

    Hi Sean,
    Okay so I masturbate I feel it i I let loose and I feel that great feeling but I do not cum or get extremely wet. When I keep going it’s that feeling that I just can’t continue because it feels idk it feels weird and my body twitches more but I can’t keep going, am I suppose to keep going?

  24. Lola says

    I’ve squirted once with a past partner in a big way while having sex – I consider it a random event. However my current partner wants me to squirt for him and I’m finding it hard to do. I feel really pressured to squirt, I do get a peeing sensation sometimes. I think I occasionally squirt a little but not the big gush that he wants. I’ve never really tried to squirt on my own and I’m finding it harder and harder to do with my partner – squirting has become an issue in our sexual relationship because it’s something he needs in order to be sexually satisfied. I love our sex life and want to find a way to do it. We have tried fingering, him going down on me orally and stimulation of both my clit and G spot. I’m not even sure I can do it because I feel like I it’s not possible. Do you have any advice?

    • says

      Hi Lola,

      The first thing to understand that in order to squirt, you need to be relaxed. So talk to your man about it. If you feel pressured, it’s going to be harder and harder for you to squirt because you won’t be relaxed. The less pressure you are under, the better.

      Next, you may want to do a little experimentation on your own to figure out exactly what to do to bring yourself closer and closer.


  25. brittany says

    hey ,

    i can squirt as in feeling it and letting go and having wet spots on the bed but i wud like to know the technique to have it more of the water fountain “porn star” squirt

    • says

      Hi Brittany,

      To make it appear more like a water fountain, try “pushing” as you squirt. The pushing feeling is very similar to the feeling of pushing out urine when you pee.


  26. Kelly says

    Just read ur article and found it very detailed, THANK U! I TRIED last night w/ my man on the phone w/ me- I did get that peeing sensation! What I did was I was on my back, I used my strong arm to rub my clit and my left hand (index n middle fingers bc I heard use 2) to go as fast as I could n as hard as I could press on it but found my arm getting tired….I felt like I was under pressure (just a tad tho) bc I wanna squirt so bad! I tried to relax as much as I could. The peeing sensation lasted quite a while! I did actually finish but what I FORGOT to do was push when I came….is there a particular moment when I’m supposed to push? Oh n I did use lube I made sure of that bc I watched a video that said to do that- I’m def. Gonna TRY again tonight bc I wanna squirt so bad like I said! I just hope I’m not 1/10 of the percentage that CANT DO IT! I read 99.9% even ALL women CAN! Can u give me ANY feedback on this plz- much appreciated

  27. Kelly says

    Also Idk if I actually squirted before….just thought I’d tell u that an ex of mine asked me if I had peed- he actually started going down on me and then finished inside me- but when we finished I remember him asking me if I peed- I laughed n said no haha there was a huge puddle tho! Was this possibly squirting?!

  28. Kelly says

    I actually did it 2x last night w/ my man (sorry I commented 2x prior to this as well) and the 2nd time was much more powerful…felt like I wanted to scream/moan but I didn’t (not only 1 in house lol) it felt awesome but I didn’t push like I said in 1st comment was I there? But just had to push?

  29. Notquitesure says

    I’ve never squirted before… But I tried tonight and maybe I sound really dumb but does it make a sound? Or did I pee?!

  30. Jay says

    This has really helped a lot…before i could absoutely not squirt at all…I’ve tried so many things but nothing at all helped so i read this article and its no lie…all i had to do was really really false my self and think more of the pleasure and not so much focus on squirting…but then i started getting that peeing feeling but i knew not to worry…i had the peeing feeling for about 15min straight and i was wondering Why i wasn’t Squirting yet but then i started to think that ishould push it out…i started to Squirt little by little bit then it came out so fast and so much…I’m so happy that i can squirt now But now i gotta figure out how to squirt with my partner….Thank you so much!!!! Great Advice!!!!

