Learning how to cum is actually really easy. So if you are currently having trouble reaching orgasm and cumming, then just follow my advice below and you will be well on your way to having powerful orgasms with your man.
1. You First, Then With Your Man
Before learning how to cum during sex with your man, you need to learn how to cum by yourself (if you already can cum easily by yourself, then skip this section). If you have never made yourself cum before then you are in for a very enjoyable treat!
The most important part about learning to make yourself cum is…relaxing and getting comfortable with yourself. It’s not about a perfect technique or rubbing yourself in a specific way. You just need to relax and get comfortable with yourself.
“But how can I relax if I’m desperately trying to make myself cum?”
It’s an interesting and sometimes difficult question. To relax, even if you are desperate to make yourself cum, you need to stop aiming for a ‘final outcome’. Instead you need to just enjoy the process. It sounds counter-intuitive, but the fact is, it works. By not concentrating on a final outcome, you can free yourself of ‘having to make yourself cum’ and just enjoy the process or journey.
But just enjoying the process is not enough, having a road map to reach orgasm and cum is just as important
2. How To Make Yourself Cum
I always recommend students to take this process very slowly. The most important part is relaxing. You’ll find that it’s easiest to relax when you are alone and are not going to be disturbed by anyone. This is why I advise masturbating in a place like your bedroom and locking the door.
Remember that you need to take things slowly. There is no rush or endpoint. Instead you are just going to masturbate for as long as it feels pleasurable. If you happen to cum and reach orgasm along the way, then great. If not, then no problem.
This is the attitude you need to have.
To masturbate properly, I always advise using your fingers on your vagina. Most girls find their clitoris to be the most pleasurable to have stimulated and rubbed, which is located just above the vagina and feels like a soft nub of skin under a flap of skin called the clitoral hood. I advise you to rub it with light circular motion, but feel free to experiment to find what you enjoy best.
While you are masturbating, just relax and start to think about any fantasy that comes to mind. This will help to make it more fun for you. As you continue to masturbate, you will notice that it becomes more and more enjoyable, until eventually you reach orgasm or you get tired and want to stop. Either is good. The most important thing is to concentrate on what is most pleasurable.
This is basically how you teach yourself to cum. Although others will have you believe that there is a secret magic formula to make you cum every time, there unfortunately isn’t. It’s just not that simple. My advice is to keep focusing on making yourself cum, until you are able to cum every time you masturbate before you learn how to cum with your man. If you want a tutorial on how to masturbate properly (and even have squirting orgasms!) then I highly recommend that you watch this video tutorial I put together.
3. How To Cum During Sex
Once you are easily able to make yourself cum when you masturbate, it is then time to learn how to cum during sex with your man. Before giving you my roadmap though, there is something important that I have to say:
It’s 1000X times easier to cum with a guy that you are attracted too and feel comfortable with.
It’s going to be much harder to cum when you are with a guy who you are not attracted to and who you don’t feel comfortable being with.
So once you are with a guy that feels good to be with, you need to have sex with him quite regularly. This is so that you can find out what sex positions you prefer and give you the most pleasure. Then let your man know what positions you enjoy most, to encourage him to use these positions a lot with you.
But you may find that penetration alone is not nearly enough to bring you to orgasm and make you cum. If this is the case, then I recommend using a position like doggystyle so that it’s easy to stimulate yourself by rubbing your clitoris at the same time as your man is penetrating you. This double-whammy of pleasure is usually enough to give you intense orgasms and make you cum.If you enjoyed my tips in this article but want a true sex masterclass, then you may be interested in watching this blow job tutorial video where you'll learn my most powerful techniques & tips for giving your man incredible oral sex. Enjoy!