How To Orgasm Every Time – For Women

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Getting relaxed and comfortable with yourself and around your man is crucial to orgasming regularly.

Having an orgasm feels wonderful. That’s why here are the Bad Girl’s Bible, we believe that every girl should learn how to pleasure themselves properly. It’s also the reason I created this quick start guide that will teach you exactly how to have one, even if it’s you’re first time. So without further ado, here’s how…

Getting Started, Before You Get Started…

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Having an orgasm is all about being comfortable with yourself and letting go. So before you start to touch yourself, I strongly recommend that you slowly (very slowly) build up to it. Start by having a long shower or bubble bath. Make sure to wash yourself everywhere so that you feel nice and fresh and clean. Dry yourself off and then when you are ready, slip into bed and then turn off the light.

The key, before you get started is to make sure that you feel hot & sexy. So if you would feel sexier wearing lingerie or something else in bed, then do it. Put it on. But if you feel much sexier and free when you are completely naked then don’t wear anything at all. Remember having an orgasm is all about you, so do what makes you feel best.

Most girls find it easier to bring themselves to orgasm when they are under the covers, that’s why I recommend slipping under your sheet/blanket/duvet before you start to masturbate, but it’s totally up to you.

How To Give Yourself An Orgasm – Part 1

If you want (and enjoy it) spend some time caressing your body with your hands. Try to concentrate on the areas that feel best to have stimulated. Then when you are ready to bring your pleasure to the next level, lower your hand(s) towards your vagina. Just above your vagina, is the clitoris which has the most sensitive spot on the outside. This feels like a little, sensitive ‘nub’ of skin when you are aroused.

I advise most girls to concentrate on this area, while also paying a little attention to the labia, which are the folds of skin on either side of the your vagina on the outside. When you are stimulating your clit, you’ll find that you can get most pleasure if you rub it from the ‘1 o’clock position’ if you were imagining it to be a clock. The ‘one o’clock’ position is the upper left area of your clitoris, so it’s easiest to stimulate with your left hand. Experiment with applying different amounts of pressure to it to see what you enjoy the most.
If you have never brought yourself to orgasm before, then you’ll need to do a lot of experimentation to see what feels best for you, which is always fun.

I have also written a detailed guide on how to masturbate that you should check out for detailed instructions on what you should do to masturbate, so if you want more information on it, then make sure to check it out.

How To Give Yourself An Orgasm – Part 2

This next part may not be what you are expecting. But it’s vital to follow if you have had trouble reaching orgasm in the past…

When you start trying to make yourself orgasm, you may feel that you ‘have to have an orgasm’ or that you ‘must try really hard to reach orgasm’. Ironically this is a really bad way to look at masturbation and trying to have an orgasm as it only serves to put pressure on yourself which will actually make it harder to climax. Instead you should simply look at this as a process or a journey. The only thing you should concentrate on is having fun and enjoying yourself. If you are having lots of fun, then keep on doing what you are doing.

This may sound a little weird. You may be thinking, ‘Sean, I thought the point of masturbation and trying to have an orgasm was to have an orgasm. You’re right, it is a little strange. But, the fact of the matter is that putting pressure on yourself to have an orgasm will actually make it much more difficult to have an orgasm. Instead you need to just relax and enjoy the experience regardless of the outcome. This will help you to relax and ultimately make it much easier for you to make yourself cum. For tips on masturbating (and even giving yourself powerful squirting orgasms!) then you may be interested in checking out the video tutorial that I put together…

Orgasm Aids

You don’t just have your use your hands in order to have an orgasm. And there is a ton of things you can optionally do to enhance your experience.

Vibrators & Dildos

There is a massive range of different vibrators and dildos (and vibrating dildos) that you can use to help bring yourself to orgasm. If you are currently having a lot of trouble reaching orgasm using only your fingers, then you should definitely think about using either a dildo or vibrator.


Fantasy sounds like quite a general topic as there are a massive range of different fantasies that you might have. Whatever they are, you will find it much easier to orgasm if you indulge in them. Whatever your fantasy is, just try it. So if there is an actor or famous person that you really like, try watching a video of him while you masturbate yourself. You can also listen to a recording of him or even a song.

Different people have different fantasies which is totally normal. Try indulging yours while masturbating. You’ll find that when you do, it’s a lot easier to bring yourself to orgasm.

If you enjoyed my tips in this article but want a true sex masterclass, then you may be interested in watching this blow job tutorial video where you'll learn my most powerful techniques & tips for giving your man incredible oral sex. Enjoy!

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  1. says

    Tell me how to get your tutorial on squirting orgasms. Ive never had one and have been reading up on them. My man has tried to giveme one but it seems to take so long for me, but each time we try i seem to get closer to one..

  2. Haley says

    Okay when I finger myself it feels really good but then I start to like shake is it normal to shake like your legs? Thanks

  3. Valentina says

    No matter what I do, I can’t seem to cum unless its with myself. And I get a weird sort of tingly feeling when my boyfriend tries to rub my clit and it makes me feel a little uncomfortable and edgy. He just won’t give up until I cum with him, but my body won’t let me. I masturbate by myself, but it doesn’t seem to help when I’m with him..

    • says

      Let him know your situation Valentina. Then maybe try masturbating yourself beside him and try orgasm that way. Then slowly build up to the point where you are comfortable masturbating yourself during sex. You can even show him what sort of pressure you like and enjoy during masturbation so your man knows what you need.

  4. Ayrton says

    Ok so…I just recently got a vibrating dildo and I was going this would teach me how to properly use it. I’m still confused as to how I can make myself orgasm using it.

    • says

      The key is focusing on what feels pleasurable. Try not to worry too much about “reaching a peak”. Just focus on what you enjoy and after a few sessions you’ll find that you get closer and closer to orgasm.

  5. LillyBloom says

    hey, actually I did masturbate for almost a year with my clit -only- , i didn’t had a boyfriend and didn’t had sex so it was easy and fast and enjoyable, now I have sex occasionally with my partner but i can’t have vaginal orgasm, i tried it when i’m alone but it almost goes to the top of the mountain but no orgasm, do you suggest anything? how can I make my body forget the clitoral stimulation and have vaginal orgasms?

    • says

      First try having a vaginal orgasm on your own before trying it with your partner. When trying it on your own, avoid any clitoral stimulation, even if you don’t have any orgasm the first few times you try it. Focus on what you find most enjoyable. This will make it immeasurably easier to have a vaginal orgasm.

  6. Rachel Montgomery says

    I finger myself constantly but when I get close to orgasm I have a hard time finishing. How can I have a vaginal orgasm?

  7. Christina says

    Hi Sean,
    I know this isn’t the section on blowjobs but I’m wondering if there may be a reason why my guy isn’t overly excited about blowjobs? I’ve given him blowjobs on several occassions n based on the outcome I’d say he liked it but now he doesn’t ask for them n the last time I was about to give him one he stopped me, saying that he wanted to pleasure me first but I never got to return d favor. What can I do?

    • says

      Hi Christina,

      Honestly I would take his word for this. Some guys just aren’t into blow jobs that much. Really! Some people also genuinely get deep pleasure and satisfaction from pleasuring their partner. This sounds like the case with your man from what you are describing here.

  8. Danny says

    I have a sex toy and it can really pump me up, however I just can’t seem to orgasm or don’t feel like in any closer. I don’t find finger stimuli really working for me just insertion of my toy, perhaps I’m thinking to much but it’s not easy for me to get anywhere near comfortable or pleasurable enough to orgasm. Any advice?

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