  31. annoyed and frustrated! says

    Okay so my husband and I have started experimenting with trying to get me to “squirt” Every single thing he’s doing feels good now. Before, it was a little painful on my bones with his knuckles but we’ve found that laying on my stomach is the easiest, most comfortable way for me. How in the world am I supposed to relax and orgasm!? Am I the only one whose body completely siezes up and spases out? I don’t know how to release when it feels so good! I also am so let down when it doesn’t happen! I truly try so hard not to even worry about the outcome but I know that’s what my husband is looking for. Will it just happen like a regular orgasm or am I supposed to push it out? Ugh…it’s so frustrating

    • says

      Here’s a bit of advice: To help you relax, you can try a glass of wine. Others find that weed can help too.

      When you feel the pressure build inside you, push out…even if it feels slightly like peeing.

  32. george says

    I made my wife squirt for the first time she’s 31 29 I was surprised at first fire it up really liking ItI recommend this to everybody I wanted to do it all the time now trying to learn how to make her do it again

  33. heather says

    Im sure you have answered this but I seriously am terrified that I am going to pee instead of squirt. I have never squirted but my bf said that last night he felt it building and that I almost did….I didn’t feel close to orgasm which I know is normal but still totally freaked out that I will pee instead. OMG I would be so embarrassed…..I do go to the bathroom before and after but still……any suggestions….

    • Natalie says

      Hi Heather. I know it really feels like you but trust me, you are not going to pee! This feeling is completely normal and I felt it for months before i learnt how to squirt. You need to relax and know that you are not going to pee. And most importantly, you need to breathe, slowly and deeply, don’t expect to squirt, just enjoy the feeling and breathe. My boyfriend tried to make me squirt, it took months, but eventually he did it. I didn’t try and do it myself first. After the first time, it stopped feeling like I was going to pee. Now, my boyfriend can touch me and within a minute I am squirting, it’s ridiculous and soooo good. And I can just keep squirting, 10, 15 times in one session. Keep at it, take your time, don’t put yourselves under pressure, just enjoy each other and breathe. If it happens, wonderful! If it doesn’t, don’t let it spoil anything, just keep trying. Good luck

  34. jeepguy says

    Trying to get my wife to squirt and I understand what everyone is sying but can her cum be too thick to squirt ?
    It seems like she would but it flows like lava rather then a guyser

    • says

      Make sure to read the end of the end of the article where I explain that the ‘need to pee’ feeling is totally normal. The main reason is because your bladder is right beside your G Spot.

  35. Lin says

    I’ve tried your technique and it felt like it was working until it was time for me to cum. Nothing happened as far as ejaculating but I had a helluva orgasm. I was dating this guy and he have made me squirt like twice. I’ve also done it a few times with another partner but as of late I’ve been unable to do so. I really would like to get that feeling again cause I had the best orgasm of my life. I’ve been relaxed and I’ve followed your directives but, I have been unsuccessful. Please help!!

    • says

      Hi Lin,

      You’d be surprised at just how much pressure some women need to apply in order to squirt. You may want to try applying some more pressure…or use something like a dildo if it’s too awkward and/or difficult.



  36. metime says

    My experience with squirting is when I am playing with my clitoris while having anal sex. I feel a tremendous pressure building inside me and then I orgasm and squirt out a lot of clear fluid, usually enough to leave a big wet puddle in the bed. I doesn’t smell like urine or look like it. It’s clear to slightly milky and has no odor.

  37. That one guy says

    I think that your readers should be aware that some of the squirting you see in some porn, IS actually urine. Some years back, squirting was sort of an unknown, an urban legend type thing. Many people didn’t know if it was real or not, nor how to do it. But the porn industry was glad to fake it, if it’d sell videos.
    Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fan of squirting, I’ve had several partners do it, and only one who was unable to squirt.
    But even with women who squirt easily and often, it still doesn’t always happen. And when it does, sometimes it’ll just be a little splash, sometimes a gusher :-)
    Don’t be discouraged if you don’t squirt like a porn star! I don’t have a dick like a porn star either, haha!

  38. That one guy says

    I forgot to give you the techniques that work best for me!

