With a major motion picture in the works and three books that have topped best-seller lists for weeks, 50 Shades of Grey has taken the world by storm. The book and its sequels by E.L. James have been credited for bringing BDSM into the mainstream, but what exactly is BDSM? You can certainly check out the long, dry version of the history of BDSM in the Wikipedia article, but on the Bad Girls … [Read more...]

No one will blame you if you haven't heard of figging (or only discovered it through porn or E.L James' "50 Shades" series). It's not the most common BDSM activity; although, it is popular with certain kinksters. Figging combines anal play with punishment in a way that is certainly hard to forget, and you'll learn how to safely try it in this post! You're not alone if you've never heard of … [Read more...]

BDSM promises to be a spanking good time, and we've recommended it as a way to keep your sex life interesting. But you should know what you're getting into before you dive in head first. Subspace is one of the things you might encounter but don't know anything about if you don't do your research first. What Is Subspace? You don't have to be in the BDSM scene long to hear the phrase … [Read more...]

A checklist for BDSM activities? That sounds more like coursework than fun intercourse. However, hear us out! A BDSM checklist can be a practical way to communicate your desires and experience levels to your partner -- and to learn theirs in turn. Of course, filling out a checklist for BDSM can also be fun and can introduce you to new activities to try! Why a BDSM Checklist? A BDSM checklist … [Read more...]

Many people love tying up their partner or being tied up, and if you're one of them, you may find yourself looking for new styles and bondage positions. Whether you're a beginner or more experienced, want full-body bondage or something less intense, you'll find an option to explore in this list of thirteen bondage positions. 1. Spread Eagle Spread Eagles is a great BDSM position because it's … [Read more...]

An intense BDSM scene can leave you feeling a variety of things: giddy, orgasmic, capable, connected, exhausted, sore, cold, inspired, and even hungry. For a submissive who receives stimulation and pain, you can expect particular feelings. Those expectations extend after the scene, too, when you might experience sub drop. Subspace To understand sub drop, you have to understand what happens … [Read more...]

Do you love your D/s relationship? Do you crave even more power (or to give up even more)? Total power exchange might be for you, but this kinky lifestyle isn't something that works without knowledge and preparation. What Is Total Power Exchange? Total power exchange (TPE) is a specific type of power exchange, or D/s, relationship, that some couples practice. While most D/s exchanges happen … [Read more...]

Breast bondage is a fairly common element in BDSM. It looks hot and sometimes painful and intricate, but it's often fun, more comfortable than you think and easier to bind a partner (or have one bind your breasts!) than you might think. Why Breast Bondage? It looks good, which is why so much bondage photography features this type of bondage. Rope bondage inspired by eastern countries such as … [Read more...]

Stumble upon any community dedicated to BDSM or D/s relationships, and you're sure to find someone discussing topping from the bottom, usually in derision. It's apparently a bad thing that's also common. But what is topping from the bottom and how do you avoid it if it's going to be bad for your relationship? In a BDSM scene or D/s relationship, one person acts as the top (also dominant, … [Read more...]