In the movies, women always seem to have toe-curling, scream-inducing orgasms that wake the neighbors. They’re left panting and disheveled while their partners boast a satisfied smirk. Do you wonder if you can achieve an orgasm of that magnitude? Are those even real? If so, can you have one?
Of course, the big screen is all fantasy, but some women do report having full body orgasms – and they love them! Who wouldn’t?! Not every woman can achieve every type of orgasm or do so with ease. But we’ve got advice to help you achieve your own full body orgasm.
Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.
A full body orgasm, also known as a cervical orgasm, can last for hours; although, you shouldn’t set your mind on that goal for the first time you try it. You can expect a feeling more like vibration or tingling in your body. It may feel like waves. Or it may feel different for you.
Read on to learn how to have your own full body orgasm.
1. Build Sexual Tension
A full body orgasm is unlikely if you only have time for a quickie. We recommend setting aside plenty of time when you want to try for a full body orgasm. This allows you to build up sexual tension.
Remember that arousal can start well before you enter the bedroom. Stimulate your own mind and that of your partner to build sexual tension for a more incredible experience.
2. Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay
Adding more time for sexual activity with your partner also means more time for foreplay. This is important to having full body orgasms because it enables you to become more aroused. With activities like a sensual massage, manual stimulation and oral sex, you’re much more likely to have an orgasm, including one that envelops your entire body.
3. Get Tantric with It
You might find our tantric sex advice to be useful in your pursuit of a full body orgasm. Part of the focus in Tantra is the exchange of energy, also known as Chi, between you and your partner. Plus, Tantra isn’t just focused on the genitals alone. It stands to reason that a full body orgasm will be easier to achieve if you involve your full body rather than being hyper focused on your genitals.
One thing that especially helps is paying attention to how your entire body feels. If you’ve ever participated in guided meditation, then you’re probably familiar with the idea of focusing on body parts one by one. This activity is usually accompanied by deep breathing as you focus on your head, your hands and arms, your legs and your torso.
The same method can be applied to your sex life, whether you’re trying for a full body orgasm or not. As you feel an orgasm approach, visualize the energy building up in your body. Then, use your mind to dispel it away from your genitals and throughout your arms, legs, stomach and head.
4. Make Yourself Comfortable
Much of what happens during a full body orgasm is focused in your mind. Women who don’t think they can have full body orgasms are going to have a much harder time achieving one. If you feel uncomfortable having sex or talking about it, even with your man, then you should consider what you’ll need to do to feel more comfortable in your own skin. Not only might this help you have a full body orgasm, but it’s going to make your sex life better in general.
The Bad Girls Bible has advice for dealing with sexual anxiety and talking about sex with your partner. However, you might even find the help of a trained professional beneficial if you have issues with body confidence and self-esteem, or if you’re recovering from some sort of sexual or emotional abuse.
5. Choose the Right Partner
Obviously, it’s important that you’re with a partner who makes you feel comfortable. You don’t necessarily have to be in love, but that certainly helps. Someone who makes you feel valued and appreciates you will be a better choice for achieving full body orgasms than, say, a one-night stand or a casual sex partner who simply helps you to scratch that itch.
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6. Add Something Else
You might find that other activities besides sex help you get to the point of having full-body orgasms, too. For example, if you’re submissive and experience sub drop, an altered state of mind similar to runner’s high, you might find yourself having a full body orgasm after an intense session that involves genital stimulation. If you identify more as a dominant, then an intense scene where you exchange emotions and energy with your sub might help to reach your own full-body orgasm due as you experience dom drop. Find out how to start BDSM here.
It might not be BDSM that gets you over that hill, either. For some women, edging helps them to achieve full bodied orgasms. Edging is the process in which you work yourself up to orgasm, but stop just on the edge, hence the name. If you do this as much as you can, you may experience multiple orgasms or one explosive full body orgasm.
7. Stimulate Your Cervix
Many women describe their cervical orgasms as a full body orgasm. Your cervix is the opening between your uterus and vagina. Throughout your cycle, your cervix hardens or softens and moves up and down. When your cervix is hard and low like it is around your period, contact with it might be uncomfortable, leading to cramps after sex. Your cervix may prefer rougher stimulation when it’s soft and higher, however.