    I have been able to make several women squirt pretty consistently. Here’s what works for me (them)

    First, have a few orgasms! Get your body all full of sex hormones. Squirting is intense. Once you’re worn out a little, and getting to that next orgasm takes some time, you’ll probably be more successful. This is related to how the article above says to build up for 5 to 20 minutes. A quickie, rub-one-out orgasm probably won’t get you squirting.
    Two things work best for me. First is woman on top, traditional cowgirl position. Her kneeling astride me. The difference is, I grab her hips and slide her back and forth against me, with my dick as far inside as it reaches. This makes her clit rub against my public bone, and causes the shift of my penis to rub against the roof of her vagina/her G-spot.
    It’s fun for me, because I end up covered in her cum, all wet, while she usually collapses on top of me.
    It’s a pretty satisfying feeling to exhaust a woman like that :-)

    The other way that works best is, use your hand. She lays on her back, you kneel beside her. Use your strong hand, insert your middle and ring fingers in her all the way, so that the heel of your Palm is on her clit and your hand cups her pussy. Your forefinger and pinky extend down alongside, out the way. Then you curl those 2 fingers inside her to rub against her G-spot, and rapidly and forcefully rub her clit and pump the fingers. Generally, you’re not pulling the fingers in and out more than a little bit. More just rubbing.
    Your hand is doing the job of a vibrator, not a dick.
    It’s harder to explain than it is to do.
    You can see this technique pretty frequently on videos from kink.com, but their videos aren’t for everyone, being mostly oriented to bondage and the like.

    Good luck and happy squirting!!

    • says

      Hi Jamie,

      The short answer is that many women can’t without vaginal penetration. However, if you can get yourself super turned on while masturbating and firmly press down on the lower part of your stomach while masturbating, then you are going to find it easier and it will put pressure on your Skene’s gland, making it more likely to happen.

    • says

      Hi Tina,

      The answer to both questions is “It depends”. Some people cum during their first time and others don’t. A key to cumming is making sure that you are completely relaxed. Whether or not it hurts depends on your man’s size and your size too. A key to preventing excessive discomfort is making sure that he takes is slow at first and also using a good condom compatible lube if you need extra lubrication.


  39. Alexis says

    Hi I’m new to having sex and I really want to orgasm. I think ive gotten close but I’m not sure. Any advice on how to reach an orgasm. Please respond to email, thanks

  40. myranda says

    Hi 😀

    So, I’d say I’m an ‘experienced’ squirter… been naturally happening since the first time I discovered masturbation.
    Unfortunately, with young uneducated/ inexperienced men… this can be very embarrassing trying to convince them you didn’t just piss everywhere lol.
    With today’s porn, I’m sure all the kids are trying it lol – but it lead me to hold back and not enjoy sex with a partner.

    When I met my husband, the first time we made love – he commanded I cover him in squirt hovering over his face…. JACKPOT! lol

    Now to my question!
    1. Girls in porn, do they just drink mass amounts of water and actually pee to get that massive stream with so much force? I’m a bit envious of them, it feels amazing when I squirt hard… but I bet squirting like that is earth moving!
    2. I can’t squirt while my husband is penetrating me vaginally – we have the pull out and squirt mastered, and I can squirt during anal penetration, but I’d love to feel him inside of me while I squirt – any suggestions?

    • says

      Hi Myranda,

      1. I’m guessing they drink a lot of water, but I’m guessing that’s not the only thing. I’m sure it’s just a quirk in their physiology that allows them to squirt so hard.

      2. He should first try to make you squirt using only his fingers (and keeping them in there while you are squirting). Then once you can reliably squirt this way, you should start trying it when he’s inside of you. At first it may feel like you need to ‘push’ and force yourself to squirt, but eventually it should come more naturally.

  41. Jessica Michelle says

    This is a little awkward to ask given the time that’s passed since this article was published.
    When I squirt while using my toy I have to stop and re-apply lube before I can keep going or my toy will get stuck in me. Will this happen if I squirt during sex?

  42. Myranda says

    Here I am again!
    If any of you love anal as much as I do, this may be the golden ticket!
    I always find that I cum harder and for longer during anal, and almost always squirt, but FINALLY I was able to have the ‘porn star’ cover the walls experience I’ve been waiting for.
    A few shots of patron, a hot date with my husband teasing me all night, and finally the hitachi on my clit and 4 fingers in my ass… I hit the wall across from my bed with the most insane squirt of my life!

