Negotiating in BDSM is vital. This complete guide will teach you why you should always negotiate before a BDSM scene and more importantly…how to do it! Why Negotiation in BDSM is Important Because BDSM often means greater physical or emotional risk than vanilla sex, kinksters have developed a few tools to promote safety and pleasure as much as possible. Negotiation is one of those tools. … [Read more...]

Safe words–you’ve heard of them, but are they really necessary? And does it make a difference which safe word(s) you use? By the time you finish this article, you’ll understand why we recommend safe words, how to pick a good one, and what to do when someone uses one to minimize any harm. If you'd prefer, you can skip straight to the end if you just want safe word examples. What Is a Safe … [Read more...]

It seems like BDSM is full of acronyms–including its own name! If you’ve ever heard of SSC, RACK, or PRICK, you might be confused about their meaning and use. Fortunately, we’re here to clear that up and introduce you to one more ethical framework for BDSM that you might find helpful…CCCC! What Are SSC, RACK, PRICK, and CCCC? These acronyms are all different BDSM philosophies that promote … [Read more...]

Below, you’ll read about the 19 most common types of dominants and their styles of domination…along with a lot of kinky examples of what they can do to dominate their submissive.  Whether you’re into BDSM for the kinky sex or the whole shebang, including the lifestyle and community, you’ll come across some common terms. Dominant and submissive as among the most common. What is a … [Read more...]

While the media might make it seem like it’s always the wife who takes a spanking, there are plenty of wives who enjoy spanking their husbands! Some of our male readers have even asked how to get their wives to spank them. If you’re ready to join the legion of wives who spank, read on to learn everything you need to know about how to spank your husband. Why Spank Your Man? There are several … [Read more...]

You’ve probably heard of the idea of a submissive wife. The idea often goes with traditional and/or religious values, but that’s not always the case.This article will introduce you to multiple ways of being a submissive wife (there are probably more than you realize), the pros and cons, and give you some ideas to get started if you think it will benefit your marriage. What Is a Submissive … [Read more...]

In dominance and submission relationships, submissives often wear collars around their necks.If you’ve ever wondered about the significance of these collars or want to know how you can incorporate a collar into your own relationship, this guide will teach you everything you need to know. What Does a D/s Collar Symbolize? Being collared means being committed. It symbolizes a … [Read more...]

When you think of female domination, you might envision scenarios that are quite hardcore. However, that doesn't have to be the case. ..Female domination comes in many flavors, including gentle femdom in which consenting partners engage in sexual power exchange without harsh punishments, mental or physical pain, or humiliation. It's the perfect domination style for people who are just starting out … [Read more...]

For many people, orgasm is an important part of sex and masturbation, while others enjoying mastering the art of ruined orgasm. But, what is a ruined orgasm? In short, it's the result of stopping or changing stimulation to prevent a full or satisfying orgasm. Ruined orgasms can play into a variety of sexual activities. There are two types of ruined orgasms - full and partial. Fully ruining an … [Read more...]

Praise kink has gotten more attention in recent years, but it’s still not well understood by many, including some kinksters. If you don’t fully understand praise kink, fear not, this guide will teach you everything you need to know including what it is,  how to “do” praise kink, what lines work best, and how to have a great time doing it. What Is A Praise Kink? Praise kink, which is … [Read more...]