Because the cervix is deeper in the vagina than the G-spot, you might need to adjust your methodology to have this sort of orgasm. A longer dildo (with plenty of lube!) or your partner’s penis might work better than fingers, for example. This is where deep penetration comes into play. You might also consider sex positions that allow for deeper penetration, including Doggy Style.
Deep penetration may at first be uncomfortable, which is why plenty of buildup and foreplay is advised. This loosens your body. Consider starting with a smaller, shorter dildo or vibrator if your cervix is too sensitive in the beginning.
You can also visualize “opening up” your cervix so it becomes receptive to more stimulation. This could mirror the emotional sort of opening up that you’re doing with your partner in your attempt to have full body orgasms. A regular clitoral orgasm or two might make it easier to achieve a full body orgasm. However, many women experience clitoral sensitivity after an orgasm, so give yourself time to recuperate before trying for another orgasm. More tips on clitoral stimulation here.
8. Practice Your Kegels
Kegel exercises work out the pelvic floor. They’re typically recommended to recent mothers are childbirth, but they have a ton of benefits even if you haven’t had a child. Doing kegels helps to reduce urinary incontinence too. They also allow you to strengthen vaginal muscles and squeeze your partner firmly when he’s inside you.
Plus, kegels can lead to more vaginal sensitivity and better or more easier muscles. So it’s worth giving these exercises a try in your quest for full body orgasms. Check out our guide to kegel exercises. Even if you don’t wind up having a full body orgasm, kegels can benefit your sex life and health!
There are other things to try to help in your pursuit of this type of orgasm, too. For example, you might find yourself having better and bigger orgasms when you’re vocal. So make noises and moan as much as you need. It’ll turn your man on, too! Consider watching a sexy movie or reading some erotica if that’s what gets you going. The more sexual energy you gather, the bigger the payoff when it expels through orgasm.
Remember that a full body orgasm doesn’t mean every muscle in your body will contract like in a clitoral orgasm. Learn more about the types of orgasms here. However, it allows you to experience that energy throughout more of your body than simply your genitals. A full body orgasm may also lack the obvious buildup and descent of a clitoral orgasm.
There’s no one way to experience a full body orgasm, and you might have different experiences every time. It’s not something that every woman can do, just like not every woman can squirt or have multiple orgasms. It may be something you can only do sometimes, no matter how much you try to prepare. However, practice may makes perfect, and you can have a great time just trying. Remember not to focus too narrowly on orgasm, however, as that may be the very thing that makes it elusive.
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Shirley says
Badly need an orgasim fast, but can’t achieve it. I’m single and have had several surgeries, but I will go nuts any second if I can’t have one soon. Can someone talk me thru it or help with talking dirty?
Anonymous says
I read the emails and newsletters and when i can watch the vids but I am seriously wondering if it’s worth it! I just dont believe that males really care or enjoy the pleasing unless it is only them getting it. i dont think there is an adult male human who truly enjoys pleasing women. I have seen what passes for pleasing women sites and they’re not great.
Paul says
Please don’t give up, there are many men dedicated to pleasuring there princess. There is nothing better than giving pleasure and the great thing is that the pleasure comes back.
good luck in finding your prince charming ?
Cindy says
I can honestly tell you that I have that man that always wants to know if I felt good. He said as long as I got off then he’s happy. Don’t give up!
Stella says
There are a lot of men who wants to please around…. more than you think…. you might just been mixing with the wrong crowd. .. break lose and you will find your man.
maungo brenda molaodi says
i would really like to know more please. i am new here
Rhonda says
why am I having so much trouble having an orgasim in foreplay
Sean Jameson says
It could be for a bunch of reasons, but the main thing is to talk to your man so that he understands what you need to get to orgasm.
David says
You talk about sub drop…. but what you are describing is sub space… drop is the opposite it’s the depression type feelings then the endorphins of the experience and subspace go away.