    Maybe someone here will give it a go and do the same!
    Cheers to trying :)

  43. Jasmine says

    I have been trying to squirt forever with no luck. I read your article and used a gspot dildo and it finally happened!
    Thank you!!! :-)

  44. Claire says

    I read all the information and thank you I really appreciate it!
    So I have regular, incredible sex with my boyfriend and we both want me to squirt. Every time we are having sex I find myself getting to the point where I have to pee and I try pushing to let it begin but it’s like it’s blocked. I was wondering, should my boyfriend pull out to help release the flow of the squirt/gush? I wasn’t sure if his penis was kind of blocking it from happening. And just to add he is quite sizable in length and girth – I wasn’t sure if that was a factor.
    Please let me know and thank you again!

  45. Jennifer says

    During sex I have no problem squirting but the fluid will only come out if he pulls his penis out for a few seconds.why can’t I squirt while his penis is in me???

  46. TT says

    I always use the bathroom before sex or masturbation. When I feel the urge to pee I stop and run to the bathroom and I actually pee. I’ve done this multiple times during sexual activity. It’s nerve wrecking. How is this possible on an empty bladder? And how can I let go if I know I can pee during arousal?

  47. Markquis says


    When me and my wife have sex i would like to make her squrit. But it takes time and she gets impatient So i goahed and finish. But when im done i have the feeling that im cummin but nothing comes out could this be to the fact that from 14 to 18 i would jackoff 3 and 4 times a day and now that im 30 i have to do it at least once a day even if i know that me and my wife will have sex later that night. I need answers please help

  48. S T says

    I had some experience with squirting in my former relationship, now I’m in a new relationship were the sex is much more intense, I squirt over and over every time, to the point I feel exhausted, then I have a huge mess to clean up afterwards. I’m not complaining, because it is earth shattering, but at the same time I miss the days that an orgasm was fulfilling, its a lot less messy. My question is if I do enough kagel exercises or use ben-wa balls can get to the point were I can control when it happens?

    • says

      Hi ST, from talking with students, squirting is one of those things that they have trouble controlling. This includes making it happen in the first place as well as preventing it.


      P.S. Use towels!

  49. annie says

    im sure ive squirted before but i feel like it smells like urine and it makes me wonder if i peed or squirted, help?
    does it have a smell ?

  50. Tina says

    I had never heard about squirting up until about a year ago I have read on it researched it and very much want to try it and succeedI have done the techniques that have been shown and said to do and have not accomplished it which is very frustrating and I find that I get very angry I have had a complete hysterectomy does that have anything to do with the fact that I have not been able to accomplish this any help would be great

  51. Curious says

    I have been experimenting more with playing with myself then I ever have. I wish I would have started it when I was younger!
    Reading all this is helpful but still worried I am peeing. I get to the squirt point (I think) with a dildo and clit playing then use the vibrating dildo on my clit and there it goes. I think it has happened during sex too. I have never had it from g-spot. Puddle can be large had to change sheets. Am I peeing???

  52. Jennifer says

    I am having problems squirting.
    You see everytime I get fingered the whole gushing and fluid is there as you can hear the noise but whenever I try and push it out nothing comes out yet Im having orgasms and hearing the whole gushing and fluid noises. Can anyone help me on what to do for it to actually come out

  53. molly says

    wow showed my boyfriend this and we just did it and woo
    We had sex right after as well in all the positions thank you sooo hutch

  54. Alyssa says

    Hi Sean,
    I’m having issues with this. I have never been able to masterbate, touching myself gives me no pleasure what-so-all. The only orgasms, the only pleasure I feel is when my fiance does it. He wants me to squirt for him, and I want to. But if I can’t bring myself to do it, how is he going to be able to? I’m not as sensitive as other women, I’ve already figured that out. Things that works for others, isn’t always easy for me. I also understand that not everyone CAN do it… but do you have any more tips that might help us? I don’t use toys, I don’t like the idea. And again, doing it myself gives me no pleasure at all. Any more help would be greatly appreciated!

