BDSM Checklist (307 Ideas) – Downloadable & Editable

You can jump straight to the free digital, downloadable, and printable BDSM checklist (with 307 ideas). You may also be interested in learning how to use your BDSM checklist for maximum benefit, along with 2 things to consider when using a kink checklist, and the 7 reasons why BDSM checklists are so good for your sex life.

Free, Downloadable & Printable BDSM Checklist (307 ideas)

Use the links below to access and download your BDSM checklist:

Best for mobile (.pdf file) – Download BDSM Checklist PDF

Spreadsheet for desktop computers (.xls file) – Download BDSM Checklist spreadsheet

Online Spreadsheet (Google Sheet) – Access BDSM Checklist online

How to Use a BDSM Checklist

Most people fill out a BDSM checklist with their partner. There are two basic ways to fill it out…

1. Together – You can complete the kinky checklist together and discuss things before marking your responses, and continue the conversation once you’re finished. This works well if you’re open (and can even be a sort of kinky foreplay!).

2. Separately – You can separately do the worksheet and come together afterward to talk about what kinky things you want to try on your activity lists.

Why separately works for many people – Filling out the BDSM checklist while apart can be helpful if you feel pressure/nervous/anxious about sharing your responses. You can think about how you want to answer without fear of judgment. But…

You still need to share your responses in the end.

Either way, give yourself time.

You may need to research what something is or looks like, or how to do it safely, before you can know whether you want to try it. You may also need to mull over activities to figure out how you feel about them. Also…

You do not need to fill out the BDSM checklist in one sitting.

Once you have filled it out, you need to share it with your partner…

Sharing Your BDSM List With Your Partner

There are two ways to share your BDSM checklist:

Line-by-Line

Pull your BDSM checklist in front of you. Get your partner to do the same with theirs.

Next, go item-by-item and discuss:

• Your experience with each activity.
• If you are interested in receiving this BDSM activity from your partner or if it’s a hard limit for you. BDSM limits explained.
• If you are interested in performing this BDSM activity on your partner or if it’s a hard limit for you.
• Any other comments, feelings, or thoughts you have on this activity/kink/fetish.

One interesting thing about this process is that…

You may find that you change your mind about something after talking about it.

This works whether you are in the same room or on a call, screen sharing.

Silent Swap

Exchange links/lists and read the other’s list privately before discussing it. This is especially helpful if you’re in a long-distance dom sub relationship or feeling self-conscious about items on your list such as femdom or cuckolding/cuckqueaning.

Reading your partner’s list, you’ll discover

• Activities that neither of you want to try. This is great as no discussion is needed!
• Activities that you both want to try. This is also good as you are both on the same page.
• Activities that one of you wants to try. These can be a bit trickier to discuss, but I highly recommend you do!

A silent swap also works great for Yes/No/Maybe lists.

2 Considerations When Using a BDSM Checklist

A BDSM list gives you new things to try. You can start anywhere on the list, but it might help to first focus on things you can do:

• With the equipment you have
• With your current skills and knowledge
• At your comfort level

Of course, if you find something you really want to do but need to buy gear or attend a workshop to do it safely, start by preparing.

Chances are, you’ll find some BDSM activities that appeal to you but are currently too advanced or intense, and that’s perfectly fine! For example, if you want to try suspension but have never been tied up, you can try light bondage first.

1. Keep It Updated

A BDSM checklist isn’t a static form! That’s why the online version works well – you can update it whenever you need to! Laminating a printable BDSM checklist also lets you reuse it.

Revisit your checklist periodically, perhaps whenever you check something off or on a set interval, like every year (what about on your anniversary?!) to see if your answers have changed.

2. How & Where To Start Exploring

The key is making it fun. My advice is to turn it into a game…

• Leave it to chance – Grab a die, choose 3 things you want to try and get your partner to choose 3 things they want to try, and assign each a number from 1 to 6. Roll to see what you’ll try. Or write activities on paper and draw one from a hat, or use a spinner app.
• Dartboard – Assign a number to each dartboard section (or write names on masking tape and stick it to the board), grab your dart, and throw. Or use sticky notes on a wall and a Nerf gun/dart blaster. If you hit your target, you get to pick what you try next. If you’re not so good… fate will decide what you try next.
• Bingo – Make a bingo board with the items you want to try, and fill in boxes as you do them. Figure out a special reward or activity once you get a bingo.
• Choose for each other – You and your partner choose something from the other’s list.
• Create a menu – Pick items from your BDSM list that you group as appetizers (foreplay/warmup), main courses, and desserts (aftercare or reward) to create a menu. Let your partner pick their multi-course dinner from the options. For example, they might be in for a night that starts with getting tied up in bondage (17 bondage sex positions) before face sitting and wrapping up with pegging. It’s similar to creating a sex menu.

7 Reasons Why BDSM Checklists Are So Good For Your Sex Life

BDSM checklists serve a few functions:

1. Start a conversation with your partner – You can use a BDSM checklist to talk about what you want to do with a new partner or if you’re just delving into the world of BDSM.
2. Get to know your partner – If your partner fills out the checklist, you can learn more about them. You might be surprised by how much you learn about them.
3. Become more self-aware – You might be just as surprised by what you learn about yourself from completing it.
4. To show your partner what you do/don’t like – Probably the best aspect of using a BDSM checklist is showing your partner what you do/don’t like and what experiences you have or don’t have. The checklist itself can become a way to communicate if you’re intimidated by talking about sex and kink.
5. Share limits – The way we’ve formatted our digital and printable BDSM list essentially works like a list of BDSM limits. You can indicate what you’ll never try and what you might be open to trying in the right circumstances.
6. To explore new things – There’s a good chance that you haven’t even heard of everything, let alone tried, every kinky activity. This BDSM checklist puts tons of fun things to try all in one place.
7. Practice negotiation – Talking about your kinks and fetishes is ultimately part of kink/BDSM negotiation. Use this tool as a jumping-off point to talk about more abstract or difficult things, including safewords and consent.

Now that you know how to use a BDSM checklist with your partner, it’s time to fill it out!

Free, Downloadable & Printable BDSM Checklist (307 ideas)

Use the links below to access and download your BDSM checklist:

Best for mobile (.pdf file) – Download BDSM Checklist PDF

Spreadsheet for desktop computers (.xls file) – Download BDSM Checklist spreadsheet

Online Spreadsheet (Google Sheet) – Access BDSM Checklist online