These type orgasms are amazing…. I have helped partners reach this for years. When I tell a woman I have made partners cuming just by entering them and not moving at all… just holding still or sometimes doing male kegals while inside to I move some they never beleive me. But my my current partner is 19 and has VERY little experiance and our second time together I would push in and hold it and she would cum so hard she couldn’t speak…. and she said I was like she didn’t even know where she was how how long had passed. Which is pretty typical of what my partners describe for this.
I will say a lot of things refer to “deep penetration” a lot and for those with size issues like myself I can tell you that 5-6” is plenty to reach what you need in most women (too much for some not enough for others of course) but don’t worry about the “deep” part. It’s also my experiance (which makes sense when you consider the science behind it) that women with tilted uteruses seem to have cervical orgasms easier. It could be I don’t reach far enough or just something positive for a woman to see about it. (I’ve talked to many who were insecure about it.) but they don’t seem to be able to take it as deep (again just my experiance)… but since the cervix is often at the dead end of the vagina (yes people assume that is where it is but most people it isn’t) but because of that it seems to make them able to experiance that stimulation better…. or at least for a “not large” guy they tend to.
Just make sure he doesn’t stop at one!!! I can hold that spot and they will often cum back to back many times and generally try to tap out because it’s too intense!!! Lol. But a woman’s body is amazing and while I think porn is a load of crap that Hurts many peoples sex life and creates false expectations, it IS possible for a woman to cum I’m seconds… to cum over and over for hours… and yes for those like me that enjoy counting as a way to help me last longer it really is possible to make a woman have well over 100 orgasms in a night/couple hours when done right!!! Sure everyone says the woman is faking or it isn’t real Or possible… but it is. I’ve had FAAR too many partners (Who don’t know each other) have the nearly identical responses and descriptions/details for it to have been faked. Not to mention my #1 rule is never to fake ANYTHING!!!
I tell a woman I don’t care if she cums the first time (I do but u know what I mean) but just to be natural and honest with what she feels and I WILL LEARN how to please her!!! If the partner realizes there is a SINGLE spot that will make 99% of women orgasm if stimulated correctly and they know where it is (it’s the same spot on all people) then they will be successful even if it takes a little while. The problem is too many people focus on the breasts or below the waist and while all those spots help you you don’t have her mentally ready and make love to her brain first then the rest is hit and miss… mostly miss!!! If you stimulate the brain propery all of these things including full body orgasm become possible for almost all women… not the small percentages you see in surveys!!!
Anyway, just my 2 cents. Find a partner like me who gets 90% of thier pleasure from watching/hearing/feeling YOU orgasm and you are on the path to heaven!!!! I know it’s not politically correct I guess to say this but as a Cis male I think the woman should ALWAYS cum first and cum often in a new relationship!!! Sure occasionally it’s nice to be the focus but 49 out of 50 times I have Sex my partner is what matters. As my current partner told a friend “omfg you wouldn’t beleive it he focused on the the entire time! Even after his 4th orgasm it was still alll ab me it was unreal!!! You can make fun of the fact he is 24 yrs older than me but none of the boys our age care if we get off much less spend almost 3 hours focusing on us!…”. Clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasm, squirting, orgasms while GUVING a bj, cervical orgasms, anal orgasms, nipple orgasms, multiple hundreds of orgasms in a night (rare but happens), orgasmalepsy, and more are ALLL possible when you focus on the right place on someone’s body!!! In HS my GFs would cum 10-15 times from just me me (no toys) which was unheard of back then!!! Beleive me what they describe here is VERY possible when you build things up mentally along the way!!!
Tonya says
That’s is just not true my husband of 16 years who is older then me by over a decade I am in my 40s my husband is the first man to ever really make me cum and after 7 years of great sex and squirting orgasms took a break for a year or too and I was so depressed about it but supported him anyway he was always intentive what I want and then but when we started to have sex again a year and a half later he was really really intuitive of what I was looking for and every moan and smile I made and he really learned what made me hot and wet and I will tell you right now and for the last five years he has rocked my world he found gspots and other spots lol I never really enjoyed sex before him and now I would follow his cock to the end of the world lol I mean him