    • says

      Hi Alyssa,

      Like I say, if you want to squirt with your man, then you need to comfortably learn how to do it yourself. If you can’t do it yourself, then it’s really not that much of a big deal, there are plenty of other things that you can enjoy with your man. The key is communicating this to your man. The problem is when your man starts to pressure you…it’s a recipe for you having even less fun.


  55. Mike says

    I’ve been reading the comments and it sounds like many of the women are putting to much pressure on themselves to squirt. Several years ago after watching porn “squirting 101” I thought I would give it a try with the wife and to my surprise it worked. Now it’s a regular part of our sex life it does make for messy sheets but it’s well worth it. I’ve learned for us it’s not a foreplay kind of thing my wife enjoys it during a good session or after I finish. As a guy once you have the tecnique down its actually very easy to do. The wife says you have to get over the fear of pee feeling, for her it helps to be really turned on. Ladies get your partner to do some research, there’s lots of Internet stuff out there on the subject. Relax and have a good time don’t plan on doing it, just do it. As a bonus once it happens the wife said it seems to be easier to do. I’ve been able to make here gush multiple times in a row the highest count was 7 and she beg me to stop cause she thought she was going to pass out. Have fun it’s sex .

  56. Lola says

    Hi there, I know it sounds weird but I every time I try fingering myself, I feel like I’m about a reach an orgasm and the pleasure that I was feeling just disappears. Is this normal? And do you have and tips for me to reach an orgasim using my fingers

  57. bridhid says

    I am really grateful for this article. I had been trying for over a year and after I read this it happened for me that first night. My man was so excited and pleased with himself. This was really important to me so im super appreciative. Ive gotten close but I wasnt sure how to make it happen. Relaxing was the biggest thing. That and I made sure I peed first so I wouldnt be afraid I would piss lol. Thanks Sean!!!!!!!

  58. crystal says

    I have always been able to have multiple orgasms while masterbating and during intercourse, but have never squirted.. i don’t know what I am doing wrong.

    • says

      Hi Crystal, this is because over time you’ve become the LeBron James of making yourself orgasm. However, your man will never know how to replicate the exact technique that you use. Try stopping masturbation for a few months and you’ll notice that it’s easier for your man to make you orgasm.


  59. Mary says

    hi,thanx for the article,i have been trying for 2 weeks and now im sure that the fluid coming out is not pee,but there’s a problem for me , i cant squirt while my arousal , it only come out after the orgasm,is it normal that i feel nothing while squirting?? what have i done wrong ??

  60. Aboobear says

    Hi Sean,

    I’ve been trying to squirt for weeks by myself but every time I reach organism it doesn’t work. I’ve tried a bunch of techniques but nothing seams to work.

  61. Try this says

    My wife and I have been together for about 8 years. I’ve always wanted to make her squirt and couldn’t figure out how to make it happen(and neither could she) until about a year ago. She squirts by orgasm from the clitoris, but she can’t seem to do it herself. Basically, after having sex for a bit, I rub the head of my penis up and down really fast on her clitoris. That makes her squirt. And the longer I rub the longer she squirts. Might work for some of you so I thought I’d share.

  62. Nicole says

    I have NEVER been able to squirt. I even tried this by myself and just came 3 times really intensely but nothing (I even had to pee beforehand) :/ I hate it, I wish I could just do it already but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or what squirting is supposed to feel like :(

  63. La Kesha says

    So, my fiance and I have been studying and talking about getting me to squirt all over him. In our 11 years of true love making, we haven’t been successful and I think it was because it was all new information to me. He calls me”The Good Girl”, because although when I met him, I had already had 2 children, I was very inexperienced. No one had ever made me cum, I’d never had a real orgasm, no masturbating, and no oral(on my part). So we’ve taught, experienced and learned a lot with each other together. Anyhoo, we really want to be successful with this. I have been trying through masturbating but I always stop. I’m scared I might pee!! I want to be able to do it both ways too by myself and ultimately, with him. Any thoughts or suggestions?

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